Family: Question: Mother and friend doing wrong?

Question: Mother and friend doing wrong?

Posted: 12 Feb 2016 01:00 PM PST

What do you think about a mother befriending her d aughters friends? The mother has befriended one of the daughters childhood friends in particular and they have been found to gossip about the daughter often. They hid the fact that they started to talk on the phone for months from the daughter. When the daughter found out and that they were talking about her in a bad light, she confronted them both and asked them to stop. At first, they both refused to stop because they said they could talk to whoever they wanted to. Then, for years they acted like they had stopped, but the daughter suspected the mother was still calling her friend. She just now asked her mother if they were still talking and the mother won't answer her. The daughter has never been in any kind of trouble, no drugs alcoholism, jail. Just basically works hard, has her own place and lives a good life.

Question: My dad hit me, what should i do?!?

Posted: 12 Feb 2016 12:57 PM PST

I got in a argument with my teacher because she said some stuff about me that really hurt me, I lost my temper and told her that she needed to shut up. (I know that it was very disrespectful of me to say and it's not acceptable, and I can only blame myself.) My teacher ended up calling my parents. My mom was really disappointed, but my dad was mad and started yelling at me. I told him that i thought that it would be better if he calmed down so we could have a normal conversation. My dad thought that I was disrespecting him because I didn't look him in the eyes. (I have a hard time looking people in the eyes, my parents know this). He grabbed my arm and it really hurt so I asked him if he could let my arm go, but he didn't stop, so i pulled my hand back. He got really angry and pushed me against the wall and hit me a few times in the face, i was really scared at this moment because I've never seen him this mad. He told me that the next time that I disrespect him or any other adult again he would hit me harder than this. My mom told me that it's my fault that he got so mad because i was pushing his buttons. I really dont understand why he got so mad. I know that telling a person to "shut up" is really disrespectful and not acceptable, but thats the only thing that I did? My dad ignores me now, I really want to talk about it but i don't know how. What should i do?!?!

Question: My mom had an abortion?

Posted: 12 Feb 2016 12:53 PM PST

It was a long time ago but I feel like crying about it. The worst part was my dad pushed my mom to do it and when she did it he didn t even care . I m an only child now and I just feel terrible ): bad stuff always happens to me

Question: Cousin advice?

Posted: 12 Feb 2016 12:49 PM PST

Cousin 1: 19 Cousin 2: 14 Me: 13 My father's family has been very distant since his parents died and my siblings and I have never met them before. November we met them, we went to watch a play, and we talked a bit before. I hugged the 2 aunts as a greeting but didn't hug my two cousins. It was extremely awkward and we didn't talk much except for a couple words. I didn't talk to my aunts or the 19-year-old cousin because it was extremely awkward. My mom had us (the fourteen-year-old cousin and me)exchange numbers and I recently apologized for it being so awkward and told her that I was nervous to meet them. She texted that it was fine and she said that she was awkward around meeting new people too. I really want to stay in contact with them but I don't know what to say. BTW the thing at the top are the ages of us

Question: 10 year old sister is swearing (A LOT) ?

Posted: 12 Feb 2016 12:35 PM PST

Naturally, as the snoopy older sister, I checked her iPad one day and went on this site she never lets me see when she s on. I see in her account she s being very vulgar. F bombs, B, D, you name it. She s saying stuff like suck d*ck, f you, etc. She s a fifth grader. I m not really sure what I should do here. Please help?

Question: Weed question/ family help?

Posted: 12 Feb 2016 12:32 PM PST

Ok so like an hour ago after school my friend got on my bus with me and we got off at the stop down the street from mine but our guy friend got off with us and we walked to my friends house to smoke and get high and yeah. When I got home my brother had been home for since 12 and I was supposed to get home at 12:30 but I got home at 1:15 instead. He told my parents I wasn't there so I can't get him to lie. I've already showered and washed my clothes because my dad will smell it. WHAT SHOULD I TELL MY PARENTS WHEN THEY GET HOME??

Question: How can I disown my 17 year old child?

Posted: 12 Feb 2016 12:25 PM PST

I want my parents to disown my brother. This may seem cruel but trust me you will learn to hate him if you lived with him. He does nothing but hurt us. Please please tell me what I can do to persuade my parents to disown him and what can they do?

Question: My birthday is tomorrow but all I want to do is cry.?

Posted: 12 Feb 2016 12:23 PM PST

It's not how old I'm turning that i'm depressed about it's everything else in life that's making me sad. I can't afford rent this month, I've worked extra hours and even asked friends/family but nothing or no one can help. I am hours away from my family and won't be able to celebrate with them this year. I'm going out with some friends and my boyfriend tomorrow but I honestly just want to stay home and cry. I'm so stressed out about money, my job that I hate and I'm trying to move to be closer to my family but I'm living pay check to pay check and have no money to save up with. I've never been so sad in my life. I can't believe how miserable I am in life right now. I'm not looking for pity, maybe just some words of wisdom

Question: I think my dad might be cheating on my mom..help?

Posted: 12 Feb 2016 12:21 PM PST

so my dad is supposed to be at work right now and I was trying to see when he'd be home so i looked at the find my iPhone app and he wasn't in the city for work he was in some neighborhood. I thought maybe it was just the app so I tried again later but it was the same. I texted him and said when will u be home he said in a meeting be out in a little recently he and my mom have been fighting I don't think he loves her and my grandma who's going seanile has been talking to me about how my dad could cheat on my mom idk if he is and I hope he isn't but this looks bad doesn't it? if I had my liscence I would drive to the place to see his car but I cant

Question: I'm stuck and frustrated?

Posted: 12 Feb 2016 12:08 PM PST

I've been with a guy for 5 years. He used to beat me but as of now he just abusus me verbally I've left him so many times but always fall for his sob stories. He threatened to kill himself the last time and even showed me the cuts. He always says he will change but it only lasts a week. He follows me and peaks inside my windows at night and knows where my close family and friends live. His family hates me because he convinces them I'm the bad guy. It makes me sad and embarrassed because I am an alcoholic but I do it because of all the stress. I want to pull my hair out I hate him so much How do I handle this

Question: My life is really complicated. Is my life good or bad?

Posted: 12 Feb 2016 11:57 AM PST

My biological mum had me when she was young (18) and she struggled to cope with the pressures of raising a baby. Her sister (Aunt) helped her but in the end she ended up raising me. It was only when I was 10-11 when my mum tried desperately to start being a real mum. Things began to pick up and she has spent the last 8 years trying to make it up to me. I've lived with my Aunt and her daughter for most of my life and it kind of feels like I have two homes. When I'm not with my actual mum she often comes and stays with us. I sometimes feel like I'm a burden.

Question: I want to get my mom's trust back! How can I do that quickly?

Posted: 12 Feb 2016 11:55 AM PST

How can I EARN it back quickly?

Question: How do I avoid arguments with my possibly narcissistic younger sister?

Posted: 12 Feb 2016 11:55 AM PST

We are three sisters. I am the oldest (22), and the middle sister (20), and then the youngest sister (18). The middle sister seems to always project all of her problems and blame onto me, and never the youngest sister, with whom she gets into smaller disputes with only occasionally. I have tried speaking calmly as I have gotten older, when I was younger I used to yell back but there is no way to reason with her and I have realized that as I have gotten older. But it is still difficult to cope. I can for example never ask her (even kindly) to clean up after herself, because then she will fly into rage about every single fault that I have. What happened today, is an example that I have realized is part of "a pattern". We three sisters were home alone and we were going to make tacos together. The youngest sister couldn't help out as she was preparing for a test. No complaints from the middle sister. So the two of us prepared the food. After eating I put everything in the fridge but left the bowls in the sink for the youngest sister to wash, as she didn't help out with the food. The middle sister then comes to me and rages how I didn't properly clean up, that I never clean up and keeps yelling at me for not doing the dishes. I told her that it wouldn't be fair if I did all the cleaning and that the youngest sister will do it. But after that she will just keep yelling and calling me names. How do I cope with this?

Question: Why do my mom treat me like a child still?

Posted: 12 Feb 2016 11:30 AM PST

I was shaking my body and my mom took it out of content and won't stop talking and she told me that I can't go to a restaurant with the family and she even told me that she telling on my father

Question: How do I handle a Crazy Mother in Law?

Posted: 12 Feb 2016 11:18 AM PST

my MIL and I have always had issues. They all began when his priorities switched from their family, to me. Since then she has acted like a crazy jealous school girl. We had a baby girl 4 months ago and shes sees the baby every Tuesday and occasionally on weekends. She claims that it is not enough and that my own mother gets to spend more time with the baby (this is true however my mom is our daycare provider). We are now planning a wedding where she thinks that I should pay for his two sisters bridesmaid dresses and not her. She pressured me to have them in the wedding, and now does not want to put a dime towards having them in the wedding. The dresses are only $68 which in my opinion is not much at all. This situation has become a huge deal. She will not speak to me, she will not answer my calls, and shes talking bad about me to others. I do not claim to be innocent. I have snapped at her a few times and said some rude comments. However, I have apologized for all of it, and she could not even respond to my apology. I feel like she is being childish and unreasonable. How should I deal with this crazy woman

Question: Was my family right in an argument we had?

Posted: 12 Feb 2016 11:17 AM PST

Okay, so this is a REALLY long and twisted story- Okay, so I had a crush on this boy. Let's call him Jake. My friend, Alison, knew I liked Jake, so she gave me his number. I texted Jake, and he actually turned out to be a total jerk and I was super upset. I texted Alison and told her that he was rude. She felt really bad about it. BUT then somehow, my sister received all the texts I was sending to Alison. My sister was SUPER pissed at Alison and blamed her for everything that happened between me and Jake. She called Alison worthless and said to never talk to me again. She thought that Alison had set me up intentionally. My sister has never liked Alison though. My mom and dad agreed with my sister, but I didn't. My family said my sister was just protecting me. I feel like she was unnecessarily rude. My whole family got super pissed at me and said I can't hang out with Alison anymore. But I'm not mad at Alison at all. What do I do?

Question: Daughter won t repay $1500 for down payment on car & I have text messages where she admits she owes me the money?

Posted: 12 Feb 2016 10:24 AM PST

Question: My parents wont let me do anything outside of school?

Posted: 12 Feb 2016 10:23 AM PST

OK I would like to be an entertainer, and its really sucks how i get offers to perform with or for people I associate with but my parents wont let me because it doesn't have anything to do with the school i go to. I hate the club im in at school cause it hasn't helped me one bit with my career and its very unorganized. and it really sucks and i feel like im just wasting my time talent cause they barely let me do things. they barely let me hang out with my own friends, and many times they wont let me go to events IF THEY ARE NOT AT THE SCHOOL I GO TO. I keep getting more offers and opportunities but i have to keep telling them no because of my parents. i dont know what to do about it at this point.

Question: Is it possible my boyfriend could become abusive?

Posted: 12 Feb 2016 10:20 AM PST

Hello, I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years and he has treated me very well. However, I am concerned because one day I was riding with him and his parents to a carnival. The mother said to slow down the car to not hit the car in front (she did kind of yell it out of fear). Directly after, the dad slapped the mom on the leg and told her not to yell out while he's trying to focus on driving. This is the only instance I have seen of physical abuse, however, I wonder if this is the only instance in which this has happened (kinda doubt it by her not saying something such as "did you just really hit me?!). The horrible part is that the dad professes to be a Christian. If my boyfriend has witnessed this behavior, is it likely that he could hit one day also? His dad has a temper, but my boyfriend is the quiet type. THANKSSS!!

Question: I hate me dad?

Posted: 12 Feb 2016 10:09 AM PST

I want him dead that's how much I hate him. He's making my life a living hell. I'm going through depression and he doesn't help at all, instead he shouts at me for being depressed. One time I told my little brother to go away so my dad came and pushed me as a "joke" but I told him that I don't have time for that and I really need to take a shower cause im late so he pushes me hard and shouts at me. Where I live you can't report your parents cause it's their job to beat you up and stuff like that. I'm just done. I really wanna kill myself cause of him. He never gets me gifts while my friends got a lot of em. I've talked to my brother and he hates my dad with a passion. Would someone please kill him for me? I'm not even joking this isn't a troll I want my dad to die.

Question: My Brother Smokes Weed and i"m sick of it?

Posted: 12 Feb 2016 09:50 AM PST

My brother been smoking weed ever since last year, he is 19 now bout to turn 20 in a month and he started when he was in college and later on he dropped out because he couldnt handle the financial situations. From last year until now it has gotten worse for him, he cusses at my mom and grandmother, he always leaves the house high, my mom keeps telling him to get out of her house but that never happens He stole my Tv, my sister's tablet that she got for christmas from her aunt (side note: we have different dads so it was a treasured gift that she cherished from her aunt) he takes my moms car and gma's car without permisson. He recentally broke his door because my mom wouldnt let him borrow the car because he claims that he has to go to work when he didnt go to work that day cause one of his friends who is also a friend of mine was texting me where was he at. My cousins and some of his good friends are trying to help him stop smoking or at least stop smoking for a while or ocassinally smoking everyday but it's not working. I dont have a job and i cant drive, im 18 and i go to a community college so be dropped off by him is scary to me cause he runs red lights he doesnt wear a setbelt and he doesnt return my moms car when i leave from the car to go inside my house, he doesnt own a car, he also lost his license so thats a big deal too. If anyone can help me with this mess i will greatly appreciate it

Question: Is this normal parental behavior?

Posted: 12 Feb 2016 09:45 AM PST

I'm pretty sure this is normal behavior but I think my mom is a little harsh on me and my sister. She's a single parent (we don't have a dad; my mom's never been married) with a good salary (we aren't poor) and flexible hours. My sister and I are straight A students, we play the violin and cello, and our mom often tells us what well behaved daughters we are (we are twins in early teens). However, lately she yells at us for small mistakes (not putting snowpants and boots away, not emptying the dishwasher when we get home, not turning on her favorite TV show before she gets home). When she yells, she often tells us that we don't deserve her, she deserves our utmost respect, we're lazy slobs, and once she called us f****** selfish. A few times she had called me a b****. Sometimes when she's mad and wants to get us to do something she'll shuffle her feet loudly behind us so it sounds like she's running after us. Once she hit me with a glass measuring cup (though not very hard). Usually after a while she loses the bad mood (not more than 15 minutes ago she was yelling at my sister for not hearing a question, and now she's singing Bad Bad Leroy Brown and seems pretty happy). So is this normal, or not? All in all I think she's a good mom- she taught us to be respectful, polite, and we aren't spoiled (we have to save up for school trips ourselves; she believes in money management skills). Any thoughts?

Question: How to get over jealousy?

Posted: 12 Feb 2016 09:42 AM PST

So I know this is pathetic but I am insanely envious of my cousin. She s younger than me and for a while, I was the only girl in the family. Now I feel like everyone loves her more. She s popular, pretty, outgoing, and a talented ice skater. All I ever hear about is how she came in first place at her competitions. My aunt takes her on shopping trips, they buy matching accessories, and my nana is allaying taking her out to eat. The worst part of all is knowing that my cousin likes me and I m her favorite cousin. I feel awful knowing this and wishing she would her competions. She loves me a lot, always wanting to do my hair or my makeup. She likes spending the night and invites me to hang out with her friends when they go over to her house. How can I stop being jealous and just be the supportive older cousin everyone thinks I am?

Question: If anything , good or bad, happens to me my boyfriend has to one up me. Ez. My mom passed and it turned that loss of his dad was worse.?

Posted: 12 Feb 2016 09:41 AM PST

Question: Am I wrong?

Posted: 12 Feb 2016 09:15 AM PST

I m 17 and ever since I was young my parents have always been focused on my brother who is now 20 they always ask about his grades, how he is doing, and what he needs now for me it s been the complete opposite it feels as if they don t care about me at all and when I have confronted them they reply with the same thing every time which is "We don t have to worry about you. You take care of yourself your brother just needs extra help." Yes it s nice to have parents who aren t breathing down my neck constantly and asking where I m at but sometimes it would be nice to have them ask how my grades are or how is school going or how are my sports going. Now that my brother is out of the house and graduated they ve taken their focus and put it on my nephew who is 18 and graduating. Basically my question is am I wrong to ask them why they treat me like this and to get a better answer out of them?

Question: Is this right thing to do ?

Posted: 12 Feb 2016 08:53 AM PST

dont get me wrong , I have a great life , but I've been really annoyed with my parents .their Muslim which I am to, my dad always feels embarrassed if we make mistakes ,because he doesn't want our reputation to go down and people to hear about us , why does it matter

Question: Do I have a reason to be upset with my mother-in-law?

Posted: 12 Feb 2016 08:46 AM PST

I have been married to my husband for two years now and we have a one year old son together. He has a daughter from a previous girlfriend before me. His ex girlfriend and my mother in law hated each other until about a year ago when my husband and his mom got into a fight and stopped talking to each other. After that my mother in law befriended his ex and are now friends on facebook and communicate. Oh and did I mention my mother in law hates me because of my husband and her fight that had nothing to do with me? Now she pretends she wants to be apart of my husband and my son s life but always refuses the opportunity to see him. I just feel like she likes my husband s ex and his previous child better than my child and me. My husband kind of blows it off. Should I be upset?

Question: What made my aunt selfish and evil?

Posted: 12 Feb 2016 08:32 AM PST

She is REALLY MEAN, and she is aggressive and she just seems to hate everyone she meets. She is insecure, and she doesnt properly care for her children. She lies a lot and is easily jealous. She is extremely selfish and she is sadistic.

Question: Help how do i hangout with my friend without my mom knowing? Whats a good lie?

Posted: 12 Feb 2016 08:26 AM PST

So I'm 17 and recently moved out of my moms because i couldn't handle her boyfriend and my room was missing a wall and i had no privacy. Anyway ever since i did that my mom has gotten really weird and every time i go over to a friends she has me tell her which i dont mind but shes now forcing me to give her there name and address and moms name and number and she calls there moms and shes never done this before and i don't know what to do because this friends mom doesnt like me and she wont be home but my moms rule is there mom has to be home what should i do my roommates might tell her if i go anywhere:(

Question: How to deal with this child?

Posted: 12 Feb 2016 08:12 AM PST

I have a cousin. She is 8 years-old this year. She's always visiting my house since we are neighbours. The problem is she will damage my things if I ignore her presence such as when I was really busy doing my homework, maybe she felt like I did not care about her so she damaged one of my dress without anyone seeing. But I knew it was her because my mom told me she saw my cousin lingered around the dress. Anyway, this situation did not only occur to me but also to my other family members. My dad's printer ink got poured on the table, my mirror was doodled using my sister's lipstick, my sister's lotion got poured on the floor and so on. When we asked her, she would deny and said that she did not know anything. Of course. She's good at lying too. We knew those horrible things happened were her doings because these happened when she felt like we ignored her. But actually, we're busy doing something else. my poor cousin. It's not her nature to do those kind of things. She used to be a kind child. I guess she started to become like this because she was so depressed when her father married another woman. My family and I did not tell her father about it becauss we afraid that her father would get so angry at her. So.. how to cure her? What kind of methods could I use?

Question: Grandparents wanting to see their grandchild?

Posted: 12 Feb 2016 08:07 AM PST

Okay my husband is in the military (I still live in our home state with our children) we have a 2year old daughter and I'm currently pregnant with twins. Anyways his parents recently complained to me that they don't get to see their grand daughter as often as my parents do(my parents watch her for me while I'm at work) well I offered for them to watch her for me sometime while I was at work at first they acted all excited about it but then they acted like they were offended by the offer ? I don't get it they don't HAVE to watch her for me I was just offering so they could see her. I'm still early in my pregnancy so I'm working about 50hrs a week when I get off work I wanna reliax and not go over and visit people. (Mind you I do take her over to see them at least twice a month it's not that they NEVER get to see her) I just don't get it why complain about "never" getting to see her then get upset I offered for you to "baby sit". They also get mad that I won't let them keep her over night I don't even let my parents keep her over night yet lol anyone else ever deal with this ?

Question: Do you have family like this?

Posted: 12 Feb 2016 08:03 AM PST

I have 4 kids. They are in their 20's. Great kids. Never had any rebellion or issues. They haven't dated or met anyone who shares the same interest or faith, yet. Everyone is okay with that. Enter the aunts and uncles. Half of them aren't even married or have children and they are constantly saying things to us like: "You all would have better lives if they would find better jobs. Or, when are they gonna get married?" Like you can get up one day and say, "Hey, I think I'll go get married today or I'll go find that full time job today and move out." Are people stupid? Do they live in "la-la" land? Please tell me I'm not the only one dealing with this crap.

Question: I had sex with my stepmum and I regret it so badly?

Posted: 12 Feb 2016 08:02 AM PST

Basically my father died three years ago and there has been tension and violence between me and my stepmother, almost every day we are at each other throats, she hits me and I hit her, it's not a healthy way of living together, anyway yesterday she caught me smoking cannabis and she started shouting at me so I started shouting back, she then spat on my face so I knocked over the table, she started throwing shoes at me and we started wrestling and we fell on the sofa, she spat at me again and I grabbed her by the throat and said "don't you dare do that" I got turned on from this and had an erection and she felt it, it was so awkward and she made it more awkward and said "so you get off hitting women, go on be a man and fûck me for once in your life, no other woman is going to want you, now's your chance to loose it" I slapped her, she then pulled her trousers down and I couldn't help it, I then had sex with her. I now feel sick and can't stand to look at her, I hate her, I feel like I've disgraced my dad. What should I do?

Question: Should I bother?

Posted: 12 Feb 2016 08:00 AM PST

Lately, I ve been having some really bad daddy issues. He s never been around in my life ( mostly bc my mother prevented it ) and I ve only met him once in my life when I was very very young. I ve been told all of my life that he s scum, and he s a lying dirtbag, and he s not a good father, and he would only wanted me for money ( to pu me on taxes or something ) but this is all from my mother. Even though, my mom and my step dad were absolute **** parents. I was wondering if I should try to contact him now since I m 18. I want to know my father since I ve been having issues about it. I want to know my father. I mean...what s a girl without her dad?

Question: My mom won't let me hold my baby brother!?

Posted: 12 Feb 2016 07:59 AM PST

I'm 19 years old. My mother had me when she was about 20. So now she's 38. And she just had an adorable baby boy . She named him Daniel (we call him Dan or Danny a lot). I love him so much. But here's the thing... She never lets me hold him. Here's an example. We went to my aunts house to sleepover for a week or two. And she was having a party. Only our family and some close friends were invited. And literally EVERYONE held him except me. And by time everyone held him, I asked. But my mom said, "Well. He's getting tired honey. Maybe tomorrow or something." And she gave me the most fake sweet smile! I wanted to punch her face in. And Daniel was laughing and cooing on a couch, watching Paw Patrol! The next day, we went to a mall near the house. And every time she went to try something on, I asked, "Hey mom. Want me to hold Danny?" And she'd say something like, No... That's okay.." With a confused look on her face. And then she would bring him with her to the changing room. And like the fifth time he went in with her, he started crying. But she wouldn't give him up. SHE JUST LET HM SIT THERE! The experiences go on. How can I tell my mom to let me hold the baby without sounding TOO mean? @King For you information, I have never smoked, done drugs, and I'm non alcoholic. @King plus, I'm still a virgin @I_HaveMyCake I guess maybe she doesn't. But I don't know why. I will ask what's up. But I guess I shouldn't be ranting on yahoo.

Question: My mom is crazy, selfish, and a b*tch. What do I do?

Posted: 12 Feb 2016 07:16 AM PST

So I just got into a therapy group to help with my depression and anxiety. But my mom was asleep all morning, because she went out to party with her stupid friends. So I was locked out of the room, until she opened it and I asked if the transportation came yet. She said no. So I waited, and like an hour later she grabs her phone from my brother and say it rang when I was awake the whole time and didn't know. The phone did not ring! I was awake the whole time! Plus, she been partying all night and wanted me to watch my brother. She does this every week. SHE CAN'T TAKE CARE OF HER OWN KIDS! Then she started snapping on me about how "done" she is, and that I'm on my own when dealing with my depression, and that she's petty and she'd be glad to take me to a foster home and that if I talk back she'd hit me and sh*t. You guys have no idea how much I HATE her. She doesn't listen to me and I'm going to this program upset and sad. And they'll probably ask why; and I don't know if I should tell them about how I feel about my mom. She's bipolar and doesn't take medicine. My dad is way better than her but at times, he gets just like her. But at least he's trying. I can't do this anymore. They're the reason for my depression, why I'm angry all the time and have no trust im anyone. I just want them to go away! Especially my mom. But I can't go into a foster home, I'd lose my little sister and I can't have that. I don't know what to do...

Question: How can my girlfriend (23) and me go on our dream vacation (for a surprised proposal) if her controlling parents won t let her travel?

Posted: 12 Feb 2016 07:04 AM PST

Me and my girlfriend of 5 years want to go on Vacation to Orlando from California. She s 23 and a college graduate still living with parents after returning home from college. Im 23 also. It s always been our dream vacation to travel to Disney World. We would be traveling with my family. And im planning on proposing during the trip. Ive always invisioned it this way and im determine to see it through. She wants to get married too and we discussed our future together. But her controlling parents wont let her travel. She also has curfew for normal dates by 10pm. Ive learned to cope with it because i love her and dont hold it against her.But how can i convince her to stand up to their decision and go anyways. Without spoiling my plans for the surprised proposal!? Is it unfair for us to want to do this? Or is it unfair of her parents to hold her back that way? Please help with some advice on how we can approach this.

Question: Half sister and half brother they have the same daddy different mom is that safe?

Posted: 12 Feb 2016 06:57 AM PST

Question: Is my mom too strict?

Posted: 12 Feb 2016 06:55 AM PST

She constantly yells at me, or more like "bitches" at me because of homework, when I do something like groan when she wants to work with me (I have ADHD). She tells me that I have aspergers, a label I ve been telling her that it doesn t belong to me (I was diagnosed at 5, and don't really think I still have it, and it is stigmatizing and rude). When I tell her to calm down she starts yelling at me that I m ungreatful and that I should go live with my dad, which I actually sometimes kinda want to do, even if he live 200 miles away from my friends and school. When I procrastinate and she looks at my work, and it s technically done but not a++++ she tells me that I'm lazy and that this is "**** work" and that she's about to give up on me, even though this is something I'm working on. This starts a fight (obviously) and then she gets mad at me over that. She passive-aggressively stonewalls me too, which just gets me super mad. I don't think her approach works on me. Btw, we can sometimes get along when we're not doing work. She works a lot for me and my brother and it's stressful for her. Is this behavior to strict/harsh? @Groovy_Unicorn For the aspergers thing, while yes, you can't technically grow out of it, I've dropped most symptoms to the point where I'm just a bit awkward and stubborn, and the rest have blended with my adhd. I don't identify with it for that reason. Also, I would like to point out that other people have it far worse than I do. I'm not about to run away or commit suicide or anything like that, and she doesn't hit me or anything.

Question: Whats wrong with me??!!?

Posted: 12 Feb 2016 06:42 AM PST

Im 23 and I just started living on my own. I ate the same favorite meals i usually ate since i was 16. Shirmp Lobster chicken and etc. When i was 16 i was skinny eating these foods but how come now im gaining alot of weight. I have started drinking but not much what am I doing wrong? Am i sick?

Question: Why some people get attention without asking for it?

Posted: 12 Feb 2016 06:33 AM PST

Negative & positive attention.

Question: My parents always fight!I can't take it anymore!?

Posted: 12 Feb 2016 06:31 AM PST

It's out of control, my mom hits my father on the head and throw things at each other and my dad yells back angrily, i can't concentrate on my studies and grades are dropping because of them they even accuse each other of cheating and pretty much hate each other is this normal? if not what should i do? Thats exactly one of the problems stacy my moms totally broke and dependent on my dad if she leaves him she will be on the streets and i will lose my education and everything and i have to stay with my mom because she has no one else

Question: I am my son father, his mother who I never married, he has half brothers, what are they to me.?

Posted: 12 Feb 2016 06:21 AM PST

Question: Ok so I m 14 and my mom saw that I was watching porn on my phone. Now she wants to take me to counseling. What should I do?!?

Posted: 12 Feb 2016 06:14 AM PST

Question: Am i related to the niece of my cousins baby mother ?

Posted: 12 Feb 2016 06:11 AM PST

Just incase that didn't make sense, i met this girl in school and we talked for a while and it turns out, her aunt is the mother of my first cousins daughter. Does that make us related? if so, how?

Question: Would your parents get mad if you called off at work?

Posted: 12 Feb 2016 05:47 AM PST

So I wake up super late to work. And in my head I'm like "I really don't want to go to work". So then I decided to call off. This is also my first time calling off too. So would my parents get mad? For calling off?

Question: My aunt (outside the family) is hateful, stingy, and malicious. She is sadistic and a bit evil... Can anyone explain why is she like that?

Posted: 12 Feb 2016 05:45 AM PST

My aunt was from Kuwait and she came from a poor family. She is stingy becuz she wants to be rich. She somewhat leaves her children hungry becuz food cost $, and she feeds them very little that they look a little anorexic (no rib bones showing). She doesnt let them watch TV, get proper clothes for them, and she somewhat denies them proper nutrition (she feeds them rice or anything cheap ONLY). She insecure, very short (under 5 feet), and she isnt attractive. She hates all my aunts (uncle's sis) and hates me when I was 13 becuz she was envious of my green eyes. She is somewhat malicious and sadistic, becuz one time when she was pregnant and a guy was painting his porch, she lied to my uncle that one of my aunts was spraying something in the air to kill the baby and my uncle punch my aunt. Another time, I (13) said I would like to write a book and she went berserk. "Do simple, simple, simple things", she said. She was 45 and I was 13, why would she care what a middle school girl do? Nobody know about her parents (even my uncle). She hadnt spoken to them for over 19 yrs (her own mom). Her parents would kill her if she came back to Kuwait becuz she married a foreign man. She wants my uncle to stay away from his sisters. One time my mom did facebook friend request to my uncle and she deleted the request. Is she afraid that his sisters would convince him to divorce her? Nobody loves her. Her children r AGGRESSIVE, (they were 13, 8, and 4). She and uncle care a lot of $$, and they are manipulative and have low self esteem. That is not a good way to live, and I dont understand why they are so picky. They are not happy people,and my aunt is somewhat selfish. She likes to knock people down. If it is from jealousy, why the maliciousness? I do get jealous but I dont get malicious. What causes her to be malicious from jealousy?

Question: What to do when family always need money?

Posted: 12 Feb 2016 05:23 AM PST

A lot of the women in my family don t work at all and I try to encourage them to do so. But they're always needing money and wanting me to buy them.thing. especially my Mom who is only in her early 40's. It stresses me out, they'll get me to go out to eat and I have to pay always want me to pay for thelir hair at the salon, take care of their kids and so forth. It puts me and my plans back and my Mom is always saying I'm suppose to take care of her. She'll call every month with a sad story needing $200-$600 and when I say no she gives me this guilt trip. I'm tired of being around them for that fact but then I feel guilty, at advice?

Question: What do I do when my Mom bears me down emotionally?

Posted: 12 Feb 2016 05:05 AM PST

I've wondered throughout my life how some people could stray from their Mom and/or Dad - the two people that gave them life - but it becomes clearer and clearer each and every day that I exist and breathe in the same air my Mom breathes in and it is more toxic than Chernobyl. I can't stop crying so I'm stuck in the bathroom typing to people who could give two ***** less about my life. The only person who hates me any more than my Mom does is my own self. I'm 27 in a few months and I've been brought up to believe that I can't do anything for myself and that I am basically a worthless piece of ****. I had the largest of spats I've ever had this morning with her and I swear to God if there was an open liquor bottle in this house it would be empty by now. I tried talking to my Mom and telling her how I felt and she wouldn't listen to me and kept telling me everything was all in my head. She proceeded to bash my with her own words but when I tried to respond she walked outside. I've been in the bathroom ever since because I can't quit crying and I don't want her to see that she's got to me. My Mom has never once?realized or CARED how hurtful or wrong or come to me and apologized in her life. She doesn't give a **** about me or my feelings and I'm willing to bet if I put the household pistol in my mouth today it would be a weight off of her shoulders to not have me as a burden on her shoulders anymore. The title is meant to say BEATS*

Question: How do I handle a mother who never wants to forgive those she is at odds with unless it is her children (she does forgive us)?

Posted: 12 Feb 2016 04:44 AM PST

She has like 7 different grudges and she seems to bring up two or three a day and I miss out on family time because people don't want to deal with my mother so they don't ask me since they feel they'd have to ask her if they did. So I miss out How do I deal with this. My mother especially hold's grudges against her siblings, her father, and her step-mother. The only relatives she isn't mad at are her mother and one sister. I love my mother but this makes my life hard. Update----I meant to give Mamawisdom best answer, read that one.

Question: My sister is furious that I was polite to her ex-husband when I saw him last weekend, what do I do?

Posted: 12 Feb 2016 04:32 AM PST

I saw my sister's ex-husband (they divorced 4 years ago) and she was furious I was nice to him. He had his two kids with him so I wanted to be respectful. How do I make it up to her or was I right? She is always trying to convince the kids she is the better one but I just thought I'd be cordial so not to upset the kids further (the exes are often fighting still). My sister resents anyone who likes the ex or is not totally loyal to her and totally hates the ex. By hates I mean she resents anyone who does not hate her ex-husband. I find this harmful to her two sons even though I was not a big fan of the ex-husband it is their father. The couple had two sons who see the Dad monthly.

Question: How should I act when I see my father this weekend, I haven't seen him in 3 years at him leaving?

Posted: 12 Feb 2016 04:24 AM PST

My mother and I are going something this weekend we expect we will see my father and his new wife at. I haven;t seen my father in close to 3 years. He hasn't seen me much over the years since I was 6 and he left my mother. I am 16 now. So anyway, he didn't want me and I have tried to ask him about it and he says "you have your mother". He is remarried now but I want to be nice enough when I see him but not act like I am not hurt. So what do I say?

Question: Why am i going to jail and not my mother?

Posted: 12 Feb 2016 04:13 AM PST

my mom beat the **** out of me. I asked her politely to not to touch me. She then started hitting me and and slapping me. Punching me and biting my fingers. So i dug my nails into her hand and I am the one going to jail. She sprained my finger and left two giant hand prints on my boobs she left brusies and red marks on me and she is not getting anytrouble. She was trying beat the **** out of me and all i did was was put my nails in her hand and i get arrested. My mom finds its funny because she can get away with starving me and abusing me. I felt as my life was endangerd. She was honestly tryingto kill me and i only defenended my self. She wants my money and nothing else. she dosnt want me and that is what she says. i videoed a meeting where she lied to the doctors and i still got in trouble with evidance that she was lying and she was trying to kill me! Ieft one mark tring to defend my self so i wouldnt be punched in the neck or head. she punched me in the stop that if you hitat a certain angle can paralyze you or kill you. I defended my self so she would not kill me and now i am going tojail and my mom can continue to abuse me and lie so she wont get in trouble. The police said she can hit me but I can not hit her even if she is trying to kill me. Because i am bipolar add odd and she is my mother. So of i ever feelunsafe i amnot unsafe and lying about it and noone can do anything. Dcf has been called twice mymother lied and they left with out a word or follow up...

Question: How do I bring back happy memories I had with my mother when she was alive?

Posted: 12 Feb 2016 04:12 AM PST

Question: My grandmother said she's trying to do what's best for me?

Posted: 12 Feb 2016 04:07 AM PST

27 with 2 children and she knows what's best for me - how? By me saying I am going to move out next weekend. Her respond was - that's a bad choice??? Me being independent is a bad choice? I suppose to give up my life and raise two kids in her home until I die or she dies??? She tells me how too feed my children, how to dress them, and I think I know what's best for me, my children, and my health. I don't need anyone to validate my life by the desicions I make. I am grown and have too live my life independently. Also, engaged, but my health is being factored by her erratic behavior. With or without behavior, I am moving because I have regrets of being here. When things don't go her way , she slams doors, yells, calls me name, and throws out this negative behavior. Pretty sad, but I am trying to live my own life. I don't see any harm in me moving out with my 2 children because I know what's best and what my health can allow. In her mind, yes, but that's her mind not mines. In my mind, I am moving. She said we should be like two married people and work it out. We are not married and its never worked out since the two months I have been here. Her behavior is erratic. Just throwing these updates out there because I can not live here forever in this mess.This is not my desire its hers. This plan of how she wants my life too be in her mind. Tim, I have an education. For the FYI.. I have been raising my kids on my own since my daughters dad passed. I am happily engaged and can suppirt my children off my career. I don't know how any of this has too do with me raising my children and being independent. My fiance hasn't come down yet for us to get our home. There were delays. She insisted I come here. I told her it would be temporarily a month or two now she's mad because I am leaving. Oh well.

Question: How do I tell my mom that I got a F in one of my classes without her flipping out on me?

Posted: 12 Feb 2016 03:21 AM PST

As an asian daughter, of course I would be afraid to tell my mom. As for my dad, he would just tell me that I could have done better, and steer clear from the situation. My mom would raise her voice at me and threaten that she wouldn't let me go out and hang out with my friends and slap me. I just want to know if there is a better way of approaching it. I don't want to get slapped or yelled at. I want something other than,"Mom, Dad, I got an F in this class."

Question: What to do when your father is stalking you and your mother won't divorce him.?

Posted: 12 Feb 2016 03:16 AM PST

Question: How can someone who Hates his father and several other relatives accept himself.?

Posted: 12 Feb 2016 03:10 AM PST

Question: Was my family right in this argument we had?

Posted: 12 Feb 2016 02:38 AM PST

Okay, so this is a REALLY long and twisted story- Okay, so I had a crush on this boy. Let's call him Jake. My friend, Alison, knew I liked Jake, so she gave me his number. I texted Jake, and he actually turned out to be a total jerk and I was super upset. I texted Alison and told her that he was rude. She felt really bad about it. BUT then somehow, my sister received all the texts I was sending to Alison. My sister was SUPER pissed at Alison and blamed her for everything that happened between me and Jake. She called Alison worthless and said to never talk to me again. She thought that Alison had set me up intentionally. My sister has never liked Alison though. My mom and dad agreed with my sister, but I didn't. My family said my sister was just protecting me. I feel like she was unnecessarily rude. My whole family got super pissed at me and said I can't hang out with Alison anymore. But I'm not mad at Alison at all. What do I do?

Question: Clipe dos anos 2000, em 1 garota e 2 caras pela cidade, europa, o tema da música e beijo, ela é loira e tem cabelos curtos parece francesa.?

Posted: 12 Feb 2016 01:54 AM PST

Clipe musical, entre os anos 2000 e 2010