Family: Question: My step dad is an alcoholic and I hate him, help?

Question: My step dad is an alcoholic and I hate him, help?

Posted: 27 Feb 2016 12:46 PM PST

Is there anything that would help him quit drinking? At the moment he doesn't a have job and collect EDD unemployment money. He picks me up from school and I have to spend hours and hours of doing whatever he tells me to do. But that's not what makes me hate him. He drinks alot and when my mom comes home from work he yells at her from no reason and I don't wanna say anything because I know what he's capable of. I saw him strangle his own brother for bringing up stuff from the past.....i've talked to my family members like my aunt but she says to just "hold in there" like what do you mean?! I've talked to my father but I didn't get into detail....I'm also struggling in school, my step dad and mom only graduated from high school but my father is a college graduate which seems best If I live with him but he lives with my grandparents to take care them while there still here....so he doesn't have any room. And I feel like even if he did tell me to move in, I would wanna leave my mom while she needs me the most. What if my step dad becomes abusive? And I'm only 15. I'm just trying to hold in the anger while I can and get through life...I don't know what to do anymore....each day that goes by seeING his face just pisses me off

Question: I still love my brother and I miss him?

Posted: 27 Feb 2016 12:43 PM PST

Question: My parents always complain and make fun of me for not doing anything all day. How do I make them stop?

Posted: 27 Feb 2016 12:36 PM PST

I do not have a job but I am a full time college student so I am always studying they just never see me do it because I am in my room. I also clean up the house but they never notice because someone always messes it back up. It just get on my nerves when they tell me to get over myself and that I should not be so tired

Question: My grandmother and aunt make nasty comments about me but don't want me to act angry?

Posted: 27 Feb 2016 12:24 PM PST

They don't care. It's more like they think I forget. Then every time I say something my grandmother acts as though she isn't listening talking for hours about herself. I have no say in it. How can I help myself?

Question: Help with my depressed little daughtor?

Posted: 27 Feb 2016 12:08 PM PST

Last year she was "diagnosed" with severe depression. I dont think she had it though. She was happy. Her much older brother told her to get herself together and for the most part, she did. She had 2 Ds at the start of the semester and she brought them up to As and Bs. My son (whos 35) remembered she had wanted a car before, so he decided to help her get it for her grades Before shed go out and atleast try to hang out with friends. Etc She didnt want the car. She spent most of the summer cooped up in her room doing whatever it is that she did. Before i was complaining that she spent too much time out of the house, now im complaining that shes not doing anything. Shes got good grades, cleans up after herself, does her chores Im worried. Shes been like this for almost a year now. She basically wakes up, goes to school, gets home at 6, goes to work for a few hours, and then goes into her room and repeats. Shes not even spending the money shes making. Last time i checked her bank account shes accumulated 4k now. And that was like 2 months ago. She doesnt like spending time with me or her family either. Never wants to take pictures. Ive checked her messeges and shes only sent a couple these last past months. Mostly replying to myself or her elder siblings. Shes been in honors and ap classes her whole life so this is nothing new. What the hell have i raised? A robot? She has no emotions whatsoever. What should i do? Take her door off untill she start socializing again?

Question: My dad is really turning into a different man and it's scaring me?

Posted: 27 Feb 2016 12:06 PM PST

My dad had always been a stand up guy. Does his job , loves his family. Him and my mom have been married for 21 years and we've always been a close family , going on vacations , doing things, ect. 3 months ago is when my dad really started to change. He started drinking which is unusable for my dad because he rarely drinks but he started going out every night. He also had this female employee who he started texting and calling and going out with a lot behind my moms back. Twice we found him in her hotel room on two separate occasion , his card was charged for the hotel but the room was under her name. If the company ever found out he was doing that he would for sure be fired. He never comes home. A few weeks ago I was very sick and begged him to come home but he wouldn't answer his phone . I found out the next day he was drinking and partying with this woman and was hungover . He's becoming an alcoholic just like his dad was. I've begged him to stop going out so much and to stop drinking but he always screams at me saying that he is the adult and that I'm not even though I am 20, and he says he can do what ever he wants . This is so unlike him . He used to be the best dad ever but now I can hardly look at him . It hurts too much . He won't stop going out . He's constantly lying to my mom and me and my brother. I have no idea what to do he is ruining his life and our families.

Question: My mom and I disagree with my career choice.?

Posted: 27 Feb 2016 12:03 PM PST

My mom and I have been talking about my plans for college. I told my mom about wanting to become a General Dentist. My mom yelled at me, telling me that I wasn't going to be able to accomplish it and the only way I could go to school for Dentistry was if I payed for it myself. My mom said that an Ultrasound Technician would be better for me, but I don't want to do that because it's not what I had my heart set on. What should I do?

Question: Is it normal that my family generally ONLY lets me drink water during the afternoon?

Posted: 27 Feb 2016 12:02 PM PST

Hey everyone, I wanted someone to give me their opinion on this 'rule' that my parents enforce in our household. I am 15, and have a 11 yr old brother and 9 year old sis. My parents only occasionally let us drink non-water beverages during the afternoon. In the morning, we can have stuff like juice, but after that, over. Juice or anything else in the afternoon is considered a "special treat". Is this like... normal? I mean, I've never heard of any other family that does something like this. I personally feel its pretty strict. I understand it for my siblings but I'm 15 and I feel I should at LEAST be able to have a glass of juice in the afternoon like normal people lol. Am I exaggerating about this? Maybe. What do u guys think

Question: Why does my mom always correct me ?

Posted: 27 Feb 2016 11:52 AM PST

She is an accountant so everything even conversations have to be perfect . I was talking about people buying organic food and said my u Coke buys organic and she said no that's not right he buys brand names .i said my aunt bought a ring and it was millions of dollars and my aunt told me that and she says no 5,000 sounds more accurate ! Why doesn't she just talk instead of everything have to be right I always say oh I guess I'm wrong again and she thinks she doesn't even do it

Question: How do I tell my parents that i smoke?

Posted: 27 Feb 2016 11:45 AM PST

I started almost six months ago. Im in the army and I've never smoked when i was home so there's no way that they can know. I know they disapprove of smiking and I dont know how to break it to them.

Question: I am angry at my mother for her hurtful words about my father when I was little and brainwashing me, how do I learn to forgive her?

Posted: 27 Feb 2016 11:01 AM PST

She was otherwise a good mother My mother attacked my Dad after they divorced.

Question: Dad is making me cry.?

Posted: 27 Feb 2016 11:00 AM PST

So, my dad i flying for bussiness again for the first time in more than a year. It really hurts me that when I do something great, he comes home and just says that he missed me. He doesn't congradulate me at all and i am at the stage in my life to where i cry really easily. I am a huge daddy's girl but he makes me feel like I do not want him home at all. This is one of the most stressful times for me because he automatically favors my brother over me. I am trying so so so hard to do my homework and forget about this but once i see his face i want to punch it or run away crying. Please help me!

Question: How do I get my mother's siblings and their kids (my cousins) to like me even though my mother is not nice to them?

Posted: 27 Feb 2016 11:00 AM PST

Question: I honestly feel hopeless and helpless and sad and alone. I'm 33 weeks pregnant and want to hurt myself.?

Posted: 27 Feb 2016 10:57 AM PST

background info: my dad died 9 years ago after suffering from ms. I moved out of his house in 5th grade bc my step mom was abusive. when I did that, she changed the locks and wouldn't let anyone in. the ems had to break in through a window and found my dad starved, almost dead, and he went into a nursing home. I feel at fault to this day. my mom has has 4 strokes in 2 days. she won't go to the hospital. I know trying to force her will stress her out, so I sat in my room all day yesterday crying instead. her and my brother would mock me crying outside my bedroom door. I told my bro that I just can't blame myself for another parents death, and I want my mom to be alive for the birth of my baby-and he says I'm making this all about me and I'm being selfish. I'm only living here to save up for a down payment on a house. my bro is over 40, he's lived at my mom's for over 7 years rent free, no job, and cps won't let his kids here. he calls my baby the poverty baby. I mean I make 2k a month, not good but not the worst. I have goals I'm working towards. I want to die. he's making me feel horrible for wanting my mom to go to the hospital. she ended up going last night and is now paralyzed on her right side and can't talk.

Question: Why do my parents favorite my brother?

Posted: 27 Feb 2016 10:56 AM PST

My brother gets everything he wants. I'm sure everyone has this issue but I'm just wondering. I'm the middle child (13) and my brother is 15. I also have a younger sister, she's 11, almost 12. I'm always put with my sister on everything just because I'm short. I'm over 2 years older than her and yet I'm always treated like I'm the same age as her, even though I'm closer in age to my brother. The thing is, they get my brother whatever he wants and he barely has to do anything. With me, I have to get my grades up, clean the entire house, start doing daily chores, or do something else to earn money so I can buy whatever it is I want myself. I don't get it, last year they even got him the $300+ Xbox One and a new video game. My birthday is in 3 days (I'll be 14) and I haven't even gotten a birthday card from anyone. My bro usually starts getting cards around a week before his birthday. I don't know...maybe I'm just not as important to them? It might be because I've disappointed them quite a bit. These past 4 years have been....difficult. My grades decided to drop this year, I lost all my friends, and I've been self harming and been suicidal, but I got myself help for that. My parents didn't even want to spend the money for a counselor...I just need to know why they act like I'm just an extra; like I'm not important. I don't even know what's wrong with me. I try my best but it's never enough. I just want to know why they treat me like I'm a mistake....just...why?

Question: I ******* hate my parents?

Posted: 27 Feb 2016 10:52 AM PST

Is it normal to hate them so much that you would want to get a gun and shoot them both in the head? I want to do more than that. I want them to feel pain, I want them to suffer, I want to torture them. I hate them. I ******* wish they were killed and sent off to hell. I want to kill them. **** them I hope they ******* die.

Question: How evil is this family and how to deal with them?

Posted: 27 Feb 2016 10:46 AM PST

my family are abusive to me in diff situations- and have been bad only to me. recently my kitten went missing and i called my mother to see if she can help me find him. She began yelling at me and putting me down b/c we got into an argument weeks ago. She also took 2 expensive purses of mine i was going to return said she'd return them and hasn't. the next day, she finds out her mother is sick- and i called her and she began crying. she said about my cat- it's just a cat! I'm thinking..wow psycho b.. she has cats too. now when i talk to her she gets argumentative rude and begins threatening me. she also went to visit my sister during this time, rather than tell me she kept a secret. I was hoping she cud help me out..now i have to resort to other methods..they've also given me no moral support over the cat missing or any even emotional help for the people with the idiotic answers..im in my 30's and do not live with my parents or family..nor am i a teen how can u even come up with that conclusion, you're idiots

Question: My Dad has always favored my older brother and younger sister over me, how do I resolve this?

Posted: 27 Feb 2016 10:46 AM PST

I am a 14 year old boy and my mother has pointed it out to him but he doesn't get it. My older brother is the first, the amazing, the great gift and my younger sister is the angel all parents wanted, the perfect child. I consider myself pretty good and so does my mother but my father is always let down. He is not mean to me or anything but he just ignores me. I am learning disabled and slow in school whereas my older brother is a champion runner just like my Dad and my little sister will be a scholar one day. At school no one likes me either so I just keep to myself. So why is this? How can I make him like me? He tolerates me, but he doesn't like me. This weekend he is with my big brother at a championship sporting event and last week was with my sister for her birthday at Disney world. My birthday he was out of town and only sent a text message. I am always anxious also which he says makes me immature.

Question: How do I get through family problems? Please respond I can't take this anymore?

Posted: 27 Feb 2016 10:38 AM PST

I feel like my family doesn't find me important. They always seem disappointed with me. They expect my grades to be better. I haven't gotten a 4.0 but I'm always between a 3.5 and 3.9 which isn't even bad. They also seem mad when I'm not as good as my sister at volleyball. My sister is also 2 years older so why am I expected to be as good. I have one sister and one brother. My parents clearly favor my sibling. My sister is very good at volleyball and my brother is going D1 for baseball so he is clearly good at baseball. My mom always wakes them up nicely but yells at me to get up.y parents also buy them whatever they want. If you walk into their rooms, they have super nice furniture and and always have. If you walk into mine I have a small mattress and a night stand. Oh and piles of clothes on the ground because they won't buy me a desk or anything to put my clothes in. I hate how they treat me. One time I was thinking about killing myself that's how bad it is. So I wrote notes to them and then they found them. I was going to do it but backed out and didn't throw the notes away. About a month later they found them and said sorry how they treat me. But still nothing has changed. I have gotten passed killing myself. All I want is to quickly get out of this hell whole and off to college. Then o want to have a family and never see them again. But I'm only 13. How am I expected to stay with them for another 5 years in these conditions.

Question: Ok my mom broke my Every Witch Way DVD and i scratched my self with my hands in the bathroom and im scared to go out of the bathroom now?

Posted: 27 Feb 2016 10:06 AM PST

WHAT TO DO TO GET RID OF SCRATCH MARKS I HAVE NEVER DONE THIS PLEASE HELP

Question: My parents verbally abuse me. What do I do?d?

Posted: 27 Feb 2016 09:58 AM PST

My parents always scream, and say vulgar things. They re always hurting my feelings, making me cry, and I have insomnia, so I end up crying all night when we fight. I ve gone crying to practice at least 8 times this season. They ve called me a slut, among other vulgar things. They have yelled at me in public, and strangers have told me they re sorry. We go to therapy which does NOTHING to change my parents. My mom pretends to cry and says "My family is being torn apart." And the second we get home, she screams, complains, etc. at me then screams at me to do something productive. My dad is pretty much the same. Everyone in my house but me has good technology. My mom has an iphone, so does my dad, and my 3 YEAR OLD BROTHER has a tablet. And what do they give me? A 2001 model computer. Ignore the 'd' in the question My parents called me a slut because I wore a tank top with a sweatshirt on top. I even zipped up the sweatshirt. And the tank tops strap was 4 fingers wide.

Question: My parents verbally abuse me. What do I do?

Posted: 27 Feb 2016 09:56 AM PST

My parents always scream,and say vulgar things.They always hurting my feelings,make me cry,and I have insomnia, so I end up thinking all night.I've gone crying to practice about 4 times this season. They've called me a slut,among other vulgar things. They have yelled at me in public,and strangers have told me they're sorry.We go to therapy which doesn't change my parents.My mom pretends to cry and says My family is being torn apart.And the second we get home, they screamor complain at me then yell at me to do something productive.Everyone in my house but me has good technology.My parents have a phone, and my 3YEAROLDBROTHER has a tablet.And what do they give me?A 2001 model computer.I get not having a phone, I don't expect them to seeing how they hte me, but seriously,I can't even do my school work on this old computer.And I forgot to mention, but they used to physically abuse me. I have only told my closest friend about this.Just a couple of minutes ago,we got into a fight over me about to tell my grandma that my mom dyed her hair. And then after that my mom continued to blame me,so I just walked to the other room where I could calm down. I go and practice on te acoustic guitar that I borrowed from my teacher. That guitar is NOT MINE.My dad comes in, and tells me to shut the hell up.I say no, because guitar is the only way for me to calm down. And he literally almost breaks the neck of the guitar. I've never been more mortified. Ican't leave the house.If I do,I'd be screwed.

Question: Dad asks invasive questions?

Posted: 27 Feb 2016 09:55 AM PST

so like whenever i have the door closed and locked in my room, he knocks on the door so i have to come out and he asks me "what are you doing in there?" or when im on my phone he asks "what are you doing on your phone?" i find it invasive because what if when i was in my room i was trying to put a tampon in or something!!?? or on my phone, maybe i was talking someone out of suicide? i feel like it is none of his business what i am doing. your thoughts?

Question: Why is mom mean and auntie is nice?

Posted: 27 Feb 2016 09:46 AM PST

Question: My mom wals around the house nude?

Posted: 27 Feb 2016 09:42 AM PST

My mom walks arounde NUDE and is it even normal? Everytime she comes around while im watching tv or something she'll be nude then she'll say "its ok im your MoM i saw you necked before" Im a 14 year old boy and my mom walking around nude is not too bad but is it normal???

Question: My mom said she wanted to die so she can get away from me?

Posted: 27 Feb 2016 09:18 AM PST

So my mom and I had a huge fight yesterday about the fact that I barely do any work around the house, and the day before that she had and operation and told me " I was hoping I would die when I was being operated so I would be away from you," note my mom gets really mad, anyway that really hurt my feelings.. So this morning we made up, but I am still upset about what she told me, and she said she really meant it and said she was sorry, my mom means the world to me and she loves me so much. But I do care about her and I think it's unfair for me because for more than 5 years I always checked if she was breathing in her sleep, I was always worried about her when she went out and came a little later than usual, and I don't think it's fair that I have to still worry about the fact that she wants to get away from me. I noticed that all my friends don't have to go through what I go through. So what should I do? Also my grandad passed on December so my mom has been very emotional.

Question: I CANT LIVE WITH MY MOM!help?

Posted: 27 Feb 2016 08:57 AM PST

I'm a 13 year old female. I live with my mom most of the time and every other weekend I go to my dads. My parents divorced about 2 years ago. I am much more like my dad and we get along better. I can have a deep conversation with him and we r very alike. My mom has so many kids (9) that she doesn't ever have time to spend 1 on 1 time with me. Not even for a few minutes. And we never do anything together. My dad knows me so much better and my mom just thinks I'm a preppy brat. My dad travels like once a month for a few days but I really would like to live with him. My mom stresses me out to the point where I have panic attacks in my room. I end up crying every day bc of how much she stresses me out. She makes everything stressful. help?!

Question: Can my dad do this?

Posted: 27 Feb 2016 08:10 AM PST

So my friends and I are gonna watch deadpool and we decided that my parent would buy our tickets. Can my dad buy our tickets ( and his own ) and then leave the theater?

Question: Did my brother get raped by his girlfriend? I don't know what to think?

Posted: 27 Feb 2016 08:01 AM PST

I came in from school the other day and I heard his voice (his bedroom is right at the top of the steps) right away saying "stop. stop it. stop, you're going to get me in huge trouble" and he said stop a few more times. Then I heard her say "oh shut up. no you're not, what kind of guy are you?" and then him moaning. Not gonna lie, I peeked in to see if he was alright. and she was.. y'know, rubbing and sucking him off. But I feel like she should've stopped when he said to..Is this wrong or am I over thinking it? Mind you, she's only 16 and he is 18.

Question: Is my mom a narcissist or just a little emotional?

Posted: 27 Feb 2016 07:58 AM PST

I looked at the 21 signs you might have a narcissist mother and she matches about 12 out of 21. I don't think that's enough. Here's some things she does, whenever I talk about family members she always shifts the discussion to about herself and starts dishing out all of the injustices my dad's side of the family has done to her (admittedly they've done a lot). Now she does this every single time they're brought up and she gets extremely annoyed at me as to why I haven't joined her in cursing my dad's side of the family and accuses me of loving them more than her (even though I don't say a single word). Another thing she does is when we fight she says 'oh god kill me now' and says 'my promise to you is that you'll be crying over by dead body' over the smallest things! That's stuff you should only say in a very big fight but over the smallest possible things she says that. If I try not to fight with her she'll keep nibbling at me until I snap. She'll just keep muttering insults and comments under her breath to get me to respond. She also says 'god will punish you for what you've done to me' a lot. She fake cries sometimes too. All of this is making me sound like a very bad son isn't it? I try my best! I really do but sometimes I can't help it. But forget about all that sometimes she's just so nice and the best mom in the world, I wake up in the morning and she's already smiling and making my favorite food. Or she just gives me a hug and praises my achievements...etc or maybe i'm just a bad person and i made her like this

Question: Need opinions?

Posted: 27 Feb 2016 07:49 AM PST

My girlfriend has a friend and she is living with her grandma and younger sister. Her younger sister is 13 and has 13 piercings and has already had sex with 2 guys. The older sister is 15 and has her privates pierced and they both smoke weed all the time. Their grandma even tells them to get her weed... They don't live with their mom because she is addicted to drugs and lost their house and they were all homeless for a while until the grandma took the kids in. My gf thinks that there's nothing wrong with all this but I think the girls might fail in life because I've seen it happen to some of my friends in a similar situation. I'm just wondering what people think of all this?

Question: Mother constantly belittles me and claims that she has no trust in me at all?

Posted: 27 Feb 2016 07:47 AM PST

I'm currently a junior in high school, and this has been a problem that has persisted for many years; now, I'm getting sick and tired of it. She's a very moody person by nature; some days, she's a fine parent, and other days, she throws a temper tantrum/silent-treatment whenever something doesn't go her way, and the smallest things piss her off. It's ridiculous. My father is no help at all as well, because he is constantly controlled by her. She constantly called me chubby (past tense since I actually lost some weight recently) and now she resorts to commenting on my height, pestering me about it constantly (I'm a male and I'm 5'7"). I've realized that this has ate at my self-confidence for quite some time, and although I am secure about myself, I don't think I am as secure as I could be without her. She also constantly belittles me for "not doing anything", "not having a clear-cut goal in my life", and "disappointing [her]". I honestly do not understand. I have never gotten anything below an A in a class, am currently taking multiple APs over the course of high school. I also got a thirty-three on my ACT, and when I mentioned the fact that I botched the math portion by not properly managing my time, she yelled at me and stated that she's invested so much into me, yet is always disappointed. On top of this, I participate in multiple club-activities at my school. Whenever I want to relax however, she always brings up how I could be studying more so I'm not a disappointment

Question: My dad says I m a bad driver?

Posted: 27 Feb 2016 07:34 AM PST

My dad says I m a bad driver, yet when I drive with my instructor he says I m doing everything fine. I have finished Drivers Ed about 2 months and haven t been driving lately but today I drove to soccer practice with my dad and he says I m doing everything wrong, when in fact I wasn t at all. I took everything that my driving instructor taught me and put it into when I was driving, I m 16 already and could of gotten my license but my dad won t let me now because of today. My dad won t listen to me and everyone is afraid to talk back at him. I just want my license. Please, any advice would be great. I think he causes me to be anxious and nervous whenever I drive with him.

Question: 23 year old brother still lives at home?

Posted: 27 Feb 2016 07:19 AM PST

I'm a 13 year old girl and my brother is 23 and still lives at home with my mom. He doesn't help pay for groceries or rent and the electricity bill is getting way too expensive. Our food is always gone in 2-3 days and my mom is getting tired of it. He has a job but he doesn't use the money to buy his own place or car. Instead, he just sends it to one of his friends or buys food for himself. He doesn't even talk to us and my mom doesn't know what to do. Me and my other brother keep telling her she needs to either make him move out or start charging him rent. She says she will but whenever there's a chance for her to talk to him about it, my mom stays quiet. I know she feels bad about it, but if she doesn't do something he's most likely going to stay here for the rest of his life. He's using up a lot of her money and she can barely afford for him to live here. Does any one have advice on what to do?

Question: My father is intoxicated this weekend so I am not going to go over to see him, should I feel guilty?

Posted: 27 Feb 2016 07:17 AM PST

My one sister never sees him and the other sister only does on rare occasions (weddings and funerals). I boast of how I am better then my sisters and love past the illness (alcoholism) and still see him weekly. This weekend however, I thought I would take a weekend off just so not to deal with his ranting about my sisters and mother (parents are divorced). Am I okay to do this or should I feel bad about this? I plan to make a point of going next weekend. I just told him I had a funeral to go to though I am told to tell the truth at Al-Anon I did go to a funeral yesterday but he doesn't know when that was (my mother's cousin) so I just made it sound as though it were today.

Question: My parents are 2nd cousins, does this mean I could have had birth defects? Their parents were first cousins (my grandfathers---1st cousins)?

Posted: 27 Feb 2016 07:15 AM PST

They did see each other as kids but only two or three times a year.

Question: Is it strange for a 15 year old girl to share a bedroom with her parents?

Posted: 27 Feb 2016 07:01 AM PST

I guess i never thought about it much, but wen I tell my friends i still share a room with my parents they say it s strange... Is having your own room a privilege?

Question: What mother should really be to their kids??

Posted: 27 Feb 2016 06:52 AM PST

after the christmas vacation my mother an i had an argument about when she'd always talk crap about my father about that he never gives you anything for chrismas and hes poor and worthless etc. i told her i could careless of what he gives me for christmas. she suddenly starts to bully me nudge me, poking me and hit and call me names that im ungrateful and disgusting and i'll end up just like my father. etc.. and that's when i hit her on the arm like a few times because i was angry and i headed down to the basement of our house. she then called her mother (because she and her mother are very called and she calls her mother for everything and gossip about me and say the worst things about me all the time!) after that her mother told her that she should go ahead and fight me off and beat me! when i headed through out the basement window, she wanted to call the police! (is what she usually do to intimidate me!) i already had my phone to call my father so head pick me up and head to the priesting. long story short she an i filed an order of preotection against me which is stupid for her to do so when we just got from court saying that now my father has full custody of me, so anyways my mother have done a lot of things to me samething of what my cousins goes through with her father! (my moms brother) my grandfather did the same to her kids (my mom and her brothers) when my mother told me that she loved me is that genuine or not? what should a real mother do?i'm fourteen by the way

Question: Mom says I'm lying to her?

Posted: 27 Feb 2016 06:06 AM PST

(BTW I'm 17) so it was a sunday, and that Sunday was my birthday and my mom told me to call in for work and say I won't be there because it's my birthday, and so, I did that. They said "oh ok!" So everything was good. Then, Wednesday comes along and I go to work and they said I wasn't on the schedule. At all. I said, "why? I only called on Sunday because it was my birthday. " and they just said, I can't work unless I'm on the schedule. So, I left. Weeks go by and I'm calling my job to see if I'm on the schedule. I'm not. So, I decided to go get job applications and go help out with stuff at the choir I'm in. I turned in 6 applications and so far one place called me back.fast forwarding, yesterday in class my mom calls me and says "why didn't you tell me you quit/got fired. " first of all, idk anything about quitting or being fired so I said "I didn't quit or anything" She said, yeah you did I just called your job and that's what they said. then, I just told her things that I know. next, she hangs up. Then, later on at night she comes in my room and says you're grounded, and she just leaves. No explanation what so ever. After that, this morning I told her I had a choir performance and she's like "you're not going anywhere since you're lying to me" ok first of all what did I lie about? so I'm just upset because she's just jumping to conclusions and doesn't even have a reasonable explanation on why I'm in trouble. What do I do?

Question: Mom Getting On My Nerves About Puberty?

Posted: 27 Feb 2016 06:00 AM PST

So I'm 13 and lately my mom has been really up into the whole puberty thing. My sister and her began their period when they were 12 and I have not yet, so every chance she gets she's like 'any signs of starting it?' Right in front of whoever is around. she even bought this advanced puberty book and I was sitting with my family and dad and BROTHER and was like 'have you read that book yet Scarlett?' And starts talking about what's in it while my dad is right there. Right now I feel like when I do get my period I won't even say anything because although I am super close and love my mom to pieces it's like she makes such a big deal about it with no respect for me that she'll just talk about it with my dad or around my family! When my sister told my mom when se got hers I overheard my mom just talking about it with my dad! She can't do the same thing to me! Se got into this puberty talk while in the car yest and then my brother is laughing about it and says something about MASTURBATION and then my family's like 'do u do it' I'm like STOP. How do I deal with this? No I don't hate u mom or family it's just frustrating when it's your body and people just talk about it when you don't want them to.

Question: What do I do about my step father?? Something has to change I can't deal with this.?

Posted: 27 Feb 2016 05:46 AM PST

My step father says the most ****** up stuff to me and my sister. Most of the time it's when he's drunk. Which he's a heavy drinker every day. But he tells me stuff like to shut the F up and go live with my dad if I don't like it. My mom does nothing about it. Yesterday I went out to my car to get my dip and he locked me out. Then when I come inside I had to open the garage and he got and because I was loud opening the garage. My mother does nothing about it. She's literally seen my cry and I've told her I'm having suicidal thoughts more and more often because of the environment but I don't know what to do. I have nowhere to go. He does things without consulting my mom like takes my stuff and doesnt tell me why and when he does. I had a night job so my sleeping is messed up meaning I sleep during the day. Well I normally eat at night because of this but recently he started turning off the oven at night and hiding the microwave in his room. My mother is such a nice person but I'm slowly starting to hate her. A deep hate that I want describe because she does nothing I literally don't leave my room when he's here. As in if rather stay in my room for 12 hours straight then go out and eat.

Question: How do I overcome the guilt of believing my mother when I was a kid and she alienated me from my father?

Posted: 27 Feb 2016 05:44 AM PST

My mother often told me as a kid my father didn't want a relationship with me after they divorced but later I learned this is not true and he very much did. I got close to him at age 15 and he died in 2014 and now I feel guilty about believing my mother for 11 years after their divorce. How do I get over this guilt and forgive myself? Every day I think this and now obsess that my father's kids from his 2nd marriage must think I am horrible as they were little but his step-son was aware I seldom came over until age 15 and still had to do holidays and all with my mother only until I was college age. I was their only child together and they divorced when I was four.

Question: Is this a good punishment for my sister?

Posted: 27 Feb 2016 05:32 AM PST

So my twin sister had this stupid idea to.... prank me or how to say it. Basically she pretended to be me and did something stupid in school and i got detention. So she pretended to be me, so i got a great idea for punishment. I went to her boyfriends house and pretended to be her and had sex with him, and i hid a camera in his bedroom while he went to get condom. So now im waiting till my sister gets home to show her the vid, but then i realized our parents dont know im sexually active, so if she tells them / shows them, i might get grounded, which i dont want... how can i prevent her from telling our parents about this?? Great idea Anon. She cant prove its me :) we look alike + i was wearing her clothes which is a plus for me

Question: Should I say something to her or leave it alone?

Posted: 27 Feb 2016 05:06 AM PST

This year has been rough with family health. My cousin got diagnosed with breast can, my other cosin found a lump and could possibly have breast cancer as well. There have just been lots of surgeries and sicknesses this year. One of my friends daughters just had her appendix and gallbladder removed Thursday night. Now my cousin who wants attention I'm assuming is faking kidney stones. She called me yesterday and told me she was going to ER but her mom said she doesn't have them she was at the doctor with her. They did blood work to figure out where the back pain was coming from and scans to determine as well. She keeps telling me that she has it. Should I say something to the fact that I know or should I just leave her alone

Question: Who is better?

Posted: 27 Feb 2016 04:45 AM PST

So my point is that I'm 18 I have been living in the same house with my stepdad since I was 7 . But yet my dad he lives in a different state and me and my brother don't get to see him often , but we do communicate almost everyday, it's been like that ever since my parents broke up. But the other day my mom and I were having a conversation on whether who was actually my dad like who I felt like was a dad to me. I never really got along with my stepdad cause ever since we began living with him I mostly would get into problems , he always acted like a child he one almost got into a argument with my dad, he has taken me and my brother and his friend out to eat but only bought my brother and his friend food, so I sat there looking. He would listen to my conversation with my dad. He's a person that says he's our dad but barely acted like one or felt like at all . What sucks more is that as kids we never get a choice, we spent our lives living with a guy that does pay bills and sometimes takes us out to eat , but he thinks that money will get us to like him , his attitude has been getting to me ever since I was that little 7 year old. I respect my dad cause he's a good dad, but I can't say he was a great boyfriend, I sometimes do wish that as kids we got to live with my dad instead of a stepdad . Is it worth the money spent or its worth the advice and how confident we are to talk to our parents. Although my dad wasn't there close by he always tries to do what he can .

Question: What will be a better last name?

Posted: 27 Feb 2016 03:46 AM PST

Jay Nair or Jay Menon? Nair is my dad's family name and menon my mom's. Can't decode which one i should stick with.

Question: Abusive strict father and family, how do deal with them?

Posted: 27 Feb 2016 03:01 AM PST

My father grew up without his father, so I don't think he knows what he's doing as a father. All he does is be angry and yell and says no to most simple request as going out of the house . He says "why?" And if I answer I'll get an hour long yelling at my face. Or get smacked across the face. He's really strict when it comes to anything. This one time I went to my friends house to play video games, he came and hit me and dragged me out of their house just because I didn't "ask" him for permission. I am 19 and have a big sister and a big brother. They are also saying that we live in a prison like home. I cannot move out nor get out of my own home. Cause that asshole takes all of my and my families money. I was thinking of just going out again without permission, and if he tries anything I would stand up for myself but I'm scared I'll get out of control and do something horrible. My hate towards him grows each and every day. Don't tell me to call Police cause I don't want them to be involved. I will sing up for a therapist and see if it helps me handle this situation. Till then, I'm asking you guys for help. A 19 year old guy shouldn't be sitting home getting locked in his room for "safety" reasons

Question: Did my sister overreact or is it just me?

Posted: 27 Feb 2016 02:59 AM PST

my sister turned 14 and she had some friends over when she cut her cake my brother to be funny tried to kiss her then she went rockers saying my brother have ruined every birthday, even though he just pulled this stunt once and every other birthday has gone perfectly fine, hell does she remember us ruining her first second or even third birthday P.S she really didn't need to go full postal

Question: Family seems to be holding me back, but why?

Posted: 27 Feb 2016 12:56 AM PST

My mom seems not to be supportive towards me and my sister. I am 22 and my sister is 20. It just seems like we are being held back. My mom is our only transportation from work to school. It seems like she doesn t want us to move out or have our own cars and every time we talk about moving or getting our own cars she tries to change the subject. Me and my sister feel that we suck at life as we watch our friends from high school fully grow up having their own cars and homes while we are stuck like chuck living at home. We are really trying to move away, but it s hard when you have a family like ours that just want to control your life and hold u back from being adults. One minute we can be adults and the next we are not grown enough to do that. We do not have licenses I have taken the driving course and got a permit at the age 21 because I felt I need some more practice; my mom was suppose to help out with that but never did, so she is our only reliable trasportation and complains when she have to take us places, but do not want to teach anyone how to drive. We had the chance in high school to only pay $100 for drivers Ed but instead we missed that opportunity because we were told by family members we can find it somewhere cheaper, well I paid $450 for a class instead at the age 20 and my sister still haven t taken one yet. We do not feel like adults they treat us like children. Me and my sister just want to get away, but don t know where to start. Tired of being held back.

Question: How do you think the children of paternity tests on Maury end up feeling?

Posted: 27 Feb 2016 12:49 AM PST

Maury pretty much always does paternity tests on his and while it's entertaining for some and also ends up being the exact same thing (the mother and potential father hater each other and argue about how the baby looks then if the test comes out the negative, the mom runs backstage in tears while the father dances around in joy, or if the test positive then the mother yells in the father's face "I told you!!!") but, what about the children in these situations. I can't imagine how hurt I would feel if I had to watch a man totally deny me and want nothing to do with me. They would dislike my mother so much that they would dance around when finding out I'm not his or to watch him be disappointed and yelled out when it turns out he is. Most of us have two loving parents who are thrilled to have us in their lives and I just think it's so sad that not only does no man want to be their father but, that they would also have it be made into a mockery on national television. Of course as they grow up the mother can try to prevent the child from knowing about the show but, most of these kids will know and will watch it eventually. I'm sure that their self-esteem would plummet and cause some serious depression along with other mental health issues.

Question: To all liberals are you for, or against these situations?

Posted: 27 Feb 2016 12:46 AM PST

1. Loose sex 2. Legalizing Weed 3. Porn 4. Bodybuilding, Adults and Teens 5. Young girls whom shave themselves and dye their hair in colors. 6. Masturbation 7. Tattoo and Body Piercings 8. Spankings 9. Teen Sex, especially at home 10. Forgiveness 11. Parents being friends with their children. 12. Naturalist or Exhibitionism

Question: Is he just being jealous?

Posted: 27 Feb 2016 12:43 AM PST

I'm 24 and i never graduated hs. I however barely started selling custom shirts online/instagram and i made more then 100k last year and keep in mind i will grow bigger. I been on the business for one year so far. I barely bought a 80k mercedes amg but i don't have my own place but maybe soon i will. I do however dress nicely and travel etc. I have a cousin in general who is going to college and still has a decade till he graduates & he wants to be a cop. We always argue about who's going to be the winner in the end. A young entrepreneur or someone who went to college. Keep in mind dude doesn't even own a car he takes the bus or rides his bicycle. While he's still chasing that piece of paper i'm already making my income. He said his dream is to own a 6 million dollar home. I laugh and tell him by being a cop will be impossible to own such a house. Since he won't make enough. He's always making rude comments like "go to the gym loose weight or no hot girl is going to want you". He will also say "get a college degree you biz could go down and then what?". Is he just jealous???? Could he be jealous????

Question: How can I get back at my older brother?

Posted: 27 Feb 2016 12:25 AM PST

I have to deal with my 17 year old brother everyday. He is so annoying and can pretty much do what ever he wants to me and my sister because my parents have stopped trying to punish him. He plays super loud music, steals my stuff, and beats me up. I am tired of trying to fight him because he is bigger than me. I have tried hiding his things, but than I get in trouble. I need something big. Also I can't get caught. I have run out of ideas so I am hoping you guys have some. Thanks for the help.

Question: ..Hey guys my parents are forcing me to get married in 2 years how do i stop them and im just gonna be 21 yrs old in march ?

Posted: 27 Feb 2016 12:20 AM PST

hey guys i already have a guy and i want to live in with him and i also don't want my parents to force me for marriage what am suppose to do and i don't wont my parents to control me just because i'm submissive they are taking control in my life i hate it i don't know what to do please help me and suggest me i just want to handle my life on my own and just because im in my mom's beauty field they dont me to continue with my guy they want my life to be controlled by them by getting an arrange marriage

Question: My mom doesn't want me seeing my boyfriend anymore?

Posted: 27 Feb 2016 12:16 AM PST

Not sure if you saw my other question,but the moral of the story is that iv been lying for months now about where my mom is dropping me off. She thinks she's dropping me off at a friends house when it's really my boyfriends house. I have been sneakily sleeping over my boyfriends house for months now. Without Either of our parents knowing. However,if his dad found out about it he wouldn't care as much as my mom. My mom found out tonight because she had asked to FaceTime and put my friend on the camera. Which obviously I couldn't do. So my mom showed up at the house and kept saying she thinks I'm "a piece of s***" and how my younger brother is better than me and I'm not allowed to see my bf anymore. What should I do? I know that if I had just been honest with her from the start I wouldn't be where I am now. I love my mom and want a good relationship with her always. But I love my boyfriend too and don't want to lose him because I wasn't being honest. He's always told me to tell my mom and be honest so I take blame for being the not so honest one here. Please help. I want to just start all over. (BTW his dad still has no clue) and I never told my mom with my own words that it's his house. She just connected the puzzle pieces on her own. Thanks!

Question: From scale 1-10, what is this girl (honest and unbiased answer expected)?

Posted: 27 Feb 2016 12:16 AM PST

My brother is mad about this girl and I can't see why. I find her really common. My brother always says that she's so smart just because she speaks English, German, and French beside her mother tongue. Her English is pretty good, and surely she speaks German as she used to live in Germany for a few years. Her French seems "fluent" if you don't speak French, but any French would know that she makes mistakes. Of course she speaks with accent, too. Her degrees are in social sciences so she doesn't earn much. She doesn't have a lot of conversation, and can be really touchy about small things. I think she's plain too (don't you think?). I find it ridiculous that every time she's praised as "beautiful". Do men really have a different definition of beauty (honest answer please). I'm not jealous, but I'm not fond of exaggerating things. P.S. I take the photo from her Facebook, and it's 'public'. What I really want to know is whether this girl is indeed beautiful or not, as I might be biased.

Question: Debate/Argument Problems?

Posted: 27 Feb 2016 12:07 AM PST

A lot of times I'll be arguing against my brother no matter what its about, every time I'm arguing against him, he ones up me by somehow make me look stupid by explaining why my argument is wrong and why he's right. FYI this happens almost all the time and now I just feel like the dumbest person ever.

Question: I'm depressed by the people surrounding me for 10 years now. I'm still under 18 please help ;-;?

Posted: 26 Feb 2016 11:48 PM PST

It's been 10 years that my father constantly abuses me both emotionally and physically. He would tell me I'm lower than dirt, I'm stupid, he wishes that I will never be successful, that he doesn't want me as a daughter. My dads words lowered my confidence ever since the age of 4 by constantly comparing me with others peoples achievements. I cried eveynight and I still do. He releases his stress on me by abusing me:whipping me,public embarrassment. Ive though of scuicide but i didn't want to do it because my little brother needed me. I've recently found another friend last year, she experienced almost the same abuse as me, but her family is getting better. She once told me that we will rely on each other, but she doesn't answer me or talk to me much anymore. I've been dating for 4 months now. My bf is great, he says he loves me and everything. He is my escape for happiness. But he asked me if I was okay with him stalking other girls fb, and once when we called he said he was trading smth with some girl on fb. I assume nudes. I feel like I'm temporary and will be replaced, I'm angry frustrated and sad. I feel like dying. I don't wanna wake up becayse the minute i do,I get yelled at by my dad. All I hear are screams from my brother everyday. I can't do anything. I'm only 14 and my parents don't believe me or trust me. My mom gave up stopping my dad from abuse and picked up his bad habit. I can't help from crying everyday. Everyone I go to only breaks me over again. Please help.

Question: How can I get my mom to shut up about naming my son lucifer?

Posted: 26 Feb 2016 11:38 PM PST

I keep telling her the facts that lucifer isn't the name of the "devil" it means the morning star, never in the bible is he referred to as lucifer it's a mistranslation, the only time lucifer is mentioned in the bible is for the king of Babylon, but she doesn't want to hear it. How can I get her to buzz off about it?

Question: How do u get a bossy mother to stop being bossy ? she wont listen....im 43 and have 2 kids ,?

Posted: 26 Feb 2016 11:04 PM PST