My fiance and I are getting married at my parent B & B. We are having a very, very, intimate immediate family and very, very close friends only wedding. We've only invited 45 people. We wanted to have a small wedding, because we went through the big wedding with our deceased spouses. We wanted a wedding that is romantic, reflective, intimate, and homey. There are people in our extended families that are angry and upset that they aren't invited to our wedding. Some of them have demanded explanations. We don't feel that we have to explain our choices to anyone. This is what we wanted, and I don't think that they have the have a right to be angry with us. Most of the people in our extended families are chaotic, and filled with drama. This is something that we did not want for our wedding and reception. Personally, I wish they would just wish us well, and leave us alone about our wedding.

My fiance's brother agreed to be the best man, but after several months now says he won't pay for the tux rental ($142) and if we want him there he shouldn't have to pay a dime. He says that he just won't be in the wedding. My fiance told him he doesn't need to be there at all after everything they have done together and been through and he is being cheap. Are we asking too much? We know he can afford the cost.Is his brother being a spoiled brat? How can I help smooth this over? He is also the only one complaining about the cost. Everyone else is excited that it is not over $180, which is common around here. We want them to be uniform and before he went to get the tux fitted he checked prices with the party and he didn't say a word about it.

Let me start by saying my parents paid for the venue and everything. We paid for decorations, photographer and some little things. His parents haven't paid for anything (and we didn't need them to or want them to). They have not been involved in the wedding at all, never ask questions. So when it came around to do invitations we put my parents names and didn't include his. Well his mom got upset that we didn't include them on the invitation. Im just wondering is that so wrong? I mean even if we did have a better relationship I don't think I would include them because that's not the formal way. I know people do it now, but we are going for a more traditional wedding. I'm not going to apologize to her. She hurts my feelings all the time. I didn't intentionally hurt her, but I'm not sorry that I did. We had a son 2 years ago that passed away at birth. She does nothing to support him. Right after I had him, she asked if we had a paternity test done! Thats mean! Her daughter got married last year and she was too concerned with her wedding to ever ask about ours, therefore, she knows very little details BECAUSE SHE NEVER ASKS. Im not sorry, and do not feel bad.

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