Family: Question: What can I do in life?

Question: What can I do in life?

Posted: 28 Feb 2016 02:16 PM PST

This may sound like a rant, but it's not. I'm looking for actual advice. I'm 16, my father decided at 12 that he didn't need to take me to school anymore. I live with my older cousin (she's 40 btw) well, not actually WITH her, but next door to her, with her son. He's 18. But that's not the point of this question. The point is, I keep being told by I need to do something with my life. I'm a pretty productive person I think. I don't have a problem with doing anything, really. But the reason I'm asking is because I only have about $240 a month to spend on food, because my mother died, and that's it. I usually have to choose between food and clean clothes. I either end up hungry with clean clothes, or with dirty clothes and not hungry. No one else around here my age has to do ANYTHING but me. I'm the only one told I'm lazy and I don't do anything - when I do more than them. No one will hire me because I'm 16 and I don't have an ID. (I've tried a few places) and I never have any money to go get some type of ID. My father would rather do drugs and accuse me of hiring prostitutes than get any type of job, even though he is rather skilled in A LOT of things. I can't help but feel just a little screwed over in life. But what is it that I can do? I don't want someone to have to support me in life, I just want to be able to do something, and make something of myself. And I can't take GED courses because, once more, I have no money. At all.

Question: Should I choose him or homelessness?

Posted: 28 Feb 2016 02:11 PM PST

Very confused, my husband is very ill and requires constant medical care. The hospital that treats him no longer wants to treat him claiming he is terminal. His case is very complicated since he has a small bowel transplant and very few hospitals know how to treat this specific transplant. The insurance we have is limited and will not cover his care or travel to the state where he had his transplant. I am at a loss with very little resources, basically surviving off of his disability check. He requires constant care which has consumed me and now I am disabled my depression and arthritis has progressed because of this situation. He is considering going to a Skilled Nursing Facility which can offer constant care, however if he does this we will loose any type of income, which means I will have no place to go. I am dealing with a conscience issue because I love him very much. His life has been a very lonely one abandoned at young age he has suffered severe loneliness and fears being alone. I am scared of being homeless and of being without him. I want him to receive the best treatment possible I just don't know if him being alone and at a facility which could extend his life is the best treatment or being with me and having very little time together would be the best choice. I am preparing to be homeless but I know it will break his heart if I am not with him. I need some insight what should I do?

Question: Does my dad have any mental problems?

Posted: 28 Feb 2016 02:10 PM PST

My parents split when I was around the age of 3 and he kicked us out and my mom had to live at her friends grandmas house and now my mom has a job and her own apartment and I live with her and now my dad wants to get back with her but the thing is is that my dad only married my mom because her parents had a lot of money and he wanted money from them and when she said no he kicked her a couple times and I would always hear screaming as a little kid now I told my mom I don't want him to get back with her because I know he's only in it for the money but a couple days ago my mom wanted me to spend some time with him and she was with me too and everything was going fine but then my dad started arguing with this guy in public and started cussing at him and embarrassing us and it was over MONEY. I find him really greedy about money and never cared about me and my mom I think he is just pretending to get back with her because of money I also think he has some mental issues for cussing and arguing with someone in public he was also cussing at this lady for unknown reasons and he got kicked out :/ What is your opinions on this btw I'm 14 :]

Question: Why does my brother always shower with me?

Posted: 28 Feb 2016 02:09 PM PST

im 15 and my brother is 17 and we have a great relationship, just this one thing started bothering me now. Everytime i go to shower my brother comes in the shower too, he says we should shower together to save water. Im like sure + i dont have to wash because he always washes my back and hair and legs. Its just i talked to other girls and one mentioned she hates her brother i said me and my bro are k we even shower together and they got like all weirded out and sayd its weird..... is it??? or were they just jealouse that we get alone go well thanks Hugh i knew it. I dont get whats "wrong" with it too, we save water, he helps me wash my body, we get great along. They were just jelly i knew it XD

Question: My seven year old sister wants to audition for the talent show infront of many judges and teachers, but she sounds awful.?

Posted: 28 Feb 2016 01:28 PM PST

hey guys, my little sister has a talent show coming up and she wants to audition with a song. before i say anything, let me just say that she says everyone at school is so mean to her and they are all jerks to each other. so, the problem is that.. she can't sing..at all. i'm really worried that she will go out there and make a fool of herself, and cause everyone to laugh at her and she would feel horrible and embarrassed i really don't want to see her get upset because they are mean to her. but at the same time, i don't know if i should sit down and talk to her and crush her dreams and make her feel bad. i don't want to tell her that she can't sing, because that's all she wants to do. i'm stuck. should i stop her from auditioning and crush her soul, or let her audition and get made fun of?

Question: Why are parents against video games?

Posted: 28 Feb 2016 01:17 PM PST

I was playing a game and my mom walked by and said "quit playing that machine. Its bad for you." I made a mistake and said "quit getting into marriages. It's bad for you." (she is a divorce). Anyway, why do parents oppose video games so much? It's harmless and a fun hobby

Question: I worry that my extended family gets together every weekend and I don;t get to go because of my parents divorce, how do I solve this?

Posted: 28 Feb 2016 01:12 PM PST

My mother's family is mad at her for divorcing my Dad, as I am, and so her family doesn't see us that often. I worry that maybe they still get together every Sunday like they did back when my grandmother was alive however, I don't know if this is the case or not. I feel also my cousins must look down on me for being the only one (along with my sister) from a divorced family and thus not coming over more. How do I know if this is the case or if it is something I am just imagining? I used to just go by and see everyone but they seemed to feel I was intruding so I stopped and I am 21 now and can't really, at 14 I could do that.

Question: I want to go home?

Posted: 28 Feb 2016 01:06 PM PST

my parents are divorced and i have to go to my dads apartment on the weekends. i hate it so much. its small. its as big a a classroom, theres only one shower, three beds and its boring. to make matters worse my mom wants us to go to school straight from his apartment. that means i have yo get up really early (he chose an apartment so far away from our house) and its really far away from my friends and I'm so bored whenever I'm at his house. i really want to go home and stay home. i hate it here so much. and my dad always waits until after we arrive to get food. i really want to go home. any advice? btw I'm 13 and my siblings have to go too and they don't want to either there are 5 of us when we have to go on the weekends

Question: What to do about sister that won t pay me back money she owes? Please read?

Posted: 28 Feb 2016 01:05 PM PST

About a month ago, my sister got a new job at a restaurant and needed shoes for her uniform. Since she didn t have money, she asked me to buy then for her and she would pay me back when she either got her income tax or her first paycheck, whichever came first. I agreed because I trusted that she would pay me back. She only went to the job for one day and decided not to go back for whatever reason. Well she received her income tax about a week ago and her check for whatever amount of hours she worked and has still not paid me back. The shoes were only $36, but I m an unemployed college student and every dollar counts. I ve asked her twice about the money and both times she s either came up with an excuse or said she ll get it within a few days. (She was supposed to give it to me today). I really doubt I ll see the money at this point, and I was thinking about just taking the shoes back to the store, since she doesn t need them and they were only worn once and I still have the receipt. But we live together and share a room so I don t want to create problems, but I do really need my money back. What should I do in this situation?

Question: What Should I Do?

Posted: 28 Feb 2016 01:03 PM PST

My dad is having other baby many of you must be you should be happy NO I m not I have 4 sisters and 2 brothers on my dad side so counting me there is 7 of us he can t even deal with 7 what s one more baby going to help he says he wants to have 12 I don t want him for some reason after he has a baby he gets into a big fight and he leaves and finds a new girl but for some reason he loves the girl that he s with so much that he doesn t pay attention to his kids and she makes fun of every girl that my dad was with but she never made fun of my mom but if my dad gets engaged with her I might actually kill my self I don t want her to be my step mom she gets on my nerves sometimes and my dad gives her what ever she wants but not his kids and let me tell you he never went to none of his kids birthday day party and he forgot my birthday and almost all of ours and every time I see my dad he is with his annoying girlfriend and he leaves all his children I almost wanted to kill my self because I thought it was my fault he left there is even worse stuff I can tell you but you don t want to here my hole life but I can t handle this no more if he keeps on doing this I might just run away and I can t tell my mom she just going to get mad and talk to my dad about it and I live with my mom my dad lives with his girlfriend WHAT SHOULD I DO HELP ME PLEASE

Question: Whys my mom such an idiot? Can't even watch a movie without her saying stupid stuff all through it?

Posted: 28 Feb 2016 12:53 PM PST

We all watched the second and third hobbit movies on DVD. And she just say stupid stuff. Like in the middle of good parts. The dragon was flying to lake town to kill all the people and it was all exciting and stuff. And my mom said "that dragon has a really bad attitude". Then in the third movie, thorin is being all creepy, saying he's not gonna give a single coin to the people from lake town. And my mom says " he's a right pr!ck, isnt he?" I can't remember the rest but she said things about 20 times. And then it's worse cuz both my parents start laughing and ruin everything. Whys she so dumb? Shes talking like these are normal people. It's a fantasy movie of course the dragon has a bad attitude and the dwarves are greedy!! I'm asking why she's an idiot. My question is as valid as any other on this crazy site. Look at the ones in the side bar. 'Mom sleeps naked with me' That's not even a question And this is why I toad my dad theres no point watching movies with her. I don't care if I'm allowed to pick if she gonna spoil it anyways

Question: Why do people assume teen parents can never take care of a baby?

Posted: 28 Feb 2016 12:48 PM PST

Sure it's harder when you're a teen but some teen parents are better than adults. Dad's leaving, money issues that can happen to any parents. Look at the thee examples. 1. Mom had me at 24. She had a job and was living with my father who was also an adult. My dad left us when I was a few months old. That lead to money troubles and having to live with my grandparents for a few months. When I was fourteen I had anger problems and my mom couldn't handle it. So I went to live with her parents. 2. My dad's sister (my dad is still in my life) had a baby at 17. My cousins dad left and her mom was a party animal So my grandparents took her in. My aunt can't afford to care for her daughter who's know 17 like me. I live with my cousin since I got kicked out of my mom's parents house. My aunt comes every day to visit but she lives on her own. 3. One of my cousins had a baby at 17, again the dad left but still seed his daughter. My cousin is now 22 or 23 and razing a beautiful almost 6 year old daughter and a one year old son. She had a job and lives on her own. Her son's father was an adult and left my cousin found out she was pregnant. But my cousin is still taking care of her kids and she is one of the best mothers I know

Question: Does this count as rape?

Posted: 28 Feb 2016 12:34 PM PST

So I f13 was at a high school party and I was super drunk/ high so I didn't really know what was going on. I ended up in this locked room upstairs with a senior. (I'm pretty sure he's 18) and he started fingering me. He asked "do you want to do this?" And I said no and tried to push away but he wouldn't let go of me and we hooked up. I told my friend and she said it was all my fault because I could've pushed him off of me, but how was I supposed to do that? I'm 110 pounds and I was wasted. I know I'm not pregnant because I got my period a week later but I just feel super embarrassed and I can't tell anyone. My mom won't care if I told her and I don't even know my dad.

Question: How should I talk to my asian parents about my report card?

Posted: 28 Feb 2016 12:25 PM PST

There are times where me and my parents act like a fun, problem free family. But most of the time, it s either me being called a useless child, or being beat. They expect me to have scholarships, and being a engineer. I said that i wanted to be a storyboard artist, but they always say that i should be an engineer. They say that they love me, and care about my future, and i support that. But sometimes i like to differ. I ask my teachers constantly to give me more work to do, but all they say is that i have to do the weeks work. I know how my parents went through a lot back then in Asia, and want me to do better than them, but is it really working? My parents are very religious too, and being a hypocrite is a sin right? Well, my parents are some of them. I dont really regret saying that either. It s true. They say i waste my time on kpop and anime, and they compare me with my best cousin whenever we visit in Boston. Even tho my cousin has better grades, and maybe a predicted better life, she also goes through the same problems like me. Her parents are more.. lets say understanding than mines. Her mom lets her have choices, and do what she wants, and trusts her completely. But sometimes, she brags about my art talent. I wish my parents could at least appreciate that. Even tho i dont really consider that a talent. I wish i can have a choice. I know if i talk back, they ll take advantage, and use asian customs to say that theyre right. I hate it. They also threaten me. help?

Question: How to stop stealing?

Posted: 28 Feb 2016 12:24 PM PST

I know this is a bad thing. I feel so ashamed every time I do it. But the higher the price tag or money, the better the rush. I recently (like 1hr ago) got caught stealing money from a close family member and I feel so guilty. I try to stop but I can't. I want to, I always think about the consequences and stuff but it makes me want to do it more because i always feel as if i won't get caught. And the thing is my mother is so disappointed in me when they found the money. I feel like I can't even leave my room because I feel like I want to steal something else. And I feel like every family member that knows is embarrassed of me. I am too, I mean I'm a thief. Just please help.i knew when I took that money I would be blamed which kind of made me want to take it more. It's a problem of mine. Other people's high is smoking mine is stealing. And I'm seventeen amd highly guilty.

Question: My family disagrees with me on politics and social justice?

Posted: 28 Feb 2016 12:15 PM PST

Ok so I'm a democrat and my family is too, but my grandpa isn't. He's terrible. He doesn't think gay people should get married and he thinks there should be a white history month and he doesn't like black lives matter. Worst of all is that im not allowed to say anything back. I used to be able to ignore it but now it's all the time. I have to go to his house often and anytime I'm there he says something terrible but if I say anything about it he goes on and talks about how I don't know anything and I'm just a little girl. My mom and sisters always just tell me to stop talking about it. Why am I not allowed to talk about my views yet he is? I can't stand it and I really don't know what to do. He argues with me about it all the time and I guess they think I'm just supposed to take it because he's older. My parents basically agree with him too and I need help with what to do basically.

Question: I always feel sad that my family doesn't get together with my extended family, how do I overcome this?

Posted: 28 Feb 2016 12:02 PM PST

My mother says her sister and brother don't like us but every time I see them they are very nice. I have 5 cousins I miss out on knowing but I am only a early teen so I can't go see them on my own. I already feel sad about Easter because I know my grandmother goes over there and they get together. Same happens on Thanksgiving and Christmas and 4th of July. We see my grandmother once a month but we don't get to see my cousins and aunts-uncles. My mother wouldn't let me go when I asked my grandmother to take me last Christmas. Same happens at ordinary times of year when I ask. How can I fix this or how can I get over being so sad about it? My mother had a fight with them about money when my grandfather died so I have missed out the last 9 years.

Question: How can I learn to forgive my mother for keeping from my father as a kid out of anger?

Posted: 28 Feb 2016 12:02 PM PST

My father eventually won in court but it was a traumatic two years. I am in my 20's now and see my mother a little but only because I have to. How do I get myself to forgive so I don't have this anger at my mother for traumatizing me as a child? Even the judge called it parental alienation and it was before that was a popular term

Question: Idk how to leave my house?

Posted: 28 Feb 2016 11:57 AM PST

I m 18 & I ve been having some problems at home with my step sister & my mom. My step sister constantly turns my mom against me if she tells my mom to tell me to do something she ll do it & I have to obey her she controls my mom even though she won t admit it. She never does anything around the house & she is 25 years old she has been in jail 3 times & my mom of course bailed her out all 3 times. She has put my family in danger by saying she s involved with gangs when she s not & leaves the house whenever she feels like it she has no job & all she does is eat sleep shower & go out. I can t just leave my house because I get social security check because of an illness I had when I was younger & if I do leave they ll take away the 600 check my family gets & uses for bills & other stuff even though the money is for me they waste it on other things idk what to do but I can t keep living at my house with her there please help

Question: My parents are forcing me to do track?

Posted: 28 Feb 2016 11:45 AM PST

I'm in seventh grade and track season is starting in two weeks, and my parents are yelling at me to do it. For the past few months I have been doing our school play and piano lessons and now that the play is over my parents are trying to force me to do track, and I don't want to. It's not because I'm scarred to do it im just not interested In the sport and I want time to relax at home and not have to stress over my homework but my parents keep bringing up track. My mom is trying to get me to sign up but when I tell her no she starts yelling at me. What do I do to make my mom stop bringing it up?

Question: My brother thinks that I'm bad luck to his team and doesn't want me coming to any of his games, what do i do?

Posted: 28 Feb 2016 11:35 AM PST

Whenever i go to one of his games his team ends up losing. But i dont go to that many, only abot 2-3 a season. But i just went to his championship game and they lost, and he cried and told me it was all my fault.

Question: I don't know what my parents expect me to do.?

Posted: 28 Feb 2016 11:20 AM PST

I'm 16, and my parents constantly make me feel bad about myself. I'm a good student, I have a decent amount of friends, and I'm in good shape. I'm getting to the age where pressure is starting to exert itself one me. Searching for a career, college, etc, has been a big topic as of late. The problem is, my parents have an extremly low opnion of me, and I don't know why. They constantly mention the fact that I'm at home a lot, (I can't afford a car, and my parents won't pay for the insurance anyhoo) which is ridciulous, given the fact that I always seize the oppurtuinity to go places. They seem to think that I don't have any "real" interests, and berate me about how the only thing I care about is entertainment, e.g. I have a PC I built myself, and I'm on it fairly often. What I just can't understand is why they don't realize that I would LOVE to be doing anything else than just sleeping,working, downtime, and repeat. I just don't really have that many oppurtunities to do so. (I'm homeschooled.) The strict control my parents hold on my computer, social going-ons, etc, prevent me from finding new, unique things to do. I'm really trying to do what I'm supposed to do, but it just seems no matter what I do, my parents just continue to remind me that they think I'm I'm a lazy son-of-a-bitchwith no interests in life. I'm interested in writing, (which I do a lot,) Politics, andI have a genuine love for learning as much as I can. I just can't understand why they refuse to acknowledge it

Question: How do i handle my parents separation??

Posted: 28 Feb 2016 11:16 AM PST

I feel like that its my fault that my parents are splitting up, I had a chance to stop a situation that prevented my mom to make a decision to leave my dad but i was to late. My parents had been married for 27 years old, as a child all i can remember is my mom and dad argue a lot and verbal abuse one another. A chaotic incident had happen 3 weeks ago, dad was yelling at mom to shut the water off or turn it down when not in use because he didn't want her to waste it, they have 2 pink slips from water company and behind in payments, mom told dad I am not going to listen to you, you don't control me, then 1 thing led to another which had made mom antagonize him which prevented him to sprain her leg when she had placed it in his personal space and a mess blew out from their. Mom took time away from dad and stayed at her moms place until they cooled off. Mom came back to the house few days ago to talk to dad and made a decision its best to go their own way. i talked to mom yesterday to try to help and convince her to work it with dad but she had enough and is in deeply pain. She says that he don't love her anymore,he treats everyone else he don't know better than her hes not nice and makes it hard to have a simple conversation. She cant even feel free to brush her teeth or run the water without him yelling at her. She told me one time she had soap in her hair while taking a shower and dad got so pissed that he went and turn the water off from the outside shes done had enough :(

Question: I'm Mexican American but why is my great maternal grandma's surname German?

Posted: 28 Feb 2016 11:16 AM PST

I went to Mexico to visit my grandma and while cleaning her cabinets I came across my great grandma's birth certificate and her surname is Flickinger!!!,I was very surprised and did more research on the surname Flickinger and it's actually German in orgin.Was German immigration to Mexico common back then? I'm confused.

Question: Are white children generally more disciplined than minorities children?

Posted: 28 Feb 2016 11:05 AM PST

Have you noticed this too? White kids would never act like this https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5N58WTwQ48Q

Question: My brother always tells me how ugly I am.?

Posted: 28 Feb 2016 11:01 AM PST

My brother always tells me how ugly I am and basically point out everything that I don't like about myself but because he's my brother everyone just says that's what brothers do but it makes me hate myself so much I want to die. I have tould my mom but she says don't let it bother you that's what brothers do idk what to see I can't take it anymore

Question: Why is my future Father in-law always complaining, yelling, and being mean to me?

Posted: 28 Feb 2016 10:59 AM PST

Question: Help with bullies please?

Posted: 28 Feb 2016 10:57 AM PST

So I m at McDonald s with my relative and we re ordering at the drive thru. These two boys run out while I m ordering and yell at me "you dusty *****!" And go back inside. I tell my relative and we both go inside and confront them. My relative asks if they go to my school and they say no but a girl that was with them goes to my school. What should I do?

Question: Do long dresses make me look taller/oldr im 12?

Posted: 28 Feb 2016 10:50 AM PST

Question: Why does my mother favour my sister over me?

Posted: 28 Feb 2016 10:44 AM PST

Me and my sister are both 13, but she favours her over me. I'm just a normal kid, kinda weak (Both physically and mentally), intelligent, and hated by almost everyone at school because I'm weak (The staff is still nice against me though). But my sister on the other hand... She's stronger, gets lower grades though, she's popular at school (Good in terms of the other kids, bad in terms of the staff) and she is the one who started the hate train against me. My mother favours her over me. Example: I get a low grade, she screams at me for an hour, but when SHE gets a low grade, my mother is VERY supportive. Another example: She gets all the consoles she wants, all the phones she wants, etc, and I'm just stuck with this laptop. Anyone know what's going on? Also, my sister gets lower grades on purpose.

Question: Will my daughter's dad receive custody or visitations?and where the papers served correctly(mother didnt agree and we do no live together)?

Posted: 28 Feb 2016 10:42 AM PST

Question: What would you do if your family was this way?

Posted: 28 Feb 2016 10:41 AM PST

My immediate family is very negative and not very supportive at all. I served 8 years in the military and I am about to graduate with you bachelors degree. Not one time did my parents ever say they are proud or anything positive. I never get a phone call/text nothing from them unless I do it first. I feel no care or feeling towards them anymore like an aquaintance honestly. I think I'm ready to completely cut them out of my life for good, all of them. Am I wrong??

Question: Am I meeting my boyfriend's mom the wrong way?

Posted: 28 Feb 2016 10:40 AM PST

So my boyfriend sent me a letter, he's in navy boot camp right now. One of my roommates threw the envelope away & now I don't have the address to write him back. I called his mom, I have her number because he used to call me from her phone, we've never met or spoken before this. I told her who I was and what happened with the letter & asked for the address she said she wanted to meet me and send my letter off with hers and for me to tell her son to write me again so I will have the address because she doesn't want to just give it out. I feel that she could've just asked me for a picture of his letter as proof that he did actually write me but I agreed to meet her in an hour. Should I go thru with meeting his mom while he is away? I don't think he will be upset because he told me before that he wanted me to meet his mom so she can tell him if I'm right for him or something like that, but I feel bad for meeting her without him. What should I do?

Question: Why is my family so stupid?

Posted: 28 Feb 2016 10:20 AM PST

I honestly can say I hate my family, I don't really care for them. So basically long story short, in 9th grade I played a lot and didn't do a lot of my work and my brothers and mom got on to me about school. They made me delete all my social media and etc. In 10th grade I got my self together, passed all my classes and guess what. No one told they were proud of me or congratulations. Now I'm in 11th grade passing my classes and of course my gpa is going to be kind of low. When my brothers found out, they assumed I'm not passing any of my classes right now. But I've passed all my classes since 10th. They are so stupid and don't believe it was mainly because my messing up in 9th grade. They're always talking about how I'm not going to get in college, not knowing I don't want to go at all. What should I do about the family I hate o so very much?

Question: How can I get back at my mother for misleading me as a child about my father?

Posted: 28 Feb 2016 10:17 AM PST

She claimed he was mean and didn't love us and as I got to be a teen I realized all of this was BS and he was not mean and he did love us. How do I get my mother back so I can move past this. Absent anything that would cause long term damage.

Question: Stepmom won t give me my ID?

Posted: 28 Feb 2016 10:14 AM PST

So my stepmom (who isn t even married I my dad) won t give me my ID back and I need it. She s of no relation to me so she has no legal rights whatsoever. I don t live with them anymore I live with my mom now. What should I do? Should I call the cops?

Question: I want to go vegan?

Posted: 28 Feb 2016 10:12 AM PST

I want to go vegan. Part of my mind is saying to have empathy for animals and not kill them but I have been very brainwashed throughout my life to believe that it's somehow okay even though I know it's not! It's very confusing because I want to go vegan but my mind is also telling me "well everybody else eats meat and you've been eating meat all your life and your parents eat meat and the bible might be saying it's okay" my whole family hunts we are big hunters and my family is also mostly carnivore like they hardly eat any vegetables or fruit! I am also a very picky eater which makes it even harder because I hate food like tomatoes and olives etc. lately I just haven't been eating near as much food in general because I don't know what to do.

Question: How many kids do you want?

Posted: 28 Feb 2016 10:11 AM PST

how many kids what gender age gaps and birth order i want three kids 2 boys and 1 girl i want a boy then a girl then another boy i want a 2 year age gap between the first two and a 4 year age gap between the second and third

Question: My boyfriend of three years hurt me and I don t know what to do?

Posted: 28 Feb 2016 09:50 AM PST

Ok so me my boyfriend and his brother all live together and my boyfriends brother and my boyfriend were working. I was running around the house with out some of my clothes on so I locked the door cause I knew his brother would be home soon. I hadn t slept in 3 days and I m pregnant so I was exhausted and I sat down to write my book and ended up falling asleep. I eventually woke up and rushed to unlock the door but he spent the whole night yelling at me, slamming doors, and telling me to unlock my phone (which I had only put a password on it because he put one on his first) and he started pushing me, pinching me really hard and throwing my limbs away from my stomach, grabbing me really hard, He was throwing things and yelling so I unlocked my phone and gave it to him. After that he seemed to calm down but I m not sure what to do. I cut off all of my family and I moved away from them over a year ago to a new state hundreds of miles away to a place where I have no one but him and his brother. My family got cut off for a lot of reasons that were really complicated but there is no way they will talk to me again. He ended up cuddling me and apologizing for being so mad but I don t know what I should do. I was diagnosed with PTSD while I was hospitalized a couple years ago so this can not happen

Question: Was I wrong to get angry on my step mom?

Posted: 28 Feb 2016 09:41 AM PST

Since my dad has married her we've moved into a lot bigger house but she's got 4 kids now I was the only kid for the most part I have an older sister we talk a lot but she has a job and her own life. My mom lives with her and I have to go to my dad's home every now and then. My sister doesn't have to because she's 25 a lot older than me. Now I don't usually fight but last week I caught my step brother stealing my money and we got in a very physical fight. When she got home I told her to control her little pig of a son I regret it but she literally slapped me. I got angry and just left to call my sister and told her everything she picked me up. Now my step mom is accusing my mom of making me hate their children. I don't hate her children they're just stupid and I don't want to live with them its nothing personal. I'd rather live with my sister she's a graphics designer and teaches me cool stuff while they are just flat out stupid. I'm 14 and her kids are 8, 11, 14 and her only daughter is 17 and she's fat as ****. My mom said I shouldn't have cussed but said I took the right step to get out of the house after she slapped me. Am I even a little wrong in this? my dad wants me to come to their house right now and apologize like why do I have to do that?

Question: I always feel sad that my family doesn't get together with my extended family, how do I overcome this?

Posted: 28 Feb 2016 09:13 AM PST

My mother says her sister and brother don't like us but every time I see them they are very nice. I have 5 cousins I miss out on knowing but I am only a early teen so I can't go see them on my own. I already feel sad about Easter because I know my grandmother goes over there and they get together. Same happens on Thanksgiving and Christmas and 4th of July. We see my grandmother once a month but we don't get to see my cousins and aunts-uncles. My mother wouldn't let me go when I asked my grandmother to take me last Christmas. Same happens at ordinary times of year when I ask. How can I fix this or how can I get over being so sad about it? My mother had a fight with them about money when my grandfather died so I have missed out the last 9 years.

Question: Why does God allow my family to hurt me?

Posted: 28 Feb 2016 09:07 AM PST

I got abused by my dad. I got verbally by my brother. I got yelled at by someother family members. Now I'm getting hurt by my grandmother.

Question: How do I get through to my mom that I m not a kid anymore and should be allowed to make my own choices?

Posted: 28 Feb 2016 08:44 AM PST

I m 23 and a half years old and my mom still tries to control what I eat, watch, read, and even wear. It s driving me crazy and I have no idea what to do anymore. I ve tried reminding my mom that I m an adult and should be treated as such. I can t move out yet because I just graduated with a BA, and I don t have a job or money yet. So that s not an option right now. I m looking for a job though. So how can I get through to my mom here?

Question: Why does my mom wake up and yell at me every Sunday? We fight for the rest of the day afterwards.?

Posted: 28 Feb 2016 08:11 AM PST

Every Sunday morning, I am awake before my mom is. She comes out into the living room every time and yells at me. On a normal morning, she goes into the kitchen to get coffee, but on Sundays she comes right to the living room just to seek a fight. It is just me and her living in this house, and no matter what I do, she yells at me about it. Even if I do something well, she finds something wrong with it and criticizes it. Please help.

Question: How do you deal with a horrible father?

Posted: 28 Feb 2016 08:09 AM PST

My dad is either really happy or screaming at me. I don't know which im going to get at any given moment. He just called me a ***** and an idiot and said i was a useless brat. I don't do anything to him. Then he locked me and my mom out of the house and started screaming at my little sister. I feel really weird and sort of unsafe around him, but then he just switches back to being nice and funny. I am really stressed out and depressed and I just want to leave but im only 13. I dont know what to do.

Question: Would you go to your godparent, or divorced parent?

Posted: 28 Feb 2016 08:04 AM PST

If your parent s had a divorce, and none of the parents were really judged unfit, to, but one obviously won the court case, now, if something were to happen to your current parent, that would require you to go under a new guardian, would you go to your other parent, or one of your god parents? thank you!

Question: What do I do?

Posted: 28 Feb 2016 07:52 AM PST

My younger sister (14 y/o) & I (just turned 16 y/o) were arguing- she was being a ***** for no reason (she always is & I know that sounds bias but she genuinly was). We share a room & I always have to compromise. Today I was being forced to leave the room when I was playing my ukulele because she wanted to play the wii- I got mad, refused & continued. A few minutes later she started shouting, throwing things at me, hitting me repeatedly with remotes & cut me several times with a pen, she then took my laptop & my phone (throughout this entire ordeal I had stayed silent, merely playing my Ukulele) & continued hitting me- I got so mad & snapped- I threatened to tell my parents about her self harm (I know it was stupid, so I apologised but she didn't accept it [I didn't expect her to] & continued hitting me w/ more force this time). I know I shouldn't have done it but I did & now she won't talk to me & I don't know what else to do. I won't follow through with my threat & she knows it but I can't help but feel bad. Help -My sister does go to a therapist currently (just because a few people mentioned it). It's not for self-harm but she had a medical condition and her doctor suggested she go.

Question: How to get somone to leave you alone who doesn't care he's overwhelming?

Posted: 28 Feb 2016 07:30 AM PST

My dad is retired and doesn't go anywhere, so it's hard to avoid him. It's like he's waiting in the shadows until a person walks by so he can attack with conversation. I will tell him I need alone time or I'm busy right now, I've even said leave me alone, but he doesn't care or he gets upset. He's the kind that will have mostly one-sided conversations or bagder you with questions about what you're doing at the moment. Any advice? I want to scream. I should note, he was this way before he retired, but of course far less, because he wasn't spending all his time at home.

Question: How to convince my dad to go on vacation?

Posted: 28 Feb 2016 07:26 AM PST

This June me and my family are going to the Outer Banks of NC and I m really excited. But I need a way to convince him to take us to the grand canyon. I already planned a trip with everything including it would be 3500 dollars. I think that he will say no but I really want him to say yes! Thanks.

Question: How can I deal with thia properly?

Posted: 28 Feb 2016 07:15 AM PST

How do I deal with this? I landed a new job in my field finally after years of struggle(I am 30) and I told my sister who is a year younger than me(and earns a lot more than me) and we don't have a close relationship....she was happy but also asked about my pay. I told her since she is my sister, however, I feel a bit hurt as if I had asked her the same question I don't think she would ve told me. Why would she do that as in not tell me her pay and how should I deal with this or overcome this.

Question: Mom. Pet names to call my boys?

Posted: 28 Feb 2016 06:49 AM PST

I'm a single mom with 2 teenage boys. They always complain about the pet names I call them like "baby" and Schnookums" make them a little uncomfortably. What are some good pet names I can call my boys that they won't hate?

Question: What do I do about this? I hate it this so much .?

Posted: 28 Feb 2016 06:35 AM PST

So I'm 18 and my mom has been the only person who has taught how to drive , I live with a stepdad and mom , my stepdad spends his time working but he still wants to criticize me the way I drive plus I have droven a car to church once and have droven to school , and the store alone once , but school and church has been with my mom in the car with me , I still speak to my bio dad and he's told me that I should continue trying , and he hates how my stepdad is being a jerk cause he acts like he's never been a teenager before. Or has had trouble or has been beginning driving a car before . Like today this fool just calls my mom and tells her to not let me drive the car cause he thinks I suck at driving plus I just started and I only have my permit so why is he judging , I'm not an expert , and I at least drive a little to get to the store. He gets on my nerves and plus he's one of those that only asks for favors whenever he needs it ( only talks to me ) . Is it my problem or his. Yes I'm going to continue practicing . I just need to get a job and get a car and pay the gas. Any suggestions for jobs for a quiet /shy person???????

Question: Why do dads feel an obligation to make bad jokes whenever the opportunity arises?

Posted: 28 Feb 2016 06:15 AM PST

Question: Wanna move out of my parents house?

Posted: 28 Feb 2016 06:09 AM PST

I'm 24 and wanna move out of my parents house. But I don't know how they'll react bc there very protective of me. I won't be living on my own I'll be with my sister. So how do I tell them?

Question: Why did my brother do this??? help please?

Posted: 28 Feb 2016 05:51 AM PST

We are twins both 15 and we share a room. Im a very deep sleeper so even when he goes to wc during night or etc i dont wake up. Today at night i was sleeping and i had like a weird feeling and then i woke up and my brother was eating me out..... i was shocked but i didnt want to like yell at him so i just made a sound like hmmm and he got scared im waking up and jumped to his bed.... i dont want to ruin my relationship with my brother over this, how can i talk to him about it so it doesnt get weird between us 2. help pls That cant be right. I love my brother and i know he loves me too, he would never hurt me, and i would never hurt him too. Maybe he was just curious?? he is a virgin and im too

Question: Women, when did you stop seeing your mother naked?

Posted: 28 Feb 2016 05:34 AM PST

At least unless you walked in on her by accident

Question: What should I do in this situation?

Posted: 28 Feb 2016 05:05 AM PST

I taken my family to the casino and we been here all night and it's 5 in the morning! When I tell them I need my sleep and it's dangerous the less sleep I'm running on is the worst its gonna be driving back home. When I tell them I want to leave they say we haven't been here very long and say they wanna play longer but won't listen to me. I want to go home I'm so tired. My mom and sister don't drive so idk what else to do. I'm like a zombie walking and casinos don't like people who are sleepy it seems like it's not my fault:/ what do I do???

Question: Im 18 and I really cant stand my mom and grandma.?

Posted: 28 Feb 2016 04:51 AM PST

Im 18 and I really cant stand my mom and grandma. I have a place to go, my second moms house is in the town of the college I want to go to.She said I can live with her for my senior yr and if I stay where I am, I still wont get freedom after that. I need to get out. Several issues though. 1. Many ways for my mom to find out. 2. I want to take my cat because of my moms thing of dropping animals off in random places. 3. Im hoping if I work all of june and part of july I will have plenty of money to last a while. 4., my mom forces me to spend my money sometimes. 5.Dont know if the high school in her town has to have parental person sign stuff even if youre 18

Question: Why are girls like this where I live?

Posted: 28 Feb 2016 04:49 AM PST

first off, every girl I generally meet around where I live is in trouble or had been in trouble with the law, They seem to have a hard time to try to stay out of trouble, Even the girls that don't have records seems to have it very hard to try to stay out of trouble, They seem to all be associated with drugs, and seem to have a mob by family, Like if you make one mad for instance, she, her friends, her mother brother sister cousin uncle nephew will be after you Seems that I cannot find a girl that isn't like this where I live Why are they like this?

Question: Mother and fiancé violent argument involved with his family?! Help?

Posted: 28 Feb 2016 04:15 AM PST

Hi there, Long story short my fiances parents came over to visit us all the way from Brazil. My fiancé and I live with my mom and her husband. Since day one due to cultural clash the mother of my fiancé did not get along well with my mother and I. They decided to make a joint birthdays party ( my mother and fiance) before The celebrations they Got into argument And The whole dinner was a disaster. My fiancé was cheeky to my mother which got her very upset but also to mention myself and him were not getting along as he was treating me badly lately. Once everyone got home my mother was emphasising that my fiancé broke her and my heart that he choose his family over ours. She became very drunk and has stormed to the room yelling at my fiancé. This broke out into massive fight as his mother started shouting too and my mom became aggressive at her husband. The parents had to witness that but also meanwhile being angry she said all the things that hurt her what my fiancé has done. At the end of the day she told him to get out and it got very messy. Today they went out for family day ( his family) and I assume his family found out my mother got drunk and did a violent argument for over 3 hours right in front of everyone in the house. My fiances brother said he does not want to see me or my mother and my fiancé said he will look for a rental room as he cant take this. Please kindly share your advice why should I do in this situation