I saw my parents fight, throw things, hit each other. After the divorce, I saw them fight even more violent, fight over me, and there are dents in my dads car from when he refused to drive my mom to the hospital when she was bleeding out from chemo reactions. Now they fight verbally and I can't stop crying over it. It's been rough. They had to change judges because she said she wouldn't see them anymore. Anyone else??

Name: Jorge Luis Hernandez D.O.B: 06-17-1956 Born in Cuba

I am from a poor family her parents have more money then i do. They think that because i dont have alot of money that i can't marry her. She accepted my proposal but her parents won't let me and her get married. She took her car and sold it cut off almost all contact i have with her. We are trying to get a home and start a new life but i just don't know what to do. So people of the internet please tell me what i can do or what could i do.

So long story short, my mom married this guy for like 7-8 years and now they're getting a divorce. They're both pretty old and their only income is social security, and I think he gets some retirement I believe. Anyway, about 2 years in their marriage I bought my mom a house so she could retire since I make significantly more than they do, but the house has always been in my name (so she pretty much just lives there). So, since it's in my name how much of a factor can it be in the divorce? I know they can't take it, but I'm curious if there are any ramifications.

i saw what happend and she defended her husband despite that he did hurt her wery bad

My ex husband and I are friends and why shouldn't we be we have to kids together and have made the decision to stay civil for our children so they don't have to witness a "typical" divorce . We don't fight with one another we don't pay each other child support he sees the kids when ever he wants we go on vacations together and all is well.... I have a boy friend that from the beginning I made it very clear to him that my boy's father was very much involved in their everyday life and would be around and I wasn't willing to compromise my kids happiness to make him feel comfortable is that wrong?

my daughters mom is homeless living in hotels and her car between 2 county's

What do I say to my husband s gay boss because he keeps crushing on my very straight husband? Please take no offense. It s just pissing me off because he always wants him on the same schedule with him at work, has little knick names for him. He always ask him about our sex life. He calls him at home just for no reason....bs.... I have nothing to worry with my husband...however I m tired of the disrespect. I ve said something to my husband and he doesn t see it. Any advice? Please no one be mean, I really don t mean to insult anyone.

I work hard and she stays home with the kids. When I come home my food is warm and already served. She feeds the 1 year old and the 2 year old and then serves the 5 year old and then picks up their dishes and washes them and when she's done, I'm already done with my plate. I tell her to wash it before she sits down and she complains that she hasn't eaten. When I tell her that I finished the food, she just makes something else and then the baby cries and she doesn't want to hold her. So now she's complaining that she can't eat because the baby is sleepy and I tell her to put the baby to sleep first. She ends up eating dinner around 11 pm. It's her problem. Not mine. I told her I'm tired and I can't hold the babies because I'm sleepy so she has to deal with it. And then she's complaining that she doesn't get to eat with us together.

If you are into spanking, giving to or receiving from, your partner, what is it about spanking that you like the most or why you do it? Some find it sexy others find it stimulating, just wondering? Would you ever want to be in a relationship without it again?

Where do i start... We were married a year ago and a few months later my mother came down to visit for 10 days. The ten days turned into 3 because my mom and my wife went at it. I tried to mediate but my wife ended up filing for divorce. I basically begged her back and admitted my wrongdoing as maybe i should have stuck up for her more. I was trying to be a mediator (in the middle) and my wife thinks i should have chose her. Fast forward to today. We went to counseling for about 3 months and the baby talks started. Everytime my mom comes up on a conversation i feel like if i even remotely hint at hey i love my mom and i dont like hearing negative thoughts about her, divorce comes out of her mouth. She feels that i should have protected our family from my mother and seems to think i am incapable of this. I worked really hard through therapy and now today she wants to give up. I dont know what to do at this point. All i said to her was that i dont like to hear her talking crap to my face about my mom because i cant get a new mom. I definately acknowledge her feelings where i think my mom was wrong when she came. But i am at my wits end.

My husband was talking to some guys and for some reason they started talking about me. I was less sitting at the table with them but not talking to them at the moment. All of a sudden my husband said "She still has a lot of work to do before I consider her a 10." I don't really know how to react or feel. This isn't the first time he has done something like this so if I ignore it I am just waiting for it to happen again. In an effort to not make it seem as bad I originally left out the part where he rated me a "2" So my point here is not WHAT he rated me, but that he thinks it is okay to push me down and belittle me.

I feel like a man has everything to lose in a marriage now a days. Im not even talking about child support, any good father would be glad to pay child support. Im talking about the fact that family courts and divorce laws are so bias towards women. Why cant both parties just keep what is theirs? there is no need to split it. Why should I have to give up half my savings because she cheated, initiated divorce, or lost interest in me? Also why do courts not look at who the better parent is instead of the gender of the parent? In most cases i would agree that children should go with their mothers but it shouldnt be base on that alone, they should take into account parenting style and whether the kid even is safe with his/her guardian. BTW Im not anti-feminist, Im all about things being FAIR and the divorce process and marriage in general are not fair to a man. sheloves_dablues: I never said that One person should keep everything im saying things liek savings accounts should not be split (so if I have a seperate account and theres 20-30k, It should be split up because its mine, and if she has 20-30k its hers).

We have kids that I say home with that he is driving around with on his days off and we are in Visalia ca. Latey he is just using my car and it has also has a break light out that is noticable as well. If I tell him I I don t want him doing it he will threaten with I am not gonna pay this or I am not going to do that.

My husband makes a lot of money but he says he wants to leave me over this. This has never happened before. We have been married just five years. I told him I will do anything to build trust again. Is this worth leaving me over?? Yes.. I know it was awful and selfish etc.

Does it mean anything anymore after marriage?

My friends were arguing over this. Can a gay couple be considered married? Should this be legal? Will it destroy the definition of marriage since it has to be a man and women?

We were in the middle of sex and getting into i and i left my shirt on and he said he lost his eriction bc i had my shirt on and said i wasnt pushing enough but he was ontop ? He stoped and got off ?

Here is the deal. My husband and I are in our early 30s and worked our way up from nothing. He has a good job and I have a Master's degree. We bought our first home together and it is only us two. We were both raised poor, neglectful, and abusive families so we understand each other's background. Well my mother in law is in her mid-50s and about 5 years ago took in a 6 year old relative. (That is a long story.) But the mother of the relative did not want him and was in an out of jail. Well some other family members were taking care of him but they did not want him anymore so she said she would take him. Well that put a big strain on her and my father in laws relationship. Of course she is the type of person that takes on responsibilities and relies on other people that make money to care for them since she does not make a whole lot. Of course my father in laws health was not that good and was ready to retire with both sons out on their own. Well the father in law got really depressed about this and relapsed on drugs again and it got out of control so she left him and moved in with us. (Two years ago) Well we did not have room for two extra people since we did not choose the house with them in mind. We literally lived there for two months and she moved in so we never got situated and were still living out of boxes. In addition we also could not tell that child anything and he ran the house. Part 2:My mother in law has a mother that has been sick and needs my mother in law to watch over her but she lives in a retirement community so no one under 55 can live there. So since she had that kid with her was her excuse on living with us and not moving with her mother. Well after 6 months the boy wanted to go to live with another family member and the courts let him make that decision. So the kid was gone and her mother her mother had two heart attacks and needed her more than ever. Part 3: But my mother in law told us she did not want to move in with her mother. My husband did not tell her anything. That was a good time for him to tell his mom that it would be good for both of them to help each other at this time but he did not. She is afraid to move on her own since she does not make a lot of money and again her mother has practically begged her to move with her. Well she then said as soon as the divorce was finalized and the house was sold she would move out on her own. Part 3: Instead of saying, "mom you know how dad is…don't go along with that you need to follow what the court said to do and get that house sold"…instead he was telling her, "Sure that is a great idea… let them fix it up so you can sell it for more MONEY". So anyway they tried to screw her over (That my husband and I both knew would happen) and now the house has been up for sale for 4 months and she has been living with us for almost 2 years. Part 4:I told him about 6 months ago that his mother has until May to be out or else I am leaving. (I told him that I should have left after he lied about that trip behind my back). Here we have two more months until that day and she is still here and the house is not even close to selling. (There was some people that was interested but she did not want to reduce the price on the house and my husband tells me he will talk to her about it).

My wife is gorgeous, but crazy she said american men are being brainwashed by women. She said when your man beats you that means he loves you, and a man has the right to discipline their woman. She said i am soft, and not a real man . Should i start hitting her ? I only do it during sex, but that's not enough.

isn't it weird to be fanatically devout and have sex too. i mean isn't sex a little raunchy for really overly devout Christian couples?

Usually he uses his shirt or a blanket to cover me while "hitting it from the back/side" I know that my body isn't perfect but I've always thought it was at least good enough for him to love. I've asked him but he has told me cuz he likes the way it looks/or likes being warm. Whatever. I've never been with any man who has done that but him. Like you profess to be an *** an but cover mine? Weird

He comes from a large African American family and I come from a small white family. We talked about a couple of kids before we got married. But he is very successful now and feels we can afford more children. I love him but I would like to go back to work as well. I love him and my kids. Just questioning whether in the larger scope of the world, whether my going back to work is really more important. I can only have kids for a few more years due to my age.

My wife told me before we got married that she wouldn't marry someone in law enforcement and that if I wanted to pursue that career we could just be friends. So I choose my wife. It has been 9 years and my desire to be a police officer has not gone away. As far back as I can remember I have always wanted to be a Police officer and believe that is what I was born to do. Was I Naive thinking I could drop wanting to do law enforcement? We have been married for nearly 9 years and have 2 children. I love my wife and my children and am very happy with that part of my life. But my career that I am in right now is not fulfilling to me and am just not happy with what I am doing. I have explained that to her recently and she brought up our agreement before we got married. Am I selfish for wanting to do what I really want to do?

I had a long discussion over the weekend with my wife about who she is and why she isn't acting this person in public or in our home. Basically, it boils down to her being afraid of being rejected, criticized, disrespected, shamed, condemned, scolded, reprimanded, and abused (all things she had to deal with as a kid when she expressed herself). About 3 hours ago I asked a question about helping my wife create her identity. She clearly has one (a real one) but you would never know what it is because she keeps it to herself. I want to pull it out of her and help her develop it to be more robust and so she can wear it with pride and not hide it out of fear. I've actually wanted this for her for 15 years now, but it's hard to do this when I was too weak to stand up for her. If you were in MY shoes (not my wife's), how would you help my wife feel confident in her self and not feel obligated to conforming to the rules just to be tolerated by society. We all have something to contribute to society, and it doesn't have to be what was conventionally offered in the past, if she has a personality/identity/character that she's hiding so she can "behave properly" then she shouldn't have to feel this way and deprive us of what she has to offer! She's told me that she's anti-social because there's too many rules to follow (like eye contact which is very painful for her if she doesn't trust you) and she'd rather "get by" and be left alone. I don't think this is right.... You're wasting your time thumbs up'ing your swbarnes2 account Babehart. You are the ONLY person who hates me this much. You can try to condemn me and shame me for my behavior, but I finally figured you out. I am not a bad person, you are. You can't deflect on to me any more.

My wife, who makes over 100k is too cheap to get a phone plan, so she uses mine whenever she needs to make a call. I used to not care about handing it to her while I'm not there, but she kept digging through my texts... So now I just don't let her use it if I'm not there, because I really hate that she does that. I mean we work in the same building, we go home together, I work on homework for grad school on my free hours in addition to my startup... We're together almost 24/7... She knows all my friends and she always asks who I'm texting and what they said, so she already knows everything... I also don't mind her reading incoming texts, I just don't like her digging... And I've told her, but she won't change her behaviour... She only always does what she wants. Also since she hasn't bothered learning my family names the only time she's "caught me"is when my cousin asks when I'm visiting... I'm an engineering student and working in it, there's literally no women anywhere near me, am I wrong to not want her reading my texts?

* They believe people can be divided into two distinct classes - the weak and the strong. * They believe that some people are born with the urge to jump from high places (take risks). * They believe no weakness or difficulty can hold us back if we have enough willpower. * They believe most of our social problems would be solved if we could somehow get rid of the immoral, crooked, and feeble-minded people. I thought about the advice that I receive on here in M&D section and I realize that many of you might feel the same way. If that's the case, what would you call this personality or belief system? Do you feel this belief system is healthy for a marriage? I don't personally care for it, but I want your opinion. Also... F-scale.

I was eating lunch with my wife and her family (who don t speak English) and some of the food was a little late, so my wife takes my food and starts divvying it up amongst her relatives and I asked what she s doing. She angrily asks, "what I can t share your food?" ... For one I had already shared my food with everyone, two I was already disappointed with my order because I had gotten a very small portion, three she had a ton of food... And four their order was coming and they weren t planning on sharing.... Then she tells them, he s mad he had to share the food.... Which was a lie, but I couldn t even explain it to them

I came home early last night at 10PM and I saw the bedroom curtain was open and my wife was in her panties and topless walking around. When I went in the house she was still like that and standing in front of the mirror combing her hair. When she saw me she walked over and closed the curtains saying she never noticed they were open. The whole neighborhood might of been watching her!!!

Feeling apathetic and misanthropic is not an identity, it's just hate and survival tactics and how she's coping with NOT having an identity. Happy-2, if you are going to answer my questions, do not insert your OPINION of what my wife MIGHT be feeling. I do not need you to play devil's advocate, I'm already devilish enough thank you.

My 15 year marriage has reached a dead end and I find that I don't connect with my husband anymore. I have grown in many ways that he hasn't and don't connect with him sexually or emotionally. I feel like I would mesh better with a different type of guy. My therapist says however, that I should only get divorced if I'm better off single. Well, I'm not better off single. We are both much better off for financial and stability reasons, for shared family and friends, and our own friendship if we stay together. There's no abuse or cheating so it's not like i want to run away. My reason for leaving would be so we could both find partners better suited to us. Would I be making a mistake ending our marriage for that reason? My therapist really confused me.She once said divorce will give me the opportunity to find a better life. now she says I should only leave if I'm miserable. I'm not miserable! So confused :(

So my parents are getting divorced and this might sound like a horrible question, but is there any benefits I can get out of it. I don t mean like from my parents or anything emotionally, but do highschools give like helping grades or something and do any businesses give free stuff or something like that for divorce. Hopefuly its only happening once so might as well make the most of it.

This weekend was pretty great. We had a few great bonding moments after an alcoholic, "redneck" neighbor decided to threaten my life over a dead tree in my backyard (just died this past summer) that had a limb fall in his yard against his house during a windstorm. I handled it pretty well and proved to my wife that you can be respectful to others (treat them with worth - even if they don't deserve it) and respectful to yourself (treat yourself with worth) without being aggressive/rude. This opened a lot of discussions this weekend and really helped bring us back together. So, despite the neighbor making an a** of himself and bullying me over this tree; it was a pretty great weekend because it gave us both a reason to be on the same team for once! We still had the same apathetic "no identity" atmosphere in the house after that, but I think the way I handled it gained some respect from her because she was more open to discussing changes in the home when she saw me get the moral win against our intoxicated/ignorant neighbor. But about that apathy... I know that many people know who they are before marriage, but many people also don't get married right out of high school either. My wife has spent most of this relationship escaping life instead of creating it. I think now that I have her attention I can help her create something she can be proud of... ...but how can I help her figure this out without being overtly influential with my personal desires for her?

Male 45 here. I discovered that there was more to the relationship between my wife and her former coworker. She begged me to forgive and I did but I'm having so many issues internally with sadness and rejection. I'm so embarrassed, I can't tell my family or any of my close friends. I find myself crying while driving to work. How do I forgive? I wish I had somebody to email who has fought and won this battle.

For a year or two until you got back on your feet?

Ok, so basically my partner and i have been together for 6 years, we had a nice good and good income so decided we wanted to try for a baby. I fell pregnant and announced it early, i was 6 weeks along. Then out of nowhere a woman shows up claiming her 6 yr old daughter was his. Dna testing confirmed this. She was a one night stand using protection around 5 months before me and him met. He had absolutely no idea and since finding out has been having his daughter friday til sunday every weekend. I gave birth and our daughter is now 5 months old and i feel so depressed. I hate hearing people refer to my daughter and my bfs daughter as sisters. I hate never being able to be a family just us, i hate it not being just us. And on top of it all the child comes to my home stinking of fags and her mom is a horrible violent woman who seems to enjoy drama and causing arguments and saying horrible things to me. its just not what i wanted and i dont know what to do, im wasting my daughters life away because i hate the situation. just so you know though id never show these feelings to the child, i show her love. i just want advice on how to let it go and be ok with it not being just us. And how to deal with having such a negative woman in my life ..

I was legally married to my ex-husband from 2001-2004, and we had 2 children together. He left me for someone else. He wanted nothing to do with me or my children. He refused to pay child support, or to even help me with my children. He elected to give up his parental rights, and let my husband (the love of my life) adopt my older children, when I remarried in 2007. About a moth ago, I received a facebook message from my ex-husband demanding that I allow him to see "his children", and to let them spend time with him. I told him no. He isn't their father anymore. He abandoned them, and left us destitute. I told him that he wasn't welcome in their lives, and to stay away. This made my ex-husband really upset. I don't feel sorry for him though. He CHOSE to allow my kids to be adopted by my husband. I don't feel sorry for my ex-husband. I refuse to allow his selfishness to disrupt my children's happiness. They have a loving, supportive, and caring father. They don't need a selfish, low life douche bag to upset their life, and make them unhappy.

I don't mean one-night stands; I mean affairs that last months or years, when they (claim to) really fall in love with the other woman, and it becomes emotional as well as sexual.

My wife is pretty special, I named my boat after her as well as my dog. I think she deserves only the best treatment from me when I take what I need from her then move on to the next wife

He had a thing with another girl but could not pursue it further since he got his arranged marriage. Will he ever feel like he missed out? Or will he love his wife . Remember he cheated on her with me (kissed me and felt me up and tried to seduce me for sex).

I like porn my husband does too. but I recently found my husband watching real live people having sex I am not OK with this. he says it s just another categories of porn. but on this website u can comment and interact with the people. I told my husband to stop watching this type. also he has been watching it at work. he works night and does home health and I told him he could lose his job. he says he gets bored and just watches it. Im begin to think he has an addiction. we talked and he says he is gonna just stop watching all together because it is an inconvenience for him to not watch live porn. I need help. I want to leave my marriage because he doesn t understand that live porn is real and porn is fantasy. I m not OK with him watch live porn. I feel it is cheating. I feel he has an addiction. please I need advice to help him stop since he said that is what he wants to do.