My husband and I have been married for almost 12 years and we have 2 great children. He has a job that he likes and that pays well. He's been working there for almost 2 years. He is gone for a month to two months at a time and home for 2 weeks. Since he started working away from home like this, we've had more and more problems. He says that it's because he's not biting his tongue anymore and saying how he really feels. But it's more than that. He's never home to know me and the kids. I miss him so much! I've asked him to quit his job and find work around home. He is qualified to get work at a lot of places. But he says that he likes what he does and it provides for us and that he has always supported me in anything I want to do. I don't want to not be supportive. And I don't want him to resent me for asking him to quit a job he clearly enjoys. But it's important for him to be here. He's missing so much with the kids. I feel like we don't know each other anymore. What do I do???

A coworker of mine has been in a relationship with a girl for at least several years. From what I hear, she'd been pushing him to propose to her and he finally did back in December. Well... I just came to find out that he's flirting with and hooking up another coworker of ours who just happens to be my very best friend. She doesn't know his fiancee personally but she knows about her. I'm just wondering why a 25 or 26 year old guy who seemed very mature to me would get engaged and then start cheating on his fiancee emotionally and physically just months later. I'm really just curious about the psychology behind it. Maybe. I mean that's the first thing I'd think too, but according to my best friend (and I don't think she would lie to me) they didn't get sexual at first, that's why I said physically and emotionally. I'm into psychology, in fact I majored in it in college years ago, but people never cease to confuse me.

He's getting married to another woman, and she's not even pretty, so I know for a fact that he's marrying her and allowing her to be around our kids to make me jealous.

what are reasons to not get married?

i mean like finances, insurance, credit goals, etc. do you feel like it is okay to get married without having everything together and just building with your partner

We have been married for almost 5 years and have a 3 year old. Almost Two of those years I was stressed out with work and being away a lot and I wasn t there emotionally. She s given up on trying to make things work between us during that time. I didn t know how bad things were until I found out she had a boyfriend and on a month long vacation to her family s she had an affair with him. Once I found out about the boyfriend I ve done everything to change my self for the better (emotionally and being home more) and she sees it and wants to make things work by taking it day my day. We still sleep in the same bed and do everything married people do. But just recently she decided to take another 2 week vacation to visit her boyfriend again.... She doesn t know what she wants to do, she knows I m a good husband and father, but wants to see where this boyfriend thingy goes. My question is what should I do? I still love her and always will and same for her if she does want to end things we are still going to be best friends and love each other, just not in love with each other. but I m getting worn down with all the stress,worrying and fighting to keep her.

My husband and I have been together 13 years. I am a small breasted woman, when we met I was an A, now I m a B, and he s always commenting on how they ve gotten bigger. I ve always seen him admire large breast. Me seeing him stare, and knowing the porn he liked had large breasted women, led me to believe he liked them, even tho he always said he didn t. After all these years, he s finally admitted it. Why did he deny so long? I mean mine aren t super huge, but they re sexy and very perky. He has always complimented them, but he s never really fonlded. Could it be that he really doesn t find mine that sexy? And was afraid of hurting my feelings. He s also had a porn habit, which most men do, but I also like porn and when I try to watch it with him he makes reasons not to. He s even brought a DVD home, (I know old school, he uses internet mostly), and said " I got this DVD I m going to jerkoff in the bedroom, so I can last longer when we have sex tonight." Why not watch it together Why not just have sex then? Also, we never had sex that night. Sometimes I feel like he chooses the porn over me. I feel like he doesn t won t to watch it with me because he he fantasies about the women. I ve never given him any reason, that I know of to hide and lie about it. Thanks everyone for your help. Please everyone be nice, and thanks again.

Everybody but HIM got me a present for my 40th birthday and I had a BIG party at an Italian place but he didn't get me a present! GRANTED my birthday is 5 days after V day but he has known me 5 years! Shouldn't he have a BUDGET worked out by now for me. I hate him. He is NOT abusive or cheating. He just didn't get me a birthday present unless you count the" stuff" he shared with me last nite

We are not picky we just want to use her and abuse the other female hopefully many times

I am trying to be supportive. My friend has been cheated on 3 times in 13 years by her husband. I will admit I am not married and don't have kids so I don't get this at all. WHY would she keep taking him back? At this point, after time #3, it is getting harder to listen to her about this bc I feel like she is just letting it happen at this point and is no longer a victim.

If you both have been married for 2 years, and have new born twins, and your husband slaps you, would you forgive him, for the sake of the children? If he was begging and crying for forgiveness, would you? If he was willing to go to anger management classes, would you? Please answer, tysm.

Ex-wife has remarried twice.

I am a mother of 2 kids both 5 year old daughter and a month year old son, growing up with my parents they constantly did nothing but fight and argue, at times it went bad where someone go hurt. No reports were made during the time because we were young and didnt know what was going on, just wanted mommy and daddy to stop. my father doesnt do drugs or is a alcholic same with mom. dad ask mom to do a task and sometimes mom wont do it right away or simply will start to antagonize him, she been having that issue for a long time with him. last night was a crazy day things got out of hand one thing led to another and cops got involved etc... so now this house im living with them is going to fall apart, me and husband looking for places to move to and now my parens who are in their late 40's early 50's are talking about a divorced, they been married for 27 years. as the oldest daughter i want the best for my parents but am concern about my children. Ive never experienced paretns divorcing, i am just sad, scared, and hurt, my children will grow up not seeing granny and grandpa not together, how am i suppose to handle that situation when they ask why they are not together? How do i handle my parents splitting up? This is all so new to me and i am just not ready to take all of this in, i just had my month year old son, its 2016. were in a new year, barely mid way and so much chaos is eruptung, could hear some supportive stories how anyone else handle their first parents divorce.

He basiCally got married to his cousin (arranged marriage). But he was trying to get another girl to sleep with him during that time. In fact he cheated on his wife with her (he kissed the other girl but didn't go further) Will he end up learning to love his wife after a couple of weeks/months of living together? I don't see how he can go through with it. Imagine having kids with her if he wasnt in love with her. Will he learn to love her with time?

My sweetheart and I have been together for three years now. This September will both be 17. We want to get married that next November. We are planning on taking the time between now and then to prepare ourselves financially. I want nothing more to marry her and she wants the same. However, I wanted to see what other people would think.

My wife has four kids, two girls, and two boys. My wife moved in with me eight months ago, and we got married four months ago. At first the kids were very good, they behaved well, and got along with my two kids quite well. My wife does do things like the laundry, housework, etc so I do appreciate her for that. What makes me so annoyed with her children is my daughter who is 16, wanted to go dress shopping. My wife said infront of her kids "Do you want to do it this weekend when my kids are at their dads so it's easier?" Her boys started screaming that they were going and that was final. My wife has a daughter who is 13 who reads my texts when my phones charging, I have told her to stop several times and she just laughs. My wife isn't working right now she stays home with the kids, but her girls constantly say they need a pedicure they're tired of their feet looking how they do. If one of them doesn't like what's for supper they'll come up when we're asleep and make a completely different meal, we'll see the mess the next day. Her 9 year old twin boys one of them always comes up and asks to sleep with us. We say no and he sobs by our door for over 25 minutes, so he's been sleeping on our floor for over four months now. Please help

They dont talk to my husband on fb but they talk to and post about each other . Is that mean of them ? He trys to tlak to them but they ignore him .

My husband and I divorced 12 years back and since then my children has stayed away from me even when it was my husband who wanted the divorce because he met someone else. My kids choose to stay with my husband and they told me back then they were glad their dad finally got rid of me. I tried so many times to keep in touch with them but they rather stay with their dad all the time and then they moved to California, after that I lost contact since they blocked my number. I have never seen them for ten years now and only lately through a mutual friend of mine, I found out that my oldest daughter married and just got a baby. I feel hurt that my children has abandoned me and I still miss them but they see their stepmom as their real mom and it hurts me badly because every time I tried to get close with them, they would verbally abuse me. I blame my husband for turning them against me, since he used his money and affections on them to torn them against me. I have all but given up to see them and they are too busy with their lives or they simply don't care about me anymore. How do I cope with my life that I will never see them again. I even got struck with an accident few months back and they still never bothered to come and see me. Should I give up, should I try to reach out to them in chance I might get humiliated by them again. I feel suicidal sometimes, please help me. To everyone who thinks I am hiding something, I am not. I was a good mother to them but they never liked me even back when I was married to their father, I used to remember my oldest daughter lying to her father about how I was hitting her when I clearly not. I have tried my best to connect with my children but they have returned every gift I send them and blocked me on ever social media. I don't know what I did,....

My wife often checks my email and cell phone. Jealousy seems not to be a motive, and I have nothing to hide. Still, it is irritating at times, because she frequently scolds me for communicating too much with friends and colleagues (mainly about scholarly issues related to our academic profession, and almost exclusively with male colleagues). This communication occurs in my free time, but in her opinion, I should use this time for writing publications, instead of talking to friends. My publication record is actually fairly good, and these conversations are usually directly related to my work, but she feels they are a waste of time. Today she simply deleted all the recent text messages I exchanged with one of my friends. On my part, I never interfere with how much she talks on the phone, how many text messages she writes, or how many hours she watches television (I almost never do). Is her approach justified?

I work long hours every single day, and when I came back home I overheard a conversation my wife was having on the phone about meeting someone. I confronted her and she told me it was only a co-worker and nothing serious...I believed her until I found a huge list of men on her mobile phone... Once again I confronted her and she told it was just a bunch of co-workers.. she told me I can't control her and that she was free to be friends with as much men as she wanted...I let it go until I found her dining with some man a couple of months later after our argument....I pretended to ignore it until I came upon some nude pictures of men on her phone... I don't know what to do...I trusted her but she broke all trust!!!

Me an my husband are both 31 and they are both 58. Me and my husband have twins aged 2. Before I got married, my husbands parents were really nice but a month after I got married to their son they started being mean. Our house is big ,5 bedrooms, 3 living rooms , 2 dining rooms, 3 bathrooms, a big garden, a long balcony, a sauna room and other. I'm a teacher and my husband is a lawyer . i don't ask them to clean the house or be petitely nice, but they throw clothes over the room, my mother in law calls me a cow and my father in law shouts all day. I do everything clean, food, I even clean their bathroom , feed my daughter, clea the garage.... But my husband says they are maybe joking and he's not even considering moving out... One day I was looking at my children when my father in law shouted tell those monsters to shut the **** up.... Oh gosh ..

We have been married for six months. We had sex before we were married (which I was not so comfortable with) but my now husband desired sex very often in our dating relationship. Now that we re married, I am always willing and he only wants to 1 to 2 times a week. He knows I would prefer to have sex more often. When asked why he doesn t want to have sex anymore, he said he didn t know, then said he likes it better when I play hard to get, then said he d probably feel more confident and have a higher drive if we joined a gym. Not feeling wanted has really hurt my self esteem and my heart, and I constantly desire to be intimate with him. What can I do to help the situation get better?

Every guy I know who has told his wife something from the heart, a regret he had in his life, something he did in his past he was not proud of, unfulfilled dreams, lost opportunities, insecurities, short comings etc...the wife has at some point thrown the very thing back in his face or used it to hurt his feelings in an argument. So ladies when you meet a guy who doesn't share his thoughts or feelings with you...you have yourselves to blame.

Its a small matter, and not on a diabolical topic, don't misunderstand. But I would like some input from brothers and sisters in Christ.... I am being pressured by my motherinlaw to lie to my husband. We are experiencing hard times, my husband just transferred to a new job after being laid off, and we've been playing "catch up" with our bills since having to pay property taxes all at once in january.... My husband does not want to accept money from family, and I understand... Its tight, but we're ok... Well meaning family members want to help, either by paying for bills that are outstanding, or overpaying for things we sell from our farm...but when I explain that this would make my husband uncomfortable the response is "hide it and don't tell him" I know some people may view this as a small matter and not worth feeling guilty over, but the idea weighs on my conscience and to me is a lie of omission. I would be doing something he has specifically asked me not to do. I know pride is wrong, but I would never want my husband to feel devalued, or disrespected. But neither do I want my mother in law and other family members to feel unappreciated or rejected, or that I am accusing them. I just can't seem to think of a good way to explain it. What is a tactful way to be kind to both, to honor my husbands wishes and be respectful to his mother?

He always comes from work and check my phone inside out. He doesnt let me go out, have any friends or emails. He seems to always find something to argue with me. Like last night he found a movie in netflix in my watchlist that had pornography and got mad and stopped talking to me. I have 0 privacy whatsoever. Even the most personal things he eventually dug it up and now that there isnt much left to discover, he finding the silliest things. I can t talk to him about anything especially guys. Any guys. Jelaous of everything. Too insecure. What should i do

I love my wife and want to support her. When she is in a stressful situation I make it a point to not guide her emotions. IE telling her she shouldn't feel this way or why are you getting all worked up over nothing. Instead I will sit back and listen and acknowledging with "Sorry" "Oh no" "Yep" "Uh huh" But she will explain how stressful or hurt she is and I feel like she expects me to jump in her corner with saying something like "She did WHAT!!!" "OH NO she didn't" "You deserve to be treated better than that" "Who does that!" "What a jerk!" I try to play peacemaker but want to help her through the situation without adding fuel to the hurt. Besides the biggest backfire mistake would to appear as insincere. LADIES how do you want your bf\hub to support you when you feel someone is out of line but he may not. @Rebecca - so your saying your hub/bf should be in your corner regardless of his own convictions. Now I believe you stand with her and make peacemaker. If there are differences you settle them privately. But I want to support her and hold my own view of the situation as well. What if your hubby/bf were in a restaurant and he did not get his food exactly the way he wants it and starts to lay in on the waiter " I told you guys broccoli not aparagus, I saw you right it down on the paper!" Possibly I could repeat her scenario and tie in a personal conviction. Maybe I cant get behind every aspect she is explaining. IE someone is a minute late and she is going off. Yes it is important to be on time I know. Rebecca you just stated that you would side with the waiter that your husband was out of line. "I'm sorry, there must be something terribly wrong with my husband. We'll just take that food to go." You have a conviction that he needed to handle it better and not blow up at the help. Would if he fired back "You think it's okay, and we should just go?"

I don't want to discuss HOW she got socially anxious because at this point it doesn't matter. I want to discuss what I can do to help her since she's arrogant (more than me) and refuses to get help for it because she thinks escapism/avoidance is the BEST way to deal with this; which is wrong because this is what causes me to be depressed and angry. Things I've had her do in the past that made her feel vulnerable and I "triggered" an anxiety response: (1) Wear an appropriate (but sexy) outfit in public, (2) had her do her makeup to go try clothes on so she went to the store with the right attitude in mind, (3) go to a social event with me where there was a lot of people and try to keep her attention off the crowd (she scans for threats constantly), (4) made her stand with me when we spoke to a salesperson, (5) made her deal with her own debt collector (years ago). So as you see, the anxiety really spans any situation. She can't be seen in public, she can't deal with the public, she can't ignore the public, and she's afraid of the public. But maybe you can help educate me on how far this goes? Anyone have a scaredycat spouse? What helps? What makes it worse? As you all have figured out, I actually WANT to do things with my spouse. Going out to a social event alone would feel like me being a bachelor again, that is NOT the feeling I want. I want her by my side, so I can show her off as my best friend, a great wife, a good mom, and a person worthy of getting to know. No one touching this eh? Been 45 minutes and not a single answer (troll or serious alike).

Several years ago my husband decided to go back to school to get his bachelor's degree. He graduated with an associates back some years ago then went straight to work. He was enjoying classes so much until it made me want to go back to school to work on my degree. He graduated with honors in 2014 then decided he liked it so much until he re-registered with another school to work on his master's. Me, I was forced to stop school because my financial aid ran out because several years back I enrolled in school and quit so that messed up what F.A. was available to me. I've been trying to go back but the funds just haven't been there. Well, My husband is one class away from graduating again and he begins it in a few weeks. Last night he was telling me that he had turned in his graduation application and was making hotel reservations to travel to his school to participate in the commencement program. He was telling me the different services the school was having. The Baccalaureate Service on that Friday which he wants to attend then the actual commencement on the next morning. He then said that each student would go to their particular college and finalize the commencement, walk across the stage, get their name called and officially graduate. He's already planned what time we should leave home to get to the hotel then on to the college, yadda, yadda, yadda! He is already making suggestions on what I should wear to be comfortable because there will be thousands of people there. I was listening to the TV with a blank stare on my face cause at this point I really don't care. He's told me to contact my school to see if they would work out some sort of payment arrangement so that I can finish school. Why can't I seem to get excited about another one of his accomplishments. He's even mentioned a possible Ph.D. in the future.

We were together for a total of ten years, the divorce is something that we both agreed on. We had a lot of unhealthy patterns that had developed in the marriage, but always had quite a bit of love for one another. Lately, I've noticed that he is unable to make any sort of eye contact with me, let alone look in my direction when I'm in the room, even if I'm talking. I went over to pick up our daughter tonight and he said all of two words to me, even though I was somewhat talkative and in a great mood. Why does he do this?

I was scaring the wife and she twisted her knee bad and shes limping and not talking to me.Which is not a bad things when her horns come out. What should I do next. Shes been telling me to shut up and leave her alone.

Perhaps you are dependent on your spouse or intimidated by them. What has you trapped?

It happens. Don't let thev nitwits who self righrlteously proclaim they would not put up with it bother you.