Family: Question: Can anyone tell me what to do and what is wrong with me?

Question: Can anyone tell me what to do and what is wrong with me?

Posted: 14 Feb 2016 01:08 PM PST

I have this thing where only if certain people like my mom, dad and brother ( people i spend most time with) chew or just looking at them moving their jaw, or when they yawn i get super anxious, not jokingly, i feel like flipping stuff, shouting, punching, biting, if i dont mimic them. And if i try to ignore it i feel like crying and usually do. Its not that im disgusted, ive seen way worse chewers, its something associated only with them.

Question: It sickens me when my mother eats?

Posted: 14 Feb 2016 01:04 PM PST

She weighs around 250 pounds and is always complaining about it. I told her "diet and excercise" but she just ignored me and then still complains. But it's her life, whatever. However, she sickens me. She eats so much junk. So many meals. It's disgusting and my stomache twists when i hear her open the chip bag or hear her spoon clink on the bowl. She always gets crumbs on her fat chin and she can't talk to me without her mouth stuffed with food. I tried telling her it's grossing me out but she just calls me bitchy and then acts like she's depressed. She says im underweight, but i'm not. I weigh 114, 5'5. That's average. I'm still losing 2 pounds a week, but it's all going away healthily. Anyway, if i go in my room, (like i was taught when i get in a bad mood) she follows me and lays on top of me. She thinks it's funny but her weight won't let me breath. All her crumbs are falling off her shirt on to my bed. Then i break out with acne. She irritates me so bad, how do i politely get away from her? I can't just ask her, she just ignores me when i say that.

Question: I have a problem w/ my mother, she is out of her mind. Im 30, moving out March 1st and came back to live home for a little over a year now..?

Posted: 14 Feb 2016 12:49 PM PST

My sister is a heroine addict and my mother has been supporting her habbit for over the years since Ive been home. She literally gives her all of her money and $24,000 in inheritances she's received this past year. Ive been warning her that she will get kicked out of her house because she has not paid taxes and now she got letters telling her that the bank has forclosed on her. I cannot really explain what type of low-lives they are. I don't smoke or drink and shes an alcoholic. She is the fakest person Ive ever seen and I know she speaks behind my back. My birthday was last week and she didn't even get me a card. I told her id take her out for lunch my treat on my birthday and she said okay but if I didn't lend her $20 she couldn't spend the day with me. I feel very strange vibes from her. She belittles me and has shown me through out the years that she doesn't truly want me to be successful in life. Im kind of losing my mind. What is the best way to handle this? Should I when I move next week just never contact her and change my number(although she would feel satisfaction from this in thinking that she has affected me to do so) or should I just try my best to remain cool like I have been for the past year living in a horrible situation. I should say that I gave her a lot of power the last week by explaining that I am no longer confident and that shes affecting me. If I leave and never contact again she would be okay with it because IM leaving with her in power over me.

Question: Bad mother relationship .need help.?

Posted: 14 Feb 2016 12:09 PM PST

I just turned 18 2 weeks ago and the past decade my realationship with my mother has been tolerable at best but only because we dont spend more than 2 minutes talking to each other .she says she loves me and whould never hurt me and everything she does is to help me but all she does is put me down ,pick on me and ignore me . She lies all the time ,she acts sneaky and manipulative and constently put her boyfriends and friends be for me and my older 2 siblings. One who no longer has had contact with her in 5 years and the other who for the last 3 years only continues to make small talk with her once a month so he can continue visiting me . My sibling and i have tried to talk to her many times but she doesnt change .along with famy members she hates my older siblings and in public she acts as if were close . Its scary to think that in her mind she sees our relationship as healthy .for years ive wanted to cut her out my life but im scared other family member will hate me because im not very close to them and my mom will manipulate the story .i dont know how to cut ties with her when i know shes just going to keep giving me false hope she'll change pls help i dont want to continue this toxic relationship.

Question: Give me one good reason not to kill myself tonight.?

Posted: 14 Feb 2016 12:05 PM PST

I have no friends. None. Everyone in school hates me. My parents? Right now my brother is banging on my door, shouting how I'm a psychotic good for nothing ***** just because I told him not to touch my books. My parents keep saying I'm stupid and I'm studying for nothing because I won't get accepted to college and they keep saying I won't do anything in my life because I'm a loser. I don't believe in heaven or hell. Who or what am I living for honestly?

Question: My mom and her husband are homeless?

Posted: 14 Feb 2016 11:56 AM PST

My mom hasn't worked in almost 30 years even though she is perfectly capable of working a job. She says she can't work because of her "condition" but the so called condition is all in her head. She married an ex prisoner who makes up stories about other family members just to stir up drama and feuds between family members, they've done this for years. The stories are so off the wall too. Both of them refuse to work and would rather sleep on the couch all day and live off the government. Now they are using my brother who has a true disability for money and a place to live. This could get him in trouble since he lives in a group home for people who have disabilities. I refuse to house them here because they are disrespectful, dirty and lazy. I have children and a family of my own and can't afford to support two lazy people who refuse to help themselves. I feel their situation was completely preventable because they choose to buy a car instead of pay rent, they were late on rent for MONTHS and never paid and her husband always started unnecessary confrontation with the landlord. Now other family members have sympathy for them and are in a way making me feel bad because i wont house them. I have my reasons! They have a history of just showing up unannounced and starting confrontation and being disrespectful. They did this when I had my two children at the hospital. How can I keep them away from me and my house? and why does other family have sympathy for these lazy fools? I want to also add that as a child my mother neglected us and raised us in unlivable conditions. We got taken to foster care many times because all she would do is lay around on the couch, never clean or take care of us. When I was 16 she threw me out on the streets because her boyfriend didn't want me staying with them. I was left to live in my car. She has back stabbed me so many times and i want nothing to do with her.

Question: Sister steals my stuff?

Posted: 14 Feb 2016 11:50 AM PST

I have an older sister who steals my stuff. If she sees something she wants she takes it. Mom is no help because she side s with her.

Question: My brother has a gun and gang equipment! What should I do? Please help (I'm really sorry if I posted this on the wrong side)?

Posted: 14 Feb 2016 11:47 AM PST

Question: Is this counted as a sister fight/sister brawl between my older sister and I???

Posted: 14 Feb 2016 11:38 AM PST

There was this one time years ago, I was probably either 10/11 years old and my older sister Jasmine and I were arguing about something with the computer in our computer room. We were at each other's throats and arguing. Then Jasmine went into the guest room and I followed her there. While she was sitting listening to get iPod, I kept talking sh*t to get face. Then when I got everything off my chest, I got up and walked away and then out if nowhere, Jasmine punched me on the back of my head. Then we started scrapping like crazy in the kitchen. I forgot what happened after that, but I do remember she wanted to permanently make us enemies, but I wanted to make up. We eventually did and I started crying. We both got cut on our finger. So was this counted as a sister fight/sister brawl between me and my older sister??

Question: I dont know how to feel about life?

Posted: 14 Feb 2016 11:21 AM PST

Im 13 and yesterday i practically begged to go to my friends birthday party. whill i was there, we had alot of fun. i went there at 3:00. at7:00 my dada asked me to leave there and that means all my friends leavetoo because i was getting a ride from my friends mom, so i asked for 30 more minutes. he said okay. but it turned out that they were staying until 9 so i asked him to either pick me up or let me stay until 9, but he said hell pick me up. after about an hour, i started getting worried so i called my mom. she was crying on the phone saying " you see you see what happend this all because of you" i thought something happend and i had no idea what was going on, and i started crying. this ruined my whole day. when i came back home my mom just kept balming me and what turned out to happen was that my dad got locked out of the car, and my mom couldnt find the spare key. all she did was blame me and she didnt even care about how i feel. /i dont know if I should hate her or be mad or give her the silent treatment. she does not feel like my mother any more, lately she makes me feel so low in life.

Question: Why do my dates keep telling me about their sister or that I remind them of their sister?

Posted: 14 Feb 2016 11:13 AM PST

Question: Is it time to start yet?

Posted: 14 Feb 2016 10:58 AM PST

When my uncle got off the plane, I knew he was sick, but I didn't trust my mom to take care of him. Now we're 3 weeks into the vacation, and I'm already starting to get lightheaded. Will this last, and should we go home before it gets worse? I already caught one of the old men that sits in front of his house, trying to take an action figure out of my suit case. With all the trees here, it's hard to see the mountains when you're not in the city, and I think some people notice that, because they fly here in planes instead of cars.

Question: What should I do about my boyfriends family?

Posted: 14 Feb 2016 10:50 AM PST

We've been together for 3 1/2 years so I don't wanna leave but I'm getting tired of how they treat me. We're both Mexican but we raised completely different, I don't speak perfect Spanish but at least I try. His dad is always picking on me because of that, they all do, makes me not want to even try. His younger sisters have all been rude to me especially the two youngest, one does it in a sneaky way which is annoying. He's always bringing his family to my house and doesn't even tell me and there rude, but yesterday I had enough of it. It was him and the middle sister (15) and she was playing with my smallest dog. He bit her because he wanted to play with my other dog but she wouldn't let him so she hit him and said not to hit her. I usually don't say anything to his family when there rude because I respect him. But yesterday was crossing the line, I just looked at him because he knows I don't hit my dogs like his family does. I just put my dogs in my brothers room. I don't know how to politely say "gtfo out of my house and don't you ever lay a hand on them again". I guess I expected him to stand up for me and my dog but I feel bad now for not saying anything. How do I tell him not to bring his family over anymore in a nice way? I never bring all my siblings to his house. Btw he's 20 and I'm 18, I love him and don't wanna leave. My sister was like "do you want his family to hit your kids when you have some" and heck no I dont. No one will lay a hand on my children.

Question: Im not one for putting my kids on medication. But she is getting of control??

Posted: 14 Feb 2016 10:34 AM PST

she gets so angry and throws things, breaks things, calls her brothers the devils when there not even doing nothing to her or in the same household. She yells at me, demads things from RIGHT NOW. Hits me, hits her brothers, steps on them, hit the dogs cuz they are in her way. yes been with therapist that hasn't helped.... i'm getting lost in what to do anymore. i try to talk to her, she has nothing to do with her father for over 10 years so nothing is going on in another household. she never has a babysitter. It's just school and us. Yes she is turning 12 in april and I know "teenage" attitude. But i think she is a little over extreme. I remodeled her and built a brand new bedroom, walls, carpteting, wall hangings bed, desk everything a girl could want and destroyed within a week.... Should she be on an anxiety medication?

Question: How can I make my nephew change his mind?

Posted: 14 Feb 2016 10:32 AM PST

He is 26 and his girlfriend is 22, she is from Hawaii and they met while she was visiting the UK He has decided to go back to Hawaii with her and "give it a go" I told him he is doing no such thing and is making a mistake, he told me I am not his mother and he will do what he wants. I told him he won't be able to cope, he barely knows this girl and is far too shy and introverted, not the type of person suited for travelling and emigrating. He is refusing to listen to me but I know he is not suited for this, he is not like other men his age, he is not outgoing and isn't interested in partying, he stays in many nights, again stays IN and never goes partying like normal young adults do.

Question: Someone please help!!!! Im in urgent need of advice!?

Posted: 14 Feb 2016 10:26 AM PST

This is the third time I have posted this question and everyone refuses to help me when I need it most. My family is very poor. My mom is working her butt of at three jobs just to keep the house and put food on the table. But some years even that is not enough. One year we almost lost the house. If she hadn't qualified for a program that cut our mortgage in half for a year, we would have lost the house. Shes basically putting herself in debt to try and keep me and my brother happy and healthy. Shes so stressed and i'm afraid it's gonna kill her. She just broke up with her boyfriend. He lived with us and was helping us pay the bills and such too. But now that he's gone it's gonna get a lot harder on us. She's really upset about the breakup too. My brother is going to be 21 in may, by he cant live on his own yet. He's working his but off at his job at the store to save money for an apartment once he goes of to university. He's in a junior college right now too. I cant get a job right now either cause I don't have a licence or a car, so even if I did get a job I wouldn't be able to get myself to the place. My mom also has some medical bills that are a little big. Everyone is so stressed out and I don't know what I can do! Just now I heard my mom go into the bathroom and run a bath, and now she's crying cause shes so sad and stressed! Help someone please!

Question: Why does my brother keep escaping mental health care? He is bipolar.?

Posted: 14 Feb 2016 10:17 AM PST

He gets out of the mental heath clinic after the insurance stops paying (~30 days) They just boot him out. I have no idea how to get them to accept him into long term treatment. They didn't even evaluate him this time, they just released him for my father to pick up. My dad and I, we are the only family he has, and we both work full time. In fact I work a part time job in addition to my full time one. We just do not have the ability to care for my brother. We do not have power of attorney. So, because of HIPAA we know next to nothing. Right now my brother is driving while on 3 medications that say, "Warning, may cause drowsiness. Take care when operating heavy machinery" He has credit cards (for now) and a cell phone too. And I have no idea where he is. What can I do?

Question: Should I say surgery is worse than they think?

Posted: 14 Feb 2016 09:58 AM PST

My mom got surgery for colon cancer. She is still in hospital since Wednesday. My mom talks like she is hoping to get home soon but I doubt it. My other brother lives with mom and he hopes she is home in a few days. My brother that lives away told me that the expectations of mom coming home soon may not be great and to tell my brother. Some people to tell me to just let them think it will be a few days. Isn't there a change that this surgery will prevent mom from being home soon and should I tell the brother that lives with her that it may be a while?

Question: Looking at how my mom bonds with my sister makes me so sad?

Posted: 14 Feb 2016 09:50 AM PST

when my sister stands with her in the kitchen my mom helps my sister cook and teaches her...but WHEN I stand in the kitchen and ask her to teach me shes like oh get out oh you dont know hwo to do anyhting....and then when my sister waxes my mom is helping her and when I wax she yells at me and tells me am wasting my time and i need to go study...it makes me so hurt how she doesnt bond wiht me like that :'(

Question: Im worried about my little brother he is obssesed with Frozen and always sings let it go his classmates make fun of him i know because?

Posted: 14 Feb 2016 09:37 AM PST

my friends little sister is there and she always tells him the hard time they give my little bro his whole room is full of Frozen right now while im typing this he is singing let it go HELP

Question: How to get past being maltreated by my boyfriends dad and uncle?

Posted: 14 Feb 2016 09:34 AM PST

I'm still sore about the situation when I remember it even though it happened 2 years ago. We rented a condo from his uncle while his dad was the landlord. I had collapses, dizziness, hair falling out and I attributed it to me getting older and a lack of nutrients in my diet as I was a vegan back then. Summer came and in Vegas it gets 115 degrees we went 2 months without AC!! WE contacted them and kept getting the run around. Finally when my boyfriend threatened to sue did we only get a new AC unit. When the guy showed up he asked what we did for heating for the winter. We told him that his father had someone come out and turn it on for us. He explained that when he came to inspect it that he told his father that the pipes had leaks and it would create Carbon Monoxide to get through. I was pissed!! I'm so lucky I didn't die!! My boyfriend didn't want drama so told me not to bring it up. He has apologized profusely for it. He thinks his dad didn't really think it would cause it and that it was more his uncles fault. I just need to know how to emotionally let go once and for all. The anger I feel when I think about it gets me physically sick. Please advise. Ty

Question: Brother wants me to be his childrens' guardian?

Posted: 14 Feb 2016 09:29 AM PST

My brother and his wife are perfectly healthy. They are just preparing for the worst. My brother and I are the only ones left living on our side of the family and on his wife's side of the family it is just her mother. The problem is I specifically designed a lifestyle that does not involve kids. I run an online business so I am able to travel. To put it blunt, I live a hedonistic lifestyle and there is no room for kids. What should I do? I told him I would think about it but I cannot imagine being responsible for kids.

Question: I am so intimidated by my younger sister?

Posted: 14 Feb 2016 09:27 AM PST

she always tries to show as if she can handle more responsibility than me...she always tells me what to do around the house even I COTINUOSULY tell her I do whatever I want to do and she cant tell me..then she goes to my mom and talk how sloppy I am how if she gives me this responsibility it wont end well..shes like two faced and then my mom would treat me bad always ask for her help never mines now my mom never trusts me with anything like wth...I am so over this i cant live in this family anymore...and i cant move out until i find my husband thats the rule and looks like my sister is trying so hard so she can get "husband" before me and my mom could say good things...we have 5 years difference gap btw. me and my sister

Question: Am I responsible for my brother's bad behavior....Read below?

Posted: 14 Feb 2016 09:26 AM PST

My mother is always asking me to discipline my younger brother for me. He has had rage issues ever since our father's suicide death six years ago. My brother will break things, call my mother a b.i.tch, yells the F word at her, and now is telling her she is the reason our Dad killed himself. I talk to my brother about it and even shoved my brother down when he pulled a knife out once, but I don't think I can fix him. Now he is 16 and I think he should go away for professional help before he is 18 and can no longer made to do anything. So what do I do? Am I responsible as the 26 year old brother? His twin sister doesn't do any of this nor did I or our other brother. Our other brother has anxiety issues so understandably cannot get too involved in this.

Question: What should I tell my teachers ?

Posted: 14 Feb 2016 09:24 AM PST

I'm a college freshman. In one month I'm going on vacation with my family. I will still have class. My professors are always saying how if you miss class you can't make anything up. I'm worried about missing class. My family already paid for it so I have to go. Also, I really want to go. My mom said I should tell my teachers and see if they will let me make up work or turn it in early but I'm afraid they'll get smart with me or get mad. What should I say or do? I'll be missing 7 days of class

Question: How do I get my mother to stop being so bitter and unforgiving towards people?

Posted: 14 Feb 2016 09:20 AM PST

Question: Are my parents being fair?

Posted: 14 Feb 2016 09:17 AM PST

So every Sunday morning at exactly 9:23 AM, my parents force me to go with them to breakfast. I'm usually very tired, as it is the weekend, and I always just want to go home. This morning, after breakfast, my parents decided to make a detour to go to the pet store. I opted for staying in the car while they went and got cat food, but they wouldn't let me. I eventually gave in, but I took out my phone the second we walked through the door. My dad told me that if I was on my phone the entire time, they would turn off my data plan for a long time. I turned my phone off, but continues to stay in that same place. My dad told me that if I stayed in the same place for that amount of time, they would stay even longer. A couple minutes later I took my phone back out. When we got back in the car, my dad informed me that I could choose between having my phone taken away, or my data plan turned off, all because I didn't feel like "interacting with life" ONE TIME in a pet store that I have been in a bunch of times. My dad has a long history of cruel and unusual punishments, but this one seems WAY overboard. Do you agree?

Question: Migliore amico che non si confida..?

Posted: 14 Feb 2016 09:08 AM PST

Io e il mio migliore amic ci conosciamo da circa 15 anni, siamo come fratello e sorella. Ho notato che peró, nonostante io mi fidi di lui e lui si fida di me, non mi racconta mai delle ragazze che gli piacciono, che conosce ecc.. Non riesco a capire perché. Non ha senso, ci diciamo di tutto ma poi non queste cose che sono le piú "normali"?

Question: I m 16 about 5 6 and 3/4 my older brothers are 5/8 and 5/9 my dad s about 5 7 3/4 mom s probably 5 3 is there any chance I ll grow more??

Posted: 14 Feb 2016 08:58 AM PST

Question: I'm a single father raising my 2 daughters.Their mom ran off with another man several years ago and I have sole custody.What are my options?

Posted: 14 Feb 2016 08:55 AM PST

She called me from prison yesterday and tried to apologize for her actions. She's doing 20 years for drugs. They don't want to know her and she's begging me to visit her with them. I told her I will have to think about that. What would you do? I want them to see their mom but they don't. So do I cut her off? She has no other family. That's what I'm trying to ask.

Question: How do I act around family members who don't like me?

Posted: 14 Feb 2016 08:55 AM PST

They love me as a family member but find me weird and hard to be around as I talk a lot (I have ADHD).

Question: What does it mean that a dead person is still with us?

Posted: 14 Feb 2016 08:50 AM PST

I was with my father yesterday at his late father's house and I mentioned how weird it seems to walk in without him there and my father said "he is always here". He died last March and so how is he still there? What does it mean "he is always with us"?

Question: My mom overreacts over everything (almost)?

Posted: 14 Feb 2016 08:37 AM PST

My mom overreacts when I don't know something about school. If I don't understand something I tell her to help me understand it. But no, she calls me a retard if I don't know. A few minutes ago, my mom called my sister something rude (for no reason) and my sister cried (she's young), then she yelled at her for crying. I don't know what to do, I am always happy when she goes to work. Please help me feel better, I am starting to dislike my mother.

Question: Extremely poor family, mom doesn't have enough money.?

Posted: 14 Feb 2016 08:36 AM PST

I posted this question before but I didn't get much of an answer, so here it is again. My family is very poor. My mom is working her butt of at three jobs just to keep the house and put food on the table. But some years even that is not enough. One year we almost lost the house. If she hadn't qualified for a program that cut our mortgage in half for a year, we would have lost the house. Shes basically putting herself in debt to try and keep me and my brother happy and healthy. Shes so stressed and i'm afraid it's gonna kill her. She just broke up with her boyfriend. He lived with us and was helping us pay the bills and such too. But now that he's gone it's gonna get a lot harder on us. She's really upset about the breakup too. My brother is going to be 21 in may, by he cant live on his own yet. He's working his but off at his job at the store to save money for an apartment once he goes of to university. He's in a junior college right now too. I cant get a job right now either cause I don't have a licence or a car, so even if I did get a job I wouldn't be able to get myself to the place. My mom also has some medical bills that are a little big. Everyone is so stressed out and I don't know what I can do! Just now I heard my mom go into the bathroom and run a bath, and now she's crying cause shes so sad and stressed! Help someone please!

Question: My sister wants to move in permanently. Would this be the best thing for everyone?

Posted: 14 Feb 2016 08:34 AM PST

I left my family to live with my girlfriend and we lived together for 4 years and were together for 7 years but that all changed a few months ago. The break up took a lot out of me and I'm still struggling to deal with it all especially since she moved out with our 2 year old daughter. My sister has had some problems in her life and at home and we always try to be there for each other. I'm 26 and she's 20 but we're practically best friends and I'd have crumbled without her advice and support. She's been hanging around a lot lately and has really helped and started to pay her way too. I like having my own independence but it feels weird not having anyone to talk or share things with. I miss not having my daughter around. My sister and I never had a father figure and our mother is so career driven. It's difficult.

Question: I act like I'm a mom?

Posted: 14 Feb 2016 08:33 AM PST

I'm a guy in my late teens. I have a problem where whenever my sister (who's a couple years younger than me) wants to see a rated R movie (for example) I start acting like I'm her mom. I tell her how violent it is and how I don't want to see it with her. I'm not offended by these movies, I just don't want her to see it, although I'm not a big fan of excessive violence. So.. I'm not even sure what my question is. Why am I acting like a mommy to my sister? I should be the cool older brother who takes her to stuff like that. If I were a girl this would be a little bit more acceptable, but I'm not.

Question: Well i feel down and angry at my self a lot nowadays and my dad says it would be better if i wasnt born and if i died. Im 15 and a boy. Help?

Posted: 14 Feb 2016 08:22 AM PST

Question: What is the cause of my aunt maliciousness? Is it becuz her husband is cheating on her?

Posted: 14 Feb 2016 08:17 AM PST

My aunt hates me (I was 13) and my mom. If she hates out of jealousy, where did the hate come from? I do get jealous of people, but i dont hate them. When her husband start to cheat on her (my dad bro), she tried to convince my mom that my dad was cheating on her to. She is not a good person, becuz she tried to break up my mom and dad by saying that my dad cheated on her and she told lies to my mom. One time we went to the beach and I almost drowned, and I saw her giving me an evil smile. She was happy that I gotten fatter (during my early teens years, but then I lost weight).

Question: Is this normal?

Posted: 14 Feb 2016 08:04 AM PST

ok so my sister started seeing this guy when she was 16 she secretly,she would tell my parents shes going to the shop then instead go to him,also she would have him sneak into her room late at night many times i caught him jumping in and out of her window i told 'mom' when she was confronted she denied it anyways one day my parents left and no one was home she imvited him over i was in the other room,she starts kissing this guy quite loudly i can hear it'no respect' it made me mad actualy anyways things got quiet so i went out the room i saw her beroom door closed i opened it and caught them having sex,anyways she denied this when i told 'mom' after that she introduced him to my parents ect,..but the strange thinmg is her bedroom is close to the lounge and she makes out with this guy loudly my parents and everyone can hear b ut they do nothing infact she makes out with him in front of my parents they do nothing i think its actualy disrespectful shes laying on top of him kissing him while he spanks her but my parents dont mind at all.they can see and hear everything,they lay under the bed together and im pretty sure he has sex with her while my parents sit in the lounge,is this normal behvour or should my parents do something?

Question: Is my mother trying to put me down? How to deal with her comments?

Posted: 14 Feb 2016 08:04 AM PST

My aunt said I look younger, and my mother said, "Do you know how old she is?! She is old!". Weird. My mother likes to tell everybody how old I am and she says, "She looks young, but she is old". My age used not to bother me, but nowadays I'm feeling old. I think it's because of my mother's comments. I already tried to talk to her about it, but it didn't work. She doesn't care about my feelings. And she makes those comments on purpose.

Question: How can I kindly ask my dad to stop calling me "baby"?

Posted: 14 Feb 2016 07:34 AM PST

It makes me uncomfortable.

Question: Why are the majority of the REALLY good Horror movies Rated R?

Posted: 14 Feb 2016 07:23 AM PST

The trailers look really good and that pisses me off sometimes because obviously we need to watch Rated R movies with an adult. And I'm born underneath a business family, so my mom and dad are constantly working. I have to watch over my little sister, and toggle the homework at the same time. I barely get to go out and watch those movies. And this is an asian family I am talking about, so my mom is like kind of strict with getting the homework done first before doing ANYTHING else. And it seems like she cares more about my education than how I feel in general. It's irritating, but I know that as a daughter that my mom is doing what is best for her kids.

Question: How much do you think upbringing affects kids?

Posted: 14 Feb 2016 07:09 AM PST

I have 4 sibilings and dozens of nieces and nephews. Ranging from ages 38 down to 11. All my brothers and sister married nice spouses except one. My oldest brother married a mean, cold vindictive woman. When the kids were little she had affairs all the time and burned through my brothers money while neglecting her kids. She often bullied the oldest one who was actually a very sweet kid well they eventually divorced but mom got the kids to come live w her and her much younger boyfriend by buying expensive things so the kids would pick her over their dad( that and guilt trips if they said no). and honestly they HATED AND FEARED their mother but sucked up to her to her face cuz she was so mean and would turn on anyone who didn't! Well eventually two of the three kids got into hard drugs for a while, they ALL had a kid by age 20 but the worst part is...they seem to be the most self centered, disrespectful adults of ALL my nieces and nephews. They are the only ones who don't come to family functions, and they don't ask about or check on any family members who are sick or need support. They do seem very close to each other though. Anyway why would this group of kids,we all had such pity for and who had such messed up lives grow up to behave like they were too good for the family?

Question: My family just separated after my parents dviroce..help?

Posted: 14 Feb 2016 07:00 AM PST

Well my parents have been divorced for maybe a little less than a year. BUT my father stayed in the house with us for quite a while to take care of my mom after her back surgery.. And well my dad had to move out..then after my mom's surgery she got a new job and met new people. She met a guy and if she's not working then they're together either hes over here and I'm trapped in my room or they're gone out together. My dad is in a whole other town. My oldest sister is a traveling nurse and she's so far away but she comes home in April just to stay for 2 weeks and leaves me once again. My older sister is already gone and is out partying and spending the night with her boyfriend. I hate it. My family has been together with 15 years. Nearly 16. I'm turning 15 in a few months. I feel lonely. I feel so lonely. I have friends but they dont help feel that void.

Question: I've been living in the countryside many years now & I'm so unsuited to it but my mom and dad are such heartless taxies. What could we do?

Posted: 14 Feb 2016 06:58 AM PST

Question: Why is my mom making it so hard for me to hang out with my dad?

Posted: 14 Feb 2016 06:52 AM PST

I haven't seen my dad in nearly 2 weeks and unless he takes me somewhere it seems like we can't hang out. He can't come over here and watch a movie or play the playstation with me. She can have her man friend over here yet I can't have my father. The divorce left my dad unprepared with no house so it's not like I can go down there. He's looking of course. He's always looking. She's always saying stuff like "Well he has his own life blah blah" or "His life doesn't revolve around you blah blah blah." I know that and my father and I already agreed to the plans before I even asked her about them. An hour or 2 is not enough to see my father. It doesn't make up for the almost 2 weeks I haven't seen him. And it made me so sad when my dad said he missed me. And he's been with me for 15 years and of course it's hard to adjust to not seeing me everyday. It seems like my mom only saw her own benefits out this divorce. She even told my sister's that my dad didn't have to do anything for them anymore (he's not their biological father). She didn't have to say that. He's been taking care of them since before I was born. Since before I was thought of and she thinks he's going to stop now?

Question: How to stop parents from forcing me to do something?

Posted: 14 Feb 2016 06:32 AM PST

I'm 14 and all my life my parents have tried to make me do as many things as possible. Right now I'm playing modified basketball which will end soon, then I will play modified baseball, along with my travel basketball team, then Pony league baseball in the summer. My parents want me to play travel baseball. I'm smart but I'm getting 80s in some of my classes partly due to the weight of all the sports so adding another won't help. Please help me convince to them that I shouldn't play on this baseball team. Thanks

Question: How do i stop resenting my mum?

Posted: 14 Feb 2016 06:24 AM PST

My mum has always favoured my sister more than me and said that when my sister was born it was like she finally had the daughter she wished I'd been. For my whole life, she's done nothing but remind me I'm everything she didn't want. I try so hard to gain approval, doing the chores, the cooking the laundry the ironing and my sister does nothing yet my mum seems oblivious of anything I do to help but if my sister ever does something it's practically celebrated. My mum expects me to praise everything my sister does too and constantly tells me about how good and honest she is without realising she smokes, and gets drunk. If we ever do something wrong, she makes excuses for my sister but never for me. I resent her for making me feel inferior all my life. How do I get past this?

Question: I dont know what do do! Im scared please help!?

Posted: 14 Feb 2016 05:38 AM PST

So i didnt wake up this morning because my stomach hurt but I had to go somewhere with my mom and brother. When my brother tried to wake me up, i fought him off becuase my stomach hurt. Then I couldn t find my glasses and my mom got mad and left me at home. Im 11. I dont know if im legally allowed to stay home alone. The thing takes as long as 2 hours i think.

Question: Does my mom have a shopping addiction?

Posted: 14 Feb 2016 05:18 AM PST

So she whines at me to get off if my ps4 cuz she think I have a video game addiction. Lies, I only play like 2 hours a day tops, cuz I'd rather be outside. I only play it for long periods of time when I'm grounded cuz what else am I suppose to do. So anyways she says all this when she's addicted to shopping. Cuz anytime she can she goes and buys clothes and shoes. At the moment shes housebound a lot cuz of my baby sisters. Cuz they twins and its hard to take twins out esp on your own. So She goes on her laptop and orders clothes to be delivered to our house. Like she's received 5 parcels this week. She can't even wear the clothes!! It's dresses and shoes and jackets and stuff u go outside to wear. She doesn't go out!! And she buys lots of makeup. And she buys gifts for random people, like the gardener, my teacher, my dads coworker who she never even met and my dad looked embarrassed to have to give a gift. Shes crazy. She buys me weird stuff too. Like these pants that u wear under jeans to keep warm. When winter in my country is almost over. Oh and a candle shaped like an owl. And a unicorn watch when I already a ton of watches. And pillowcases (why??? I don't need them). Don't u think she's addicted and very hippocritical??

Question: Why do you think my uncle lived with his mom until he was 42 yo and then...?

Posted: 14 Feb 2016 04:32 AM PST

His mom died and after 1 year he was married? He is my dad's brother. It was a strange situazione because my parents and I were neighbour with my dad's mom and my dad's brother. But we didn't talk each other. When I was a child I saw my grandma and uncle walking and I didn't say hello to them and they didn't say hello to me. When I was 8 yo my grandma died. She was in hospital but she didn't say anything to my dad. My dad found out and he went to the hospital with me. My grandma told to my dad she didn't want to see me. My dad got angry. When his mom died he refused to go to her funeral but my mom's Mother told him he was wrong. Then my uncle moved. He got married and my parents weren't invited but they found out. I saw him once when I was 12 yo with his baby daughter. Then I saw once when I was 21 yo and I didn't recognize him. I talked with my parents. My mom said my uncle was on drugs and once he asked her money and beated her up but he doesn't remember. She said my uncle thinks she is a bad person because he doesn't remember what happened. My parents told me he was on drugs for 20 years and he stopped when his mom died. My dad doesn't want to talk about his brother. My parents and my maternal grandma told me my paternal grandma only loved my uncle and not my dad. A lot of people tells me my paternal grandma was a bad person and I'm lucky she died. My uncle has a 16 yo daughter and I saw her on Facebook. I think she doesn't know she has a first cousin (me).

Question: Roommates problem/sisters problem?

Posted: 14 Feb 2016 04:07 AM PST

My sister and i shares the same room for about like 6 months and there are some things that we just can't get along.Such as, loud music till late night-morning(sometimes)She likes to listen to loud music and it annoys me so much because i have school in the morning and she needs to go to work in the morning aswell.Whenever i told her to turn down the volume,she just ignores me or sometimes she does what i said but soon,she will secretly turn up the volume.She is 10 years older than me .Sometimes i would do my schoolwork at night and i would turn on the table lamp but the table lamp's light is not that bright because i would always make sure its facing the wall(so it will not be that bright since she likes to switch off our room lights so early )and she gets so mad when i do that and starts screaming and she says that she wants to go to sleep but seriously?the light is not the ******* bright and our room is big and she says that she wants to go to sleep ..while blasting loud music?and how the hell can i do my work or sleep or just be there!?what about me!**** what should i do or what would you do.Lastly,I'm sorry for my bad english/grammar

Question: My mother thinks she is so great?

Posted: 14 Feb 2016 03:11 AM PST

My mother gets offended and screams at me whenever I tell her to let my father enjoy his time on the weekends because he has to work all day on the weekdays. For example, my mother yelled at me because I told her to let my father watch the movie he wants while she was watching a drama she can watch any other time. My father has to work 12-13 hours everyday except on the weekends. Can't my mother let my father enjoy his time? Besides, she can watch the drama any other ******* time. She says she works so hard and gets offended when I point out that my father works a whole lot harder. Like ***** please, she is able to eat and live in a house because of the money my father earns. She's so self-centered and acts like she's the one who does everything. And my father, who is way too gentle and kind, lets my mother have her way and agrees with the false statement that my mother works harder. How do I make her realize that she isn't as great as she thinks she is?

Question: Why should I forgive or forget that my husband cheated on me?

Posted: 14 Feb 2016 02:51 AM PST

When I got together with my husband, I told him there were three things that I wouldn't put up with: lying, cheating (all forms), and abuse (all kinds). My husband cheated on me and, I left him last year. I won't stay with someone who violated my trust. My husband says that I should forgive and forget. That's not going to happen. I'm done, and I want to move on with my life.

Question: Are there any iPhone apps that can help our situation?

Posted: 14 Feb 2016 02:49 AM PST

My mother and I have been sensing some changes in my younger brother s(14yo) behaviour. The last we heard from him about his new iPhone he got for Christmas, he had downloaded a Facebook app called "messenger" he is always on his phone now-a-days and we can t seem to get through to him when he is angry. We think the causes of him being so angry may be Facebook messages on his phone. How do my mum and I look at his messages without seeming intrusive. Are there iPhone apps that you can get to obtain his private messages on Facebook?

Question: Molested or not?

Posted: 14 Feb 2016 02:29 AM PST

a few yrs ago my cousin claimed that her brother touched her. at first i was like wtf u serious? but now i can see right through her. she used to be very clingy to our nan, she even lived with her for a few yrs. then our nan got offered a job out of the town and she told my cousin that she wasn't going to take her (bc she wanted her to finish school there) and instead she was going to take her brother. she got extremely angry about this and even slits her wrists. few days later everythings cooling down. until like 2 wks before my nan moves out, my cousin out of no where accuses her brother of touching her a couple months back. it obviously became this big thing. but it also led to my nan not being able to take the brother with her bc he had court to take care of. i've known him my entire life, he never once mentioned anything sexual or done anything to me, or his cousins. he is probably the most genuine and caring person i know! anyway, she went to live at a foster home. but what i don't get is if he did do something to her, wouldn't she have tried to avoid him (they lived in the same house with our nan)? but while i was there, they were literally always together. the trial is over and he pleaded not guilty, but she's still trying to ruin our family. i believe she has mental issues as well. i also believe she did this because my nan didn't want to take her, and since she couldn't go she didn't want her brother to go. what do u think?

Question: Who he be the father for sure?

Posted: 14 Feb 2016 02:17 AM PST

Question: Honestly, which is more ideal for our grandson: to live with us or with his dad?

Posted: 14 Feb 2016 02:02 AM PST

Our grandson is 4.5 y/o. His mom, our daughter, passed away in 2013, and his dad works as engineer and is barely home. The boy is watched by a nanny until his dad returned at 7 pm. They live in a small 2-bedroom flat in NYC. My son-in-law is 30 and has started dating again, and sometimes stayed out overnight. My grandson told me a woman slept in their flat once. I don't like the sound of it. I would understand if he's serious with 1 woman, but he's just having flings (my niece also lives in the city, so she knows, more or less; he would never tell me himself). I don't say the boy's neglected, but sometimes he got bruises falling from his scooter or playing in the park. The point is, his dad is barely there and he can be quite a handful for the nanny. On the contrary, we live in New Jersey; our house is big and has a lawn. It's just perfect. He can live with us and his dad can visit on weekends. This will offer him stability (I hate the idea of a wicked stepmom in the future), and his dad will have more freedom too (I suppose women prefer widower without kids). The problem is, our son-in-law doesn't like me (long story) and he refused (without giving reasons) probably only to get back on me. Likely he influences our grandson as well (by saying things about me) b/c the boy says he prefers to stay with his dad (who's barely home) than with us, which is illogical. I've been nice with my son-in-law, but he doesn't budge (he's no talker either). What can I do to convince him?

Question: Where do I draw the line when it comes to the support of my mother in law and her family?

Posted: 14 Feb 2016 01:57 AM PST

It s a bit difficult situation because we started as a way to help them immediately since the mother lost her husband and couldn t work, has a teen daughter that s in college and along the way she (sister) got married to another young guy who hasn t really found work (This which we found out recently). They were in Ukraine so we thought we can manage because of the lower living standard. At first we thought it was temporary, that they d get back on their own feet, they said they have no one to turn to. I had protested about the amount of money we should be giving them, as we can t always give them what they want, they re not financially responsible and have a hard time sticking with what we can provide them. So there s always extra expenses, and we can t really keep tap of things from here, and we know that sometimes they abuse it. But I hate fighting about it because my husband feel guilty about them living like the average people there (which according to them is really poor), and it puts alot of stress on him.I know my husband has a hard time saying no. Now they might be evicted from their house because the mom made the mistake of using her house as collateral years back, and they seem to be expecting us to pay for a new place. Which I was totally against the idea, I don t know when it comes down to it will my husband choose their side or mine. I feel like I can either bare with it or our marriage will suffer.

Question: What do I do?

Posted: 14 Feb 2016 01:46 AM PST

My little brother is blackmailing me with a horrible secret. He is blackmailing for all of my things. How do i handle??