What changes after marriage? If you've been living with your girlfriend for years, what suddenly changes when she becomes your wife? She takes your name and sign a piece of paper. So what? It's just formalities, right?

every chubby or fat girl i have known my entire life gets slim or even skinny for their wedding and then becoem slobs right after...whats the fckin point? since they do that they must know they are fat slobs so why put all that effort into getting healthy for that day and then becoming a slob again as soon as its over. I dont know why but it repulses me....id almost rather they just stayed fat and realized the man is marrying them bc he is deserate or she is rich

A married friend of mine told me that she will marry me if she ever gets divorced... And she brought it up out of nowhere?! Didn't sound like she is kidding either. What do you think she means?

We ve known each other for 12 years and I ve done this the whole time. It s like he wants someone that s not me. He knew I was like this when we not together but now all the sudden he s not happy. I want my husband back but I m not quitting drinking and doing my laundry so I need some advice please thank you

My husband and I left each but haven t gotten a divorce. We made a verbal agreement on how we would share the boys. Monday -Thursday they are with me. Fridays they go with him because I work Saturday. Every other Saturday they ll stay with him. Every other Sunday they re supposed to spend all day with him. As of 2 months ago he returns them to me Sunday at noon if not earlier. We agreed Fridays he would pick them up no later than 9 p.m. and he s been picking them up after 10.

some men have pants so tight or high you can see one nut on this side and one on the other and "peter" being choked by the pant seem... come on folks... respect yourself.

Ignores me, plays on her phone and constantly asks me for more. Is this normal? I work so hard for my family

I'll try not to be overdramatic or long winded, but this is the situation: I met a woman via Facebook who lived locally, and we became very close to each other, spending countless hours either online, texting back and forth, or meeting up with each other for romantic dates. Many evening were spent simply holding each other, although no sex or heavy petting was involved. After two months, she suddenly stopped answering her phone, closed her Facebook account, and always had somewhere she needed to be when I would see her in town.She later told me she needed her space and just wasn't ready for a relationship. Ironically, after 2 months of silence, she contacted me again and we began catching up--it was all good until she decided to casually mention she was seeing someone, which culminated in the end of the conversation and me blocking her on all my social media accounts. Since the past year, she periodically tries to contact me despite me ignoring her texts and blocking whatever new account she made to contact me on social media. The messages are generally to the tune of "Can we talk now? 10 minutes and I promise I won't bother you anymore" or "Is there a way we can put this behind us somehow?" I don't understand why she is so pressed on salvaging a friendship if she made her decision to ditch me for another guy. She got what she wanted, she's got her man now, what does she need me for? I'm just confused and upset everytime she contacts me....thanks for listening

I know the Bible says it's wrong, but I've been taught that we are under Grace... not the law. My parents both have had sex before marriage, yet they want me to wait? (They still don't know I'm not a virgin.) To me it's not a "sin." To me it's a way of knowing if you are sexually compatible with someone. That alone can make or break a marriage. So it it just a generational view? Or what? Because all of my friends don't see anything wrong with it. We are all adults, just so none of you flip out on me about the age of consent (I'm 20, my friends are anywhere from 18-25.) My parents make such a big deal of having any "appearances of evil." Why is sex before marriage so wrong in their eyes, but everyone else I know my age says it's fine? I never said I was sleeping around... I've only had sex with 2 guys. One of which is my current boyfriend. We do use protection and I am on birth control. You have a misunderstanding of the emotional connection that comes with sex. An emotional connection only can happen when there's true love to begin with. I felt no extra heartache after the ex I had sex with (boyfriend at the time we had sex) and I broke up as I did with my other ex's. If being sexual compatible means nothing... then why do so many people get divorced over it, or are in unhappy marriages?

Zoheb Khan Goa 28

As the husband/man in the relationship, I know my role is to be the protector (don't give me crap about it not being the 1950's - let me have this). So I go out in public and I deal with people for my wife that may be let down and harshly hold us accountable for us letting them down (i.e. people expecting others to please them then being abusive when their expectations aren't met - just like our parents and our former bosses). And for the most part I'm pretty good in public with civilized people (sometimes I don't know when people's feelings are hurt so that makes it difficult for me in social settings - but I'm getting better at that), but there are times when I deal with people and I can tell by their tone of voice, body language, verbiage, or them being aggressive (not to be confused with assertive) that I'm not dealing with a civilized person and that puts me in a panic because I don't know how to handle these people without giving them what they want (people pleasing). I actually had it happen last week. A neighbor (apparently an uncivilized man) came over and demanded I cut a treat down that was in my yard that was dead. He called me a fvcking pusssyasss and told me he was going to kick my asss if I waited for my income tax check to come in because he wanted it done NOW. And since I am a weak, powerless man, I did what any person trying to protect his family from an uncivilized gun owner would do - I had that tree cut down 2 days later and put it on my credit card... It's talk sideways Friday (the weekend can't come fast enough).... What I'm trying to ask is: What are telltale signs of an abuser versus a healthy and civilized person? I can't tell the difference, that's why I do "bubbles" and "boxes" because I can remind myself the patterns of behavior for an abuser and I can put my guard up (it is normally down). THE TREE THING --- This question isn't about a tree. This question is about how I can judge a person's character to determine if they are abusive. When the neighbor approached me in the past he seemed normal to me... A little redneck, but normal since I can't tell what is abnormal behavior since I'm a pretty accepting guy IRL... But when he aggressively demanded this tree to go down, it caught me off guard because I didn't know he was capable of that... How do I spot these abusers in public? ............. You know.... I really need to learn how to explain my feelings and questions better.... Everyone gets so distracted by the details that don't matter and can't see what I'm trying to say..... Yes, I admit it, I'm an idiot. A very uneducated, low class, arrogant, ignorant, scared, and unworthy of this life idiot; but you could at least ask questions of clarity instead of kick me while I'm down..... I am trying to OWN MY SHYT and you guys are just so cruel to me :( You know. I think I understand the problem. When you read my questions, you aren't reading them from a man who's GENUINELY SCARED. You're reading them like I'm a snot nose teenager who is condescending and like those spoiled brat children you see on TV.... I don't have an ego if I'm telling people I realize I'm worthless. I'm not an abuser but I do argue with people who don't understand what I'm trying to say.... If only I knew myself well enough to show you who I really am :( ??? You have me blocked and I don't care to have a sock talk to you today so I'll update the question to say: So I have to allow other people to be angry, violent, abusive, and destructive and just watch my own behavior to make sure I don't do anything to make them angry back? Forget about holding the angry person accountable, I have to just mind my P's and Q's? Sounds like blaming the victim to me... Again, I just want to spot abusers, not be told about a tree anyways. :( I don't care if you answer this question any more, I'm done with it and won't be looking at your answers any more. I open up my heart to discuss something serious and you all rip into me... Babehart was right, this website is just full of mentally ill bullies. :(

I haven't ever had a relationship but once, I was in college twice but stopped because of family issues, I start back in fall. And I will be 27-28 by the time I'm done. I want kids and a husband but I just don't have time. Im working on building myself back together. I suffer from low self esteem due to all the bad things my family said to me when growing up.I just feel useless and hopeless. All my friends have kids and bfs. And my Mom says I'm getting to old not to and every guy have kids. I just don't know about anything anymore.

I got married at 19 to my husband who's 20. We didn't know each other for long maybe a month. We met in July, started dating in August and got married in September. It started off great. We were just like in all ways. Slowly he began to tell me I have dress differently. I have to be different. Everything started to be my fault. He began to accuse me of cheating on him. He stopped trusting me. He constantly brings up my ex (I was in an abusive relationship for 4 years) . Checks my phone every often. Every little thing bothered him. We've been married 7 months. We argue EVERYDAY to a point even my mom began to say "dam everyday he has some issue with you". I can't take it no more this arguing has made me grow very distant. I told him I was unhappy and he said he was going to kill himself. On this night I chased him for a mile around the blocks to try to stop him. When i finally got him to come home he started to look for bleach/ammonia to drink. I was about to call the police. The next day he told me he was just joking and lying to get my attention. I have no social life. Which is no problem but he doesn't want me hanging out with friends or having Instagram, Facebook, Twitter or snapchat . I've always communicated w/ him how I feel. Today I woke up and I feel so unattractive to him . I feel so disconnected. I don't want to be with him. I can't have sex with him . I'm not sure what to do. Have anyone ever felt like this ? What did you do to fix it? I need advice.

expecting a baby in May. Myself and my two sons moved to another state when I left my husband. But we are now all civil and get along. Every so often my son behaves abusive towards his wife. His wife tells me about it. There was another incident recently. She asked if I could have a serious talk with him, and his brother. I think his father should have the talk with him, since his father is the one who modeled the behavior, and he should tell him NOT WHAT TO DO, and how serious a problem it could turn out to be. What should I do?

Or is it a better place to ask serious questions. I see the same person post the same thing ALL the time. What is YOUR opinion?

Also, how do I stop people pleasing after all these years of trying to not rock the boat?

About a month ago I found out my wife had an abortion behind my back. We have been married for less than a year and we're both 22/23. We are young but she NEVER said she wanted to wait. We found out we were pregnant and she and I were both ecstatic, or so I thought. Then when she was 4 months pregnant I traveled to the US for work, from Norway. She traveled back home to Sweden and had a 4 month abortion (its legal there). She called me on the phone and lied to me saying it was a miscarriage. Now I found out she had an abortion, lied, and I don't know what to do. I'm pissed the fück off, and I already left her, started fücking some other girl out of spite, but I miss her and love her, but I'm even more angry and hurt at her betrayal. What should I do? :( my mom and sister hate her now, and I know I should too. And no, there is no way this child could NOT be mine. She was a virgin on our wedding night, and I was with her every night, there is no way it could have not been mine. I know it was mine, that is why I am livid.

We've been together 7 years, married for almost four. We were having a fight because he didn't want to go to an event my work is having with me. He said he didn't feel like it and that he's tired of going to them. It's the busiest time of the year for the firm I'm having. I'll admit that I'm kind of a workaholic during this time. My boss or clients call and email me constantly. And he said my job was unimportant which I knew he doesn't mean and was just saying it to make me mad, which made me more mad. He was raising his voice to me which he never does and I was raising my voice at him too. So I was going to walk out and he grabbed me. I told him to let go and he wouldn't. I tried to shake it off and pull his hand off my wrist but then he grabbed my free hand. He said, "If I let go, will you stay and talk to me in a mature manner."l said I didn't want to talk to him. He said he'd wait so I agreed to stay. He apologized for saying those things to me and raising his voice. Then he said he hates when I leave the house during an argument because I'm not giving him a fair chance to work it out. He said he knows I'm busy but he wants me to be more present when I'm at home. I said I shouldn't have yelled at him. I'm still mad at him for the wrist thing. He said he was trying to rationalize with me, not hurt me. I felt powerless in the moment and I don't want him thinking he can manhandle me whenever. Should I drop it or be more clear about it bothering me so he apologizes?

I'm a 24 year old guy with divorced parents. My standards have been set too high with regards to searching for women because I fear that one day I will end up like my parents - divorced. I understand that everyone has flaws, I just don't know where to draw the line. Everyone's getting married around me and I'm still single. Do you think most marriages are built around "you're good enough"? Or do you think they're both actually madly in love with each other? Do I just keep waiting until I "fall in love" with someone, whatever that means? I'm a little lost here.

If so or if not provide why DISCLAIMER:I am NOT ok with it but I've always wanted to see both sides of the argument Also I mean either cheating or divorcing not both When answering pleases elaborate on why you think that way and I have no experience on the subject

I have court ordered sole-custody of my son and my ex-husband has court ordered standard visitation (every other weekend from Friday 6 PM to Sunday 6 PM) with alternating holidays. My son and I are both vegan. Can I make him follow by this strict diet?

it will be 8 years in july since we've beenmarried. last year around our annivarsary is when he became the man i no longer recognize, lie after lie infidelity. he denies every little bit of it even when confronted with solid proof. for now i want to give it a chance we just had our 3rd baby... i want things to work out. but his affections i don't want right now...not until i see he truly stands behind his words....

So me and my husband have been married 2 years and been together for 10, and lately he's been a horndog. ( I'm trying to keep it clean) Lately he's been fondling me more ,and calling me nicknames he hasn't used since highschool and even bought me some lingerie, he's been kissing me more than ever and we've had sex more this week than any other week we've been together and he even sexted me while at work a couple times and while I'm enjoying it I am kinda worried .. Should I worry about this? This has been going on two weeks. He got promoted at work if that has anything to do with it .

we went to a party at her friends and she was wearing leather leggings was a big turn on but I didnt tell her that. she had the leggings for a while but she rarely wears them Does is it annoy women that you get turned on by something they wear rather than them? if thats the right way to say it? I mean I dont get that turned on normally. so would that make her feel bad that its the leggings that turned me on? not sure if I'm making sense LOL

Edit Husband got up one day, told me we weren't going anywhere in our relationship, he was DONE he's not in love will always love me but we're like roommates that have sex. He stopped coming home 2 days later and got his own apartment about 2 weeks later.. I found out he's with a woman he had previously cheated on me with he's very public with her.. We have a daughter so he wants to be friends "for the baby". He still: has a bunch of stuff at our apartment, his house and gate key, but he knocks when he comes over once a week to see the baby. Since then every time he sees me it's like he HAS to touch me: touching all over my face, I invited him to the bar once he touched my middle back to push me closer to the bar then he put his hand on my hip to move me to the side, adjusting my clothes, gave up his jacket to me walked me to my car. Last week he started asking for hugs. Yesterday he was holding the baby and insisted on a hug I said no, he put the baby down and tackled me to the couch for a hug, he hugged me while I stood there finally I hugged him.. he was trying to talk to me I was just texting he grabbed some of his stuff and tried urging me to talk to him and and he kept looking over my shoulder. Finally he sat down he looked really upset I wasn't talking to him 30 minutes later he left, once again all touching my face shook my hand said hopefully I actually talk to him next time because being on the phone with company doesn't make friends and left He also NEVER talks about the new girl to me he never mentions his girl or her name. We talked about her maybe once and he's ok that I don't want her near our kid, and he's blocked me as if he's trying to keep me from seeing things about him and her. It almost seems like he's embarrassed he calls her someone or people he doesn't even say my girl or lady or her name.. Also no divorce has been filed but I put in for child support

Me my wife how met when I was 22 she was 31 we were only together for 5 years then we divorced separated cuz I believe she has helped pregnant with a married man now she been sleeping with other married men as well as well as promising them children now she has targeted my friends I was staying with having sex with him. To get me booted out. I went back to live with my dad now she is now involved with my dad having sex with him and trying to get pregnant by him to have his baby as baby number two she will not say who was the first baby or admit to who the father is.

I told her to wear a white tshirt with no bra and we would go out to eat. She has large breast and are easily seen through tshirt. She actually did it. I can't believe she would walk around showing herself off like that. I'm upset about this now because I was only joking around with her.

He thinks he should get the most food at dinner time, more spending money for himself, better everything and make all of us go without or get the bare minimum. I am pregnant with our third child and he says its more important for him to eat first and get the most at dinner because he works a job and me and the kids dont. Do you agree with him?

In 2004 I lost my 19 yrs old son in Iraq,he was a Marine. In 2014 I met a woman 2 years younger. It was hard talking about him with her,but after some time I started to talk about him with her. We were in the car couple of hours ago and started talking about Iraq War. She knows what my opinion is about it.My son fought there because we don't end up fighting them on our soil.I support our troops,however she started saying that we went there for oil and all of that bs.We went into a fight,and she firmly said I was wrong. After we got back home I tried to make peace and when I tried to kiss her she pulled away.She had to go to work after that. Am I the bad guy here??? Gosh I don't get it,I tried to make peace and finally when I tried to kiss her she PULLS AWAY?? I don't know what should I do when she comes back home,if I should pretend it didn't happen or just put up a fight.

Wife cheated with ex

First of all, I love my husband. Late last year, we went on this private rental yacht together with the kids. Days before we packed up for the trip, he took me to get a full Brazilian wax. I did not know why I needed that since my outfits did not require that type of waxing. Then during our trip, he discarded my one pieces and handed me a high cut Brazilian bikini and a pair of 6 inch heels. He insisted that I wear it and sunbathe in it while the kids were around. I told him absolutely not but he kept persuading me that since I have a slim figure, these types of bikinis were made for me. I still refused until he reminded me of all the great things that he had provided for my family. Since I do love him, that bargaining chip was enough for me to cater to his demand. It was a very awkward feeling having to be in a tiny bikini the whole trip while picking up wedgies constantly as the kids played around. Here is a link to a picture of the exact type of bikini bottom he made me wore. https://farm2.staticflickr.com/1477/25232704796_c7a2df43fa_c.jpg Since then, we had been on two more yacht trips this year. Again, he made me wore skimpy high cut Brazilian bottoms in front of the kids. My fear is he will soon gravitate to making me wear thong bikinis in front of the kids. In your opinion, is my husband reasonable? Is it ethical to wear these outfits in front of kids? Would you do the same thing if your loving husband asks you to? My kids are 6 and 4. It's not his kids. He told me that the kids were too young to know what's going on that is why he wants me to do whatever he asked. He only makes me wear skimpy outfits when we're in the yacht. At the resorts, I'm allow to wear shorts. The reason why I always complied to his requests is because I used to be a single mother who worked the graveyard shift doing general labor for minimum wage. With him in our life, I could now stay at home. I mean which girl wouldn't want that?

My husband and I have been married over a year now, and we have sex about 3 times a week, sometimes more, and rarely less. Sometimes we have sex twice a week if one of us isn't feeling well or just not into it at the time, but that's a rare occasion. I am the one who usually tries to initiate it by asking if he is in the mood, and if he isn't then I let it go and let him initiate it when he is ready. I want to stop asking so much for it, but am scared that if I stop asking then it will drop to maybe 2 times a week, I get scared it will drop because sometimes he seems to occupied by other things and I sometimes feel like he forgets. He told me that it would most likely remain the same if I don't ask unless its one of those weeks where we don't feel good or whatever. I want to trust him on it, but I am just afraid of it being less every week then when I initiate it. I think I do have a higher sex drive than he does. Any advice? Serious answers only please.

My wife will do my laundry, fold it, then put it away about 1/4 of the time..she won't cook supper because we're currently in my parents house but were renting and don't have a stove (just moved apartments last guy was overcharging)..she picks up our apartment above from them some of the time, but other then that she usually just sits around..she's 38 weeks pregnant, is this why she is doing this?

Husband got up one day, told me we weren't going anywhere in our relationship, he was DONE he's not in love will always love me but we're like roommates that have sex. He stopped coming home 2 days later and got his own apartment about 2 weeks later.. I found out he's with a woman he had previously cheated on me with he's very public with her.. We have a daughter so he wants to be friends "for the baby". He still: has a bunch of stuff at our apartment, his house and gate key, but he knocks when he comes over once a week to see the baby. Since then every time he sees me it's like he HAS to touch me: touching all over my face, I invited him to the bar once he touched my middle back to push me closer to the bar then he put his hand on my hip to move me to the side, adjusting my clothes, gave up his jacket to me walked me to my car. Last week he started asking for hugs. Yesterday he was holding the baby and insisted on a hug I said no, he put the baby down and tackled me to the couch for a hug, he hugged me while I stood there finally I hugged him.. he was trying to talk to me I was just texting he grabbed some of his stuff and tried urging me to talk to him and and he kept looking over my shoulder. Finally he sat down he looked really upset I wasn't talking to him 30 minutes later he left, once again all touching my face shook my hand said hopefully I actually talk to him next time because being on the phone with company doesn't make friends and left He also NEVER talks about the new girl to me he never mentions his girl or her name. We talked about her maybe once and he's ok that I don't want her near our kid, and he's blocked me as if he's trying to keep me from seeing things about him and her. It almost seems like he's embarrassed he calls her someone or people he doesn't even say my girl or lady or her name.. Also no divorce has been filed but I put in for child support

I would rather lay in bed and do myself every morning. It is much easier.