I'm 22. I still live at home.Ever since I was little she's always would me upset. I've been through depression for years. She used to be worse but here's what bugs me. I have resentment towards her for past hurts. I do love her. She irritates me a lot sometimes though. Iwas doing the dishes and I didn't even do anything to her or my sister they are in the next room talking about me because yesterday I forgot to start the dishwasher it was an accident though. And my sister was saying how she has seen one of my washed dishes with food still on it because I didn't scrub it right which irritated me because I've had to rewash her dishes before because of the same thing but I've never talked about her for it because I knew she didn't do it on purpose. So it really started irritating me so I stood up for myself an talked to them while doing dishes saying how I forgot to turn the dish washer on because I was so busy. And that I've also had to redo my sisters dishes that's she didn't wash correctly. And I tired my hardest to not be snappy. But my mother called me an asshole an them they started saying how mean I am and that I was mean to them yesterday when I wasn't. All I did yesterday was snap at my sister an told her to stfu because I threw away left over beans that had sat on the counter all night and day that she walked past all day an didn't do anything about but yet when I cleaned it up I threw it down the garbage disposal and she takes like a 6 second sigh while walking past Me and says the beans should be thrown into the garbage bin. Its so irritating she always does those littling things for no reason. I guess because she wants to feel right about something idk Yesterday I hung out with my sister being nice an talking an today she says I was mean just because I shaped at her over what she said about the beans when I was cleaning. :( So my mother proceeds to text me when I'm in my bedroom away from them because I was crying because my feelings were hurt. And she tells me how mean I am and that they don't understand it. I haven't even been the slightest mean to them all week besides me snapping at sis by saying stfu. And today when I stood up for myself an I wasn't even mean about that. It just hurts me so much. I said I didn't do anything to them and my sister said if you believe that then you have a real problem.. I love them so much. But I don't know what to do. I know sometimes I have been mean but so have they! They make me feel like they just think I'm horrible. Im so upset I just want to crawl in a hole and die I'm so sick of being the "mean one" they never seem to look into a mirror and realize maybe I snap at them when I do is because their bitches. My mother even made a comment saying use your brain. When she thought I did something wrong when I actually didn't do what she thought I did. She always blames things on me when I don't do anything. I feel like I might go crazy. I'm so upset I can't stop crying. I'm also very irritated o got mad an threw my phone am even punched something. I hate feeling like this. They were talking about me an I told mother the reasons as to why that hurt my feelings and pissed me off to where I stood up for myself . said they were talking behind my back. And she replayed with It wasnt behind ur back..u were RIGHT THERE". Dont that kinda make it worse -_- they were talking behind my back because I heard em lower their voices ...

We are broken up right now i want to win the love of my life back, but we live in two separate states. about 2.5 hours, we also have children, both under 24 years old, should i give up on this high paying job and take this chance? my heart says yes but the doubt is saying no when i could use this job for our kids.

it bothers me so much. i love her and all but i get super anxious that she ll sneeze into my food or cough or something. her cooking has made me sick too. my mom forces me to eat her food and it makes me worry since she s growing older and weaker. I m almost 16 and don t know how to cook either. please help.

So my birthday is all the way in April. But she's already planning a party. I never said I wanted one. And she's planning something real immature. Cuz she just toad me to come look at some party stuff on a website. She toad me to choose what gift bags I want to put candy and stuff in for my guests. And then said to look at all the little cute candies they do, like mini chocolate champaigne bottles (encouraging kids to drink). And chocolate hearts in different colored foil, which should be only for valentines day. Imagine me giving my friends chocolate hearts. And the bags are terrible. Like stripy and ribbony or with dumb phrases like yolo. Then I said I didn't want them and she said go upstairs then and be a baby while she organizes things Wtf. I don't even want a party!! I've not had a birthday party since I was like 9 and the only people who came were sympathy guests. I have friends now but I don't want a kid party. Why does she have to live vicariously through me??? She has daughters now! She can live through them. And I complained go my dad and he said suck it up cuz shes doing it for herself to feel better. That don't even make any sense

I am at my wits end. I am a 23 year old female dating a 26 year old male. I am almost finish with college and am in the process of learning bartending. I make about 20 dollars an hour, and have ambitions of becoming a journalist. My boyfriend is 26, lives at home with his dad, has no aspirations of going to college because he said he tried in and it "made him depressed." okay, fine, but he also refuses to get a job, because he doesn't want to do a job he hates. And he says every job he can think of he would hate to do, so he just is building credit card debt. He has no ambitions and he also is very controlling of my life, even though he isn't doing anything with his. He has never had a job where he made over 10 dollars an hour and I am afraid he is just waiting for me to move so he can mooch off of me like he does his dad. I am afraid he won't take me seriously when I confront him about his immaturity because I am afraid he will play the "what do you know, you're 23"

So here's the deal: They are so strict about everything, especially compared to all my friend's parents! My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years now. We've been sexually active for 1 1/2, but I can't tell my parents because I would be grounded until the day I moved out. I asked to be put on birth control and my parents said no, and that "it's an excuse to whore around". WHAT!? Yeah, I don't get that either. So I gave up on that until this summer when I turn 18 and can get it myself. We aren't allowed to be alone together, unless it's driving, or at a store or something. We aren't allowed to spend the night together. (He has to be out of my house by 10pm). I was JUST allowed to be in my room with him, with the door open of course, and a limited amount of time a day. I only see him on weekends because he's going to college (to be a pharmacist) an hour away and they still seem to complain about him being here too much. I just don't get it. Neither of us are bad kids; I'm graduating salutatorian and he was valedictorian. We're both getting into good careers, and everyone, including my parents think we will eventually get married. HELP ME! I do have a job (they forced me to get one). The only thing I don't pay for is housing/food/medical things. They expect me to act like an adult but then they treat me like a middle schooler. It's just extremely confusing.

We are newly married we would like to start a family. Currently living in Clovis California. Would like to move closer to a big city and a little closer to family. Clovis is 3hours drive to the nearest big city and family. Our Family lives in Roseville, Rocklin, Folsom, Eldorado hills areas. We want to live at least an hour away from family. 2hours max. We don t care about weather. We re used to hot weather. We want to rent a newer home with a front yard and back yard. At least 3bedrooms 2baths. Our rent budget is no more than $2,500 We want to live in a safe area that s family friendly with good schools. We would like some diversity in the area as well. Do you recommend Brentwood?

"Cya Monday" i said to my sister maddie as she opened the car door, she smiled slightly and waved as she sat down in the car, adjusting the seat to make it more comfortable. She shut the door and her father started the car, i walked inside as my phone went off, A text message from maddie that read 'cya tomorrow baby bro' confused i looked at my watch for the date, it was Friday, the 11th, she comes back Monday, the 14th. I sat down and thought about when i'd end up seeing her tomorrow. I sighed and looked at the clock, 7:46 pm, so I couldn't go to bed yet, but i didn't want to wait long until i supposedly saw maddie again. I walked over to the couch and turned on my T-square 420 to pass the time until 10:00pm Normally playing video games was fun, but today it was the most dreadful two hours of my life, when 10:00 rolled around i nearly yelled out hallelujah as i told mother goodnight. on my way to my room I noticed Maddie's door was open, i took a few steps closer and peered in, she had redecorated sense last time i was there, all her old posters were taken down and replaced with little pictures of quotes from television and pictures of her boyfriend Mark.I shut the door and walked into my own room, jumping gleefully onto my bed, but there was one problem. My excitement for sleep had fully woken me up. It was a long night of tossing and turning, i finally fell into slumbers gentle clutches around 1:00am, smiling slightly.

Say there is a family who's son is living with a woman. That woman is the mother of his child. The guys mother is the only one who ever sticks up for her sons girlfriend. She'll say things like "We know she is difficult, but we love our Samantha."

I am 19 years old, and just finishing up my first year of college. My best friend of 14 years (she's 19 going on 20) and I have been planning for a 2 week road trip in May for about a month now. We still don't have EVERY detail planned, but we have a good bit of it figured out. The road trip will be to do a little sight seeing on the west coast and then to stay with some of her family in Florida for the rest of our stay. Now here's the kicker: My mom is extremely nervous about us going on this trip.My friend's mom was nervous at first too, but than she slowly became at piece with the idea knowing that we are both responsible and intelligent young adults. I talked to my step father (he's been in my life for 6 years) about it, and he seems to think it's fine. I'm just wondering how I can help my mom not feel as anxious. She technically can't stop me from going, and I'm going to go anyway regardless of how she feels, but if she was more comfortable with it I'd feel a lot better. I understand that she just wants me to be safe and happy, but I want to just spread my wings a little more. P.S. I have been on a couple lower scale road trips already and have driven by myself for all of them. My friend has been on lots of road trips, many of them being on a larger scale.

My boyfriend and I are both 17 and we've been together since last September. For the past few weeks, he's been living with us because of bad family situations at home. I recently found out that I was pregnant and last night, we told my dad and stepmom over dinner. My stepmom was disappointed, but she was at least kind of understanding. But my dad was so angry. He started yelling at my boyfriend and he was like "This is the thanks I get for taking you in?" And then he left for a few hours and didn't come back until around midnight. Since then, he hasn't talked to either of us and I'm really scared. He never threatened to kick either of us out, but I feel like he still might. And we can't really live with my mom because we're not that close and she just had twins with my stepdad and our presence there would only be an inconvenience. She doesn't even know that I'm pregnant yet. But I feel like I'm walking on eggshells around my dad. Every time he sees my boyfriend, he gives him nasty looks. He won't even look at me or speak to me. Like this morning while we were getting ready for school, I was in the kitchen getting coffee and my dad saw I was in there and he just turned back around and waited until I was out of there. I feel so unloved and disappointed in myself. I don't know what to do.

First off, I know I keep asking and I apologize for that. I only am because of lack of answers and needing help. So I'm 16 and a sophomore in high school, so is my boyfriend of 14 months. We were forced to break up on Saturday night after my mom went through our Facebook messages and made me tell her the truth on what was going on at school (which I won't say). She's angry right now and not only are me and him broken up, but I had my phone taken away, I have to be supervised at school (and my family is watching him closely,as I found out today), and I can't even talk to him. It's really devasting me, to the point where I would cry really hard and not be able to breathe and I also have a hard feeling in my heart. I understand what we did was wrong, we shouldn't of done it, and I should've went to her about it when it first started, but I feel that we should be friends(not get back together, but be friends) and be monitored (like in our messages and he doesn't come over to my place). I tried to talk to her about this opinion, but she would tell me that we are done. I know that she is angry with both of us and I lost her trust. I just want to have some kind of communication with him and this will never happen again. All help will be appreciated!!!!! :) What we did wasn't illegal or he wasn't exactly abusing me. We could of gotten in trouble, but it was more like "fooling around like teenagers"

I live with parents. I'm gonna move out but it want solve the dysfunctional family. Dad seem like he try and avoid me. He rarely talks to me but talks to my sister. If i say something to him it's like he wants nothing to do with me. I'm not perfect but why my dad hate me? I try and do what i can but he seems ashamed of me. I have told him how i feel but he doesn't care. He have threaten to kill me and didn't apologize. The family is broken and it doesn't help my anxiety. Why does my dad hate me and want nothing to do with me? Helpful answers i don't have people to talk to. If you gonna insult don't answer the question. He haven't always been like this. We use to could talk, but for some reason we doesn't. I care about him and try and do what i can.

I moved out of state with my boyfriend of 2 years, it'll be one year in April since we've lived here. I haven't made any friends while living here, had a couple of potentials but they turned out to be super flaky and never could commit to hanging out. For me, moving away from family was really hard, it's not like I hated them and couldn't wait to leave. It was the opposite. I'm the oldest of my 3 siblings and I feel like I am missing out on their lives, especially my 7 year old sister....we moved since my bf's previous job was relocated and so he was given the choice to take the severence package or they could find him a new job somewhere else. His dad lives in this state and we get along great, but my boyfriend doesnt like his job and the promotabliloty isn't there so I feel like I'm wasting time away from family....I don't know what to do. I love my boyfriend and we plan to get married but I feel like I've made the biggest sacrifice and it's not paying off. What should I do? Anyone else been in this situation?

Im 28yrs of age and she is 3 yrs younger. We got married 2 years back - no kids- and know each other for 5.5years. Last year i found out she texts my own brother who lives next door. I never thought this could even be possible since the whole family consider herself to be a very good girl. Fulfils her duties as a wife and daughter in law flawlessly. Long story short: The first time: She complained about my brother sending her vulgar msgs and saying he loves her. She deleted all the messages knowing i would be angry if i read.. I doubted she was only a "victim" and insisted that she was at fault as well (maybe incited him to get closer and dirtier) I forgave and warned her if she does not want all this to happen again, just stop texting him. Second time: Saw her texting late night when i woke up. questioned her but she hId her phone (i know its that bastard i call brother) She admitted its him. But then again i didnt see any of the msgs since she deleted them. I broke the phone warning her - if ever next time i come across the same bullshit again, i would end up the relationship and divorce. I sounded serious enough. The monster that i call brother gifted her a phone knowing that her phone is broken. Just to see where all this would lead and if she deserves to be my wife i paid for the phone and did not accept as gift. 1 month later using some spying techniques i found out they were txting again but this time i confirm its two sided. Now i hate both of them.

I was arguing with my brother and it was a long argue we were really angry at each other and so but then he said out of nowhere if you dont shut the fck up im gonna rape you tonight. I just stood in absolute shock i mean i expected a lot of things like i hate you or so but.... this.... im really scared to go to sleep now... was it like a joke or should i be really scared?

I've been in a relationship with my boyfriend for about two and a half years now. Now, I don't think he is a bad person, but he is a very depressed person. For the past five months, since we moved back to my hometown, he has become an alcoholic. He's been drinking almost every single night, save for one or two nights where he couldn't because he had to take cough medicine for this severe cough he had. He berates and yells at me nearly everynight, keeps me up till 6am so going to work is an absolute nightmare, and has punched me in the stomach three times unprovoked. He doesn't go to sleep earlier because "he has a specific sleep schedule". He works afternoons, so he has the time to stay up that late, whereas I work in the mornings and it's very hard on me. He has pet guinea pigs, and has killed 5 of them, saying the reason for it is because they were sick, old, etc.. (even though they weren't...) He will not remember doing some of this stuff, and will wake up the next morning confused. He will not stop drinking. When I insinuate him not drinking, he grows angry with me and asks why I don't want him to be happy. I'm literally at the end of my rope. We're moving back in with his dad to get him some help he desperately needs. I love him so much, and he did not used to be this way. He's not a bad person when he's sober. Any help is appreciated. Thank you.

I was adopted so my parents are not my real parents but i never knew mine so they are like my parents. When i was 7 my dad left mom for someone else and since then she was diffirent. Like sadder, had like that frustrated aura around her and she looks really lonely. Since then she was spending a lot of time with me i guess i was the only male that loved her in her life now. Yesterday we were watching a romantic movie together like we often do watch movies at the evening and when a girl kissed her husband in the movie i saw my mom crying a bit so i hugged her and told her that i will be here for her forever, but then she kissed me and i dont know why i didnt resist or something but i just went with it and we had very passionate sex and then also sleept together in bed till morning. Today morning she left for her job before i woke up so im alone now. Please is this wrong i know i sholdnt have but my mom seemed like she really needs a man in her life and i would never betray her i love my mom and i wouldnt mind forming a relationship with her

Short version: My mother and step-brother are poor in the US, I feel guilty if I left them to live with my dad in DR to go to college. I have to move with my father in DR to have financial security for my future career. My father cannot sent me money all the time to the US,it would be too inconvenient and problematic. I WANT to help them, but I cannot help THEM if I don't help ME first. What should do I do? Long version in the picture:

Its kinda long im sorry: So, me and my little brother are really close, even though sometimes it seems that our friendship is one-sided. And by that i mean that i really love him, he's my brother and i'd do anything for him but he always forgets about me. Like he doesnt care at all. Im always there for him whenever he's upset and i scold him when he does something bad so he could learn. I make him lunch, always ask if he's hungry, wait for him infront of the bathroom door if he's scared because of some stupid horror story (he's only 9 and btw i love horror stories). I pick him from school, help him deal with bullies and im pretty much there for him when he needs me. So one day i was helping him clean his room cuz he asked me to and i saw a picture on his nightstand of me and him when we were younger. I laughed and said " i love you, bro" and he answered with dead serious tone "and i fricking hate you" it didnt seem like a joke and i got really upset and walked out of the room. Now i feel guilty about it...am i a bad big sister? Did i overreacted? It really hurt my feelings....thanks to whoever read this.

How on earth is that a real reason?

We own my grandparents old house. We rented it out to people for a while. But it is empty right now. It is fully furnished and has heat, electricity, etc. I m 17 and I want to have a sleepover there one night. When I ask my mom, she will say "no there is no reason you can t have it at our house you have the whole downstairs to yourself. " We have a two story house and she mainly stays upstairs. But I will say,"I know but it would be so much better if we had a house to ourselves and we wouldn t have to worry about being too loud and disrupting you and dad." She would probably say "no I just don t think it s a good idea". I need a plan going in to convince her to let us stay. I believe in foolproof plans. So no unserious answers please.

We got along at first but now she acts like she really hates me. My mom and her dad got married a few months ago in the summer and I know she has gone through alot because her mom passed away a year ago. Sometimes she can be really nice and other times she can be very rude and make fun of me. I'm not pointing fingers at anyone. I just want us to get along because I don't want there to be anything wrong with us in the house. I really want to know why she is nice to me then rude to me right after she is nice???

I'm 17 year old. I share bedroom with my parents. I really loved my dad, but now a days he is continuously advising me and warning me especially on religious matters. I'm Christian. Today he forced me to read Bible and violently turned off my PC and internet. And made me read it. I'm really broken and starting to hate him. It's not only about bible. Another thing is that, he commands/orders me to even bath/or some general needs and I really don't like that. I really wan't to stop him or I will do something stupid. :( Well, Is there anyone facing these type of problems?

hi i want to post a happy birthday to my grandpop on fb he is passed i never meant him he died when my mom was young.. i wanna write something like happy birthday Grandpop i never got to meet you i wish i did you sound like an awesome man...i love you and hope your with Anthony (my brother who passed and Roe is my aunt) Aunt roe...love you please help me write something small but nice please!!!!!

I have had depression for about 10, 11 years and it has never gone away. I cry constantly and I'm always thinking about death, or how the world would be a much better place without me. (I am crying as I type this) Since I was a kid, my parents never thought I did anything good. What I ever did was never enough. They constantly compared me to my siblings and almost never complain to them. I was about 15 and my father and I got into an argument and then he threatened to kick me out of the house. My sibling is now 15 and when they argue, he never says that. I don't think it's even arguing, he just talks. I am now 18, and I still have depression. It really hurts because I can't even go a day without crying. I am not looking for a pity party at all, I swear. It's just really getting to me. There is more going on but i am not going to share it for personal reasons. Any help will be wonderful. Thank you so much for reading.

I already know that I'm not supposed to be doing this but basically what happened is whenever I hit my little brother my mom and dad gripe me out about it but if my big brother hits my little brother nothing happens. Then last night I threw a fork at my little brother because he called my girlfriend a ***** but whenever I call my big brothers girlfriend name I get in trouble for it. So then my little brother went in there and started crying and he still told my dad and my dad said I don't give a **** if he called her that. (so apparently my dad don't have any respect for women). Which really pissed me off and its not right I'm pretty sure if someone called my mom on a ***** in public he would get mad and want to fight because someone called her a ***** before and he wanted to fight. So do I?

I am a grown woman and believe that my father should be happy. my father has always been a very strong man. until he met her. my mother passed 7 years ago and he met her 4. she monitors his call, answers calls and text for him , refuses to give him the messages, he has seen my children 5 times in the past years when normally heed see them on their birthdays and every weekend. she and I recently had a disagreement and was very rude telling me I need to et over my pity party . my father did nothing. this woman has a Facebook claiming she's single.... that her and my father split up .yet they are engaged and she's living in my dads house while keeping her trailer>? do I do nothing??? or do I try to save my relationship with my dad...I am not the only one this has happened to ..also to my brother and sister also both grown

Weve only been in a relationship for 10 months, we were just sleeping together for a few months before getting in to a relationship. I know it is only early, but we have never argued? Not even bickered. Usually (for me) there is at least a disagreement within the first two months. I don't know if this is a good or a bad thing. We just don't have anything to argue about, he is, really too nice. But starting an argument because someone is too nice?? I know it seems odd that I'm complaining about no arguments. My friends say this is a bad sign?

Only for those who have not had children. Only because when you have children you susceptible to the effects of oxytocin which I believe ( personal opinion) blinds people from their true beliefs. For the most part most people who have children say it's amazing but why would you plan it? If you need purpose in your life why not pursue something more beneficial and less selfish why not help your community? Or those who cannot help themselves? Maybe those less fortunate in less wealthy or hospitable countries? I know that most of the increasingly human population is due to developing countries but why add to that number?

My 7 yo old cousin at first seemed nice, then i caught her spying on me. I was 13 and in middle school. Later she started to imitate me and then she called me fat for over two weeks and just was aggressive. Her mom was aggressive, her dad and 13 yo bro were aggressive. They are all insecure with themselves. They talk behind my back. Is she just into being a teen? Maybe she looks forward to being a teen and think that all teens imitate and are aggressive? What made her clingy to me and seem to watch my every move like a hawk? But what made her all of the sudden mean? She has issues at home. Her mom and dad are not in a happy relationship, her mom is sick and her dad goes to the ER. I liked to read and said I would like to write a book, and my aunt said (she was 45 with children) to do SIMPLE SIMPLE THINGS!! And everyone in their family became enraged and they put me down. If I was in their position, I would be like: Okay kid, don't write anything dirty like 50 Shades of Gray and have fun. Make it tasteful.. One time my uncle found out a secret about me and he told all the family members: My uncle and aunts and cousins in Lebanon and in Canada and he told his wife and his kids and they were all EXTREMELY HAPPY!!!! That was the only time I saw them smile...

I met Johnny sophomore year after I won homecoming, he was a freshman.I lost and gained my vision back before sophomore year due to injury, I have vision but still need help getting around.. Johnny had offered to walk me every day to my next class, we got really close, he told me he liked me a lot & my visual impairment didn't faze him, he thought I was beautiful.. We talked more, Hung out, even had a movie night together! We held hands, laughed so much, we both admited to never having a BF/GF nor have we ever held hands or had a movie night with anyone. We liked each other so much, then 1 week he suddenly just became distant. I figured maybe it was because it was the week of his sisters anniversary, when she passed. he never told me why he stopped, his Bestfriend didn't know either.. I'm a junior now, he's a sophomore. We see each other in he halls, we smile big & give big hugs. He's still very sweet, but I never knew why he stopped talking with me. I gave him a letter/candy cane for Christmas saying "thanks" for all the fun we had & hoped to have another movie night someday. He said he loved it & gave me the biggest hug ever. But now he gets all nervous when he sees me, even his Bestfriend notices. What do you think of all this? Is their hope in ever getting close again? I'm 17 he's 16

I am already 21 and I already drove the freeway by myself last week and I felt really comfortable but my parents keep saying there's different situations and my mom keeps saying that I should drive with my dad a few weeks until they feel a little more confortable. I feel they are exaggerating a little bit and over protecting me or preventing from doing things someone my age. I am taking things seriously. What should I do? Should I go ahead and save up or how can I convince them to start giving me trust and chance to take the car once a while to school?

Okay so my mom keeps yelling at me to re do a test i passed and im about to have another test in a few days. Then she laughed at me because i didnt get all my over due assigments done. I did 5 and yeah. She tells me how stupid i am. (I have an a+ average. How lazy i am ( i do a ton more than what her 30 year old daughter living at home does) She also tells me i eat too much (i hardly ever eat lunch and never eat breakfast) and yeah..and she litterally controls my dads life. My sister is a whole nother story but my mom sides with her 24 / 7. Im 14 and honestly wish ive never been born..

My brother and I think completely opposite about things. He constantly belittles me for how I live my life. I am a university student who just finished a semester as an exchange student in Korea. Instead of asking about my experience in Asia, my brother criticizes me for not getting a job, not looking for a girlfriend, and not having children. How he has chosen to live life is to get married at the age of 17, have 4 children before he turned 30, and to constantly put himself into debt by overcharging his credit cards and taking out multiple loans. He defines success by living life without regrets and to take risks every day. However, I define success by careful planning and frequent addition of new information and knowledge. What annoys me is that I never once made him feel bad about his decisions. However, he constantly belittles me because I do not want to emulate him. Am I in the wrong for avoiding family get togethers with him? Personally, I feel that people should be allowed to decide who to interact with, even if those people are family.

A relative of mine keeps making fun of me saying that I need to "stop having so many kids so close in age". The oldest is almost 9, the middle is almost 3, the youngest is a few days old. My oldest is from a previous marriage. She repeatedly jumps down my throat about this. She and her brother were 10 yrs apart and fought till they were elderly. Is she right or just trying to start stuff?

My family and especially my mother are worried sick. I don't know why he is doing the things he is doing. And I haven't even said all of them to mom. I've caught him smoking weed, doing cocain, I've seen a stack of cash in his room. Who has $10,000 in cash on him these days? And the other day his best friend got shot in the leg. The police came here to question him as well. He is the main witness in the investigation and there will most likely be a trial. I am so angry with him. Our family has never had much. But we've had enough and we have always helped each other. He doesn't even give a $hit. My dad has never been a strong, male fatherfigure that someone like him needs and I think that's a big part of why he is like he is. He is so stubborn, like a teenager on crack. My bf, who was involved in that world way back when, said: "You can't help someone that doesn't want the help. All you can do is extend a helping hand and hope they grab it. But for now you need to kick him out. What sort of consequence does your family have? A few earfulls from your mom and then back to normal". What will kicking him out accomplish? He'll just get worse. At least this way we have some control on him. We kick him out and he's on his own in need of money. We all know where that will lead. So what do we do?

My grandma is in her 90s and is known in the family as being very pushy and controlling. I recently had my 3rd child and the baby and middle child have birthdays within a week of each other. Yesterday, I mentioned that I wanted to have just the family together for refreshments and cake. She threw a fit saying it was selfish of me to think of my toddler when I just had a baby and that he doesnt need a party, how dare me behave this way, etc. Is she right, that I have no right wanting to throw my son a 3rd birthday when I just had a baby? My husband's family are coming in from up north and have not seen the baby yet. I wanted to also make it a baby meet and greet. i own my house, she also tries to tell us we cant have pets in OUR house. she lives across town

Idk why she is in a bad mood and why she try to blame me for everyrhing. For examole yesterday she told me to pick up the trash and I said I would do it in a minute cause I was gonna go to the restroom and could not hold it in. She was like "ok". I come out and I find the trash picked up already and then I find her yelling at me because I didn't pick it up and that it wasn't her fault i was in a bad mood( I wasn't???) And she wouldn't let me explain to her what happened and kept cutting me off and then I said I would do the dishes since it's something I do everyday. She told me to go to my room and she didn't want to see me and she did them herself so she wouldn't let me. So I went to my room and took a nap nd she is pounding on my door to open and I open and she screams at me AGAIN that I didn't do the dishes and how lazy I am and she goes off on how I never help around she house and she is so tired from cleaning. Well.. if she had let me do my chores maybe she wouldn't be so tired??? And she complained I never took out the trash from the night before when I did.... Honestly I don't get what is going on and how the **** am I supposed to help of she won't let me and then complains that I did nothing? What the ****??

My older brother and I got the shock of a lifetime. About 3 months ago we did the 23andme DNA ancestry test. We found out that we have a younger half sister, that our father never told us about! Our father has been deceased since 1992. Our younger sister told us what happened between our father and her mom. According to our mom, our father had a vasectomy after I was born (late 1972). When our younger sisters mom became pregnant, our father denied that he was our younger sisters father. Which he obviously was. We've only been emailing back and forth, and our younger sister would like to meet me and my older brother. My brother wants to meet her, but I have a lot of reservations. I know that she's our younger sister, but at the same time she's a complete stranger. Our younger sister is 38, widowed, and she has 3 children. Her mother is deceased, and she has no one else in the world. I know that our father's family will welcome her with open arms. I'm still hesitant. Would you meet an unknown sibling?

My fanily is pretty Christian, so were not required to get circumcised. I don't see why? She won't tell me why she got me cut, and when I tell her all the negatives of being cut, she just denies it all.

To start off, I'm 17 years and female. My room is generally clean and I agree that it should be. My brother is 24 years old and his room is worse than messy. These are always rows of dirty plates, cups and glasses unless my dad decides to bring him downstairs himself or until my mom says she won't buy him potato chips until there's at most 3 cups left in his room. There are often rotten fruits. It's been this way since he was 15. He doesn't pay rent and he definitely has enough time to clean, he plays video games/goes on reddit for at least 2 hours daily. For me, it's the contrary. I clean everything without getting asked. My mom freaks out if there's an empty glass of water in my room. She has taken away the laptop I bought with the money that I earned over last summer over exactly this, I still needed it that day to complete my homework. I couldn't go to the library because there's a limit of 15 minutes of use. She plans to keep on doing this until I move out. Her reasoning is that I'm a girl and that girls should keep their rooms clean while guys don't have to. I would never let my room get messy but how am I a pig if I drink water at 8pm and forget to bring the glass before I go to school in the morning? I'm not THAT bothered by this but I feel like the contrast is too big compared to my brother. What's a good way to convince her that one empty water doesn't warrant big sanctions or to at least get her to tell my brother to clean a little as well?

Her name is Heidi and she is 6. She spies on me and when I tell on her, my parents are like "She's too young, she doesn't know better." Heidi then gives a smirk and I get in trouble for yelling at her! I'm second oldest, and she is jealous because she is 6th oldest! She is only mean to me! I am forced to play with her because if I refuse, she does fake tears that people believe!! If she doesn't get her way, she cries until it happens

How can I get revenge with my parents? I totally loathe them! My Parents are really the worst! They ve been ignoring me since I was a kid! They were so workaholic that they forgot that they have a daughter! They re the worst! In my graduation day, they didn t even come! Nor any of my birthdays! They always told me hurtful words! I loathe them! They didn t even want to spend holidays with me, they just greet me through the phone sometimes text messages! They just give me money and let me live my own life! They don t even want me to call me their daughter. When one of my Dad s business partner asked Dad who am I, he just said that I m their neighbor. It hurts right? Sometimes I feel like I m adopted. Please help me get my revenge to them. They don t love me.

Im fourteen and i have 3 younger siblings they get on my nerve they never listen so i yell at them to listen to me like last night my brother stayed over and i told him he had to sleep on the floor he kept saying kno he's not so i made him get on the floor he started cryin then my moms ugh boyfriend said let him sleep on the bed i said no so walks in and starts takin the bed so i sat on it so he cant get it i asked my mom could i talk to her she came home and never said anything to me because her boyfriend lied on me and this morning she keeps saying i dont need siblings and im mean and evil ...... Is this a phrase im going threw because i always gotta attitude 🙄🙄🙄

I feel like I am in a very difficult situation and it seems like the right thing to do is just not black and white. I'm 18 years old, so I'm an adult and allowed to make my own choices. My father killed himself a few years ago and my uncle has never been able to accept it. He is still very depressed because of it. He blames my mother for it because she wasn't faithful. My uncle and my mother really don't like eachother and my uncle texts my mother some nasty things sometimes, such as that he wishes she would die a painful death. Sometimes he texts me strange things that don't completely make sense when he is arguing with my mom, and I assume drunk. I usually just ignore these texts. But recently I have been texting my uncle a bit during the daytime and I talked to him on the phone once about life and my father. One night. after my mother and my uncle were arguing, she firmly told me that she doesn't want me talking to him anymore because she says he is crazy and she doesn't want him to influence me. My uncle is getting a divorce and his wife and son are moving out, so he is going to be all alone and I feel bad for him. I don't think I can just stop talking to him. How could you do that to somebody you care about? He is family. Please help me see this situation in clearer light, I don't know what the right thing to do is.

My aunt cares more about money than her children. She feeds them a little and doesnt buy them toys, clothes, or let them watch TV because she wants to save $$ to be rich. For her 7 year old Birthday, there was no birthday cake or toys, just hummus and cheap BD hats. Is it selfish of my aunt to deny her children nutritious food and pleasures of life (such as electronics, toys, and clothes) so she can save money? Her husband makes 8-10,000 dollars a month. She makes her children wear the same clothes for 5-6 years before buying anything from a thrift shop. They look anorexic. Her children indirectly admitted they care a lot about money.

before i was pregnant , i was going through a lot . when i got pregnant, things got worse . beginning of my pregnancy, i was kicked out of a place, staying in a motel, my baby dad started putting his hands on me, i found out he was cheating on me with his other baby mom , and then to top it off my father died , which my baby dad threw in my face (what an asshole right). so with all that going on i was feeling suicidal (never attempted) , i was depressed , i just thought things wasnt going right . i went to facebook venting my problems , which ik was a bad idea. when i was cool with my childs father ,i was venting my depression to him . at one point confessed how i was feeling suicidal and he told me to just go ahead and kill myself. (again, what an asshole) . throughout the rest of my pregnancy , i moved in with a friend and worked . got thrown a baby shower so i had EVERYTHING i needed. after i had my baby, life got even BETTER for me. i completely eliminated drama , i work, i have my OWN place, and im hopefully about to get a car so me n my child wont have to walk outside in this weather anymore . i dont smoke or drink. i dont go out and party. nothing. IF my childs father wanted to take me to court, could he prove im unfit from my past ?

im 13 yo girl. my parents got divorced when i was 5 because my mom cheated on my dad twice and i live with my dad. one night i was sleeping over at my mom's house. my mom, her husband & me sleeps in the same room but in a different mattress. it was around 3am and my mom was asleep and suddenly he grab my left hand and put it on his penis. i doubt what i just touched so i look at my hand and saw him having a b0ner. he told me to be quiet but ofc i told my mom but she told me not to tell anyone or else she won't see my ever again. but im very traumatized and scared. what should i do. please help i beg you im shaking

Family should love and be respectful toward one another, not hurt each other and bring pain. Your younger siblings look up to you, and if they annoy you, it's most likely that they want attention. And if they are hurting you, then you need to be mature and address it to a parent or someone you trust. There are some siblings that grow up forever hating their older sibling, or may develop depression and anxiety from it. Some times they might come home depressed because they have to deal with being put down or physically hurt on a daily basis. Don't hurt family. It does no good.

Im 14 and my big bro is 17 and i love him very much he is the best and nices big bro ever he cares about me and always helps me when i need it and we never argued ever. I wanna marry him and spen the life with him. He often says "i love you sis" that means he loves me too and maybe is just shy and waiting until i do the first step?

I just found out my older brother is in jail and none of my family members know about it. I can't tell my mom because she recovering from a stroke and I'm scared to tell my Dad cause he might have a heart attack. I have no one to talk to his bail is $34,000 I don't have that kind of money. I know alot of people might think there nothing I can do he's the one that got himself into this but jail isn't a place where you want to be. I'm feeling really depress I have no one to talk too. I just want to know if any body have been in this situation? Please no hateful comment.

My dealer is very rude and disrespectful. He doesn't deserve my money, so no more buys. ;)

My family and especially my mother are worried sick. I don't know why he is doing the things he is doing. And I haven't even said all of them to mom. I've caught him smoking weed, doing cocain, I've seen a stack of cash in his room. Who has $10,000 in cash on him these days? And the other day his best friend got shot in the leg. The police came here to question him as well. He is the main witness in the investigation and there will most likely be a trial. I am so angry with him. Our family has never had much. But we've had enough and we have always helped each other. He doesn't even give a $hit. My dad has never been a strong, male fatherfigure that someone like him needs and I think that's a big part of why he is like he is. He is so stubborn, like a teenager on crack. My bf, who was involved in that world way back when, said: "You can't help someone that doesn't want the help. All you can do is extend a helping hand and hope they grab it. But for now you need to kick him out. What sort of consequence does your family have? A few earfulls from your mom and then back to normal". What will kicking him out accomplish? He'll just get worse. At least this way we have some control on him. We kick him out and he's on his own in need of money. We all know where that will lead. So what do we do?

Well at least I think she does. She's gone all day and today she borrowed 5 dollars from my mom because she said she wanted Starbucks but I saw her posting pictures of weed on Instagram . My sister is a little wannabe thug she's changed so much over the past year it's crazy . She tells my mom she hates her and calls my mom an ugly old bat and constantly yells and screams at her and she dropped out of school at only 14 to be homeschooled and gets into fist fights . She's like the complete opposite of me I go to school everyday get good grades I've never fell into the peer pressure of smoking and I've never drank before either . Btw I'm 17 so do you think I should tell my mom so she's aware because my mom literally has no idea