I've suspected for some time now that my wife has been cheating on me. The usual signs... phone rings but if I answer, the caller hangs up. My wife has been going out with "girls" a lot recently although when I ask their names she always says, "Just some friends from work. You don't know them." I always stay awake to look out for her taxi coming home, but she always walks down the drive. Anyway, I have never approached the subject with my wife. I think deep down I just didn't want to know the truth, but last night she went out again and I decided to really check on her. I decided I was going to park my BMW R1150 GS motor cycle next to the garage and then hide behind it so I could get a good view of the whole street when she came home. It was at that moment, crouching behind my bike, that I noticed that the valve covers on my engine seems to be leaking a little oil. Is this something I can fix myself or should I take it to a repair shop?

This will sound strange but I am telling my stalker I love him and want a future with him because I think that will scare him away. I think he just wants to make me fall in love with him but he is not interested in anything more after that. Is it a good plan? It seems to be working because he hasn't talked to me in about 4 days and usually he talks to me almost every day.

A friend of mine and her husband have approached me about being with them sexually, like a threesome. They indicated that whatever I am comfortable with from just kissing, to massage, to ora,l to all out love making. The gf and I have kissed and caressed each other during parties, which is where they came up with the idea. Has anyone else had similar experiences or option/proposal. What are your thoughts and opinions.

How should i disposed of his body?

A guy has been contacting me almost every day for almost a year. He sends me links to love songs and he also tells me he's stalking me. He says he is a sociopath. Is he stalking me? I've told him to stop a couple times. What does he want from me? He knows everything about me from facebook.

My Husband has this ex that is absolutely mental. They share 1 kid together. Anyways, her and I do not get along AT ALL. She has tried to fight me in front of her kid, in the past, she has harassed me and my husband via texts...She would also call him to SCREAM at him whenever he did something nice for me...for instance, he bought me a new laptop because mine took a sh_t. I needed it for school because I take online classes...After her kid told her, she called accusing him of "neglecting" their soon and spending all of his money on his "gapped-tooth whore". We've gotten into SEVERAL lawn screaming matches where the cops were called. Its been messy...but recently, I posted a status about how I made reservations for vday at white castles, and how I wanted to do this forever so Im gonna dress up. My friend John commented saying he heard someone plays the violin there...Fast forward 2 days and I check her facebook to see if she was talking any of her usual crap about me..I'm supposed to record it..Anyways, I saw that SHE posted screenshots of texts confirming HER reservation for white castle, the SAME ONE as me!! And that shes excited cause shes "wanted to do this forever so shes gonna dress up" and how "she" heard someone plays the violin there. Her and her FRIENDS are going, so I'm wondering if this is an intimidation thing or if she wants to go so she could ruin my time, etc. I dont know what to think. Why would she be doing this? This is 2 much 2 be considered coincidence.

He found out where she lives and went to her apartment. The ID checker told me he was recently kicked out of her apartment . He told me he had feelings for her. He visited her in jail too.

All my life, I have been walked all over by men. I have been raped, beat, cheated on, and lied to all the time. I am now married, but I have one down fall. I hate men. I always felt like my feelings didnt matter to men, or that i was just a joke to them. So I decided that If i was going to be taken seriously, I needed to act serious. I felt like i had to put fear in people before they could hurt me. I felt like if men were afraid of me, they would be to afraid to hurt me. so i became aggressive, and i always seek revenge to those who hurt me. sometimes i concern myself with how mean i can be. I hold grudges tight. I dont want to be mean. But I don't want to be treated like a joke. I love my husband, but I find myself hating him at the same time because of what he is. Recently, he has hurt me and I know that if I want my marriage to work, I have to forgive him.. I've been this way for so long that I don't know how to forgive. And my heart doesn't want to.forgive because forgiveness feels like ignorance and weakness.. I don't want to be stupid and weak.. but I don't want to lose my husband. How do I forgive?

My husband and I moved to another country to study. His mother started texting and calling us every single day ever since. Even though we assure her that everything is fine and going well, she again calls everyday at inappropriate times when we are at work or university. We tell her we can't talk so much as we have to adapt to lots of new things but she doesn't understand. We have time difference too which makes it difficult. She basically wants to know about every single thing in our life and I can't really go on this way. We've been married for about 8 years already, no kids. I'm even thinking of divorce only because his mother is a real pain in the ***...we have to always listen to her like she calls us and says we call someone in the family because they have a newborn baby or someone's mmther died, stuff like that. She is so bossy and my husbabd doesn't want to break her heart. My husband is a good man but that's my only problem. I really hate my mother-in-law. My husband is the last child so they kind of value us a bit less in the family too, for instance they almost always mostly say how great their daughter in law for the eldest son is and I have a less value it seems...but I'm the first child in my iwn family so I can't stand this. What do you think we can do? My husband doesn't listen to me. When I miss some if her calls to text messages, she calls my husband and sends him photos, etc..and then behave like they don't mind if I'm not satisfied.

i have been married to my husband for 5 years now and we have been together for 8. we have a beautiful little girl, but recently i found out that he has been cheating on me with a co-worker. i cannot lie but the woman is gorgeous, educated, career driven, everything times 10 than what i am. of course he says it didn t mean anything and he wanted to fix us and work on our marriage however, i found out that he is still seeing her. i get the sense that there is more to it than just sex since he keeps going back to her and is obviously still risking our marriage and his career. they are different ranking and if found out, they both could be ruined. what should i do, what is it abut this woman that he is still seeing? is it safe to say that he is in love with this woman and doesn t care about our marriage anymore. this doesnt look like a man who is remorseful for what he has done.

My wife won't wear short skirts anymore, doesn't wear a lot of makeup, doesn't wear real tight pants like she used to. She says I should be happy that she doesn't dress like that in public anymore and if I want to see her dressed like that, we can do it in the privacy of our home. She will dress anyways I ask at home, including putting on make up and doing her hair, wearing high heels, but in public she dresses conservative. Thoughts?

Now the point of this question is to ask what women like when they share a passionate,intimate, and romantic moment with there man, and what you see down below is an example of what my wife and I do. I like having foreplay with my wife and giving her oral sex I do lots of teasing and I enjoy making her edge before letting her orgasm,and I often tease her all day like before I go to work,when I get home,when I wanna make her feel sexy or just share an passionate intimate moment , when I tease her I do things like nipping her ears or kissing her lips and neck while rubbing her legs and thighs or while gently pulling on her nipples. She says the orgasm feels amazing but she gets mad at me for letting her edge for to long is that normal? Sometimes we don't actually have sex we instead have a (passionate moment together) like if she's laying down on the bed and feels depressed i'll sit next to her and kiss her then start rubbing her clitoris and-or fingering her G-spot while making out. But no sex! its only for her pleasure and to show her love and affection. Now I firmly believe that sex is NOT love and that (true love) comes from the heart and not the bedroom,in fact when I met my wife she was so shy that not only did she make me wait for sex but when we had sex the first couple of times she was so insecure she didn't even take of her shirt. We've been married now for nearly 12 years and she is still insecure but there's no one else id rather spend my life with. And for the record when I say edging I mean on the knife edge of an orgasm and not just building her up and stopping before she comes all the time, I mean building her up to the big O" and keeping her at that point where she feels like she's about blow for a certain period of time then stopping. My wife likes when keep her at crucial point and she likes it when i build her again and again cause it makes her orgasm 4x better, but not when I do it like 10-15 times... that I fully understand.

Hello! I have been married for 2 years now. My marriage is wonderful however my husband has two kids 16 & 13 years old which they are completely against our marriage. There has been nothing as cheating, lying etc for them to be upset about however their mom (ex-wife) has not accept the fact that my husband re-married. So the problem here is that the kids only accept my husband, when he wants to see them he goes by himself since they do not want to have nothing to do with me (we live 6 hours apart). I have seen texts of both kids telling my husband they hate me they do not want to meet me, if he wants to see them it will be only them but me, etc. At this point I don't know what to do, I feel so left out but I also understand that they might be hurt because of dealing with their parents divorce. Am I wrong by feeling like this? I told my husband he needs to make an effort for all of us to hangout and pass this issue however he tells me it is hard for them and he does not want to loose them because of forcing them, but I think "what about me"? Am I wrong?? Please any suggestions that can help me. Thank you!

I've been married for 7 years. My husband and I have a 6 year old son. After years of dealing with verbal abuse from him, I am no longer in love with him. Although I've already told him this, he seems to believe that there's a chance. And promises to change. He's promised many times before but goes back to the same abusive behavior. I do love him but only as the father of my child but that is not enought for me. I am unhappy and want out but he is not taking the news very well. He gets angry when he see that I m serious then calms down to gets me back. Then cries. He keeps saying that I am giving up on the marriage. I m trying to be nice and caring of his feelings but I don t know how to get through to him. I m done.

If ANY other contract was "for life" and "no matter what"(for better or worse, sicker or poorer) and required you to SUE to get out of it.........NO COURT ON EARTH would enforce it.

Is so how long and how have you kept it happy If not how long and what is missing

My husband ex calls and texts my hisband's phone. He ignores her, but he won't defend me. One message she bers I smelled like dried funk. I've had enough disrespect and wanted to know should he be defending me. Thank you.

My husband seems to be a super sensitive human being. We are recently married and are adjusting to life together. It seems that I do things that hurt him or say things that hurt him when they don't seem out of the ordinary. It can get to a point where I am scared to hurt him by just being myself. I have no idea what he will react to. The other day I was struggling with work (I work from home). I tried to make dinner for him when he got home but I was deep in thought over work still. He normally likes all my attention when he gets home and I understand that. He sensed that I needed cheering up while I was sitting at the table so he licked me upside the chin and nose (he does that sometimes). I wasn't expecting it and didn't like it so my face showed disgust, a reaction he never got before. I also wiped my face. But I saw how deeply it hurt him, like as if I rejected him. He kind of just looked like he was going to cry and cowered near the counter. I tried to comfort him but he just went to bed to deal with it. It has left me horribly confused. I am regarded as a nice and understanding person. I don't know why I hurt him all the time. It's making me feel like ****. Anyone else struggle with this or know what to do?

Psychology, or rather "the scientific study of the human mind and its functions, especially those affecting behavior in a given context", has many concepts and theories. Some concepts are really easy to understand like "left brain is for thinkers, right brain is for feelers" even though they have been proven wrong. Some concepts are a little more complex to understand like "Jungian personality typing with introverted feelings and extroverted thinking" which seems like it COULD label someone but it doesn't really fit everyone who quizzes. And some concepts are just so out there that it takes someone with a high IQ to really understand what they're talking about, like "cognitive behavior therapy" and even those people don't understand the affects it has on our brains. My point is, psychology itself is a science, but people performing psychology are not scientists. Instead they study criteria and patterns of behavior to help guide the old dart before they throw it at the dart board blindfolded. A person may have a pattern of bipolar disorder, but without the ability to run brain scan tests to find the bipolar connections, this person may get misdiagnosed because they really suffer from PTSD or they just have poor coping skills for a nagging wife. So this leaves me to this question - why so much faith in a dart thrower? All they are going to do is RETURN YOU to the mainstream. They'll just carve off your square peg edges, and force you to fit in that circle hole. That's all.

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I ve been married for 7 years. My husband and I have a 6 year old son. After years of dealing with verbal abuse from him, I am no longer in love with him. Although I ve already told him this, he seems to believe that there s a chance. And promises to change. He s promised many times before but goes back to the same abusive behavior. I do love him but only as the father of my child but that is not enought for me. I am unhappy and want out but he is not taking the news very well. He gets angry when he see that I m serious then calms down to gets me back. Then cries. I m trying to be nice and caring of his feelings but I don t know how to get through to him. I m done.

She likes to play the i m so innocent card but if thats flirting then i m confused. Our sex life is good, but getting there is a bizare trek. Any advice?

I had my daughter when I was 15 years old. The father stayed and helped for about 3 years and left me and our daughter. It broke my heart, but worst of all it broke our daughter's heart. It's been 2 years since he left us and we've only heard him on the phone 4 times and seen him once. He pays child support and that's about the best support he gives to our daughter) Since he left us I haven't thought of guys since. Between school, work, and my daughter almost all my time is taken up. There's a guy in our apartment complex that decided he really liked me and constantly asked me out. I thought he was super cute, but I also thought I didn't have time to date and he's a bit older than me (he's 28 and I'm 20). I tried scaring him off by telling him I'm a single mom, but that didn't work. Eventually I said yes because he is super cute, very persistent, and 1 date doesn't mean much anyways. I absolutely loved the date and when he asked me on another I said yes. I've been on a few more with him. I'll admit I have a crush on him. He tried kissing me the other day. I didn't let him and I could tell he was a bit put off by it. I really want to kiss him, but I have to think about it now. I definitely have time for a boyfriend. I am really busy, but if I had a guy I really liked (and I really like him) I could carve in time for a boyfriend and still be a good mom, work, and do well in school. (click and read more) It's more that I'm afraid to be in a relationship. The only real relationship I've been in was with my daughter's father, and that ended up not going well. I'm afraid of being left again. I'm afraid of having my heart broken and (potentially) my daughter's heart broken. I'm afraid my daughter would get attached like I would and then have him leave. On the other hand I do want to be with someone so badly. I want to eventually get married and have a couple more kids. I want to have a husband who loves me as much as I love him and I want my daughter to have a father in her life that does more than call a couple times a year for half an hour and pay child support. I guess it's a gamble either way. Should I give it a try? Is it worth the risk? How do I make sure my daughter's heart doesn't get broken? Also, I know he's older than me, but I like that. If I'm going to date again I need an older guy who wants a committed relationship because I cannot be playing around with boys who only want to get in my pants. Also, I put this in marriage and divorce because I want advice from people who have more life experience and have seen relationships in a more completed way than people who only date

Six months back my husband and i got into a huge fight which led us to drift apart, no talking, nothing. But after all were said he started talking with me again. And even though we hold each other, hug each other n kiss, there is no intimacy/sex. And even though i do not want to divorce, i told him if i don't see any improvements, i will file for divorce. I get depressed cause of hormonal disbalance and when i am like that he gets very angry and we still fight. I have taken an appointment with a psychologist but my husband is not willing to go to counseling and he told me that our relationship will not be like before. I want to know how can we get back on track and be intimate. I can't live like this forever. Plz help. Thankx.

Six months back my husband and i got into a huge fight which led to our drifting apart and even near divorce. But after all were said, he started talking with me again. And although he hugs and kisses me, there is no intimacy. I get depressed because of hormonal disbalance and he gets very angry when i become like this. S a consequence we still fight and he says our relationship will not become like before. I know i have got a big depression issue and i will go see a psychologist to help myself but my husband is not willing to go with me even though he has anger management issues. I do not want to divorce but i told him if i don't see any improvement i will file for divorce. I just want things to work n i don't know what to do. Plz help. Thx.

Last week I came home early from work and started to get dinner ready for my handsome husband who usually comes home at 7pm each night. I then needed to go to the toilet so I walked through the bedroom to our ensuite and discovered my husband in bed under the covers and next to him was his male secretary Gavin. I gasped and asked what was going on and my husband said they were just going over some of the details for a meeting with a client the next day. Relieved after hearing their explanation, I then went back in the kitchen to continue preparing my husbands dinner. As I left the room my husband called out and asked if Gavin could have some dinner too and I said that was fine. While cooking I needed the spatula but could not find it. I went back to the bedroom to ask my husband if he had seen it and what I saw shocked me. Gavin was bent over and my husband was pushing the spatula inside him. I screamed and said what is going on, my husband then calmly explained that he was giving Gavin a prostate exam. I said "but Gavin is only 21, isn't he a bit young for that" and my husband explained that it's better to be safe than sorry. At this point I decided to take a Valium as I felt a little unsettled, and I have been taking it ever since. I don't want to distrust my husband he would never hurt me but I can't help feeling a little suspicious. My husband says as long as I continue to take the Valium each day everything will be okay. I love him so much

Is it Jesus/God? Is it you or your spouse? Is it the government of your country? Is it mannerisms and etiquette? Is it your tribe, group, or extended family? Is it social norms (like being a "good" person)? Is it a power struggle (you both fight over authority)? Is it no one (and that's why your house is a nut house)? Explain your answer why you think this. Don't assume that this is just the way it is for everyone, give a reason why you think this is the RIGHT way to do things. I absolutely love how people are answering saying that there's NO power struggle and NO authority, yet they fail to realize that their authority is something else listed on my list. At least "Marie and Alan" was self aware enough to realize that the Bible, God, and Jesus were the authority in their marriage.

A business acquaintance of mine recently told me he was taking a trip to Thailand, and had an extra plane ticket that was going to go unused. He invited me to go. My wife flipped out when I mentioned this to her, convinced that he and I were going to take this trip for nothing more than a sex fueled holiday with the bar girls of Bangkok. While I indeed intend to plant my staff in some young cuties, I don't need to hear her lip. Yes, she has caught me before with my secretary from work, and threatened to leave me. But she came back and told me we should make it work. Now, with this trip, she is threatening to divorce me if I go. Am I a lost cause for still wanting to experience this trip at least once in my life?

Every morning when my wife gets up at 4AM to get ready for work, she wakes the entire household up! She will very loudly put dishes away, watch the news & will yell at the TV. My oldest daughter has her bedroom attached to the garage. My wife refuses to use the front door & will only use the garage which in turn, wakes my daughter up every single morning. Today I lost it. It is very rare for me to get angry but I asked her What the f-ck is wrong with you? There are 5 other people in this house not just you. This has been going on for awhile now since my wifeS job got earlier hours & require her to get up earlier then the rest of the household. It is making the kids & myself very irritable, I'm practically falling asleep at my own job, the kids are tired at school everyday. When I speak to her about it her response "well I have to go to work." What should I do? I'm at my breaking point!

I turned off the internet because my husband wouldnt get off the video games to help me out around the house. I called the company and canceled the service. I am the only one working he says he is trying to get disability for migraines and his severe anxiety disorder wont do a damn thing around the house. And rages at night often waking me up. Today he told me that the internet wasnt working and our box was probably broken and when i told him i shut it down he called me a ***** and yelled at me asking what he is suppose to do all day since he only plays on his xbox one and its "all he has". Im just wondering if this makes me a *****? It had been an ongoing fight and struggle about the housework and his constant gaming. I work 45-55 hours a week. We have tried to talk about it and he just wont do it. When we married 5years ago of course he helped and of course things were fine. His gaming was minimal and he maintained a job. I put up with it for the past two years because his health did deteriorate. But he could still clean up after himself. and he still can he has proven that. When talking did nothing I pulled the plug.

I know a married couple where they have threesomes, the wife is totally okay with letting her friends (friends that she hangs out with regularly) sleep with her and her husband. I find this very strange and cant imagine how someone would be okay with that. Would you ever let your friends sleep with your husband?

Is it inappropriate to have my ex husband over for the superbowl? We have two young children together and it would just be the four of us. I am in a serious relationship with another man right now but he will be working that day. My ex husband has also expressed some jealousy and has control issues regarding my new relationship and I do not want to mislead him or our kids into thinking we will get back together. Also Should I tell my boyfriend he is coming over? My boyfriend is not the jealous type but thinks it's weird I hang out with my ex husband because my ex husband has tried to be controlling over me and my ex husband has also been investigated for looking up child porn in the past. What should I do?

When I was 7 months pregnant with our daughter, my husband told me that when she was born that he would look at her and tell her that " I don't want you". I have never looked at him with love ever sense. I don't know what to do