Im a 24 year old dude,  and i have a besfriend named Alyssa.    She's been with with me though everything and i trust her,   but im having a problem with her.    Everytime im dating someone she always talks bad about that person,  and how that person isn't right for me. For the past 2  month ive been dating this girl Amber,   but i didn't tell my friend Alyssa about her until yesterday.    I made her promise she wasn't gonna start any drama or whatever.     Today i was texting my girl and Alyssa  kept saying     " you better tell Amber we are besfriends."..  Every time im trying to date someone she acts like she neeeds to come first no matter what!!!      like this is annoying me because im really Serious about Amber and i like her alot.     What do i dooooo????  Can i have advice????  

This year I decided to live with one of my best friends. At first it was great because we spend a lot of time together but now its total chaos. First off, she is very self-centered and thinks that she has the say in every decision and will throw a complete ***** fit if things don't go the way she wants them to. She also blames all of her problems on other people because she won't accept that she's the one who caused them. Secondly, she is insanely messy and refuses to clean up after herself. She told me she was clean and we'd have no issue living together but it was a total lie. She constantly has piles of clutter and trash in the common areas, refuses to clean the shower or toilet because she's "scared" of doing it, and has a messy dog that she also won't clean up after or accept responsibility for. Her dog tears things up, tracks mud into the house, and has pooped and peed in the house although he is potty trained and she just passes it off as being okay even though she'd flip if I had an animal that did that. And finally, she is insanely hypocritical and thinks she's perfect and everything she does is okay. She constantly insults people, goes too far with things, and thinks she can make decisions for everyone but would scream and cry about it if anyone did it back to her. Might just be me but I think all of these behaviors are completely unacceptable for a 21 year old to be doing. How do I confront her about it and tell her its a huge issue? 

I do not wanna give too much specific information out, but this situation has been stressing me out.  There's a kid in my school (high school) who is republican and very vocal about it, however he isn't rude to people of other political beliefs. He's quite respectful, and loves friendly debate. However, everyone hates him because of his beliefs. He was bullied so badly at a previous high school (he'd be shoved into lockers and stuff) that he had to switch to my school last year. He has no friends, and I'm not exaggerating when I say that. Over the past month I have gotten to be very close to him, we both love hockey and have some other shared interests, but what I've found is that he is one of the most caring, funny, and smart people I have ever met! I don't agree with all of his political beliefs, but that doesn't bother me. My personal belief is that we need to show love to everyone no matter what, even if they're different. My friends however HATE this kid. They're mad at me for being friends with him, and it's stressing me out. It would be against everything I've ever been taught to abandon him, but my friends refuse to get to know him like I did. I don't know what to do :( I'm not gonna cut him off or anything, but what do I say to my friends? What do I do when they ignore him when he hangs out with us before school starts? He is just so sad that he can't make friends, and it breaks my heart. :(  He's just so socially awkward sometimes bc he has never had proper friends and that makes the bullying worse :/ 

A year ago I asked about what I should do and about a week ago I finally took your advice and spoke up. There s this woman at my sons bus stop whos not a friend, but we are friendly with each other. She has a boy and a girl who rides my sons school bus. She one day (while going through a painful visit from CPS. She for some reason thought that I too had an involvement with CPS (not true) and confided in me. While she told me I gave her look of, "I m so sorry" but perhaps it came off judgemental or something. She said I KNOW YOU TOO HAD DEALINGS AS WELL! I let this go as she was so distraught and I actually didnt know how to respond. I didnt want to exasperate the issues she was going through by speaking up. The problem is, she keeps speaking about it all year, saying things that make feel uncomfortable like, "You know we better show up to the bus stop not late or well have issues as we did before. This year (after summer session) I decided to speak up. I said, "can we talk?" I told her, after one of her comments about DSS involvement. I said, "I've never had dealings with CPS" she started crying and said i m so sorry. I always look up to you and think you are such a strong person. I told her wow, I really didnt know. We made amends and carried on. The problem is, now she makes sure shes on the phone when I come to the bus stop. She now stands where I don t stand in order to avoid me. What do you guys think, shes doing this? I thought we were fine!

I can't drive, I have no friends and the friend I did have just disappeared on me. I feel heavily pressured to get into grad school, and I'm having trouble doing so. I have no job, and I applied to 15 jobs within the last three months and got rejected by a couple of them and haven't heard yet from the rest. My life is tiresome, and I honestly don't look forward to the new days because I know it's only going to be lonely and stressful.

I just walked in on them kissing.

I have two best friends who I've known for over five years. We're super close, and we always have been. My birthday was about a week ago, and it was a pretty big disappointment for me. Neither of them got me a single gift, a single card, and not even a SINGLE "happy birthday". That made me really sad, but I decided to go on with the day. For my celebration, I took the three of us to Six Flags. The worst part of it is that I paid for both of their tickets and all of the food we got... And after all that, I didn't get a single thing back. We were on our way back home, and I was just hoping they would say the words "happy birthday". I accepted the fact that I didn't get a card or gift, I just wanted to be congratulated at the least. It's been a week and I'm still thinking about it. Especially after, today, they were talking about all the things they were planning for out other friend's birthday... Who we've know for two months. This whole situationi is just making me feel depressed and not cared for. I know it's petty, but I really don't know what to do. I'm super afraid to talk to them about it because I don't like talking about my feelings, especially with them. I need advice for what I should do, it would be greatly appreciated. Thank you.

I was called the day before a dinner party and had things going on that day where I could not make it and my friend is upset because she feels i should come regardless of prior things going on. She hasn't spoken to me since and I feel like she is being too demanding. I tried reaching out to her and she is ignoring my texts.

Currently in college and I m living in a double but my original roommate got a single so now I m in there on my own. Anyway, I just got an email from res life and they told me I might have a potential new roommate next week. I really do NOT want someone living with me as I m already used to living on my own but I don t know how to avoid her moving on without sounding like a horrible person. Please. Send help. I will cry.

or walk past him and pretend you didn't know him? would you offer him help and a place to stay, or ignore him?

i think this because since i joined tinder over a year ago, ive had no luck or interest from women, except very little to none...and ive swiped thousands of women i liked the look of, but none have returned the interest?? i'm a man, now in my early forties, ive had difficult mental problems to deal with a lot of my adulthood...i do get paranoid as well at times thinking people out there have blackened my image and tarnished my character as someone to 'stay away from '. i don't have any real evidence for this except the fact people in society are often standoffish towards me...and now no response on tinder....how should i react to this? its very frustrating when you have never established any relationships with women like me, because of your difficult mental problems and get very lonely...living alone and having no support network except your elderly parents..

I work in an office with 13 other women ages 20 through 50. We have the greatest boss ever. He is a 29 year old GREAT looking guy. We enjoy coming to work mainly because of our boss. He sees that we are well paid and never gets mad at us when we screw up. We love to joke around with him and he loves for us to do it. For example, one of us ask him if he hired us for our boob size of or IQs. He said "You have IQs"? We all had a good laugh at that. Employees from other departments that know about our actions with our boss tell us he is sexually harassing us. Is he?

I had a friend BEFORE my current partner. This person was just a friend, I told my partner we never even kissed. Well, this conversation came up between my partner and my friend. My partner asked my friend if anything ever happened, and my friend said we kissed on multiple occasions. Looking back, I was drunk/high around my friend all of the time. I don't remember any kisses. Was this a lie? 

If you have a close friend, or you who consider to be a close friend, do you guys talk daily? Even share to each other the littlest things like the cool leaf you saw while you were walking to school? I know it's a bit of a weird question but I just need to know.

Im usually sit home and play video games, I do go to school. But no care about me Im like Im isnt there, i tried to make friend but they said many words that hurts my felling. My mom told me to make friend, but i cant so can so Im think im having anxiety now. Can you help me?

I m absolutely mortified! I don t know what to do and they are starting to wake up! Okay so me, and my two friends are spending the night at one of their houses. And ive been drinking a lot of water because rn I have this terrible cough and water seems to calm it. And we ended up passing out around 4 am after chilling the entire night, we were all sleeping on the couch. And I guess in the shirt time that I was asleep the flood gates decides to open up and I peed on her couch. I just woke up and I ve used water and two wipes on it hoping to remove the smell and it worked but I still smell like piss and I have no extra clothes. But the couch is wet and I ll feel bad if I don t tell her but I don t want her or her mom to be mad at me. Lmao I m about two seconds away from crying tbh I'm 14 and please don't make fun of me

have this friend and I'm starting to wonder if she is being fake and really hates me underneath. The other day my friend came over and she went through my photos saying 'I wish I could look like this in photos, I wish I could wear a bikini and look good like you but I'm so fat'. She has done this in the past but it's never been as bad as it was the other day. If I ever uploaded a photo of me she would message me and say 'I want to be slim like you' or 'you are so beautiful I wish I could be you'  My friend also had an illness and was coughing and sneezing everywhere and then she said 'I'm going to throw my dirty tissues at me so you get my illness' and then started laughing. She also kept asking me how often I got ill and if I had strong immunity. I felt like almost the entire time I saw her that day she was making comments that pointed towards her wanting me to catch her illness. I caught her illness and so did my family, and we were unwell for months. I called her up on it and said that I wasn't happy about what she did and that next time she was unwell I'd have to not spend time with her, and since then, she has been ignoring me She has stopped making the effort to make plans with me and meet up, even though I've initiated contact with her, and she never communicates with me through texting anymore and we used to text each other all the time why is she cutting me out of her life just because I stood up for myself and called her out on her disrespectful behaviour?

I've started talking to an old friend again recently. We'll call this friend T. T ended our friendship, and started slowly contacting me again over time, and recently we've been talking a tiny bit pretty much every day. T found out that I liked the same sort of music as him and talked to me about it. A few hours later he sent me a few songs from this one band we both like. T said they thought I'd like them because of the style of the songs and said they sent them cause they were bored too. I listened to the songs and most of the songs are about a relationship that ended and the person singing wanting that person back. Or the person singing seeing how good a person they miss is without them and how they are jealous and want them back. Some were normal songs though. T and I were never in a relationship only a friendship. And I know T doesn't like me because of T's sexuality. But do you think the songs correlated with our friendship, and T maybe sent them because T was telling me how T felt through music? Is it true that people send songs like that to tell someone how they feel indirectly?

My friend and I had been in a friend group that had been together since kindergarten and the two of us kind of just fell in together. He was my first kiss and my first sexual experience and I wanted to date, but he said he wasn't ready. So we became fwb for a couple of months, but we agreed to be exclusive. He decided to end it, and everything was fine. But a day afterward a longtime friend told me that he'd tried to get with her while we were together. I called him and he stopped picking up and said he didn't want to talk anymore. Then he ghosted me for ~3 wks and after 2 months he agreed to talk about everything. He said that he'd never tried to get with my friend, it was just a weird coincidence, this was all childish, and he was only going to apologize for the fact that he "didn't have feelings for me he just put the idea in my head that he did". That hurt a lot, but I pushed everything aside because it had really caused a divide in our group and I just wanted to repair things as best I could. A month later he apologized for EVERYthing, but he still wouldn't respond when I'd plan group outings even though he'd hang out with some friends from the group on campus, so I called him and asked what was up. He said he realized that he didn't like my personality at all and didn't want to talk anymore. It has destroyed our old friend group, and I feel terrible that I lost my close friend group and old friend, Is there anything I can do to fix this? (I'm sorry this is so long!)

My friends says that i dont look good and people are making fun of me and bullying because I'm ugly. I don't think I'm ugly though.I think I'm good looking.No one has ever said that i dont look good except for this friend.I don't even remember anyone making fun of my appearance.I don't know how others percieve my appearance.I don't know how the bullies percieve it and i dont know the reason they are picking on me.

I'm the nicest of guys who has a habit of going out of my way to financially and materially help others in their time of need but always find myself financially and materially struggling or even going without as a result of going out of my way to financially and materially help others in their time of need and starting to feel like I'm a complete idiot and that I've been doing it for completely dishonest individuals for "friends" who only want to and do in fact use me and take advantage of my kindness and generosity for their own personal profit, gain. And that unless I start caring about and taking care of the needs of only myself and absolutely nobody else and that I trust absolutely nobody but myself, befriend absolutely nobody, start a romantic or platonic relationship with absolutely nobody that I'm destined and doomed to live a life of dishonest individuals for "friends" who use me and take advantage of my kindness and generosity be and die dirt poor unmarried and all alone unless I start caring about and taking care of the needs of only myself and absolutely nobody else and that I trust absolutely nobody but myself, befriend absolutely nobody, start a romantic or platonic relationship with absolutely nobody am I destined  and doomed to be stuck in a life with only dishonest individuals for "friends" who only want to and do in fact use me and take advantage of my kindness and generosity for their own personal profit, gain and die dirt poor, unmarried, and all alone ??