I have 6 kids, one from my first marriage and 5 with my current husband. He has always treated my oldest daughter unlike the rest of the children, and I recently caught nasty texts by him to his friends about her calling her names; essentially bullying her. She found out, and is furious, but not surprised. She's turned this into a "I have always told you how terrible he is to me, and now you can see it for yourself" type of deal. She's more angry at me for not getting rid of him for her sake and her childhood. He has been in her life since age 11 and she's now 22, and he has treated her wrong for years. I was always hoping they'd outgrow the stage, but they hate each other beyond belief. My daughter helps me with my other children and is no means a problem child or a trouble maker. She says she feels like I never protected her, she says I put him first. Without judgement, I'd like to know what YOU would do, or some steps to take to fix this. My daughter is basically saying she doesn't want anything to do with me if I don't make changes, but I depend on my husband financially and we have 5 younger kids. Yes, she is being selfish by saying that. But at the same time, sort of understand where she is coming from. Help, please. 

My money as in my salary that I got from my job. Whatever I decide to help out my brother or my cousin or invest it in some project or buy a car, what's it to her?

My father just remarried 2 weeks ago, and now his new wife has decided she doesn't like my husband, she detests my husband and she has asked my father to tell me to divorce my husband pronto. What sort of woman asks another couple to divorce? I have been married for 15 years and have 3 children, she doesn't like them either now. 2 weeks ago she was over the moon about getting a wonderful new family.

I have lived in a sexless marriage for fifteen years and have tryed to explaine how I feel I have tryed over and over. To some how get my point across but to no avail what now please I'm desperate 

Samantha is a 28 year old married female. Before marrying less than a year ago, she had many short term relationships, many of which ended badly and two of her ex's have restraining orders out on her.  She frequently changes her style of dress and her hair color and switches jobs according to her: "like some people switch nail color". A few times a month, she reports getting angry and that during these times, "everything goes black." Her husband got stuck in traffic and was late to dinner with Samantha and she started yelling at him in the restaurant and threw the silverware at him. Samantha reveals that she feels certain her husband will leave her before they reach their one year anniversary, and doesn't believe that he or anyone truly loves her – she reports she often gets "really depressed" and "feels empty inside" –She has tried to take her life at least 2-3 times before but she claims it was "nothing serious" and a cry for attention. She remembers her father packing his bags and leaving the house when she was 8 years old and her mother telling her that it was her fault because she was a bad girl. As a consequence of growing up without her father, her family had little money and there were numerous times when they spent months in homeless shelters until her mother could find work. She admits her husband express concern over her drinking and time at the casino, but she feels she only drinks occasionally and going to the casino is a way to be around people and unwind

How does it feel becoming single all over again? Is it harder to date?  8 years. I'm 30 and have 2 kids

Both his maternal and paternal grandparents are Iesbian couples. Is he the first of his kind?

I recently asked a question and I described four situations where somebody might observe a person and decide "I can't marry this person ! He wouldn't like being married !" ( or "She wouldn't like being married !" ) . Nobody commented on that facet of my question . I discovered a blog written by a woman who loves being single and at the same time, wants a relationship . She explained that the idea that loving your single life will somehow give off the wrong kind of happiness vibes and tell the universe that you don't want a partner is a "superstition" . She explained "I think it's possible to genuinely love single life and at the same time look forward to being in a relationship ." . I decided "A man might look at her and think 'I can't marry this person ! She wouldn't like being married !' ." . It's all very well to think you're an awesome person and being married to you would be an amazing experience ... but a lot depends on what the other person wants . Marriage might not agree with that person . Any woman I get with has to throw herself into marriage and never look back . At one point, I saw a TV show where a recruiting officer said "I'm not out to shanghai anybody ! If the Army isn't your cup of tea, that's fine ! There are a lot of men and women who think the Army would make a darn fine life !" . In my case, I say "I'm not out to shanghai anybody ! If marriage isn't your cup of tea, that's fine ! There are a lot of men and women who think being married would make a darn fine life !" . Can you get to know somebody and decide "This person wouldn't like being married !" ? If your romantic partner wanted to be single for life, would you try to change that person's mind ? Doesn't trying to change that person's mind show a lot of disrespect for that person ? Thank you in advance for your answers . I always told myself "Don't take somebody away from something that person like ! That never ends well !" .

I'm going through a divorce after 3 years of domestic abuse. I have 2 year old twins. Most days I don't even sit down or eat enough because I'm so busy. I had to quit my job because I lost childcare (ex in-laws). I'm a chemical engineering student (online) living with my mother. I do all the grocery shopping, cooking and cleaning. In exchange she watches my toddlers on Saturdays while I do homework. Im also up late doing homework every night. I'm grateful and I actually kind of like being so busy most days, but the criticism from my mother is weighing me down.  The first thing she does when she comes home is find something wrong, and labels me by my mistakes I didn't put a new stick of butter out after finishing a soft one, I didn't finish folding the last load of laundry.. "you're too lazy to be a stay at home mom" "I've done a number in you. It's like you can't function" statements like that. I can't change her mind. She will not be accountable for the way she treats me, so having a talk with her after we've cooled down only leads to "well you did this" it only makes her defensive.  How can I shorten these conversations or have less? Most of the time I say ok or just nod, but she keeps going until she gets distracted or I get defensive. She wants a reaction I think.  Any solid suggestions/examples for simply changing the conversation? Changing the topic? Itd be nice to keep a few positive topics/statements up my sleeve to distract her. 

Nearly have of all marriages end in divorce, and many of those marriages were happy ones for years before it all went downhill. No matter what you think now, you simply do not know what the future holds, so don't bet your life savings on it by getting married. You tell me that you love your kids unconditionally, and that you always will, I believe you. But if you tell me that you can never fall out of love with your other half, or them you, then you are either lying to me or lying to yourself. That happens every single day, and if you end up being one of the lucky ones and grow old together then congrats, but you didn't have to get married to do that, just live together. There is no common law marriage in my State. If I find out someone is not right for me, I'd like to find out as an unmarried man with a live in girlfriend. I can evict her at any time, takes 30 days in my state with my assets intact. If you are religious, no problem. Go your your clergy, have him pronounce you man and wife. If you want, you can send out invitations, have a huge wedding reception, consolidate your last names and call each other your husband or wife. Get married in the eyes of your God. Just don't get married in the eyes of the State. God doesn't require a marriage license. Just a clergy. For legal, State recognized marriage, however, word to the wise is don't do it. Doing it is an example of a fool and their money, like with their spouse, soon being parted. Nearly *half* of marriages.

If a woman wants to be married so much, why do they initiate divorce 75 percent of the time? And why do men get burned for it most of the time? What I gather from this is that women are either liars, disillusioned about what marriage is, or that women change during marriage

Not sure how the emotional affair works but they say it's innocent affair no sex but attachment. Help please.

My ex wife is the custodial parent 

cause i am young. she is 38 i am 21, he is 34, she told him that she has no plans to stop contacting him and she wants them to raise the child together and support the child financially and she is demanding that he leaves me. what should i do? she said she wont stop until she gets what she deserves.

50% of marriages end in divorce 20-25% of husbands have sideass throughout the marriage 15-20% of husbands have a healthy addiction to porn 8-10% of husbands have a broken soul and have given up on life 7% of husbands are or have already drank themselves to death 1% of husbands are truly happy Because I saw that 'Assing Up Bates' show the other night, and a few of this couple's daughters are already married, and each of the guys just looked like a hollow shell Lili - while your answer shows up in my notifications, but not here - you make no sense at all.  Like my students, you seem unable to answer a question, instead giving an insulting opinion.  Well, how's this: I hope your mother dies from ductal breast cancer, on the same day you get raped by a black man.  How's that for trolling?

So my wife and I are under investigation by Child Protective Services because of previous domestic violence between us. I have never beat my wife and the most I've done is punch a wall, scream, and push her. I accepted full responsibility of my actions a long time ago and enrolled into anger management willingly, not court ordered. My wife also left our home for 7 moths while I was in anger management and she stayed with her mom, but recently she came back after working on our issues for a while and things couldn't be better between us now. However cps is investigating us because we were trying to get counseling for our son and my wife disclosed our situation and they called cps on us saying that I beat and choked my wife while she was pregnant, which never happened. Now cps made us sign a 30 day safety plan saying one of us has to leave the home, and originally my wife agreed to leave but then she chose not to and not to tell cps about it. Now she wants to tell the investigator they we're not following the plan, but I don't want to do that. I think without an attorney we shouldn't do anything like they and cps could possibly take our kids. Now cps wants to visit with my wife at my wife's mother's house because that's where she is supposed to be, but honestly I don't want that to happen myself because her mom could make the situation worse because she has never liked me. I don't know what to do I want to follow the plan I just don't want my wife and kids to be gone again

I set a life goal of getting them back together cause they divorced because of me. They said they were divorcing to protect my siblings and I from the dysfunction of their arguing. I have felt guilt for causing this ever since. So 30+ years later my Dad is dying. He is remarried but before he dies I am determined to get him and my mother back and married again even if it upsets my step-mother. I made it my goal and I will have failed in life yet again if I do not do this. I have to make up to them for making them feel like they have to divorce because of me and my siblings.

I have 3 young kids, so alone time is rare. I don't think they have stayed the night somewhere in over a year. We are going to a wedding during this time and I want to end the night right. Yes, it's selfish of me but I need to take advantage of this.  How to make sure she has a fun filled night and we continue it later? 

When a mistress gangs up with her friends to attack you online and say very harsh words about you right when things are going well between you and your husband. My mother says to not read what they post. But I cannot help it. I know it breaks my heart when I do but I have to. Yesterday her friend posted something about "Y'all lie too much cus ain't **** "comical" about your husband having sexual relationships with other gals with bad booty skin texture behind your back...you're hurt and probably reevaluating the quality of your pussy..." then goes on to say something like this " he hides you, he does you dirty& yet you still stick by him, ***** you are his undershirt" it's not that I should even care because I want to file for divorce but I don't have the means right now because I want to keep the kids and a lot of other legal issues involved. So I have to play it off with him, because this is part of my exit plan. But why does she feel like she has to do things like this to me constantly? I accepted the fact that they are together. And I'm ready to leave I'm preparing myself. Why won't she just leave me alone! The guy is emotionally abusive to me already because he is with her. Why does she feel the need to say things like this towards me whenever it seems like they are fighting. And I know they are fighting because he is nice to me these days. But I'm used to this so I don't fall for it. But why say such hurtful things to me.  Why say such hurtful things when you know you got the man already? 

I recently asked a question and I described four situations where somebody might observe a person and decide "I can't marry this person ! He wouldn't like being married !" ( or "She wouldn't like being married !" ) . Nobody commented on that facet of my question . I discovered a blog written by a woman who loves being single and at the same time, wants a relationship . She explained that the idea that loving your single life will somehow give off the wrong kind of happiness vibes and tell the universe that you don't want a partner is a "superstition" . She explained "I think it's possible to genuinely love single life and at the same time look forward to being in a relationship ." . I decided "A man might look at her and think 'I can't marry this person ! She wouldn't like being married !' ." . It's all very well to think you're an awesome person and being married to you would be an amazing experience ... but a lot depends on what the other person wants . Marriage might not agree with that person . Any woman I get with has to throw herself into marriage and never look back . At one point, I saw a TV show where a recruiting officer said "I'm not out to shanghai anybody ! If the Army isn't your cup of tea, that's fine ! There are a lot of men and women who think the Army would make a darn fine life !" . In my case, I say "I'm not out to shanghai anybody ! If marriage isn't your cup of tea, that's fine ! There are a lot of men and women who think being married would make  a darn fine life !" . Can you get to know somebody and decide "This person wouldn't like being married !" ? If your romantic partner wanted to be single for life, would you try to change that person's mind ? Doesn't trying to change that person's mind show a lot of disrespect for that person ? Thank you in advance for your answers .

I know a lot of guys who likes me but don't approach me. My bf had a crush on me the first time he saw me that's what he told me and didn't even make a move until 2-3 years later. I had no idea he liked me and I still don't believe him when he tell me he loves me. How? I don't see it. He pay attention to everyone else and rarely pay attention to me. He hide his love/attraction away from me. He doesn't act himself when he's with me. He's very shy and timid around me and we have been together for 3 years.  And then there is this other guy who is into me, he told friends I was a 10 and I'm hot but never even made a move. Am I just not attractive enough? I see other girls get hit on so much and in my case a lot of guys tell me I'm hot and all this but never approach me or talk to me.The guys who end up talking to me hide their real feelings too much. I can never tell if they are even that into me. I end up just leaving at the end. How am I ever going to have a real bf? Someone who want me as bad as I want them. I know this is the marriage section but I figured people on this side are a lot smarter. 

I have lived in my place for four years total. Two years before my ex and I got together, and during our entire relationship. Until a couple of months ago, things were consistently tumultuous between us. After a couple of therapy sessions things began to improve. Occasionally, his old behaviors would return. In therapy, he agreed to take time outs and remove himself from the apartment when he felt overly upset and out of control, to cool off. He never followed through. When I felt threatened, I would call the police and make him leave. He believes I was wrong because he cobtributed financially to my place when he lived here. I believe that he forfeited his right to be here each time he lashed out abusively at me. He has family in town, so there was always somewhere for him to crash. I did not feel obligated to tolerate his presence in my place when he became abusive, despite his financial contributions. Am I wrong? Eventually, it became absurd to continue in a relationship where abuse (screaming, covert threats, intimidation, he had also grabbed and pushed me in the past) was a consistent threat, and I made him leave for good.