So my current ex J and I broke up in June. In August I hooked up with my ex L. Who I had previously dated for two years. J and I got back together in October and about a 2 weeks ago. L's best friend messaged J on messenger telling her that L was pregnant. So J breaks up with me because she thought I knew the whole time. But I had no idea that L was pregnant. I told her we hooked up in August and that the baby is mine. So I reached out to L. She told me that she tried to get an abortion. But she couldn't go through with it and ever since that day she's been trying to tell me. She just didn't know how too. L left me a voicemail listed as an unknown number. Which I never checked until a Wednesday of the incident week. She stated how she was pregnant and she's sorry for keeping the news from me. She also stated that if I loved her she would fight for me. But if I love J. She'll fall back. Now J on the other hand threw my name in the dirt telling everybody in our church and all our friends that I cheated on her and got my ex pregnant. So I got blacklisted from church. Lost a good amount of people I thought were my friends. I have no family here and I have two other kids. So I've been trying to work things out with L. We found out we're having a baby girl. But she won't let me come to any of the appointments. She's been distance and cold. My family is telling me just give her space and time and support her from a distance. But I really wanna get back together with her. 

I've heard cases of a mother still loving her horrible child (even when they tried to kill her) but not many about dads. Apparently my neighbor keeps visiting his daughter who is jailed for aggravated assault and other charges. The woman is now 23 but when she was 16 she pushed her own father down the stairs and left him for dead. He barely survived her attempt but still forgave her. The girl's stupid excuse was because her father disapproved of her relationship and she was tired of his strict rules. You still gotta be a total POS to want your parent dead. So a father can be that unconditional too? Loving his child even though that POS of a child wanted him dead...

Today something happened my friend grandpa is in a comma and I tried to comfort my friend  which made me think about my grandpa and my mum and everything and my mood changed.when went to class my teacher started shouting at me and I was trying to explain to her but she still yelled,I was trying to hold onto my tears but I ended up crying and I feel so embarrassed.

I want to vent about what a loser I am, but all my friends are losers too, and I don't want to drag their hopes down with mine.. My girlfriend found her calling, and she's become so much more successful than me, and I can't keep up with her.. She lost her attraction to me, but she still loves me, she just needs me to catch up to her so she can regain her attraction to me again.. I'm so jealous of her success, and her ability to make new friends, who are just as successful.. it's her ability to network that propelled her.. I'm an extrovert with social anxiety, due to how socially inept I am. I don't want a job where I don't get to interact with people, but I lack the social skills to get the job that lets me do that I can't vent to my girlfriend because she doesn't care about my insecurities anymore, because she isn't attracted to me anymore, so how the hell could I confess to her what a loser I feel like I am, when she already sees it anyway... I can't vent to my friends because they're still trying to make it... I don't want to talk to my family because it just makes me feel like even more of a loser to have the ones who are supposed to care about you (I know, many families suck, and I'm lucky to have them, but it still makes me feel like a loser) Who am I supposed to talk to when I have no one to talk to? How am I supposed to succeed when I don't even have the self-positivity nor social skills to succeed...

Imagine you are interested in a particular girl but she's indifferent with you ( Remember men this: most girls usually won't verbally tell you they have no interest in you. Instead they communicate it to you indirectly or in a subtle way by excuses or her behaviors, atittude, gestures, etc. One of the reasons is perhaps because girls don't want to hurt your feelings. So, if you notice that it is very clear she's indifferent with you by certain signs you see in her, how do you get her to be interested in you?

My husband wants Aiesha and I like Nala. We need a tie breaker. 

Im dumb and i noticd other dumb ppl have friend or family or in relationship with someone who keeps seeing themself as superior and they are mean to the dumber person. I hate it. How do we stop having such people around? I am dumb and nice girl. Thanks.