My mom has softened but she used to try to use me by telling me not to see the bad sister. My mom has softened on that and it's been at least 10 years so she's done that to me. My father however continues to use me as recently as last Christmas. There was a convoluted lie my parents came up with to avoid having to see her but they did not inform me of the lie so and asked when we were going to see my dad's family I said we already dead, not knowing that the lie was that we are seeing them Christmas day. My dad got mad at me. On top of that my aunt that I was always close to, the good aunt, speaks of nothing but her animosity towards her mother and sister. She resents her mother for taking sides with the sister. The other aunt who is deemed a bad aunt, she has not brought me into it in years and so I don't really mind her. So making jabs about stuff but that's all. When I was in college years ago she did suck me into it in a way that was awful but that was over 15 years ago. Only thing she does use me for us to get gossip out of me with anxiety I'm afraid to lie so I do give too much info sometimes. However she is the aunt that resents her own son so she is very unhealthy and narcissistic. She praises for two daughters will dump it on her son However she is the aunt that resents her own son so she is very unhealthy and narcissistic. She praises her two daughters were dumping on her son. So my question is below So how do I respond when my dad the good aunt or my mom Try to get me to make a statement to the bat app through silence towards her or get me involved? Since I have OCD, possessive compulsive, they use that to claim that when I see the bad and it's purely an obsession. Yet only once have I ever been obsessed on the bed out and that was six years ago in 2013.  My dad and the good aunt are the two that I'm obsessed on

My husband and I have been married for 20 years and have 4 awesome boys. We have dated since high school when he moved here with his mom from New Zealand when she married his step-dad. We had a instant connection.  However, I dated his step brother before we met. He knows this. It kind of bothered him when we first hooked up in high school but after a while it just became a memory that we never talked about. We were looking through random pics of ourselves in high school as his step-dad just passed away and his mom is planning to move back to auckland to live with her sister and she gave him a box of his stuff from then. As we were looking at the pics we talked about how it was a kind of a culture shock to move to Texas from New Zealand. Then we started talking about how me and his step-brother (which he considers a brother now) dated. I asked him if it ever bothered him and he said, "No, we were in high school and you guys were only together a year. It would have been different if you two slept together though." The problem is I thought he was aware that I in fact slept with him once. I did not correct him. I just stopped the conversation. I need to tell him? Don't I? I don't get it? I am a troll because I did it? Sorry. It was a long time ago. By the way I do feel pathetic. I should have told him.

It's not hard like I'm eager to tell people the gossip, it's hard like anxiety like I might accidentally release something in the stress of making sure I cover up and make him sound wonderful and accomplishing so much. It's especially hard when he wrecks a holiday or something. After high school last year my mom gave me the full-time job of taking care of them, so I'm not in college and I don't work. I told my friends that I'm working.  My mom will not discuss my dads drinking when I try to bring it up with her. My two brothers set up and moved out, I'm the only girl so it's my job to take care of them. 

He was telling me about Thanksgiving plans with his family. He said he is looking forward to watching football on Thanksgiving day while the food is being prepared. His mother and aunts will be cooking and getting things ready. Meanwhile he is planning on drinking beer and watching the game with his dad, uncles and cousins. He said I'd have fun talking to my in-laws as if that's "his plan" for me. I in no way want to do this. I was so happy we were going to his parents' because I don't have to prepare food this year. I want to relax and maybe watch the game with him. He seems to be exlcluding me from his plans. I am very upset and sad, but he doesn't know this. Why does he want to get rid of me? What do I do or say? I don't want him to have me there just because I complained. Also, apparently his mother and other relatives just assume I am going to help prepare the meal. I am not looking forward to the holiday now and my festive spirit has pretty well evaporated.

My Mom and dad are separated. They both have different lives, they both have partners. As years go by after their separation, they became good friends. But then, since my dad got himself a new girlfriend, things started to change. My parents had a fall out, and didn't speak again, my mom tried to be civil for mine and my sister sake. but my dad wouldn't allow it. My dad and his new partner tried for a baby, 9 months in there was a miscarriage. We as a family was there to support them, and grieve for them. One of the family members thought it would be better to give them space and anything they needed they would be there. My dads partner decided to cut contact with her, then as the year goes by my dad and his partner became distant from the family, even his brother and they was extremely close. There was a massive fall out between my dad, his partner against me and my sister, we tried speaking to them about how we felt and how distant they are being with all of us, even his own daughters. Like as if my dad is a completely different person since his been with his partner.  Two years, later my nan tells me that my dad and his partner are engaged. New baby arrives, we had no idea about it, nothing had been said. Today, my great grandad and great grandma funeral. My mom arrived, my sister dropped a messaged to dad as it was the last minute decision, to warn him that mom is coming. Once it was over my dad couldn't even look at me and ignored my sister when he said goodbye. 

What am I doing with my life? No seriously what the hell am I doing I'm not even doing the whole ironic thing "what the hell am i doing with my life" thing. I'm actually serious. What am I doing? My parents offered me to go on a 2 hour drive to see my little brother in university. My younger brother hes like 2 years younger than me. And I just didnt go because im an idiot. I declined because I am stupid. Like I guess I felt like if i went to university i would feel a little intimidated by all the university students and all their happy faces. I'm a jerk. I'm so petty. This is like the one time my brother really wanted me to come. Like my brother all my life thought i was a bozo loser which hes kinda right but like last time we met we went to buffalo wild wings with his friends and they thought i was a cool guy and they wanted me to come to the dorm and drink some beers with them and play some mortal kombat and i should have gone. I should have hung out with my bro today and i didnt because im a stupid idiot.

We have lots of cousins she'll be spreading these lies to. Rick:  She isn't just hurt, she is evil.  

it was a cool autumn day when My brother and I were going into a smoke shop. Right outside there was a mother screaming at her children to stay in the car while she goes in. She is just dawdling around the store smoking a vape inside and acting like a super pissed off redneck...we felt really bad for the kid

She's going to spread lies about me at Christmas regarding my personality and she's also going to pick on me for being obsessive as I do have that aspect. I suffer from OCD and learning disabilities. No one is sure what in the world my sister suffers from but she can be verbally abusive at 26 like an 11-year-old.

i'm hoping i get no troll answers to this, because i'm only being honest about my situation. i'm in the predicament at the moment where the mental health services are just not giving me the help nor support i need......i have been under the mental health services half my adult life, because i've had a serious mental disorder to deal with....all in all the mental health services haven't been that great in helping me  and they aren't now. i'm a man in my early forties, i have lived on my own for 15 years now in a flat...i have never achieved any relationships so i have no support network except my elderly mum and dad who live far...i have lived as a hermit for years living a lonely existence dealing with a personality disorder...ive been asking and asking for psychology support for years only to get told there are no resources or long waiting list for it....now my social worker is telling me, the mental health team are wondering whether having psychology will do me more harm than good?  meaning they are not going to get me psychological support? my social worker is a younger man than me and he makes everything sound so hopeless as if he is not trying to get me the support and services...he knows the difficult predicament i'm in,...yet it seems the mental health services are just leaving me to rot? my mum has been on the phone to the mental health team and argued with my social worker about my difficult situation, but its as though they're not listening? 

My partner and I, we're both adults. We live together separate from our parents.  I have never had an issue making my own decisions for my life.  As long as I am happy, healthy, no one else's opinion of "how" I should live, or what I "should" do ever mattered to me. Not even my parents. Not that they really ever had opinions.  "As long as you're happy" my mom would always say. They don't really care. They trust I can make my own life choices. My partner, he's the opposite.  His parents are the opposite. His mom still tries to orchestrate his life. Whenever we make a huge life choice together he gets worried of what she will think.  It causes him anxiety.  It's hard for me to empathize with this since it's so incredibly easy for me to blow people off when I think they're crossing the line. I don't give people the time of day when it comes to their unsolicited opinions about my life. Yet, he grew up constantly being bullied, and pushed around, by his parents. He couldn't do anything right. There were always fights in his household. And they were usually over him doing something not to suit their ridiculous standards. Standards that they don't even come close to meeting themselves.  I really don't know how to help him.  I've tried telling him their opinion doesn't matter when it comes to OUR life together. He knows that, but he has a difficult time convincing his conditioned mind otherwise... I have told him many times that he does not have to let them affect him like that anymore. He's free of all of that.  But I also know that it is something ingrained so deep in his heart and mind, it's very difficult for him to break away... 

Like my cousin's girlfriend. My cousin has health problems and she was always scared for him and used to cry feeling so bad for him and always helping him and he was really sick for 1 month and had a hard time to go to work so she didn't let him go to work and instead worked 2 shifts and he didn't even ask her for that. 3 weeks ago they got into a huge fight which resulted in a break up and now suddenly they both don't care about each other. My cousin got into hospital last week and she didn't even care but when they were a couple, she'd be crying so hard if it happened. I don't get it, How can people love each other so deeply then suddenly don't even care about each other

She was there for stuff I won't get graphic about. Possibly something serious like cancer but most likely just an infection or PMS related symptoms (unlikely that). Unfortunately it is likely something little.

Like my cousin's girlfriend. My cousin has health problems and she was always scared for him and used to cry feeling so bad for him and always helping him and he was really sick for 1 month and had a hard time to go to work so she didn't let him go to work and instead worked 2 shifts and he didn't even ask her for that. 3 weeks ago they got into a huge fight which resulted in a break up and now suddenly they both don't care about each other. My cousin got into hospital last week and she didn't even care but when they were a couple, she'd be crying so hard if it happened. I'm 19 years old and never really been in love, just had small crushes since I'm young and don't wanna commit to anyone and have fun 🤣. But I still don't get it, How can people love each other so deeply then suddenly don't even care about each other 

I don;t want to be a tattle but this man acts like a kid when he is drunk and sasses like a teen. He even talked back to his grandson who was 3 (that was actually funny). He is a grouchy alcoholic.  He's divorced but has 3 children, all adults, and two grandchildren. 

My mother said not to come visit the sister as the sister can be filthy with her words and since she is not feeling well she'll be more prone to nastiness. I am rightfully distant from her (not quite estranged) as she is a bully but since I am her brother I feel I should not just ignore her when she is in the hospital. She's not dying or anything, she is ill (I'll leave out the graphic details, something from her rectum). So what can I do to extend an olive branch without going over board or allowing her to abuse me? She is 26. Not trolling, this is a true story and real question. 

My dad and I have had the weirdest relationship. I love him, I really do. He can be really kind and thoughtful. But I never feel like I can be myself around him. He's a HEAVY Christian, as a matter of fact he's a pastor and he's always ALWAYS trying to preach to me about god. He has forced his religion on me and my family since I can remember. He's forced us to go to church every sunday and even now when I tell him I cant go to church he tries to guilt trip me, saying things like "dont apologize to me, apologize to god" and he makes me feel terrible about myself. I'm gonna be honest the only reason I go to church in the first place is because I feel bad for him. It's only 3 of us, including my dad. So if I didn't show it would only be him and 1 more person. I dont like seeing him down because he truly is passionate about his belief. Anyways, what I'm trying to say is, sometimes him and I just don't get along. Everytime I try to be myself around him he always has some sort of judgement so I tend to just stay silent around him sometimes, I dont spend much time with him and it kills me inside because I feel like I should spend more time with him while he's alive, hes 62. But I just cant seem to ever have a GENUINE time with him, no matter how hard I try. He likes to randomly tell me things like "i wish my dad was still alive" "you're lucky you have me, I lost my dad when I was 20" I'm torn up so much inside I dont know what to do.

I am away at college and i found out my 15 year old sister has been sleeping in my room and taking my clothes and shoes and other belongings since i left. It really bothers me she sleeps in my bed because it's MY bed and she has her own and i can't stand that she keeps taking my things when they belong to ME and i bought most of them with my own money. My boyfriend said i'm acting entitled and like a spoiled brat for being mad that she's using my things and sleeping in my room because it's not hurting me or affecting anything that she's doing it. I feel like he's right and i shouldn't be mad at her but at the same time i still get really bothered. i feel like my stuff just isn't mine anymore and everyone can just use it whenever they feel like. when i still lived at home she would steal but stuff but only very rarely, now she wears my clothes every day. i also hate that she just practically moved herself into my room and started sleeping in my bed with my sheets every night. I think it's wrong for me to be mad because she's only doing it since she misses me but i can't help it. can anybody explain why it makes me so insanely angry that she's using my stuff or sleeping in my room? 

I want to get along with my family, yet we have different view points. For example, recently I been loosing weight and I usually don't bother anyone I wake up early go to the gym come home & cook meals. Suddenly, because I don't bother anyone I'm a hater and don't want others to loose weight is what one of my siblings said? How does this make any sense? I saw it as being independent. Also, I have managed to get a college degree on my own & decided to marry a great guy who also has a masters & now we think we are better ? So wanting better means you think you're better?

I've always had low self esteem due to my birth defect. I always felt bad about myself, especially when little kids would sit and stare at my face and sometimes I even catch them talking about it with their friends or siblings. I was a cashier once and I saw a kid look at me then whispered something to their sister and their mom told them to stop. I couldn't hear what they said but its obvious that they were talking about me since after she whispered something to her sister, they both looked right at me. I also have a son whose father I met online so obviously my sons dad doesn't care about us.. I never had much friends growing up and I still don't. I've never had a boyfriend in my 23 years of life and no guy has EVER shown interest in me EVER. I'm sure it has something to do with my looks. How likely is it that I'll never get married since I'm ugly and have a son? The only reason that guy had sex with me is because he was probably desperate and he didn't really see my face because I covered up my birth defect with my hand..