I am married but my husband is not the real father of my oldest daughter.  My oldest daughters father died of suicide when she was 2 ( PTSD from military).  When I married my husband my daughter was 4. He was a military friend of my daughters father. One of the reasons we got close quickly is he felt compelled to be the father figure to my daughter that was taken away from her.  They are actually really close. He loves her and treats her like his own. But his mother is a different story. She will leave my daughter at home and take my two sons out. She has also "forgot" on many occasions her christmas gifts. My daughter called her Nana once like my sons do and she snapped at her and said "I am not your Nana" This hurts my daughter. My daughter does not have grandmothers as my mom died when I was young and her real fathers mother does not want to be in the picture.  I do not know how to address this. My husband's dad is very sweet to my daughter and treats her well. He has even given her money when my mother in law has "forgotten" about her.  I addressed this with my husband after my daughter spent all of friday night crying in her room when she took her brothers out without her. He said that she was just set in her ways and it would just cause a lot of trouble if we brought it up. But I know he feels bad about this as the next day he took her to a movie, out to lunch, and shopping.  How do I handle this? How do I let my mother in law know this is not okay? @ the person who said quit referring to him as not her real father. I was strictly using that for you guys to describe the situation...thank you for your advice though..;)

I have a 14 year old step sister Nancy, my stepmother's daughter that is my best friend. I really like her. I am a 19 year old guy. We are very close. I try to be very protective of her. She has developed into a beautiful girl. She recently ask me to tell her about boys and sex. I think it is VERY IMPORTANT that she know the facts especially about sex. I don't want her pregnant. I told her I would prefer she talk to her mom about this. She said it would be to embarrassing to talk to her mom and she wants me to educate her about these subjects. Should I tell our mom about here asking about this and ask her to talk to Nancy or should I tell Nancy the facts about her body and how to prevent pregnancy. Nancy trust me completely and feels she can talk to me about anything without embarrassment. Mom and teenage girls, PLEASE give me some advice her. I only what is best for Nancy.

I have 5 older siblings and I am the youngest one. My father won't let me do anything on my own. For example, when I bought a car he was mad at me for one week because I didn't take him with me. He started crying. Also, when I got my BA he started crying on why he didn't go to college. When I got a house, he got mad at why I didn't look at homes with him when I am married to an amazing guy. What is the problem? I am happy grown up. Yet, why he won't allow it? I attend all family get together and never miss why is that not enough for him?

I am a senior in high school with a female cousin the same age. To say she was beautiful is an understatement. She is gorgeous. She has a figure to die for. She has been my best friend all our lives. We are very close. However she is my cousin so I have NO ROMANTIC interest in her AT ALL. We like to hang out together and have a lot of fun together. She will model her clothes for me and ask if they make her look sexy. I never get a b0ner for her and do not EVER think of her that way. My buddies who also know her tell me that NO GUY can watch a girl, any girl, that is as hot and sexy as she is and not get a b0ner unless they are gay. Does me not getting turned on by her mean I am gay?

She wanted me to be thin and she kept insulting me when I was 10-20 pounds over weight. We argue about it a lot and after I lost weight she ignores me. I don't understand why she forced me to be thin by fat shaming me I was OK with myself I was 15 pounds overweight and my face pretty. 

So i'm a single mother with a 6 year old daughter and we were at the mall seeing a mall santa like we do every year and we were in line and when it was our turn she sat on the santa's lap and i had to do some shopping so i asked the santa to keep an eye on her and he said yes so i went and shopped and when i came back my daughter was gone!! i panicked and searched the entire mall and i saw the santa holding my daughter hand leaving the mall! i screamed at him to let her go and he did and then he fled the scene quickly this is a serious question i don't know who to tell. i already submitted a mall report 

My dad suffered for most of his life with major depression and after trying all kinds of medications and being in and out of hospitals, he took his life on October 13th of this year. My family and I are a mess. His memorial was on Saturday. I'm a stay at home mom with a 2 year old daughter, and she distracts me but I still think of him constantly. I don't know how to get through this. I miss him so much. I feel guilt, like it was my fault. Like I should have done something to stop this. Death feels so final and I don't know how to get through not being able to see him or talk to him. 

I gave her a card with a check for $100 enclosed.  My mother (whose jobless boyfriend accompanied her to the wedding) gave her $100 as well.  Not only did my cousin send her a thank you card, but she addressed the card to my mother and her boyfriend.  Even though my cousin is obviously unaware that he doesn't have a job (as my mom is embarrassed that she's the breadwinner), I was mad that he received credit on that gift when he stays at home while my mother works.  Meanwhile, I have a job and didn't get a thank you for the $100.  Does my cousin secretly loathe me for some reason?  I mean, do people typically do not send thank you cards to people [they don't like] who sent them gifts for their wedding, birthday, baby shower, etc.?  Please note the following: 1.  I am the only child, and my mother has always been well-off with her career, thus me having a lot of things.  So perhaps my cousin assumed I pretended to give her $100, and that my mother gave me the $100 to give for the wedding.  So even though she knows I have a job, maybe she thought my mom still spoils me, and that the gift wasn't really mine. 2.  My, mom, her boyfriend and I came to the wedding together.  So perhaps my cousin thought it was tacky for me to bring my own gift.  FYI - I live on my own, not with my mother.  So isn't bringing my own gift the right thing to do, or does it not matter?  Or should wedding attendants share a gift if they came together?  

Do you have problem of your Son talking to his PP??????

My 15y.o daughter has been very forward and behaving inappropriately for a while now but has recently been inappropriate with a new neighbors son. The boy is 17 and my daughter has mentioned interest in him, so I though them might be a "thing". But my neighbor recently visited me to talk father-to-father saying that she has been harassing his son and that they are considered pressing charges but they dont want to cause turmoil since they just moved here.  I confronted my daughter and she said what I initially thought, that they were messing around and that he was playing innocent to his father. But, I recently witnessed her being really forceful and inappropriate toward him, she didn't care that I was standing right there. He was backing away from her and she was clearly following and touching on him when he didnt want her too. Groping and sexually harassing him (for lack of a better term). Her behavior disgusted me and I called her out on it right then and there so she got defensive and lashed out on both of us. She kneed him in the privates and spat at me.  I'm at a loss here, she's gotten completely out of control. I hardly recognize her and I have half the mind to call the cops on her myself. I wanna set her straight but I also want to be understanding and try to figure what's going on with her. Her mother is permanently out of the picture.

My brother (22) hates whenever anyone tries to hug him. Not just random ppl anyone. He's normal, cool, funny and a the most fun person to be around but he has always hated hugs. It's almost like he switches and gets annoying or offended whenever anyone, even me, approaches him for a hug. He's fine with handshakes, fist bumps, arm bumps, even should bumps but a full 2-arm hugs really bother him. Is this normal?

Recently, a distant family member reached out to join us in the coming holidays for a family reunion. I didnt remember him until we facetimed last week. I now have a weird incomplete memory/recurring dream(since I saw him) of him and I in a room in some house. He and another guy were showing me a "trick" where he put my sweater on backwards and tied the sleeves across and around my back (like a straight jacket) and tossed me on a huge bed and had to break out while he was tickling me. I remember struggling trying to get free and leave the room, and crying. I am pretty sure he put his hand and clothe or something over my mouth while I was trying to scream. I also remember that he touched me in a way that made me uncomfortable. I'm not sure exactly where tho, or that he did anything inappropriate. Like I said it's an incomplete memory. I think I must've been like 4 or 5y.o. I think he would have been in his late teens/early 20s at the time. I thought about trying to figure out about the house or where my parents would've been (bc I t remember either of them being there) but dont want to stir any drama over nothing. I'm 17 now. A guy btw. To be clear, I'm not tryna accuse him of anything. Just loosing sleep over this memory or whatever and was wondering if I should tell anyone, ask around or leave it alone? It's possible I'm just overthinking innocent playing idk.

I will be spending the weekend with my narcissistic father-in-law, his compliant family members and his victim wife (my mother-in-law). I will not stay home, because my spouse is passionate about his family seeing our young child.  I do not feel comfortable leaving our child there for the weekend (without me), because my spouse wholeheartedly trusts his dad/family. Are there any helpful coping mechanisms for when you're "forced" to be around people that make you feel anxious, frustrated and sick?

I always wanted some sort of hellbender or mudpuppy and since Christmas is right around the corner, it's all time for us to make puppy dog eyes at our parents to get us what we want. That was what I did 6 or 7 years ago... now its time to bring on the heat. any information about them would be great. My dad's main concern is that no one will take care of it when we go on vacation.... is there any way to work around that? I appreciate any and all answers as each and every on is bringing me closer to getting my dream pet! I also would like to receive info about how to care for their tanks, it can be tricky... thanks

If I socialize with any family that is there enemy (that is 2/3 of the family) then they get mad. I am only supposed to be with their friends and the few relatives they like. I am supposed to be like a toddler at age 31. I keep it a secret when I can who I see as I live out on my own but with family they find out sometimes and get mad. They claim it is my mental illness making me see these relatives and yet they don't say that when I see their friends from the Cooper family and that is FAR MORE mental illness related.

I don't like my abusive sister but I like the cousins. 

My oldest step-son had his second child by another woman a little more than a year ago. My wife and I have only seen the baby about 3 times. Once when she was born, once for Christmas, and once this past early April. This girl said she wasn t comfortable letting her child come to our house even though the baby s dad live with us. She sent my step-son a few pics this past weekend and he forwarded them to us so today I reached out to her just to say how big she was getting and how pretty she was. I asked her if me and my wife, grandma, could see her soon. She replied that she could bring her to our house tomorrow if we d be home. I told her that would be fine. When I told my wife she got highly upset with me saying I was overstepping my bounds by going behind my step-sons back to see the baby. He himself hadn t seen the baby in a while and she felt that he should see her first. I wasn t trying to overstep as much as I was wanting to see the baby? My step-son has a temper and he and both his baby mommas tend to always end up arguing when they talk on the phone. What they do is between them. I just want to see my grandchild. Did I overstep my bound by asking her could we see the baby?

My little brother (17) has to get a minor surgery. He's rather nervous. How can I help him and comfort him before and after the process? 

I am from Russia.I'm 26 and she's 30. She says she loves me. do you think I should marry her? Is the difference in 4 years is a barrier?

My daughter is and at times I can't believe I gave birth to her. I have to stay away from her permanently for my own well being. Her brother, her husband and son have all suffered at her hands in the past yet they stay with her...Is it me? Her dead father was a man who loved to play cruel pranks on family and friends, even to the point of hurting them...how does this make me a crap parent??  DNA is DNA...

It was a cute picture and anyone would have done it. She was a cute brat back then (she's a monster now). So what do I do when she flips with me at Thanksgiving or Christmas?

I don't want to stop because of my nfamily (who would?) I want to stop because of this public figure I like. There's this public figure I like (You probably never heard of her) but ever since I found out she was part Czech, I was very conflicted. Since my nfamily is Serbian, I've always hard a hard time trusting people who are Slavic. I want to feel differently about her, but it's really hard. I actually have dreams about her getting hurt. How do I deal with this?

Since she's in college full time I give her $200 every two weeks so she can have something in her pocket and not be completely broke. As soon as I give her the money it's all gone in the same day she goes crazy buying clothes makeup and shoes. I don't understand how someone can spend $200 in one day when they don't even have bills to pay but it blows my mind. I'm 30. She's 27. We have been together for a while now and I've been giving her money for years. When I give her that $200 she could've bought a $4 bag of candy. She was mad I wouldn't buy her a bag of brookside chocolate. She said her period was on and she was craving chocolate. She caused a scene in Walmart. Then she wanted to go self check out and accidentally forget t pay for it. I was like " I gave you $200 why are you begging for candy" she was like " I had to buy clothes." She literally only had 50 cents in her account. This happens every time. She drains her account down to 50 cents and then has to beg me to buy her food or snacks. 

I apologize for the typos in advance. To get to the point I am a 17 year old girl that still does not drive. I have work and school and in order to get there I have to take Uber's. It's becoming annoying at this point because most of my check goes towards transportation. It's like I'm working just to get to work. I make decent pay but I never have enough to buy things like clothes or food since my mother doesn't feed us. I try to save a percentage of my paycheck every week to save up on a down payment for a car but i never succeed. It's either my mom asks me for money or I run out of money on my Uber account. It's sad since I'm a senior and everyone else have cars giving them more freedom to go wherever they want. Unfortunately, I was not given that privilege. I apologize if there's not really a question but I would like to ask if people wouldn't be rude about it. Instead, I would like to be given advice on how to save or just encouraging words if possible. I feel like I'm stuck and I'm not trying my best.

My parents are very controlling and have trust-issues. My sister and I are both in high school and aren't allowed any social media or dating, and aren't even allowed to go to social events with friends. We're expected to keep our phones and laptops in their room and at night. On top of that, they want to control everything about our life. What to eat and when. What time we should shower. When we should be finished with homework. They even read our texts. They say they do all of it because they love and care about us, but it's WAY too much. I need some privacy, space, and independence. Everyday I look forward to leaving my parents house and going to college. I want freedom. My mom is emotionally abusive. She makes me feel terrible, and often does the same to my sister. She always threatens to hit us when she's mad, and sometimes actually does. My parents always side with each other, even when one of them is wrong, and never support me or my sister. My sister is often scared to take my side, and I'm scared to take hers. Sometimes I think about running away or calling the cops. A couple years ago, the depression started, and continues to this day. I almost cut myself on several occasions, but I got scared that my mom would see and get very angry. I've contemplated suicide many times, but I know I can't because my cousin committed suicide 2 years ago, and it had a devastating effect.

I cant tell if all women are like this or not?. She smokes too much pot. I cant get her to exercise or eat right. Shes uncontrollably moody and beats herself up. We had a great day yesterday, suddenly today shes crying, telling me to stfu and she has a lot of problems. She needs professional help. She wont fix up either and looks embarrassing to be seen with. I keep cleaning up after her too. On good days shes kind, loving caring, but talks too much.  In bed tosses and turns and I dont sleep well. So I have my own bed now.  She doesnt want to go back to work and I barely make enough to support us 

I am 15 and a half years old and I got caught with a hicky. My mom has already had me grounded for a week and has repeatedly told me how disappointed she is and how disgusting they are. I have never had anything lower than an A in my life. I am a tutor, I take collage classes and I am graduating with an Associates degree from high school. I want to be a lawyer when I grow up and I am already pushing towards that's goal. I have had only two boyfriends ever. I play bowling and volleyball and the worst thing I have ever done is get a hicky. Now my mom wants to keep me grounded and on top of all of this she said I am only allowed to see my boyfriend when my sister is there with us and only her. Not his family or any person. It has to be my sister. However, my sister is never home so I wouldn't ever be able to make plans because she's never here. I made one mistake and I am genuinely sorry and I would never do it or anything else ever again. I have already told her this but she doesn't believe me. Instead of turning this into a lesson learned she only wants to give me a punishment. What do I do? And is this a reasonable punishment?

Well today I had a long day the negative attitude actually started a few hours ago when I did not want to go to the store with her I was really tired and I have been having flu like symptoms I just wanted to be left alone I am sure she wanted me to go with just so she can vent about my brother last thing I would want to hear today especially since she doesn't listen to me when I try to help to begin with. She would be mad at him because he didn't give her more money in my opinion she's a bit spoiled and money is almost all she thinks about he was nice enough to order pizza no thank you from her. Now I am not trying to vent or anything I am curious if anyone has gone through similar. She gets mad when I show emotions like today when I didn't want to go with her for example I don't let her hurt me anymore it's just weird she doesn't know I feel this way I don't think she deserves to plus she wouldn't care anyways. I also meant to add she said all of a sudden that the power/electricity will go out when really I just don't think she felt like paying it for a lame punishment it's ridiculous and actually makes me laugh a bit if it's true she's doing this I am not assuming either.

I am 16 years old and a Junior in high school. I live in Scottsdale, AZ and me and some buddies were planning on driving to California and back in one day. We would wake up and leave at 4:30 am and be back by 10:30 pm that night. It is a 6 hour drive to Santa Monica and 6 hours back. We would be paying for the gas ourselves and drive safe. They have life360 so I feel it'd be easier to convince them, rather than try and trick life360 and sneak it. How should I go about this? Both my other friends parents are going to let them so I could say that. Also my parents are pretty strict they rarely let me sleep out and don't like me driving on highways so Idk how they'd feel bout this. I could also just leave my phone with a friend and say I'm going to hang with him all day. Leaving this early won't be sus because its Black Friday and I already told them we're already planning on waking up early.  Which should I do and if you think I should ASK my parents, please let me know how I should ask. Thanks.

Even though you work part time minimum wage and your whole entire check has to go to rent practically they act like they won't let you get on a greyhound bus somewhere warmer to become homeless, but don't give you any money at all 

So ever since me and my babys dad broke up he had been having bad addiction problems with gambling and cocaine he used to be a very good father and a very good boyfriend we had lived with each other for six years but all the sudden he felt the need to start partying and hanging out with his friends and being irresponsible with his money I feel like he's never going to go back to the same person as he used to be He's only 24 years old and our son is three years old and now ever since we broke up he stop seeing his son doesn't ever ask how he's doing doesn't reply to any of my messages do men regret eventually or grow up eventually are going back to the way they used to be or will he be this way forever I just want him to be. The father he used to be but now he is a deadbeat and just wants to party it up at gators which is a bar that he goes to every week I don't know what to do I've been raising my son on my own for the past six months do you mean eventually wake the **** up

I recently just joined this new soccer club and I was placed in the regional team which means we travel a lot as soon as spring comes around 2020. But I sometimes won't have a reliable person to drive me in my family because 2 of my brothers are too busy working and stuff and the other drives me sometimes but is also a truck driver so he's busy too, but my sister is the one that drives me a lot, and she also works, and my mom won't drive anymore because she isn't that good to drive in highways. Do you think it's okay to ask the parent team managers( they control events and stuff and are actually part of the team) to give me a ride when they are driving their son who's on the team as well....

My father died 10 years ago. Sisters didn't want to help with fixing up the family home, so she ended up selling it for a nice chunk of change. Well its ten years later and my sisters have been gifted just about all the money my mother received from the selling of the house. Everyone wanted my mother to visit when she had money, but now no one wants her. I have my own medical issues to deal with, so I'm actually not able to take her in, but everyone else is healthy. Any advise on how to get my sisters to be decent human beings?