My birday was 3 years ago and mom got me new airepods .. Except the have a long wirey thing and it only works when i plug that in. should i cut it off or is there a way to do this my parents are divorced i can only ask my dad rn and he told me not to ask him silly questions when hes drinking and watching THE televison .  Also my parent(s) (i really dont know who is responsible for this) named me jacket how do i get the paper that lets me change my name to Megatron IV?

I sometimes wonder if I was on the edge of a bridge ready to jump if he would push me off. Among other stuff he has never validated the pain I went through as a child including the pain HE CAUSED by his neglect. He also is one to lie frequently. 

My sister is mad at me cause I am different and I flipped out on her once a few months ago cause I had gotten where I had it with the name calling. We are adults but we both acted like we were 6. At the time everyone agreed my sister was the problem, now I am excluded this weekend from the family celebration when my aunt and her grown kids are here for an early Thanksgiving. This upsets me so much. I'll be having to see my sister at my parents on Thanksgiving and now I almost want to just skip it and do my own thing. Anonymous: My sister is the one requesting I not be around and who made a big scene when she had to see me in September. Only thing I did was get angry at her last summer (July) and I apologized twice for the one thing I did wrong. Your right that we are both acting like six year olds but I am the six year old who said sorry and is still being punished while she gets no punishment. She is a spoiled child syndrome. 

So I have two brothers(8 and 14) and a sister(12). I am 17. Just wanna clear that up. So my sister and youngest brother were fighting as they always do. My brother must have really pissed her off cause her face went all red and she kicked him really really hard right in the balls. (My sister is a gymnast just like me). My brother immediately dropped to the ground holding his privates and screaming/crying. My brother is usually pretty tough so I was very worried. I immediately screamed at my sister because I was very angry at her for taking it too far. I yelled at her and told her to go to her room. She wasn't crying so I don't think it's a big deal (she is also pretty tough). I am still very angry at my sister and I think she is a troll. But my little bro has been crying the past hour and I don't know what to do. I'm a girl so I have never had to deal with this. He just has been laying there sobbing with his hands over his balls. I don't know if this is related but he also wet himself which he hasn't done in a while. I pulled down his pants and his stuff was purple. I am really scared and worried.  Can someone please help me? I'm desperate. Also has this ever happened to you before?

I have been stealing cash from my dads wallet and also used his credit card to buy some things online and i'm worried he'll find out

I have an iPhone 11 and live in the US and I keep getting robot calls from random numbers trying to sell me something and i get like 5 every day even though i have a new number. they are all different numbers so i can't block

My wife and I were at her mother's (Linda) house. My wife was showing me the family photo album. In it was Linda's pictures as a swim suit model. Wow, was Linda great looking and had a figure to die for. I told my wife "I see where you get your good looks. Your mother is gorgeous ". Linda heard me and came over and hugged me and said "You made my day". My wife asked her mother if she could still get in the bathing suit she had on in the pictures. Linda said "Yes, they still fit". My wife ask her mother to put one on so she could get a picture of her now in the swim suit. Linda said she did not think she should do that as the swim suit was too revealing. Linda turned to me and said "You would not like to see me in a micro bikini would you"? I said I would leave the room so my wife can take some pictures. Linda said "Why would you have to leave the room"? I told her something would probably come up when I see beautiful hot and sexy women in a micro bikini and if it did I would be in trouble with my wife. My wife got a big laugh out of that Linda said "That is the best compliment I have had in years". THANK YOU. Did I dodge a bullet or what telling her the truth?

My mom insists on having him despite banishing my father from Thanksgiving when I was a child because he drank. That was supposed to read "alcoholic uncle". Damn spell check messed it up. Sorry question made little sense cause of that error. 

I tried to downplay it and keep it a secret but I can't

I am an American born of German parents and my teacher earlier today asked me just out of curiosity if I had any family that served in WW2 the question kind of embarrassed me, I responded no, that however was a lie. My maternal great grandfather Rolf was an SS soldier and died fighting in Russia December of 1943 but i was way too ashamed to admit that. My mother never met her grandfather she was born 30 years after his death but it's something my family has never been open to speak about, my grandmother still has pictures of her parents in her home holding her when she was a baby. I'm wondering if I should be open about it ? I am ashamed to understanding history and the travesty my great grandfather was a part of nonetheless at times I sympathize with him. I try to be open minded he was 20 when he died, still a young kid that was recruited by the SS and not the Wehrmacht, once you're recruited by the SS there is no rejecting it, there is no turning back. 

Before i get started, i met her father when he was married to a fat ***** and took him from her, but now i have crappy kids.  My daughter is  30 years old and still lives with her sister from her father's side (I hate her father but that's another story) and she didn't finish collegeShe used to be a hooker/stripper and now is a 30 year old don't do nothing ads welfare momShe has ear gauges and tattoos everywhereShe has a biracial black Latino child who speaks Spanish and looks nothing like herShe's looks and acts like her father and his side of the familyShe wears a long blonde weave and is Gabrielle union colorShe left from me in 2010, from a 4 bedroom suburban home to the nyc ghetto and acts like those ignorant annoying NYC peopleHas happy short hair and covers it up with blonde weave. I hate bothShe's funny looking She's sluttyI wish I had a good daughter. Everyone else has educated kids and they are pretty. My co workers have nice kids and brag about them, but I have to stay quiet 

My 15 year old daughter's room is being remodeled so she will not be able to get in it for 3 days. I told her she could sleep on the couch or I will put a cot up in the den. She said that will be uncomfortable so she will sleep with her brother those 3 days. Her brother is 18. I told her NO WAY was that going to happen. She told me not to worry. If he tried anything no appropriate, she would cut his dic off. I told her again, she is NOT GOING TO SLEEP WITH HER BROTHER. My son heard me telling her that and told me not to worry. He said he would not do anything sexual with his sister. He said that is incest and it is disgusting. I again told them they are not going to sleep in the same bed EVER. My daughter thinks I am being over protective. Do you think I am?

I have a teenage son John and a teenage daughter Lisa. They are good kids and get along good well with each other. They just like to have fun especially with each other. One night at the dinner table Lisa ask me if she could get some balloons like John had. John said "What are you talking about? I don't have any balloons." Lisa said "I saw them in your desk drawer". "They are Trojan brand balloons". OH MY GOD, am I going to have to have the "talk" with Lisa again. But what she said next told me the "talk" was not necessary. She said "John, do you have to special order the balloons to get the size extra extra small". John thought what she ask him was REALLY funny and said, you misread the label. The are extra extra large. Should me daughter be teasing her brother like that even when he thinks it is funny?

i'm sorry for posting your last name and city and i won't do it again

I am in high school and I live with my parents. Every year on my birthday,  they do this really kind thing where they tape these paper hearts with kind words written on then on my bedroom door while I'm sleeping. But, they are made of paper, and obviously not meant to last a super long time. What is the appropriate amount of time to wait before I can take the hearts off my door without offending my mom?

He promised me a visit this Christmas because my mom died in June. He now said his wife has made plans with her family and he won't be able to make it but will stop by around new year. I plan to leave town on purpose and new year so I don't have to see him. I wanted to see him on Christmas not one week later like I'm a second rate kid. He promised me a visit this Christmas because my mom died in June. He now said his wife has made plans with her family and he won't be able to make it but will stop by around new year. I plan to leave town on purpose a new year so I don't have to see him. I wanted to see him on Christmas not one week later like I'm a second rate kid. He did not ask me to his Christmas with him and his wife and their kids which is normal and the usual from him. Right now I hate my dad so much I would not even want to go to the funeral if he died though I'm sure I would go. I don't hate his wife I hate him, my Dad. I've never hated a family member before and I'm 31 years old. I'm sure the heat will pass but how do I let it pass quicker? I don't like hating someone, especially a parent of mine. I should note my dad often makes promises and then breaks them so I was a fool to believe him in the first place. He fears his wife for some reason and she's not horrible or anything she just views me a second rate since I'm not her blood child and my dad views me a second rate since I'm not his wife's blood child. I'm talking into my iPhone so if there's grammar mistakes that's why. David: sometimes I wish, I did the DNA ancestry thing though, I'm definitely his. Plus we unfortunately look very similar. 

He's mad cause my aunt wrote a mean letter to my mother about another family member. I was grounded last weekend as a result since the aunt was in town with her daughter. My Dad even penalizes the daughter of my aunt cause he hates me aunt yet he expects me to love my sister. Now I hate my Dad. The hate spreads in this dysfunctional family.  How do I get my father to see how wrong this was?

I am learning of tips. Wondering what some are. My sister is the most disturbing member but my father and others are disturbed also.

I have two step kids, ages 3 & 6. I've known them for about 2 years. Whenever my step kids leave to go to their mothers or if we drop them off, sometimes I don't hug them goodbye. They seem to not want one when I drop them off at their moms because they play and do their own thing when we get there. I do tell them bye and have tried to give them hugs in the past, but sometimes they put my arm away or wiggle out of the hug. They love on me a lot, but something about hugging goodbye isn't something they like to do with me. They do with their dad though, which I can understand because he's their biological parent. Is it okay if I just don't hug them bye? Maybe give them a five or something? Or just hug them anyway and hope for the best? I don't want to force one on them. Does that make me a bad step mom

We moved to our current location a few months back and as collage time looms in closer I don't know where I should accept my offer form. I got admitted to both really good art schools one is in another city while the other is closer to my home.  I live with my parents and my dad has a good job but they're both really conservative in terms of my dressing and who I hang out with. I'm guilty because ive gone behind their back a few times but I also crave that freedom I haven't been getting. I've tried talking to them about it but in our culture, they regard hanging out with the opposite gender or wearing western clothing as disrespect. My boyfriend also lives where I currently am, and we finally just got through a 4 year long-distance, moving to another city means ill have to wait 4 more again :( and breaking up with him is not an option because I've finally met the perfect guy whom I consider for in the long term.  Another thing that scares me is that I've never been very independent so moving out and living with people I wouldn't know kinda scares me, although I want to develop that edge to my self it still makes me sad knowing ill be away, alone, from the people I love. and yeah since my dads' job requires us to move a lot we might move again in 2/3 years, which means ill stay back if I choose to go to uni here. But idk, I'd really love some suggestions for this.

I am 30 years old but I still haven't moved out of my moms apartment. as of yet and Today when I was on my way to work. and I forgot my wallet and my mom got upset with me because I ring the bell. because  we live in a apartment building. and no body has a key to the front door. and when I came home to get my wallet my mom told me that I need to go hard looking for my own place. because I woke her up do you think that my mother went overboard or not.  ? 

I have an aunt that I don't talk to. I was never really close to her but recently she has done some things that make me mad so I don't even want to be around her or be associated with her. She doesn't maintain her house (actually her mother's, my grandmother's house). I had very happy memories in that house growing up as a child with my grandmother and she (my Aunt) has basically turned it into a rubbish dump. My grandmother is sick (alzheimers) and has been for a long time so she has no say over what happens to her house. My aunt just lives there rent free and trashes the place. I just can't be around her, I don't understand it and I don't want anything to do with her. I also feel she is a manipulative person who lies all the time to get what she wants. And she gossips to people I don't even know about me. One time a man I had never met in my life turned up at my work saying "hi how are you?, I talked to your aunt" and I was like "okay" and he was like "omg you sound like her" and I was annoyed and said "that's not really a compliment and how can I sound like someone I don't even speak to?" he left after that. So I guess my question is, am I justified in cutting ties and having nothing to do with this person even though they are family?  My aunt is not taking care of my grandmother, my grandmother is being cared for in a old person healthcare facility. My aunt never cared for her. If she was taking care of my grandmother with alzheimers I might actually have some sympathy for her, she is not and never has. She spent most of the time my grandmother was sick living overseas and not bothering to help out in anyway. She is living in my grandmother's house by herself doing what ever she wants like a spoiled child and not maintaining the house or property and turning it into a rubbish dump.

My Ex wife and I separated long long time ago. Who. We didn't get along. She got married had two kids and two she had with me. I Didn't se my two daughters as often as I should. In time she turned them specially the youngest one against me. Realizing the big mistake I made I tried getting my kids trust back, one would make it impossible and my oldest said she wouldn't make it that easy for me but we would start slowly.... So I moved close in the same state she was living in. We would talk and text and I got to see her every now and than (she spent more time with the boyfriend). She was going to college. This summer she went to see her mother out of state.  She was to come back to school. Everything happened so secretly  or fast . I text her a few times she didn't reply when school was about to start and her B-Day came with no answer I started looking for her til I find out my 20 year old daughter had died  almost two months ago...  I try reaching out to her mom and sister with no luck. Til I was able to talk to my ex-mother and law. She ask why wasn't I there for the funeral . She knew she nobody told me. She said my daughter just got the ashes a few days ago. She told me the funeral  wanted my signature to go on with the process. My ex said I couldn't be reached. They waited more than two weeks waiting for me .  My  ex paid for the service and said she had to go back to her state if not she would loose her job. Gave them money and asked them to send her my daughters ashes. 

So, any advice on dealing with a difficult sibling? We were best friends a few months ago, like talk everyday best friends but she changed rather quickly when a new boy came into the picture and before her arrival for her visit she has not spoken to me or really any family member in months. She is pretty young and seems to be out of touch with everything and is living off of everyone else generosity. She is currently out visiting and I am afraid that I am too honest she will go super defensive and never return. She had made comments about me not caring about my dogs because I feed them food within my budget, I don't ask mummy and daddy to pay for our dog food like she does. She was supposed to do something big and then at the last minute backed out. My daughter was always hoping she would still do it but when she realized that she wouldn't my daughter ended up crying and then my sister laughed at her because "it is true", she "isn't going to do it" She is never thankful even though I am storing some of her stuff for her, I even watched her dog for over a month, without a signal check in or thank you. After many years, I am finally going back to finish my degree which I am rather silently proud due to embarrassment that it took that long to do it and her response when I am struggling to manage single momhood and school is "I forgot you were in school" I know I am not perfect but I am seriously about to lose it.     

Let me cut to the chase, I'm 36 years old and African American and my 3 year old son truly is the best thing in the world that has ever happened in my entire life. I heard from some parents that it's normal and he doesn't know any better playing with a Barbie doll hair. This morning I came downstairs and he was playing with a Barbie mannequin's hair my great niece his age left at my house and out of nowhere I shouted "put that sh!t down" he got mad and stared at the window I felt very bad. Am I overreacting over nothing? Later I took him to the mall and McDonalds and typing this I feel bad cause I don't want anything to happen to my son I will stand by and love him no matter what in today's society since we got that orange in office. For the real parents out there that truly love their kids please give me some advice on this. Thanks!

My relationship with my father went downhill my last years of highschool and continues to get worse although I am in college. First off, he is very manipulative and tries to control every single aspect of my life. He frequently threatens to take things from me like my car, phone, and college tuition if I don't do exactly as he says and treats me like a child. He essentially thinks that I'm his personal slave that he can make do whatever he doesn't want to. Secondly, he allows my stepmother to constantly belittle me and doesn't do anything about it and then gets angry when I say I don't like her or want to be around her. She constantly says mean things to me and stole a lot of my things when I was in highschool and he'd just say he didn't believe me. Last year he told me that she is his priority and that he didn't care about me so I didn't speak to him for about 4 months. Mind you, this is the woman he cheated on my mother with which is essentially the thing that ruined my life. After he treats me like **** and realizes that I'm not going to speak to him he's weirdly nice to me again. Also, for reference, he treats my sister well and buys her everything and lets her do whatever she wants essentially but he always tells me I'm not good enough.  It's just gotten to the point where I really don't want to be around him anymore because doing so makes me feel terrible about myself but I can't just cut ties because I don't feel like I can get out of the situation. What should I do? 

I've had boyfriends in the past and they all messed up. But I'm really happy with this guy.  At first I thought he was weird but I think it's cute. He's funny, sweet, smart, he's interesting, has style, muscular ;-). But he takes care of me and makes me happy.  He's not like other people.  He hasn't introduced me to his mom yet. It's only been 3 weeks but I'm happy. 

I have not seen him since his conviction years ago but I am wondering if I will regret not seeing him once he is executed. He maintains his innocence and that he is set up but I believe he is guilty. All the evidence is there and he was a rough person. I miss him but for who I wanted him to be and believed he was and not who he actually is. On one hand I want to love him on the other hand he killed an innocent person whose family was forever destroyed. Thoughts?

Last time I saw her I over-reacted and grabbed her by the shoulders. I should not grab a woman, even if she is an adult. She is an adult bully. Everyone said I was fine and she was at fault last summer but I don t want to routinely act like that. I was bullied in childhood in school and her bullying opens that wound, almost like a PTSD thing. So Thanksgiving (and then Christmas) how do I respond when she starts bullying me? What she bullies me for is talking loud (I will be careful there not to but it is who I am), posting too much on Facebook (that is a false allegation, I don t do it), taking pictures of people (that is what family holidays are for), childish things like being in her way in the kitchen, and maybe that I talk alot (again who I am). Now she will have claims that I am violent and abuse women which of course is B.S. Also, she now knows I am emotionally disabled with mental illness (anxiety based PTSD and Obsessive-Compulsive). Last summer her big thing was "Mom says your obsessive" as I had my Mom try to explain it to her. I think she had heard my Mom long ago complain when I got obsess about being peacemaker to a relative my Mom was fighting with (an aunt). So how do I cope with this as an adult with emotional and learning problems and a sister who is a 26 year old bully? Obviously neither of us is the most mature. I am singe and in my 30's, usually keep to myself though socialize with extended family when I can.

I'm a single mom and barely making ends meet. My mom always asks for money every since I can remember. She doesn't want to work. She gets about $1500 a month but spend it as soon as it comes. She'll text me can you get my hair and nails done. I need gas money. I need money for the light bill. I need my phone bill paid please it's going off today. I mean it's always something! I can go weeks without speaking to her and as soon as we sit down she doesn't ask how I'm doing or anything. She just ask for money or need me to pay something. I get to the point where I ignore her requests. She's married and reckless with her money. She spends her money in one day and forget about responsibilities. I feel bad and guilty because it's my mom. But I'm 28 and still working on my self. She stresses me out and it's draining to me. Am I wrong? What should I do?

Whenever my step kids leave to go to their mums or if we drop them off, sometimes I don't hug them goodbye. They seem to not want one when I drop them off at their moms because they play and do their own thing when we get there. They love on me a lot, but something about hugging goodbye isn't something they like to do with me. They do with their dad though, which I can understand because he's their biological parent. Is it okay if I don't? I don't want to force one on them. Does that make me a bad step mom? 

So basically, my dad is unemployed and has pretty much gone broke. I have a job, and lately have been paying for everything (food, bills, gas), but now my dad is demanding a new expense: beer and cigarettes, or else he will personally pack my things and kick me out. Ignoring the fact that he would be completely screwing himself, I currently don't have a car, and can't really afford to move out on my own right now. He does have the right, I'm not a minor (21), but is there anything I can do to avoid paying $50 a week for his addictions?