I took the much needed advice of a yahoo answer contributor. Started saving to leave husband who was verbally and emotionally abusive.He was controlling and didn't know he was.He has changed since but new things come up such as leaving a dirty bath tub he gets angry when I say something,slamming my car door.I recently started trying to wholesale houses he complained why you doing that you need money now we have business cards together. I learned wholesaling real estate all from youtube when he was at work.He would come home all you do is sit at the computer.I have no money and I have went on several interviews no job offer.So I recently started Amazon Flex I was so excited until I started my delivery.He complained why you taking a delivery far away or while you doing a delivery in the cold.I lost the Amazon Flex because I sent back deliveries because I couldn't finish in 3 hours.He runs and tells everyone including his brother where I work so they can do what I do.But he cant do the same for me he always says fast food h.It drives me crazy.Now he wants to do Amazon Flex I let him do a route with me and he experienced it for himself.I received a email that I returned multiple packages because he was in my head.He called me a hater because I dont want to talk about the set up process for Amazon Flex.If I am on my phone too much he complains.I just need a job so I can save up and get away.Please give any feedback.

my wife says i boring. i am not boring guy. will bike impres her? what type. im thinking fsast one thanks! -Gary

Me and my husband are Canadian. We are living in the states temporarily while my husband works. I pay my ex child support for my two boys. I am pay every month and never behind.  My ex and I have a court date next month and he told me he's going to ask the judge that they freeze my passport to never allow me back into the states as I should be working and living in Canada. ( I don't work in the states) but I do pay my support. Can a judge actually do this to someone who pays support every month? My ex is a lonely bitter man and jealous. And we're not living in the states forever just 2 years. 

I texted him to get romaine lettuce on his way back home he texted back with K. I then followed with oh I ran out of oil get me a 1$ bottle. Because I was still cooking so I needed it. then 30mins later I was updating our virtual shopping list on google home. I added mayo. Mind you he went to the store bought mayo lettuce and other things. He comes in I ask for the oil he said he saw that on the list but didn't know which one I wanted. The shopping list is usually done on Saturdays so Mayo wasn't needed until then. But I needed the oil which is why I texted. He claims he received the text for oil after putting the phone in his pocket. And then he checked the list later which is why he got the mayo. But the oil was also on the shopping list. He said he didn't see the text when he took his phone to check the list. Then I empty the bags I realized he ate food already since he forgot to remove some of the food residue. I asked he said he needed a snack because he was hungry. I know he has been seeing someone else and I'm going to file for divorce soon. But why bother stand in front of me and the kids and lie like this? When it's very clear that you are lying. "I forgot" was better than this excuse. When he so calls works late and tells me ahead of time I know he is going there. Now he is sitting forcing himself to eat to prove a point. it's not like I'm going to bite him if he says he forgot. Why don't cheaters stay with cheaters like them? 

So long story short my husband just isn't understanding at all. He's done so much the past year and a half to upset me to the point I'm not sure how to move forward. Here's a list: -Bought a car without asking me (I was out of town for a business trip, I am the bread winner of the house, and he went to buy himself an old school car bc he really wanted one!?!? he can not afford this car without my help & we already have 2 so this makes 3!!) -Got another dog without asking me first (we have 2 other dogs so this makes three. Again, I was out of town when he did this.) -WILL NOT CLEAN UP AFTER THIS THIRD DOG!! We just bought a house together in April of this year and my house wreaks like piss. There's **** hardened on the floor and he doesn't even care ... I picked it up when I got back home) -He spends my money and takes out of my savings account bc he goes on shopping sprees (video games, stuff he can use at work, two heaters we don't need at all, **** for his car, etc.) -We have no sex life anymore -He sleeps ALLLLLLL day (he works nights comes home at 6am and sleeps til damn near 6pm then gets ready for work and leaves) And the list goes on. Any suggestions Or advice? I'm stuck in a hard place here as I'm EXTREMELY fed up with him. Update - I was/am clearly upset but regardless we will work through this.. Thanks for letting me vent lol. 

I love both my parents dearly, but sometimes I feel they would be better off if they were apart. My father in the last 5 years has become Impossible to live with. He's mean, says hurtful things and is very controlling and demanding towards my mother and I. My dad and I have never really had a good relationship in my adult years mainly because I stopped taking **** and fought back. I realized how wrong the thing he would say truly were and I had enough, I wasn't going to respect a man that viewed me as inferior. I am 26 and live at home so I whiteness a lot of his charades and often find myself defending my mother. It's not an ideal situation but my finances aren't quite what I need to move out yet. Lately my dad has been so extremely angry for what appears to be no reason. He's also started drinking a lot more and is becoming unbearable to live with. My mom loves my dad and I'm glad that she does but she doesn't deserve to be ignored or treated poorly by him. We have tried to talk to him but he doesn't feel the need to talk and refuses any help. His anger is reflecting on us now. I have talked with my mother and have brought up the divorce term several times, my concern is I don't want her growing old with all this stress and feeling unable to be happy, I don't want her to have regrets. I just want the madness to stop and if that means they divorce or separate then so be it. I feel as though he's beyond intervention, should they just end it? 

Can divorce court take money from a bank account that's shared amongst me and my parents, not my partner whom I divorcing? What if all of the money in the joint account belongs to my parents? 

Hey guys so my wife and I are under investigation by Child Protective Services CPS because of previous domestic violence in our relationship. We have never hurt the kids but we understand that our past behavior can still affect the kids mentally, and emotionally. Long story short, we've been in the process for a few weeks now, and they also had us sign a safety plan stating one of us needs to leave the home for 30 days. We did that, but my wife and I consulted an attorney, and ever since then my wife hasn't been as cooperative with CPS as she was before. I feel after we spoke with the attorney my wife went kind of rouge and I tried telling her that arguing with the caseworker and her supervisor isn't the best idea because we don't want them to take the kids away. Well at this point I don't know what to do, because CPS has threatened to take our kids because of my wife's refusing to sign off on another safety plan. What should we do +? +

They've separated seven times before and always ended up back together. People say they are likely are done this time though I figure who knows. I asked this question last year but at the time they had only separated six times, now that it's the seventh is why people think they are divorcing. So while I know it can't happen, is divorcing after 34 years very rare? By very rare I mean less than 5 or 10 percent of the time Andrew Smith has best answer, I accidentally picked someone else's answer. Read Andrew's

I've seen them wearing the garbage bags it looks black , don't their children or wife get suffocated ?

This woman was best friends with my late wife. Our children grew up together and I've know her for about 15 years. Our children are now teenagers and young adults.  We are both in our mid 50's. When my wife passed away 5 years ago our friendship continued to grow. I see her once a week for lunch or happy hour. Everything is completely friendly and platonic. However, I think about her all the time and I am absolutely in love with her. As for her, she is in a very unhappy marriage. She and her husband have had separate bedrooms for years and have a sexless marriage. He drinks too much and can be verbally abusive to her. She talks about how she would like to leave him but doesn't know what she would do. They are very financially secure so money would not be a problem for her.  Not only that, they basically live separate lives as it is.  She travels regularly with friends or by herself.  We have hinted to each other about the way we feel but have never discussed it.  In a perfect world, I would want her to leave her husband and be with me.  However, we are both very independent and set in our ways.  In a not as perfect world but something I think we both would love, she could stay married and we would continued to see each other regularly but share the love, appreciation and intimacy that I know we both crave.  So here's the question...  Do I talk to her about how I feel and how I would like our relationship to be more than it is or continue to remain friends and always wonder?

It was a bad choice to be still friends with them....and it backfired for me. Above that my husband was a virgin, which they knew and they commented about that as well mentioning him about not being able to bed anyone till marriage where others banged his wife easily before him. Then what can she do?

I have been married for 23 years and my wife hasn't touched me in any way since 2004. Ever since my tour in Iran she has been stone cold, I think she doesn't approve of the fact that I took a sex tour in the middle east but I cant see why she would no longer care for me. Please does anyone have any advice to save my marriage or how to get a newer better wife?

I have a weird situation. My child's father and I broke up several years ago. During this time he got married and ended up in a abusive relationship. She has tried to take his life several times. They are currently in the process of getting a divorce and we are working our relationship out again. The problem I'm having is that after all he has been through, he still wants to bring HER daughter around to events. This makes me uncomfortable. The daughter is unruly and trys to make our child do what she wants. Would it be wrong of me to exclude myself from events so i don't have to deal. Or should I tell him not to bring her around. What should I do in this situation? 

Is it normal to even have to split sport tickets? It is not like it is a friendly divorce where they are sharing. In fact the wife has only stayed with him this long for the free stuff and money. Her father brought her up that way I am told though he died long ago.

I will try to be concise but would appreciate your help because I've no one to speak to: I have recently married a loving, supportive and successful woman.  However, I have a child with an ex who cheated a number of times, attacked me in public and made false claims to eventually get majority custody of our child from me. As a result, I barely see our son now (unless I sleep with her/ discuss reconciling) and the courts have no interest in enforcing the conditions laid out in the residency (custody) agreement.  I told my wife the whole time this has gone on but since being married 3 months now I haven't slept with the ex and consequently, not seen my son. I am wrong for hurting my wife, wrong for not loving myself to stay away but at the same time, my sons life without me in it is far worse (poor housing, lack of guidance, multiple men in and out-literally). I grew up with a single mum and know all the things that he will face if I don't take her back. Neither woman is willing to share me long term/ don't believe in polyamory but both know I am not totally happy.  The courts are of no help. So I'm left with two choices: 1) stay married and faithful but not see my son and know he will suffer a multitude of things as a result 2) divorce the best woman I've ever known. Scarring her, both of our families and get with my abusive ex. In the hope this lasts until my son is old enough for his opinion to be held in regard by the courts (he's 3 and always has been daddy's boy)