I'm a 17yo girl and I've been sleeping on the couch for the last 2 years. My parents were previously living in CA and came back 2 years ago. I live with my grandmother and because of limited space, they've been sleeping in my room. They keep telling me that it's temporary and they're looking for somewhere for the 3 of us to live but they've been saying that same thing for the last 2 (going on 3) years. I don't get any type of privacy in that living room and it's driving me crazy. I value my alone time and privacy so much but it's hard to ever get that in such an open space that people can essentially invade at all hours of the day. I've been trying to be patient and grateful that I do have somewhere to sleep but I can't keep living like this and I don't want them to get mad at me for continuously bringing up how much I hate it. There are other alternatives where everyone gets what they want and I get my room back but they don't listen to me. Any advice? Just to add, when I do bring it up they just say things like "we understand" "we appreciate your patience" and give me a few pity smiles then do nothing to help the situation.

My dad and I have a somewhat steady father daughter relationship. We fight sometimes, as normal families do... but I am 17 years old and a college student, and frequently in texts, calls, and sometimes in public he still calls himself 'daddy' when talking to me. It comes from a good place and I know that, but it still makes me hella uncomfortable because of how old I am and knowing how other people see it. How do I tell him that it makes me uncomfortable and get him to stop without hurting his feelings? I love my dad, and I would hate for him to feel bad about me growing up and not wanting to be spoken to that way anymore.

So my boyfriends parents are divorced. He lives with his dad and his sisters live with his mother. He opened up about it twice. Once he said it was depressing the way the house was so quiet with just him (he's home alone most of the time, his dads always working) and that he misses having people around and then that him and his dad don't really get along anymore and he wants to move to his moms but not sure if she'd let him. He seems down sometimes when we talk about his family. I want to help and make sure he's okay and happy but I also don't want to annoy him. I just care about him and I'm not sure why to say or do.

My mom would seem to disagree on a lot of things I say but it has gotten a lot better I am not complaining I don't really let her control me with things I don't want to do she eventually took that hint here's an example I am a vegetarian at first it was because I wanted to but eventually meat started to hurt my stomach which actually keeps me away from it completely now, but this diet used to drive her nuts like she see's vegetarian as a threat it felt like yes I can be wrong it's just how it felt back then but once it hurts my stomach it didn't bother her so much she does still try to give me food with meat here and there. I don't take it I do buy my own food if anyone is concerned about this but every time I talk to her she would seem to find something to disagree with it doesn't bother me like it used to because it's just how she is it does sometimes hurts honestly though I do know others go through very similar I haven't found out how to completely cope with this.

I use to sing & make music when I was young. I bought a bunch of recording equipment & started going to recording Studios for fun lately.  I want to put some of my music on Spotify & iTunes, but I'm afraid my sons mom will go to the courts & claim I'm an unfit father.  I don't do drugs, I don't do anything that would make me an unfit father. I have full custody of my son & my sons mother will do ANYTHING to prove that I'm a bad dad or bad example. Even if she has to lie about something. I literally feel like I'm on eggs shells all the time because she's waiting for me to do anything she doesn't agree with. my music does talk about my past including relationships, sex, partying or does talk about things that I would like to do.  I want to go get legal advice on this to make sure she can't take my music or lyrics to the courts & try to make an *** out of me. 

So it's not as easy as it sounds. I left my ex because he was abusive verbally and psychically, he was extremely controlling and admitted to me that a psychologist deemed him a sociopath and told him the only person she believes he can love is his mother. Upon leaving him I found out I was pregnant and he is aware that I am because one of my friends, who I am not on very good terms with now, told him without asking me. He is saying he will change and wants to be back with me but I will not ever be with him again but I don't know if that's grounds to keep his daughter away from him, if sociopaths can't love their family I dont see why he wouldn't love her. But it also scares me that he will get mad at me and take some kind of sick revenge by hurting my daughter. 

Hey guys, what do we think about kissing parents on the lips? I'm 17 and I used to kiss both my parents on the lips but now I don't with my mum but my dad still asks for a kiss on the lips when I leave him and I think that's weird and I don't really want to but don't wanna offend him... what do we think?  Also they're split up btw not sure if that means anything 

I recently got a birthday card from a family member saying "sorry you inherited the gene that makes you feel the way you do. We've heard good things about the medications that are available..." I haven't spoken to any family in 6 months. They all take drugs.  It aggravates me they always assume I'm not doing well. This kind of friendly disrespect I've felt from my family my entire life but couldnt recognize. Being away from them, ignoring texts, I've been able to face my problems and see truth without fear of not being good enough and told I need help. Before these 6 month my life was not worth living. During this time I've felt more love from strangers than I've ever felt my family. Its been humbling and have found deeper respect for myself and others I never felt with my family.If I respond saying Im doing good, they find something, that I don't have a good enough job, a girlfriend, or enough friends, if I show any signs of anger, with a robotic, calmness they'll say "see, you need drugs" and smile.My family believes we're "smart". really the men are weak, the women are manipulative. Office types. I like working outside even if I make less. They are 100% white, I'm half asian. I have much younger step siblings who are also white.  I should've taken responsibility of my life and left sooner. I can die happy now knowing I'm following my own path vs trying to prove myself to them. Has anyone had a similar family where they would rather die than remain in contact with them?

he stay up all night long and then want to go to sleep when i going to work. He's constantly in the kitchen cook a full course meal every 2 hours. He hordes ****. Got every dish i own piled up in the dish rack. Half as washes dishes. Always claim he dont have the energy to clean up after himself but has plenty of energy to leave a ******* mess every where. I got kool aid stain all in my carpet because of him. He broke most of my furniture. He just a loud and annoying mother ******!

I always wish I could just be myself. My Dad is a lot more ignorant then my Mom but my mother is more bitter. 

How can someone have so much hate as to stop loving a loved one who becomes close to the enemy of the other person? Especially when it is their child? I always felt a void not knowing my Dad for the 7 years between their divorce and me finishing high school. So after high school we reconnected. Twelve years later my mother has refused to have a relationship with me and has gotten a few members of her family to dislike me and cut me out as well including my sister. Others in her family still like me and include me so my mother dislikes them now and apparently bad mouths them. It hurts but not as much as cutting my father out again would. It especially hurts that my grandmother, my Mom's Mom, now will not speak to me.

I grew up in a family of 6 where all of us grew up in the worse area of Los Angeles. Me and my brothers work at warehouse jobs except one brother. He is a PhD civil engineer. I remember when he was going to college he took 2 buses to go to class because he never was able to afford a car. He would work two jobs. He was poor like the rest of us but somehow managed to have managed massive success? Why & how? I am embarrassed that I was not as strong as him.

It has been bothering me a lot lately. I seem to feel a lot of negative emotions towards my mother. See, I am 26 years old, I still live with my parents and work from home. For my whole life, my mother has always been exceptionally accommodating to me. Anything I want, anywhere I want to go, she will do for me. We spend almost too much time together, and it gets tiresome for me. I love her, but even when I want to set boundaries, and I choose to do plenty of things without her assistance, I still feel some sort of resentment towards her, even though I know I shouldn't. I'm in a position in my life where I am essentially free of any major burden, but sometimes I feel restricted due to that, almost like a child still. I think I get mad at my mother because I'm angry at myself for allowing her to still do so much for me. But I think anyone else in my position would do the same, as it frees me from so many unnecessary burdens. I have it so good, I don't even need to work if I don't want. I sometimes think I could move out if I choose, but I would be giving up a lot- a beautiful house I live in, free time, money, and more- I'd become more independent from my mother, but even still, I'm not sure that's the right answer. I just want to stop feeling this resentment, but I don't know what I can do. I'm very confused. If anyone has some insight on my situation, I'd greatly appreciate it. Thank you!! Thanks to everyone for your responses. Gives me a lot to think about. I am going to set up an appointment with a therapist to discuss the things you have brought up. Thank you again!

3 girls and not one single boy to carry on the family name.

She says I'm ungrateful and I owe her for being born and things she did to support me growing up. I hate how she makes me feel, and treats me like a child. I'm in my 30s!  I moved out years ago and she cries if I dont keep in touch, yet I really dont like her and it's making me angry in life and have bad luck of she talks to me or we fight. I'm sick of that too. Shes a witch. 

One aunt resents her own daughter and is mad that her sister (the other aunt) has taken in and reached out to that daughter for the past 6 years. The daughter is not bad but troubled. Her father left the picture when she was six and later committed suicide. She also was sexually abused when little by a sibling of her father's and that ended when the father left. That abuser later was identified by her and arrested. He remains in jail. This cousin has issues but no criminal history or anything. The aunt who took the niece in is now consumed with extreme bitterness towards her sister who is the child's mother and her parents for not backing her in taking in the niece. It is literally the only thing she discusses. The other aunt has softened from a few years ago but is very bitter herself. Even sending an 8 page email to all her nieces and nephews attacking her daughter, their cousin.

Her uncles were not nice to her mother (their brother) following her father's death. As a result my mother dislikes the children of these uncles (her cousins). This strikes me as childish and prejudice like someone disliking white people if one white person does something wrong or vice versus with other races. So is my mother justified or am I right that this is wrong? I have met the cousins and they are very nice or ordinary nice (some wonderful and some average). There are none that are cruel or abusive though indeed one of the uncle's is a narcissist and another one is racist.

She is verbally abusive to me and many others. Our parents created a monster in her by failing in the discipline area. Even our maternal grandfather states they failed. Our Dad never backed our Mom and our Mom lifted all punishments if we whined enough. Now my sister is a narcissistic adult. 

I am 14 years old. My parents are seperated but not divorced. I used to live in Puerto Rico with my mother but my father starting calling me and convinced me to move to New Jersey with him and made me turn against my mother. This was earlier this year. I told my mom i want to move back with her and when she talked to my dad about it he said no. If i go anyways to live with my mom can my dad do something

If so, did it happen once, a few times, or many times throughout your childhood? Are there ever circumstances in which a child being reduced to hyperventilation can be considered normal?

We live where there is a homeowners association  They will send a letter if you do not keep up your yard or have an abandoned vehicle in your yard. The association sent us a letter about our niece Anna.   Last weekend our neice visited with her Father.  She is seven years old.  While spending the weekend Anna was playing in a fancy dress that was very short   Being her underpants could show she had on a satin white panty.  THe association found that offensive and also the spanking she received over her Daddy lap in our enclosed patio room.     Mind you this is a seven year old girl they are complaining about.  Is this stupid?  

Shes 47 and doesn't want to work. I guess one day she decided that she no longer wants to work anymore and would rather try to get a disability check when in fact shes not disabled and keeps getting denied. Anyway, with the help of my 22 year old brother she manages to keep an apartment and a car which she has to ask for help everytime a payment comes up. Also, there is never food in the house so she keeps asking my brother, who only makes 7.25 an hour for help and he gives her money for food, her car note, and rent!! Then he comes to me asking me for money complaining about being broke. Am i being a bad daughter for telling him to think of himself sometimes???? He is trying to save for a car but he never has money because he gives it all to a woman who is fully capable of getting a job like the rest of the world!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! This is really stressing me out. The sadder part is, i also have two younger brothers who depend on her but she wont even get a job for them. She has to ask family and "boyfriends" for money for their school supplies and clothes !! Ugh

I am 38 and she is 26. She has the maturity of a seven year old. She is the youngest and our mother spoiled her. She would yell at her but always cave in at the end to my sister's commands. As a result my sister has grown up to be a narcissist (devil adult-child). She refused to me near an autistic child of my other sisters' saying the child "made her uncomfortable". She belittles me as an adult with learning disabilities and now learned I have mental illness and uses that. She picked on my brother after his divorce cause he couldn't find work. He stood their and took it. She talks to our mother like our mother is her dog. I would not let someone talk to a dog like that, much less their own mother. Thankfully she has no kids and is not married. She dated a felon but that broke up. Now she has a semi-boyfriend and I can't imagine what his self esteem must be for him to like her. So my question is how would I be nice to her so to break the hate between us? We have not spoken since last Christmas. I may have to see her over Thanksgiving or Christmas. We physically saw each other at a wedding in May but did not speak other then a nod of the heads and the word "hey there" from me and a "hi" from her. Nothing more and we both were just as cold there. Last Christmas I was acting different "stuttered and I tend to be talkative" and she started in on me like a classroom bully. I over-reacted and grabbed her shoulder and moved her out of the way. Now she says I am violent.

I set a life goal of getting them back together cause they divorced because of me. They said they were divorcing to protect my siblings and I from the dysfunction of their arguing. I have felt guilt for causing this ever since. So 30+ years later my Dad is dying. He is remarried but before he dies I am determined to get him and my mother back and married again even if it upsets my step-mother. I made it my goal and I will have failed in life yet again if I do not do this. I have to make up to them for making them feel like they have to divorce because of me and my siblings.

I told her off that's shes not really happy for me that I moved out, and to stop being fake. I said she stopped helping me also and made my life hell under her roof. She was very controlling, manipulative, bossy, and abusive. I tried being neutral but it just angered me. She got clingy also and has no problem pushing my buttons just as an excuse to talk. When she tries being nice to me it makes me angry and it takes days to get back to normal. Even from a distance. I recently unblocked her number. I dont want to visit either. Shed been very verbally abusive. I feel like I dont have to forgive. 

I hate them so much. It's not just for no reason, there are so many reasons I hate them. 1. They have no manners. I used to say hi to them but they would look at me straight in the eyes and ignore me. They do the same to my parents and grandparents. It's so ******* rude. 2. They make a mess in our house and never clean it up. 3. Their parents are assholes.  But my sister invites them over every ******* week for a sleepover and it's so annoying. I want to spend a weekend at my house without these annoying kids.