I'm a 31 year old male who has never had a date with anyone; I'm overweight and ugly and disgusted with my appearance, personality and talents/ lack of them. I've suffered from depression and anxiety for years. I have never approached any woman out of an extreme fear of rejection. I have zero confidence in myself and zero self esteem. I also am extremely shallow and and certain I can not change this; having only ever had sex with good looking prostitutes in countries where this is legal (Netherlands and Germany) ) i live in the USA, and sadly being addicted to porn due to loneliness, I can't even remotely fathom how "personality" can make some one, more sexually attractive. How does personality turn you on when your partner is 400lbs?  I don't have confidence or self value because I need to be validated by others; I've never understood the cliche you have to love yourself first how can I love myself if no one else does first. I'm an empirical thinker if there's no evidence that I'm loveable or worth anything, then how can I love myself?That's irrational  I do not hate women nor am I bitter that the attractive ones don't want me; i know beggars can't be choosers. after all not even ugly people want to be with ugly people. I also can not fathom how anyone can have a meaningful relationship without a good sex life I'm certain I can't change so isn't suicide. better than insulting my self and some ugly woman by settling, or living a hellish nightmare of perpetual loneliness?

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You get a job at a local retail store in your home area. The atmosphere is like this. First all just about all of the people seems to be manly masculine hairy women that dresses like street trash. Mostly black women and white women. They are very anti male and anti man. These women are coercive, assertive and aggressive, confrontational. They carry no feminine attitudes. If you are a guy they want you to view them as a dude . These women look like they box or they look like little boys. White men there are treated like the scum of the earth. They are stereotyped there as rapists, woman beaters, and Misogynists, tries to get away with things. You cannot be normal with anyone working here. They seem to twist your words. Since I am the white guy, I am treated very lowly by the women in there. what do you do if your home area is this way?

I was wondering from an anxious person's  perceptive if 5 months of even a year is to soon to show love or even say i love you to someone.        My studies have shown that people get scared when i start showing affection and pull away most times but at times people accept the love but still its inaccurate. help me google ):

Hello, I live in Japan and I am in a long distance relationship with my boyfriend who lives in NY currently. My boyfriend wants to be an English teacher here in Japan, and it is a dream when he was little boy to become a teacher. We're going to marry a few years later, but it was my dream to live in US since US education is much more higher compare to Japan, people are really friendly. I thought it is more comfortable to live there. Once I asked whether I will be able to live in the US, however, he told me that there are racial discrimination, the cost is too high to make a living, furthermore it is so dangerous.  Now I feel depressed and should I give up my dream and make concessions to him? recently we are arguing about that frequently. I'm getting tired, and I don't wanna fight him anymore. I'm so perplexed. I am sorry for grammar error.

My son is 26. Hes been acting strange for the past several months. Hes just quiet, and hasnt been talking much, and is mostly in his room. Hes known to have depression, and acute anxiety, and I m sure it doesnt help that his dog died a couple months ago. Anyway. Hes a very messy person, and his truck is a pig sty. His brother cam and got him so they could go help their dad with something (we are divorced) so I figured I d clean his car while he was gone. I had cleaned the front, but when I got to the back, I smelt rotting flesh. I almost just stopped, and went inside, when I spotted a small bird corpse decaying, wrapped in a piece of paper, on the floor bored. Um? Wth? Why would that be there? I could understand if a bird flew in, got trapped, and died, but he wrapped it in paper. Should I be concerned?

My bf and I broke up a month ago. I didn't take it well because he was great. He would drive 2 hours for me, which is why we broke up ( long distance ). He asked me how I thought we were doing and he said the distance was really hard for him. After a few days I texted him that I missed talking to him and he said he missed talking to me too. And he asked "what do you want us to be? and I told him I wanted to make it work and he kept saying idk then he said that maybe if I had a CAR then it would. We have met up since the breakup and kissed ( he gave me a hickey ) after I told him a guy invited me out and he seemed kinda jealous. We were gonna be fwb but I only agreed bc I wanted him in my life but I told him I didn't want sex bc I still had feelings and he said he understood. 2 weeks ago I texted him that "I missed his d" and he was like "I thought we decided that wasn't what we wanted lol" and I told him I didn't want sex but still missed playing around. And he didn't answer. I'm getting over him but Ig I'm just confused bc he still views all my Sc's. Our houses are 15 minutes apart ( we live in the same city ) so it's not an issue for me. My parents bought me a car and I put it on Sc and he saw and didn't say anything which is kinda why we broke up and the issue is fixed. I'm on break and he's coming home and Idk if he'll ask to meet up. I post stuff on Sc all the time and he sees everything , does he have feelings left? He said I was everything he needed

My mom use to drive while under the influence regularly. Since I've gotten older, I've really started getting on her case for it it the point were she will make sure she will have me come and get her if shes had too much to drink. She actually hasnt been drunk for a couple months. Anyways, I got home from work, and she wasnt home. I just though okay whatever, so I go take a shower. When I get out, andwalk downstairs. Shes cooking dimmers and she asked if I went, and got the mail. I said yeah, and than told her a story of something that happened at work. Once she got talking I could tell she had been drinking. She wasnt drunk, but she was at least a little buzzed. I can tell when shes had the slightest amount of alcohol by the ways she puts her words together. It makes me furious, because it's like she thinks I'm stupid. And like I'm not gonna notice. I know I spell like an idiot, but I'm most certainly not one. I was just noticing how good shes been doing with her drinking, and was gonna compliment her, and than she pulls this. I almost kicked the dishwasher over, because it makes me so mad she would do this. Should I say something, or just let it slide? Oh yeah, if you weren't able to gather this from my question she DROVE while buzzed.