Mom is borrowing her fiance's truck when we go to my grandparents for Thanksgiving since we are bringing some furniture back. The truck only has a front seat and I asked mom who will get to sit by the window since we will be driving there on Wednesday and back on Sunday which are odd number days when my sister gets to choose. Mom said I will be riding in the middle since those are my sisters days to choose and she wants the window. When I complained about this, she said I need to know that life is not always fair and I won't always get what want. Is it fair that my sister gets the window seat the entire trip there and back since it is her day to choose both days or does it seem like it would be more reasonable for us to either take turns each time we stop or each get the window for one way. With all of the extra traffic, it will probably take us around 6 hours each way which is a long time to be stuck between them. I am a 14 year old male and a lot bigger and taller than my 10 year old sister. It seems she could deal with riding in the middle better than me since she does not need as much room as me. It is going to be miserable having no personal space or leg room for that long and having my sister lean on me and she and my mom breath in my face. It is also kind of embarrassing people will see me riding between my mom and little sister. What would a fair compromise for my sister and I to share the window seat and how can I try to talk my mom and sister into it.

Ok, so I grew up with a brother from a different father same mother....lol..we always know who the mother is! We are 7 years apart. For some reason he thinks I owe him ....meaning pick up his slack, car loan, co sign, loan money... When he was younger I tired but he burned up cars, never took care of what I purchased.  So I stopped, told him work harder. Lord I'd have 2 jobs to keep my family with light and heat at 17. Now about every 5 years he wants a loan a co sign a situation involving $$$$... I never loan so I never have to collect I've even said my own children would never ask me for a $$ loan....I'd tell them get another job. Well this has really created separation between  us. I love him but, its draining. Then he's closer to mom than myself who I was raised by grandma...and he feels I owe mom our birth mother more & more....when my memories border in abusive parenting. What's a good solution.? How to mend thing? I thought about a Christmas letter...lol...that would warm the holidays....lol? Would you just let it go? Continue to not to contact? Or contact?

Always that 1 person that makes holidays stressful (for me it's my SIL) she ruins every holiday

My sister just got out of the hospital after being in there for a week. She's had the flu was in there for 8 days we just now got home. She wants me to lay in bed and cuddle with her. Is that wrong ? 

I am a very sensitive person so she hurts me this way.

I was hanging out with my cousin at my aunt and uncle's house and we were looking through their photo albums. They had several pictures of my mom when she was in high school. One was of mom in her cheer leaders uniform. She sure looked cute in that picture. Another was her when she was homecoming queen. She was gorgeous. I think she was the prettiest female I have ever seen. Was she ever beautiful? My aunt said "Did you know your mom was homecoming queen all 4 years she was in high school"? I had never seen these pictures and mom had never mentioned she was a cheerleader and homecoming queen. I asked my aunt to make copies of these pictures for me and she did. Can anyone think of a reason mom would not tell her daughter about her being a home coming queen and a cheer leader? Mom has a birthday coming up next week and is having a party and many of her friends will be here. I want to make a large birthday card that say "Happy Birthday to my beautiful mother". "I am proud of you". "Your daughter". I would like her friends to see how beautiful she was as homecoming queen. I plan to attach these pictures to the birthday card. Mom has NOT gained a lot of weight and still looks the same as her high school pictures. She is still beautiful. Please give me some feedback what you think of my plan.

My grandmother is staying with us and she's the kind of person that will leave when we stop being useful to her or comply with her orders. She thinks that she can just order people around and they will listen that's the biggest problem with her. She causes problems for me, my older brother and everyone else in the family..she has to start seeing that it's not always about her and she's not the most important person. How could I get her to leave me alone?

I am not talking about Dr. Phil. many times I will be watching the news and they always seem to have someone who knows how to take care of children or they have a better marriage and how you can also.  Dr. Phil was on Oprah, before Oprah which I hardly watched I did not even know about Dr. Phil or Dr. Oz their is no perfect marriage and no perfect children. everyone brings up their children they want they want and even in a marriage, each marriage is different. 

I have an aunt (let's call her Jane). Jane has been making daily Facebook posts about how she's in mourning for her dying father (he is currently fighting Heart cancer).... But according to her, he's been dying for 15 years (bullshit, he'd be dead by now) AND she threw in something about her being a great caregiver and how everyone else is a horrible person, despite me, her siblings and my mother trying to help him as soon as we found out about it two years ago.

We have to have our parents permission to marry or I'll be out of the well. They said that rule when I was a child. I don't want to lose their well as they're very wealthy but I love this man. They say that I can't marry him because they don't think he is wealthy enough and my dad says I should only marry a wealthy man who can take care of me. There's another man they want me to marry and they fight with me to marry him but I'm not in love with that guy. How do I convince them to let me marry the man I love? It won't even let me bring them to Thanksgiving. Yet they say this other man might stop by who is the one they want me to marry, their neighbor son. I am 31 and the man I love is 33. Meant to say will, not well

is a prostitute that costs about $ 5,000

We are going there instead of OUR FAMILIES. The uncle and his wife will be there and his two kids, much younger then me, but that is all. The rest are his wife's parents, sister and her lover and her kids, her brother whose a known sex offender (no joke), her uncle and all of his family, her niece's in-laws, her nephew's mother in law, and some neighbors and friends (all strangers to us). This is my Mom's brother. The rest of her family is out of town. Meanwhile, we will be missing my aunt's on my Dad's side which is where the family is. We will be missing the laughter, the joy, the cousins, the grandparents, and the family time. My mother doesn't like going there and my Dad is a slave to her commands cause he has no balls. So how do I make the best of this Thanksgiving with people we don't know and have no connection to. The uncle will be barking at his wife the whole time like she is his robot. Lots of rednecks in his wife's family (no offense). Even a sex offender there. My Dad's family is so much safer and more enjoyable. Christmas we will be travelling to my Mom's families so we should be with Dad's family anyway. I cannot drive yet as I', 15. No Mercy: I tried

I'm 15 and my older brother is 19. He's my legal guardian, and the only father type figure I have. Yesterday, I didn't feel like going to my last 2 classes, so I just didn't go. Before the last class was over, the vice principal found me, and called my brother. When my brother came home from work, he started immediately lecturing me. He said, "I can't believe you'd pull a stunt like that with your grades." I wasn't thinking about who I was talking to, so I said, "They're not that ******* bad! It's not that big of a deal." Before I knew it, I was bent over the couch arm, and my brother was giving me 25 swats on my jeans. Even though it was over the jeans, it hurt like hell! Did I deserve it?!

I got into a really bad argument with my parents over nothing. I lost my bus card but I had the money from my job to pay for bus fair. Only €1.20   They made it into something bigger claiming I didn't want to go to college. The only days I took of college was when I was in the hospital after losing a lot of blood, I took a week off of college because the doctor told me too. And when I didn't go to bed till 3am and having to be up at 6 for college. The reason I was up so late was because I had finished work at 11pm and didn't make it home till 12:30. When I got home there was piles of dishes in the sink. The dog had been out the back since I left him there before college. I had too clean feed the dog and do homework after work. I have no problem with doing chores around the house. I live there. I also give 220 too my parents which is exactly half my wages. I have no problem with any of that. But when being called selfish and lazy and having your own father grabbing you by the throat that's something I can't stand for. I don't want to live in fear of him any more. I decided I'm going to stay with my grandma until I have it figured all out. My grandma never liked my dad for attention he tried to kill him self in front of me my man and my grandma when I was 8. It's always pity him he's had a hard life. But now he doesn't. He doesn't work by his own choice does nothing around the house cause it's a woman's job apparently and plays video games. Speaks to no one all day.

I have this uncle who does everything in his power to make people have a bad opinion about me and what's more he's trying to get me married because he knows about my promiscuous past but the truth is he has two illegimate children named Carrie and Nathan and my father won't let me do **** because I'll end up like him so he keeps asking my father intentionally "when are they getting married? and even took wise cracks at it by asking my father once "how come he's not married? Is he gay? All this because he is trying to make up for his sin. 

Is it rare or common for a parent and child to have a dispute in which they go a lifetime with out speaking to or seeing each other again? Rather it be a financial dispute , a custody battle , or something else. . What are the main reasons?

my parents are so controlling with my life and go overboard with the restrictions. everything that happens has to be their way. it's not even my life. i'm in high school, and it's been like this for as long as i can remember. no social media, no app store on my phone, no social activities (concerts, hanging out with friends, dating, etc.). they watch every little thing i do, from what/when im eating, to what time i finish homework, to reading my texts. my mom gets mad at me for eating snacks with "too many carbs" when there's nothing else around the house to eat! she legit yells at me for taking too long when i do homework. it's not my fault i have a lot of homework like wtf! im not even allowed to go to any colleges except the community college, so there goes all my life plans :(  i literally have no freedom. at all. literally all i want is freedom :(

My daughter claims that 7th grade is THE worst. In fact, this specific year has the most drama, immaturity and behavioural issues compared to any other age group. She hates it. This is my firstborn kid and I'm a first-time mother here.... I don't really know what to do. I have no experience with this issue before. My daughter never felt this way about school during the previous years. 

I am worried about when I see her at Thanksgiving in a week and then Christmas. With her being ill I suspect she is worse then she already is. My Dad even stated indeed she is. What do I do when she starts in on me in front of everyone? I don't want to act immature myself as I am 32 and this sister is 26.

My crush is mean to me, whenever i see him and try to talk he tells me to "please stop talking to him" and he always avoids me and never talks to me first and clearly doesn't like me

So I ordered a glass panel from amazon and it is being delivered by FedEX and i ordered it 2 weeks ago from California and i live on the east coast of the US, and for two weeks the tracking hasnt moved and its been in the same place at a smartpost on Greeley Colorado

I hate being a minor, I m almost 14 and I am sick of it. My parents are verbally abusive AND NO I AM NOT SPOILED, because I am grateful to what I have. After i cut my hair they now want to take me to get it butchered as a punishment so that they can embarrass me and I FREAKING HATE THEM!!! Honestly, my parents are always calling me names like a ***** and a **** and telling me to go back to my ******* mother and I hate them for that!!! I was abused sexually by my stupid older brother when I was only 4, and my "parents" never seem to acknowledge that but I don t either. THEY KNOW I AM MESSED UP BECAUSE I AM ALWAYS TALKING ABOUT WHY I WANT TO KILL MYSELF AND OTHERS!!!! IT IS ALL THEIR FAULT!!! I HATE THEM AND WANT THEM TO DIE ALONG WITH MY 6 YEAR OLD BROTHER WHO ALSO MAKES MY LIFE ****!!! Please help me I am sick of being given such verbally abusive parents and I NEED TO GO SOMEWHERE ELSE!!!!!! I am so sorry, I am just very angry. Most of what I said just goes against my values as a christian however, I am just so upset right now!!! Please help me!!!!!

I had my son 3 yrs ago, we've been struggling together for 2 years almost. Living from family member to family member hotel to hotel you name it. I'm a very hard worker but recently lost my job because I have no help with him, I was depending on daycare but he kept getting ill with no one to help care for him while I was working. It made me unreliable as an employee. My boss lowered me to 7 hrs a week.. Anyways my biggest mistake is I keep coming back to my grandma she's the only person who will help but shes a big part of the reason I lost my place. As grimy as she's been I keep a relationship  with her and Idk why anymore it's unhealthy and I blame myself at this point for allowing it. She's very abusive to me mentally, emotionally, she won't let me make decisions for myself if I do she holds a grudge for days. She verbally abuses me all day long. I feel helpless being that I want to leave but I know I'm going to be on the street again. I'm so depressed I can't drive and have privacy or a life of my own. I'm like a slave in captivity she controls everything. Also my son has autism so I can't just leave him everyone deserted me once they found out he was different. I love my baby so much you guys but I'm at wits end with our lifestyle. She even made it where I lost my daycare benefits she stopped wanting to take him. He's in prek but Idk if I can find a job with those hours

Me and my girlfriend were at my house chilling and when it was time for her to leave she said goodbye and left and the next day when I was at the grocery store I noticed I couldn't find my wallet and I had to put everything back because I didn't have any money and I was really upset and angry and I looked everywhere at home and I couldn't find my wallet. I then thought of texting my girlfriend and asking if she had it and I asked her and she said no and the next day I came to her house to hang out and when she was on her phone in bed I noticed MY wallet on her bedroom table and my ID and cash on the table next to it and i screamed at her and she said it was an accident and she didn't know it was mine and i grabbed my stuff and left her house and she's been texting me begging for me back saying she's sorry and didn't mean to do it, should i forgive her and let it go or break up?

My mom died mysteriously at young age. When we last saw her, she was well and wasn't sick. Then we heard she was ill a year later, then she got seriously ill and lost her eye sight and was hospitalized, unable to walk then she passed away at 35 years old. She lived in Africa. Rememring back, she when we lived with her, she used to bring different sexual partners at night when we were sleeping on regular basis. This was in the early 90's. She died in 2000.  It matters because I'm trying to find closure and come to terms with her early demise 

My son is 26 years old. He has acute anxiety, and He recently moved back home, because he wasnt getting along with his brother, and his gf. Hes lived here for about 7 months. He works a part time job, because he has acute anxiety, and has quit several jobs because of it. Anyway, hes been acting odd these past few months. Just real quiet, and just sits in his room, looking at his phone. He doesnt even play video games anymore. He use to go out, and work in the yard, but he doesn t even do that anymore. He basically does nothing, besides coming home and eating. What I m really worried about is, when he was 19, he was diagnosed with wpw. His heart was going way too fast, so they had to be transported In an ambulance to another city. He ended up flat lining for 6 minutes on the way there. I came home the other day in a bad mood, to realize he hadn t washed the dishes or anything. I m getting real sick of it, so I gave him an ear full. He got mad, and told me that he was begging the paramedic to let him die in the ambulance, and hes no longer Interested in living. He use to joke around with me to the point were I was annoyed, but he hardly smiles now. I d give anything to have him joke around like that again. He hardly talks to me unless I talk to him. I asked him a few times to see a counselor, but he gets irritable. Hes just completely angry all the time, and it scares me. What do I do?

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This will be long but I haven't had a job in a few years it stresses me out I am thankful to at least about finally getting my permit I got in a car crash or would have got it earlier then I have. I will be applying for side jobs soon I think but I really don't think anyone would hire me I was snapped at once for my speech impediment which I am working on and it's actually a lot better then it was 4 years ago. Now my career job I am meant to do but that could take years to get in I want to be a minister I actually didn't want to before if you are religious you'd understand the force feeling of it I am female to but if I think of doing something else my life actually gets miserable my dad also had that feeling which explains a lot but I'm sure he would have been a catholic priest but he's ignored it and his life actually became miserable I am not sure if ignoring it is for sure why though but like it wouldn't surprise me. Sometimes when I apply for jobs online when they are hiring the apply button won't even be there I would love to do something tell them but it sucks when you're not meant to I am trying not to complain but I don't know what to do I'd love my own place.

Sometimes you slip into old habits of just having a normal longer convo...then they jab you with some self righteous condescending statement and you remember why you decided to avoid them in the first place.

Since he is a step-son and was 14 when we met him should we consider him 2nd rate to the four nephews and one niece we have through my sister and my brother's son (the brother has a real son from 1st marriage). My mother has 1st rate cousins, 2nd rate cousins, and a 3rd rate cousin. So I wondered if the same applies here. In my Mom's case it is cause of a brawl among her dad and his sibs so the descendants of the good sibs are 1st rate and the descendants of the bad sibs 2nd rate. The 3rd rate one is one we've never met. 

My parents made her like this in her teen years. 

I hurt all the time and I know Christmas will be hell this year with Mom doing all she can to keep us from Dad and his family while her family will be pulling me aside to tell me what a wicked man my Dad is in their eyes and giving me dirt on him. Meanwhile my Dad's family will be begrudging me if I am not with him 24/7 through the holidays and showing total loyalty to him. I cannot take the pressure. I am 15, and should be enjoying my freshman year of high school. It was bad enough when they were together but this is 500 times worse. My Mom spent an hour this morning telling us all about our Dad's financial lies. I have no idea if any of it is true or not. Meanwhile, my Dad's mother has made 3 Christmas events and we have to be at all 3, thus upping the pressure her fury will be on me if I miss them cause my Mom will be making it difficult for me to get there (I cannot drive at 15). Lastly, my Mom just informed me my Dad is sleeping with a woman. Most likely that is a wild embellishment cause he is socializing with a single friend of his sister's. My parents split in April.

The mother is rich. The father's family is not. The troublemaker sister of the father keeps on calling her for profit. The mother is now lonely and does not mind hanging out with those folks even though the children and the remarried father do object because of never ending and potential conflicts.