Ok. I'm currenty suspended from my gym. The manager wants to speak to me about stuff.  In my gym there is a whole bunch of stupid rules like you are not allowed to sit down on a bench while resting. I'm a bodybuilder and sometimes when doing squats. You do need to sit down in between sets.  The only place where one is allowed to use the wifi is in the car park (where wifi signal is non existent).  No touching equipment when not actually using it. The stupid rules are not what my current issue is about. In my gym the manager has to act on complaints (completely normal). But there is this guy who has been reporting me for literally nothing. Last monday I was working out as usual when he arrived. We were the only two in the gym at the time and didnt speak to each other.  At one stage he left for 5 minutes and returned again. I thought nothing of it until this morning when I got an email from the gym manager telling me my gym membership is being suspended due to complaints. And wants to talk to me about the future of my membership.  This guy has complained about me before and yes I did clean up my act. But at this stage I think he is just doing it so that I get shown the door! The manager told me once that this guy is part of a husband and wife team that have been with this gym for 10 years. I only joined in 2018. The fact that this is a husband and wife team that have been there for so long makes me think that the manager favours them more!  What should I do???

My husband has joined the black Hebrew Israelites and forcing our son and I to go congregate with them and believe their teachings we got into a huge argument today because I told him I don't believe their teachings and then he threw the food at me I was cooking and my cell phone and told me the Bible says I have to agree with him because I'm his wife. I don't know what's gotten into him but he has grown so mean and rude to me since joining this organization. What should I do?

I declined sex last night due to the fact that weve been pretty rocky lately and last night I just wanted to watch a movie and go to sleep. I got a call to go to the hospital right at time for bed and this morning I found out that once I left he watched porn last night. Should I be offended or is this considered "ok"?

I have been married 4 months now. My wife is a lovely woman with a love for everyone and a love for life. The only person I've seen her undeniably hate is her cousin. From the years I've known my wife she's always brought up this cousin of hers that she's described as " weird and freakish" or something along those lines. I mean, I don't mind a little weirdness, but I thought if this cousin was as weird as she described, I should probably steer clear of her if I can.  This past Sunday her grandparents had an early Thanksgiving meal because of everyone's schedules on the actual day. And the cousin she spent so much time complaining about was there. I have to admit, she didn't look like the girls my wife associates with. Her hair and clothing were pretty different, but she has this simple Victorian beauty that I've never seen. Anyway, after talking to her, I found that she is an accomplished artist, comic artist, and independent filmmaker. She came off as a bit eccentric, but very interesting.  I dont know why this has been on my mind for the last 2 days, but I have to wonder, why does my wife hate her so much? I asked if they fought a lot as kids and she said no, she just hates how weird she is. Doesn't make much sense to me. My wife is beautiful, and a nurse, and so funny. I dont see where this hate comes from.

My husband has done some things and I feel I cant truly trust him.  What should I do? 1. he has searched up exes to make me mad 2. he has talked about me behind my back 3. he has kept things from me and I found about them in other ways 4. I feel he doesnt have my back

My wife and I adopted an adult child recently (intent to adopt was prior to her 18th birthday but she turned 18 before it materialized so it was an adult adoption). She brings with her a 16 year old bio brother who we are also trying to adopt. Between the two of them though they are completely ruining and destroying my family (I have 2 bio children of my own with my wife)... I have no clue what to do, my marriage is ruined and the family is being torn apart. The adopted kids refuse to eat home cooked meals. They will eat desserts, fast food, freezer meals, and constantly drink pop but they refuse to eat something home cooked (which is way more affordable for us). They also refuse to stay home and require us to take them on 2 to 3 hour car rides, mostly these rides are without the bio kids because they don't like my bio kids. They also like to form friendships with pot smoking alcoholic thugs who get into trouble with the law, so if we don't keep them busy they will likely end up in prison/juvi. We adopted them because they had no where to go, but they both act like they would have been better off on their own fighting the government/law and disobeying authority figures. As for my marriage, there's no time for us. As a matter of fact, the adopted daughter took my place in my bed and I can't even sleep in my own bed with my wife anymore. The only time I see my wife is when she wants to delegate work to me like take trash out. The adopted teens have literally took over.

I'm freaking out because I child on the way. My wife already two from her previous marriage and now we have one of our on due in March. I make $30,000 a year and were just getting. What am I going to do now that there is a third child on the way.

Every year for Thanksgiving my husband and I alternate years between families. Last year was with my family, so this year we'll be with his. My family is actually going to Myrtle Beach, SC for the weekend so my husband and I will be leaving out Fri morning to drive and meet up with them. My sister has a suite at a hotel with an extra room so she said we can just crash with her the one night. I told my husband that I was going to take a bathing suit with me and his reply was that I didn't need to take a bathing suit because we're not going to be there but about 24 hours and it's too cold to even thing about getting in a pool much less the ocean. He told me that I would probably be the only one to take a bathing suit this time of year. He this said these words. "Think!" Is he saying I'm dumb for wanting to take a bathing suit to the beach? What's wrong with wanting to get in the hotel pool while we're there? He said I probably won't have time to even think about changing just to get in the pool for maybe an hour. Again, we're only going to be there about 24 hours. Does he have the right to tell me what to do and was he trying to say I'm dumb or stupid for wanting to get in the pool this time of year. He loves to tell me how to pack when we go places. Am I wrong to want to take a bathing suit?

Her husband is VERY controlling. He's allowed to do whatever he wants but not her. He's super sexist & is disrespectful. My friend never stands up for herself she gets walked all over. She knows i dont like her husband but i tollerate him for her & keep my mouth shut. She was getting ready to leave him & said she would message me the next day. Next thing i know im blocked & havent heard from her in months. I found out her husband made her block me since he didnt like me. Im so hurt & she acts like it doesnt bother her, We've been best friends since 2nd grade. I wish she would grow up & stand up to his abusive self but she never will & I will never see her again... Why...

Example : I don't want to get my tubes tied because we might divorce in the future and my next husband may want to have kids with me.

I have been sexually frustrated for 18 years (I was 19 when we met and we married when I was 22 before we both were mature). I want a woman who is wild in the bed and doesn't overthink about anything and will do whatever it takes to make me "finish" in the bed, in exchanged I am willing to return the favor; the problem is, she's never been what I want sexually. She just lays there and expects me to do all the work BUT she refuses to act like a true "bottom" and let me do whatever I want because I'm doing all the work. It's like telling someone else to cook dinner but telling them EXACTLY how to cook it and serve it.... She's not open to therapy, marriage counseling, or anything else that takes from her busy day. And she's not open to discuss things with me one on one or in text. This is just not a subject that she wishes to EVER address. I am to accept her for who she is AND remain monogamous (only have sex with her) with the exception of porn which she allows me to do excessively so she doesn't have to do any work to satisfy me.... Lately I've been thinking about paying for a snapchat premium that has chatting privileges so I can have an online relationship with a girl that would be willing (at least on camera) to do whatever I tell her to do. I considered doing a meetup but I'm sure they have all sorts of stds so that's a no from me. This just sucks because all I really want is my wife but she's a feminist and says it's her body and she doesn't have to have sex with me.

My husband and I have been together 6 years, and we are converting a bus at his moms house and have been here a few weeks and are about to leave to go to do a ski season. It is our favorite thing to do and we make lots of money while we are there. But his mom cried to my husband please don't leave. She wants him to be emotional support and for him to watch her grandchildren she takes care of now.  Totally understandable. But this is why I feel we shouldn't. She is constantly telling us how dreadful her life is, complaining about her husband and complaining about having to take care of the kids because she shouldn't have to and complaining about how messy the house is and never cleaning it up. It is all she talks about and if your talking to her she doesn't like to change the subject. It's I hate this I hate that and that other thing. It is not fun to listen too. I offered her lots of great advise like it is not the situation that is bad but our thoughts about it. And she gets super defensive. She gets jealous of me and my husband spending time together too and does anything she can to take away our privacy and my comfort. Like if I'm sleeping she will turn a bright light on me face and start watching something loud. I wish she could feel better, she has my husband is such a feeling of guilt if he leaves. How to I show him that us sitting around trying to convince a lady who has never been happy to be happy. Happiness is found within. She just loves it when we say your right. 

And then say they'll stop after she gets implants.

Hello, I'm sorry, but I have been so depressed and hurtful so I wanted some advice from other people. I have dated my fiancé for 3 years now and recently he proposed me with a lovely ring, and We love each other and I know he is the right person for me so I said "Yes" and We are happily engaged. Everyone is happy for us and My family too. But the only problem is his family. My fiance's parents, especially his mother, always is overbearing and never lets him go although he is an independent adult. They still call him "baby" and literally treats him like a baby like "Give mama a kiss." And of course, they hate me so much because the mother is too jealous about me spending time with her son instead of her and she thinks I'm taking him away from her and controls him, which is not true. I always cares for them, and be nice but they hate me and harass me. They started telling people that I'm trying to marry my fiance for american citizenship and I'm a "*****" (I'm from another country but I have a working visa as a nurse) She even started telling her friends a whole different story and making me a totally bad person. I really think it is her problem to fix because My fiance can not handle her either. Not to mention that she used to punch my fiance in the face, she even threatens her husband with divorce like if he accepts me then she will divorce him. It hurts me and I even had to consider suicide because of her. Please give me an advice as I love him and want to marry him.

they've done this before and I couldn't breathe, was paralysed, that sort thing. I don't know why it bothers me so much, I just needed to vent

I dont get it. I wont date or marry a man who cant show how he feels and values me. I also need romantic affection. If i didnt, i wouldnt want a man in my life. There would be almost no point aside from him providing for me. Nevermind i asked a bunch of children clearly... Im still gonna hold out for my real daddy man who wants and adores me And then if i married a man who will  not have romance with me, i will crave it badly and thats probably how you get those mamas boys. The moma turns to the kids for affection.