I was going through the shed to find Christmas decorations, and I come across 2 boxes that have my husbands ex wife stuff in it. It had crafts, school stuff, bags, etc. I asked my husband if he knew it was still here and he said yes, but didn't know what all was really in it. He said he was going to get it to her, but I don't know when because we work hectic hours. A while ago, we did pack up everything that was hers in the house and left it on carport. She did come and get it then. They were together on and off for 6 years and have a kid together. They been divorced for 2 years. We all get along really good (she's married also) and I don't want to ruin it over this. Should I let this bother me? Or should I let it go? Does it mean anything like he still has feelings? I know she probably forgot about it because life gets in the way. 

Or no? 

My husband and I are getting a divorce. We have been together for 8 years and married for 4 years. We dont have kids. I know it is for the best because we just dont work anymore. We have both tried to make it work but I think we have just grown apart. He moved out last night and I felt strange this morning not seeing him but I also felt relief in not feeling the tension. Most of the time it felt like I was walking around walking on eggshells. When we were good, it was great but for the last few years it as been more pain than anything. He is a good person who I will always love for some of the amazing memories we had together. I cried a few times today over everything. The pain, fear and loss of our relationship. I didnt get married to get divorced but I know this is long over due. I think we will both be happier apart. I am very excited and also very terrified for this new chapter of my life. What advice do you have for anyone going through a divorce? 

Husband works at a gym as a fitness instructor. Husband got gym membership to another gym. Husband goes to other gym in-between clients at his work gym. Asked husband to cancel gym membership to save money. Husband begrudgingly agrees, while wife cancels her makeup membership. Husband takes cash out of atm the same time his membership is usually due.  Bank statement shows he spent money at gym on a protein shake.  Wife suspects he used cash to pay for his membership. Gym is in X town, but there are 6 other gyms closest to his job. Why would husband go to a gym further from his job (AT A GYM) when there's 6 others that are closer?

Her and I have a few kids and they are young. Life is stressful. We split duties and I feel that we are 50/50 on chores. However she feels that she is unappreciated. I get her random massages, flowers, help out with the kids everyday. She was upset that we did get one night out and I didn't spend as much time with her as she would have liked.  I really don't know what I can do better. She never has seemed attention from me. I asked her what I need to do and she said she doesn't know. I really need some opinions here. Thx 

If your husbands ex wife still had boxes of her things (like purses, crafts and school stuff) in the shed after been divorced for 2 years, would it bother you? They were together for 8 years and has 2 kids so I can understand forgetting it. I know it's also just stuff, but should I let it bother me? It's just random stuff and school stuff as well. I let him know about it and he says he knew it was in there, he just didn't know what all it was. He says he will get it to her, but I fear she will never get it. Am I overreacting? And making a big deal? I knew about the boxes of kid clothes and that doesn't bother me, but should the other boxes? 

I feel she's trying to blame me for her getting caught cheating! I find this very disrespectful! Says she started cheating because I was always working long hours and she was stressed out living with my mother. She said she has had many talks with me wants to be with me but stuff does need to change! I feel this was a big breach of trust yes she's had talks with me about not wanting to live with my mother and me working long hours but I'm doing this to provide for our family. I don't know if I should leave her or not she does work also full time and we have three children so I'm very shocked she would get this lonely. Do you think she's trying to blame me to justify her behaviors

So, for the last few months my wife has been working from home. She s always wanted this because her chosen profession is art. She s been doing it for years, but now she s become so well known in the art community that she can make a fair income by doing that alone. We ve only been married a little over a year, and in that time she s made this career for herself. This sounds great, but I HATE it. I was raised with a working pair of parents that went out, did their job, came home after 10 hours, relaxed, went to bed and did it all over again the next day. That s what I do. And I wish that s what she did. She s said time and time again that regular jobs depress her, and she never feels truly accomplished at the end of the day, and she feels as though she s wasted several hours on something she ll never really care about. To me, that comes off as extremely selfish. There are people in the world that would kill even for a part time job just folding clothes and making minimum wage, and she could never appreciate that. Now, if she wanted this art thing to be a hobby or even as a part time job, that d be fine. But to do it everyday and to spend hours upon hours over a drafting table doing a job a monkey could do, that s a waste of time. And she s only 26, I don t think I could handle an entire lifetime of this. How do I tell her to end this without making her upset? Thanks! I apologize for the lack of apostrophes. I'm not sure what sort of glitch that is. 

I've always treated my wife like she was an equal to me. Well, I have since 2007 anyways. Prior to that I treated her like a sex toy play thing because that's what I was raised to do and that's what I thought women were in men's lives. In 2007 I adopted feminist values with my wife which transformed me from working class blue color jobs to middle class white color jobs because of my overall world view changed. But are sexist stereotypes real despite it being no longer acceptable to believe in them? The reason for this question is because my wife is way more emotionally reactive to things than I am and when she reacts she does it in a petty, passive aggressive, my way or the highway way. And I know it's sexist to say "she's just being a woman" but I know I don't act that way, and neither do my two boys, so is it true that this is in fact a woman trait? I think it's highly probable that sexist stereotypes might be real. But I need your opinion to know the truth. I mean I know girls can do anything guys can do (as long as they aren't supermodel type girls who anorexia themselves into 89 lbs, then they can't lift anything we can). And I know guys can be emotionally mature enough to raise kids (I did) but when it comes down to the opposites attract thing, isn't it true that guys like girls being girls and girls like guys being guys? Seems to me it isn't nurture after all, maybe nature plays a bigger role than 3rd/4th wave feminism thinks?

So over a month ago I got a DNA done to see if the toddler was my child . ( the mom pressed child support so child support order a DNA ) it turned out positive but up to this day I haven't her anything from the office or the lady that's taking care of this case . I've called her , I've called the office , and email her and nothing . They haven't responded or called me back . I was never part of her pregnancy because she never wanted me to be . She was with another partner as well so I had to respect that . Also when she gave birth I wanted to be there and she told her friends she never wanted me there . So she left me out of his life for over 2 years ( she moved apartment , changed her phone # ) . And now she pressed child support . Idk if she realized how baby/kids are expensive , or she just needs money on the side or I'm not sure she . I have a baby of my own & I know it's expensive , I tried messaging her on FB through my BM & my account( before I was block on her fb now I'm not )  . And she ignores it , I tried messaging her sister in law and they say they tell her but she's being stubborn and now accepting my help I have screen shots of her just being ignorant . I wanna see my kid and buy him stuffs that I couldn't because she never allow me too ! And court taking too long I haven't herd nothing from them  ! What can I do!!!  It's not fair how she took 2 years away and now she's pressing child support with her partner being there . But yet she ignores my msg and my help She's not accepting my help . Sorry for the misspells . It doesn't let me edit this 

Do I disclose the news if they ask? Do I tell the hated great-aunt (hated cause of a generational curse my maternal relatives issue) who I find very sweet when I see her? What do I do?

https://www.instagram.com/p/B5BHgbSlijc/ Why or why not?

Husband and I have found ourselves divided on this. While I believe it would be adultery, as the Bible tells us that if we divorce and remarry, being with the new spouse would be considered adultery. Yet, if the spouse dies and remarries it's the same situation, only you both still love eachother as the living remarries, so I see it as possibly even worse! While husband says if I died he'd be lonely and think it'd be ok to remarry. This makes me very sad. I've seen multiple cases of husband's dying, Steve irwins wife for example, says she'll never remarry as she's already found her happily ever after. Loneliness can be fulfilled in the church, children, animals etc. Remarrying would just be fulfilling a desire to still have sex not just loneliness, as that can be fulfilled in other outlets. I love my dear husband and have devoted my entire life despite what happens, but I feel he cannot say the same, and that breaks me up inside. What's your view? Another example would be queen Victoria, who's husband died quite young and, yet, she went her final 60 years wearing black and never marrying again. Do you see the beauty and purity in that?

I currently work part time retail. Lately I have been working full time hours while being a part timer. I was told if you keep getting full time hours you eventually have to be made a full timer. I would love to be full time because I will get vacation hours and more personal hours (i only get 12 personal hours due to being part time). I can go on longer vacations with my husband then. What makes me upset is my husband telling me he doesnt want me to have full time shifts. Anything over 6 hours at my job requires a 45 minute unpaid lunch break. He sees me coming home tired. I rather work 4 days at 8 hours full time and have 3 days off if thats what they want me to do. Better for me. Then my husband can stop with the 55-60 hour work weeks (he always wants the extra hours at his job claiming he rather work hard than me). What do I do? I would love full time

I feel worthless sometimes...mentally abused...

I don't not believe in God, but I don't necessarily believe either.  I do believe in some higher being. Mostly I just want to live my life in peace and simplicity without getting tangled up in the complications of religion.  I don't believe the stories in the Bible (Like Noah's Ark. That's a big one.) I don't believe the existence of all mankind came from an already fully evolved Adam and Eve. I have explained to my Fiance I believe in evolution and I do not take the stories in the Bible literally. They're good stories with good morals, I just do not believe them in a literal sense. The thing is, though. I do not bring up evolution with him, because I respect his beliefs. I don't want to put him in  a position where he feels like he needs to defend his beliefs.  I am not looking to change his views. But he brings up the Bible A LOT with me.  And the only thing I can do is smile and nod. I don't remind him I don't believe.  It just feels so awkward sometimes though.  With him knowing good and well I am somewhat Agnostic and I believe in evolution, I try not to cross that line with him as to not make him uncomfortable...why does he do that with me?  Part of peacefully agreeing to disagree is not bringing up that which we feel deeply about but do not agree on. Right?  And I would talk evolution with him, since he is so comfortable talking Creation with me.  But I know, instead of just listening like I do with him, he'd be arguing left and right... I guess I am asking how to best handle this. Do I keep humoring him? I feel it's a bit patronizing to smile and nod instead of just reminding him like "hey, I don't believe that stuff. Remember?"  And choko_canyon, you are right. It actually pains me to see someone who is so highly intelligent, and actually does question things, to believe such things so easily. He has SO much potential but it's being smothered by how he was brought up.  Thank you Collin!!  You made some excellent points.  And to the anonymous, you're right. I never realized how judgmental I was actually being.  By saying what I said about believing things so easily. 

There is no custody arrangement because divorce proceedings have not begun. He drained all of our accounts and relocated to Mexico leaving me to financially support myself and infant daughter from zero with no notice. I got the first job available but it pays barely over minimum wage. Daycare is expensive ($400+/month) and working to pay for that on top of bills eats up all of my available time. I have been allowing video calls, but I don't have wifi and the data usage is a financial burdon. Since separating at the end of August he has made a single payment to me of $80 at the (September). He left behind bills and joint debt over $5k. Am I obligated to keep paying for him to contact a child who doesn't care whether he exists or not when he is providing no support?

What if a couple divorce and they have money but are not super well off... the dad stays in the home With the kids ( as he can continue to pay mortgage) and the mom moves out.  No point in selling house as will have to buy another anyway . Would the dad have to buy the mother a place? She's not a big earner and had her own business(set up by the dad, but business didn't earn much) what happens in this situation 

My exwife and I are still on friendly terms although I had not heard from her in over a year as she had remarried. She called me one morning to ask me to take her to work because her car would not start and her husband was out of town and she had a VERY IMPORTANT meeting she had to attend in just a few minutes. I told her sure and I picked her up at her house and drove her to work. About a week later I got an email from her husband telling me he was not happy that I took his wife on a date. I am not sure how to answer his email or even if I should answer it. The LAST thing I want to do is cause problems between her and her husband. PLEASE GIVE ME SOME ADVICE. Should I just ignore the email or forward it to his wife or try to explain to him that I DID NOT TAKE HIS WIFE ON A DATE. It was just one friend helping out another friend. It sounds like she has a very jealous husband and I don't want to get in the middle of there problems. Did I do something wrong by taking her to work? You can be sure in the future if my ex wants my help, I will be too busy to help her.

If your husbands ex wife still had boxes of her things in the shed after been divorced for 2 years, would it bother you. They were together for 8 years and has 2 kids so I can understand forgetting it. I know it's also just stuff, but should I let it bother me? It's just random stuff and school stuff as well. I let him know about it and he says he knew it was in there, he just didn't know what all it was. He says he will get it to her, but I fear she will never get it. Am I overreacting? And making a big deal?