My 30th birthday is next Saturday. I live in Texas but my entire family is in Maine. I'll be visiting for thanksgiving.  My 4 friends from Maine and I had planned to go to the Casino on my birthday. My one best friend lives in NYC and is taking the train into Boston so he won't have a car. None of my friends are huge fans of the casino but agreed to go because it was my birthday!  My 3 other friends  Friend 1: his car is having major issues constantly breaking down so he won't drive  Friend 2: can't drive (figuratively speaking) she's literally 1 point away from loosing her license due to her most recent accident and her car is in the shop for repairs.  Friend 3: just flat out refuses to drive because she said an hour is too far to the casino and she has a phobia of highways.  I'm kinda bummed. They all said they'd prefer to just meet me in the evening for dinner. Should I just let it go am I making a drama out of nothing or is it normal to feel kinda like crud! 

We go to school together and we were always really close, she isn't very social. Even though we hang out all the time i never actually noticed that something was wrong. She messaged me yesterday around 2 in the morning saying: it won't stop bleeding call me please.it was 2 in the morning and i was terrified as i read that message. I called her and she told me everything. she said she started doing it 3 years ago and that she does it when she's stressed about stuff and gets angry about them. We talked about it for hours untill she calmed down and said it's fine juat please forget about this and begged me not to tell anyone. I wasn't able to sleep after that and instead cried histerically for hours. I couldn't stop thinking about what i'm gonna do about it and if i should tell anyone or not, at first i was gonna call my mom to tell her everything.i never expected one of my best friends to do that and i'm ******* terrified that she might do something worse if she doesen't get help. Tomorrow i'll talk to her about it. i have spent hours searching on what to do in this situation and who to tell about it

Right now I feel overwhelmed a d stressed because of college. Its not that my classes are hard or that I hate my classes, rather I feel really lonely all the time. I have no friends and it's hard to socialize because everyone already has their own friends or own group they hang out with. In each of my classes I always feel left out and outcasted from everyone else. I know its normal to feel lonely and not to have many friends in your first semester, but I think it is making me really depressed. On top of this I have a class that I dont hate but I have a tough time in. Its philosophy which is a very confusing subject for me. In class I rarely participate because I never understand what we are learning.  However, everyone else in the class understands and is smart so I always feel left out from them and I often feel embarrassed because I dont understand it. This is also making me depressed and makes me not want to go to school at all. I'm having a really hard time and I need some help. Thank you

I'm in a program in my college and I hate it so much. I have to stay in this program for 4 years and I don't like any of these kids. It's not that they're mean, I just always feel left out and that I dont fit in. They all have their own friends and groups meanwhile I never have anyone to talk to. And I dont connect with any of them either. What should I do if I feel lonely and disconnected whenever I'm with them? How can I try to get over it and try my best to enjoy this program? I dread going to class everyday and being in the same uncomfortable situation. It's not like this in all my classes, most of my classes I have friends in and I feel welcomed. In this program I feel left out and outcasted. Please help me or just write nice thigns to make me feel better. Thank you. 

Okay so this girl(G) is seriously the sweetest most caring person I will ever meet. One of our closest friends(L) recently got a boyfriend (he's a jerk((his father figure is in the hospital)) and she's spending all her time with him. We haven't talking to her in person in over a month (we're in high school). The 22 was Gs bday and we begged her to come. She never really gave an answer but we waited till the last minute (we celebrated during lunch) and she never came. (Also I should I add, I nonstop texted her durning lunch trying to get her to come.) she stopped me in the hall outside my seminar (her 7th period is her seminar, she went out of her way to scold me for trying to get her to come) I started to say something and she walked away. I yelled at her "IT WAS HER BIRTHDAY" (plus the about to cry voice crack, yes I was upset) and she shrugged and kept walking. I woke up that night to G texting me about how hurt she was. And I was pissed. I texted L all weekend about what she did and how it hurt G (100+ messages) and she kept reading them but never responded. Somehow parents got involved and now also mom is pissed at Gs mom and it's a huge mess. Poor G is convinced it's her fault that L got her feelings hurt. (G never did anything but talk to me and apologize to L about what I was saying...) please this girl doesn't deserve this, what can I do at this point? The 22 means the 22nd of November 

I have two good friends. One lives in Texas, Tina, another lives in Oklahoma, Ozzie, and I live in Arkansas. I invited Ozzie and Tina to my house for Christmas. Ozzie never answered me. Tina said she could not come due to work. I asked Ozzie two more times and I never got a response. I told Tina I had invited him and she said well, he is moody so it's not you and he does the same thing to me. So I thought okay. I accepted that as his reason. Then two days ago I was talking to Tina and she let slip out that Ozzie was coming to see her at Christmas. I was like wtf? I said why is he coming to see you and not me? She said I don't know I'll have him call you. So he never called and so I left Ozzie a rude message saying I felt he was acting like a complete moron for completely ignoring me and said a few cuss words. Tina then said now I am not talking to you and I feel you are being abusive and now Ozzie will never come to see you. I told her I had a right to say what I did and I said I was also mad at her for telling me this, knowing I asked him first and then letting me know, knowing it would hurt my feelings bc ozzie and me go way back and he obviously chose her over me and she tried to make an excuse. She said I am not talking to you and I did nothing wrong. Any suggestions? She said well he is closer to me than you and maybe he didn't think you had the money this year. I said that still does not excuse his behavior when I did nothing to him.  I wanted to explain that he has been down to see me for the last several Christmases  until this year and I have always treated him well. I mean he could have text or called but nothing and then he calls Tina to let her know hey I am coming to see you this year at least that is what Tina told me unless she is trying to make me jealous. I also have cancer and I am in a lot of pain and this makes it worse. I am not a troll.  I do not want to discuss my diagnosis bc I am having surgery soon for it but it may kill me.  I think ozzie not responding to me is crappy and treating me like dirt off of his shoes and tina telling me about it is childish knowing I invited him in the first place. I am willing to cut ozzie out of my life bc I think I deserve better. I am ready to cut Ozzie out of my life bc he could have let me know and so I do not feel bad. Also knowing I had already invited him, i do not think Tina should have told me.

I've rarely met a baby or kid that wasnt annoying. I especially find the parents that have no control of them most annoying.  I feel like I am wrong for thinking this way but  i can't get over it. 

My 2 BFF's & I were close for 10 years. They were my family, they helped me through every hard time in my life. However, I was constantly their punching bag, the brunt of their jokes, & constantly received their criticism (not in a healthy, constructive way). I was going through a hard time & instead of supporting me, I felt they ridiculed me. Both friends & I "broke up" at the same time but for different reasons. The first friend, Melissa was the one who teased me more but we were closer as we saw each other more often. She got mad at me for something silly & I lost it, telling her I take all of her **** & never say anything, & the one time there's a misunderstanding she blows up at me. That fight went absolutely nowhere & we stoped talking, but remained civil when we did see each other. 2 years later we reconnected at a wedding & went for coffee a few days later to talk about what happened. We agreed we wanted to work on things & wanted things to go back to how they were (without the bullying) but we weren't going to forget what happened & we were going to be stronger because of it. Things were good at first, I made plans a few times but then realized that she wasn't making the same effort & all of a sudden it was like we went back to being strangers. I have no idea what happened.  The second friend, Claire literally stopped being my friend because I wasn't on the same level as her. She had a career & just bought a condo & I was struggling to figure out what I wanted to do

We were friends for at least 10 years and saw each other every day. We lost touch over 3 years ago. She was in a controlling relationship and I tried to warn her. I was the only one in our group of friends who said something but we all had concerns. I found out from our mutual friend that she told her boyfriend what I said and he forbid her from seeing me. She would make plans and cancel at the last minute. I got sick of this so decided to cut all contact. She asked to see me and I told her I was busy. We haven't spoke since. Her boyfriend and her have broke up, which I found out from our mutual friend, but no contact has been made between us. Her father died and I did pass on my condolences but to no response. I slowly lost contact with everyone else in our group, although I do feel comfortable enough to start a conversation with our mutual friend, we all know it might be awkward if I try to message my old friend. I do miss her. We have so many memories together and she was like a sister to me. I think pride and stubbornness has stopped us from messaging each other. I think we also ended our friendship with a bit of anger towards each other, her anger that I didn't support her relationship and my anger that she chose her boyfriend over her friend. I'm just wondering if it would be awkward and uncomfortable if I were to message her over 3 years after we stopped talking, if our friendship is something I should keep in the past or if it might be something we could start again?

Yeah you know I was at my job for 3 months and they don't want me there anymore. I'm running that drone business on the side, so maybe I should tell them about quads and those crawlers. You know I was valedictorion for that electronic program at Grantham University. Should I ask for the flexible work hours?

My friend's boyfriend threatened to beat up the guy I like, he wasn't doing anything wrong.  Her boyfriend had no reason to beat this guy up.  On Facebook her boyfriend complained about them being at a restaurant and how this couple was rude toward the waitstaff.  Her boyfriend also mentioned "threatening them and called them the most vulgar names you could think of.  I can't believe the nerve of some people.  Please god help them to get the help they desperately need" in the comment section, her boyfriend responded to someone comment on his post he said he should have laid this couple a$$ out and how her boyfriend should beat these people to a pulp.  It doesn't make any sense it made him mad about these people were threatening and calling them names but he threatened to beat these people to a pulp and laid their A$$ out.  What would you think about her boyfriend?  Would you feel he's a bully? Mean?  They were at a different restaurant.  They threatened the guy I like.  Several months ago he posted about a different restaurant they were at. 

I started talking to a guy a month ago, and he said he was interested. We made plans to go for a drive and shopping, but then his friend called him to go to a football game instead, so he chose that and cancelled on me.  I'm a little salty because i figure if he was truly interested then he would have told him friend he has plans but thanks for the offer, but the fact that he considered it just shows me that i wasn't a priority.  What are your thoughts. 

I think people naturally enjoy being around rude people. Otherwise they wouldn't disrespect the nice people. Good people dont get respect. It's only the ones who raise hell in a situation they get respect. Do they generally like hard core people? or is it just fear? Maybe they just afraid of them 

i have a boring life but lately it became sad because my best friend got new friends who i'm not comfortable with... and i'm feeling like she started to leave me. she just comes to my home so that we go to school togather but she ends up talking only to her new friends and she started to ignore me and to hang out with her new friends. i never hanged out because of my strict parents she started texting me only when it's nececcery and she always talks to me about her new friends whenever we're alone when i told her how im feeling she said im just being over-dramatic  

Jane and Justin was a vocal duet act that used to perform at Fitzgerald's which had a good Sunday brunch. They then stopped performing there, and I Asked the restaurant management what happened, and they said that Jane and Justin were best friends since childhood and they recently had a parting of the ways. I then overheard people saying that it looks like that duet will now be singing in fiddlers green. Someone else said, it looks like that pair just went to fiddlers green. Someone else commented it a real shame that they went across the rainbow bridge to whistlers green. I then heard someone ask if they had died, and someone answered that they were still alive, but they had gone their separate ways and won't perform together here anymore. Is there a place called fiddlers green, whistlers green or the green. Where is the rainbow bridge. Is it slang for a big bridge. The only thing I found about a rainbow bridge is about pets dying.

I met this girl at work 1 year ago, we were really good friends and early in October we began going out. Everything was going good, she was so into me and she would always talk about me with her friends.   We would hug, kiss and hold hands.    We even had sex before. But last Monday we were texting and everything was perfect,  all the sudden she began ignoring me that day.  ( i never said anything bad)   She hasn't been texting me as much, and she takes forever to open my messages.    On Wednesday she told me she wasn't in a good mood to go out to dinner,  so we just hungout at her house and we watched a movie but she was acting fine.     Saturday  she apologized for not talking to me, she made it clear its not my fault but shes in a tough spot in her life right now.     My besfriend James checks up on her all the time asking how she's doing,  and she always replies even if its short.    But she doesn't talk to me,  she sees my messages but doesn't answer back.   I haven't heard from her since saturday.    Like i dont understand why she is ignoring me. I dont know if im the problem or if she is having personal problems. Im in a very difficult spot and i don't know what to doo??????? Pleass help i need advice  And nooo she doesn't like my besfriend. We all been close friends

I'm good friends with a guy who has female friends. We talk a lot and he claims he likes me more than a friend. I asked him if he'll ever give gifts to his female friends and he said, if I didn't like it, he wouldn't but everyone gives gifts to everybody around where he's at. He's honest about a lot of things. He doesn't meet these women in person because we are both introverts. We have friends online, he just has more and I have very few. He is still friends with a few girls online (fb) that he got small Christmas gifts for last year (when we were not talking). He recently had a birthday and one of his female friends had said that he was an amazing friend. I was the first to write a post and she got inspired by mine and copied it but wrote it "better". She claims they're just friends and including him. Would you allow your boyfriend/girlfriend to give gifts to their female friends on their birthday or for Christmas? Would it even be okay for them to have opposite-sex friends?

My best friend invited me to go rock climbing, but there were no adults going. I asked my mom and she said yes, but my dad said no. 1 day later my friend told me I couldn't go anymore because now there were too many people going. I feel sad because we are really close and each other's best friends. My friend had never done something like this to me before.  Are we not best friends anymore? I really need advice. Then my friend told me who was going and there were people's parents too! My friend also said he/she had invited everyone before, so that meant he/she lied to me. 

A little background: I have worked with my crush for 3 months. We've been Facebook friends for a little over a month. We often react or comment on each other's Facebook posts, although it's been a few days for him. Anyways, Saturday night, I was minding my own business at home and I got a message from him. My first thought was "holy crap, why is he messaging me?" and then I saw it was just him "waving" at me on messenger. I "waved" back and he opened it later and never said a word. I'm beginning to think it was an accident, but why didn't he tell me if it were an accident? Was this gesture strange? He's a flirt and not the shy type at all, but I never saw him randomly reaching out to me. Pretty sure he was at work during that time as well.  Not spam and I just reported you, you little troll doll. 

Me and my boyfriend decided that we wanted to keep our relationship a secret. We only told a few friends about it. Today one of our friends made a groupchat and told a bunch of people about it. He is very upset. Right now we are on a facetime with me, him, and my friend. Fore the past 1 1/2 we have been sitting on here not saying anything and when me and my friend try to talk to him he barely responds. He says sometimes people just have to be upset but i feel like i have to cheer him up. I dont like it when he is sad. It makes me sad. Please help!

Hi I'm a tall 16 Year Old Male that's gets judge for smiling at people and they don't judge others but judge me and I was wanting to know what should I do.

I have met many women who text everyone of their friends and are on snapchat literally nonstop all day long. They do nothing but look a their phones and their whole life revolves around communicating with others on their phone. How can you live a life like this without any hobbies, any alone time, or any time for intellectual fulfillment or physical activity. They are usually lower IQ as well for obvious reasons They are usually texting about 5-10 people at once all the time, all day long and their phone has a notification about every 10 seconds

I have had this friend for years, we grew up together and I have known them since elementary school (now seniors). I have always kept them around just because we have known eachother for so long. They have always been a terrible friend to me and have always been jealous causing them to constantly put me down. They had no sense of social queues and would say the most awkward and terrible things. No one really liked this person as they were crazy and a very bad and rude friend. This is just a hypothetical they didn't really die but I was just wondering, if someone who was a close but terrible friend to you dies, is it okay to not feel bad ?

This summer, I was with some of my college friends (we're now middle-aged) and one invited me and everyone else to his house for today, to watch football. I never heard more. Yesterday, he texted me to remind me of the invitation.  But he texted a phone number that I rarely use; I had left that phone at work. I went to work late today and saw they text- after the event was already over. Oops. How to apologize?  He's a fantastic person but we're not super-close.  I see him maybe once a year.  But I like him.