won't be a complete disappointment to them?

I've tried everything to get them to like me. I'm a good person & I haven't done anything to them & they hate me. They smile in my face & talk about me behind my back. (His mom, sister & now his sister is teaching her 10 year old daughter to be fake too.) They got evicted in March & lived with us til last month. We didn't want them to stay here but my heart is big & we tried to be there for them. Everything was fine and we all stayed cordial up til the day we had to kick them out. They didn't help us pay bills, yet his mom could buy pills. (Addict) Our water was so high EVERY month. Usually $125 w just us & it was $600 when they were here! They were only supposed to be here for a week & they ended  up OVER staying. She wanted to live bill free. (I think she doesn't like me because before me she used her son and since him & I moved in together, I've put a stop to it) we kicked them out & that day, everything got ugly. His mom got in my face, I got in hers. It was all bad. She said very hurtful things to me that I have constantly thought about because it hurt. I really did love them and wanted them to love me back. I knew then by how she acted and what she said that I don't mean a thing to her & that she truly hates me. My boyfriend was on my side completely. They left & we all haven't talked since. Today, his mom texted him & said "hey son" & I just don't know how to feel about it. He told me and he hasn't responded yet. How can I deal with this? Please help. I need advice. 

I'm NOT JUDGING anyone, just asking My mom got over the death of my father in 2 years, but my brother has been mourning the death of his old girlfriend for 22 years years now I also asked an old man I once saw at a cemetery while I was putting flowers at my dad's grave and he said to me that even though his wife died 63 years ago, he still cries himself to sleep some nights

I ordered a really expensive motherboard on amazon thats coming from china and i payed a lot for fast shipping so it gets here next week. im worried it will be a scam or something bc its chinese

I was shocked to hear my dad insult her as he sees through now to her no good behavior.

My Mom and her fiance recently moved into a new house with 4 full bathrooms and 4 bedrooms. She and her fiance are supposed to share the master bedroom, and my sister and I have our own separate rooms. My parents are separated, so my sister and I are only at my Mom's on the weekends. I've noticed that, in the new house and the previous house they were in, my Mom likes to sleep in my bed instead of hers. I've asked her nicely not to several times since it's pretty gross, but she always claims that it isn't because she showers before bed, as if she doesn't sweat or lose skin cells and hair while she sleeps. And I've recently noticed that she's been using my shower that is attached to my room, even though there are three others she can use and we even discussed who would use which shower since there are 4 showers and 4 people. I know she's been in my shower because there's hair on the wall that isn't mine and the shower head is always moved. And she has a perfectly good king sized bed in her room she can use. She and her fiance aren't fighting, and she's been doing this for nearly a year now. I'm getting really fed up with her ignoring my requests every time, and if she keeps it up I'm going to confront her about it. Is there anything I can say or do to make her see my side and stop? I'm female, BTW.

My dad gets mad that I don't do anything to help around the house. The thing is, HE NEVER ASKS FOR MY HELP. Sh*t, sometimes I offer to help if it looks like he could use help stacking wood or cleaning up around the yard but then he just says "no that's ok I don't need help.". And then an hour or two later he yells at my mom and I for not helping when he specifically says he doesn't need help. He's such a child. When I get asked to a chore I have no problem doing it. My mom asks me to do a specific chore like go grocery shopping or clean up and I happily do it. But I'm not a mind reader, my dad need to use his words. Instead I get this "I shouldn't need to ask for your help you should know to do something.". I'm never even around the house if something needs to be done my mom sends a text message. My dad had a phone why doesn't he do that? Oh wait, he does text me asking me why I didn't do a random chore he never asked me to do in the first place. Even my mom gives him sh*t for this and he just says "well he's your kid.". Like wtf, I'm his kid too. It's f*cking ridiculous.

I always knew i didn't really like guys but i thought that was normal at that time i had my opportunities but i was never interested in guys. I started really liking one girl in my class, but i kept denying everything about it. My parents strongly dislike people liking the same gender and everytime i would mention it they would reply with disgust and say that it's never okay there is something wrong with those people. I cried every night since i was trying so hard to hide that fact, i recently just sat down and thought to myself.. can i really pretend i like guys just becouse of my parents. So i went to talk to my mom about how one of my friends is gay. She didn't tell me anything too bad about it but i asked her, what would you do if one of your good friends told you that. She replied with: saddly you can't do anything about it you can't help them and kept talking about it like it was some kind of a disabillity. I'm broken i don't know what to do. I try bringing it up every now and then and everytime i do she keeps talking **** about it. I really don't know what to do and i could really use some good advice :(

Can someone explain sibling rivalry to me? I am an only child so that concept is totally foreign to me. My husband has 2 brothers and they always try to out do the other. If one get something, the other 2 try to get a bigger and/or a better or more expensive one. No matter what it is they will waste a lot of money trying to out do the other. This makes no sense to me. Why do they do that?

I have repeatedly asked my sister not to talk about my other sister and brother who are dysfunctional and I have basically cut out of my life. On the phone this morning my sister kept going on. I said stop right now. I don't want to hear about it. She said hold on... I just want to explain something so I listened for a minute and then she brought my sister up again and I said I can't talk anymore since you aren't respecting my wishes and hung up on her. 

So today, I'm going shopping with my 2 cousins, my aunt and my mom however my cousin is bringing her mom and grandma. The problem is that I don't care about them going but for some odd reason I just get anxious when I be around people I don't know or don't seem them a lot. However my mom just flat out refuse to put me on meds because she belives that it makes you gain weight, and I do have a weight problem. Anyways I'm 14 and I shouldn't have to deal with this much anixety at 14.

Our son didn't send a birthday card to his mother on her birthday. He claimed he did, but 'It must have gotten lost in the mail'. He even concocted a story on what was on the card, and what he supposedly wrote. We're just fed up with his disrespect. He must have thought calling her on her birthday was good enough, but to us, a card shows the proper effort. We both feel he did this to intentionally hurt his mother. We deserve so much more than this. We have agreed to cut ties with him, but how do we make that point clear. What do we tell our friends who think he is a kind, generous person to embarrass him?

My brother and I are both middle-aged adults. My brother and his family just don't like my mother and likely don't like me as well. Fine by me if they don't like me, but my mother gets upset about it. They don't say that they dislike us, but they sharply limit time that they spend with us. I live 600 miles from my mother, and my brother lives 600 miles further from her. We get together each year at Thanksgiving. For 24 hours. (My brother has told me that 24 hours is acceptable, not more.) Why bother? I'm always on pins and needles around them, afraid of saying the wrong thing. My brother and his family probably hate it, too. In your family, have you ever just gotten to the point of saying, "let's not bother" and done a more relaxing Thanksgiving?

I'm 15. Where would I go if I run away? Will I get arrested if found? I have to decide before noon. School is too much. I can't do it anymore. I was drinking cause no one will like me if I don't. I will be bullied if I don't. I also smoked weed but wasn't caught. I didn't want to but I'd be hated by my friends if I didn't. Suicide crosses my mind but I am too scared to. My cousin did it and ended up in a coma but lived. Do I run away and where to go? Will the shelter protect me or force me to return? Lastly, if I run away I would never return until I am an adult. Will the shelter notify my mother I am alive though so I don't hurt her? That is another reason I am afraid to kill myself is hurting her.

She hates people who are different, I am different.

Like would you speak to her? Would the funeral be it?

Very sensitive boy who was looking forward to having a 3rd sibling. Do you tell them or do you keep it until they are old enough to understand? Do you do something or say something when they realize no baby is coming soon? 

I am looking for jobs. I am looking on indeed.com, applying to every fast food place i can everyday without fatiguing myself. Looking into company positions. I'm looking at videos on how to fix up my resume and how to write cover letters. Every time I find something that looks like i can apply for I always look at their company page first and then look at past employee reviews on how the working condition was, how it was like working there, what to expect and if they left, look in to why they left. My mom keeps complaining to me everyday that I'm just in my bedroom and not doing anything when that couldn't be further from the truth. I have an ebay account that has ZERO negative reviews with over hundreds of sales. I have also sold personal stuff like my game consoles and electronics but that's another story. I'm trying my best to keep myself sane, but my mom just keeps complaining to me everyday. I kid you not, it was like that guy in spider-man 3 where the old guy always asks peter parker for rent. I have all this other stuff I'm trying to accomplish and my mom is just always in my face about it. How could i help her understand how hard I am trying to keep up with her demands? She doesn't want to hear anything i say. Whenever i tried to communicate to her how hard it is to find a job she just says to figure it out.

she's 11 years old.  she pees herself LITERALLY all the time.  like when were watching a movie, or at a store, or almost anywhere in public, sometimes she will squat on the carpet wearing a skirt without pulling her panties down and just go and doesnt have any embarrassment.  i asked her about it and she says 'it gives her adrenaline' so what is wrong with her and what do i do about this? its so gross and weird

I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years now and I see his parents about once a month but his extended family I only see like 2-3 times a year on holidays.  This year my boyfriend's mom is having Thanksgiving dinner at her house. My boyfriend just found out he has to work that day from 8 in the morning til like 5 to get ready for the shopping to start. I'm off all day and his mom found out I was and suggested I come by myself to her house for Thanksgiving since my boyfriend can't go. And its not just his parents that'll be there, all his cousins (which he has a lot of) and their spouses, aunts, uncles, grandparents, his cousins kids, literally like 25 people will be there and I'm not close with any of them. I wouldn't mind going at all if my boyfriend was going but the fact that he can't and his parents want me to come alone is not ideal.  I told his mom that I will pass and stay home to cook my boyfriend and I our Thanksgiving meal since he'll miss out on all the food and she was like "no just take him a plate home from our house, you have to come, I won't take no for an answer!!!"  I told my friends about this and they keep telling me it's no big deal and to just go but I suffer from social anxiety and this isn't an easy situation for me and I genuinely don't want to go.  Would it be rude of me to just tell his parents again that I'll pass on coming? Also am I the only one that wouldn't want to go to something like this by myself? 

I wrote a longer version with more detail and posted it on another place and received 0 comments. Is it right for mom to do everything for my brother who has ocd and then just leave to let him learn to take care of himself and go to live with my youngest brother or at least in his college town where he has been for some years since college He doesn't argue with her like I do. I admit I have argued I think it started when I wanted to go across the street as a kid for the first time.My brother with ocd has no friends. There is no other family here. Since dad passed away, my brother with ocd he talks to absolutely no one but mom. Dad called him the new hope son when they brought him home a few days old and discouraged him from then on of having anything to do with me. I was in fourth grade and failing when he was born. Dad said to me, this boy will make good grades not like you. He doesn't talk to me, I talk to strangers for example at wal mart  and occasionally I run into an old friend and talk briefly. And of course I talk to Mom and sometimes argue about the situation I love Mom and need a little encouragement sometimes. I think she should stick around and try to find ways to help him be more independent. What do you think "I" or any of us should do? Should Mom go to her college grad son my best brother he works and lives with a girlfriend he's busy and in a couple years he might put her in a nursing home.     .. Any advice? 

She was supposed to send in income proof to determine child support calculation as well as I and she has a new job where she makes more what can I do?

I love the father of my children very much. We have 1 and 3 year old. We've been together 4 years. Within the last 2 years we've become really destructive towards each other. We fight 1-2 times/week. He is extremely sarcastic and his tone sounds angry towards me quite frequently. We have an excessive amount of stress right now however. We are broke in debt, he lost his job, live in a tiny house which is frequently messy (which he complains about and is the basis of most fights), no family, no childcare (so I never get a break). I'm a stay at home mom. It's just a pressure cooker. I've threatened to leave and told him I hated him because he is so mean a verbally abusive at times. I've become verbally abusive as well. We saw a therapist but no longer can afford to see cuz it's too expensive. I'm miserable. I want him to cope better with stress but I don't think he will change. Some say this is a phase and it will get easier. I'm lost and confused. I need prayers.

I got third in track and I threw it away because it wasn't a first place medal. I don't care about 3rd place why would I want a medal that reminds me I lost?

Wife left him but now they are back together. They are on again and off again. Typical emotional abuse he commits. She takes him back as she was abused as a kid in her family apparently.

Often I get sad for no reason when wanting to enjoy myself. I am worried that will happen this summer. How do I avoid this and let it be good like this past summer's family reunion?

Background: My father passed away when I was 8, and I live with my single mother and 21 year old brother. The rest of my family does not live in the U.S. I am currently 19, and a sophomore in college. All my life, my mother has been strict and she does not allow me to do anything. It's like the older I get, the more control she wants to have over me. I've never had a job (even though I've always pleaded to work for my own money) because my mom won't let me get one. She thinks I should just focus on school and that I'll be making money when I get a job after college (which is not realistic). My mom can't afford to get me a car (which I understand), but won't even let me work to pay towards one or allow me to take her car around town. I've had my license since I was 16 and never had a problem with driving. Instead, she drives me to college and everywhere else I go which makes me very dependent. This whole never-ending situation has got my hands tied for a long time now. It's hard for me to be involved on campus because she's my constant ride. I can't make plans or go out with friends because she would have to take me places. Hearing people say "you're an adult, you can legally decide to do whatever you want" does not help because no one understands just how controlling my mom is.  No one is around to intervene or help me. I'm forced to live this way until whatever happens and I'll (maybe) finally be able to be on my own after college. Will my life ever get better?

Please hear me out first..I do love her cooking but I have severe GERD problems to where I have an ulcer and changing my diet has helped..well my MIL always makes spaghetti..the first time she got offended ( she didn't say it but I could tell) so we are over again and made it again..I just ate it anyways cus I was starving and i didn't want to seem like.a brat... my stomach is burning...so even with health problems, Is it rude ? 

I have a sister and a brother. When all 3 of us graduated from high school, mom and dad told us they would pay for any addition schooling we wanted. I chose to go to college. My sister chose to go to beauty school which mom and dad paid for and my brother chose not to get any additional schooling and immediately get a job. It is now 10 years later and at family gatherings we have this disagreement. My brother and sister want mom and dad to give them an equal amount of money they spent paying my way to college. Mom and dad refuse. They say they gave us a choice and we have to live with the choice we made. My brother and sister's latest argument is that I should give them the amount of money mom and dad spent on my college education because I am now very successful and I can afford it. I am not inclined to do that. Do my brother and sister have a valid argument?

In my Mom's extended family members are either in or out and there is nothing in the middle. For example she disliked her father's parents for not supporting her mother after he died and so all their offspring is cursed by her. She has a very gracious cousin who tried reconnecting and while my mother was cordial, she immediately insulted him to us cause as a teen his social skills were poor (he had learning disabilities and ADHD). Her aunt who I know is wonderful but kind of tacky, my mother strongly dislikes her as a result. Yet, on my Mom's mother side her Mom's brother was a grouchy alcoholic man who wouldn't visit his daughter much cause he couldn't stand her mother, his ex. Plus he was racist. Yet, my Mom loved him and spoke very compassionately of him despite his issues. She maintained he couldn't help any of his issues cause of his divorce and blamed the daughter for the relationship problems. Thus, covering up for him cause he was from the "good side" of her family. She also had racist relatives in Alabama she never judged but begrudged her father's mother for being racist. So is this normal in families? Is it normal that you are loved or hated and nothing in the middle?

My stupid sister is in the hospital with Juvenile Crohn's Disease. As a result my parents aren't hosting the aunt and my grandparents who she is staying with don't want visitors. She leaves tomorrow morning. I hadn't seen her in two years. Plus where she is staying is 45 minutes away and I don't have a car (am a minor). So how do I overcome my disappointment about this? How do I not let it wreck the weekend? Please know I am not blaming anyone, I am not saying I am mad at my sister or parents. I am just saying I am disappointed not to be seeing this aunt, nothing else. When I get disappointed I get devastated as I am a sensitive person. That is all. Not blaming anyone or mad.  Chae-won and Pearl have the good answers. I had already picked best answer before they answered. 

i genuinely get scared as a male in my forties, who has never managed to find any relationships with females, due to severe mental problems, that i'll die alone and never find relationships or love?...i'll never get that opportunity. the reason for that is because ive already lived alone for 15 years now, living as a recluse, with only my elderly parents for support, but they both live far from me....but what will i do when they are both gone from this world?....will i be left alone, abandoned and deserted? who is gonna want a man in his forties with mental disorders? what woman will? i truly think there is a possibility i could die isolated and alone, with all my possessions at the mercy of the state.....and i'm scared of this possible fate that awaits me. another thing to mention; the only ever contact with females i had was in my adolescence when i had a few sexual flings with girls, but ive never ever had any relationships or even any friendships.