Where do I go to report it? I could go into a long story, but I'm not going to. My mother lives in an ALF now, and my family is fairly certain that she is not being cared for correctly.  My brother tried to report it to the state ombudsman's office, but no one ever contacted him.  What can we do about this?

Many years ago my mom was in a car accident. When she got out of the hospital the doctors told her she had to have some one with her to take care of her for 5 days until she was able to take care of herself. It would have been very hard for me to get off work so my husband Jason took care of mom for the 5 days. Mom fully recovered thanks in part to the great care Jason gave her. Mom is going to have surgery soon and she wants Jason to take care of her again for a few days when she gets out of the hospital. The problem is Jason is now my ex husband and I have remarried. I told mom that even though we had a friendly divorce I didn't think I could ask Jason to do what she wants. She said I will ask him myself and she did and he readily agree to take care of her. I really have mixed feelings about this. I know Jason will give mom great care. It is almost impossible for me to take the time off to care for her and hiring a private nurse would cost way more money than I have. My current husband is upset that mom is asking my ex to help her but at the same time he does not want to do it. Should I just be grateful that mom will great care after her surgery and that Jason will do if for free because he really likes mom and she likes him and that is what really matters?

I was on facebook today and me and my friend were arguing over messenger so i got mad and posted her address and personal info online in public and she got really mad and told me to take it down and i said no and then she blocked me, could she get the cops involved

okay, first of all, this is NOT a punishment. also, the railing is really low, it's probably only 2 to 3 inches high. my dad installed the railing around my bed because he was worried that i'd roll off my bed when sleeping. once my older sister was sleeping on the couch in the living room. she rolled off the couch and hurt her back. and i'm 13 years old btw.

Right now I am currently upset and typing this out. So this weekend I took a trip with my mom to visit my aunt and uncle in Arizona, because they are having a "Tamale" making party.Yesterday my mom brought up my DNA results (I did the 23 and me) and mentioned that I am Spanish and Native American Indian. My uncle (is hispanic) and mentions that my sister and I are very "white washed" and try to deny that we are mexican. (so bizarre, I don t even know why anyone would said that). He continues to say that I try to act "white" ( I don t even know what that means). I bite my tongue on this one,because my mom and I just got here and my mom and my aunt are sisters and have gone some time not speaking because my Uncle was rude to my brother once (that s a different story). Anyways that is the first thing that was said, and it really made me feel like I didn t belong. Second thing (Today) I went outside to help make tamales and I introduce myself to some of the people I did not know. I ask my uncle where I could sit to help and he yells this in a laughing tone and says " you can t do this, you re nothing but a little scrawny girl" (I am 25) and it was just completely silent, and I did not know what to say, so I went inside and upstairs to my room to work on my homework. During all these interactions, my mom and aunt were not around. I have noticed that my uncle is very rude to my half siblings that came (they are 9) and I think it is because he holds some type of resentment.

I took her in for just a yearly doctor's appointment. She's 14, come to find out, she's put on 30lb. She's now 210+. Her weight's always been a struggle, but, seeing that number was a wake up call. I told her that she and I would be dieting and exercising together, which sent her over the deep end. She said she's fine and wants me to " back off". I threw all of the junk out of the house, and she hasn't spoken to me since Thursday. Why is she fighting me on this?

I don't want anything else to do with him. He married my half brother's granddaughter. This makes her his second cousin removed, because my brother is his half uncle.They may not be close in kin but I don't feel it is right and it's breaking my heart.  Any suggestions? Am I wrong for feeling this way?

I mean I was 20 pounds overweight in my teen years and my mom and me fight over my weight a lot. My mom use to say the meanest things and I use to cry and we argue about it a lot until I finally became thin. But I mean I got teased a lot and I'm a nervous person. My mom keep telling me no man want a fat girl and I was still single,which cause me a lot of anxiety. Why didn't my mom just say focus on my studies and develop myself and when I am in relationship then I can focus on my physique and other things? I feel jealous of other girls and their moms they seem to have healthy relationships, while my mom she is being mean to me and so picky about how I look. I feel resentful also of other people lives they didn't have to go through the fat shaming I went through and their parents mocking them. I know some people have it worse but my mom really did hit my self esteem. 

I was at the mall and I tried to get a game called borderlands GOTY for ps4 but they told me i'm to young and i have to be 17 and i was angry so an hour later i came back and grabbed the game from the shelf and just walked out because the store was busy. i'm at home and it works but i'm wondering if they'll even know

I feel very guilty about my sister's weight. I'm 19, she's 16. Both of our parents struggle with their weight, I did as well up until I decided I wanted to be healthier. My issue is this, she frequently comes to visit me at school, every time I see her, she's heavier than last time. Rather than address an uncomfortable topic, I take the easy route and we spend from Friday-Sunday loaded up on junk food and watching TV. She came to see me a few weeks ago. She's definitely out of shape, we walked to a restaurant nearby the dorm, and she was wheezing by the end. Her clothes look very snug. I then end my weekend abusing myself thinking, " You're a terrible brother, you're only adding to her problem." Ballpark, I'd guess she's 220lb. What's the nicest way to go about this? I'd hate to say nothing and then get to a point where she's visiting me as a 250lb teenager. What can I say to her?

I have two sisters and a brother. I invited my brother over two or three times and he never answered. My sister knew I invited him down. Today she told me my brother was driving 8 hours to come and see her at Thanksgiving and she let me know about it like she was rubbing it in my face. I said I wish I didn't know about it and I am very hurt and she said don't be mad at me, be mad at him. In my opinion she should either not have told me or told my brother that I had invited him and he should come here. She thinks she did not do anything wrong and she is always bringing up my brother when I talk to her on the phone and keeps going on and on. How would you handle this? I meant invited him down for Thanksgiving  It is a big deal to me and we have always been very close and I cannot go there due to being disabled. There is not anymore to the story actually. It is hard to be on the sunny side and say one less plate to wash bc I do not look at it this way. It is about love and sharing and it hurts very deeply. It is hurtful knowing this and I consider it very rude and I do not want to talk to her knowing this. She knew I had invited him first and she flaunted this in my face.

My sister is 11, and in 5th grade. When we were kids, we had the usual sister relationship - occasional fights, but we always loved each other. In my 6th grade year, when she was 10, I fell into a deep depression. All of my friends had abandoned me, school was incredibly hard, I was failing math, and I felt as though my family didn't care. My sister didn't help. I knew she must've noticed how sad and lifeless I was, instead she didn't help, just made it worse by bullying and belittling me. She once told me to "go die already". Or "no one would care". Once, one of my main reasons to kill myself was that it "would teach her a lesson".  Now, thankfully, I am fine. I am very happy, with wonderful new friends, a new school, and working to improve my math skills. After the 6th grade year, I feel as though she kind of forgot it happened and never mentioned it again, but rage is still fresh in my heart because she made me suffer and ruined my life with her terrible insults. At age 10, she was already very rude, very angry, and very mean. At school, she was the perfect little angel, but at home she was a monster. Both me and my parents always cringed when she had a tantrum. It had been going on that way for years. I know I should let go of all that anger, but some small part of me never stops hating her for what she did. Now, she still is insulting, can be terrible, but my parents just think it's her normal behavior, whilst I feel like she truly doesn't love me anymore.

Recently I got put out of my apartment because my brother was stealing my rent money, and he also put a virus on my computer that I had purchased to do my college courses. Now, I'm staying with my sister and all ready she thinks I'm touching on her kids. WHICH is ******* insane since she VOLUNTEERED FOR ME TO COME TO HER HOUSE! Now I'm looking for another place. Then I have my mom saying online that I slept with her boyfriend plus my OTHER sister is doing it too. I don't know what the **** is wrong with all 3 of them (incliding my brother) but I had told my baby's father about it. He said that if I talk back to them after all of that, I'm stupid! And like a FOOL, after I got my refund check from school (which was only $300, I gave all of their KIDS $50 each. I feel like complete ****. They NEVER done this to me. Every since their men were ALL saying I was pretty now all of sudden I want their men? This **** is crazy. Should I just leave them all alone?

I am a 25 year old single guy with a 15 year old niece, my sister' daughter Pam. I like Pam and think she is a very nice person. Pam ask me to take her to a high school function and I said OK if it was OK with her mother and she understood IT WAS NOT A DATE. Her mom was OK with it and Pam said she knew it was not a date. It was just friends having fun. Pam ask me to do this 3 more times. We all had fun doing this but nothing romantic happened as I would not do ANYTHING romantic with a 15 year old girl especially my niece. However Pam's mother ask me to stop taking Pam anyplace. I told her OK but I ask why? She told me I was so nice to Pam the she would develop a crush on me. I don't think she would but just to be on the safe side I agreed not to take Pam anyplace in the future. It looks like Pam's mother did not tell her she ask me to stop taking Pam places because Pam called again asking me to take her to another school function. When I told her I could no longer do that she was very mad a her mother and ask me to talk to her mother and explain that it was just friends having fun together NOT ROMANTIC. I am not sure I should talk to her mother about that. Should I?

My dad is really fat, and he wears short shorts all the time! Even in the winter! He wears them to church, to the mall, to the grocery store, to literally everywhere we go. Everyone points fingers and laughs at him, yet I am embarrassed to death at what he does. For goodness sake, he even spray paints the words oversize load in huge capital yellow spray paint on the back of his shorts, and everyone sees it and giggles at him.

My dad wants a relationship with my children. However, I live five hours away from him. He doesn't like traveling and doesn't call very much. The only way he'd see my children is if I take them to see him. He has issues with his vision but even before he did he never would visit. My husband gets annoyed about it and has no respect for my dad because of his lack of effort. I understand that's how my dad is but I see where my husband is coming from. Should I continue to push for my husband to drive us down there so my dad can see them or make my dad come up sometimes? We've offered to pay for plane tickets or the bus but he refuses and just wants us to come down to see him at a MCDs or something. Am I asking to much from my husband or dad? My husband is annoyed that the only way he has a relationship with our kids is because we materialize it rather than my dad.

I wish I could be a writer. Actor, or movie director, or set guy, but my family discourse me and thinks I'm a dreamer and didnt make it.   They dont support it and are even jealous and resentful I'm creative. They think it's just a dream.  Yet they watch movies! 

I am the daughter and single so she likes me. However, I have two brothers and she loves both of them to pieces and generally loves the grandkids though favors one set over the other. However, she hates her daughters in law, one more then the other. She has always hated them. My Mom is someone where if your in your in and if your out your out and nothing is in the middle. Her grandmother was the same way I am told and to some degree I remember my grandfather being that way.

It is like she is bothered that I would want to visit or I take it that she is embarrassed of me. She even had my sister down once. My Dad has no balls so he never sticks up for me. It hurts. I am sure over Christmas someone will be visiting like my Mom's sister and once again I will be kept in the dark. What do I do?

I am tired of him lying. I have twice hinted at reminders for him and he has not replied. I suspect he was lying, YET AGAIN, last summer when he told me to count on joining this year. He also said it last winter. So twice he has made this promise and yet now has decided to lie again. He is a habitual liar.

Ok so long story short, I cannot stand my old man. He is a very self-centered person, he only cares about himself. There are a few things he does that just drives me mad. Biggest one is how he chain smokes all of the time and not even be considerate of the secondhand smoke. "I grew up my whole life around it, you'll be fine." As you can see my dad isn't very intelligent at all. He thinks he always knows what he's talking about when most of the time he don't know ****. I'm 25 years old, and the older I get the more I grow away from him. It's getting so bad that I can't even stand to be in his presence. He use to be normal before he got into crack a few years back, even tho he has been clean he still has an addicts mentality. He don't care about his grandkids getting anything on Christmas but is more worried about buying himself a flat screen tv. But the worst in my opinion is his chain smoking addiction and his lack of consideration for people that don't smoke cigs. Yeah I guess I could leave everytime he lights up, but if I did, I'd find myself going out the room or away from him every 10-15 mins. He's everything I don't want to be in life. Also he always has something to say about my mom everytime I see him. They've been divorced for 21 years!!! Get over it!!!! And I don't live with him by the way!!

Ok so long story short, my dad has been getting under my skin a lot lately. He is very selfish and only thinks about himself. He seems to do a lot of things to annoy me. The man is 

During lunch she told me my 10 year old sister who is 6 years younger than us looks like a *****. I was so angry I told her to $hut the 7uck up  She texted me a whole essay telling me how shes sorry, and i told her she needs to filter her mouth before she talks abt my family like that.

I've been invited to spend Christmas and I'll meet their grandsons and grand daughters - most for the first time. I'm struggling financially. Would it be rude to just ask to not exchange gifts? Or if I go the weekend between x-mas and new years - that won't be a holiday - maybe I could ease by it? I'd like to get my Aunt and Uncle a gift - but beyond that? I do want to meet them. And declining to go would be rude. 

If my sister loses custody of my niece, can I fight her dad for custody? I'm terrified my sister will lose custody of her child due to her being a dumba**. My nieces father is constantly out of state traveling for his work, doesn't have a place of his own, and if he ever were to get full custody rights my niece would stay with his mom. His family is known for drug related problems, but have never been convicted for it. I wouldn't want her growing up with that life. I have a job, minimum wage, I have a house, and I have everything she would need. Could I fight for custody rights of her? 

My dad hates my boyfriend! He doesn't care for his personality, how he dresses, acts, job, ECT.  My boyfriend enjoys mental music, and old trucks. He also doesn't have a lot of money, but I love him.  My dad is also very old school! He doesn't want my boyfriend at his place anymore, and he gets upset how he comes to my place every weekend, and spends the night. My dad despises him because one day his truck was down, and his brother-in-law drop him off me by. My dad happen to walk in to my place when we were sleeping in bed (fully dressed) and my daughter happen to be passed out on the couch (not his kid)   My dad made it clear he thinks he's just using me, and will never marry me because hes getting everything he wants now. A real mad would never do such a thing. ( spend the night) My boyfriend lately has been talking about getting a place together, and hopefully getting married, but if I were to move with my boyfriend, my dad would flip. You don't live together or spend the night unless married. Only married couples do such a thing.  What do I do? Any advice?

This year, my parents divorced. I went from a big house with my sister, three pets, and two loving parents to having a tiny home with my sister, my mom, and one dog. My mom's low on cash because she relied on my stepdad, so we don't have food. She's always talking to her boyfriend and leaving. My sister's always gone too, her being an adult, so it's lonely. I only want to visit my stepdad. I've known him as long as I can remember. My mom thinks he is incredibly "abusive" and will not let me see him. Ever. I don't think she understands the situation well. I love my family, but they feed off drama and attention. They tell these stories of him, and act like we overcame some heavy ****. At most, he probably broke a few doors. If every parents worse moments were shown, they'd all be "abusers."   I've fought to see him. I consider him my real father. He'd always tell me he loved me. The good overpowered the bad, yet bad is all others saw. He has depression and bipolar disorder. He was never violent with us, just doors (which isn't too bad). It was only when he didn't take medication. When he visited my work, my mom (who tracks his location without him knowing) saw where he was and threatened to call the cops unless I told him to never talk to me. I've never had such a hard time. I tell her I miss him, but she doesnt care. He always had good intentions, even if they weren't clear to us. Now, he's gone, and I'm alone. I have zero friends, and I lost a lot. I'm not happy anymore.

I was at the mall with my 5 year old daughter and she wanted to see the mall santa so i brought her and we waited in line and when it was our turn she sat in the santas lap and i needed to do some shopping so i asked the santa to watch my daughter while i shopped for groceries and he agreed and in about 30 minutes i came back and i saw my daughter being carried away by the santa while she screamed and cried and when he saw me he threw my daughter on the floor hard and fled the scene. i went home with my daughter and we filed a police report but what else should we do im worried