Family: Question: Nervous to show up to thanksgiving?

Question: Nervous to show up to thanksgiving?

Posted: 25 Nov 2019 02:00 PM PST

Well it's close to the holidays thanksgiving is Thursday . I'm 24, since last year I've gained 100 lbs . I was 200 now I'm 270 was 290 but last twenty. I had a boyfriend who liked bigger woman and I ended up gaining a ton of weight to please him. Anyway, the relationship ended but the weight stayed . I come from Irish catholic family . My mother and grandmother have always been the biggest ones in the house. I actually weigh More than both of them. I am so embarrassed. I am so embarrassed to show up to the house with all my cousins and aunts and uncles at this size. We had a family who cracks a lot of jokes and I'm really embarrassed and ashamed of showing up there like the biggest one in the house. Bigger than my own mother who's been fat her entire life, I'm really ashamed and embarrassed ... I am actually shitting myself of thoughts of going into the house and seeing everyone there and they be like damn she got fat.....It's embarrassing to look at my father this way too. There so used to a skinny daughter and now I'm huge. I want to avoid it all together but if j don't show up it will look suspicious wierd and not right cause there my family at the end of the day what do I do?

Question: How do i get ungrounded ?

Posted: 25 Nov 2019 01:03 PM PST

Ive been grounded for a month now because i didnt come home until 4 in the morning and i was a little bit tipsy. my mum grounded me and took my phone off me foe a week. after the first week i went to america for 10 days since ive got back ive not been ungrounded but ive been allowed to keep my phone. i dont know what to do to get myself ungrounded. ive said that im sorry and that it wont happen again but mum wont take it. 

Question: Why do many men dislike overweight women? ?

Posted: 25 Nov 2019 12:29 PM PST

It really frustrates me I use to be overweight and many male colleagues use to mock me until I became thin. I keep seeing and hearing that no man want a fat woman andost girls are on diets. 

Question: Thanksgivings ?

Posted: 25 Nov 2019 12:21 PM PST

My sister in law does this  every thanksgiving, she comes in with huge Tupperware bowls and as she puts some on her plate she also fills her bowls as everyone is fixing there plates,  I asked her nicely to not do that.  Well I do not want a repeat of past years, plus I have some friends that don't have much and can't afford to buy food ( they are going to churches for food). Coming over for dinner I would like to send all the left overs home with them. I don't know how to address this with sister in law without causing drama, she is a drama queen 

Question: Should I ghost my older sister?

Posted: 25 Nov 2019 12:05 PM PST

I'm her younger brother and we are both adults. The problem is she is a difficult person. some examples: 1. I was sick and she did not come visit me while I did visit her. 2. we talked about this and she said "why are you counting of your favor to me??" 3. she has not given a brithday wish for the last 3 years 4. she is weird... she is just a horrible sister and I never felt like her brother to her.... @anon: do you understand when someone is being selfish?   have you ever felt you are trying too hard in a relationship?  it is not about the birthday!!! it is just HORRIBLE when I did visited when she was "ill" in a hospital and I was in an ER and she didnt even care.to ask or visit me.. mor-on! and she did punched me in the jaw 10 year before and she said that I punched her first which was a lie to her husband.

Question: I resent my mother at times. Is it wrong of me?

Posted: 25 Nov 2019 11:49 AM PST

When I was 11 my mom married my stepfather who was abusive towards me (verbally and physically). She worked nights to avoid him leaving me at home with him. After losing her job due to some addiction issues she divorced him after finding another job and to this day complains about him. What frustrates me the most is she has never acknowledged that she ignored the abuse I received as a teenager so she didn't have confront him. She just says 'we were all terrorized by him'. While that's true I never asked to live with him and I wasn't an adult at the time. I also never felt like she supported me in my activities in high school or my school work. I graduated from West Point (which fully funded) in 2014 but before I was appointed to USMA Prep, I went to college instate. She constantly talks about working overtime to pay for that year of college. And seems to suggest that I'm ungrateful for the money she spent. She says I wouldn't have had the money for school had she not worked extra hours. I feel as though she is holding the money over my head to prevent my from bringing up the topic. I have a younger brother (stepfather's son) and he seems to have no direction and doesn't seem to be parenting him at all. When I've mentioned it to her she just makes excuses about being tired or him having ADHD.  I don't think I'd be resentful if she'd just take ownership of her faults. I'm I wrong for feeling this way? What advice would you give?

Question: My brother died in a fire on Thanksgiving Day 1992. How do I stop the flashbacks I get at this time of year to his screams as he was burning?

Posted: 25 Nov 2019 11:16 AM PST

Therapy has helped some but not fixed it. My mother took her life the following April and I found her thus a double trauma. Both my Mom and brother had birthdays around Christmas and thus I can never enjoy the holiday season, I hate it. Please help, how do I avoid these flashbacks and the ruined holiday season? My brother was seven years old and I was 12 when the fire happened. Our Dad had already left us. 

Question: I have to see my sister over Thanksgiving Day. How do I respond when she starts insulting me to others at the family dinner?

Posted: 25 Nov 2019 11:14 AM PST

Last summer she got in it with me doing the narcissistic bullying and name calling. I finally grabbed her shoulder when she was blocking the bathroom door like a 5 year old and told her to grow up and called her a bitc.... She flipped out and claimed I choked her. Thus I admit we both were acting like we were little kids and I am in my 30's and she is 26. My father got her an airline ticket home and told me I did absolutely nothing wrong and she is the one with the problem. Now it is November and we have not spoken since. My sister has acted like this many other times. She had a conniption fit in a hotel cause she was asked to carry my brother's toothpaste in her bag since he could not put it on carry on for a flight. She went ballistic. This was last spring. Now she has been ill. Last week she was diagnosed with Chrone's Disease. My mother sad how horrible she has been in the doctor's offices. So on Thanksgiving how do I respond so not to act immature myself when she starts bullying me? I had learning disabilities growing up and so was bullied a lot. I still have a very naive and innocent personality thus am different. So when she bullies it makes me feel like it is 5th grade again. So how do I respond when she begins bullying? She might not as her boyfriend (God help the poor soul) is with her but I never know.

Question: Since my mother abused me emotionally at my father's backing would this qualify as me being a child abuse survivor even though not physical?

Posted: 25 Nov 2019 11:05 AM PST

Even though the abuse was not physical? Mom was sick in her mind and has owned up to some of it but my Dad who was the enabler has not owned up to his abuse by enabling.

Question: Can I just remain a baby forever?

Posted: 25 Nov 2019 10:54 AM PST

I'm 22 but I can't imagine doing any of the 'adult' things people my age do like having sex, partying, or drinking. My mommy visits me in my dorm in college everyday and after college, I'm moving back home with my mommy where I can be the precious baby I've always been. Boys better stay far away from me because I don't want to get married, move out of my house, or have babies. Partying is too scary for me and drinking is too risky for me. So is sex. Sex is also scary for me so boys better stay far away from me so I can remain a virgin baby. 

Question: Why can't I stay at home and do nothing?

Posted: 25 Nov 2019 10:31 AM PST

I have a disability...  I want to stay on SSI... social security income. When people worried about me staying at home all day, doing nothing in life... They encouraged me. So I went out,  got my own apartment, looking for jobs....  made a short film... and write stories. People get jealous... and then put me down, bringing up my past mistakes... So I went back home...  and now nobody is encouraging me.  So if they do start encouraging me, I will remind them what they did to me. So that they can STFU!!!. 

Question: How to ask my grandpa who doesn’t drive anymore for his car? ?

Posted: 25 Nov 2019 10:01 AM PST

My grandpa just got moved into assisted living and can not drive anymore and hasn't driven for a couple years. I'm 16 and need a car and I'm my grandpas favorite grandchild. How do I ask for his car without being rude

Question: Advice for a teen who feels trapped?

Posted: 25 Nov 2019 09:49 AM PST

I think my mother is controlling, and I would love some advice on how I can live happier and be more confident at home. I will be an adult in a little over a year, which I know isn't a long time, but I long to figure myself out and escape from her tight grasp. Whenever she is annoyed at me she takes my phone, but thankfully I have other means of contacting people I care about. I no longer bother telling her much of anything about my social life, so she probably doesn't think I have any. She claims to want me to be more independent, but she constantly tells me what to do and how to do it. She does this and then claims that I can't do anything without her "constantly reminding me" when if she stopped doing just that, I would feel better and, I'm pretty sure, manage just fine on my own. It feels like she wants to manage my life but acts angry about doing it when it is completely her choice to do it. I'm worried about telling her if I start dating someone because I think she'll want to control that too. Any advice on how to cope? Maybe I could do more creative things with my time to have things that are just mine and are private for a change. Privacy is really a big issue here, and I feel secretive if I just want to have some basic privacy. I don't feel respected nearly at all, and I feel like I'm treated much younger than I am most of the time.  Continued in comments

Question: What do I do when the extended relatives dislike me because of things my part of the family did when I was a kid and had no say?

Posted: 25 Nov 2019 09:22 AM PST

I was even brainwashed against them by my mother who was hostile. They all leave me out and give me the cold shoulder years later cause of it. It hurts and with Thanksgiving and Christmas coming I'm obsessed about it cause the rejection hurts so much. It hurts cause their otherwise a close family and so I'm missing out. If it were a dysfunctional family that was distant from each other then I wouldn't really care. Any advice?

Question: I wanna go around my cousins for thanksgiving and Christmas? And have a better Relationship with them?

Posted: 25 Nov 2019 09:02 AM PST

So im 23 year old guy and I haven't really been around my dad side of the family most of my life..I'm friends with them on facebook and they like some of my posts most of the time. Anyways I cry sometimes because I go to view their page sometime and see them in pictures with each other from over all the years I missed with Them. I pray to God everyday for me to have a better relationship with them. I'm thinking about going to be around them this year for thanksgiving and Christmas...should I do it? How should I act around them? They sometimes tell me they love on Facebook.

Question: What to give to my mother on black Friday?

Posted: 25 Nov 2019 08:10 AM PST

Question: Why does my mom think she knows more than me?

Posted: 25 Nov 2019 08:04 AM PST

My mother has been in Memphis, Tn most of her life. She doesn't want me to spend money to make, produce and direct films. She thinks I should go to Los Angeles and apply as a receptionist and I can be hire as a film director that way. I was telling her that my cousin had gotten a job working at some music company and she hasn't gotten anywhere.

Question: Is this abuse?

Posted: 25 Nov 2019 07:23 AM PST

Please let me know if i'm just being dramatic or if this is a form of abuse. My parents do not allow me to have friends. Whenever I ask if I can join some kind of club or something to make friends, they say "we're the only friends you need". I used to have friends, but they thought all of them were bad influences and made me stop talking to them. They have controls on my phone that prevent me from doing anything other than texting and calling. And while that may seem reasonable to some, and I may sound like a brat, my only friend is an online friend and its much harder to talk to him now. They turn the wifi off on my laptop whenever they leave the house, and thats frustrating because I need my laptop for school, and its also the only way I can still talk to my friend. And my dad makes me turn it in a way that he can see it from the living room. I have also been denied therapy. I was being very self destructive (cutting, starving,etc.) and they did nothing about it other than tell me to pray and took my phone and other electronics away, saying "the internet made me cut myself". They also told me I was going to hell for being bisexual. I have also been denied medical treatment. I throw up almost every day, and I also have arthritis, but they never take me to the doctor to get me checked out. I'm 17.

Question: Friend refers to my mother as her mother?

Posted: 25 Nov 2019 07:08 AM PST

A classmate/friend has been referring to my mother has her mother. I'm not comfortable with his. My mother is a super nice person to her, but I think it crosses the line is use that special word. Her mother is J, my mother is D. I've already told her not to, but she's not listening. *this

Question: I am a 60 year old single man. Thanksgiving is coming up. i feel i am being pushed into going to my nieces for T-dinner by my mom and dad?

Posted: 25 Nov 2019 06:50 AM PST

I've talk to mom and dad and told them that I really didn't want to go to my nieces for t-day, but they insisted that I go.. I said "i really don't want to go, because I don't get along with my nieces mom. 'I wish I could think of a subtle reason not to attend' like: oh, I have a tooth ache! or ect

Question: I have a thug that don't like me, should I just avoid this person?

Posted: 25 Nov 2019 06:05 AM PST

There was this thug woman that my sister hung with ever since childhood. Unfortunately I had to be in the house with her and my sister and I grew up with her sorta.  This woman carries all of the stereotypes of a prison woman. She is manly masculine. She got aggravated at me when I was 14 and hit me and viciously yelled at me. She rolled her head saying that she was gonna kick my a s s. My sister later on found out and then got back at her and got her off of me and made her 'nice' to me.  Ever since then she had been spiteful with me and acted nice to keep in good standing with my sister.  I'm 32 and she moved to a high crime neighborhood and left ours. But occasionally she visits my grandparents whom I'm living with and taking care of due to them not having the ability anymore to take care of themselves.  She added me as a friend on Facebook to keep in good standing with my sister I guess. She then thought I didn't have my sister or family on Facebook and got rude and angry. I didn't say anything back because I didn't want her to be 'out to get me' I did delete her from Facebook. She came once and to visit my grandparents and I spoke to her and she made a very angry look on her face and turned her head down shaking it and moved her head towards my grandparents and turned her head back up and started talking to them.  Her thug father knows me and catches me out places. He is nicer to me but I steer clear of him also. I know him of an aquantance. 

Question: What do I do on Thanksgiving when the drinker of the family is miserable cause his kids and now ex won't come see him so my folks have him?

Posted: 25 Nov 2019 04:56 AM PST

It seems weird to have an uncle there when his children are not with him. He is getting divorced for the 2nd time and is an alcoholic. His kids are with their mother which is his now ex for the two younger ones (older two from his first marriage have families now). When he's miserable and drunk it brings everyone's mood down and I am not his kid so not one to comfort him or anything as he's not Dad, just an uncle (Mom's brother). No ill will towards him or anything, it is just weird to spend Thanksgiving with a miserable drunk as the only extended family member there.

Question: How can I stop my sister from making a financial mistake?

Posted: 25 Nov 2019 04:54 AM PST

My sister,27, wants to buy a PlayStation 4. However, she has no job and cannot afford it. She really wants it and has promised to pay with it with her money. I tried reasoning with her, but she says she will buy the console anyway. She see gaming as a way to relax and she has autism spectrum disorder. It is hard for her accept change.

Question: My Brother Won't Move Out of my Parent's House?

Posted: 25 Nov 2019 01:52 AM PST

My brother is 29 years old and he lives with my parents still. He works as a barista at a coffee shop and is currently $2800 in debt. He has never had a driver's license and can barely afford to buy himself a car. So, my mom has to drive him, or sometimes he takes the bus. I asked my parents about him still living hear and they got aggrivated at me and said he had a "rough childhood" and "can't afford a house/appartment right now." What do you guys think? I know it is none of my business, I'm just wondering what my parents can do about it I forgot to mention that my dad wants to kick him out but my mom doesn't want to.

Question: I think my sister's putting stuff in my son's nasal sprays and Body washes. Should I call the police?

Posted: 25 Nov 2019 12:00 AM PST

My sister and I haven't been getting along because I won't let her use me to babysit her kids. I told her that I want to move with my baby's father because well, she's accusing me of touching on her kids. Now it seems like she's doing things to my son. When I was about to wash him up his dove had a perfume like smell to it.(Dove doesn't have a smell to it) So I stopped using it. Then he started breathing hard...I was about to put the nasal solution in his nose, but for some reason something was like sniff it first before I do and it smell just like mouth wash. I don't know what this girl problem is but I'm about to call the police on this CRAZY *****.

Question: Why does my cousin refer to entire families as “guys”, like calling my uncles family “Bob guys”?

Posted: 24 Nov 2019 11:13 PM PST

My cousin will talk about individual families and pick one name from said family and call them "guys". For example she will say things like, "We spent the weekend with Bob guys". Instead of saying something like Bobs family. I don't understand it but I don't want to ask her about it. My cousin is from Arizona and is married to someone of asian decent. I'm wondering if it is a cultural thing I am missing. 

Question: I want to buy pewdiepie merch but my parents won t let me. Should I steal my mom s credit card? If not what should I do?

Posted: 24 Nov 2019 10:55 PM PST

Question: She's mad. Should I care?

Posted: 24 Nov 2019 10:55 PM PST

My sister is mad because her man left her alone to be with another woman. So when I invited my baby's father over to see our child, she said that he couldn't come back to her house (she's moving) plus he came by to drop off a heater for me and our child because she turned the heat down to 49. She's literally ******* with me on PURPOSE. She was just saying that I should move with him, now she's not talking to me?  Then I tried to be nice by offering her +her kids food. She did not want it! The other times she just left her kids with me to feed them with my sons money that I get from his father that left me BROKE. PLUS her kids wasted food so I only bought cereal . I really do regret moving in with her. Which she VOLUNTEERED! 

Question: How to remind my parents I am an adult?

Posted: 24 Nov 2019 10:24 PM PST

Hi everyone! I am a 23 year old female and I am pretty much going crazy at home. So to sum it up as short yet as detailed as possible, I am a college graduate, in July I started working at my dream job (making good money but currently saving to move out next year), have my own car and pay it's insurance, pay my phone, etc, probably the only adult thing I don't do is cook but smh many people don't.  Here's the thing, my parents treat me like an adult to their convenience. When it comes to helping around at home I am an adult, when it comes  to work I am an adult, when it comes to going to the doctor I am an adult etc. but when it comes to going out or wanting to travel with friends or my boyfriend I am a CHILD. I can't even travel for work without my father booking a ticket to go with me and stay at a hotel close by to me. There's so much more but tbh in the last few months this has been my situation, I need advice and GOOD advice that won't get me kicked out. I am looking to move out next year but till then I believe I have some say in my life regardless if I live with them considering I do and have accomplished a lot in my life and I am of age. Why can't I live with them and work and help them around the house AND be able to do things as an adult? I need advice please, and remember it's much more than this but this is a current situation. Thanks in advanced!

Question: Can my parents report me as missing or a runaway?

Posted: 24 Nov 2019 10:00 PM PST

Im 18 and live in texas. My parents are very strict and don't let me do anything! I cant go out with friends or even stay after school without my parents waiting for me outside. They never want to take me out anywhere and are always complaining that I spend too much time in my room but I cant even remember when was the last time they even took me out to eat anywhere. Also my gf bought me a Nintendo switch for my Christmas present last yr and my mom broke it 2 weeks later bcs she said I shouldn't be accepting gifts from anyone if it's not from them. They dont even want to teach me how to drive and I don't understand how im supposed to get to school when I start college next fall. I just want to explore because im curious and be able to go out with friends and see my gf more often. For crying out loud I dont even know the neighborhood around me bcs im not allowed to go out of the house w/o them. I dont even have service on my phone ! Anyways my friends planned a 3 day trip to houston and I want to go bcs it would be my  first time out of the town I live in but i know my parents will say no and if I just go , Im afraid they might report me as missing or a runaway . Im 18 I just dont want any problems and for me to be able to enjoy. I was thinking or just letting them know im okay throughout the trip. Any advice? And can they call the cops on me ?

Question: My science teacher is awful to us?

Posted: 24 Nov 2019 09:16 PM PST

She assigns so much busy work that takes the whole class and sometimes we cant even finish, she slaps our faces if we dont do it, im sick of her

Question: A spider went up my nose, am I ok?

Posted: 24 Nov 2019 09:13 PM PST

I was on the computer doing homework and i felt something on my face so i went to the mirror and saw a medium sized spider and it suddenly went into my nose and i felt it and i tried picking and blowing my nose constantly but it never came out and i dont even feel it anymore. im really scared

Question: Please Help Me! I’m Desperate! ?

Posted: 24 Nov 2019 08:46 PM PST

My boyfriend lost his bother to suicide 5 days ago. I COMPLETELY understand he's grieving. I give him his space when needed and I nurture him when needed. I don't let him do anything on his own (clean, help around the house, etc). He started heavy drinking pretty bad & I told his family about it. They confiscated all the bottles he bought because he was so drunk at his dad's house. He started disrespecting me and kicking me out of his dad's house. I told his dad & his dad told me to stay. So we leave his parents house & he was trying to leave our house to go drink again (mind you, he's drunk & he's trying to drive). So I blocked his car with my car so he would not leave the house. (Is that too much?) well on our way inside, he was saying he wished he committed suicide first (I called his family & told them what he said & they are currently on their way to our house). He said he's gonna fall out of love with me, that he doesn't love me anymore & that he doesn't need anyone. I understand he's hurting but what do I do? I wanna be here for him during these hard times but if he's saying that he doesn't love me... what's the point of staying here & being here for him... it breaks my heart but I don't know what to do anymore. I can't stop crying. Everyone tells me to suck it up and eat his words but I can't... he says pretty rough things now... what do I do. Please help me... 

Question: I have a uncle I am scared of. He broke a bed in a fit of rage at his wife. My mother says it is okay cause his marriage was bad. What to do?

Posted: 24 Nov 2019 08:19 PM PST

I am scared of this person and I have to see him Thursday cause of Thanksgiving. My mother makes excuses for him cause she says his marriage is bad. I am still scared though. What do I do? He will be there over Christmas also cause my grandmother is still living even though my grandfather died in August.

Question: What do you think my ex was thinking?

Posted: 24 Nov 2019 07:41 PM PST

About 2 hours ago, I went across the street from my home to the store and on my way back, I saw my ex who probably is visiting her mother in the next building but was walking through my court yard to my building to visit her cousin and aunt in my building. I purposely went to the mailbox in my lobby so I didn't have to get into the elevator with her. I heard her say, "are you getting on?" I responded to her, "No, go ahead!"(sucking her teeth) she said "what ever!" She did mumble something else, I couldn't here what she said. Do you think she was annoyed that I didn't get on? Why was she upset that I didn't get on the elevator with her?

Question: Big fight with brother am I in the wrong?

Posted: 24 Nov 2019 07:38 PM PST

REAL STORY NOT FAKE I NEED ADVICE To start off, my brother never shares with anyone in the house. He doesn't help pay bills and basically is pampered by my mother. He has anger issues but never acted like this before. Today he asked to borrow something from me. I said no in a calm voice. He kept asking and asking and I calmly kept saying no. He gets mad and says "ok keep being a greedy b*tch" and walks out the room. I got really upset because he NEVER shares with me and always tells me no when I ask him to do things for me. A minute later he comes back into my room with my mom on speaker phone and she is yelling at me to let him use my stuff. I said "wow. you really just ran to mom like an 8 year old baby after just calling me that? get tf out my room grow up" (I was honestly cursing when I said this because I was still upset) We start arguing and he literally jumps in my face screaming and cursing at me. (Mind this, I'm a girl, 5'4 and 125lb. He is a buff tall male. almost 6'0 and really muscular) He gets in my face with his fist balled up and starts screaming "I'll really f*ck you up!!" He starts crying all of the sudden (first time I've seen him cry in years) and locks himself in the bathroom. I told my mom and she automatically interrupts me and takes his side. She starts yelling at me and hangs up in my face. Picks him up and takes him out. Am I wrong in this situation?  please be honest.

Question: An 11-year-old boy can be considered a child?

Posted: 24 Nov 2019 07:27 PM PST

?  Wft? Im only asking. some people say they are teenagers, and i confused. So i got confunsed" Confused" I thought "adolescent" and "teen" was the same Sorry

Question: My dad almost disowned me. Was I wrong or was he?

Posted: 24 Nov 2019 07:01 PM PST

Hi everyone so my name is Paul Ritzler and I'm a 20 year old college student who still lives with my mom and works a minimum wage job. My dad is still helping me and my mom financially to get me through college though he isn't paying for my college education. He kept trying to contact me through texts and his wife did too but I didn't want to talk to them so I ignored their attempts at contact. My dad confronted me asking if I had problems with his wife because I ignored her texts and I said that I don't like confrontation and don't want to talk to him and he called me a spoiled brat and that he hopes I grow up and be a man. He then cut us off financially and told my mom he was completely done with me. My mom then let him have it and ratted him out and his wife convinced him to keep helping us. Our relationship has been strained since and I have no way to get a hold of him by phone because he cut off my old phone that he was paying for.

Question: Could a Sargent with the sheriff’s department be held responsible for the backlash because he didn’t keep my name anonymous?

Posted: 24 Nov 2019 05:19 PM PST

I was trying to help my ill elderly grandparents because my younger sister sent my 15 year old niece to another state to live with my nieces biological dad. I by chance found that out and I told my sister she needs to call our grandparents. 3 months after my niece left my sister came to my grandparents state with her other 2 younger children. She didn't give my GP a number or physical address for my niece they hadn't heard from anyone in quite a few months.... sorry that was the lead up to this, my GP health is declining fast and they have been worried sick about my niece. So I looked up nieces bio dad and grandma.... I called for a welfare check. I emphasized I must be ANONYMOUS!! She repeated me said I would... next thing I know my sister started texting me saying I ****** up her life and my niece is scared to death. Sister in Wisconsin niece in Louisiana GP and I west Coast. She said that her ex husband and daughter who is 15 my name and state I live!! I called the SD and spoke to the Sargent who went out. I said I was to remain anonymous! He said all he said was my name and the state I am in!!! LIKE WTF!!! I said omg I cannot believe it, you have no idea what you just did... dead silence!! NOW WTF? My sister and her husband are crazy! Sorry this was so long. I have no idea what to do from here!?! Help!

Question: How to deal with a toxic parent?

Posted: 24 Nov 2019 04:37 PM PST

my mom can be a very nice at times. she cooks a homemade dinner every night. she does my laundry. she cleans my room. she is super helpful and at times can be super sweet. but, when she gets mad, she gets really really bad. I am 16 years old and today she said if I didn't get a better attitude (i really don't think my attitude is bad at all), she is either going to give me a fine for living in 'her' house or I can find somewhere else to live. she also called me an idiot, a disappointment, mean, and lazy.  i get that i can be those sometimes, but i am really really not that bad of a kid. i have good grades, i don't sneak out, i don't do anything terrible. update she literally just walked into my room, set down a basket of laundry, and told me if it's not folded by the morning she is taking a '$10 fee' from me. she also told me how terrible it was that i didn't get her a good enough birthday present and she told me i am not getting paid for babysitting my brother anymore as a birthday gift to her. last christmas i told her that i was annoyed with her for god knows what and she iced me out the entire day until she came into the room and screamed at me about how i ruined christmas until i cried. please tell me that there is something wrong and i am not crazy. i don't know what to do at this point. sometimes she is so sweet and i love her, but other days i have to call my friends to pick me up because i can not be in the house for one more second. what do i even do? pls help me

Question: Helpful coping mechanisms for dealing with abusive parents?

Posted: 24 Nov 2019 04:34 PM PST

My mom and dad are both very abusive and constantly make me feel miserable. As soon as I start to feel better they'll take away my only coping mechanisms. Yesterday I begged my mom to let me use my phone because my friend texted me saying that they wanted to commit suicide, but my mom took my phone and told me to stop talking to this person because they sounded like a bad influence. I have no where to go so if anyone could offer any tips for dealing with this type of behavior until I can move out when I turn 18, it would be greatly appreciated :) 

Question: What can I do to get a verbally abusive ex bf to leave my home?

Posted: 24 Nov 2019 03:21 PM PST

My bf just moved in in Nov. He's verbally abusive and LOUD...he tries to intimidate and control. Yesterday he was sick and watching our 1yr old daughter while I worked and got furious because I did not leave work early for his little cold. It became a huge argument. I want him to leave but he refused until the first and vowed to make it hell. My 8yr old (who is not his) is comming home tommorrow and I DO NOT WANT ALL THAT AROUND HER. I have made voice recordings of his temper. If it continues even once my other daughter is here is there anything I can do?? Will police do anything ? I no I should have neeeever let him move in but stupid me thought he'd changed after I moved me and my daughter's out of his place due to anger. I thought he learned his lesson...but I was wrong. I want him out it's way too toxic for my girls what can I do???? I no by law of they have belongings you can't put them out but he literally has a tote and duffle bag that I can easily place outside. Also my sister lives next door. Are police more likely to do something if someone else calls the police? I just want him out and to never see him again (we will go through his sister for him to see our daughter)

Question: Should I see mom for Thanksgiving..? ?

Posted: 24 Nov 2019 03:13 PM PST

We were never close when I lived with her; she loved getting away from kids any chance she could. When my sis and I both moved out she moved 3hrs away; didnt do it sooner cuz "we were holding her back". Havent seen her in a year and Im happy as can be, but dont know what to do for holidays..  Gma calls asking if I wanna go meet grandparents and at moms house, 3hrs away, and I'm broke so on my budget I'm not wasting that much gas. So Gma says she'll drive me and we'll stay whole weekend.  Any time I agreed to go somewhere w mom in past I immediately regretted it bc shed complain about me not doing anything w my life (bc I'm not an "accountant like her"), and I cant smell so she always makes fun of me for supposedly being smelly, used to make me cry as a kid... Given history, Im scared to go 3hr away w grandparents and be a "prisoner" stuck in her house w no car to leave if I regret it...  Also I work in retail and I rarely get both days of a weekend off; should I waist it going somewhere 3hr away which I may regret and ruin my whole weekend which I could spend happy and alone? 

Question: Why dont women let men relax in front of the tv on their day off?

Posted: 24 Nov 2019 03:03 PM PST

My mom didnt let me, now my girlfriend always asks me to do stuff hours before bed.  Like chop wood or gather logs. She sat around all day and only cut half the grass. I work full time. I was nice enough to cook. Today I just went to the gym and wanted to relax. Should I just say no to people? 

Question: I want to find my mom how do I look for her?

Posted: 24 Nov 2019 02:07 PM PST

I grew up with just my father I never knew about my mother until my father finally decided to talk about her he said she was a bad woman who never wanted anything to do with me I kind of want to look for her but I don't know how to find her I know her first name and last name please help