My beloved great grandmother passed away and we were all very close to her. The next day someone asked if my ten year old brother could be a pallbearer at the funeral. I started laughing and said it was funny to think of him doing such a thing. I realize how terrible that is because it was so hard losing her and it wouldn't be healthy for my brother to do such a thing. I love and care for my family so much and would never want something like that to happen. I am sorry. I struggle every day and can't live my life because of this.

So let me give you the run down of how my racist homophobic grandfather is. He's short tempered, gets mad at my mom for leaving dishes unclean, acts like me and my siblings don't listen to him just because we might leave some empty water bottles in our rooms. He has grabbed me by the neck because he was pissed and I back talked (made my face turn ghost white). We don't/can't go out, we have all been homeschooled, I have never had any friends outside of internet friends. I have never had a teenage life with friends, girlfriend or parties because he has kept us that sheltered. I can't talk about anything with him (health or mental health wise) because he says, "you shouldn't be feeling that way because others have it way worse than you". When my mom took me to the doctors office because of a problem I was having with my stomach, he got pissed because we spent "too long" asking questions and what could be wrong. I want to know how I can get back at him without him knowing its me. I thought maybe slashing the tires on one of his old trucks he bought recently, while everyone is asleep. Or putting something in his shampoo to burn his eyes or **** with his hair. Does anyone have any ideas? Or any guidance to give? I'll take anything.

We have a family trip to Miami in Feburary. My 27 year old daughter wants to go but she's not working at the moment because she was fired. Even if she was to somehow get a job soon she probably wouldn't be able to take off and get vacation time because she will be a newbie which equals the probation period. She only has about a hundred dollars in her account. The rule was if she goes to Miami with us she has to pay for our hotel and whatever shopping she wants to do. Everybody is paying for different parts of the trip.  It's my two adult sons and husband are also going. If she stays at home we're going to come across a couple of problems. first problem- She doesn't know know how to drive. That means she won't be able to drive to go get food etc. Second problem : She has a boyfriend in his 30's that I don't want to spend the night. I wasn't born yesterday. if they know we are out town for the week they will take advantage of that and spend the night with each other. We don't want any shacking up in MY house. My sister said they are already having sex, I would hope they aren't because we are christians and don't condone sex before marriage, but if they were it definitely won't be in my house ever. We want her to stay with my mother in law. My sister told me " you look ridiculous asking her to stay with your MIL." What would you all do in this situation?

They say it's abusive to expect her to wash her own dishes and to take the bus sometimes instead of me driving her all the time (she is 19). Yet they kicked her out for calling our dad a *****. They say I should be grateful that she cooks for herself and I should be happy to just clean up after her.  They call me a slob because our kitchen is revolting all the time, but I haven't had a single meal at home in weeks so I know it's not me

I moved to germany for uni a few months ago. I live with my uncle and his family . I live 2 hours away from my uni so i travel for about 4 to 6 hours everyday since the first day and its really hard. Anyways, since this semester my uncle has been emailing my uni to get my results and my attendance sheet i dont know why, probably because he doesnt trust me. He is always tracking me (im not the only one on that tracking app other family members are too) so he always know where i am and im pretty sure he uses this app just for me. im tired of travelling everyday for so long by the time i get home i dont have the energy to do anything at all, i have 8 subjects and i am unable to study all of them on just the weekends as i have presentations and assignments too. And the fact that he keeps emailing my uni for my results and attendance is really embarrassing 'cause im not in school anymore he shouldnt do this.i have 0 social life outside of uni i cant hang out with my friends, i cant make plans, i cant do anything and all this gives me so many insecurities, makes me feel like a ******* loser. My parents dont understand at all how hard all this is, i tried talking to my mom several times she doesnt understand shes just like bear with it and get done with your education. They want me to be home exactly after the classes and etc and i cant really move out too please help me what should i do? i cant do this anymore now i just feel like killing myself i feel like thats the only way out  I would move out on my own and support myself but thats just gonna be embarrassing for my parents so i cant do that and the tuition is a lot i cant pay that for a semester i need my parents help  and yea my friends do have spare rooms and stuff but my uncle and mom wont let me move out so i cant do that  its not that him tracking me is a problem i never hide anything he always knows where i am but why? why does he wanna see where i am all the time? but another problem is that they get mad if they see me somewhere else like if im out shopping they would know and then taunt me and stuff 

We are both 18 by the way... The only reason I'm asking is because my 'best friend' spread to the whole school that we slept on the same bed and people are saying disgusting things about us... 

Okay so every blue moon if I'm in my room watching TV or just relaxing I'd hear my mom calling my name. I'd go to her room knock on the door and ask did she call me? She'll say no I didn't call you.  This happened about 7 times.  Sometimes I'd  distinctly hear her yelling my name even  with headphones on. Only for  her to tell me that she's not calling me. This also happens to me In my sleep. Just like this morning at 5:54am I hear my name being called very clearly as if she was yelling across the hall. I jump out my sleep. Only to open my door and see her door  is closed her light was off the tv was off and I use a fan to sleep for background noise sometimes to drown out other sounds because I am a very light sleeper Thanks for reading. Thanks in Advanced for your answers.

Okay, thank you guys. I've been having a tough time lately.. I'll leave him and his possessions alone from here out. I still have a huge step to take to becoming a good human being. Thank you for your support..

Then you could truly love them.

I'm just wondering why this appears to be the case. Almost all the adopted families I've seen include white parents with diverse children (the kids can be white or POC). I've never really seen families of other skin colours adopt... why is this??

She is a very hateful person. 

I was rejected in childhood and that is whey I cannot survive it happening again.

My relatives had come to visit me. They have a son who is addicted to gadgets but he has none himself.So he fights with us(me and my sister) to use our gadgets. One day i was using my ipad and my uncle didn't like me doing so.....so he scolding me for it.Then i left the place and left my ipad there.When i returned i saw my cousin using my ipad and his dad was too.They seemed to be playing some multiplayer game and seemed to be having a lot of fun. So my uncle did not scold his son for hogging the ipad but he scolded me for using it.

hi. i'm 13. i always treat my mom really badly and i feel bad about it but i literally can't control it. sometimes she'll be talking about the most simplest things and i'll lash out like a *****. my mom is honestly really sweet to me and tries to be the best mom she could be and i honest to god hate myself for doing what i am to her and i don't know how to stop. i really wanna learn how to manage this and it might just be a teen thing but i don't think it is. anyways please help me. thank you.

Not going through this by the way. I don't think the parents can because once their kid(s) become an adult, then they can do what they want You can have your own opinion, but I'll agree to disagree :)   I DO live on my own

My mom (43) is getting married to a guy close to my age (I'm 21. The guy she's marrying is 26). When they first started dating I thought it was just going to be a fling. I thought "maybe mom just needs some fun with some boy toy before she moves onto a real relationship'. However, the relationship has lasted almost 2 years. Nonetheless, even after the engagement I was pretty sure it was going to get broken off. However, yesterday my mom announced she's pregnant again (she wanted to get pregnant BTW in case that isn't clear). At this point I have to accept it's going to be permanent. I feel that this is super weird. The guy is pretty close to my age and he got my mom pregnant. I just don't get why she didn't get a guy her age. Furthermore, part of me worries this isn't going to work out. However, I can tell pretty easily that he does make my mom happy. My mom hasn't been in a relationship since she left my abusive father a little over a decade ago. Even though she never directly told me I could always tell she wanted to be in a relationship with a guy who treats her right. Despite being way young I can tell that he does make her happy. That makes me happy. I want to be happy for her, but I'm so weirded out that it's hard. How can I move past feeling super weird about this and feel happy for my mom? PS-For whatever it's worth he has a masters degree and a high paying job, so it's not like she's his sugar mama. FYI- my mom doesn't have any kids currently living at home with her

My boyfriend and I have been together for a year and a half & I am 4 months pregnant. We are both 22 and my boyfriend's brother is 8. I cannot stand being around him anymore and I don't know what to do. I spend a lot of time at my boyfriend's house because his mom is a certified nurse and helps out with my pregnancy a lot. I also am not working during my pregnancy so it keeps me busy having her company. When his little brother gets home from school he's instantly disrespectful. He's tried to hit me in my stomach, knowing there's a baby in there. He tells me he wants me and the baby to die, he's disrespectful and cusses and is absolutely awful. His mom is a very good friend to me but does not discipline her kids. She just laughs it off when he does something and thinks he's the sweetest kid in the world. I've talked to my BF about it and he says that's how he was raised, as well as the middle child and now the youngest and the youngest is even more spoiled being the baby. He thinks he loves being the center of attention and doesn't like that his mom spends time with me and that there's going to be a new baby of the family. I agree with him but I think this is wrong. I am tired of being disrespected and hit and have horrible things said to me. I don't want to stop spending time with my BF's mom but I really don't want to be around his brother at all anymore, he drives me absolutely insane and I'm worried he's going to take it too far and hit me too hard some day. 

It really has been going on forever. When I was younger I would ask to go to birthday parties and sleepovers and she would o into like 30 minute lectures about "Does she have an male family members and this and that" I just feel like I could never ask her to go anywhere because she would have 500 questions. I would just lie and say "My mom is doing something, I can't go" and soon my friends really just stopped asking me to do stuff. Like I barely went out in high school because of this. I'm 20 now and I just feel like I can never talk to her about anything or I have to lie about what I'm doing or who i'm with just like when I was younger. It's always just about nursing school now. She's paranoid about EVERYTHING. I know she's concerned but it's like...I can't just talk to her because she always turns it into me focusing on school and like I've been depressed for months now because My second oldest brother passed away in August and like the next thing she said was "I know it's hard but you know you have to focus on school" Like I couldn't even process his death. Don't get me wrong I love that she cares and is always worrying about my safety but it's just too much sometimes. I feel like I can't talk because it's always a 30 minute to and hour lecture about me and school and this and that. Like she has taught me well enough to know who I can and can't trust. I understand but it's just a lot

We have established rules in our home in which my stepkids have gotten accustomed to, but when they go back to their mother's house, she will change the family rules to her household.  It takes a few days to reconvert them back to our rules. How do we keep them from breaking family rules when they aren't here? It's a constant cycle of them learning the family rules then them forgetting them then us teaching them the family rules over again. My husband's ex has her set of family rules that oppose our rules. As for example we are vegetarian we eat dairy eggs and fish, but when they are with their mother they go off their diet and eat chicken,  lamb and beef. Their mother lets them sleep in on weekends, we get up as schedule weekend or not. Bedtime rules are different they go to bed here at 9pm at their mother's they go to bed at 10:30pm We don't allow the oldest to drive until she's 18 and can afford her driving license, but the ex got her the oldest driving lessons already now that she's 16. Friday nights the ex let her go out bowling until midnight, that wouldn't be allowed at our home. How do we stop the kids from breaking family rules outside our home? Every Sunday we go to Church at our home, at their mother's they go to Synagogue. Why can't their be one set of rules so we don't have to teach them over and over again. And yes, we have 50/50 custody.

Is there likely about to be another presidential state funeral? The holidays are painful enough for me and I don't want to have toFight back at her and end upMaking a scene where I look like a Fool.   Ignore the part aboutAnother presidential state funeral.  That was on my question from a previous question I asked on here about Jimmy Carter's health