Ive lived with the same person my sophomore and junior year of college.  we didnt know each other before we got an apt and never got to know each other.  Is it rude of me to tell her i want to live with someone else next year...i want to be friends with my roommate.  How do i tell her? I feel horrible since I would be making her find people to live with for senior year

There is something that has been annoying me,  im a 24 year old guy and i have a besfriend who's a girl and shes 27.  Her name is Nelie and we are very  very close friends,  but i feel like she's soo protective in me when it comes to relationships.    She thinks every girl i date is not good enough for me,  Nelie always talks bad about everyone i date. Yes ive gone out with some people who may not be worth it.    But for 2 months been dating this girl Tamara and im serious about her.    She's is the best girl ive met in a looong time,  and i kept her a secret from Nelie.     Sooo a week ago i told Nelie about the girl im dating..... but today Nelie told me i need to meet better woman.    It mad me soo mad but i kept it too myself.    Someone told me i need to stop being friends with Nelie to be happy in a relationship.   But Nelie has been my close friends for years,     what should i dooo????  Help Nooo she doesn't like me.   NELIE is married

I hate being alone, I always get depressed when I am, but when I do have friends or are interested in someone, I always end up having a so-so relationship with them. One minute I hate them for something they did, and the next I'm heavily depending on them because I feel like they're the only person I have. How can I fix this? It's hurting me and the people that I try to be close to.

I suffer from social anxiety, as well as depression and ADD. I find myself forgetting or losing attention on what people are saying, which can make them angry. Rather than explain why I do this, I would rather keep it to myself. One minute I can be very fun and make others laugh, but the next I withdraw, earning me some mixed emotions. I know I can be confusing to understand, hell, even I don't understand myself fully.  As for my background with friendships, I've never been able to feel like I really identify as part of a group. I don't feel any attachments to people, and it scares me when I see people I know. I never seem to keep a friend for long without one of us being upset with the other. I don't know if it's because I have an issue or I just haven't found someone yet, but this has been going on for a long time.  It's almost like I outgrow the person and see them for what they really are. My most recent friend always picked fights with me, was extremely immature, and never respected boundaries.   I guess what I'm asking is whether or not I have hope of finding a friend. Why is it I can't keep one? Is it my problem?  

My friend (we'll call him C) is being bullied by (we'll call her A). A has talked about C behind his back in the past (she probably still does it now although I have no evidence to prove it), but they somehow managed to become friends. She pulls his hair every day even after being asked to stop, and purposely tries to piss him off and annoy him on purpose. She becomes very needy and clingy and gets mad every time C is unavailable to hang out. She overreacts and makes a big deal out of everything and tries to intentionally cause drama. She's very untrustworthy and tells everyone C's business and gets into things that aren't her business. C and his friends (including Alishia and I) are sick and tired of her. We've talked to her about how she makes us feel, and she lies and apologizes and says she'll stop, but then just gets worse. C has told me he is afraid to end his friendship with her because he thinks she will have an over the top reaction (and I think he's right). C is very clearly being abused. Today, he texted me and told me that she, no joke, tried to shove a baseball bat up his vagina (C is biologically a female, but transgender) This is very alarming to me as his friend. I know that an adult needs to know about this, but I'm not sure who. C and I talked to our school social worker, but that's when A lied and said she was gonna stop and then never did. I know I need to talk to someone, but I don't know who. I probably shouldn't have come to Yahoo, but here I am.

It's football season and my boyfriend of a few years goes to tailgate before games a lot at one of our states colleges. It's a really common place for highschool seniors to go on weekends. My friend, I'm gonna call her Olivia, is really poor and comes from a bad home and is very good at making people feel bad for her to get favors from them. People say that she takes advantage of my generosity a lot. She always asks my bf to drive her to the college. The first few times I really didn't care. I'm a chill girlfriend and I trust him and highly doubt that she would try something on him, even though she has a history of cheating. Recently, she's been getting weird, like telling me how she got him to swing dance with her in the basement of a frat. Another one of my friends rode with them this last time and asked to sit in the front by him because she'd been in the back and Olivia was like "no, i always sit next to him." My friend and Olivia were supposed to stay at an empty apartment together of a friend, but Olivia insisted on my boyfriend picking her up so she could stay with him at some guys dorm. She chose sleeping on the floor (foot to head) with a bunch of random guys close to my bf over a clean empty apartment with our close girl friend. Her actions are starting to make me really uncomfortable, especially when she came up to my bff and I and was like "omg! look! i'm nipping through my shirt!". He tells me it's really hard to avoid her. Am i being dramatic? 

We have been friends for around 5 years and shes been a solid member of my group of friends since then.  She had always expressed how much she loved my style and that she thought I was a cool person, which i appreciated until she started to subtly copy the things i did like my mannerisms etc. A few examples would be that i have worn trousers (i'm a girl) for a long time, then she started to. Then i got a chain that had my keys on the end attached to my trousers, then she did too. I talked about getting my hair cut short for a bit and then she began telling the other friends i hadn't told yet that she was doing the same thing. i got it cut, then she did. I got a green leavers hoodie to match with my best friend, the next day she does too. now we basically look the same in our school uniform. She even joked to me that we looked the same and i laughed. I get that someone might consider this flattery, but honestly I just don't. I don't mind if she likes my style and dips into it but the fact we look the same despite me attempting to be my own person with a unique style saddens me. how do i tell her that I don't find it flattering and I dislike being compared to someone else without offending her. i also don't want to make a big deal out of it like she would. help!

she think she owes money to state farm she dont have tickets cause she didnt drive  since 7 years so she dont have tickets she lives in indiana

I work in an office with 6 other women. None of us are married and our ages range from 20 to 40. Our boss is a GREAT looking 27 year old guy. He is the greatest boss ever. He is always available to help us when we need it. He will cover for us when we have to take time off for dr appointments etc. Every week he gives us training to help us advance to better paying jobs. We just adore him. Unfortunately for us, he will not date anyone that works for him. We have a tradition in our office once a month after work, we take our boss out to a restaurant for dinner. We all REALLY enjoy this and have a lot of fun at these dinners. Some of our boyfriends are upset that we are going on a "date" with our boss. We try to tell our boyfriends that it is NOT A DATE. It is just friends going out to dinner together. Our boyfriends tell us that no guy ever takes a girl to dinner without expecting to get into their pants. Can anyone explain our boyfriends view of this situation? Why is it so hard to believe girls can have male friends?

I have really close friends and I only been smoking 2 years but the reason I want to quit smoking is because i'm getting too addicted. So how do i tell my friends i want to suddenly quit smoking without making it a whole big deal. I really don't want to loose my friends.

An old friend of mine was drama, she had a lot of boy drama.  She threatened her ex, she kicked me in the butt really hard, and she talked sh*t about me behind my back mostly how she picked on me.  This guy I like, she never met and never gave a chance, she threatened to slap him with an object, he didn't do anything wrong.  Would her threatening to slap/beat him is crossing the line, in your eyes?  Your life wouldn't be in danger with him.  Would you be friends with her?  Would you let her explain or automatically ended the friendship.  

We never dated but I fancied him

I have a friend of a friend who isn't more than an acquaintance. I've tried to be friends with her but she's just one of those people that you can't really hold a conversation with. I overheard her and another friend talking about their self harm. They were saying how they had done it recently. I don't know how to approach them about it since we're not close.

Ever since she got a boyfriend and moved away, she's always busy now and makes time for her other friends and tells me not to take it personal, she's not seen them in forever unlike me but I am taking it personal, I just want things back the way they used to be.

Hey, so today my mom forced me to go to her friends bday party. They made me dance and I really didn't want to but I did, because I did not want to seem disrespectful. But then her friends son (10 years older) told me to stop using my phone. I was really embarrassed, but I have trouble talking to people, so I resort to using my phone, so people don't talk to me. I'm really upset and uh, I know I'm in the wrong for this but yeah, anything?

So a while ago me and my best friend decided to stop talking over a massive fight we had. A year after that we decided to reconnect and went way too fast with it. We hung out and it didint feel right what so ever so I basically explained that it was too soon and I don't think I'm ready to be friends again. Now fast forward another year and they're trying to reach out again. They really hurt me in the past and I've given more than three chances. I'm not sure if this time I should just try to reconnect but go real slow with it or just not give them another chance. Advice? 

Now, I could be looking way too much into this and overreacting but I think that most everything she's been telling me is not true.  She's 15 and pregnant  I'm aware that this is possible and can very well happen. What I don't understand is how she's 5 months pregnant with twins and is not showing up. I just find it a little odd. Sometimes her boyfriend texts me stuff and they seem to text the same and she always brings up what he says. So, I've noticed they seem to say a lot of the same things and he constantly repeats things happening with her as if he thinks I don't believe him for some reason.  One time he sent be a picture of her trying to convince me her cheeks were red but I did not see it. He tried really hard to make me see it for some reason. I'm not sure if he's an actual person or if it's just her.  She's supposedly been in the hospital, nearly dead, has pneumonia and bronchitis yet her babies are perfectly healthy? And she still shows up at school so I'm just really confused. Why is she not hospitalized? I was in the hospital for two weeks for flu and pneumonia which was a terrible combination so I really don't understand Still, I have no actual proof of her lying thought I have caught her in some lies before. I have not accused her of anything or got mad at her. I'm just really confused and worried that maybe not everything she's telling me is true because people have a tendency to lie to me, leading to trust issues. Am I wrong for feeling this way? 

I mean if you're lonely with not many friends and you see all these people on snapchat, instagram living their ''life'' which is all fake and just an image to showcase the world that they are all happy and sh*t when they actually isnt. Does that make the lonely person more sad?

My likes drinking so much to the point where it's concerning me. He drinks to get drunk (he's not even 21 yet, but will be soon), and I think that's a problem. He drinks at least 3 times a week, and he goes through a 12 pack of beer in a few hours. Another friend and I talked to him about this, and he said that he just likes drinking and that he doesn't have a problem. However, the fact that he constantly talks about alcohol, isn't even 21 yet, and drinks all the time is concerning. Whenever I talk to him about it, he just gets upset because people are starting to call him an "alcoholic". I suggested people he can talk to, just in case he's "drinking away his problems", but he keeps insisting that he doesn't have a drinking problem. I don't know what to do. His 21st is coming up soon, and he keeps talking about how he wants to get completely "hammered" (drunk). The thing is, he already gets "hammered" when he's drinking anyway. I'm just scared that he might die of alcohol poisoning or something.