Had planned on going out after a topic of meeting someone at a club or bar and see if they want to join me and my wife for a mfm. So I had brought up a 3aum and wife sounded interested. Since then she's been excited about this coming Friday to go out. Might this mean she wants to explore that option? 

My wife of one year who I have a daughter with started showing red flags. Wouldn't answer my texts or calls for days, moved in with her step mother so she could go to college and have help but her step mother wouldn't let me come. Told me her step mom didn't like me so I couldn't be there. I went over to her step moms because she said we could hangout today. I didn't text her and remind her ahead of time. Her stepmoms daughter answered the door and asked if she could help me. She said she was not there and she was at this guys house. She told me they had been dating for a while. I called my wife and she came and picked me up, we went for a drive and I asked her to please pick me over him. I asked her if they had slept together and she said yes. She let out a big sigh and said I'm just unhappy and I want a divorce. I don't know how this could of happened and why, according to her she didn't want to hurt me because she knew I deeply cared for her. should I tell the man she's been with for a couple months that she's been cheating on me. Please help 

In the 2 years we have been together my wife has done it twice, and she won't do it anymore, what should I do? she explained she can't take the depth and taste

Husband and my first year of marriage, and I am 9 months pregnant with our first child. His mother, granted, has just been left by her husband in the last few months and is surely experiencing some loneliness. But boy is she needy, and pushy about it as well. She is driving both of us mad with her constant requests- demands- for help. 2-3 times a week she will call and ask that my husband go take out her trash, mow the lawn, clean up the dog's pee before she gets home because she had a long day. Or whatever other menial task that she could do herself, or have anyone else do. She lives across town. Also poignant to note here that husband and I both work night shift. Meaning we sleep during the daytime, and being called at 2 PM with a request to come help her clean is like being called at 2 in the morning for 'regular' people. "No" "we are busy" or anything like that is usually just steamrolled. And standing our ground either winds up in anger or tears or a cold shoulder. I recently made a stand about her not showing up unexpectedly, especially when husband is at work and I'm sleeping, as I'm likely to take a baseball bat to somebody's head if they let themself in the house unexpectedly. And while she has listened so far- to the extent that she will call and leave a voicemail and come over whether I answer or not- said voicemails come across quite patronizing "I wouldn't want you to freak out, so heads up, I repeat heads up, I'm coming over." Help?

My son is 21 years old and lives with his girlfriend at her house (the girlfriends parents just got divorced and the father moved out). My ex-wife and I divorced in 2013 and my ex-wife remarried. My ex-wife got full custody and maxed out child support payments from me. I visit my kids 1-2 times per week on weeknights after work. I usually see only one child at a time  and I will take them to dinner and a hike or movie etc. My other son is 15 and my daughter is 17. My 21 year old son temporarily lived with my ex wife and her new husband. He was not following the rules of the house such as basic chores. He was kicked out. He now will not speak to his mom. I have been spending time with him every few weeks but now I am reconsidering these visits. He is regularly into smoking marijuana, vaping, wax, and dabs. I used to just visit with him but now he wants his girlfriend to come along every time. I really would like to help him but I feel that he is becoming a bad influence on me. Plus he is disrespectful since he (and his girlfriend) try to smoke in my car and when we are visiting. For out last visit we all met (all three of my kids and his girlfriend) and him and his girlfriend decided to have a drink since she just turned 21. I am against alcohol but I did not want to make a scene. I feel that this was inappropriate for my kids and I for them to drink. He saw a therapist and she said that he needs medication for depression but that would not work due to his marijuana habit. 

I wouldn't mind her staying home but we can't afford that. I'm not rich. That would only be okay if we are rich. Plus, it's not good for people's mental health to just be sitting around doing nothing. Ever since she got fired a couple of months ago she's just been chilling around the house watching netflix or when she's not doing that she's constantly cooking or writing a blog. It's weird because she's not lazy at all when it comes to cooking. She be on her feet cooking for seven hours, but her attention span is horrible when she is on someone's job force.She was a teacher and got fired for not paying enough attention to the kids and being on her phone the entire time. THEN she went to another school and got fired from them, it ridiculous. teaching was never her passion, but she went to school for her teaching degree because her mother told her teachers will always be in high demand and it's pretty much a guarenteed job. She is good at the blogging thing I always see her typing on a blog also I've been filling in applications for her to do some office jobs she might be good at but she said she wants to wait until after the holidays. she said " the holidays go by so fast. I want to relax and enjoy the holidays with you, cook some delicious holiday food, and watch holiday movies." I was like " You can relax and cook after work," She was like " I don't know about that, they might have me working crazy hours."

My adopted daughter has rapid thinking and she believes her own rationalization of any given thought and never asks for outside input on if what she's thinking is real or not (she's essentially peeta from Hunger Games only she believes it's real and doesn't question if it is or isn't). She always tries to be one step ahead of everyone, so if she believes that a person's intentions is not pure (even if it is) then she will treat that person like they aren't pure. If you make a mistake around her, she will never forget that mistake and use it against you every chance she can too; I had an incident occur over 5 months ago and she remembered it and used it against me in a fight last night as if it just happened. When I'm not involved, she will put herself to work (house work or homework) to exhaust her thoughts so she doesn't have to think them (or deal with them for that matter). My wife has a similar OCD. Unsurprisingly, they both grew up in very unsafe homes. My daughter was in an abusive and chaotic house with lots of uncertainty and abuse. My wife was in an abusive and chaotic house with lots of spousal abuse and disputes. Both of them obviously didn't do well in those environments and they both need protection; I just don't know what I'm supposed to do to accomplish that and I need ideas, especially since they both believe the threats are inside the house with them (even though I've never shown any violent side in my life). Ideas?

My sisters husband passed about 12 years ago and she remarried for a short time - did that cancel her ability to receive her dead husbands ss benefits?  she is currently on SSI disability receiving 750 a month, she lives with me and my husband for the last 10 years, I would like to get her into a place of her own but I just cant see her doing that with 750.00.  any suggestions???

If your husband had furniture from previous marriage, would you keep it as seeing it as no big deal, or would you replace it? 

I know life isn't always hunky dory. Things go wrong. And sometimes a lot at once and it can really drive, even the most patient among us, mad. But it is REALLY difficult when you have had a positive "glass is half full" kind of personality all your life and your partner is Negative Nancy "poor me!" about everything. If it isn't joint or back pain, it's something happened to his car, or people are pissing him off, I mean I could go on.  And I know all those things suck!  But they happen to everyone!  Everyone gets some kind of ache or pain sometime in their life and sometimes rather often. My boss gets terrible migraines on a regular basis. She just lays down and copes with it as best she can. She doesn't whine and moan.  I've had car problems before.  I've had to sell three cars do to the fact they were too expensive to fix.  We all get the short end of the straw sometimes.  That's LIFE!  I try to tell him that. I try to tell him that griping non stop is only going to make matters even worse. I try to tell him that he's not the only one who has it bad. And me...I am just trying to enjoy my life in peace, but I almost feel I can't because whenever good things happen to me, or I am coasting along just fine with no issues, I actually feel guilty because of his problems.  And he does get the short end a lot. I'll give him that. But throwing mini tantrums and griping isn't going to help.  And it brings me way down.  What can I do?   I also do my best to help when something is wrong.  I take care of him if he's in pain or not feeling well.  I give him a hand if something needs fixed. I listen if he needs to vent. But it is literally every, singlem day that something is upsetting him and I am running on empty!!  I have been through some tough times in my life.  Had to take care of myself completely for years, without any help from anyone. But I was so happy and so thankful for everything I had. What very little it was.  But I am losing touch with that part of me when the person closest to me has a problem with everything and everyone.  Linda, I think you're onto something. I do have a tendency to be very nurturing to him. Maybe too much...

Let start off by saying we only been married one year. We dated for two years. Shes also 5 months pregnant. This morning we got into a disagreement because of things she said she needed from me, like more affection, more quality time etc. I admit I got comfortable which happens in a relationship. I told her it's a two way street. There's also things shes not doing anymore that she once did. When I get to work she text me this: I apologize for even coming to you with any issues because you're right I need to fix myself before asking anybody to change anything....you're right I don't do enough for you to make you happy....I believe that God bless you to see next year you will experience true happiness you are headed to a good place, you will meet new people, and enjoy a career that will bring you increase, most of all you will have a child that you have always wanted which will bring you unexplainable joy. During this time together I don't think I've added much to you nor made you better in any way...so you're right I need to take time to work on myself so I can learn how to love a man, be there peace, and make them happy. So thank you for teaching me how to look at myself and I'm full of flaws...I thought I had the confidence to do this right this time but you have showed me that I was wrong and obviously not ready to treat someone properly. At the end my heart wants you to be happy because you deserve it and even tho it's been hard I'm grateful to carry and give you a child. 

I have been living in my husbands house for about 6 months. His ex wife use to live here along with their 2 kids for about 7 years. The couches are still here and so is the bed. I have been sleeping in the bed, but can't help to think of all the times they were in it. Don't get me wrong, the couches and bed are really nice and comfortable, but at the same time I want new ones for a fresh start. I know it's his furniture too and it costs a lot to get, so idk what I need to do. Should I just keep them and deal with it or should we replace everything? Does it make me insecure that the furniture bothers me? 

And why do they always tell their wife to sleep on the couch, because it's their bed?

My husband a friend and I went to a rave. My first rave ever. My friend felt and  got kind of sick, so when I turned around after Feller her I would met her right there,  my husband was gone and then I lost her. I was alone all night and stayed in the same spot. Until last 1 or 2 . I even went to the meeting spot 6 times. Used a stranger girls phone to tell him I was in front spot we fist stayed at. I danced with some girls too side by side. 2 mosh puts broke out and i got scared so walked to the safe spot again and the bar. I left my phone in hotel by accident. I went to the bar and a guy and I started chatting some. I told him I was married lost my friend and hubby. He lost his friends too, a good tune came on and we started dancing. Some random guy took photos of us from the guys phone. In the photo the guy has his hand on my leg, he smacked my butt a couple times. We danced close he did try to kiss me 1 time and I turned and said no. I told my husband all of this and I get that he is upset. I'm upset I hurt him, did I cheat on my husband though, by doing all of this? I will never do that ever again, I told my husband if he ever walks away from me again I will never go with him again. He even took photos of some girl and him in the crowd,  that should had been me in the photos. I felt hurt.  He was not with my friend all night either we were all separated. 

I've been married to my husband for almost 6 months. I moved into his house that he shared with his ex wife and 2 kids for 7 years because we can't really afford a new one right now. Anyway, he has a mattress that is super comfortable and it doesn't make me feel weird until I start thinking about him and her sharing it. I don't want us to have to sell it because it sleeps really good. We've changed sheets on it so it makes it feel like ours. We also have the same couches and recliner that they had. I'm not sure if I should sell them or not because like I said, it's expensive to do all of that. I mean, should a couch or bed be replaced if the ex is gone? I have put my touch on the house, and am going to paint soon. He did tell me that she was hardly ever home while they were together so that made me feel a little better, but I feel like they picked the furniture out together. He tells me a couch is a couch and it has no sentimental value on it whatsoever. Same with bed. How can I make this house feel like mine with the furniture still here? Any advice? I'm okay with it being here, but it bothers me sometimes. She shares a lot of memories of her kids on Facebook with the same furniture in the background. Should that bother me?

I'm in my early 30s and BF is 6 years my senior. Neither of us married before. Both have good jobs, sustained homes on our own (now live together) get along great and have discussed marriage, family, future... etc.  I've made it clear that I will not proceed with purchasing a home together, joining finances or starting a family until after marriage. All things he tells me he wants almost daily. We have been dating for two years in the same situation. His mom and sisters have brought up rings to me, and I don't quite care about that as I do about being able to make bigger life moves together once we are married.  How long is too long to wait?  I've debated asking him but everyone says is emasculating.  to clarify: we HAVE had this conversation and we are  on the same page about marriage and both want to be married. When I asked others about asking him to marry me, proposing, they said dont. that it is emasculating. 

I teach a computer class. One of my students Betty ask me if I could drive her home after class. I said sure. As I drove up to her house. You could not call it a house. Mansion was a better description. I remarked "What a beautiful home you have". She said "I got it in my divorce when I caught my husband screwing his secretary". I like a woman that tells it like it is don't you? She insisted I come in for a cup of coffee and cake as her way of saying thank you. While talking and drinking the coffee I saw a picture of her on the wall being crowned Miss (our state). I told her what a beautiful picture and a well deserved honor. Then she showed me some pictures of other beauty contest she had won. I would sure like to see the secretary he lost a trophy wife for. She must be something else. Why would a guy with a wife that is this great looking and is such a nice person be caught screwing his secretary. He was not thinking with his head was he? He was probably thinking with another part of his body wasn't he?