My boyfriend asked me if I would sign a prenup. He pays all the bills while I m in college ( he doesn t pay for my school ) He asked me to sign one so that if we got divorced I couldn t take all his stuff and the house. What all should I ask to be put in the prenup?

Let's be real, people get married today generally for the benefit of two incomes. Not because they're truly in love with eachother, that's it!

A while back I had got married to a gentleman whom lived out of country.. Turns out he did not love me. Though I am still married to them they fled back home to Norway, I am uncertain of how to get this marriage removed or what the steps would even be as I am out of state, Currently residing in Alabama. The marriage happened in California.

My husband met another woman four years ago in a graduate program across country. For the first three of those years, he had to travel across country for summers. He met this colleague in his first course and maintained a close relationship with her. My husband has many female friends and I have never questioned them but things about this relationship concerned me. The last year he had to go back, he was being suspicious. He always had detailed plans about about how he would shop and such by renting a car but this last time was being ambiguous. I found he had plans with this girl to pick him up and for them to have lunch and go grocery shopping. He never told me this and I confessed that I was suspect of his plans. He maintain it was all under control. This is not him. So, as he was being secretive and I looked at his texts. I never had done that. He said nothing was going on and said was doing what he had to do to get by I felt relieved. I then saw he did call her soon after and they talked for an hour. He has not mentioned any of this to me. I just don't know if I should tell him I looked at his phone and feel she is very needy for him. I don't like it. I feel if I mention her he will say I am beating a dead horse as he has told me she is just a friend he feels sorry for. I feel my husband will just tell me this girl just needs marital advice as is going through a divorce (she wanted). I know he is not having an physical affair with her. I know he is not secretly meeting her (but by actions he may secretly meet her). I just hate that trust was broken and don't know where to go from here. Do I confess or not that I checked his phone again? Trust and let go or am I being naive?

My grand mom used to jerkmeoff with one hand and tug on my little testes with the other. she would then kiss me on forehead after I came.

I thought my aunt was just nuts but I found a picture of my Mom and uncle taken in 1997 at a party. The uncle died last year and my aunt has just begun to forgive my Mom who insists her sister is a nut and there was never an affair. I believe my Mom generally but this picture makes me wonder. Was there an affair between my Mom and her sister Debbie's husband?

She said after she gets home from work, makes dinner while I give kids a bath, she is exhausted. She said she doesn't want to spend a lot of time and wants to get right to it. She said 10-15 minutes at the end of the night she's all for it. I really thought most women liked the process. Is this a normal phase when working and having young children?

I am 21 years old and have been married for over 6 months. My husband and I have a great relationship and were friends for 3 years before we started dating but married only 5 months after being in a committed relationship. We have only had sex 11 times in the 10.5 months we ve been together. He was always a sexual and intimate person when we were friends and when he was deployed talked so much about waiting to be with me but now that we are together he ignores and shuts down any advance I make to him. We are in our early 20s and I am a very taken care of and good looking woman and yet feel completely rejected and lonely. I feel like I m wasting my youth with someone who I love deeply but receive none of the affection or intimacy I was promised before our marriage. I go above and beyond to please him and feel like he settled with me to make his life easier and to have someone to love him unconditionally without reciprocating in many different ways.. I am tired of feeling alone and undesirable. Is this normal or am I being selfish and thinking too deeply?

Ok, So i've known my Wife since i was 11 and she was 9, anyways we went to the same high school and even for a brief period lived near each other again (Her Parents and Mine are really good friends) and things between us happened in 2006 when i was 19 and she was 17 and we dated until summer 2009 when we broke up (for 3 months) and got back together on November 2009...and because i was in a vulnerable place i proposed in July 2010 and she said yes..,then we got married on August 10, 2013. Then we had Three Kids (Luke age 3 , Mark age 2, Anna 4 months old) anyways, recently we did a teenage confessions/habits because we were alone for the first time in months (just us two) and she told me she had a crush on my dad for like a year when she was 16 and wanted to sleep with him...Then we got silent and ended the date and went home and we didn't talk for about 2 days...Should this impact me? Should i divorce her? What would you do?

I am a 20 year old woman having an affair with a 34 year old married man. He has two kids with his wife and they are 8 and 10. I wanted to leave, But I was just so in love with this man! we have been together for almost two months and haven't had sex but we have kissed and made out! It is so different, it is just like we have a perfect connection and we just love each other's company. Of course, he wants to have sex with me but I am a virgin and not ready for that. When I ask him about his wife he tells me they have been having their ups and downs and never have time for each other. I ask why he just doesn't leave her and he tells me when their are kids involved, the process is harder. He says he never has to have sex with me he just doesn't want me to leave him. I am in love with this man but I know I can never fully have him to myself. I tell him that I will have to leave him soon if I don't see him taking any action and he begs me to stay with him. He even spends the night at my house! He tells me to forget about what everyone else thinks and to just focus on love. He does not hide anything from me and he treats me as if I am his queen. He wants to take me to the Carribeans to show his friends and family me. Should I not completely fall for this man until he makes a move to leave his wife for me? He tells me that everything is in process, but I am no fool. Please put yourself in my shoes. I think this man is a good person, but I don't want to trap myself in this at all..

Ive always had problems with my husband. I got pregnant with my then bf now husband. around 5 months we argued one of many days so.... I went out and coincidently saw a old high school friend. I instantly was impressed. he knew I was pregnant. we started talking for a few months. he accepted me and knew I had a kid on the way. He asked for my hand in marriage. he told me he would provide for me and my daughter. he promised me the world. I was pregnant & hormonal. I didn't think I could leave my then boyfriend & now my husband for some new guy. I felt like I was robbing my daughter from her dad. so I picked my daughters father regardless of all the problems we had. time passed by & the guy I declined meet a girl. he gave her a kid & took care of the girls kids (she had more.) now their isn't a day that goes by that I regret not picking him. everything he promised me he did with a new girl. and I'm still stuck with my daughters father. its not to bad I guess. but I know I can be happier. I guess I stick around for my daughter. sometimes I wish I knew if he ever thinks of me... and what upsets me the most is that this was a huge downgrade. but I guess love has no face. and if he is happy than I am happy for him.

I still love my wife and I definitely don't want to leave her. We've been married for 10 years and have 3 young children together. I can't bare to think of how she'll react or what she would do if she ever found out I got another woman pregnant. She doesn't want an abortion and she wants me to leave my wife and help her take care of the baby. What do I do!?

oldprof - most people desrcibe 'love' as something similar to stockholm syndrome, how then would you describe it? You can share with anyone and still not 'love' them, explain. baby boomer rock fan - See that description you made indicates stockholm syndrome because it does not necessitate that the person you 'love' does the same for you in turn. Unfortunately that is the prevailing view and to demand you get the same in return is deemed 'selfish' or 'sexist' or 'entitled'.

My fiancé and I are getting married. He already owns a home with no mortgage it's completely paid off. The house is really small and is in DESPERATE need of an upgrade. I always hated going to his house due to how dark/depressing it is. He said if he sold the house we could eventually use the money towards a new home. Currently, we both have student loan debt around $40,000 between the two of us. If we stay here I REALLY want to upgrade this house!!! It is his house though. Am I wrong to ask him to considering buying a new home or making extensive upgrades?

I've been with my wife for 4 years we got married in June. She's 19 I'm 39 almost 40. Me and her are having a baby in January. She just graduated high school this year. Is it wrong that we're married ?

We've been married 8 yrs and have a 7 yr old. My son keeps asking for a sibling and I also want another kid. The problem is I'm 37 and my husband is 61. I'm also thinking of going to nursing school. I'm ovulating as we speak haha. I'm just worried about husband's age. He's a fit 61 yr old. What should I do?

It's embarrassing to admit, but I have tight hips so I can't thrust during sex. The closes I can come is pulling my body back and ramming back in. Safe to say this doesn't feel good to my wife and she's bored of our sex life. What are some things I can do to please her sexually?

My wife and I got married 4 years ago. I think she is a good person but, we arent compatible imo. I have asked for a divorce. But she isnt ready to leave me. We have been living in different rooms of the same house for over 2 years now. We dont speak to each other except for ocational texts. Our marriage isnt working because of several reasons. She isnt a bad person but, i think she is selfish. for eg, she wanted to party when the whole family and friend circle was mourning my little brothers absence. Its been a year since his passing and it was his birthday. She may not be a bad person but, think she is incapable of understanding certain things. She comes home late every night and stays out even later while on office trips. Dont get me wrong.. Im only worried about her safety. sometime ago, when she went to a different city on work, she was out till 3 am.. we kept calling her from 9 pm but our calls were ignored. she called at around 10 am and lied about the whole thing. I later came to know that she was with some guys she had just met. I really cant put into words how worried I was when her phone was turned off at around 2.30 am that night. I dont think she did anything wrong. I was worried. that's all. The society we live in is always pro women.Thats a good thing but, no matter what happens in a marriage, It is always the guys fault. My family too supports her and not me. I'm thinking about moving out of the house.though I have love for her,I cant live with her

I need advice I have been taking care of my husband for the last 4 years been married for 6 years. He has severe medical issues that plague him. I have given up my life to take care of him, as a caregiver I have taken a lot of abuse mainly verbal although he did kick me once. I have just accepted it because I have no one but my husband in my life. Unfortunately I am bipolar and have social anxiety so things are difficult for me. I really have nothing to look forward too anymore. I am 35 and I want to have a baby at some point but I can not have one with my husband. He doesn't want to be intimate anymore it's been at least 9 months since we slept together, I am so lonely. I feel very depressed and that I have no future if I stay with him, my illnesses have just gotten worse being with him. I don't know if it's worth staying with him anymore. Should I stay with him even though I am suffering or should I leave and try to heal and move on if possible?

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Where I work is being taken over by another company and they are eliminating the department I work in. This will be a disaster as jobs are very hard to find in this area. The new company told us they have openings in other departments but you have to have some very special training to get these jobs. I checked and this training is very expensive. Losing my job would be a disaster. I tried to borrow the money for the training from everyone I knew but no one would loan me money. I was down to the last name in my phone book, my ex husband. I finally got up the courage to call him. We had a friendly divorce but I had never asked him for money before. He said I will get back with you tomorrow. MUCH to my surprise he called back and said his current wife Joan would give me the training for FREE. I was in shock. Could this really be happenings? Joan did give me the training free and I got one of the new jobs that paid more than my last job and I had a great new boss. Joan was the nicest person EVER. I can not say enough good things about her. All my friends that I told about this said I was the luckiest person alive because usually the new wife wants nothing to do with the previous wife. She must be a saint to do what she did for me. I know I owe Joan big time. Please give me some thoughts on how I can repay her for the kindness she gave to me. Kind words are just not enough for this EXTREMELY NICE PERSON.

The affection-less years taking their toll as they do, with no drop in my drive, and a really slim good-looking pieceofass at work has basically agreed that we should hook up, for the fun of it. Make each other feel good, no strings. There'll be tons of oral and other activity, possibly no intercourse at all. So when we leave work at the same time, would my SUV at the park work best, or should we get a hotel room? (higher chance of bread crumbs). Her place prolly isn't best - she's foreign, lives with her family, and they have strict laws against such fornication.

Now I look for clues that he is cheatimg. He could be because there are some red flags but maybe it s just me being overly protective of myself. I was thinking about ending it but I love him. How do I deal with this?

Hi, I have a question. So my father has started to lose weight and gain muscle. He is very bragging and loving himself. But it is harmless. But something in the back of my mind is telling me he might be cheating on my mom. He s a great father, actually my best friend. He does everything for me. But when I was young he did cheat on my mom two times. And now he has a snap chat without telling any of us. Which is weird because he doesn t need a Snapchat if he isn t following or including the family. He would also tell me everything. Is my dad heating or am I just assuming things?

In the state of Florida you need to wait three days after you acquire a marriage license to get married. This three day period can be waived if you take a four hour course. However, what if one of the couple lives in Florida and another in a different state? Does the three day period still apply? All information I see says if you live out of state you can get married immediately... But I can't find any information on if ONE of the couple lives in Florida. Thanks

I messed up bad and I don't really know what to do. I was at a party at a friends house and I got really drunk. I don't usually ever drink and I just did that night. I got flirty with one of my friends and things just happened. I've liked her for a minute and we were just drunk and one thing lead to another and "it" just happened...only it was awkward. I won't go into detail but we weren't in sync and neither of us finished. It didn't last long and we just went back outside and hung out with everyone else. That's never happened to me before and I'm not sure if I've ruined my chances with her or as friends or both. I wanted to call her the next day but I just couldn't . It'll be a week tomorrow so should I call her? I have no idea what to say and I feel nauseous just thinking about it.

He says they have agreed on everything. But he has a business that he wants to sell. He says he needs to do it before filing for the divorce because it is marital property. This is why they haven't filed for divorce yet. Does this make sense? People who have businesses divorce all the time. (I started dating him only recently but know him through mutual friends so I know that they separated a couple of years ago).

I feel this is my fault. Almost 3 years married and my wife feels checked out when we have sex. She feels no emotional connection and though we have discussed the need for romance, I've always been afraid to for various reasons. I'm having a breakthrough only now that I'm so much like my dad, and I'm making serious strides now in meeting my wife's emotional needs. This whole time "life" got us distracted from what really mattered. We have phenomenal communication and companionship, but without the emotional connection it's so hard. I'm in love with my wife. I don't want to loose her, I've been doing what I should have been doing, now, but she's told me she's fighting feelings that it's too late. She wants to be happy and receptive. She feels like she needs abut if space to see life without me and to sort out all her personal and marital feelings. I'm genuinely scared she will take her space and realize she won't miss or want to come back. She understands, but feels it's necessary for her because she's carrying a load she needs off her back. Breaks my heart. What can I do, honestly.

My wife and I got married 4 years ago. I think she is a good person but, we arent compatible imo. I have asked for a divorce. But she isnt ready to leave me. We have been living in different rooms of the same house for over 2 years now. We dont speak to each other except for ocational texts. Our marriage isnt working because of several reasons. She isnt a bad person but, i think she is selfish. for eg, she wanted to party when the whole family and friend circle was mourning my little brothers absence. Its been a year since his passing and it was his birthday. She may not be a bad person but, think she is incapable of understanding certain things. She comes home late every night and stays out even later while on office trips. Dont get me wrong.. Im only worried about her safety. sometime ago, when she went to a different city on work, she was out till 3 am.. we kept calling her from 9 pm but our calls were ignored. she called at around 10 am and lied about the whole thing. I later came to know that she was with some guys she had just met. I really cant put into words how worried I was when her phone was turned off at around 2.30 am that night. I dont think she did anything wrong. I was worried. that's all. The society we live in is always pro women.Thats a good thing but, no matter what happens in a marriage, It is always the guys fault. My family too supports her and not me. I'm thinking about moving out of the house.though I have love for her,I cant live with her

It's well known that the mother has a much better chance at getting custody, but why? I have heard that custody is supposed to go to where it is "most appropriate", and let's say the mother does not have a job and the father has a stable and well paying job, the mother would still most likely get custody. I have really only ever heard of the father getting custody if the mother's life is a train wreck like from drug addiction or alcoholism or something.

I need advice I have been taking care of my husband for the last 4 years now. He has severe medical issues that plague him. I have given up my life to take care of him, as a caregiver I have taken a lot of abuse mainly verbal although he did kick me once. I have just accepted it because I have no one but my husband in my life. Unfortunately I am bipolar and have social anxiety so things are difficult for me. I really have nothing to look forward too anymore. I am 35 and I want to have a baby at some point but I can not have one with my husband. I feel very depressed and that I have no future if I stay with him, my illnesses have just gotten worse being with him. I don't know if it's worth staying with him anymore. Should I stay with him even though I am suffering or should I leave and try to heal and move on if possible?

A while back my wife had a friend over and the three of us hung and got drunk. Time passed and I went to sleep. Little while later my wife woke me up,she was naked and told me to come down stairs. Her friend was naked and said to my wife I didn t want you to get in trouble. I was drunk/asleep and didn t really know what to think of it. My wife and I had sex and I did some foreplay with her friend. The question is though my wife was having sex with someone else when I wasn t there and idk how I feel about it. It s been years already and I can t seem to get over it. I feel like this act devalued our marriage am I overreacting?