My mom recently got a boyfriend and I'm afraid he's destroying her as a person. Since my dad walked out on us, for the longest time it was just me and my mom. I would come home from school and she would have chicken tenders or casserole as a snack for me, we would play games, go out to events and bible study. My mom was the sweetest person in my eyes until she got met her boyfriend Larry. When she met him she started staying out late at night past 10 without calling, started staying at his place on the weekends, stopped coming to bible study and would try to invite him to my soccer events. I couldn't stand him, but I just sadly kept quiet. Except today I heard a bunch noise coming from my moms room. I went to the door and peeped through the key hole and Larry was standing on the bed with my moms legs around his head while he held her naked upside down. I heard him saying all types of vulgar things about the taste of her crotch and she was just agreeing with his pee part in her mouth. I just sat down and started crying. I want my nice mommy back who didn't do those things. How do I get her back?

I just found a bad of weed in my daughter's room. I don't understand why she would want to do this. Teachers have always said that she's one of the best students, so I don't understand why she's wrecking her life. I don't have any problems with marijuana, I just don't want her smoking it unless she's over 21. Now her brain growth will be stunt.

My pa's father (My last grandpa) just passed away two weeks ago. I'm so upset. I cant make myself cry. The tears wont come. I'm not hungry, I can't sleep and I've lost a lot of hair. Are all of these things connected to the death of dear grandpa? or am I sick? help me

I am stubborn and i hate to be wrong but here is the situation. I failed my exams and it's all my fault and i accept that. However my mum is pissed and she has the right to be but she keeps saying how everyone is going to be talking about you, how embarrassing it is and you're **** basically. I keep arguing on how i dont care what they think. She says that is a problem and you need to care and prove them wrong. I dont care about proving a bunch of a holes wrong and i'll do my own thing. I'm probably wrong here since i hate to be wrong but here it is

My cousin lives in LA she's dating one of the guys from the Manson Family I don't know who it is I don't care don't even wanna know. I know it's not Charlie thank god. It's Tex Watson or one of the others I don't know his name. Those guys scare me. They're the main reason why I hate The Beatles. The stories change a lot so I can't keep up with it. My cousin I think doesn't live too far from the prison she has the guys phone number she's friends with the girls she said they're really nice she's met Charlie a couple times she said he's interesting. She's been to some parole hearings. She said Tex Watson is having another hearing in 5 years she invited me to come I said I'm not going anywhere near those people if he even lives that long. I'm pretty sure that's who she's with I don't know he's old enough to be her grandfather she's just 24 he's 70. She said she's heard all the stories from them she said they're as crazy in real life as they are on tv or in the movies. She got into them last year after watching Manson's Lost Girls on tv since then she's been fallowing them and the story. She's been to Sphan ranch , Sharon Tates house and grave site and Barker Ranch. She said it's pretty cool. She said Tex and her friend Leslie wants out of prison now. I'm not making this up. I'm being serious. I hope she and Tex don't get married. Don't you feel bad for me ?

my dad is a hard *** but my mom lets me get away with a lot more, I want to live with my mom.

Firstly my mom is married and has been for 17 years. I've never seen a sign of unhappiness from her and my dad. So she goes to this local gym and I'll go with her sometimes, because we're on a family plan. My dad rarely goes. There's this tall dark and handsome black guy who works there as a personal trainer and he's often at the front desk. He always converses with my mom for a little before she goes in to work out. Well just yesterday it went a lot further. He started flirting with her and told her things like she needs to "stop playing and see me" and "let me take you out." I expected her to put her foot down and reject him but she just kept laughing and blushing, saying "you're so silly" in a kind and joking way. I could tell that me being there made her uncomfortable. Then he brought up the idea of being her personal trainer, and she agreed!! She signed up and took his card. I couldn't believe it. I felt that was disrespectful to my dad and her marriage having a guy who asked you out to be your personal trainer. Now she's going to be seeing him every week. I didn't know how to react. It was the first time I've seen a black guy hit on her, I've seen other men do it but she never responded to them like she did him. It was sort of normal to see because my mom is beautiful. She's 38, middle eastern (Iraqi Chaldean), long black hair, 5'3 in height, cute face, full lips, and a curvy slim figure. BUT SHE'S MARRIED. Why is she doing this? Should I be worried?

I'm 14 and am naked in front of my mom sometimes. Neither of us mind this. Is this normal?

It's really irritating. When she scolds my sibling she tellls me about it and said that she said bad things to her. I told her, I didn't hear anything, and my mum said, you didn't hear her you can't just say that, I heard it in my heart, or some sh*t like that. I told her to maybe try to understand my sibling and she might stop hurting her feelings but she said in a kinda sarcastic-rude tone 'can we not talk about this' and then she was like , 'it's ok, it's ok,' and then she didn't want to talk to me. Its so annoying that she calls me to her room EVERY night just to say goodnight and stuff I feel like I just want to go to sleep without guilt. She also never admits what she done and puts it on us and says that we don't do it. It's like her defense mechanism, "I did something wrong, it's ok, I'll tell them what they did wrong the same' that's what she probably thinks. How do I tell her nicely without making her mad?

Last weekend I was hanging out with my best friend (we're both 15) and we were arguing about dick size. We decided to just take out our ***** and measure them because we were curious that's all. As that happened my dad walked in and he was so angry. My father was raised in the deep south by his grandparents so his beliefs and mindset are very different from a lot of people. We basically got into a fist fight except I couldn't hit back. My friend tried to get him off of me but he couldn't so my face got pretty messed up. He made my friend leave and he started yelling at me telling me he would not accept a gay son and that he would rather rot in hell a thousand times. I kept trying to tell him I'm not gay I was only curious. I've been missing school waiting for my face to go back to normal because my teachers would be very worried and I go to a school where if I even showed up with a scratch on my face they would automatically think i've been abused. My mom is on a business trip and will be back soon and I want to hide it from her because I don't want her to know what happened and what happened with me and my friend.

Ciao a tutti sono una ragazza di quasi 14 anni (tra 2 mesi) e porto una seconda. Sono alta 1.58 e peso 45 kg. Oggi ho comprato una 2b e ho visto che mi stava allora mi chiedevo se è possibile che mi cresca ancora nel corso degli anni. Premetto che il ciclo mi è cenuto tardi circa 2 mesi fa e il seno mi è cresciuto di colpo negli ultimi due anni ma da quando mi sono sviluppata non mi cresca più. Secondo voi mi può crescere ancora o rimane così? Mia mamma ha una 2 anche lei o qualcosa in più ma non arriva a una terza. È possibile che possa aumentarmi di una taglia ancora? Perché ho paura che mi cresca troppo o che rimanga così.... le misure eccessive non mi piacciono. Pareri?

Every time I accidentally do something wrong they yell and don't let me hear the end of it. for example. Yesterday I was getting extremely stressed because my step dad assigned me to clean the living room and vacuum it the second I got home from school and was trying to make it seem like it was hard because he said which includes the table and wipe it down "mom clean." when I got the vacuum out I almost ran over the cord and my mom freaked out saying "YOU KNOW BETTER THAN THAT I WORK 9 HOURS EVERYDAY AND THEN COME HOME AND NEED TO HELP YOUR STEP DAD WITH DINNER AND YOU JUST SIT AROUND ALL DAY AND DO NOTHING!" One time I got screamed at and almost grounded for accidentally stepping in my mom's pile she was sweeping. During a garage sale my step dad was freaking out because my brother didn't hear my step dad say go outside because he had his earbuds in and when he said I didn't hear, hold on. he said. STOP ARGUING GO OUTSIDE NOW! an hour later we came back he grounded all 4 of us for the weekend. for not listening and I said "we all went outside like you asked." he said "Another week just you!" Normal parenting or naw

I've asked before about getting my permit and license..and she says no..same thing about getting a job and college...she says I can't handle it and throws out stupid answers to make me feel bad..now I'm 18.. lost and stuck and she says she wasn't stopping me.that it was me who didn't and doesn't want to.and that's not true..now I'm juggling more than one thing.and I'm stuck. I have a deactivated phone,no allowance,which means no money, but that's how it has always been and fine with that..not a big deal..but I can't go anywhere and I can't stay with anyone..i can't even walk off without everyone making a big deal..I can't even visit anyone or hang out or NOTHING and since I turned 18 she's changed everything and now it's my fault..she says it was me who doesn't want to and that I don't ask.. it has always been like this.. and I haven't done anything to deserve it like I'm not a troubled kid doing drugs in the bathroom..so WHY.. she says I can't go to college.. she'll drive me back and forth and sit in the parking lot..no..why no??? reason why I said I'll do homeschooling so to make it less on her bc every morning she'll ***** about it driving me back and forth.I'm stuck.please help.I'm going crazy. My mother is a narcissist. I'm scared my life is over and she's taking over.Everything I do is stupid and dumb and I'm not capable of anything.. she's made fun of how I look,my weight,what I wear,what I say,what I do.she's denied abusing me.much more but I only have so much room

Me and my dad were close until he moved in sociopaths and con artists 4 years ago when I was 17 and he never stood up for me when they bullied me. He's currently seeing a con artist who's marries to another man and he buys her kids everything when I'm his only child. I'm currently 20. I don't work bc I go to school full time but he pays my bills but I have to live with my abusive mother. This really sucks bc no one is around to back me up.

Advice on getting my mom to let me drive. I just got my permit

my dad used to beat me pretty heavily up until a year ago and since I was a kid. often he would come home drunk and vent his anger on me, my mom also would incite him to beat me for the smallest thing (if I forgot to close a door, turn off a light etc). When I confronted them about it recently they just said that other parents beat their kids as well and that that s how I was raised and that I m ungrateful. Often people would see them beating me in public and would do nothing but watch, even when I was a kid (once my dad punched me hard in the mouth when I was twelve and left me bleeding and no one did anything) Am I wrong in thinking that they shouldn t have treated me like that? Idk what to think

I'm almost 14 and my (single) mom passed away in June. It has been difficult, but I've had a lot of emotional help and I am doing reasonably well. But I need to make a decision of where to live, and it is really difficult. My dad and I have next to no relationship. He left when I was 2 and we have barely had any contact since. He is offering to take me, but I think it would be really awkward, he's never really been in my life, he is remarried with kids of his own, and he hardly sounds excited about me now, more like he is "willing" because it is the right thing to do. The other option is my aunt, who is married to a wonderful man and has 2 daughters I am very close with. She loves me, wants to adopt me, wants to make me part of the family. And I want that too. But she has also been very clear that if I want to live here, that means her treating me the same as she does them, and her discipline does include spankings......only as a last resort, not common, but they do happen, and she isn't willing to negotiate. And right or wrong she is steadfast on this, and my age does not change her opinion. I've never really been spanked (like maybe once when I was little), I'm a total wimp about pain, and this really scares me. I'm a good kid and rarely in trouble, but I'm not crazy enough to think I'll NEVER get in trouble, especially because she is fairly strict (reasonable, but strict). So it really scares me. But so does living with a "father" I don't really know.... Advice???

...And I told The Bureau of State Hearings the truth. And that others they interviewed lied. That despite my circumstances, I can work 4-6 hours a day at least for now. I am allowed to advertise my services in the leasing office. " I know I need to help my ex learn to schedule, sew, clean, & cook, & do chores, & keep a house. But he is also my land lord. So what should I do? My classmates and teachers are not supportive right now, not of him either. I would be cooking, pet sitting, sewing clothes and upholstery for minor & furniture repairs and taking classes once a week, putting furniture together, baby sitting. I used to work as an Assistant Manager. But my classmates and teachers refuse to acknowledge my role, accomplishments, and skills from this career, including computer literacy and typing skills and lied to social workers. Is this a good idea? I think I should start with cooking and pet & baby sitting for now? Because selling my collection items and old clothes can only pay so much and so long? Please I NEED THE MONEY AND SO DOES MY MOM. I WOULD GIVE THE INCOME. Help?

I am a recent college freshmen who has moved across the country to attend college at the University of Washington Seattle campus. My mother has always been a wonderful, caring and giving mom. I appreciate her sacrifices more than anything. It s the reason I m here. However, she can become very controlling and possessive of me and verbally brutal when she does not get her way. An example of this would be me not telling her I went to the grocery store with my friend earlier in the day, She lashed out in a violent rant about how I was a lair, her methods of breaking all contact with me and that I m not worth her time and effort. She does this often when she a.) doesn t know my whereabouts, b.) my friends or when she s in a bad mood. Looking through my mail and threating to contact friends of mine she doesn t like are a problem as well. What do I do? I love my mother but her behavior is taking a toll on me in the process of finding my own way.

If she wants new shoes like that then she needs to earn straight A's like her older brother did. I didn't buy him expensive shoes but I did give him $10 for doing so well in school. She is in the 3rd grade and she has a D in reading all because she won't read her book at night like the teacher instructed. I have even read to her and she whails and throws a fit. She says she hates reading. I wish my daughter did well in school and didn't act like this. I refuse to buy ber an ipad until she makes all A's. Her brother is 14 and he is taking all honors classes and he still made all A's. He comes home after school and starts on his homework while she waits until 7pm to start. She gets home at about 245pm and he gets home around 4pm. She never listens and throws a fit when I try to force her to be like her brother (he is responsible, hard working, and ambitious). I want my kids to do well in school so that they can get a good paying job someday and maybe become a doctor or a lawyer. She cries everytime I ask her to even start on her spelling words. Does my child have Aspergers? (I hope not because my life would suck if she does). I took her tv away and some of her favorite toys.

I moved pretty far from my family a few years ago to create distance. My sister after graduating high school moved within a mile of me. My mother since having her kids moved out moved herself within a mile of me as well. My father visits about two times a week. My brother visits once a week. When anyone comes over it seems like they just want to gossip about one another. My parents yell at me anytime I start talking about confusing childhood memories, as if I'm accusing them of bad parenting. My siblings shut off anytime I offer advice, as if I'm lecturing. My therapist likes to ask a lot of questions, that I love to answer but I feel like I need answers. I do my best to embrace these people but they either yell or close off. THEY COME TO MY PLACE AND MAKE ME FEEL UNWELCOME. I don't want to break ties with my family but damn, do I have any other option? Thank you for reading and responding, if anything this was a good vent

I contacted my half siblings over 2 months ago, introducing myself and hopefully opening the door to a new relationship. They were welcoming to me as much as they could be, they hadn't really known I existed up until that point. We share a father who has now passed away and I"m only nineteen years old while they are in their early thirties. They both said they would like to get to know me and I obviously want to get to know them but I don't know how to handle it. I would really like to meet them soon but I don't want to push my way into anything. We haven't really talked much since around the time I had introduced myself. And all they ever said to me about meeting them is that if I'm ever in the area I should look them up. However I'm only an hour away so this made me wonder why they didn't want to plan to meet up. Should I give them more space? Should I ask to meet them or strike up conversation? I'm not sure if they were just being nice or truly meant it when they said they wanted to know me. I know it's only been two months but I'm just scared of being rejected by them. What should I do next?

My dad is a two faced person, in front of others he's so nice and does whatever people want or ask him to do. But when it comes to his family, he is careless, doesn't give a damn, and abuses the family physically and verbally. It's really tough and hard for me to keep up on life. Since I'm a student, I get lots of negative energy which leads me to have depressed days and makes me drained out to do my work for my school. Plus, my father doesn't let me out often, not because he is scared that something would happen to me, but because he is lazy and doesn't want to drive. He fills up his own needs and is quite selfish around us (his family). For example, he buys fast food for himself, doesn't even bother buying for us, and when I buy food for all of us, he gets mad and complains on the waste of the money. I mean I don't order food very often but that's just an example. He also does people's work first to please them, but those people would "****" on his face after they got what they want. Also, when someone from outside gets mad at my dad and yells at him, he stays quiet and doesn't defend himself, but when he reaches home, he lets all his anger on us and gives us negative vibes. All I want to know, is what the f*** should I do? I can't focus on school, I am mentally disturbed and tired.

My parents keep nagging me to make friends, I easily can but I have no interest in social interactions, I just want to spend time on myself and make myself better, smarter and wiser everyday but a 17 year old boy like me should make friends, my parents say to enjoy my adolescence, so am I okay or am I doing something wrong?

My older brother left for bootcamp(Marines) a few weeks after graduation, my parents joked about how they'd be focusing on me since it was now my freshman year in highschool. Well, it's a bout 2 weeks in and it's hell. She's made me join Cross Country, which I have no experience at and won't buy me snacks till I ve competed in a race. I can't compete because you have to run 3 miles continuously and I've never run before. She won't let me wear tank tops, or shorts and we've had long fights about it.She takes away my screens at night, which she's never done before and once I convinced her to let me keep them and the next day she took them away again for no reason. She's trying to make me do mock trials, she's a lawyer. She wants me to do yoga, I don't at all. She'll say anything social you do counts on your performance at school. So if I don't do what she wants, I can't go to the movies. This morning she told me to check off everything I've done on google classroom, which is useless because its not the site where my homework is actually marked down. She said it wasn't done till I check it off on GC. I finally broke down and told her this was not her life, it was my school year and she'd been extremely overbearing and mean. She denied it all and left. I cannot live like this. It is hell. Help.

I can stay out till whatever time and they won't even notice. I'll talk to them about my plans for university and they'll just be like ok and go back to watching tv or sleeping. They never come to my school parent meeting things or my performances. They hate each other and only live together because my mum's unemployed. They've been bothering me about getting a boyfriend since I was like 10 and IDK maybe they wanted me off their hands or something. I get good grades and do dancing and singing. I just wish they'd be proud of me. How can I get them to notice me?

His grown son and his wife are irritated, starting that he's always on a pity party. Personally, I feel for the guy and have thought to visit, even though he doesn't really know me. I can only imagine how he feels. Am I missing something? I *am* an overly sensitive person, so maybe I just don't get it.

It is very effective and has been used by my family for generations. This is the way I learned to swim.

Me and my cousin are both around the same age, I'm 24 and he's 22. The thing is I'm just tired of his **** and I'm sick of sticking up for him. I honestly think he may be a little bit slow but anymore I don't care because he is such a shitbag. It's so bad that even his older and younger siblings don't even like him, It sounds ****** up but I can start to understand why because I'm pretty much in their band wagon. It wasn't until towards the end of my senior year I started hanging with him because my parents moved a few houses down from him and his mom so we started hanging out every weekend since then because I live in an apartment across from his parents now. Lately I'm just sick of his bullshit that seems to be getting worse. He's always been very awkward person since we were kids but at the same time be rude and take pride in it but get very offended if anyone would do it to him and then get all depressed that he has no friends or nobody can stand being around him. Last year he moved in my apartment because he got kicked out for spitting in his moms face (which to this day he claims wasn't his fault because he was drunk) and the one rule was he needed to have a job in within 30 days. Basically he didn't because he has "too much pride to work for anything under 15 dollars an hour" even though he has no other work experience or college credits, so I kicked him out and he moved back in with his mom but we still would hang out. read update A few days ago he asked me to go camping and at first I said no but I needed something like that so I changed my mind and said yes. I picked him up and he asked if I could buy him a few beers and a pizza which sounded weird because pizza while camping is weird but I said ya anyway. Then he talked about a spot near the city so we wen't their. We literally chilled for 10 minutes and he said he had to go to a party Which I found out later was a bunch of high school kids and tried to take the supply Which means the beer and pizza, I snapped out and then he started acting like I was the one being a jerk even though I didn't want to go camping to begin with plus I paid for everything because he's a bum. He then acted like he was gonna stay and started saying passive aggressive **** about my side of the family and tried to leave again with the **** I paid for but I didn't let that happen and he just left empty handed. I mean I feel bad because the rest of the fam hates him but he brings it It's weird though because I honestly think that in his mind that everyone else are the jerks. I just ignore him anymore even though his mom kicked him out again but at least she lets him sleep on their screened in porch. He even still msgs me about buying him chewing tobaccoo a daily basis like nothing happened . It makes no sense About every 2 months or so he ends up getting his *** kicked by either a family member or a pedestrian downtown because of his **** but you would think he would learn but that has been going on since we were teens. To this day I kind of feel bad when I look out the window and see him on his moms porch, she still feeds him but won't let him in the house and I don't blame her but then everytime I leave my apartment he tries talking to me and when I ignore him he will say I was a dick that night.

I ve asked her to stop and explained how it affects me but she said it s not her problem and does it anyway. I understand her not wanting to stop but I don t get why she can t stop doing it around me like I don t care if she s at her boyfriends house and does it. He lives far away so she doesn t get to be around him a lot but I don t see that as a good excuse to ruin my life. I really can t take this anymore and it s becoming a really bad problem and is making my mental health so much worse. I can hardly get out of bed everyday and don t leave the house because of her I also dropped out of school partially because of her. I hardly talk to my friends and when I do talk and I talk about this they say she should accommodate to my mental illness but she won t so there s nothing I can do. I don t know how to get rid of this phobia I don t want to go to therapy because I ve tried it before and going made me feel worse about everything.

My uncle said to me "How could you be so smart but so stupid." Someone told me he meant that I have no common sense. Is that what it means? I guess I am 'book smart'. I have been in advanced classes since 6th grade. (I'm a high school freshman now) My uncle says that I "play stupid ". But I don't know what he means by that. Honestly I think what he says is just rude.

My friend Casey and I are 46. Years ago Casey lost her boyfriend in a bad car accident, she's still extremely devastated by it. Casey is my best friend and all I want is to be there for her in any way I can.. the anniversary date of his passing is at the end of this month, she doesn't like to be reminded of his passing, even though I know she still remembers.. I wanted to do something for her, to not remind her of it but as a little random act of kindness I guess you can say.. I wanted to send her flowers to her house on or near that day, just to let her know I'm there for her. With a card saying something sweet or encouraging like (we are religious) "God is always with you and he wouldn't give you anything you couldn't handle, stay strong and keep smiling.." you know, something that comforts her without directing what it's for. If that makes sense... what do you think of that?

Me and my dad were close until he moved in sociopaths and con artists 4 years ago when I was 17 and he never stood up for me when they bullied me. I'm currently 20. I don't work bc I go to school full time but he pays my bills but I have to live with my abusive mother. This really sucks bc no one is around to back me up.

I didn t know my dad until I was in middle school and pretty much he was an angry alcoholic for most of my life. I m 20 years old and I currently live at his house and I have been for the last two years because my mom and stepdad are having issues. He constantly talks down about women and financial issues from the past and he has a very negative personality especially when he drinks. I can t stand it and I have been depressed and suicidal recently because we fought and I told him to go die alone because he said something bad about my mom. I love him but I don t know how to help him. He has Hepatitis B and my mom told me he doesn t have long. He s alone at his house and I m the only one that is left for him but he won t change. I want to leave but it hurts mes me and I don t know what to do. If someone has some advice to get out of here then I d appreciate it. I m a musician and I want to get out of the house but I feel lost and don t know where to start or if I should stay.

I Am 16 years old, I have a sister that is 15 & we are 16 months apart. Over the last few weeks we have been arguing a lot, a lot more than usual. Me & my sister have always had issues & I can admit to being a bully in the past, but I have thought about my actions & made better ones. Since then my sister has took over the older sibling role & no matter what I say she's very rude to me. If I ask her a question I get a **** Up stop talking to me & this hurts me on the inside because we are getting too old for this & we should be able to talk about these things. I feel like we are treated like little children by the adults we are around because they are always telling us to stop arguing when they never really know what's going on. They think that we should just get over with when I feel like this is something me and my younger sister need to talk about. I don't like having to defend myself every time she says something rude. I just wish she wasn't mad at me all the time. It's like I did something to her & I have no idea what it is. I've tried asking her but she says I'm taking things to the heart am I just n crazy over reactor? I've tried to ignore her but it's hard not to talk to her. I Love Her she is my best friend. I feel like we are going to become just like my aunt & mom they don't get along & the older we get each year the worst it gets I guess I have to pray on it 🤷🏽‍♀️

So everyday when I get home from school for the past few weeks my dad is like drunk. He gets home from work a few minutes after I get home from school and he is like completely and udderly wasted. This has happened for the last few weeks now. He has had many alcoholic issues in the past when he is in this state of mind but I think this is the worst one so far, well beside the worst trip ever to Las Vegas where my dad was too drunk to drive us home to Arizona. I live with my mom, dad, and little sister. When he comes home his eyes are slits, his speech is slurred, he moves slowly, and he doesn't respond to half the things I say to him. I have long lost all respect for him and I hate him with a burning passion. My mom is on the edge now, she wants him to sober up but HE DOESN'T LISTEN TO HER HE JUST SITS ON THE COUCH LIKE THE DRUNK ASSHOLE HE IS. I AM SO DONE. I'm very close to calling 911 tomorrow when I get home, I just don't know if I can. This makes me very unhappy. btw I'm a freshman in highschool

Today my dad said "I don't want to kill myself but if someone was about to kill me I wouldn't run away" like I did not need to know that wtf

My mom always threatens to ground me if I don't get As. She says that if I get one B on a test, then she'll ground me of everything. What can I do to make her stop taking my grades so seriously?

She refuses to teach me how to drive or get lessons she won't let me get a job and expects me to live with her until im like 25 im 18 in a few months and I bug her everyday asking her please give me lessons and she won't let me because she says she had a rough childhood and she doesn't want me to grow up "too quickly" but it's holding me back in life , and my other family think I have borderline personality disorder and she refuses to get me help of any sort honestly this is affecting me so much and she doesn't even realize no matter how much I tell her this Even when my aunts ask why I'm not doing anything my mom says "she's too scared" no I'm not I don't even get why she does this and I try and defend myself and she says to be quiet and my uncle says he knows how she is and when I move out he will help me with my mental illness 🙃

Okay, maybe they re used to it and I just have separation anxiety, but it just doesn t feel right. I m about 2.5 months into college and I ve visited home about 3 times. I m about 4.5 hours away, and I kind of didn t choose my college on my own. My dad wouldn t let me apply anywhere else because he bought a trailer for my brother to share with me while we were both in college (he s 2 years older than me and my dad did not ask what I thought). He refused to even let me apply to any of the colleges I REALLY wanted to go to (some further, most closer) (even as a backup in case my college turned me down). The trailer is disgusting (ants and roaches everywhere, floor unstable in some places, paint missing in some places), my brother won t help with ANYTHING housecleaning wise, and my dad refuses to let me fix it up in any way (even just paint). When I get so frustrated with school and my housing "situation" and want to come home, he tells me not to come home unless I bring my brother. He claims we need to conserve gas and acts like we d each be driving a car all the way home. If I tell him it d just be me, he s like, " Oh, okay, just wait until next weekend, I guess." "Just hold off until he s coming with you." My brother hates it bc my dad makes him help with physical labor. If I feel like it s worth $40 of my own money to leave a place I hate (yes, HATE), I don t understand why he could be so pushy about me not coming without my brother.

Lets make it simple, I'm 16 and my mom babies me. She switches my normal bed-sheets to transformers bed sheets when i'm not home. She wants me to keep the Disney stickers i put on my dresser when I was 5. I'm trying hard to revamp my room to accommodate "guests" of my age group. Shes a large obstacle. She limits my diet and restricts my consumption. I am CLEARLY under weight. (127lbs 5'-11"). I politely ask for a gym member-ship and its denied. I have to make due with make-shift barbells and dumbbells as well as body weight exercises. Saying I should focus on school and being a good boy. Shes a great mom, very caring, but she does way to much for me. I mess up once and she goes "SEE KEEP TELLING ME YOU DON'T WANT ME TO BABY YOU ANYMORE." Piss off. Whenever I bring this issue up she goes "watch yourself/ watch your attitude." and I really don't have time to read any sarcastic comments coming from ******* know it all adults on this site. I want true advice. Like what should I do until i'm 21 and ready to move out. Thanks.

15 years ago, I accidentally became a father to a girl when I got a woman who's nine years older than me pregnant. We never dated. We just slept together once. My daughter's mother (I'll call her K), is literally insane. She's a sociopath and pathological liar who's the most manipulative person I've ever met. She comes from a rich (kind of stuck up) family, and for some reason, her parents believe anything she tells them and stand up for her no matter what. K and I have always had joint custody of my daughter, but since my daughter was born, K has been putting me through hell. I've been trying to get full custody of my daughter from the very beginning, but K always prevents me from being able to by making up bizarre lies. My daughter favors me and trusts me so much more than she trusts her mom — she's straight up told me this — and it makes K mad and jealous. K HATES the fact that our daughter likes me most and that I'm more successful and stable than her, so she tries to keep me away from our daughter and her rich snotty parents help her. A few months ago, K went to extremes and started telling her entire family that I sexually abused our daughter. I've never even come close to doing something terrible like that, so K's accusations are just...earth shattering to say the least. My daughter is on my side because she obviously knows that I haven't abused her, but every time she tries to tell her mom's family that her mom is lying, they just say, "you just don't remember the abuse because you've repressed the memories." My family believes me of course, but K's family doesn't and I don't know how to change their minds. No matter what I say or do, they don't believe me. This is ruining my entire life. K's family thinks I'm a terrible sick person all because of K's lies. I have no idea what other bizarre lies she's told them about me, and knowing them, they're probably going to spread this false information all over town if they haven't already.

i just recently turned 23 and have a very violent mother. i have four other siblings and my mother had always treated the first three of us bad but only 4 out of 5 of us live with her. when we were younger she would beat us violently for anything. she is always angry and nagging. she always brings up how much she hates our father and how we are too much like him and his family. the last time she hit me i was 17 but the verbal abuse never stopped. i attempted suicide once because i couldnt handle her verbal abuse any longer. its always been constant. non stop when ever we are home together. i have always tried to be an obedient daughter to her but mostly out of fear. im 23 and havent even had a boyfriend yet because she had always threatened me about having one. i dont have friends either cause she thinks if i talk to girls then that must mean im a lesbian. the only thing i do is work and school other wise she will start questioning me again. lately her verbal abuse has been worse and im having suicidal thoughts again. i get desperate because im broke and a college student. i cant move out but she wants to leave me and my brother behind so she can get with this young guy which i dont care if she leaves but i decided that once we part ways i dont want to ever have contact with her and i rather not even think i had a mother to begin with. she caused me alot of mental health problems

The father of my child and I have went to court about guardianship over my 5 year old daughter. Somehow, the judge thought it was not the best idea for my daughter let me split parenting. It could have been very Wed. and every other weekend. But the judge decided to give my daughter to he father and he is allowed to give me minium of only 4 hours a week with her. She is my ENTIRE world. I cant handle only seeing her 4 hours a week. Which after we went to a court, he was thankful enough to let me see her more then 4 hours. He would have her stay the night with me. All the sudden Everything changed for no reason. (He had gotten a girlfriend, which I have absolutely no issue with.) I have accomplished everything I have been suppose to be doing. Counseling. AA classes. But now her father is now only letting me see her 4 hours once again, out of the blue. I live with my mother. My mother has worked at Cook for the last 10 years and would do anything for my daughter. My sister lives here also; she has been in trouble in the past but she has turned her life completely around. My daughter means the absolute world to my family. And it kills them/me that she is barely apart of our life anymore. Now if I DO get my daughter for the 4 hours, she is not aloud to be around ANYONE but me... My family has never done anything to my daughter's father to make him not wanting my daughter around them. So after all the details, could he tell me that my family is not aloud to be around her? HELP!!

My oldest brother recently moved back home to go to school for his teaching credential, and ever since he moved back home, he's been insufferable. When I get home from school, my parents are usually still at work, so it's just my brother and me at home, and he's constantly trying to tell me what to do, and threatening to tell our parents if I do something wrong. Like, my parents would never know if I came home a little late from school, except now my brother can tell them if I am. Same with if I start my homework as soon as I get home. I can't ask my parents to get him to lay off, because if I did, then they'd know that I'm not always following the rules, and they'd just agree with my brother! What should I do?

My mom always talk crap about me. Its normal. I'm used to it, but it makes me mad and frustrated. She'll take everyone shopping but make me stay home to babysit every. single. time. it hurts, yeah. but I got used to that. Its been a hella long time since I got any affection from my mom. A real long time. I'm almost 15 now, and yeah, maybe she feels I'm too old for affection but I really yearn for it. I just want her to one day sit down with me and listen to my problems and let me cry in her arms when I want to. But we're not close. We rarely talk. It's awkward for me to have a full conversation with my mom. Back then, she used to never let me go out with my friends, but now she doesn't care what I do. My mom is pretty selfish, in my opinion. Well, maybe not selfish but like, for example she will complain about how she has to do every chore in the house which isn't true. When she's at work, my sister and I are cleaning and cooking for our younger siblings. She will say things like, "I'm going to leave you guys because you're all terrible. You're just like your dad." and to me she will tell me, "You have such a bad attitude. ", "You're so lazy. You never do anything. All you do is sleep." yeah, I tend to sleep a lot, but school, homework and studying takes most of my energy away and I get tired around 7 pm. Anyways, my mom treats me differently from my siblings. She will buy my sister makeup, shoes, dresses, clothes and other things. It kinda sucks.

Not too long ago I was broke just like my friends but I was just hired on the spot as a job a month ago and make 300 a week. My friends however are still broke. I wanna go out to dinner, movies, clubs, travel but I only have enough money to spend on myself..lol my friends would love to come but I don't wanna spend all my money on them..having a job is also making me out grow them a little bit..because they never wanna go anywhere and do poor people things but I'm already planning a trip to new York for my birthday next month..I love my friends but how to have fun even though they broke?

I just started my freshman year. I'm not asking because I desire to be free and out of my parents house; it's because I have wildly different beliefs from my family. My mom wants me out already; she keeps urging me to get a damn job already. In all honesty, I don't feel ready to move out, but I may have to do so regardless. Tips please. As I said I'm a full time student, and I'm only eighteen.

I'm 20 years old and I live with my mother. Ive lived with her all my life. I'm just at the age were I'm tired of the Constance arguing. I need my personal space. I can't have my boyfriend spend the night or nothing! Also my mom is in a position were she's need help physical and me being her only daughter I'm all she's got. But the constantly arguing is enough I just want my own place my own space to myself what are your thoughts on this situation of mine?

I am going to try to get my disability. I don't want to say what it's for because that's personal. But I will say this. My problems aren't so bad that I would need someone to take care of me or manage my money for me. Anyway coming home today in the car my step-father said that he and my mother might have to manage my disability case and money for me. He did not give a reason for saying that either. But he did say that if they were to become my case manager my money would go to paying the bills and other necessities. Paying bills and for other necessities isn't the problem. The problem is I don't plan on living in this house forever in fact I actually plan to move out soon. Which is why I would like to be in control of the situation. I don't mind helping my parents pay their bills. But I need the income. Because I am trying to get my own house, car, and other personal things that I absolutely need. We have talked about the possibility of me getting disability in the past. But I honestly don't know where today's conversation in the car came from or why he didn't give a reason for wanting to be in charge of my case. I am 23 and my problems aren't so bad that I need someone to take care of me or handle my finances for me. I have thought about sitting my parents down and talking to them about it. But my step-father it is a very stubborn man he probably won't listen. Truthfully he rarely listens to a word I say. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

I'm a 20 yr male who dropped out of college for severe personal issues, and am asking this question here because of strained relationship with parents and no friends. My goals are to write a book, (already have a detailed plot), and to lose enough weight to try out for arena football league. I'm 6' 2'', with wide shoulders, and currently at 287 lbs, was 355 last Christmas, and my goal is 220 by July. I'm doing this because the last time I felt happy was playing football at recess and catching the ball. I know I can catch, I've always had good hands and have always been both strong and built solid,(especially considering I never worked out before all this.) I want to play Tight End. By far I'm most confident in my hands. I'm still pretty fat, but I have a exercise program that I increase every workout, including using both a treadmill, and lifting. I played in middle school as a linemen, but had to quit in football because I was too fat. But multiple times people have said my body build is made for football, so my body can handle it. I know my chances of getting to the NFL are slim even if I get the most fit I've ever been, but just trying out for and making an AFL team would be awesome to me. I've been researching the arena football league and I know each team has open tryouts to anyone every summer. My only concern is if I'll be physically ready by then. Sorry if this is rambling on, its just that this subject is really important to me and this makes me anxious. Thanks