Family: Question: I feel so embarrassed?

Question: I feel so embarrassed?

Posted: 27 Sep 2017 03:05 PM PDT

So I just got out of my bath. I needed to walk to the kitchen to get a pack of crackers cause im hungry. I was walking there and I was blasting cheesy pop music. It made me all bouncy, so I started running there. As I ran into the kitchen my towel fell off. I thought oh well, im home alone anyways. Then I heard my dads voice call my name and I turned around to see him laying on the couch. I immediately grabbed my towel and covered it. I turned off the music and then he told me to not walk around the house naked. I felt so embarrassed especially because he saw my butt and the loud extremely cheesy pop music. I just walked back to my room. I never got my crackers So now im just sitting in my room and idk what to do. Im too embarrassed to do anything. What do you think I should do? Pretend it never happened?

Question: Do I have a right to object to family trip?

Posted: 27 Sep 2017 03:03 PM PDT

I will graduate from college in December, and my parents are taking me on a trip. My mother is paying for everything except my clothing, food, and personal items. We planned the trip together, and then she invited her 4 siblings and their children (all adult except for two teens) to attend. My aunt only agreed to take her family if we changed the location from New York to Disney World and my mother agreed. Now, my aunt and her family are taking over the entire trip and my mother doesn't even see a problem with this; my aunt even went as far as saying that we were not to do anything else in Florida but remain on Disney grounds. My aunt said that she wanted her kids to enjoy Disney World one last time before they get too old. She has created these cramped, minute to minute schedules of everything she plans to make us do at Disney World. I mentioned some things that I was planning to do, and my aunt told me that my counsins and I were not to run off and that we would all stay together as a group; my counsins and I are all adults 22-36, so I find this rediculous. Her teens (14, 17) are the only kids. I told my mother that I didn't want to go because it was no longer a trip for my graduation, and she told me that I have to go because she had already purchased plane tickets. My mother has now been harping to me and the entire family about how selfish and ungrateful I am even though I initially compromised and agreed to attend the trip, even though I hate Disney World.

Question: Read details to help me decide if I’m just being selfish or I’m correct and my family is being the selfish ones?

Posted: 27 Sep 2017 03:01 PM PDT

Ok well I was hanging out with my dad for my birthday and he asked me what I wanted and I was joking but I said a new phone because my phone is broken and I was on it at the time. He said yes and we went to go get it and it was a like if u get one phone u can get another free kind of thing with the iPhone 7 so my dad was like ok I'll give it to brother and I was like sure. A few minutes later my mom and sister start complaining that they don't get new phones (reminder: it was MY birthday) so then my dad got so fed up with them complaining and got them a new phone so my whole family got a new phone on my birthday even my mother who is divorced to my father and always fights with him and my sister that won't even go to see my father and my brother that always fights with him when he goes and see my father. And don't worry I don't do that. Oh and before we all got the iPhone 7 , my sister,brother, and mother all had the iPhone 6s and I had the iPhone 5c that was broken. So the point out of my big story is, if you were in this position would you think it was unfair for your family members to all get new phones on your birthday because every time I bring it up my mom hits me and yells at me to stop saying it's unfair and my 20 year old brother and 18 year old sister (who don't even live at home and have money to get there own phone) they just role their eyes at me. oh and btw I just turned 16 so I'm actually able to get a job so I'm getting one so I can pay for my data bills.

Question: I threw my girl friend down the stairs for acting up and now she wont talk to me anymore. How can I get her to stop being a pussy?

Posted: 27 Sep 2017 02:59 PM PDT

I told her if she cried I'll hit her again and she stopped crying.

Question: My Mom likes to paint those she resents as enemies to me and is disappointed when I don't hate the people with her. How do I break her habit?

Posted: 27 Sep 2017 02:54 PM PDT

It gets so annoying. Like she hates her brother so she gets mad when I go over to his house with my Granny for cousins parties. I've never met my Dad since I was aged three because she hates him. He must be too great or he'd find me but he did send me gifts I found hidden two years later so he can't be that bad. I am 14 and my Mom has done this since I was little. She makes me change schools on two occasions because of it also. How do I get her to break this annoying habit. My sister and I hate it.

Question: I think I might have a problem with my father?

Posted: 27 Sep 2017 02:52 PM PDT

I am a 17 year old female. I love my mother. I love her so, so much. I always have and I always will. She makes life worth living for me, and she has always been the brightest part of it. We have been so, so close, always. She is just so incredible and wonderful. She is the person I wish to be exactly like one day, because she is the most wonderful person in the world. And she tries so hard. The problem is, I have never gotten along too great with my father. I love him of course, and we have our fun times... but there's always been tension and fighting and he could never be the same to me as my mother. As I get older, though.., I don't know, feelings of something arise more and more. It feels like jealously maybe, perhaps I feel he is trying to get between me and my mother? I don't know, it just seems he has always been a competition between the love me and my mother have for one another. And I hate that. i HATE it. I can almost sense something dark inside of him. Sometimes I wish he did not live with us, sometimes I wish it could always just be me and my mother. Luckily, my older brother has never gotten in the way, my sister hasn't really ever... but my father has simply been stressing me and making my head hurt more and more lately. I am confused, I don't understand and I wish that somebody could please help me.

Question: I did a DNA kit test for Ancestry and learned my Dad was not really my Dad. What do I do? Do I confront Mom? Do I find real Dad?

Posted: 27 Sep 2017 02:51 PM PDT

My Dad, who I thought was Dad, died two years ago. None of his family is related biologically. I still consider them family but I am afraid if I tell them I am not DNA cousin then they will disown me or consider me 2nd rate? I know my Mom was protecting me but she is a liar now at the same time. I am cutting myself I am so upset, half my family might now label me "other" or "2nd rate" like we do my brother's step-son. I don't know who my father is other then race (Eastern European) when my Dad I thought was my father was Scottish. There was NO scottish in my DNA. Also could this be a mistake? Ancestry says no but could it be?

Question: Is it okay to beat up that jerk who wont stop picking on my younger sister (16)? She cant deal with it on her own cuz she's very shy?

Posted: 27 Sep 2017 02:51 PM PDT

Question: My aunt has written to some of the family (not me) to explain her hatred of her daughter. Should I tell the cousin or would that hurt her?

Posted: 27 Sep 2017 02:43 PM PDT

It is a big long 17 page rant about how horrible her daughter is. She even blamed this daughter for her divorce from my former uncle who she divorced in 2009. My aunt won't even come to family events her daughter is at. The daughter is not the easiest in the world but has learning disabilities so was slower growing up. My aunt praises and worships her other daughter and ignores the son. She wants us to hate this daughter as much as she does but there is nothing to hate about her except trivial stuff. Should I tell my cousin I got this letter (it was in the form of an email) or would that hurt her more?

Question: Am I a bad daughter to think this way?

Posted: 27 Sep 2017 02:39 PM PDT

My mom and I have always had problems. My moms personality is she thinks a certain way and if i don't agree with her then im stupid. She always is right and has to be right. This year i turned 19 and i when i blew out the candles on my cake I promised myself that I would try to live life to the fullest and try to be genuinely happy. I know this sounds dramatic, but I don't remember a time that I was genuinely happy. My family was torn apart 8 years ago. My dad (the most supportive and caring person in the world) was deported for reasons that I still am not sure of to this day. From that year on, my mom became an alcoholic. my sister shut herself in her room, and I was left all alone. I had and still have friends, but I tend to keep everything to myself. I didnt want rumors about me to spread in school saying horrible things about my dad and who he is. Ever since my mom turned to alcohol she has become such a monster. I've never heard her compliment me or my sister. we are always too dumb, too fat, ugly, rude, just everything negative you can think of. It has gotten to the point where those words don't even hurt or offend me anymore. I feel so lonely because I have no one to turn to. My sister and I have gotten alot closer, but we still don't really like to open up to eachother alot. Its sad that I don't even have my own family to open up to. I have tried talking to my mom about her alcohol problems, but it just turns in to an argument every time. Im just really tired of this

Question: My dad is a jerk to me everyday and yells at me too. What should I do?

Posted: 27 Sep 2017 02:26 PM PDT

I'm 24 years old and in CFH(Certified Family Housing) and he has the card for it too. Well he yells at me everyday and gets mad and slams my bedroom door on me. I try to stay out of his way but that doesn't work. I have no where else to go. Because all my money is going towards bills. I stay in my room a lot. But he always finds a something to be mad at me about. My money is going towards: Rent,Utilities,My computer,clothes,food,house hold items,my phone,cell phone,and Dish TV. If he wants me to do something he yells at me. He never takes the blame. He blames everything on me. I don't know what else to do. I honestly don't want to even buy him anything for his birthday. When I told him yesterday that he is a hateful person he told me that it's my world and I'm just living in it. He also slams stuff a lot too. He also blasts the TV and he does this at night too. My mom is my legal guardian and doesn't say anything to him. I wish she would stand up for me but she doesn't. What should I do? When I tell my mom she just says he is trying to hear it. Seems my dad wants to start fights all the time. Well my dad broke something's of my mom's that she got from my favorite aunt and he tried hiding it from her.

Question: Can an abusive mother change? Cognitive dissonance with a parent who used to physically and now mentally abuses me and my family?

Posted: 27 Sep 2017 02:19 PM PDT

She acts supportive now that I'm an adult but every time she calls, she tries to shame or guilt trip me into changing my marriage, my job, my appearance and habits. Even my dogs are a drain to her. I still can't trust her and as much as I'd like to believe she has my best interests in mind but I have this sad fear of my mom that she is sadistic. Can a mom be abusive and invalidating in your childhood, and change later in life?

Question: Would you hold hands with your siblings?

Posted: 27 Sep 2017 02:18 PM PDT

Question: Is my boyfriend sleeping with his step cousin?

Posted: 27 Sep 2017 02:01 PM PDT

I have been with my boyfriend for 6 months, he has never introduced me to his friends or parents. He's close with his step cousin (his dad is married to the girls aunt) who he has currently known now for 2 years recently all of a sudden I've seen his other friends and her become friends on Facebook, pictures and posts of them all the time being uploaded ( at first I thought it was family bonding or getting close to new family sort of thing) Then a month ago he told me they were moving in together because it's easier for money for both of them. At first I was weirded out by it as there not blood related and he's only knew her two years but then I thought again she's his family so why am I so worried. Recently he started talking about her all the time. The most f**ked up thing was that last week when we were in the middle of having sex he just stopped and then picked his phone up and started messaging her!! WTF!!. I added her on Facebook and she accepted me. Yesterday I asked him if they have ever slept together before and he said I was 'crazy' so I mentioned that they weren't blood related and have only knew eachother for two years and he just then got really defensive and stated for him to 'stay out of it and that it was none of my business'. What the actual f*ck is going on?

Question: I want to drive my mom's Chevrolet Cruze car but they won't teach me what should I do?

Posted: 27 Sep 2017 01:03 PM PDT

Ok I really want to drive my mom's Chevrolet Cruze car but no one won't teach me how to drive it when I'm asking them they blew me off or don't want me to drive the car. They always getting high as a kite all the time my mom wants to drive her car too but my brother,sister in-law and dad refuses to teach us how can I get them to teach us how to drive instead of getting high as a kite? In case you don't know"High as a kite" means they smoke weed.

Question: How can a 15 year old earn money?

Posted: 27 Sep 2017 01:00 PM PDT

So I got nominated at school to go to Greece summer 2019 sponsors by EF, and the whole trip cost $3,610 plus $200 to buy whatever you want in Greece. I ask my dad if I could go and he said that he'll let me go if I make 95 and above on all of my grades. I've been studying hard and making 97 and above on all of my grades, and I've been trying to find ways to also help pay for the trips. So my friends (who also got nominated) and I were thinking of doing a bake sale and we were going to have a meeting at one of my friends house to discuss and plan all of this out. I ask my mom if I can come over to my friends house so we can discuss about the bake sale so I can fund for my trip to Greece. My mom then said that my dad decided not to let me go bc the trip cost a lot. He also sent the info about the trip to Greece to my godfather bc he have two daughters who's in college so he knows about these stuff. My godfather said that it's just like a vacation and there's nothing important about the trip. I read the letter I got and it said that it would look great on my college applications and that I have higher chance of getting accepted. So I basically have to find ways to get $3,610 myself. I tried to apply for a part time jobs but they say you have to be at least 16. I already tried babysitting and some yard but but that didn't work out. Any ideas?

Question: Who would win in an epic street fight, three teenage boys or seven adult women?

Posted: 27 Sep 2017 12:32 PM PDT

Question: If my parents had never met would I still exist and be born to a different mother or father?

Posted: 27 Sep 2017 12:06 PM PDT

Question: Does my dad have the right to take my laptop?

Posted: 27 Sep 2017 11:15 AM PDT

So I saved money for a looong time and now I've finally bought myself a gaming laptop. I'm not a hardcore gamer but I enjoy playing Gta sometimes after I've finished studying and wanna enjoy my time by myself. I don't even play everyday. Also, im sixteen now. But my dad, apparently thinks I'm addicted, cause he read on some random blog that all gamers have a dangerous addiction, and that if they are your CHILDREN you should not let them have their devices I their room.. first of all I'm not a kid, but dad is now saying that if I don't put my laptop outside my room he will away my gym membership??i find this discriminating. I know that if he did so it wouldn't be illigeal, but it really isn't MORALLY right. What can I do to make him understand that it would only cause harm?

Question: How can a 15 year old make earn money?

Posted: 27 Sep 2017 11:06 AM PDT

So I got nominated to go to Greece summer 2019, and the whole trip cost $3,610 plus $200 to buy whatever you want in Greece. I ask my dad if I could go and he said that he'll let me go if I make 95 and above on all of my grades. I've been studying hard and making 97 and above on all of my grades, and I've been trying to find ways to also help pay for the trips. So my friends (who also got nominated) and I were thinking of doing a bake sale and we were going to have a meeting at one of my friends house to discuss and plan all of this out. I ask my mom if I can come over to my friends house so we can discuss about the bake sale so I can fund for my trip to Greece. My mom then said that my dad decided not to let me go bc the trip cost a lot. He also sent the info about the trip to Greece to my godfather bc who already have two daughters who's in college so he knows about these stuff. My godfather said that it's just like a vacation and there's nothing important about the trip. I read the letter I got and it said that it would look great on my college applications. So I basically have to find ways to get $3,610 myself. I tried to apply for a part time jobs but they say you have to be at least 16. I already tried babysitting and some yard but but that didn't work out. Any ideas?

Question: My widow dad is lazy.?

Posted: 27 Sep 2017 10:46 AM PDT

My widow dad is lazy.I need a answer. My mom died 4 years ago. My dad now is 67 my mom died at 57 in 2013. My dad is lazy he don't clean up the house he don't clean his room. I have other siblings they live somewhere else. What can I do? I'm getting a service to help me while I am going back to school for my GED.

Question: My bad Mom likes to use me to get those she resents back. How do I free myself from this oppression?

Posted: 27 Sep 2017 10:28 AM PDT

Question: My cousin from Atlanta is in town this weekend. Am I being unfaithful to the family if I don't visit her?

Posted: 27 Sep 2017 10:26 AM PDT

Nothing against her as she is very nice, but I think it would be rude to show up at her parents house. I am a lot older so we didn't pay together as kids. Yet, her cousins her age will likely see her. Am I an unfaithful family member not to call her? I'd rather wait until a family event like a wedding or Christmas to see her so not to be rude to my aunt by inviting myself over. Yet, is it unfaithful to not see an out of town family member I know when they are in town? I should say disloyal, not unfaithful.

Question: My uncle is a bad husband. Should people other then his spouse dislike him for this or is it between he and his wife?

Posted: 27 Sep 2017 10:24 AM PDT

Question: Does this make me a bad son?

Posted: 27 Sep 2017 10:02 AM PDT

I am a high school guy with a step mother that is only 5 years older than I am. Dad must like beautiful women. To say she is beautiful is an under statement. She is gorgeous. Until she married my dad she was a swim suit model. She has a figure to die for. I ask her if I could post some of her modeling photos on my bedroom wall. She said here they are, choose the ones you want. I choose one of her in a micro string bikini and put it on my wall. Now when my fellow high school buddies hang out in my room they always ask me if I every spanked the monkey looking at my step mom's picture. I always tell them no but that is true only most of the time. Does this make me a really sick guy or just a normal horny teenager?

Question: I'm scared to go to my maths lesson because of my maths teacher?

Posted: 27 Sep 2017 09:52 AM PDT

She's always picking on me and 3 times, she picked on me as usual and I just stayed silent because I didn't know the correct answer. I feel really embarrassed also because I have social issues, but I'm one of the good kids in the class however she picks on me so much it's unbelievable. I discussed with my classmates and they think the same. I told my parents and they're willing to drop an email but I'll just look like a wimp if I complain right? Cus not being able to answer a question is my dumbness.

Question: Should I talk to my daughter about this or just let it pass?

Posted: 27 Sep 2017 09:49 AM PDT

I work in an office with 11 other women and Bob. He is 25, single and very good looking. Us single moms all wish we were 20 years younger. One day my car would not start so I asked Bob to drive me home. I promised him I would cook him dinner when we got to my house. My 15 year old daughter Laura joined us for dinner. As we were talking at dinner it came out that Bob and Laura were big fans of a local sports team. Laura asked Bob if she could go to some of the games with him and he agreed. They both enjoyed their time at the games supporting "Their" team. Some of Laura's high school classmates were at these games asked her who was that hot and sexy guy that brought her to the game. She just said Bob and did not explain. (Do 15 year old girls really talk about hot and sexy) At school they were all talking about her hot date and she did not correct them. I think she liked the attention. She did not lie about anything. She just let them believe what they wanted to believe. At first I was troubled by that but after talking to other moms I changed my mind. They told me that if that is my biggest problem raising a teenage girl, I should consider my self lucky. I know for sure Bob does not have any romantic interest in Laura. He has a beautiful girlfriend his age that joins them at most of the games. I don't think Laura has any romantic interest in Bob. She just likes sports. Should I just let this pass and not say anything to Laura about it?

Question: Why did my dad do this to my daughter?

Posted: 27 Sep 2017 09:45 AM PDT

My daughter is going to start college soon. The college is 100 miles away. She will be sharing an apartment with 3 other girls. She ask me how I thought she should get around and go the grocery store and other places as there is no public transportation where she is staying. I ask her if any of the other girls at the apartment had a car and she checked and none did. They told her they will use a bike to get around. She wanted me to buy her a bike. I told her with the high cost of tuition, books, and her apartment, it might be a used bike. She visited my dad and mom last weekend and she talked to them about the problem she would have getting around at college and that I planned to buy her a bike. My dad told her that he used to be an ambulance driver and he had picked up MANY people that had be hit on their bike by a car. He said the bike driver was usually DEAD or severely injured in a car bike accident. He was going to get her something safer than a bike to use at college. He then took her to a car dealer and bought her a new Kia Soul so she would be safe. She thinks she has the greatest grandpa in the world now. I am not sure how I feel about this. Dad did not buy me a new car when I went to college. Is dad trying to make me look bad to my daughter because I could not afford to buy her any car let alone a new one or his he concerned about her safety on a bike. How should I feel about what my dad did?

Question: Does your mother-in-law have ADHD like mine?

Posted: 27 Sep 2017 09:41 AM PDT

Trying to converse with my MIL is like trying to converse with a toddler! She won't let me get two words out my mouth before trying to finish my sentence for me. She reflexively agrees with everything I say (because she's a real people pleaser) sometimes before I even finish saying it. And she forgets everything and has a very fluid concept of commitment (doing what she says she's going to do.) Oh well, I guess I shouldn't complain too much because she's a really nice person. Anyway, thanks for listening!!!

Question: How to deal with boyfriends overbearing mother?

Posted: 27 Sep 2017 09:00 AM PDT

So I have been dating my boyfriend for a while now and he has moved into my house with me. Hes been living with me for about 4 months now, but his mother doesn't seem to get over it. When he moved his stuff out he completely cleaned that room inside an out an nothing was left. She had complained an was sad he left which i understand, because he is her son. But now its getting to the point where I cant take her bitching anymore. She told us she had to keep the door closed for weeks cause she couldnt stand it being empty. Well just recently she redid the whole room an put the same bed sheets on the bed as he used to have! My boyfriend is 20 years old and we are having a baby together, hes told her mult. Times he is NOT moving back an that he has a family of his own he needs to take care of. But she still insists to have his bedroom there! She texted an told him that his little sister moved into his old room. Okay thats fine. But then she said she set his bedroom up next to theres! And even texted to say she made the sheets like WHAT? my mom never did those things to me when i moved out so i dont find this normal. I get hes her baby but god damn. Then when i found out i was having a baby, she went an tried to get pregnant, but lost hers because she cant have kids which many doctors told her. But then she made us feel bad for our baby being okay and my boyfriend even said "you've had your kids, let it be my turn" How do i deal with such an overbearing mother???

Question: How to stop extreme sibling hate/violence?

Posted: 27 Sep 2017 08:56 AM PDT

So a little background, my brother and I are the guardians of our younger siblings and have been looking after them for over a year. Both our parents have died (7 years ago) and we took over from other relatives and started looking after them a while after I turned 18. I m now 20 and things are mostly good, except for our 16 y.o. sister having this extreme anger towards the two youngest (girls) who are 13. Everything they do irritates her, and she is awful to them. We ve tried everything...talking, counselling, grounding, spanking, moving them into my bedroom (they used to share) to give her some space, and I ve even taken her away alone with me for a few days to talk and just bnond by ourselves (I m not very close to her but very close with the younger ones). Now I ve just been stressed and have to make sure I know where they all are at all times and keep her from being alone with them. I ve spoken to their school and doctors but nothing is working and I don t have a clue what to do next.

Question: Mom and school?

Posted: 27 Sep 2017 08:55 AM PDT

I'm a first year in highschool, and well my problem is my mom. She wants me to be the best student in my whole class and to be honest I'm sick of it. I can't help my friends because "They're gonna be better than you and get better grades", she keeps telling me how I'm naive and stupid, and it just stresses me out to the point of crying for hours. She keeps keeping me in check, and tells me to study all the time even though I don't have anything to study for the next day (mind you the sch year only began not even a month ago). When I spend a nice day joking and being happy with my friends she tells me how I shouldn't do anything out of line and anger the teachers (which she knows I wouldn't). I've tried explaining that I don't hang out with two faced people ( had enough of them in middle sch) but she keeps to her beliefs. I know that all a parent wants is for their kid to be successful and live a good life but my mom is really getting out of hand. I'm really desperate, I don't know what to say to her anymore..

Question: I made my daughter eat her vaginal discharge today to teach her to take care of her body?

Posted: 27 Sep 2017 08:49 AM PDT

Question: Would he rather be at his daughter's house than at home with his wife?

Posted: 27 Sep 2017 08:40 AM PDT

I seem to think that my husband would rather spend time with his daughter and 3 of his 4 grandchildren than at home with me. Last night he went to his daughter's house to drop off his oldest granddaughter's bike because he fixed the wheel on it. She's 8 and he was gone several hours. A few weeks ago his daughter was at out house so he could change the oil in her car and she mentioned that one of her HID headlights was giving her trouble and it would cost about $150 at the dealership to replace it. He got to looking and found the bulbs online for like $20 and told her he could put them in. She gave him the money last week and he ordered them. They are scheduled to be delivered today and he just told me that he's going back over to her house tonight to put them in. This is the second night in a row that he's going to be gone over to her house. Many have told me that that's his daughter and she's got 3 of his 4 grandbabies and I'm making a mountain out of a mole hill but I just wonder why he's going over there so much. Is it because he and her mom are still an item. They claim to be best friends and she lives with her daughter. It's been 25 years since they've dated but I just think he'd rather be over there than home with me. What do you guys think is going on? Should I confront him on this?

Question: Should I listen to my brother and stop talking to the guy I like?

Posted: 27 Sep 2017 08:08 AM PDT

I told my brother that I started talking to this guy who is 21 and has a three year old son. I'm 18. The son doesn't bother me at all. In fact I adore his son. My brother thinks it's stupid to get involved with a guy who already has a kid with someone else. The mother has nothing to do with the kid, the father had full custody and hasn't seen the mother in almost a year. My brother thinks that I should want to be with someone who doesn't have a child yet and wants to have our first child together. I think it's dumb to decide not to date someone just because they have a child. I love children and I get along really well with his child so I don't see a problem with it. My brother also decided to tell all his friends that I'm talking to someone new and they all apparently know who he is and they say he's beaten his ex/mother of his child. But I have never trusted his friends and they only heard this from another friend who's friends with the ex/mother of his child. I have heard really bad things about the mother about her doing things like meth and smoking and drinking while pregnant. These are some of the reasons why the guy I'm talking to left her and got sole custody. My brother wants to to stop talking to him though just based on what his friends say about him. I've seen him with his son and he seems like such a great dad. Why would he be any different in a bad way toward me if he's so great with his son? Should I believe my brother and stay away?

Question: Do you, as a parent, get involved with your children's relationships and give opinions on who they should end up with?

Posted: 27 Sep 2017 07:06 AM PDT

I have two sons. The older was always a problem child. He was involved in gangs, he then straitened up, went to college and instead moved abroad and finally a couple of years ago he got back home. He's now married with a beautiful, young woman who we all love and they have a baby boy together. My younger was easier in that sense. He did well in school, never talked back, always did what he was suppose to do. He always struck as a mature, young man that had it all figured out. But we were wrong. He fell into a "light" depression at the time of my oldest son wedding. Then we saw a side of him we never saw before. He was petty and jealous of his older brother. His long time girlfriend was making all sorts of problems. Since then it has gotten a little better. We have worked on his issues, and ours, with a therapist as a family. But his girlfriend is something else entirely. No one gets along with her. She is cold and distant. She doesn't want to have a relationship with us. I just compare my relationship with my other daughter in law. We talk almost daily, we go out for a coffee and we hang out. I'm her mother in law but we are also friends. I wish I could have a similar relationship with her. My son has obviously chosen to be with her. But I fear my relationship with my youngest will in the future deteriorate because we don't get along with her. How do you handle that in your family?

Question: I got yelled at repeatedly by my step dad and then when I went over to my dads place, all he did was send me back over there?

Posted: 27 Sep 2017 06:09 AM PDT

He didn't even let me stay for one night! And I had to pay for my own cab ride over there like what the ****????

Question: What measures can I take to help my sick grandparents?

Posted: 27 Sep 2017 05:49 AM PDT

Hello, my name is Brenda, I'm looking for a little bit of advice. I'm enrolled in my first semester of freshman year in community college. This college is in the halfway point between my house and my grandmother's house which are approximately fifty miles apart. I am having a little bit of trouble trying to decide whether or not I need to get a job and move to the city my college is located in. My grandparents are sick, they are both losing their sight and hearing abilities, my grandmother is in a wheelchair, and my grandfather cannot stand for more than thirty minutes. A few days ago my grandfather got into a wreck, his third one this year, and I don't think he is safe enough to drive. I have two cousins that live with them, but it would KILL them to do something for someone else, plus they're always in trouble with the police force and court system. I would hate for my mom to have to leave my little brother, so I was thinking that since I'm young and have a flexible schedule I could move to the city that has my college and get a job there. Would I be putting too much on myself? My grandparents really need me, so I don't really have much of a choice in the matter. I'm open to organization advice and job searching advice. Anything that would help in this situation. I need an outside view.

Question: Does anyone else deal with resentment of being raised by a very controlling feminist mother?

Posted: 27 Sep 2017 05:33 AM PDT

I am the only daughter of one, and just realized I had so much suppression of my femininity all my life and was raised to put out masculine energy and had to relearn how to be myself. She had limited maternal instincts and I always felt that she hated children (and me when I was a child). My dad was the provider but I always got the sense my mom hated being dependent on him. She forced me to excel in school and talents and bring money in but she also hates my current husband because he is in manual labor and we are "equals". He is a good man with good, long-term habits. I'm beginning to see she made my provider father out to be a self absorbed loner, but also wants me to leave and look down on my husband. We are flexible in what we bring to the table in our marriage and we make changes to cover each other. Finally finding some clarity and wondering if there are others who grew up to notice this pattern. I love and miss my dad and I love my husband. She tries to repeatedly convince me of reasons she thinks he (and I) will be a failure, and that I should just "feel sorry for him and move on to someone with more to offer."

Question: My sister is a bully and my parents expect me to be nice to her. My aunt can be mean and my parents expect me to never speak to her again?

Posted: 27 Sep 2017 04:48 AM PDT

So how do I get them to see this so I can be nice to both even if not close to either?

Question: Why my mom doing too much?

Posted: 27 Sep 2017 04:47 AM PDT

While I was on my way to school my mom told me do I have a panty liner on and i say yes. She went right into my bookbag, pick up my purse and start yelling at me to get my pad. Im not on my period but she just drives me crazy. So i went upstair, get my pad and told her im going to miss the bus because of her. She said she dont give a ****. I went out of the house and on my way out she calls me a stupidass. And then on the bus she text me to give her an apologize.

Question: My Mom's cousin had an affair. Should the family shun him forever?

Posted: 27 Sep 2017 04:43 AM PDT

We shunned his sister forever when she had one but people seem more sympathetic with him. His sister died of cancer last year naked and alone and got no funeral.

Question: My Mom Is So Annoying!!!?

Posted: 27 Sep 2017 01:22 AM PDT

I Live With My Mom For Years,I'm Tired And Sick Of Her Ruining Everything And Blah. I Tried To Be Good To Her But She Shows Me To NOT!!!!.I'm Not Being Disrespectful But I'm Already Sick Of Her Nature. -She Is Currently Ruining My Friendship With My ONLY Friend,She Always Find The "Bad" In My Friend,I've Been With My Friends For 8 Years But My Mom Is Going To End THIS Step By Step!,You Know She Is So Dramatic When My Friend Made A Little Mistake -She Suspects Dad Of Something That Dad Isn't!,She Always Suspect My Dad Of Cheating,Hey I Know My Dad Than She DO!,Dad Is A Good Person,Dad Loves Us And More Important To Us Than ANYTHING. -She Doesn't Stop Giving Things,Words,Acts MEANING.Like Hell?!. -She Suspects Me Of Being A Sl*t Even I'm Not Please Help Me,I Doubt Talking To Her,She Would Ignore And Beat The Cr*p Out Of Me!!!.

Question: Is it bad to hate being around your mom?

Posted: 26 Sep 2017 10:18 PM PDT

I can't stand being around my mom she always has a nasty attitude. She makes me wanna throw up..I just can't stand nasty people who are so angry and hateful all the time..there's nothing wrong with being upset but it's when you gotta yell at other people for no reason and put others down to feel powerful or better about yourself. I'm saving up for a car and apartment because I'm just so done and tired of her.,i just wanna be happy and feel free without having her there bother me all the time.. it's like dealing with a 16 year old ghetto drama queen with attuide problems when I'm around her.. sometimes she's so nice but whenever something doesn't go her way she treats you so disgusting... Is it bad? Sometimes I hate her

Question: My parent s won t allow me to get a debit card?

Posted: 26 Sep 2017 09:30 PM PDT

I m 18 and have a savings account. But my parent s won t allow me to get a debit card!!. Their reasoning is that its the first step to overspending and the credit card habit! So how do I convince them for me in getting one? (btw they know I ve never overspent my allowance and often save up) :( My parents are traditional Asian parents haha

Question: Is my mom ok looking.she feels plain?

Posted: 26 Sep 2017 09:18 PM PDT

http://imgur.com/a/rNXmQ

Question: Official records of my great grandparents, was my Puerto Rican side basically white? A lot info I have now?

Posted: 26 Sep 2017 08:55 PM PDT

My great grandmother I can trace her family going back into the 1700's. She's listed white on her birth record, censuses, and my great grandmother death record. My great grandmother was born in 1902 here are two photos of my gr grandmother in the one photo she's sitting all the way to the left where my grandmother (daughter) is sitting all the way to the right. Her mother/grandparents are listed white https://photouser99.tumblr.com/post/165774390276 https://photouser99.tumblr.com/post/162025709311 Her husband my great grandfather, was born in 1896 or 1898. I know his parents are from Puerto Rico as well, there's a census that shows his parents but the only thing is the mothers name is different because on his death record it shows Cristina Rivera but on the census it's Juana Marìa Rivera de Rivera. The thing is in that census the whole family is listed white and in all my great grandfather other censuses he's listed white and I believe in a world was he's listed caucasian. Here's a few photos of him, he had blue eyes and pale skin with darkish hair https://photouser99.tumblr.com/post/162025717211 Their daughter my grandmother https://videome7777.tumblr.com/post/161799566928 My grandmother half/full sisters and the lady in leopard shirt thats pale is her cousin and the other lady w/the baby is a cousin https://videome7777.tumblr.com/post/160514713983 https://videome7777.tumblr.com/post/162940844828 https://videome7777.tumblr.com/post/165783717118

Question: Would you confront your teen son if you found his boxers with blood stains in the trash?

Posted: 26 Sep 2017 08:38 PM PDT

Question: So clearly disappointment to dad?

Posted: 26 Sep 2017 07:12 PM PDT

I don't make much friends and don't talk to people at school and I'm happy with my situation. My dad is disappointed because I don't play sports although I have good form and I prefer small amount of friends. He can be rude to my sisters for being in band and is racist too and it makes me mad so I argue and he gets infuriated. Anyways I'm definitely a disappointment and he shows it well. What do I do?

Question: I think my step dad wants me to meet my real dad because he doesnt want to be my dad and I really need advice?

Posted: 26 Sep 2017 07:12 PM PDT

My real dad was an abusive alcoholic and hes been in and out of jail for basically my whole life. I hate him more than anything in the world. My mom married my step dad elliot five years ago and hes more of a parent to me than my mom or my dad. My real dad and my mom letting him stick around for so long really screwed me up. I'm angry all the time and it took me a really long time to be ok with elliot and I finally feel like I have a parent and then this happens. Elliot takes me and my brothers to this AA program for kids of addicts and after we left we dropped my brothers off and he told me my dad is I guess doing good on probation this time or something and he wants to see us. I wish he never told me that I finally was forgetting about that prick and I felt like elliot was like my dad. he makes dinner he shoots hoops he just talks to me like I think parents are supposed to. My dad never did that stuff. He was horrible what he did to us and elliot knows the details hes a cop. I dont understand why he would want us seeing him he hates him even more than I do I think. I thought he was like my dad and then he wants me to see my real dad do you think he knew I was starting to think of him as my dad instead and wasnt ok with it? I dont know what to do. Im so mad all the time and I hate being mad it takes over everything in me and I hate it I honestly wish my mom never even met him at this point its worse feeling like two dads didnt want me when I never even really got to have one

Question: My sister lives rent free with my Mom and is 24. Is there an age someone should grow up and move out?

Posted: 26 Sep 2017 07:07 PM PDT

She is 24 with personality of an eleven year old though has no disabilities.

Question: My Mom is mad I friended her sister on Facebook who she doesn't speak to. Should I block her sister just to please her?

Posted: 26 Sep 2017 07:05 PM PDT

I like accepting family members, even those who are harder to get along with like this aunt. Yet my Mom is mad I would friend her sister as my Mom does not accept family members and rather is estranged or distant from quiet a few. So should I block or am I fine? I am 16 and a female.

Question: How to tell my mom that I want to enlist?

Posted: 26 Sep 2017 06:32 PM PDT

I'm at the beginning (Late September) of my Junior year in high school. Since a bit before the end of my Sophomore year, I entertained the idea of joining the military. At the beginning of this school year, I decided that I would like to join the Navy. I dropped my most demanding class (AP Chemistry II) so that I could go to the gym after school (I'm a scrawny nerd). However, I lied to my mother about the reason of why I dropped the class. When I was younger, I would quit every sport she made me play, so she thinks I am also quitting chemistry class. However, beginning in mid-third quarter of my Sophomore year I started working out with my friends, and continued doing this even into the summer. I'm afraid that my mother will flip if I told her that I want to enlist. This is due both to my unruly sports record and that she sees me as more of an intellectual (she wants me to go to MIT), so I am not sure as to how or when to tell her. I do plan to wait at least a month or two so that a) I am sure that I want to enlist and b) So that I look more athletic showing that I can stick to a physical exercise routine. However, I do not want to wait so long as to that I am doing the college admissions process when I'm not really planning on college (she'll still probably make me apply to some colleges anyway). PS: I would prefer to avoid going down the ROTC route.

Question: Are there clothes on your bedroom floor?

Posted: 26 Sep 2017 06:24 PM PDT

Question: My daughter may have been molested.?

Posted: 26 Sep 2017 05:39 PM PDT

My four year old daughter just told me her brother (Which is my ex-stepson) touched her in her private area when she was in the shower at her mothers house. He is 9 years old, and his mom previously had concern he may have been molested on the biological father's side of the family. She had pretty clear details and this isn't something a 4 year old would make up. At this point I don't know what to do. The mother and I don't get along at all and I'm wondering if she might already know something may have happened. What the hell do I do? From what I hear, CPS doesn't really help the situation. We have joint legal and phyiscal custody. But she doesn't share any legal or medical information with me when she was court ordered to do so. Not even her phone number. And the stepson's grandmother thinks that if I say something to my ex, she will beat him.... But I have no idea what would happen.

Question: My mom is always sad for something I can't change. What can I do?

Posted: 26 Sep 2017 05:38 PM PDT

My oldest sister has been addicted to drugs for the past 4 years. She hasn't gotten worse and is living on the streets and selling herself for drugs in a different state. My mom has tried to pay for her rehab but she has always refused or left the rehab. My sister lost complete custody of her kids and is separated from her husband. She has made so many mistakes and each one hurts my mom so much. My mom is always crying and when I come out she acts like everything is fine even though it's so obvious she's crying. My grandfather is 91 years old and constantly getting ill and she is sad about that too. I don't know what to do to cheer her up, everyday she is wondering about my sister because she doesn't have ways to communicate with us. My sister does not want to be helped she says she wants to die of an overdose and doesn't care about her sons. I get sad and cry sometimes as well but nothing compared to my mom. I'm the youngest and the only one that lives with her. How can I help her feel better even though my sister will probably never change?

Question: Do you think the way my friend was talking about her dad is weird?

Posted: 26 Sep 2017 05:29 PM PDT

I've never met my friend's dad, so I asked her what he's like, and this is what she said (I literally copied and pasted this because she sent it over text, so these are her exact words): "he's badass. part of that is probably because he's young, so he's just...cool, you know? he'd be cool anyway, though. he'll still be cool when he's old. he's hilarious and extremely smart. he works himself to death and has always gone above and beyond for me. he knows what to say in any given situation, and he's the best listener in the world. he's a people person. everyone loves him. also, maybe this sounds weird to say about my dad, but he's gorgeous haha. like, gorgeous gorgeous. it's kind of annoying how much attention he gets because of it. i'll show you a pic so you get what i mean." She showed me a picture, and she's not wrong — he IS gorgeous — but am I the only one who thinks it's weird to talk about your dad like that?

Question: I’m just curious about my family tree and what are we?

Posted: 26 Sep 2017 05:15 PM PDT

So there's this girl and I think she's my cousin but I'm not sure if it's legit or not. Our moms are half sisters so does that make us cousins or like what percentage? We've been talking about for awhile lol.

Question: My mom won't let me go to a concert without a friend?

Posted: 26 Sep 2017 04:52 PM PDT

I'm a 16 year old girl and I really want to go to a concert in the city, but my mom says that I can't go without a friend. The one friend i would be able to go with most likely can't go because it's on a Thursday. It's a general admission (open floor) concert for three bands I'm absolutely in love with. I've been to GA concerts before (once at that venue with her) and she would go with me because she works in the city it's in. I understand that it's for my safety, but I've been to concerts like this with her and a friend and there would be a lot of other teenagers there. It's also after finals so i shouldn't have too much work. Is there any way I can convince her?

Question: Can I change my last name to my dads?

Posted: 26 Sep 2017 04:51 PM PDT

I have my moms old last name. She got married and now I don't have my moms last name or my dads last name. It's weird. I'm at dads every weekend so I do see him, just not as much as I see mom. I asked her if I could change my name to dads and she got mad. She said my last name is now her middle name and its a part of me. She thinks Im doing cause she got married. Its not that. I dunno. It's just weird having a different last name then my mom and dad now. I don't know any one else like that at my school. CAn I change my name? My dad is cool with it. My mom is kinda angry but hasn't said no.