20 + year marriage. I still have teens at home. One of the teens caught Dad/husband 9 months ago masturbating to porn. She waited to tell me until 3 months later when he was out of town. We did an internet history search and found out not only was he doing all the porn chat rooms which I'm not okay with as I always met him in the bedroom he was also seeking out random strangers on Craigslist to have sex with. I went to counseling with him and he lied to the counselors (2 of them) He's lied to me so much I can't trust him at all. Lastly 6 weeks ago I had to finally have him take a lie detector test and he didn't pass it. He claims he was just looking on Craigslist and never acted on it but there's been 12 + years that he'll admit to of his porn addiction. Not to forget mentioning I had many year where he was verbally abusive to me etc....So now he really wants to work on this marriage but it makes me physically sick in being with someone I don't trust. I'm trying to stay for the kids for now as they've been disgusted with him over this but it's making me physically sick. He thinks I'm wrong in giving up on him and this marriage and see's a lot of good in our marriage. All I see is lies and mistrust. I don't even know what to do as I don't have any family to reach out to. I feel like I've earned my way out at this point because it's so exhausting to be with someone like this. What should I do?

4 years ago my husband and I were going through a bad time in our marriage and I had an affair for a few months. We split up briefly but then my husband wanted to work on things and we both agree we wanted to stay together. I know I was wrong for having an affair but he continues to call me names and tell me what a whore I am and what a horrible mother I am because I had an affair(although I do pretty much everything for my kids). He tells me I should be ashamed to even show my face in our town and that I'm nothing but ****. I do work full time but he is always accusing me of cheating, which I swore I would never do again as long as we were together. When I tell him he is making me feel depressed and have a lot of anxiety and fear when he is around he will say I deserve it b/c I am a POS. If I try to have normal conversations with him he almost always will say I am being negative towards him, basically I can't ask him to help or suggest things to him or he finds a way to bring up what a POS I am and throws the affair in my face, even if my children are present. Once in a while when he really goes overboard and drinks to much he will say even worse things and suggest the family would be better off if I was dead, which will push me into telling him I'm leaving.Then the next day he will appologize and ask me how I think he feels after what I did but then says he wants to stay together and for a week or so it gets better but eventually it starts all over again. Any suggestions?

American men marrying Asian or Asian American women instead other women here in the USA

Basically he s been overseas an entire year (non combat zone). And when he first arrived, he started talking to another woman as a friend though we agreed we wouldn t make friends of the opposite sex outside out marriage unless it was a family friend. I learned of it from checking his social media account. I was pretty upset and I ve given him a hard time about everything for about 7 months. Reason is because he wouldn t apologize. On our anniversary I thought he forgot and when he called to awake me that morning, I was pretty upset and told him I wanted a divorce. We went back and fourth on it over the weekend and decided to try to make it work. He even apologized for everything for the situation and even recognized some of the sacrifices I ve made for him. Well a few days later he was telling me a story and mention some mutual friends between him and that girl. I was upset. We argued. After that, we patched it up but something was feeling off. After a long discussion he told me he wasn't sure he saw me in his future and he didn't know what he wanted with us anymore. So I got upset and told him to call me when he figured it out. He called back several times. And over a two day period we went back and forth again. We decided to try again. Well since it still felt off I asked what he wasn't telling me. He said he saw me in his future but if we broke up he could see himself with someone else. I asked so you are not in live with me anymore? He says he is. He says he's pretty sure he is. He is being stationed in another country and wants me to travel with him. Says I'd be going even if he had to pay my fair and we broke up. But he wanted me to know that with all the drama and hardache he's not sure if he can love me the way he did when we first got married. I told him I understand and would still like to go with him. Since then we've talked on the phone daily, prayed twice a day, prayed for our relationship ( I think usually at my pushing). Tell me he loves me and we have even agreed to have children together. My question is, I think his feelings have changed. But is it possible that they could ever be restored? Do you think he's upset and just needs time to heal? Or am I just settling for a passionless marriage and nothing could ever change it? I have also outright asked him if he wanted a divorce and he always says that's not what he saying he wants. But he says he feels like he doesn't make me happy. And it's insane to keep doing the same thing over and over which is true. But he seems confused. What do I do? We are both christians by the way so we don't believe in divorce but he seems like he may want one and just afraid to say it?

It's bad enough that they are actively seeking a married man, but what would possess you to advertise that?

My boyfriend and have been together for a couple of years and are very much in love. We have a large age gap (approximately 20 years) and he has grown children that are not much younger than me. I have never been married, no children, and I go back and forth between wanting to be a mother and having no desire to take on that responsibility. I ve been very honest about my changing perspective on having kids and he has been open to "crossing that bridge when we come to it". Lately, I have been imagining my partner and I being parents together. We recently had a discussion that ended in me telling him that I want to have a child with him, and we agreed that if things are going well a year from now, we will try to get pregnant. Later on, he told me how much he appreciates and loves me, and that even though having more children wasn t a part of his plan, he wants to give me what I want. I feel conflicted. A big part of me wants to have a child with him, but I can t help but feel deflated by his statement; I don t know if I want to have a child with someone who is only doing it because they want to give me what I want. Shouldn t both people want to have a child essentially irrespective of their partners desires? It s not like I m asking him to go shopping with me and he hates shopping, but he wants to make me happy... Has anyone else been in this, or a similar, situation?

She got her mom to phone my mom and tell her we are broken up it felt very childish and almost like a cowards way to end a relationship.why do people do this.

I stayed with my husband after finding out he cheated when i was pregnant.i found out shortly after our baby was born..i found out the trans lives in cypress in an apartment. My husband told me they didnt do anything that the trans just gave him oral sex that was it. And come to find out they done that a few times... I really try to get over it but idk how to because it still hurts a lot! And i feel like they done more then what he is telling me.i feel there is no way he just got oral sex from the trans unless 1-he payed for it,(he says he didnt pay for anything it was willing to do it for him.) Or 2-they did more.(he says he didnt have sex with it or anything.) I really dont know what to do or how to feel about it still i love him but idk if he is telling the truth and it still breaks my heart.please help me with this or if the transgender that he cheated on me with is reading this please tell me the truth on what happened.

married 7 years finally filed for divorce today and it really hurts don't even know what direction to take, anyone else been on this situation? Marriage was not working on and off for the last 3 years, but still hurt so incredible bad, please let me know what you think about this.

When couples divorce, what percent of the fathers who don't live with children afterwards have regular visitation with them. I'm specifically talking about the fathers here. I'm just wondering because I can't seem to find the answer anywhere.

Relationships and marriage are such hard work. Besides providing a child with a stable home and 2 parents there doesn't really seem to be any advantage for investing all that time and effort. Has marriage and committed relationships finally gone the way of the dinosaur?

So I got married about a year and a half ago. And she is now 6 months pregnant. There is a guy in her old friend circle who like her a lot and I had made it clear to her NOT to talk to him anymore because I am not comfortable with it. She says I am being too insecure about this and I am a psycho etc. And that they are just good friends and she does not see him anything more than that regardless of how he used to feel. And now she says she talked to him about a job etc. Now I feel she does not respect me or my feelings. What do I do? I don't want to aggravate the situation because of the pregnancy because I don't want to harm the baby in any way. There are many other situations similar to this. I feel so lost Please advice!

I've been going out with this friend for a few weeks now and we (mostly she) hasn't told anyone. We sort of just happened after she broke up with her boyfriend and we had a drunk hookup. We've been seeing each other since then and she's been at my apartment a few nights a week, only she hasn't wanted to tell any of our friends yet. She keeps saying she isn't ready to tell anyone and she has been with her ex for four years so I've just been playing along but I'm getting tired of it. I've liked her since we've met and I want us to be a thing so should I push her to come around?

I just need to know can i put my foot down now and tell my to be wife that what ever she says doesn't go anymore for example We have 3 children and it's like there not even mine because if I say some to them and she don't like she does what she wants If I say sumtn she gets mad

Because, what if a man s penis is too small (like 2 inches when fully erect)? It might not be enough to satisfy most women, because a woman s vagina has a lot more surface area and space than that. Any using other parts of the man s body just might not be enough and that would lead to a bad marriage. If it s forbidden, why is it forbidden? Any reference?

We've recently moved to a new country together and the men here are more passionate and flirty. I dont really care as im married and love my husband. So when we go out together other men stare ( i dont always notice) but he takes it out on me. It sometimes gets very absurd when he tells me dont swing your arm when you walk , stay close to me, dont sit like that dont stand like that. I feel like i cant breathe like hes controlling my every move. He gets mad when i wear shorts when we go out of the house. But its like plus 35 degrees here. Is this normal for a man's behaviour? Does this pass?

I married an algerian very young straight our of high school and it was my biggest mistake, it's lasted 7 years no children involved, gladly now I am divorced. I wish it had never happened he was not the person i thought he was even though he was 18 and I was 19 , I guess I didnt know better I was young and naive. The First Year Was Great And the years to follow were hell, full of lies, cheating, verbal abuse and attempt to almost kill me ( that's another story) yes he took care of me financially, yet I was alone, I finally got the courage to leave. It's now a Closed chapter in my life yet sometimes it hits me how can someone be soo cruel and evil, it was basically a fake marriage as he used me to fix his papers, I just felt so. Cheated an lied to. Anyone have any stories about marrying a foreigner please share in would like to hear your story .

My husband has been telling me he wants a son. If I got off birth control w/o tellin him and get pregnant would it be a good surprise or selfish .

My husband told me that he would like to include a Woman into our relationship when it comes to sex. He said he wants her to eat me out while he has his p@nice in my rectum. I told him that your wifey should be sufficient for you and you shouldn't be desiring another woman. He said it's human nature. I told him, if you want to play that game then let's bring a man into our bedroom so I can watch him tear your rectum up until you bleed. He didn't say anything. So, we engaged in intercourse, while I was on top of his face, riding back and forth, he bites my v@gina and says "you slut." I shocked him in his lip and it busted open. Police were called but he didn't get arrested because he's a cop and it was his friend cops that actually showed up to our house. We are sleeping in different rooms because we both refuse to leave because we own the house equally.

The first time I got pregnant, I had a miscarriage. My husband and I had testing because I wanted to know why it happened and everything came back normal. The doctor didn't really offer an explanation on why it happened, saying that sometimes women miscarry and she felt confident I would get pregnant again and should be able to carry a baby to term. We are blessed and my next pregnancy resulted in a baby girl. She's 2 1/2 years old. She's amazing. My husband and I agreed we wanted two kids though and we tried again and I had another miscarriage. I was devastated. It hurt worse because I'd already gone through it and it was happening all over and I've already had a child so I felt like I knew what I was missing out on. My husband was more upset after our first miscarriage. With this he was like you know we got through this before, we can do it again. I'm 28. I feel young and healthy and ready to try again. I'll admit the miscarriage was 3 months ago. He says 'we aren't ready.' I keep telling him I want to try and until I have another baby, I'm going to feel this absence. It hurts because it feels like he's rejecting me. He watches me cry over this baby and he just says 'wait a little longer babe, then we'll try?' He says he's worried I'll be depressed or anxious if I get pregnant again but I told him I'm fine and I will be happier when I'm pregnant. I don't know what to do. I know I can't force him but every time I ask he says no, and then I get upset, and he gets upset at me.

Being with him has brought out the worse in me. I know I can be a good wife, but I feel I'm just not good for him. Does this mean we should split?

Hey guys, I am in a happy relationship, atleast it feels that way. But I am worried about the sex, I am 27, married, crazy about my husband, he goes to work 5 days a week. And spends endless hours playing WoW from Friday night to Sunday. I want to have sex/make love with him like 3 times a week cuz I feel horny but he is ummm, tired, or climbs in bed late, or is watching a show till late blah blah blah. I am getting tired of asking for sex. Sometimes I grab him, caress him, bite his lips you know, his neck and ears and all that could arouse a man but .... it doesn t make him scoop me up and take us to bed. I don t know what to do anymore, I end up masturbating when he goes to work

How do you communicate what you want/how you feel to your spouse when they misunderstand you?

y husband has a good job with good benefits, sometimes he asks me to did a massage for his body which is normal! But recently he asked me couple of times to focus on his butt, furthermore, sometime when I am tired he said just massage my butt! last time he asked me to put my finger inside his butt hole! he said that kind of prostate massage my friend said he is not straight! Guys! Do you like to get massage on yours? and that is just fine? what do you think please