So I just graduated high school and I'm 17, almost 18. I was set to go off to college, but was unable to get a loan on my own to pay for it. And my parents blew through the little college fund that was saved for me. So right now, until I can build my credit, I'm not going to college. I've been looking for a job for the past 2 months, and put in over 30 applications, and haven't gotten a single interview. I've have a good work history and goof references. I don't know why I'm not getting any interviews. My mom's boyfriend recently told me that if I don't get a job within 1 week, I'm going to be homeless. He will kick me out. Is this unreasonable? I'm trying my very hardest to get a job. I recently had to sell my car to help pay for a family emergency, so I have to walk to work. My parents spent my college fund, so now I have to work, but I haven't gotten any interviews, so they want to kick me out. Is that unreasonable? I promise I'm not a lazy person. I volunteer at my local hospital in my free time, and take care of my 8 brothers and sisters. If I can't get a job in a week, they will kick me out. I've recently had to start packing my stuff. Are my parents being unreasonable?

I don t want to live anymore. I cant take living anymore. All my 10 years of life I ve been hurt, trampled, deserted, torn to pieces, ugly, my 14 year old brother was taken from me when I was 1 year old, so was my 13 year old sister, and people have avoided and acted like I m "cuties". Please help me!

My dad never posts anything. He doesn't even have a profile picture. He told me I shouldn't vent too much online. I agree that what I posted during my depression was a bit jarring. However, I want to just let everything go. Maybe a book, or an album but I have tried to express my emotions in a private journal and they don't work. One day I want to do what Oprah and Gabriel Union did and speak about their struggle to inspire. Then I read that mystery is the key to success. Yet I see a lot of internet personalities share theirnday to day lives. How do I stay true to myself, reapect my families wishes while pursuing success?

I want to live with my dad but I hate my younger step brother who is obnoxious and loud and gross and no one tells him to behave better. Also my stepmom isn t my favorite person and my dad is very strict. They also only have one bedroom and it s a very tiny apartment, my dad works 6 days a week so I d have to spend almost everyday alone with my stepmom. I currently live with my mother who has put me through so much. From her letting my older sister choke me and slap me to disappearing on days on end with a new guy each week and spending all of my dads child support money on these guys while I m home with no food. My mom wasn t even home for my 16th birthday weekend and any time she gets she spends it drinking or with a new man. She s even let one of her boyfriends push me and grab me by the arm harshly. I hate being here in general and I really hate being with my mom but I can t guarantee that living with my dad is much better. I ve gotten used to being alone and I hate being around people now. Living in a one bedroom apartment with my dad and stepmom and little brother doesn t sound great to me, I have no where to go there. Advice?

i only leave the house to go school. im not allowed to walk home. she checks all of my messages, phone, etc. she always tells me that people are only here to rape and kidnap me. everyday feels like sunday. i cannot escape. im constantly bored. we don't live in a dangerous area either: we live in one of the safest towns. my dad always tells her to let me goes places but she's controlling. he told her that I will get kidnapped if I don't get street smart in me. last time i tried going out to the movies with friends, she called the police on me. should i just start going where I want when I want, even if she calls the police on me? im in highschool. nearly done.

My mother is so evil and wicked. I am a junior in highschool taking about three AP classes. It's a lot of work and I don't have much time to do all of my chores (sweeping the house, washing the dishes, cleaning the kitchen, etc.) every day, but I still try my best. When I don't do it as well to my evil mother's standards, she lashes out and beats me, calling me a proud, evil, wicked, useless child who will never succeed in life. Yesterday I had to read an entire 300 paged book, while studying for a math test, and reading a full chapter for the my AP US test, so I had forgotten to fold some clothes my parents told me to. When my mom found out, she beat me brutally. She yanked me by the hair and pushed my neck between her shins so I wouldn't be able to move. I couldn't breathe. She then started punching me repeatedly in the back, near my spine was. She punched me so many times (I lost count after 20), there is now a red bump on my back which makes it difficult to lie down and even move my head. She always does this. Ruins everything. Then she puts the blame on me for getting whooped, even though I was super busy with homework and she knew that. I hate her.

So I'm 18 and I live with my mom and she's going through menopause so she tends to take all the stress out on me which caused a big problem between me and the person I'm (((spending the night ))) with and I don't think she wants to see my mom either and my mom has already told me she doesn't want to see my face Ps i used to stay at this persons house to babysit all the time and me and my mom just recently started co babysitting. Till things blew up.

Funny, I can t even answer that question myself. Him and I don t really have much in common. In fact, I can t even stand being with him more than two days. He lives an hour away. I always visit him, he doesn t visit me, well because he doesn t have a car. He won t ever be able to afford one because he doesn t have a job, he s a high school drop out and doesn t have any qualifications at all. Doesn t even speak English. (Which is very important in my country to get a decent job) worst of all, he s not willing to educate himself, even though I offered to help. He s religious, I m an atheist. He s religiousness is making him oppressive in a way, for example he shames me for drinking (even though I only drink once a month)

I m 18, ever since I got to the age of helping my parents clean and cook, they got used to it. They would ask me to do everything while my 5 other siblings do nothing, I have two older brothers and a sister who is 17. My mother treats her like an angel. Like she never does no wrong, but I on the other hand. My hand wants me to do everything and when I don t she says I did nothing for her. And when I tell her to tell my sister to do it, she says she to young she doesn t know anything but when I was at her age I was cleaning and I was cooking, what makes her different? I have a life, besides being used as maid. She thinks I do nothing, but sleep all the time. The only reason I sleep it s because I m always tired after doing the whole house, every part of the house. How do you expect me not to be tired? My dad actually sticks up for me, he knows she tells my sister do nothing. So I m glad I have him on my side.

First it was "maybe for your birthday. Then it was " You can pay for half" and finally it was just "no". I'm very responsible and i need a computer for my reports and projects. I can't always share a computer with my mom. I don't know the password so if i'm home before my mom is home from work, I won't be able to use the computer until 8:00. and my mom might need to use it too!! How can I convince her to let me have my own computer? (I'm in 10th grade so I am old enough to have my own computer.)

My mother has never been there emotionally all my life. In fact Ive never been able to have a normal conversation with her. She was very neglectful growing up and would leave us home alone for days or weeks at a time to go see her bf. Anyways now that we are adults she's become obsessed with holidays such as Christmas and birthdays. She buys a lot of gifts and expects a lot in return. If the gifts we buy her aren't expensive enough she will bad mouth us behind our backs and even sometimes to our faces. Its gotten to where I dont even want to participate in holidays with her anymore because we dont even have a relationship anwyays and I never see her because she is drama. One year I got into a car wreck and was unable to work and she criticized me for not getting her nice enough presents and so did my brother. The reality is I couldn't afford them and I dont have much of a relationship with either of them anyways. How should I handle this?

Okay so how much will it cost me stay home alone because my mom said that I have to since I'm sick and can't go to school she said I have to pay how much would it have to cost me.

So I m due to start a post graduate course soon. I told my mother in law about it a month before the course actually starts. She congratulated me but went on to berate my husband for not telling her about it earlier. She also started to emotionally blackmail him by saying that he has changed a lot since his marriage. She complained that she was not allowed to help us with packing our luggage the last time we went on a trip abroad and that my husband pushed her out of the room to continue packing and that she would never forget this till the day she dies. My husband only declined her offer for help and she threw our clothes on the bed and stormed out of the room angrily. He never pushed or insulted her. How do I get her to stop being such a mean, intrusive and manipulative person?

She wanted to plan this party of 10th of september, my birthday. And I wanted to celebrate my birthday with my parents AND with her, on different days. And she told me that she wanted to celebrate it on 10th with me, and I said I can't because I want with my family on 10th. And my mother told me 2 times that on 9th I celebrate it with my family but I didn't hear her or I didn't listen to her. So my mother wanted on 9th, my friend wanted on 10th, it was perfect, but I thought my mother wanted on 10th too and so I told my friend that on 9th I can, and on 10th I can't. And then she got mad at me and she told me about the surprise... She told me that she secretely called my mom to plan this surprise party... And my mom gave her money to buy a cake and all of that... And she invited other people too... And now I feel so ******* bad. She planned this for me. She wanted to do this for me. She invited people, she got cake... And I said to her that I can't on 10th. When I said I can't on 10th she called my mom, "please tell her that on 10th, because she said she wants with her family on 10th" and now she doesn't respond to messages and calls. I'm so lame. What the hell should I do? I know this doesn't seem like a bad problem but it is for me and for her. I destroyed her surprise.

I'm an adult, graduated college with a computer degree, pay my own bills and live in my own apartment. But my mother is still somehow convinced I'm rebelling against her, and it's getting in the way of our relationship. For example - I dyed my hair purple. I have a job, and my boss loves my purple hair. But when she saw it she just said I was too old to be rebelling like that and I'd never get anywhere at work looking like that. (She's always on about "proper" workplace attire that would be very out of place at my job.) It also drives her nuts that I don't go to the right sort of church, according to her. I'm Catholic, which she thinks means pagan. Again, she just asks when I'm going to "grow out of" all that. Same thing with my boyfriend. He has a good job, but it's blue collar and she doesn't understand why I would want to be with someone who never even went to college (trade school apparently doesn't count). So she's decided I'm dating him out of rebellion. It's making me not want to be around her because she treats me like a stupid child, and when I bring it up she points to my "rebellion" as the reason and says that I'm not mature enough to treat like an adult. I want her in my life, but I don't want to be treated like a teenager out after curfew in order to do it. But I don't know how to fix things. My impression is that she's very scared. In her world, adults with dyed hair are unemployed drug addicts, so if I dye my hair it's terrible and a sign I'm surely headed down the wrong path. It's not just a normal choice to her, so the only option for a "nice girl" like me to be doing these things is that it's some sort of rebellion. My issue is I feel like I'm being given a choice between "listen to her opinions" or "don't have a relationship with her." It's equally rebellious, according to her, if I don't answer her questions - plus proof I've got something to hide. So just not answering or changing the subject leads, again, to her getting upset and questioning when I'm going to grow up and stop rebelling. The only way I've found to not listen to her opinions is to not talk to her at all, and I don't want that.

So my sister got a job babysitting some kids we ride the school bus with a few weeks ago and today after school she asked me instead of my sister to babysit her kids, do you think its because my sister wasn't good or is it because she just wanted my to have a turn? thanks in advance

I want to live with my dad but I hate my younger step brother who is obnoxious and loud and gross and no one tells him to behave better. Also my stepmom isn t my favorite person and my dad is very strict. They also only have one bedroom and it s a very tiny apartment, my dad works 6 days a week so I d have to spend almost everyday alone with my stepmom. I currently live with my mother who has put me through so much. From her letting my older sister choke me and slap me to disappearing on days on end with a new guy each week and spending all of my dads child support money on these guys while I m home with no food. My mom wasn t even home for my 16th birthday weekend and any time she gets she spends it drinking or with a new man. She s even let one of her boyfriends push me and grab me by the arm harshly. I hate being here in general and I really hate being with my mom but I can t guarantee that living with my dad is much better. I ve gotten used to being alone and I hate being around people now. Living in a one bedroom apartment with my dad and stepmom and little brother doesn t sound great to me, I have no where to go there. Advice?

When I was 190 lbs my mom would constantly be calling me fat. I would eat a burger and she would tell me "that's why you're fat". She would shame me every chance she got even when we weren't fighting. The thing I don't get why she would call me names when she was heavier than me. I'm 5'5 and used to be 190 lbs. My mom was 5'3 and 280 lbs. I lost 60 pounds already and now she's telling me I'm too "skinny". I finally couldn't hold it any longer and I told her well at least I never make snoring sounds when I'm sitting down nor i'm fat. She started crying and telling me how ungrateful and disrespectful I am.

My mom is very abusive and bipolar. I m on vacation with only her in the Phillipines and all I did was kindly ask her to close the curtains because I was in pain and she was 2 feet away from the window. She s been nice this whole trip so what she did next surprised me, even though I m used to this at home. She begins to scream in our hotel and scream and scream and scream about how everything is about me and how dramatic I am. Basically just making stuff up to yell about. I was just sitting there ignoring her to try to not escalate things and then she got mad that I wasn t retaliating and saying I have an attitude and began to hit me with high heeled shoes and pushing me into chairs, I have a bladder disease and was already in pain so this made it worse. She says abuse is legal here so she can do whatever she wants to me. She threatened to punch me in the face, multiple times. Someone please help me I locked myself in the bathroom and don t know what to do. I m scared for my safety. She left to go eat without me because she said I don t deserve to eat now. I m from America and I m a 17 year old female.Please someone help me.

I've been at a low place in my life and I'm just not doing too great.. I have a special friend, she and I have a special bond.. my friend has noticed and has checked up on me a lot lately because of how I've been, I cried to her on the phone the other day as I wasn't doing great at all. She's helped me through a lot of dark times.. on the phone she was there for me, helping me tak through stuff but she told me she's monitoring me and watching what I post and making sure I'm fine or not doing anything dumb. She even put me in check the other day (got after me) for considering something bad. She even told me if things got worse she'd call my mom.. She's super caring to me, we have a close bond for such different ages but why is she all over me? I'm 19 and she's 60, we're very close friends.. like I had said, she's very concerned. She said I was like her own kid (she has no kids) and how she didn't ever want to lose me. She even threatens to drive all the way over here (my college) and whip my butt. Why is she so worried? And why would she just call my mom? That really bothered me. Why would she do that...I then explained how I didn't tell my mom much of thi because I was tired of her worrying about me and I don't want her to worry about me anymore than she already has. She under stood but still She even gave me her address if I needed anything (when I am around her town) to go by whenever I needed to..

I have a problem with my mother (who is 53) when i can't even tell her or show her what i like without her trying to get the same thing, if not first. Let's say if i tell her that I want to get myself a sequin long sleeve shirt, she will get a long sleeve shirt. (that actually happened, i got myself a sequin long sleeve shirt, she told me she likes it. and i said i was going to wear it on new years eve. Well, that week she got one almost identical and she wore it on new years eve) Two years ago I thought I was going to attend college that year (i didn't) so i bought myself a laptop for my school work. I showed it to my mom, and that week she got herself the same laptop. That year there was a commercial online about a tablet (kindle) on sale and i told my mom. But my mom bought it first. Lastly, my mom dyed her hair red. I told her it was beautiful and since i love Gothic style, i told her that her hair reminded me of a Gothic red headed woman. Today, she coincidentally buys herself gothic attire. I kinda went off steam and told her how i felt about the situation. She brushed it off and thought I was being and making me feel like i am the one who copies her by telling me that she is ALWAYS BEEN GOTHIC way before me. (I'm 31 and i have been gothic since 13) (Btw, i am not telling her that she can't dress gothic or get anything like that I am just saying that it bothers me because it is coincidental) I am tired that i have to put up with my mom about this. Has anyone dealt with this kind of problem with their mom kinda copies you? Have I gotten over my head? I mean does it sound that she is copying me?

I'm 21, currently unemployed after losing my second job, but when I started the second job (which I lasted for my record, 2 months) he added me to the plan where he already pays for my mom and 11 year old sisters (they both have new iPhones too). AT&T had a buy one phome get one free deal (I'm not stupid, I know that doesn't mean free AERVICE, just $0 for one of the PHONES) so he upgraded himself to an iPhone 7, and despite it costing more, got me the iPhone 7 Plus. No company would let me sign a contract since I have virtually no work experience and no credit, so you see why I'm on SOMEOME elses. The deal was I pay my mom $25 a month for the phone. First month, I paid $125 ($100 rent, $25 phone). The second month, I lost my job before I paid, so I was cut a break on paying. I was supposed to still pay $25 a month for the phone since that wouldn't drain my bank account so bad, but I haven't been asked to pay... Today, my mom's husband came home for his few days off of his virtually 24/7 truck driving job. He looks through my sister's phone (no child has the right to privacy) and decided he wanted to look through my phone, saying "I want to look at MY phone". I was scared sh*tless, and didn't even have time to clear things, the biggest worry I had was one of the fetish things I look at, fortunately I'm pretty sure that didn't pop up. He said "Don't worry I look at your sisters phone too." He wanted me to take my passcode off, but let go of that, THANK GOD. I was unable to get Yahoo! Answers even off the screen before having to show him my phone, and nervously said "I was just finding stuff out, like rent stuff, there's a bunch of trolls on there." He looked at my Facebook and messenger app. While he may pay for the phone, everything ON the phone is 100% mine, even transferred from MY previous device that I PAID for. Basically I kind of signed my rights on my own stuff and privacy of it by transferring it to a phone that someone else paid for. I paid some, but he signed the contract and paid for the vast majority of the total fees..... I'm playing a HUGE risk keeping things that I keep on my phone that someone else can (but I never thought would) make me show them. I can't even imagine if anyone found out I'm into ABDL. I'd die. That's the secret I was most scared of being found out. I feel so violated that he looked through my phone. He may pay for most of the phone, but it's all MY stuff from MY device that I paid for (iPod Touch). But in his eyes, it's simply his phone, period. I can say, if I end up suddenly leaving home again, I'm taking the phone with me. I literallg couldn't function at all without it, example, Uber is the only way I got to and from work sometimes. I have lots of problems and lots of support and secrets, dependency, no one can understand... This may shock you, but my mom's husband isn't my dad, should have been common sense when I said "mom's husband". Now I REALLY just want to get any job I can and move out ASAP, don't care what kind of sh*tty survival methods it takes to get by from leaving so early instead of saving and staying at home for years. If I go to college, I DEFINITELY want to be on my own first, I'm already past normal college age anyway. He also asked me why I go to a therapist (which he doesn't even pay a penny for). I've never felt so unsafe in my own home. My safe space, my bubble, popped and infiltrated, if I have no safe space I want to hurt people! Especially when they make fun of EVERYOME FOR WANTING A SAFE SPACE! How about you get your face messed up, make you wish you had a safe space.

So this has been bothering me for a long time now. My dad and my whole family keeps telling me to eat, and my dad recently yesterday said; If you don´t start eating Im going to take you to the doctor. I was playing a game and he literally forced me off it to go downstairs and eat. Literally the only reason im not eating is due to food tasting bad. And seriously what is the point in eating if it tastes bad? Also im not underweight, im 171cm and 54kg. He has been obsessing over it ever since christmas 2015 when he saw me in a dress. As I usually wear really baggy stuff. And now whenever anyone in my family sees me in something that isnt baggy they will say; Oh u need to eat ur too skinny blala. BUT I AM EATING, literally. I eat once a day, and ill just have pizza. But sometimes i dont even feel like that, as it also tastes bad. I also never puke out my food or any **** like that. I only eat pizza cause its something i can be bothered to make that tastes mehh. I guess the questions im trying to ask is; How do i make food taste better? And how do i make my family stop forcing me to eat 24/7 and insult me by saying im way too skinny even tho im not. - Girl age 19.

I currently live with my family and I m 17. We re under mandatory evacuation and they re not going anywhere, but I want to. They tell me I can t leave. Can I do anything? I m looking out for my well being and I d rather be safe than sorry.

My parents have been having a lot of conflict, and my mother's taken up complaining about my father every time I talk to her. From what I can tell she doesn't really want solutions either - any time I offer a solution it's "well that would be nice if he would..." She has a therapist but apparently that's not enough for her, she wants someone to talk to outside of their visits. I've tried to ask her to stop but she just gets upset and starts crying and going on about how hard it is for her and how she feels like no one wants to listen to her and she's all alone and all that. She basically says if I'm not going to listen to her problems, she can't talk to me at all if she "has to pretend everything is ok." That's not what I'm asking, I just don't think I'm the right audience for extended discussions of what my father is doing wrong. I'm an adult, I know I could just not talk to her, but I'm afraid if I do that I'm just going to lose the relationship with her completely. I love her very much, but I also love my father very much and I don't want to be forced to take sides. But even if we're talking about something else, the conversation wraps around to dad within 5min, no matter how unrelated the original discussion. Is there anything I can do? I feel like I'm trapped between wanting a good relationship with my mother and not wanting to listen to someone badmouth my father. I've been trying to tell her for about 3 years now. The trouble is she thinks if I don't let her talk, I'm being unfair to her and taking my dad's side because she doesn't have anyone else to talk to. I feel like if I'm not siding with her she sees it as me siding against her.

I want an honest answer. Am I selfish for moving out of my parent's house? I got into this college near my grandparent's house, and they offer really great classes. I want to move in with my grandparents, but I feel selfish for doing it. My parents are very petty people, and I don't think they would ever forgive me for it. They like having me around because I pretty much do everything for my brother. But he's in high school now, and I want to focus on my education. But again, this feels really wrong. Plz help!

My mom miscarried a couple months ago and blamed me the day it happened. I assumed over time she wouldn't but she still does to this day. It's drilled in my head. I was the one that cleaned them off the floor and was there through it all. I feel so guilty. I don't know how it's my fault but it kills me so much.

So I'm 22 and my Mother is 53. I've been busting my *** working for the last three years and now have a better job than I had when I first started working (got myself out of fast food and in to a small trade) but it isn't enough to support both of us and she had a job and promised me she wouldn't quit without finding a new one(this is the second time she's broken this promise). So after almost 2 years she quits saying they were verbally and mentally abusive, but instead of looking for a new job she just quit outright and now we are in a position where the landlord is kicking us out and I have no choice but to leave in my car and let her be homeless. I simply don't have the money/loan capabilities to make rent and I haven't worked my *** off in the sun for the last couple years and dealt with shitty bosses just so I could be in this position of trying to borrow money from a friend and then HOPE that something comes through for her job wise or else I'm going to be the one who can't pay my own rent next month. I have never felt so much guilt in my life its almost unthinkable to do such a thing. My Mother took care of me from 0-19 and even continued to take care of me when we became homeless the first time and lived in hotels because she again quit her job without looking for a new one first.. I absolutely cannot talk any sense into her. I give her so much great advice and she takes NONE of it. Doesn't care about the simplest advice yet wants to feel bad when its time for rent My question I guess is should I feel bad? It pains me to no end. She doesn't have any friends/family to rely on or anything like that. It's just the two of us.. Also my Mother has a bad back so its not like she can do a lot of bending and picking up for work. It has to be somewhat of a desk job which makes it even harder for her to find work. We've tried temp services, going around inquiring, to no avail..

20 dollars from my food stamps but he called me today and yelled at me to give him 30 dollars in cash I don't have 30 to give to him but I told him we agreed on 20 dollars in food stamps and you want 30 dollars in cash I can't give you then he yells me I can't come a family member from Jacksonville is comming I don't want you here do you think that it is fair we make an agreement and then he wants cash and he won't let me see my kids when there is a hurricane.

I am 20 and feel like I'm being pulled between my brother and new half-sister. My father recently found out that he had a 16 year old daughter, and she came to live with my parents and I in March. She's done some things which my brother doesn't like such as skipping my mother's birthday party, borrowing my father's vehicle without permission, and stealing my father's credit card and going shopping. I don't agree with her behavior, but my parents are handling it and I just see it as her trying to test us. About 2 months later my brother was injured in a car accident and had to go to the hospital and ended up having a concussion. My sister was supposed to meet my family and I there and pick up my brother's daughter. She showed up about 4 hours late, and we found out that she had been at her friend's house. By the time she arrived, my brother was unable to see his daughter as visiting hours were over. When my brother found out later, he became angry and asked my sister to leave his house and he told her that she wasn't allowed around his daughter until she could be more responsible. I left with my sister because we rode together, so then my brother accused me of encouraging her behavior. So now when my brother comes over to visit at my parents house or there's a family event, he's purposely mean to my sister and he gets angry with me when I try to stop the fighting or include her. My parents don't say much, just stop fighting or learn how to get along with each other. Or, she's your yonger sister so give her a chance to grow up and learn from her mistakes.

My dad is the worst and before u say I'm over dramatic plz hear me out that's the reason I don't tell anyone. My dad is always putting pressure on my yelling when I slip up on something that does no harm or when I forget something . I have never lied to him but he doesnt trust me about anything. He pressures me to get all A's. When I don't he yells and yells and yells calling me stupid and saying why do arnt u as good as the other kids. I've been having trouble recently no matter how hard I try and the progress report is coming soon and he started yelling that I need to get all A's or else. He thinks he can make up with it with gifts. Gifts arnt the same as happiness than he complains saying do you know how expensive that is do u even care why don't u love me anymore? I'm ranting so let me rap it up He plays music so loud it shakes the house even though he knows I can't take loud noises I started freaking out and having a small attack but he just said shut up and when I wanted to go outside to escape it he said I couldn't. Sometimes my dad makes me wanna KMS am I being over dramatic or is there something I could do to not feel this way?

Ok so, I haven't spoken to my father (he abandoned me and is very much a womanizer and i hate him to sum it all up ) in probably 4 years...and my mother, we speak on a monthly basis but, rarely any close or personal things just work, family matters, and thats it..i had a tough childhood and they shouldn't have/taught me things a 9-year old boy shouldn't know and now (22-years old) i still resent them for it and feel uncomfortable seeing them and she wants to meet them, to see where i came from...I met her parents and i love her family and told her that if we get married and have kids, i would treat them with my greatest respect and not scar them the way i was...and i even told her that i would take her surname at marriage because i just resent my family after all of the problems, should i feel guilty?

This is the 4th school year I ve been working for this family. There s 4 kids, the youngest is now in pre-k for 2 hours in the morning (I drop him off and pick him up) while the other 3 are in school 8-3pm. This year I leave an hour earlier due to my school schedule. The last 2 years I ve asked for a raise in the beginning of the year and have received it even though my bosses never seem happy about it. Should I ask for another raise this year considering the circumstances of me leaving earlier and them all being in school? I m very close with the parents (more like friends than bosses to me) and always feel very awkward and guilty when discussing money. They are also always busy and it s hard to find a moment to discuss anything without the kids being around ect. How can I go about this? Is it right for me to ask for a raise? I make a flat salary and work about 50hrs per week.

My Parents are on vacation, my brothers are 12 and 6 years old, I'm 15. I want to go to my friends birthday party, and my 6 year old brother is very sick, and needs medicine. I told my 12 year old if he could do the work but he doesn't know what treatment to give him. Its Saturday, I leave a 5 pm and come back at 9 pm.

I want to see him but it is the first time in two years and I don't know what it will be like. It's my alcoholic father who has gone sober for over a year now. I am 26

We went over my mother inlaw's house for a cookout last weekend, nd my hubby was doing the grilling but his mom made all the sides. Oh my god they were so NASTY!!! Everything she cooked tasted like disappointment and regret. If i tell her in those words she will be mad and probaly hold a grudge, so how can i tell her without offending her?

I would like to be ungrounded in the next week, and take off two weeks. I am a good kid, I have all a's and one b. I do my chores and I have all my homework done on time. I just have strict parents. I counted up my grounding days wrong and told my bf I was ungrounded two weeks before I actually was (which I didn't know) Do I ask my dad for two weeks off for good behavior or tell my bf I messed up the days. I feel like he would be mad, but he is also understanding. I need adivse on what to do, and how to ask my dad for time off.

I am 21 and my father has been absent most of my life. I found him on Facebook a few years back and sent him a friend request which he accepted. We have had limited contact since then. A few messages on birthdays and major holidays, but nothing more. I have been curious as to if he had other children for many years so I finally worked up the courage to ask. It turns out I have 2 younger sisters. 10 and 2. They have different moms, but I'm confused about where to go from here. I assumed if he said yes they'd be much closer in age to me. I want them to be a part of my life but I don't know how to be involved. Especially with the 10 year old. I know I would obviously have to ge their mothers permission to have any contact with them at all, but assuming they said yes how would I go about forming a relationship with them? We don't live in the same state since I am in college if that helps. I'm their sister and I would really like to be a part of their lives especially because knowing the path my dad has been on since leaving my mother their moms are probably screw ups too and they could use a positive role model in their lives.

My mom is annoying me with her mental estate that's not stable and i mean shes bipolar and quite handful, i am 17 and i wish to go live with my father, he is financially stable and such apart from my mother , there is no file for custody or legal separation of them andthey are still married.

So..I m a 16 years old boy I live with my family I love them so much and they stand right by my side when I need them...but lately they been so rude to me..especially when I m older they think Im kinda selfish and bad tempered or like I have bad manners or something like that I can see that i might get angry easily and we fight over that a lot but I m only like that cuz I m grew up with my bad tempered dad I just don t know how to explain what s happening..basically now everything that happens in the house they say I m responsible every time my Friends hangout they rarely give me permission to go even tho their parents are okay with it cuz they know that we won t have anything left than our memories together If the 200GB wifi limit is used I m the only one who watches videos and plays online games in house...it s really unfair..if i was like 20 or something I would start to work or make my own small business and be independent but I still need them cuz I m still a minor..I tried changing my self..I tried having some manners when I talk to them, I tried avoiding them but they end up complaining about something I m doing (anything) I m so confused..I know I love them..but lately i hate somethings they do Thank you for caring

My Son was in an accident, that was not his fault, one that almost took his life. He received a very substantial settlement and right before he was due to receive it he met a woman online, the first day he met her he told her about his large settlement ( He had 3 skull fractures due to his accident and a personality change) My son is 30 by the way. We advised him to be cautious. that not everyone has good intentions. She latched on to him and within a month quit her job, we found out she was 20,000 dollars in debt, had a small 6 month old baby they she was only allowed visitation and also that she sells Prescription Pills. We warned my son once again when all this came to light, too make a long story short he got his money, but says he will never talk to us again after speaking Ill about his girlfriends intentions. We were just concerned. No one in my family has heard from him. We are worried. Was I too intrusive mentioning my reservations? Would any of you also feel this may be a Gold Digger? My husband told me to ask this question, because I am questioning if the discord is not my fault.

Hello, so here is my story. I am 31 years old, I am enlisted in the Navy. I have mother and younger sister that I support, dad left us with no money and my mom had to get a job as a waitress. I was trying to help her while attending college but it was too hard so I made the sacrifice to join the military at age 25 to support them financially. The military was never really something I wanted to do as a career. I had my own dreams and goals. Today we are doing much better financially and I thought it was time for me to move on and pursue the life I want to live. I ve always worked hard in the military made rank fast and while attending college full time. GI Bill can help me financially while attending school and I had everything planned to separate. When I went back home I ve noticed nothing has changed with my family. my mother at old age still working as a waitress and my younger sister who I supported through college supplying her with everything she needed was just home sleeping and watching Netflix. I was so mad because I ve been through deployments and sacrificed so much sending them money so she can be comfortable but she is just giving up looking for a job. I ve tried to be supportive, tried searching up jobs online for her so she can submit resumes and even searched up job fairs but she would not attend. my sister does not see this and does not have the motivation to get out there and work. I feel she has gotten too comfortable over the years.

He started with "why do people say hashtag", so I explained about making it searchable on twitter. Then he followed up with "what's twitter". I explained a social media feed to allow someone to post 130 chars. Then he asked what's social media... it goes on and on. I know he's not up to date in technology but this is too much.

MY BELIEF IS TRUE. WE CAN LOVE OUR RELATIVES LIKE SIBLINGS, COUSINS, UNCLES, GRANDPARENTS, ETC UNCONDITIONALLY, BUT NOT OUR SPOUSES. IF WE GROW OLD OR LOSE OUR JOBS, OUR SPOUSE MIGHT NOT LOVE US ANYMORE. MOREOVER, WE HAVE TO DO A LOT TO GET A SPOUSE TO BEGIN WITH, WHEREAS RELATIVES LOVE US DUE TO BLOOD BONDS. THUS, ISN'T FAMILIAL LOVE STRONGER THAN ROMANTIC LOVE?

I'm not a troubling kid, I don't do drugs, I've never been arrested. My parents are kicking me out because my girlfriend is part black, they have taken everything from me except for my phone and clothes because I paid for it. I have no car, no housing, no money. What do I do?

I am 27 and live with my parents. I do not want to but if I do not they will literally lose their house because I help pay the bills. I can move out and live with roomates or even other relatives. It is just so embarrassing to tell women I date that I live with my parents, but I feel forced to live with them. They do not make enough to pay the mortgage. Do I lie to women and tell them differently? it is just so embarrassing.

I hate living with my family, but I won't be old enough to move out for years (much too many years for me). They constantly make me feel bad about myself, and half the time I feel like punching a wall around them because they annoy me in so many ways (they nag, they tell me how my weight should be, they say my taste in music is bad, they say my grades should be better when I get a B+ in something). I am simply not enough for them. I would much rather live with my other parent (they are divorced, one has custody of me now) but I don't know how to make it happen. I'm too scared of telling them I'd rather live somewhere else because I get in trouble for making JOKES half the time. They're too touchy and are basically a bunch of toddlers. Any advice on what to do?

Ok my mom and my brother both have been emotionally abusive since I was a child it actually caused me to have anxiety and depression I won't be talking to my brother because he hasn't changed much my mom has a lot when she does something that would hurt me I don't think she realizes it because I know she's actually trying to change, she even knows I thought of stop talking to her because she asks if I'll still see her when I move out I say yes when I really don't know, they put me through A LOT of emotional stress that wasn't necessary very controlling my brother still is so I for sure won't be talking to him, maybe I'll still talk to my mom and see where things go?

Last week my brother died, I didn't cry immediately as it didn't sink in but when it hit me I locked myself in my room for 2 days and didn't eat or answer anyone, when they brought the body home I left my room to see him, all my mates were there wishing well, my mom was so relieved but still hurting. I said I'm sorry but she understood and then my dad entered the room and said "they took the wrong son, it's true there's no god when they took him and left you", my mom got angry but I told her it's alright. I sat their with my brother talking about all the nights out we had and all the stuff we did, we were like best buds, my dad finally came in and we sat in silence for the night. When the funeral came around there were no more tears left, just a number feeling we were all asked to say a few words and I couldn't think of anything to say I just said "no words can describe the loss of your brother so if it's okay I'll borrow the words of another WH auden" and read funeral blues, I looked up and there was complete silence, my mom said it was beautiful but my dad tried to strangle me later wondering why I had no nice words for my brother, why I didn't cry when I found out and why I made it all about me, my sister also said it was lovely but it just made everyone sadder, I should have just said a few words and left. I feel sick and just want to hide or run away, but I know I have to be there and I need them too, how can I fix this? I feel unwanted and like I don't belong.

I love my sister and brother but I do not like them. we never got along we fight a lot and we never see eye to eye. when my brother died my sister suddenly want to spend time with me but I don't want to. she once yell and scream at me for not having fun. in the past my sibling would hit me and call me names. when I said they hit me I don't mean rough housing or anything like that I mean like they took a wired hanger and hit me really hard to the point where I get bruises on my body and my sister would stand there with a satisfied look on her face when I was younger. a few days ago, for the last 4weeks my sister had been yelling and screaming at me a lot. she scream at me directly at my ears, a few times to the point where I feel like I'm going to faint which lasted about 5 hours if not all day. last week I might of been suffering for schitzophrenia and she came yelling at me with frustration and anger (I think she was dealing with her own problem not sure what it is) and I told her to go away a few times and she said no a few times so I hit the wall a few times and screamed go away and she said no! and started to throw and smash stuff around not sure who started that. and I lost it and I took a shelf broad and I lightly to medium hit her arms she punch me and screamed at me. later I felt so bad about what I did and apologize but felt like I should apologize again because the first one felt a little bad. my sister used to hit me everyday after school with a wire hanger I didn't beat her I smack her light to almost hard with a shelf broad. I accidentaly took a small flesh from her knuckle. she said I had bruises but when I asked her to point to the one on the knuckle. I felt terrible what shold I do? I don't have schitzophrenia anymore.. I think when she hit me with a wired hanger and cored that was the past. ps shes 11/2 older then me she said she yell at me for not doing what I was susposed to do which was kindda true but when I do she would look for other thing to yell at me about. I feel like she takes her anger and frustration out on me. she have a temper problem btw. should I apologize to her again? I feel terrible about what I did.

I'm a married stay at home mom of 3. I'm overwhelmed with my daily expectations. And here they are. Take rabbit out, Boys bedroom floor Boys bedroom bed, Boys bedroom closet, Boys bedroom chester, drawers, Boys bedroom night stand, Boys bathroom floor, Boys bathroom sink, Boys bathroom toilet, Boys bathroom tub, Hallway floor, Laundry room floor, Laundry room clothes, Living room floor, Living room tables, Living room furniture, Dinning room floor, Dinning room table, Rabbit water & food & bedding, Kitchen floor, Kitchen counter, Kitchen stove, Kitchen fridge, Kitchen window, Den floor, Den table, Den furniture, Den toy boxes, Den fireplace, Sunroom floor, Sunroom shelves, Our bedroom floor, Our bedroom bed, Our bedroom tables, Our bedroom chester drawers, Our bedroom closet Our bathroom floor, Our bathroom sink, Our bathroom toilet, Our bathroom tub, Take out trash, Put rabbit up, See to after school matters, Cook supper, Do kitchen again, See to husband. Now yes this looks like a lot to right down but it's so much more in real life. I wake up every morning and literally can't walk in my house due to toys, clothes, trash, and dishes from the kids and hubby everywhere. The kitchen is unrecognizable. When the kids are asked to help they half *** it, hide stuff behind things, or there's a fight. I have almost shutdown completely with depression. Hubby helping is not an option, he has two jobs. Any advice to save my sanity would be delightful.

My sister (28 years old) made my mom cry and I have been angry at her ever since. Any advice?

Long story short... So a few months ago my 28 year old sister had an argument with my mom, and my sister was just super angry and she insulted my mom made her cry, so I got mad at her and stopped talking with her for a few days. So yeah now we are talking again but I still have bad feelings about her. How do I get rid of resentment? I really don't like it it's like having dirt in your soul. Please help I'm 15 I'm mad at my sister, not my mom... Just to make it clear

I amI am 26 but I've never visited a family member alone other then my grandparents and one close aunt. These two cousins are a lot older and we seldom see each other but since I'm in Atlanta I thought I'd call them. One is 30 and one is 42 and married with kids. I have offered to treat them to lunch and they have both said sure.