he did tell me ugly things when he left me. he said he no longer loved me, to go find another guy to marry. etc etc. he destroyed me and broke me. I will never see love the same again. Anyway couple of months ago he told he, he will never love another like he loved me. that even tho he with someone he will never lover her like he loved me and that he is just with her because he has to make a life, then asked me if I love the guy I'm with more than him. I told him I love the man I'm with more than I loved him even tho it was a lie, but i just didn't want him to know that. Anyway why would he tell me he will never love another woman like he loved me, yet he abandoned me?

The wife is the narcissist and the husband the enabler. The uncle is my Mom's step-brother

This year has been one of the hardest I ve been through. 2 family members died, I was diagnosed with a condition that hinders me from getting pregnant, I wrongfully spent the night in jail bc someone was using my id, and we just lost everything in Harvey. So it s been quit an eventful year. Our church is traveling to Poland in a few weeks and someone backed out and asked my husband to go. He talked to me about it and I said that it was an amazing opportunity to go but I desperately need you especially with everything going on. He got very upset. Apparently I am selfish and holding him back... just curious everyone s opinion on this matter. I m not sure what to do. I don t wanna hold him back but I just need him.

My husband hasn't been affectionate for awhile now. When I make random requests, such as to cuddle or even to have sex. He says me asking for it makes it awkward. And that if I would just leave him alone and not talk about it then maybe things would be different. He has said pressuring him is wrong. In January he asked for more blow jobs. And he got it. Imagine if I said told him that asking for blow jobs was a self defeating act. Now what? Thoughts?

and make sure all my stuff is out of the house too? That way she can't break anything of mine. Especially me.

Our family has hit a rough time with things out of our control that keep happening. Life happens and you deal with it, I know that. But lately, my husband has been so stressed and depressed about it. How can I help cheer him up? What are the little things I could do that would make a big difference? Or just help him feel like there's hope and we'll be okay?

So why to mind if the wife still have only physical n not emotional relation with their exes like before safely? Then may be the divorce rates would also get down,is'nt itThey (exes) can instead have sex in front of them (husbands) n the exes could say thanks to the husband for allowing them to use their wife as its the modern world, so people can have concensual sex with anyone and everyone, n that will also reduce the rate of divorces coz then they don't have to make hidden affairs? So why these modern people not applying this way? Rules? people don't follow rules n vows always, so rules n vows should not be a problem as people are modern now a days here? N regarding jeoluosy, if the husbands are not allowed to be jeolous of wife's sleeping with their exes b4 as they were only physical attraction n not love so why should they feel jeolous if the wife have sex with the same partners after marriage? They already know everything about her n so no need to be ashamed anymore to hhave sex with them? Is'nt it?

So I've asked this question before and one response was through adds?!?! HOW!!!! Like how do you make a add and link a different website idk where to start looking for stuff like that! then I looked up her history and behold there was stuff for add placement. Please anything will help at this point! I've talked to her and she's told me nothing's going on and she promises I've asked if she's making money through add placement but she says idk how to do that stuff but she's a IT at health insurance but she's known to be a bit sneaky! Please at this moment I need answers. We have 3 kids and I don't want to break my family up and I think she's afraid to get caught and make herself look like a fool cause her family and mine have got involved. I've told her if she's happy somewhere else go!! Leave me out of your games and she always says your my only love in promise but who knows

My husband has been friends with this women since high school which was before we met they go out to eat to nice restaurants he gave her 500 dollars for a car and put groceries in her house he says I'm being sexist about the whole thing but I just feel like their friendship is disrespectful and childish and it's a problem in our marriage but he thinks I'm petty and I should get over it. I knew they were friends when we first met but not it's just getting out of hand because we're married and I can't keep letting stuff go. What do you guys think?

We're 20, recently married, moved in together. The moving in together really is the root of the issues. Anyway, what happens when we fight is, she'll storm off to our bedroom, lock the door, and I'll go for a walk. We never really resolve the issue, we just don't bring up what happen & move on. Clearly not a recipe for success How do we get over the fear of talking things out?

The things is since my baby girl was born 2 years and half ago we only went once the 2 of us a few weeks ago and the relationships felt like a friendship! I dont feel the same i know i dont love him and i met a guy at work who i like and we became lovers ,he has a girlfriend in his country he came 4 months ago , he told me he doesnt love her anymore, but that is hard for him to break up with her ! He tells me he wants to take me to many places and we talk everyday by text.I told him im confused and that he is the reason im confused because my baby daddy wanted tk have sex with me and i said no he got angry ,but i feel like i cant have sex with him again after i had sex with this other guy we did it only once. I told the other guy bc im confused im not sure if we should continue talking he said" Do the best and correct thing , but i admit that if we stop talking I will miss you alot and being with you too!What should I do ? Im falling alot with this ither guy and i think i want something more with him !

Married 3 years and I take most the blame here, I neglected my wife s emotional needs to focus on my career and building a life for us. I didn t even realize she was hurting and feeling like her feelings don t matter. She mentioned small hints here and there but after she reconnected with an old friend and developed a connection with him, she realized how much she needs that emotional connection and how we lacked it. She says she s not in love with me and doesn t know when she was, I had told her to cut off all communication and that we go talk with a counselor and we did and she cut it off. We made progress with the counselor but she s admitted it s tempting for her to not text the guy, and that she s heavily conflicted because her heart isn t here and she s trying for her heart to not be somewhere else but she can t help that she doesn t feel connected here. She has been in the routine of life she s not been able to clear her mind. She s going to spend a couple days at her grandmas house and we made the guideline no talking to this guy. I believe she really does want clarity and I believe I can trust her on this. I m just scared because here I am ready to give her all my time and attention and build intimacy and it feels like maybe too late. I don t know. I won t quit or give up. She s still interested in seeing a marriage counselor regularly. She s felt this for the bulk of our relationship, unsatisfied emotionally. Thoughts?

I can't sleep at night. The truth is i am not very big man but I am married to a taller woman. Everytime i am with her it is awkward. I cant hold her and give her the feeling of protection. Everytime a bigger guy comes a long, ya know, i wonder what she thinks. Wow look at his fingers their so massive. At this point I feel like. Marriage and all that is just a luxury. I think ill just tell her were not meant to be together and just move on with my life. I shouldve just stayed single and became a ho. Then thats selfish. Because of my smallness i am prone to random fits of rage. I go to the gym everyday just to boost the little ego I got left. Im in a body I never wanted. Yeah I am attractive but once everybody stands it makes no difference. People say it's not a big deal or Oh it aligns in bed man, but when it comes down to it, a woman prefers a larger stronger man. I have honestlt paid my dues. I was willing to die for this girl. I proved it in the freeway. I know I have to keep proving myself but when the money runs out, when all the cars are totalled, and then what? Just another man to take my prize. And sad thing is. It happened twice.

I found out my husband cheated on me& now he wants to work things out. I ve been looking for another place to live but he s been trying to stop me from leaving m. He is a good guy overall& this is his 1st time he s ever hurt me so bad. I woke up this morning& my father in law was sitting at our table& so was my Husband& our daughter. My husband woke up& cooked breakfast and so we could talk. I haven t said anything to him in a month unless it was about our daughter or anything life threating& everyday within the month he s been trying to talk to me everyday. We sleep in separate beds now& he even tried to come sleep with me in the guest room. Sometimes I m fighting him off of me for an hour a day. I do love him I really do but cheating was wrong. My father in law agreed to take our daughter for the weekend so we can possibly work things out. I honestly still don t want to talk to him but I think I m at my breaking point. I m nervous this never happened to me before what do I do what go I say? Should I take him back?

I just started this job 2 weeks ago, I mean I work with school age kids and teens before at the youth center. But when I start working here early head start, it's not exactly what I expected, some duties are not part of my job description like home visitation duty or working too much in the office, I understand the new facility that I'm assigned to was still on building progress but still it really feels intimidating and overwhelming, I've tried to talk to the HR to transfer me but he said there is no opening on other facilities. I also realized that this job was not really fit for me, the pay is great but I felt like what's the point of getting paid if I'm not comfortable on job. So I was thinking to finish my last 3 classes in fitness specialist and apply a part time job for now so I can balance my studies and work and also support my family.

My wife and I have a circle of friends which include guys and girls. Lately she has been spending time with some of our guy friends when I'm not around. I made a comment about it and she didn't like what I had to say. I don't think anything is going on but how can I be sure. I feel weird about the whole thing plus it doesn't look good. I can't talk to her about it because I know she will say I'm overreacting. If I were hanging around our female friends without her she would be upset.

Pls someone give me advice, i've now going on random decision, then i suddenly offer my wife to live away from my parents and rent a house for two of us. Here is little story. Strugle between us started when she entered buy and sell, she made an offer to these people then after a month theyre demanding for refund because no unit is received then suddenly when it was discussed in police station she said that the money was scammed but cant show any conversation of her and the supplier.. After that she is under emotional stress and she cant even eat and sleep. After a week i've got my sallary and said to her that we will pay the loss money in installment. Then day later when one buyer go to our house asking for the refund because i promised to pay 1 person every sallary and that person is 1st, when asking my wife to give the payment she said that it was missing again followed by an argument, then i silence my self to cool down, then suddenly she pack things and leave the house. I also able to know that she is going to a guy and spending night together, also i found that theyre having sex through recorded phone call Please someone give me an advice if i have to do what i offered her, i was worrying what if we are living in house we rent then when something went wrong instead of staying at home and wait for me arrive from work she will leave again without any notice. Ps. When she is at home she always leave after us having arguments, leaving occurs when i was at work.

Let's be real, people get married today generally for the benefit of two incomes. Not because they're truly in love with eachother, that's it!

I m super romantic, I do chores, I compliment her, and she never does anything to initiate :( I love her so much I don t know what to do...

Ive always had problems with my husband. I got pregnant with my then bf now husband. around 5 months we argued one of many days so.... I went out and coincidently saw a old high school friend. I instantly was impressed. he knew I was pregnant. we started talking for a few months. he accepted me and knew I had a kid on the way. He asked for my hand in marriage. he told me he would provide for me and my daughter. he promised me the world. I was pregnant & hormonal. I didn't think I could leave my then boyfriend & now my husband for some new guy. I felt like I was robbing my daughter from her dad. so I picked my daughters father regardless of all the problems we had. time passed by & the guy I declined meet a girl. he gave her a kid & took care of the girls kids (she had more.) now their isn't a day that goes by that I regret not picking him. everything he promised me he did with a new girl. and I'm still stuck with my daughters father. its not to bad I guess. but I know I can be happier. I guess I stick around for my daughter. sometimes I wish I knew if he ever thinks of me... and what upsets me the most is that this was a huge downgrade. but I guess love has no face. and if he is happy than I am happy for him.

First of all, I don't know why I'm called. I'm not even a member of their family. I feel so out of place there. I'd much rather stay home.

oldprof - most people desrcibe 'love' as something similar to stockholm syndrome, how then would you describe it? You can share with anyone and still not 'love' them, explain. baby boomer rock fan - See that description you made indicates stockholm syndrome because it does not necessitate that the person you 'love' does the same for you in turn. Unfortunately that is the prevailing view and to demand you get the same in return is deemed 'selfish' or 'sexist' or 'entitled'.

I need advice I have been taking care of my husband for the last 4 years been married for 6 years. He has severe medical issues that plague him. I have given up my life to take care of him, as a caregiver I have taken a lot of abuse mainly verbal although he did kick me once. I have just accepted it because I have no one but my husband in my life. Unfortunately I am bipolar and have social anxiety so things are difficult for me. I really have nothing to look forward too anymore. I am 35 and I want to have a baby at some point but I can not have one with my husband. He doesn't want to be intimate anymore it's been at least 9 months since we slept together, I am so lonely. I feel very depressed and that I have no future if I stay with him, my illnesses have just gotten worse being with him. I don't know if it's worth staying with him anymore. Should I stay with him even though I am suffering or should I leave and try to heal and move on if possible?