My boyfriend of 5 years is throwing hints about marriage. I can feel that he's proposing soon, my only issue is how his financial choices will affect our family once we get married and have children. We've talked about buying a house as soon as we marry and because this is something we've wanted to do the plan has been to save, which I'm still doing but he isn't because he's been supporting his parent's , sister and 3 nephews for a year and a half. His father has severe arthritis so he can't work and his mother who is the care taker only makes enough for the mortgage so my boyfriend pays the bills in their household as we'll as his half of the bills in our house. His sister is a single mother of three and she lives at home with his parents she doesn't work and she has put her son's into a private school that my boyfriend pays the tuition for every month as we'll as her carnote , insurance and gives her money weekly that she never makes last she just comes running back asking for more and he gives it to her! If i honestly had to guess I'd say he probably spends 5000 dollars a month on them and that's including everything. I also just want to say that i am not complaining in any way i admire how much he cares about his family and i also didn't have a issue with it until recently when his sister lost her job 7 months ago and still fails to get a new one and contribute. I know that we aren't married but i want to know if it's my place to say something? Advise please! (We're 25)

I feel our sex life has gone down hill since moving out of state. Im not sure what to do been together for 17 years. We got in argument about it he said who the he ll would want to have sex with a fat *****. I m beginning to believe what he said was true

i was in her cell phone and i know it was wrong to be in an adults phone but this guys name caught my attention so i looked through conversation and it looked like an old friend that's she's known for years. then i saw thy were talking dirty and talking about have sex and loving each other and all this freakyness. he says he's always had low for my mom and would like to knock her up. i think it is disrespecting my dad and right now he is in dr taking are of business for family. they always fight and he doesn't really contribute to the house hold but i still don't think that's a reason to cheat . it hurts me because i'm the child and i don't know what to do

My ex husband calls to speak to me and his kids frequently while I was on vacation with my kids and husband. Weird thing is ex husband isn't exactly the best father and sees his kids maybe once a week if gay while back home. Husband says he's trying to causes problem because he never shows much interest in his kids otherwise. Is my husband over reacting?

No i am no feminist or whatever I am very traditional so I want his last name. But I am just sad that ill be changing my name. I have had it for 25 years. how will i get over this?

CW=Coworker SP=Spouse (Punctuation/Capitalization etc done exact same) Ex.1 around noon on a Sat. SP: sent another coworkers info CW: I'm surprised you know how to send contacts like that SP: WOW CW: lol same day just later that night SP: Stop by at __. I'll buy you a drink CW: Me or Aaron? SP: YOU CW: I'll see SP: ____is here. EX.2 morning CW: I shoulda stayed at your building until after the meeting CW: I'm coming back SP: Sweet Same day after work several texts about work and other coworker and how bored CW is at her new location CW: You should just come sit up there (new location) with me :) Ex.3 CW: I can't believe you!! SP: What CW: I saw u here CW: U didn't say hi SP: sorry, busy getting mad at people etc etc (work issues) 2 hrs. later CW: you should come to the store with me next texts were about our daughters accident (that happened during that time) Ex. 4 several texts related to work and the upcoming 4 day weekend SP: What's out there? camping CW: yea SP: Have a good time CW: I could get attacked by a bear SP: they have a bear safety video CW: I should watch it :) Ex.5 CW: Are you coming to the "function" tomorrow? SP: Are you inviting me CW: lol yep CW: starts at 11 SP: for sure Ex.6 CW: Idk why, but you have a calming effect on me Ex.7 Sat late morning CW: you should come get your truck washed at the ____ car wash SP: I forgot about that 2 hrs. later SP: Damn now I owe you money CW: 3 laughing with tears emojis I've been dealing with this for a year now, these are just the surface. Look at my question from last year. I just want to know if I'm over reacting or not. I want second opinions,when your spouse changes towards you, you're going to snoop. He's never text other women like this before. This is new and out of character for him. Trust went out the window when he lied about who he was texting and then deleted texts at least 3 times. They also chat on their work system, he admits almost everyday. So why text at night ffs? Also "I can't believe you, I saw u here & u didn't say hi" << that is flirtatious. And for me the "you have a calming effect on me" over the line. He is also giving her encouragement when she needs it "GL" "you've got this" etc., meanwhile I can't even get a hi bye or f you.

Should married couples have the privacy of their own phone and not allow their spouse to see their phone or once you're married you give up most of your privacy like my parents did?

A stranger finds themselves very sexually attracted to your wife. They offer you five million dollars to let them sleep with her for one night. How do you react? People, it's called a hypothetical question. I'm aware of the percentile regarding it ever happening. I was gauging whether money or boundaries meant more or less to some. *sigh* You can stop playing at having the intellectual upper hand here by pointing out captain obvious in the crowd now. My Thanks.

If a husband tells his wife she's old, fat, worthless and ugly in front of the kids and tells the kids they're mom is a worthless slut, would you consider this a normal relationship?

My hubby & I were good friends with his bosses family until I caught him one day trying To touch my butt & poke me in the side while drunk then tried to kiss my cheek. we also use to live in the same town so he said I would drive by his house twice a day or more when he's outside. When my family member lives in his block on a cultisack so I had to go out the one way I came in. I can prove To husband that my family member lives there but it don't matter now or to anyone & even told my hubby I stalked him & his brother to a family vacation (we were invited on) as well as the only bar in This small as town.nbut they posted pictures with us online (facebook)?? It makes no sense unless his boss got caught cheating on his wife of 35 years with me!!! I call touching an *** cheating!!! Hubby & I use to text from one phone until I saved up to get mine and it would confuse people a lot. I even messaged from our one phone asking for marriage advice before we broke up but we didn't so they used that against me as well. I thought I could ask him because he's been married for 35 years, wrong. Inlearned our lesson but I got in trouble because he could do no wrong and everything is my fault for being too pretty.I feel like they are using him to punish me and it's working. They are trying to get him fired as well because I got hit on?? I also know he cheated on his wife and had a secret baby. So would you give up your phone and tablet to have a marriage?

Is it ok to discuss your martial problems including personal downfalls of your husbands and fights that you have with your husband without his knowledge to a male friend of yours that you grew up with whom your husband has never met and who is single? Or is this inappropriate to do while you are married? Is it disrespectful of your husband?

My mother recently passed away, and my dad still seemed furious about something, and it's possible it's that i inherited his divorced china set. Seriously, what's the issue with divorced people fighting over who gets the china set?

My wife left to go live at a friend s house because of some marriage issues we have had. Mainly me. We aren t divorced yet. I want her to come home, but I understand why she left. She said she wanted space. I looked up some advice on what I should do in this situation, and some of it said I should give her the space, and others said space is what makes her lose interest in me. I am scared shitless about her losing interest, or another man sweeping her off her feet. Any one else been in this situation? I could really use some answers.

My husband but he has an obsession with everything being even and fair. It has annoyed me in the past but now that we have a child it s getting worse. If I ask him to help pick up he often tells me that he didn t make the mess so he shouldn t have to. Yet I clean his mess up without saying a word. I tell him this and we have a brief spat and then he apologizes and helps. Same with our daughter. He wakes up with her on the couple days I work and one day on the weekend. I will put her to bed and give him nights out with his friends and get up with her, but if I ever take an evening off he will tell me that it wouldn t be "fair" if he still has to get up with her. Again a brief spat or argument and he will apologize then do it. The obsession with being even goes to an extent that doesn t even make sense. If we are going easy on money and I make a random purchase he will have to make a random purchase for himself to be fair. We argue over this fairness obsession on a daily basis and it always ends with him saying he is sorry and that he is being stupid but then it starts again hours later or the next day. I don t ask him to do much for me, but I cringe knowing that the fairness conversation will come up again. I even just asked him to pick up his pants and he told me that because I didn t pick up something that he shouldn t have to. Is this a type of mental disorder? Again he is a really kind man and he loves me but if this doesn t stop I think I ll go mad.

We've been married for 4 years and have had sex plenty of times. We both enjoy it and even have it 3 times in one day sometimes. We do everything except anal sex. We both discussed it while we were dating that it didn't interest us. He even said that it was disgusting! So my question is this: Why would he while doing me doggy style with his thumb touch my bum hole? He didn't insert it or massage it. But he did place it on it 2 times before he came. I didn't say anything but it's different and I'm not used to that. Do you think this means he's teasing the idea of inserting a finger? Why would he do this? It seems gross to me. We didn't discuss it afterwards. I want to see if he does it a second time before bringing it up. Thanks

My husband has told me some pretty weird things. We haven t been married for that long. He basically has told me that he s killed people before. I won t go into details for safety purposes. But most of these things that he s told me he said to me when he was drunk. He s never hurt me before or treated me wrong, he s always treated me with love but I am still scared that he ll remember these things that he told me. Should I go to the police? What can I do? How can I delete this? Worried about safety.Help

Even things like bachelorette parties, girls night out, using vibrators (adult concepts) doesn't seem to make sense to her. She loves America but it is killing me because I feel she's doesn't get my reality. I never thought marrying a foreign born woman would compromise what I consider a normal American life.

We've been married for 4 years and have had sex plenty of times. We both enjoy it and even have it 3 times in one day sometimes. We do everything except anal sex. We both discussed it while we were dating that it didn't interest us. He even said that it was disgusting! So my question is this: Why would he while doing me doggy style with his thumb touch my bum hole? He didn't insert it or massage it. But he did place it on it 2 times before he came. I didn't say anything but it's different and I'm not used to that. Do you think this means he's teasing the idea of inserting a finger? Why would he do this? It seems gross to me. We didn't discuss it afterwards. I want to see if he does it a second time before bringing it up. Thanks

So I suspect my wife is cheating on my with her iPhone she uses certain apps and she's always on her calendar app and times she would call people and let it ring once and then hang up and she would text people and use like certain words and she always deletes her emoji keyboard can someone tell how to just see what's hiding in plane sight this has been going on for a year now and I catch her she's always you won't find ****! And I want to so bad please help!

He wants me to cook clean do laundry work outside the home care for pets mow our yard do small household repairs pick up after him etc. My children take care of themselves and do more around the house than he does. If he happens to do anything he expects praise from everyone and for days after he does it. He doesn t work and if he does it s never for more than a month or two then he quits. What can possibly be done? What happened to being a man?

The husband of my ex is currently fixing his house, and is planning to move with her at the end of this month or next month. I asked my ex to describe to me the building but she says she still hasn t seen it and he is avoiding to take her because for him it is currently a mess. Do I have the right from now to ask about the neighborhood and exactly where the apartment is located? Or I have to wait until she moves and then discover the neighborhood? The court gave the child custody to me when we got married but they are still with her since we thought it is the best for them. But if I discover that the neighborhood is dangerous for them, I am ready to take them and raise them myself.

Without mentioning what special relation she had with all of them before marriage and what they shared among them?

My husband makes more than I do, But I pay for all the house bills, Cable, Elec, Light, Gas, my car payment and insurance, my cell phone bill and Groceries, whenever we go out I pay plus my 2 Kids needs and school supplies. plus I used to help him $150 with rent, But I had enough and told him to pay all the rent, since he doesn't help me with the house bills or groceries or the kids needs. the rent is 1450. he said he is only paying 1300 plus his cell, car and insurance bills. he states he pays 600 in child support but his kids are 22 and 13/14 years old. What is the correct thing do here? Its stressful! Who Pays what, is this fair? Please let me know what you think is correct in this situation? Should I still help him with our rent?

I ve known this man that I m in love with for 10 years, he has been my friend through many relationships, struggles and our entire teenage and adult lives. We have always loved each other and both known it. This marriage is my second, my first ended because my ex husband beat me physically and so I divorced him. My second marriage is with a man whom I love but not in the same way I love my friend. I think he s a good guy, and a good husband, but he doesn t provide for me emotionally and rarely wants to have sex due to a medical condition. We have no spark and are more like good friends, although I do have a romantic interest in him. I would ve tried to date 10 year man before marrying someone else, but the problem was that he was half way across the country, and he spent some time dating someone else. Whom he eventually ended the relationship with (I didn t talk to him during this time) because he can t see a future with anyone but me. The issue is, I love this 10 year man dearly and I do believe that he is the love of my life, I also have no children and although my current husband and I own a home together that is the only thing on the line. I m thinking of leaving my husband, but it does hurt because I truly think he is a great man, we treat each other well and his family really adores me. And I like them, too. I want a fresh start, so I m thinking of running away. I know this is selfish but I have always done what everyone else wanted.

Sorry this is gonna be a long one... Back Story: So i have been married for 3 years and known my wife for almost 4. We have two children and are currently saving for a house living with my mother. She has postpartum is bipolar and on the highest dose of possible meds she can legally be given. Her pregnancies were back to back basically with like a month or two in between. Current Issue: Over the past 2 years she has threatened divorce has developed a pill problem said shes hated me shes never loved me that I m a bad father and a bad husband. She is extremely controlling and the focus is always on her. She is a stay at home mom while i work a full time job. I come home and then start my second job as a parent and then I go to bed. She seems completely uninterested in me I feel unloved underappreciated and I feel she is putting the responsibility of making her happy and keeping her sane on my shoulders. Its been 2 years of hell and i have gone numb. I still love her and care for her but I don t know if i can get past the hurt. Im not perfect by any means and my mind knows that her emotional whirlwinds arent her fault but it hurts so much. I dont know what to do. We are looking into marriage counseling but I feel so detached its like the spark we had and the passion is just gone. What do i do? Should I divorce, separate, suck it up and be miserable? I m so lost.

me & my wife staying with our family from last 9 year,But my wife want to separate from me now immidiately.so we want to file a divorce mutually.so what is the minimum time to take divorce.

Many French presidents had mistresses and everyone's fine with it in France. Whereas Clinton was so criticized for having that affiair with Monica Lewinsky. If Americans were fine with extramarital affairs, the divorce rate may decrease. So why are many Americans against extramarital affairs?.

First time we were married 18 years. The second 21 years. Now again 6 years later. She is not going to change at this point. Thankfully our children are adults and moved out but seriously I loved this woman.

If spouse is not having sex with me for a long time, plus i think he is cheating with some woman online caught him masturbating and he wouldn't let me see to what, then i found her picture in his phone. Im horny i have needs, i cant leave him. Not an option. I want to have really great sex i haven't in so long... 😢💔 feel like my heart is breaking because of him doing this. I'm un-wanted. Blah.....

I've known my husband for 9 years, been with him for 5, and we tied the knot in March of this year. We initially had a long distance relationship and a year into it we had many arguments and we took like a week break. I ended up having sex with someone. It keeps surfing my mind and I feel guilt over it. Any genuine advice?

"A building must have scraped against the car." How does one respond to that logic?

For example after work the guys say come on lets grab a beer-only now my wife says I will need to call for permission,she claims I must hand my pay check to her,she said I will do all the chores as in up keep of the home..Bottom line she told me if I do not agree to her terms she will walk out the door and I will never see her again. Has anybody did this ? Do I stay or do go ?

He has really good friends that have spouses or girlfriends and I don t know if I want someone that close to home or if we should choose a couple that we don t know taking the risk of STDs. My husband and I both hate condoms. We would just go to a lifestyle club but we don t really know where too look for one.. PLEASE HELP.

Okay so my wife and I have been fighting a whole lot. I began to realize it was all my fault. And I feel like our marriage won't get any better. It took me a while for me to realize how much I really love her, but I don't think she'll forgive me. Maybe she'd prefer it if I was better off dead. She forgave me and I am starting new.

im 31 male with 2 kids and im raising a 3rd from her prior relationship we have been together almost 10 yrs married for 7 i do not want get fixed i want to have kids still she insisted she is done. she says im being selfish and do not love her because i don't wanna do it i feel im to young to make this decision. i have agreed to use ever method of birth control available for men that is available. what should i do she still wants me to get fixed. need help ty

What do you guys think? Is this right? I'm not saying that my wife can't go her family at all. But is this uncalled for? She goes to her family's for weeks at a time literally sometimes a month sometimes a little less. I always invite her family on some trips. Sometimes go out to eat (I pay the bill shall I tell you), but yet they treat me like I'm not good enough because we don't have extra spending money. I bought a house for mine and my wife's future, always made sure she was fed, clothes l, women's hygiene products. Paid for her hair to get done so she can feel beautiful when she goes to her family's. Her family (all girls except her dad) always go on trips that are "girls only" I mean I understand girls night but it's to a point that they say that to get her alone. I even offered to pay my own way including driving myself and paying for my own hotel. Her family's trying to talk her into taking a break with me. It's so sad.. my wife just listens and doesn't say anything when I'm right there while there saying that even did it on my birthday.. My wife is very rude to my family and doesn't want nothing to do with them. Even called my 10 year sister stupid. What should I do? Should I just keep it like this or should I go? It's like I'm married to a child..

Don't get rude. And say stupid stuff.' I'm just asking about love. Love is worth dying for in a way. Like if an intruder enter the home would you say hey baby can you go check. Will you buy your wife a new house even if it kills you meaning you working extremely hard. If a person try to kill your spouse would you not save that love one. Or that spouse or girlfriend is about to get hit by a truck will you save that person? IS THIS PERSON WORTH DYING FOR,? If not than why marry that individual? Right. Or am I wrong?

At one point he was so angry that he took off in his car while she was strapping her son in in said car and he was in the drivers seat. This caused her to stumble and fall. She was pregnant with our child (that ended up not being hurt by the incident). They have two children together and she wants to forgive everything that has happened (death threats to me by him). She left him because he abused meth and became violent, although he never actually struck her. I refuse to allow him at our house for the exchange of the children. Am I wrong for refusing to allow him near us and in our lives?

My in-laws had insisted on my husband and I getting married under the separation of property regime. I was against it as I had to leave my job and country in order to live with him after the wedding. I thought it wasn't fair at the time and still do. This has been the cause of many fights between us. I felt betrayed by him as he threatened to break up with me unless we got married the way his parents wanted. I agreed in the end because I did not want to lose him. I signed the marriage contract a few months before the wedding ceremony. I felt that what was supposed to be a special time for me was ruined by my inlaws. Im afraid I can never forgive them. What would you have done?