Family: Question: Is this name calling?

Question: Is this name calling?

Posted: 06 Sep 2017 01:55 PM PDT

My brother keeps getting yelled by my step dad every day, but he's always saying things that are unclear. For example. "Your lazy" or "your stupid" or "your pathetic"... But whenever his kid tries to do anything he gets angry at him. It's really confusing about what he wants. Like he can't be pleased. The other thing is he feeds him really fattening lethargic food's every day on so his kid is fat. Anyway what kind of person is he? Does he want his kid to be lazy? Or not?

Question: Are my expectations realistic for my 14 yr old daughter?

Posted: 06 Sep 2017 01:46 PM PDT

She is a high school freshman and I told her that she must not have any D's or F's on any report card or that she will lose priviledges such as netflix and hanging out with any friends. I also told her that if her grades are bad that we will quit competition cherleading. I would prefer she make the A&B honor roll or the principal's list. I also make her and her 12 yr old brother help me with household chores. Her little brother is a straight A student and has been since 2nd grade. If she makes a D or an F on a progress report then I will make her get tutoring and we will do extra work together. I check her grades every week and as of yesterday she had a C- in biology and I told her she needs to bring it up.

Question: Girls mature question?

Posted: 06 Sep 2017 01:43 PM PDT

My ex -gf added me online. She ended up apologizing for what she's done in the past + i'm now dating a women with a kid. I like older women now because they tend to play no games. My ex gf said mean comments like "dating a lady with a kid? how tragic". She even said the mom is whack and the kid is "eh ok". My ex-gf has txt me here and they and said that I would always have a sweet spot in her heart no matter what. Is it me or does my ex-gf want me back???? she has said nothing of getting back just talk like this

Question: My mom wont let me buy a fan for my room when I have a lot money and I am a responsible adult I am 24 years old, but she doesn't damn get it?

Posted: 06 Sep 2017 01:36 PM PDT

My mom wont let me buy a fan for my room when I have an excellent job on YouTube I make so much money, but she doesn't freaking get it!!! I tell her, I'm 24 years old and I am a responsible adult and I can make decisions with my own money that I feel are good for myself. There is a severe heat wave, and my girlfriend doesn't even want to visit cause its so freaking hot!! It reached 109-110 F in my area! How can I convince her to let me buy it with MY OWN MONEY?!! This is so ridiculous!!

Question: How to cope with my big sister leaving for college?

Posted: 06 Sep 2017 12:41 PM PDT

how to cope with my big sister leaving for college? im 15 and my sister is leaving for college. she's been like my bes friend my whole life and we've shared a room and she's always there for me and now shes going to school in another country. i have 2 little brothers still at home and my parents but im not as close to any of them as i was with my sister. in fact my relationship with my parents is really stressing sometimes and she always helps me. now im just gonna feel so alone. she leaves tomorrow (the same day i have to start school) and i feel like my world is collapsing. school is very horrible for me, im a pretty bad student so its always awful when school starts so i'm down enough about that but now im losing my sister and idk how to handle both. people say im over dramatic, that its not like shes dying but they just dont get it.

Question: Should I move out?

Posted: 06 Sep 2017 12:37 PM PDT

Hey. So I m 17, parents divorced. Sometime ago, my mom got a litter of dogs, and ever since, my free time has been decreased. She goes out almost every weekend, on dog shows and such, leaving me to take care of the pups, which means I m homebound often days at a time. She always finds excuses to go out, making me plan my life around her hobby. Is that acceptable?

Question: Is a drill-do a good birthday present idea?

Posted: 06 Sep 2017 12:22 PM PDT

It's for Father.

Question: Why do none of this couple's children look alike?

Posted: 06 Sep 2017 11:35 AM PDT

I know a couple who's insane and has seven kids – six boys and one girl. They say they're all full siblings (same mom AND dad), but the thing is, none of them look alike at all. They're white, and they all look white, so it's not like they look like they're different ethnicities or anything, but they have none of the same features. For the most part, they even have different hair/eye colors. One of the boys has dark brown (so dark that it's nearly black) hair and green eyes, one of them has medium brown hair and light brown eyes, one of them has very light brown hair and hazel eyes, one of them has white-blonde hair and blue eyes, one of them has white blonde hair and DARK brown eyes, one of them has dirty blonde hair and blue eyes, and the girl has strawberry blonde (basically red) hair and blue eyes. The boys all have sort of similar noses and jawlines, but even so, they look nothing alike. It's weird. The girl doesn't look like even one of her brothers. I can't see any similarities between any of the kids and either one of their parents. Also, all of the kids are gorgeous, but in completely different ways. They're all way above average looking, but they don't look like each other. It's SO weird. So, do you think they're all secretly adopted or something, or is it possible that they're truly siblings? Can a couple really have seven kids that all turn out looking NOTHING like each other? Not even two of them look alike.

Question: Step-son called saying he is getting kicked out of the house?

Posted: 06 Sep 2017 10:19 AM PDT

Step-son called his father because his mother wants to kick him out of the house. He is 21 year old still living with his mom because he doesn't want to spend money on rent, and he pays his mom $300 a month. He got fired from his job because he just started a school. According to his mom, she is going to jail, and they are living in section 8 housing. His name is not on it. It's only supposed to be for his mother. She's going to jail, and no one will be home. They will try to evict him from the house according to her. According to my step son, she is trying to kick him out of the house to get more money from social services. Now, my husband is putting me into guilt trips because I want nothing to do with this drama. What's the wise thing to do? My husband keeps getting mad at me for no certain reason these days.

Question: Should I keep apologizing to my brother?

Posted: 06 Sep 2017 10:09 AM PDT

I invited him along with my friends to a theme park. A week before the theme park he asked me what are we doing for food and who s driving? I said we will meet at my friend s house and go from there and we usually eat at the theme park. He can be a picky eater but will eat anyway. So he got frustrated with that answer and called my friends really bad names because they were indecisive. I didn t like that he called them that so I said maybe you shouldn t go with us. He said he already got his ticket and it was non refundable. I told him not to buy it now cause we will get it at the gate like we always do. So he was mad he had no one to go with and tried to guilt trip me into going with him and basically F my friends. I said no I m not going and he got so mad. He blew up my phone and called me all sorts of nasty names. I didn t respond. He said he is no longer a part of the family and to leave him alone forever. I told my friends and they said they didn t want him to come out with them ever again. So 2 weeks later now he is still mad at me, but not as much. He keeps demanding I apologize for stranding him but he won t admit that he messed up for buying the ticket or insulting my friends. I apologized twice but he still wants more from me.

Question: Why is it when my sister needs or borrows money for school or necessities, she accepts it from our parents, but not from me?

Posted: 06 Sep 2017 09:55 AM PDT

Question: How to address my mom and my aunt. This living situation is not going to work. And I don t want to look ungrateful.?

Posted: 06 Sep 2017 09:54 AM PDT

Let me first say I am very grateful to have an amazing aunt. I have been my grandma care taker for the last 10 years of her life. My mother has lived with her all of her life. Grandma paid all the bills bought all the food up until her dying breath. Mom paid nothing. Obviously living situation was going to be rough (mom couldn t do it on her own)we re going to move into grandma house to continue paying the bills there. My mom was SUPPOSED to help. My aunt decided and offered us a much larger house because there are now 5 of us in a small one that would need lots of work. We all agreed it would be better. This was not a financial hardship to my aunt by any means. We ve lived here since Feb. My mom has paid one electric bill and 2 water bills. Not with out having a temper trantrum. Her words "I didn t ask to live here and there are more of you." We pay everything, from food to cell phone (she s on our plan) we even pay car insurance (she has 2 vehicles) I feel that she feels entitled to continuing to live without responsibility. We had a home we gave up to help her and she s not wanting to help herself. I m ready to move, I can not handle living with her, you know the statement misery loves company. But I don t want to look ungrateful either. When I try to talk to my aunt she plays the well your mom s never had much card, and mom.. well I lose my temper too fast. She needs to help!! How do I address both of them with my issues with out looking ungrateful

Question: LIFTING BRAHS HELP?

Posted: 06 Sep 2017 09:52 AM PDT

I'll cut this **** short...im 19 male 232lb and my parents are against supplements at the moment i only take the basics of basics a multivitamin and fish oil....the thing is....damn even in the internet im ashamed of posting this...one day my mother took me to a pharmacy only saying i had an appointment and that it was for my own good...turns out she took me to a teenage addicts help gabinet...the guy refered protein powder as "substance" and talked about it like heroin...i mean the dude followed 16 yo kids with cocain issues...i pretty much dont have friends to get an opinion from so i really liked your opinion....both my parents are cops and overprotective...and made me stay in my home town for college so basically im ******

Question: Mom wants me to be perfect?

Posted: 06 Sep 2017 09:42 AM PDT

So if I wake up and have a little crumb of leftover makeup on my face she yells at me why I didnt wash my face when I did, If my hair doesnt looked brushed when I wake up she yells at me and if Im doing my homework she comes up behind me and touches my hair to see if its brushed. I freaking want space!!! Everyday she comes into my room and if its not perfect she makes me clean it even if im doing my homework. If were in public like at a store and my blush smeared half an inch she gets a wipe out of her back and wipes my whole face IN public not to mention im 14 and this is just not ok with me she does this even if Im hanging with my friends! when I talk to her she looks at my face to see if my makeups a mess and I cant even go ANYWHERE without her looking at me like this. I am really good at doing makeup but she is ruining my life.

Question: Is it right for people to find it childish for my mom to do my laundry?

Posted: 06 Sep 2017 09:30 AM PDT

I am in my 30's but I am very independent. However, my mom offers to do my laundry for me because she wants me to save money in my apartment because laundry is expensive doing a load in my apartment building but she does it for free and wants me to save money. However, every time I am carrying laundry into my mom's car or every time my mom brings laundry up for me, some neighbors of mine shake their head and say I am a grown boy and should be doing my own laundry! Is it right for them to criticize and say something so nasty when they don't know the story? I mean, who cares if someone does my laundry for me? It isn't the reason because I am not independent.

Question: My mom complains that I never say thank you to her?

Posted: 06 Sep 2017 09:10 AM PDT

I'm her second daughter, and she gives me a lot of stuff. But the thing is I can do without the stuff she gives me, I can cook and buy things on my own. So when she gives them to me, I really feel like i'm doing her a favour of feeling needed. But she expects me to say thank you to her, and I did say thank you today , and i felt bad after talking to her. :S I want to show her how much she is appreciated through actions, not through words, and I want to buy her a house when I get older and can afford to...

Question: Can I adopt her?

Posted: 06 Sep 2017 09:06 AM PDT

I am a 25 year old single guy with a 15 year old niece Jill, my sister's daughter. Jill often comes to my house for help with her homework. If we finish her homework late she spends the night a my house and I take her to school the next morning. She told me she was a nervous wreck from her mom and dad fighting all the time and they were getting a divorce. She wanted to stay with me until the divorce was final. I told her that was OK with me but she needed her parents OK which I thought would never happen. However her parents thought it was best for her not to see them fighting all the time and agreed she could stay with me until there divorce was final. I was very surprised by their decision but I think they were thinking of what their fighting was doing to Jill. Jill moved in with me and has been living with me for 3 months. She is a very nice person and is no longer depressed. We have had a lot of fun time together going to school events and sporting events. Jill ask me if I would adopt her so she could stay with me permanently. I told her that I doubt if her parents would let that happen. I don't know if you can adopt someone that has living parents. Does anyone know if that can be done? Is there a better solution than adopting her? Could she just live with me if her parents are OK with it?

Question: Are we cousins?

Posted: 06 Sep 2017 08:59 AM PDT

My Aunt is only related to me by marriage because she is married to my dad's brother so is her nephew my cousin. Are we related at all?

Question: My brother picks on kids at school?

Posted: 06 Sep 2017 08:30 AM PDT

He doesn't pick on any specific kid, but him and his friends would basically shoulder-barge the first years in the hallway because they're a lot smaller and, according to my brother, it's "funny because they go flying." He has no shame about it and I've told him it's wrong, but I know he won't stop it. I don't go to that school anymore and therefore can't catch him out in the corridor, otherwise I would. What should I do to get him to stop it? He does this with his friends, not when he's by himself

Question: Ways I can leave my family and life and never come back?

Posted: 06 Sep 2017 06:51 AM PDT

Im 32 and i hate my family. Everyone is either a drug addict, steals pills from my elderly parents or just overall liars. I live at home with my parents. My dad has cancer and my mom is treating him like **** and she's getting unbearable to live with. I have been the only one helping my father as no one comes over except sundays when dinner is ready. His health is fading and he can no longer walk, yet now he's been yelling at me also and telling me to get out of the room whenever I talk about something. I cant stand anyone in my family, whenever im around them they make fun of me and my life choices. I also dont have a job as im on disability for a speech issue. My question is, how do I leave my family and state and never come bacK? I have no money and only a little bit of education. I also dont have any kids or a relationship. I just want to pack my stuff and leave and go across country and start a new...how will i do that without failing?

Question: My dad yells and gives me a hard time for the SIMPLEST of tasks. He doesn't trust me nor gives a value, yet he values others.?

Posted: 06 Sep 2017 06:44 AM PDT

Question: What would you do?

Posted: 06 Sep 2017 06:19 AM PDT

Restaurant week is coming up in my city and I thought it would be nice to have a Family Dinner next week. I invited my mother in law, her boyfriend, my sister in law and my brother in law, and I am going with my toddler son. Last time we all went out, it was hectic because I had to translate everything from english to Portuguese and back to english. I want to keep it minimal for this outing, but my brother in law keeps asking me if he can bring his girlfriend, which I loathe. I already made the reservations, and I really just want to keep it as a Family Dinner, You know? I really dont want this to escalate into an argument, but I feel like it might soon. How would you guys handle this? I apologize, I should have been clearer, my in laws would be on my husband's side, his siblings.

Question: What do you call a person like this?

Posted: 06 Sep 2017 05:45 AM PDT

I was in the car with my sister and I played a song from my phone and she goes "ew nobody wants to listen to this, turn this off. "So I did. When we got I went in her room to ask her something and she was listening to the exact song I was playing in the car. Another time I had a crush on this boy and she goes "ew he's ugly why do you like him, he's ugly" few days later she was all on him and commenting how cute he was on his Instagram and Facebook. I even looked at her messages on Facebook on her phone when she wasn't in the room and she had a whole conversation with him and she told him I was ugly. I was wondering why he stopped talking to me.

Question: What should I do?

Posted: 06 Sep 2017 05:14 AM PDT

Ok I have a 2 year old nephew I noticed if he doesn't do something what his dad or grandma wants they sorta raise their voices at him and it drives me crazy because it doesn't solve anything they used to be like that with me when I was a kid it did nothing but gave me fear of them for a few years I got over it but I don't want my nephew to go through that I already tried telling them it doesn't help I feel like that they like to make the child feel that way honestly.

Question: How to recover from the life situation that I have described in the details?

Posted: 06 Sep 2017 05:05 AM PDT

I am Indian and live in India. My dad isn't interested in wealth and money (probably doesn't have the will/attitude/ability necessary to become wealthy). My grandfather was even worse; he sold off all of our ancestoral property and lived off the money that he got from the sale. Because i saw poverty (lower middle class) from childhood, an inferiority complex developed in me. Going to an expensive engineering college was a mistake, as everyone else was wealthier than me, which worsened my inferiority complex as i was the poorest. So i thought i wasn't eligible to get a girl before creating wealth. Eventually i became lonely, could not focus on work and could not create much wealth anyway. In the mean while, all the good girls were taken by the other guys who *saw* themselves as worthy and deserving. Those guys settled with their chosen girls, focussed on their work and became much more wealthy, healthy and happy than me. Now, at 31, i don't have much wealth, can't focus on work and hence can't progress in my career, don't have a girl, my health is deteriorating, i've become emotionally unstable and unavailable to my family.

Question: My mom helped my lying ex take my kids only because my Ex makes my mom feel younger, should they be punished?

Posted: 06 Sep 2017 04:47 AM PDT

10 years I tried and tried but could not see kids

Question: I'm having a problem with my family and I need help with what I should do?

Posted: 06 Sep 2017 04:09 AM PDT

So my school will tell my parents about my self harm and they will get so mad at me that they will lock me in my room and they will not talk to me and they will also hit me so I'm really scared of that and I don't know if I should just commit suicide so I don't have to go through that or if I should run away from my parents but I honeslty have no idea what to do to get out of this

Question: What would you do if you are a father and your child slaps you ?

Posted: 06 Sep 2017 03:57 AM PDT

Ok so let me tell you why i asked this. My father hits my mom for no reason and he abuses her. This continued for a long time. I was afraid of my father so i was quite. But one day he started beating my mom with a stick so badly. My mother was crying and blooding. That day i couldn't control myself and started slapping my father. I beat him , i teared his shirt and ran away from my house. Now i am living with my sister and i have no regret for what i did to that motherfu©king father. I don't consider him father now.

Question: My ex has kept my son from me for 10 years, what could happen if I took him to court?

Posted: 06 Sep 2017 03:40 AM PDT

My ex mother in law was granted custody of my son, as soon as she was awarded custody she moved and I had a very hard time keeping track of them. I have over 7 different addresses for them. Last year I found out my son had an instagram account and I reached out to him, we had to keep our relationship a secret because his family would get upset if they found out we were talking In the process I found out that my ex mother in law let her son have our son back

Question: How do I convince my dad (mainly my grandma because we live with her) to let me buy a mini fridge?

Posted: 06 Sep 2017 03:05 AM PDT

My dad doesn't need much convincing I just don't think he wants to disagree with my grandma since he lives under her household. My grandma came up with the point that it will cost too much extra power. I really want this mini fridge because I want to have food that I bought so nobody can eat it and I do currently have a problem with that. Not to mention that the others in my household do things like drink straight from the milk carton and it's just gross. Also, I would be paying for it so no problems there.

Question: I found out from the doctor that my son has a aggressively growing tumor in his brain. How do I tell my son he is going to die?

Posted: 05 Sep 2017 11:48 PM PDT

How do I tell my only boy he is going to die, but in a way it is funny?

Question: Parents divorce... How do I handle it?

Posted: 05 Sep 2017 11:15 PM PDT

My parents are going through their divorce and have been separated for two years. I live with my mom and sometimes visit my dad but since the divorce isn't final, there isn't an official schedule in place for me to visit my dad regularly. I feel like my parents put me in the middle of everything. My mom is always asking if I've talked to my dad and asks for every detail, she calls me a liar if I say I haven't talked to him. She'll say things like "Ask your dad if he's dating anybody" and it makes me upset that she's putting me in this situation. My dad does the same, only, he doesn't ask if my moms seeing anyone. My older sister just moved out of my moms house and I feel very alone, as I'm the only one living with my mom. I sometimes feel like I'm the one taking care of my mom instead of vice versa and it's putting a huge weight on my shoulders. I often get worried about her mental health as she can be a bit overbearing and can turn from happy to angry in a matter of seconds. I am a really worried and anxious person so I don't know if I'm just overreacting but is there any way I can handle this all? Anything helps.

Question: Why I s it that I just HATE the person my mother is?

Posted: 05 Sep 2017 11:14 PM PDT

I'm feeling super passed right now, so I'm sorry if there's some cussing, I'll put I think In a list form to make it easier to read. 1. My mother has no job. Nothing. My dad is the only one who works . She is just too lazy to find a job. She had many jobs in the past working with kids but constantly get she fired for negligence . 2. My mom LEECHES off my dads money. We are very poor. My dad is a bloody insurance agent making around forty a year, for a fam of four. Ever since I was 12 I've been e letting myself starve in school or at home just to save money, meanwhile My Mom buys purses, shoes, clothes and food on the daily, like a ***** 3. She always demands money from my dad and sometimes steals it from him, and when he says he won't give her any she screams and cries like a *****. I tell her to "try getting a job for momey" and she tells me to shut up 4. She cant do anything- cook, barely can clean, se just sits on the couch and watches drama on tv all day long, we barely have any food to eat and she complains why I'm so skinny. ****. What the **** can I do, it's always just pissing me off. My aunt is currently visiting us as well, and I don't know if it's just her family but they're both fuckingobsessed with money, and they are all using my dads money. She brought clothes, makeup stuff, shoes and will buy more things , I've never brought as much as she did today for like 4 years. She also told my sister To make sure she marries a rich man so she won't have to deal with the "****" in my family, meanwhile if I didn't make myself starve in the seventh grade we would have no house

Question: Why is my brother so entitled, rude, and heartless?

Posted: 05 Sep 2017 10:59 PM PDT

My older brother has this mindset that because he is 18, my parents rules suddenly don't apply to him. He's very disrespectful to my parents, especially my mom. He curses at them, insults them, and has no respect. He leaves the house whenever he wants to and stays out until however long because he has his license. He says he can get piercings and tattoos because he's 18 and my parents have no say in it. He doesn't listen, he's inconsiderate, and likely has anger issues. Whenever my mom tries to reach out to him, he acts as if she's an idiot and talks down to her. Will he ever get out of this moody teenager phase?

Question: ... should i feel bad for letting my sister and her two kids stay at my house for a few weeks?

Posted: 05 Sep 2017 10:56 PM PDT

My sister is going to be homeless for a couple weeks with her two kids until my mom finds a her a place closer to her. So I said it was ok if she stayed at my home until my mom found a place. My sister isn't the best of people.... mid 30's and doesn't have her life together and makes terrible choices but I don't want my nieces to be homeless (also destructive little kids but I still love them) My boyfriend is furious and making me feel bad, and says he doesn't want to be with me.... mind you.... his brother lived with us for two years and I couldn't stand it and I wanted to leave it all and give up the relationship and my boyfriends mom is now going to come live with us (who I love dearly). But he is willing to allow them into our home for long periods of time, but is so upset for letting my sister stay for a couple weeks. My mom is good on her word and I know she'll find a place for my sister soon.... am I wrong to allow her in my home... should he be so upset? I said it was ok for his brother to live with us for 2 years ( can't stand him, outside of home is ok but I can't live with the guy) and now his mom who I love but still... I feel like this is all one sided...

Question: Can I stop going to my dads house?

Posted: 05 Sep 2017 08:11 PM PDT

I don't want to go to my dads house but I have to, it ruins all holidays, I have to go every other weekend and on Tuesdays ( during summer it's every weekend). It's so boring there, there's a shitty laptop with **** internet so I can't do anything there, and the bad internet effects my phone so it's hard to watch any YouTube or use any social media, and we always stay home while my dad watches tv all day and yells at people on the phone, and it's so boring and I don't want to go, and I have to cancel plans with my friends and stuff because he doesn't let me leave the house, and he's hit my brother before (he has autism btw) and i just don't want to be there...

Question: I feel guilty...?

Posted: 05 Sep 2017 08:08 PM PDT

So last month I decided to stop going over my dad's house. This last year was rough, starting with my dad yelling at me because I told him I didn't believe in the church. From there, it just got worse. I'm not going to go into details, but let's just say it wasn't a home anymore and I felt uncomfortable being there. I don't feel guilty about leaving, but I feel guilty I felt my two cats behind. I love my cats so much and I feel like I was supposed to take care of them, but I left them. I miss them so much and feel so guilty, but I still don't want to see my dad. I don't know what to do. Please help.

Question: 10 Points best Answer! What to do with abusive mother? Physically and Emotionally abusive. Advice! Urgent!!?

Posted: 05 Sep 2017 08:06 PM PDT

I really don't know what to do, I hit rock bottom the lowest of the low. To the point where I cannot take it anymore. My mother is crazy to say the least and I cannot take it anymore, I don't know what to do. She goes through these mood swings, one minute she's this happy loving person the next she's this monster. She has punched, slapped, chocked, fought, and dragged me by my hair. She's also threatened to kill my sibling, me, and herself. I locked my sibling and I in a room one time and she got so angry she stabbed the door with a knife! She gets pissed with literally anything my sibling, grandfather, or I do. She starts having these mental break downs, she starts screaming, throwing stuff, and attacking anyone near her. She plays these physiological games with us, she recently got me a kitten and anytime I do anything she doesn't like she threatens to give the kitten away. It doesn't take much to piss her off, whether its not cooking for her or as simple as my grandfather not giving her money she'll have a fit like a child. She refuses to get a job (she lives off my grandfather's money) or do any adult things. She refuse to clean the house so its literally borderline horders. I tried telling a family member and she didn't do anything about it. My father left when I was a child. I don't know what to do, I cannot take it anymore I'm tired or being the punching bag. Cps has not done anything in the past. What can I do? Thanks

Question: Is there a reason why i might be addicted to step dad porn?

Posted: 05 Sep 2017 08:03 PM PDT

I dont have a step dad. But i cant help myself but search step dad porn. Is there a reason behind it?

Question: My dad wants me to pay him double what my car insurance costs? I'm 16 and work part time, I can't afford it?

Posted: 05 Sep 2017 07:25 PM PDT

So this is kind of long. Bear with me here please. :) First off I'd like to say my dad is a great guy and is very supportive of my growing independence. He payed for my car over the summer (I'm a junior now) and I am responsible for paying my monthly insurance and gas, and whatever car troubles it has. (Among other personal needs/wants). I work part time 12 1/2 hours a week, not that much. I pay my monthly insurance bills $108. And gas as needed. Anything else goes straight to my savings account. My monthly insurance is so cheap because I'm on my family's plan and I'm technically registered as driving my dads old old truck. (Which no one drives but the insurance agent said if they put me as driving that and my dad as driving my car then it would be cheaper) Here's the issue, my sister will start driving in about two years. When she gets on the insurance plan only one of us will be able to say we are driving the cheap old car. So one do us will have to pay double what the other pays. My dad says because if this it would be unfair if I got to pay the cheaper price for any amount of time. Because she isn't wouldn't be able to do the same. (I told him we could just switch off who pays for the cheap car, or she could have it permanently when she gets on and I have it now, or we could average together our monthly costs and each pay half. He didn't approve of any of these ideas, unfortunately) Continued in updates.

Question: How can I live on my own with twins?

Posted: 05 Sep 2017 07:20 PM PDT

I am a 23 year old father with full custody of 2 year old twins. Up until now I ve had the help of my parents with taking care of them. Their mother is no longer with me and doesn t really take part in their lives. I want to move out of my parents house. I ve been having a lot of problems lately living with my parents. My mom and I always fight (yell, argue, etc... non physical). While she always buys things for the babies and watches them while I m unavailable to, she gets annoyed very quickly and curses and yells at them and me. I don t pay rent or any bills and practically live under their roof for free. While it may sound great, I can not stand the fighting with my mom and my babies being disrespected. They don t deserve that; and so I want to leave. However, I have a job but I only get paid around $13 a hour. At the moment it doesn t seem possible to afford to live on my own with two babies. If I leave I won t have any support from anyone and I ll have to hire a babysitter and start buying everything on my own. Any idea on how I can make this possible? How can I live by myself in my own place with my own vehicle and bills and still manage to take care of my babies. Any advice is greatley appreciated.

Question: Caught sleeping naked?

Posted: 05 Sep 2017 07:18 PM PDT

I'm so embarrassed right now I sleep naked and I'm a 16 year old girl I usually sleep with my door shut and above my covers and I don't have a lock on my door so I can't lock it so when I woke up my 12 year old brother saw me when he opened the door for no reason and he saw me naked sleeping and now I'm embarrassed around him

Question: How to avoid my mother?

Posted: 05 Sep 2017 07:13 PM PDT

My mum thinks I have fallen out with my friend but he is coming on the 15th till the 18th to spend time with me. my mum does not live with me but she does live one street away from me. same area and round the corner litrelly a 3 minute walk. i dont want to tell her im friends with him she woll just nag me and other reason too! Im looking foward to seeing him but soo anxious that we will see my mum accidentally ☹️ Is there a way round this? Also will have to say why i cant see her that weekend x

Question: I feel depressed?

Posted: 05 Sep 2017 06:52 PM PDT

I'm 14 and just moved to Calgary from Toronto. I hate living here and I hate my new school here. People are so different and the environment is so different. I hate living a country life. I'm a big city kid. My parents did say I can move back when I'm 16 and go to the same high school as my friends there but I can't live here that long. Trust me, I've tried to socialize at school and have fun here, I've tried to enjoy all the natural things here but at the end of the day, going back to Toronto is all that's on my mind. I hate it. I'm going into depression living here. Man, places like Scarborough and flemo were my favourite in Toronto. The downtown was always so noisy and because I'm a city kid, I'm sure you can tell I'm not able to fit in Calgary's society. Like people in here are so rude sometimes towards Toronto. At school a teacher asked me where I was from and I said Toronto. And he went like 'Oh well, we consider that a foreign city' like who gives a f about your opinion, mr teacher? I'm honestly depressed. People are so different here and the weather is so harsh. I haven't been able to make friends here at all and in Toronto, I KNEW EVERYONE AT MY SCHOOL. In the high school in Toronto, I know almost everyone. I cry every day when I come home from school and at nights. My diary is full of my tear drops and rants about how I miss Toronto and I need to move back. P.S. If you're here to tell me to suck it up, this isn't for you to answer. So please don't bother. I try to. I've been trying to ever since I moved here. I loved drawing, music and sports but now, it's like there's nothing I can do other than cry about it every day and every night and rant about it in my diary. My parents do so much for me and I don't want to be the liability that isn't content with anything. I feel bad going up to them and telling them I wanna move back. I've lied to them and told them I love my new school when in reality, it's f*cking depressing :( I just said, don't bother answering if you're here to tell me to suck it up cause I ain't gonna. I feel depressed and you telling me to suck it up ain't gonna make stuff better

Question: I feel depressed?

Posted: 05 Sep 2017 06:39 PM PDT

I'm 14 and just moved to Calgary from Toronto. I hate living here and I hate my new school here. People are so different and the environment is so different. I hate living a country life. I'm a big city kid. My parents did say I can move back when I'm 16 and go to the same high school as my friends there but I can't live here that long. Trust me, I've tried to socialize at school and have fun here, I've tried to enjoy all the natural things here but at the end of the day, going back to Toronto is all that's on my mind. I hate it. I'm going into depression living here. Man, places like Scarborough and flemo were my favourite in Toronto. The downtown was always so noisy and because I'm a city kid, I'm sure you can tell I'm not able to fit in Calgary's society. Like people in here are so rude sometimes towards Toronto. At school a teacher asked me where I was from and I said Toronto. And he went like 'Oh well, we consider that a foreign city' like who gives a f about your opinion, mr teacher? I'm honestly depressed. People are so different here and the weather is so harsh. I haven't been able to make friends here at all and in Toronto, I KNEW EVERYONE AT MY SCHOOL. In the high school in Toronto, I know almost everyone. I cry every day when I come home from school and at nights. My diary is full of my tear drops and rants about how I miss Toronto and I need to move back. P.S. If you're here to tell me to suck it up, this isn't for you to answer. So please don't bother. I try to. I've been trying to ever since I moved here. I loved drawing, music and sports but now, it's like there's nothing I can do other than cry about it every day and every night and rant about it in my diary. My parents do so much for me and I don't want to be the liability that isn't content with anything. I feel bad going up to them and telling them I wanna move back. I've lied to them and told them I love my new school when in reality, it's f*cking depressing :(

Question: How can I convince my parents to move back?

Posted: 05 Sep 2017 06:37 PM PDT

I'm 14 and just moved to Calgary from Toronto. I hate living here and I hate my new school here. People are so different and the environment is so different. I hate living a country life. I'm a big city kid. My parents did say I can move back when I'm 16 and go to the same high school as my friends there but I can't live here that long. Trust me, I've tried to socialize at school and have fun here, I've tried to enjoy all the natural things here but at the end of the day, going back to Toronto is all that's on my mind. I hate it. I'm going into depression living here. Man, places like Scarborough and flemo were my favourite in Toronto. The downtown was always so noisy and because I'm a city kid, I'm sure you can tell I'm not able to fit in Calgary's society. Like people in here are so rude sometimes towards Toronto. At school a teacher asked me where I was from and I said Toronto. And he went like 'Oh well, we consider that a foreign city' like who gives a f about your opinion, mr teacher? I'm honestly depressed. People are so different here and the weather is so harsh. I haven't been able to make friends here at all and in Toronto, I KNEW EVERYONE AT MY SCHOOL. In the high school in Toronto, I know almost everyone. I cry every day when I come home from school and at nights. My diary is full of my tear drops and rants about how I miss Toronto and I need to move back. P.S. If you're here to tell me to suck it up, this isn't for you to answer. So please don't bother.

Question: Debating whether I should cut off my parents....I'm just here to vent and I want hear from people who have cut off their parents.?

Posted: 05 Sep 2017 06:30 PM PDT

I have an narcissistic mother and my dad always sides with her because he doesn't want any problems. It's sad that I'm not respected in this household. I pay rent and bills (entire bills) and groceries. I'm not here for free. I would understand if I was being a freeloader and lazy but I'm not. My brother never paid for anything when he was here (he's older). This past weekend was the final nail in the coffin, I took my parents and bf to SF for a trip. I paid my parents' hotel, attractions, taxi, and airfare and they spent the whole trip ignoring me because my boyfriend came along. The bf and I decided to return to the hotel after sightseeing, he pulled out the bed from the sofa and I took a shower and changed the bathroom (this was around 4p.m.). The parents come back and accuse us of having sex and my mother yelled at my boyfriend for not putting back the bed after we left to sightseeing. She also yelled at him because she found his cigarettes on the kitchen table. My boyfriend just ignored her. I decided not to talk to her because I'm honestly tired of her bullish*t. I don't have time to fight with a little girl. They also got mad because we slept in the same room. Keep this in mind, we slept in the same room but on different beds (he was in the living room and I had a rollaway bed in the kitchen). I just laughed writing this because it's ridiculous that I'm dealing with this at this age. She also loves to pick at my weight and put me down all the time.

Question: Hi daddy how are you?

Posted: 05 Sep 2017 06:27 PM PDT

Question: Should I cut my dad off financially?

Posted: 05 Sep 2017 06:02 PM PDT

I make $48,000 a year and and in addition to my expenses, I pay car insurance for three cars which totals $574. I pay a $158 phone bill. Two of the cars are my dad and half of the phone bill is his phone. My dad is very verbally abusive to me and curses me out like a dog. The last most recent incident was so bad, cops were called. I do not fill like financially helping my dad when he consistently treats me like ****. Should I cut him off? My father only makes 715 dollars per month via a disability check. He cuts grass and stuff to earn extra money. That's why I pay his portion of the bills because he does not have a whole lot of money

Question: My mom's been cheating on my dad and I haven't told him, is this wrong?

Posted: 05 Sep 2017 05:52 PM PDT

To start off, I've known about my mom cheating on my dad now for about 4 months. My parents have been married 18 years, and you would never expect her to do something like this. I came home unexpectedly one day and walked inside to her having sex with a Black man in our living room. She didn't see me and I freaked out so Ieft and never told her what I saw. She's been secretly seeing this guy for months now and I havent told my dad anything. You might think I'm crazy, but part of me actually likes what she is doing. I don't know why, I get aroused at the sight of my mom being dominated by the guy she's seeing. What makes it even more interesting is she's a Catholic Iraqi, and so is my dad. It's not even accepted in our culture for us to date black, especially the women. She'd get disowned by her family if they knew. And my dad would be completely destroyed knowing his wife has been with a black man, let alone cheated on him. She's basically being a bad girl and it really gets me turned on. It's hard not to be, my mom is a middle eastern beauty. And I won't lie I've always found her attractive. She's 39, 5'3 in height, gorgeous face, full lips, hot figure and D cup breasts. The guy she's seeing is about 6'0, muscular, handsome, dark brown skin, and hung like a horse...I see a wild side of her I've never seen when they make love. I feel it's wrong that I haven't told my dad. Is this normal? And why is my mom even cheating on him when they seem so happy together?

Question: My family don't want to spend time with me, why do they make so much effort to be around me?

Posted: 05 Sep 2017 05:40 PM PDT

They don't really want to be around me, but I want to be around them, spend time with them, and be a family... When my sister does show up she confuses me and I get sick from how she treats me. Should I cut them out of my life? I'm also in school and I think their reasons for being around me is financial, I don't think they actually like me.

Question: DOES MY MOTHER HAVE BEAT THE DOG SYNDROME? HOW DO I AVOID IT?

Posted: 05 Sep 2017 05:26 PM PDT

I'm a 17 year old boy and my mother constantly has a reason to get me in trouble FOR LITTLE REASONS. COINCIDENTALLY, EVERY TIME THIS HAPPENS, SOMETHING HAPPENS TO GO WRONG AT HER JOB. For example, each year my grandmother gives me, my brother, and my sister $100 to buy some shoes as a part of back to school shopping. I bought my sneakers today and my siblings didn't. My mother comes home and questions us asking why I bought my sneakers and my siblings didn't. So after we tell her that my siblings didnt get the opportunity to, she calls my grandmother as to why I bought them but my siblings didn't. She says that we didn't want to and completely twisted the story, so now my mother claims that we lied to her and deceived her. Being the "stick to your gender role" bīťçh that she is, she takes my sister's phone and leaves me with mine. I know this may not make much sense, but long story short, my grandmother gave us a gift of $100 dollars each, tells my mother that we didn't WANT TO but then instead of the truth where we never got the OPPORTUNITY TO buy the shoes today. So now we're in trouble because of something so stupid. Did I mention that I'm 17, going off to college next year, and we still get into stupid fights like these? Anyways, I think she has "beat the dog" syndrome, where whenever she falls on hardship, she always needs someone to take it out on. How do I avoid this?

Question: What are your thoughts on the statement below?

Posted: 05 Sep 2017 05:14 PM PDT

Statement: "oh it looks like you lost weight" Reason: I ended up fasting for two weeks by accident. I think I lost like ten pounds though. My thoughts: Everyone keeps saying that to me and they don't say it like a compliment. They say it like they're surprised cause I was fat before. Thoughts?

Question: What is the right thing to do in this situation?

Posted: 05 Sep 2017 04:43 PM PDT

When I got married I was just out of college and had a $51,000 dollar student loan debt. My husband Jack worked a lot of overtime hours to payoff that student loan debt. That was several years ago. Jack is now my ex husband. We remained on friendly terms after our divorce. I recently received an inheritance and I think I have a moral obligation to pay back Jack some or all of the money he used to pay off my student loan debt. My friends and family tell me I am crazy to do this. They say I don't owe him anything. It is a husband's duty to pay off his wife's debts. I am confused. Can someone tell me what is the right thing to do in this situation.

Question: Boot-Camp?

Posted: 05 Sep 2017 04:21 PM PDT

My daughter asked me to send her to boot camp because her boyfriend is going, I asked her why she wants to go so badly but she just says that she thinks it would be fun and she would learn new things! Do you think it is a good idea? What do you think boot camp is all about? She's 16 by the way and her boyfriend is 17

Question: DO YOU FEEL YOU YOUR PARENTS MONEY FOR RAISING YOU?

Posted: 05 Sep 2017 04:09 PM PDT

Question: My sister is popular and won't stick up for my brother who is getting bullied?

Posted: 05 Sep 2017 04:08 PM PDT

My little brother is a sixth grader and he's getting bullied by eighth graders. My sister (she's in eighth grade) is dating one of the bullies (he's not the main one but he's playing a part in bullying my little brother) but anyways, she's popular and she doesn't want to risk her popularity to help HER LITTLE BROTHER. I'm a senior and I'm not in the same school. I'm also 18 so I can't beat anyone up. I don't condone violence but my little brother is autistic and he can't really defend himself either. My heart breaks for him because he wants to stop going to school (which he used to love so much). The middle school principal won't really do anything because "they don't see anything happening" but when my little brother is coming home with bruises and is CLEARLY upset, then obviously something is happening. My sister is in the same school but refuses to sit with him at lunch or stand up to the bullies. I don't know what else to do my parents have done all they can and they are stressed and I'm stressed because I can't put these little asses in their place. I need help to get my sister to say something, she's our only hope to make them stop.

Question: I m 13 & my mom recently kicked me out of her house. I m with my dad, so it s ok, but when she did that, it mentally scarred me. Is that ok?

Posted: 05 Sep 2017 04:04 PM PDT

Question: My mom treats my 14 year old sister likes she 5?

Posted: 05 Sep 2017 03:32 PM PDT

She just started highschool, she s not allowed to have snapchat, instagram, cellphone twitter or youtube, she s not allowed to walk home from school or take the bus, she doesn t let her wear clothes from stores like h&m,forever21, rue 21 or PINK, my mom keeps buying her childish things like barbie dolls, books that are like for 8 year olds, justice! isn t justice for girls ages 6 - 10 year olds, she can not listen to rap or pop, she s only allowed listen kidz bop, she can not wear nail polish or acrylic nails, she s not allowed to go to sleepovers, birthday parties, or hang out with her friends. her bed time is at 7PM, my sister comes to me and saying her life is horrible