Is it possible to ensure both? I am a former beta incel who was a virgin until his 30s when I met my girlfriend on a videogame. I am sure that the only reason she stays with me is because I make a lot of money and because she has histrionic personality disorder along with a colostomy bag. Anyway, we want to have children one day but I want to ensure that my future sons will not be beta incel cucks. I want them to be alpha beasts who slay and score with hoards of hot women. I noticed that most men who are robust alpha slayers have a mother who looks like a beastly dog, yes she is unattractive but she will produce godly sons. However, my girlfriend is very petite, feminine, and attractive. I am also an ectomorph. I want to have her carry the egg of a hideous robust samoan woman to carry my robust alpha son. However, I also want my future son(s) to have my high IQ. I don't think this is possible because samoan women have low IQs and that might block my IQ from being passed down to my son(s). So what is more important? Godly slayer looks? High IQ? is it possible to ensure that my future son(S) will have both? I want to ensure that my future son(s) will rise and not live in celibacy for years. I do not want them to be cursed with being beta incel cucks or ectomorphs but also not be cursed with low IQs which are common in people of color.

My wife is upset and worried I may leave her. I keep tellin her I will never leave her but she doesn't believe me. I don't know why she would think this. She hasn't been feeling well the last few days. How can I comfort her ?

My wife is 5 months pregnant with our daughter she keeps crying at almost every little thing. Why does she do this? How can I comfort her ? Sorry I meant to write why. My phone screwed up

"Husband" lies every five minutes and hes a sneaky lil ******. He smokes weed behind my back then comes home and trys to cover it up with a breath mint. He lies about it when I ask about it being at he thinks I'm some kind of idiot. What's the problem with smoking weed? the fact that he cant drop a clean piss test to get a good job to take care of our family.(can you say wtf is a labor ready check) The fact that I know its best to live a healthy lifestyle and practice good mental health cause that sh*t messes with your head high or not. He lies lies lies about everything ohhh my goodness gracious! What ticks me off is he waits until my back is turned is when he does most of his dirt. It honestly is like a mother dealing with a child, the thing is I'm not his mother! He doesn't have to hide anything from me or lie to me he can be honest I will only do my best to help God knows I will. I just want a real man! A future doctor, or a Marine a hard worker! Not someone who wakes up late for work every day! I realize him and i are not the same kind of people, he doesn't get it the bigger picture. He's the kind of person that tells a lie to tell another lie and he's so deep into lieing he can't tell the truth. One thing I am sad about is that I married the wrong man so I am not perfect either and I'm probably going to hell since I'm going to have to find a better man and God says that being with another man after getting divorced is commiting adultery..

I go out jogging thinking about my Odd Looking Sanctuary and my future promotion to small one Paul's name it looked something like Technology. I see my Wife at other men's houses. Sometimes she seems to see me as old. She seems to be hiding something from me. I can sense it. I went to someone I suspected it to be Jeffrey a guy I used to work with who I thought was a manager at the time. But he would change trying to be the dragon to me and saying things who is like the beast because he knew I was a Christian. Because of my name and I was fat at the time. My wife is kinda like him. I think he wanted to be bigger than me. That's why I suspected he was the one with my Wife my wife did something in Girls Gone Wild. I remember before I met her eevery guy I was around used to talk about her. I would listen. I was the guy who had a vision and a dream with a ministry and purpose of Evangelizing the World. But I would always have my head down. I was very disorganized and I never talked to anyone when I did they would always think I was weird. I was fat as well. She seems to be hiding something. She does not want to have sex that much. She is out for a long time. When jogging I see her car at other people's houses. I don't know he chose me for this one. I am not attracted to her. It's like she just cheat's on me with men. She bites me slot then says other things you made feel so cheap. She even cheated on me for some stupid reason. This woman really was a whore.

Over time I have noticed that marriage and relationships in general are not the same. Why is that? No judgements here. Just observations. For example people get married multiple times when marriage is supposed to be sacred. They cheat constantly. And people will break up with people they've been with for 20 years. What a shame. I believe in soul mates. And I would think you'd want to grow old with them. How come no one values Romantic Relationships like they used to?

My fiancee i feel is getting smothered by me. She comes home in the evenings sometimes close to 8 from work and I will have dinner done so we will immediately eat then we sit on the couch and relax. However i feel like I am not giving her some of her own space to decompress at times. I am home around 4 from work so i have plenty of time to myself and to relax before she comes home. Is there any advice or tips you have for ways i can not smother her? I have a man cave so i thought about going down there but i also feel if i spend too much time down there it may come off i am not interested in hearing about her day or talking about mine, etc.

I have been married for a few years and haven't visited my family in a couple year. We have a kid. My family live across country and I miss them so much. I know I'm married and should be happy here, but I would love to take my kid to visit as well

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ok ive only been with my boyfriend for 6 months and he already hates my best friend me and her have been friends since 3rd grade but shes A LOT DIFFERENT THAN ME shes pregnant a "housewife" (has no job but engaged and lives with her boyfriend he supports her) and her boyfriend works a minium wage job and she never went to college or had a job other than mcdonalds...while i work in a pharmacy,in college, not pregnant and making my own money!. My boyfriend says im out of her league and maybe i need to find new friends that compliment my lifestyle better we try to invite them over for dinner they never wanna come we try to invite them to get together where his friends are going to be at his house they never wanna come AND we even offer to come over there house and my friend always complans that we "ask at the wrong time and she'll tell us when we can hang out" ITS ONLY HAPPENED ONCE IN 6 MONTHS LOL anyways my boyfriend always talks **** saying he could never try hang out with them anymore cause no only are they "uneducated" they never want to hang out with us when we ask and they want control over everything he thinks shes taking advantage of me and is lazy cause she also gulit trips me cause i never hang out with her anymore or cook for her anymore IS MY BOYFRIEND RIGHT?? and he's not one of the types that want me to completely drop her he just tells me shes not a good friend and i need more!!!

This couple always leave their child in her crib while they spend hours doing something else (most of the time just enjoying each other's company) they don't play with their kid or seem interested, they don't take her to doctors, they sometimes let their baby cry when they know she's hungry just so they can do whatever they want first & the husband always drinks every night he is an alcoholic the wife does not drink but she's got some serious depression issues. They always fight and argue throw things at each other throw each other around all in front of their daughter they have never hurt the kid physically. They are just 2 airheads. They never had to buy things for her because everyone else buys it already they could not afford it if it wasn't for other people buying it already they don't even have their own place or vehicle ever since the baby was born they had to rely on someone else to take care of the baby and themselves! They have jobs but still always get broke because of alcohol purchases and selfish purchases they didn't even get their baby a gift for Christmas. So does this sound like they're unfit? I'm a concerned friend and don't know how to tell them.

What can she do ?

..for their children's barmitvah. Husband just spent several thousand on dental work for wife and rest of family and is basically broke. What is responsibility of wife to understand these financial constraints and does she have the right to insist that husband pony up. Husbands position is that someone needs to bring money to the table to make this happen but from experience knows wife won't react well from being told to 'get a job'.

They need to run to the store and you tell them to take some money. They take some money from your purse/wallet but take more than they really need without telling you and buy some stuff for their house (cleaning products, soap, shampoo etc) and get gas for their car and don't give you your change. Would you be cool with someone doing this?

At home he only watches tv shows or listens to music.He ignores everyone.Why is he doing this?Ahh also he looks at his daughtesrs *** and b...bs

I was raised by my Dad and Step-Mom, who was more of a mother to me than my biological one. However, the past few years I have become close to my biological mom. So I don't want to leave her out, but my step-mom is the one who has put in all the time in raising me. Would it be terrible to have a picture with just my biological parents? I don't want to hurt anyone's feelings.

I'm 23 and i love my married sister so much and her kids also her husband! How often should I sleep over her house? Of course I don't want to bother them and I sleep like every month 1 or days over their house. She's a teacher she visit us every day with her kids and with her husband during weekends only.

My husband continues to do so, even though he knows it upsets me. No matter where we are, on a sidewalk, the total glance back over his shoulder at a women, at a restaurant, the a$$ look, whether a patron or the waitress walking around. Flirting,calling attention to himself in a loud way to get their attention, hugging women at work that he has a crush on (in front of me). Hugging a high school classmate at a class reunion. She was supposedly "easy" in high school, looking her up and down when she had her back to us. Loosing his train of thought of what he is saying because he gets distracted by another female. Hiking together and two young women come down a steep path, one in short shorts and one in a bikini top, both in flip flops. Immediately he runs over to get between them to get directions on the hiking trail. He just can't seem to help himself and it is ruining our time together. I don't want to go out with him anywhere anymore. As the song goes with my edit, These are few of my NOT favorite things. The list is longer, but I will run out of room.

It's like "Wow, I had a crush on her in high school" or "Look at her legs" and on and on about women movie stars. This always happens when we watch movies at home together. I have told him to quit, but he doesn't. I don't do this to him or comment on men when we watch movies. It is such juvenile behavior. I have resorted to watching military movies with men in them.

Standing at her desk, and she had a marker and decided to do that. It didn't bother me, but why do you think she did that?

He always has some kind of an excuse such as it's in the mail, then a week after they're due he'll give them to him and say oops it was mailed here to the shop, or some other kind of excuse. But it's year after year that he does this. And as of right now it's only my husband and his boss that works there, so no one else to ask if it's happening to them too. There has to be something that can be done. Because my work gave me mine almost two weeks ago.

My husband uses smokeless cigarette behind my back, and he thinks I don't know about it. In fact, I knew he has been using it for awhile, should I tell him that I already know his secret? I was kind of waiting for him to tell me. He quit using them when we got married, but I guess his habit came back...

My husband and I have been married for 2 years and dated for 3 years. We have sex about once every week to 2 weeks. I am 22 and he is 38, I know there is an age gap, but that is not the point. Everytime we have aex I am the one who has to initiate. When we were dating he lived 1 hour and a half away so we only got to see each other on weekends . But now that we are married I feel like he doesn t want me I have tried and tried to talk to him about this and told him just to try once in awhile to initiate it. But he just wont. We have a daughter so sex has to be during nap time or bed time but he just never acts interested. It makes me wanna cry because I feel so unwanted. I don t know what to do ay this point. He will try one time after I have talked to him but in the span of 2 years he has only made 5 advances. Please help??

Let's call him J since that's what his name starts with. He is my dad's friend, his house got blown away in a storm last week so he is staying here with us. He is like 45. I am 19. He divorced his wife bc she "cheated" they were together for like 20 years, then when she had a child he took it and left her. Now J won't stop flirting with me. His son who is 3 drives me nuts and he thinks it's funny. He keeps asking me to take care of him and all kind of stuff, even though he knows I can't stand it. When my parents are not around J flirts, and is all wanting to touch me. He even got up last night at like 2 when I was getting some soda to cleAR my throat. What am I supposed to do?? This is driving me nuts.

I feel like I am making excuses for my husband. When he doesn't take his medication, he gets violent. He has ADHD. He gets angered easily. Not to say I back down when he does, but I tell him if he doesn't calm down I will call the cops while I have pepper-spray in my hand. The last incident he whipped a controller at my leg and caused it to bruise. We have discussed that if he hits me I am leaving him. So why aren't I? This happened on Saturday 1/28/17. We have been married for 4 years. He apologized right after and I didn't accept it. I would never lay a hand on him or ever throw things to hurt him ever. Just need some sort of advice. I have really nobody to talk to. He also has a councilor.

About that verbally abusive husband: just MAYBE, you made your husband think it's acceptable behavior that he maltreat you because you tolerate it again and again. Source: https://www.facebook.com/story.php?story_fbid=10154754627930236&substory_index=0&id=67936175235 I did not make the statement. Don't get mad at me.

i am not aloud a boyfriend in my religion, however i have been talking to this boy also got the same religion as me. We both know that its not good to talk to each other so the only way to solve this problem is to get married..we want to get married next year I will be turning 18 and many people have said to me that its too young but my grandma from morocco got married at 14 and has had 5 kids she died at 68 and life is short. i know how to clean and cook but i need your help?? what do you think

My wife is 5 ft 6 and I always make sure she is 100 lbs or less because I like that. She doesn't need the extra weight on her and it makes her look ugly if she goes over 105 lbs. Recently she went up to 115 lbs and have been avoid contact with her and calling her a gross pig and an obese whale when she's in the house with me. She says that she looks better but she's ugly af. How do I get her to the weight I like?

Like as they get older they may not look the same like when they got married, don't they lose attraction towards each other? Like I see old couples and they're still in love

My ex wife wants me to have sex I really want to but I'm married so I can't. My wife is 5 1/2 months pregnant with our first baby together she has another kid from a previous relationship. We only been married for 2 weeks. I can't do this to her but in a way I really want to. My ex left me because she said she was gay but me and her are still friends she and her partner are having a baby too. She said she won't tell our partners if we do it. She's trying to get me in bed with her. I feel bad because we never had sex when we were married she said she wants it now. What should I do ?

Do I have to keep paying Child support?

So i have been married for 2 years, together for 4, during this time we have dog sat for my wife's parents atleast every other weekend some times every third(it feels this fequent atleast but is not far off) some times even having my wife head out there for a week at a time while they are away So once again they have called saying they are out of town, initially i told my wife no(she left this weekend to visit them and vist her brother on his birthday, no big deal) so i just wanted to spend this weekend with her home, she told her mother and her mother claims that the dog sitter is booked. i told my wife i would think on it but im stumped, in my opinion it is getting ridiculous on how often we have to drive an hour and 30 to dog sit for 2 days(and eat kosher) not to mention my wife often says if i dont want to go she will problably just go and deal with it So should i stand my ground on no or should i cave yet again and pack up my crap and head out there this weekend

How do I deal with it? It's not his problem, it's mime, he says it's not as bad as I think, but I have mirrors :)

The other day I was doing house chores. I was cleaning up and I decided to throw away some papers and letters that were old. It was my husband's. He works as an English Sophomore teacher. Apparently the papers and letters were from his students that he's collected over the years. We've been married for 11 years, almost 12. He's taught since he was 22 and is 36 now. He asked if I had read any of the letters and I said yes. Well truth be told I kinda just read one and all it said was, "Thank you for being such a great teacher!" in big letters with you know, girly teenager decorations and what not. He got mad and said that the papers were really important to him. I told him I didn't understand why they meant so much to him if he's never really mentioned it to me and the stuff that I read just seemed generic. He then told me it wasn't generic and that it was genuine. Then he asked where I threw them away. I told him it was too late since the garbage men probably already got it. He even went to search through the only three bags we had left for the letters. It was a lot he had A WHOLE CABINET filled with them. We have no kids and don't want any, until recently when he touched on the subject again saying how he wanted one or two. Maybe that has something to do with it? Kinda clueless here. He even asked if I could clean around his desk area FOR HIM. Now he's acting like a child and for the past few days he told me to sleep in our room by myself while he sleeps on the couch. Ok, I'm still not seeing the bigger picture here. Most of you are telling me it's important to him, I got that already. But why is it? They're just letters and if they were that important to him I would think he would have memories of those students instead of needing these letters. Yes, I've been married to him for 11 years and it's been a wonderful marriage. We've fought before and when he's wrong I never hold it against him or make him feel bad about it. This is the longest he's gone without talking with me or spending time with me. It's been 5 days now. He even refuses to eat dinner with me let alone eat anything that I've cooked and I've been cooking things he likes to eat. Idk, but I think that's a little unreasonable. I genuinely feel bad about what I did after how he's treating me, but I also don't understand why he would treat me like that for this long. It's really bothering me and I'm concerned how things will end up if his behavior keeps up. Last night I was sitting on the floor next to him trying to talk about it because well, I think he needs to talk to me more about it. At times he would answer me and other times I kept calling to him and he wouldn't talk. He then just fell asleep around 2 AM. I mean what? How can he just fall asleep while I'm trying to fix the problem? I was out there with him for HOURS trying to get him to come sleep with me in OUR room together. It wasn't constant talk, but I'd call out to him here and there. I really do love my husband. I even told him that he doesn't even need to talk to me if he doesn't want to in our room and all that I want is just him next to me. I'm starting to feel that he loves those letters more than he loves his own wife that he's been married to for over a decade.

I have been with my husband for 10 years and I was wondering if anyone can give me advice on how to deal with stress. I have never been so heart broken in my life, hes the only man i have slept with. I don t want to discuss the details of the affair because I m almost sure I m going to leave this relationship, and those details don t matter. Thanks

My fiance and I are getting married what will be 5 months after I move in with him. Although I know this will be tough for my parents, we have explored all other options and nothing is logistically or financially smart. This is really what we want and makes sense. I will be the first person in my family to live with their significant other before marriage. I'm 23. I know this may sound silly, but I value my parents a lot in my life. Anyone have any advice or have had this situation? What was the outcome?