This man I met never talks about his wife, I ask what hes going to do and never mentions her.Hes mentioned it once and just looks down...he also pretty much works everyday..can you tell?

It's no secret that lots of women end up with men who swept them off their feet in the beginning, but then after things are more finalized in the relationship, he stops trying to win her. Why ? Do they think they can't lose her now ?

For religious reasons, my fiancée and I are abstinent until marriage. It was something we had discussed among ourselves and also in premarital counseling. My fiancée is a really level headed person but has a dramatic family that she tries to distance herself from. Recently her father overdosed on prescription pills in a suicide attempt and wound up in a psych ward. His wife (my fiancée's mother) didn't care. My fiancée took it upon herself to oversee her father's medical care and check in on him. She works full time and is also in grad school. She seems unfazed by the stress of it all but she has a tendency to internalize. I tried to ask how she feels but she insists she doesn't want to talk about her dad right now. The other day she was at my apartment and all of sudden tried to initiate sex. We were kissing and she started to get undressed so I stopped her. She started crying and insisted on leaving. I tried to stop an impulsive act. I didn't want to do anything we would regret. I know she's not on birth control and we are not planning for kids soon. I told her all of this and she said she wants some space. In the past (before we met), she used anorexia as a coping mechanism for stress/family issues but has since recovered. Now, she doesn't seem to have any outlet. I don't know what to do. We could work through this in counseling but it's so hard to get her to open up to me. What do you do if your partner internalizes a lot of feelings and major stress?

I sometimes have dreams about 1 ex boyfriend that I visited a few yrs ago. We don't speak anymore and I am unsure as to why he is the only ex out of many I dream about . I never even dream about my first husband. Anyways , I mentioned all this to my husband and he said dreaming about my ex is evil or demonic. Is he right ? Could that be the reason I'm dreaming of this one guy or why am I?

I go back and forth between wanting to be very sexual with my wife to not wanting to touch her and thinking of her as just a good friend or a maternal figure to thinking about her as very hot. Our relationship goes back and forth between no sex for months on end, to having sex every single night. One of our good friends recently divorced her husband after having an affair, because she saw her husband as a brother and another of our good friends (male) refuses to have sex with her husband for years now, because she feels like she is his mother. However she will not split with him because she feels too responsible for his well being. I feel that our relationship is going down the road to sexless, because we love each other too much. I have recently read "Mating in Captivity" and "Heart of Desire". These books both hit a nerve with me. But I am not wanting to bring the "other" into our relationship. Is there a way to keep things alive without the tension that these books recommend?

I'm 25. I've been saving myself for marriage since I was 18, because I liked the idea of being an innocent guy, meeting an innocent girl and falling in love and then having sex as a couple and not worry about birth control and such. I'm a simple person I didn't want a complicated love life to look back on, just one person with no history themselves. But everyone I talk to had sex at 12 or 14, and with every person they could get the pants off of. Sometimes it's just 3 quick fumbles, sometimes it's around 30 people. I don't get it. It's got to the point where I feel like I'm an alien that just landed on Earth, like I'm unnatural. Like it's changed my mentality from everyone else. Should I give up waiting and just aim to have regular sex with friends and people I meet? Is this just how humans bond now? Or do you think there is something worth pursuing in waiting for the right person?

she attracts small little fishies near her vaginalpluborious. I've seen it first hand, I snorkel.the reason is not blood from her monthly drip but actually parasites. the little fish will eat the even littler parasites. its called life ,look it up.

I've been with him for 3 months. I started dating him like a week after she left him. They were together for 2 and a half years. He always says he hates her and that she's nothing but a ***** but does he actually mean that or is it just said out of pain and anger because he's not over her?

And my wife is suddenly keeping us on a sex every weekend schedule now that the kids are older. Sadly we went through a time there when we may have had sex a handful of times during the year so I got used to a lot of online porn and self gratification because I'm not the cheating kind. But now I find that I have to not masturbate to orgasm for a week in order to be sexually aroused for our weekly sex. And during the week I will stroke myself to near orgasm while watching porn but back off to really prepare for the weekend. It works and it is nice to be having weekly sex again, but I feel a little bad having to do this. Does it matter, am I being a bad husband?

My wife has always been into the idea of swinging whilst I ve always been reserved about it. When we were in our late teens (we re in our 20 s now) we messed around a little bit which was mostly just kissing but now she s pregnant and wants to have sex with a friend of ours whom shes very attracted too. We ve had problems in the past relationship wise and she see s this as being some sort of gift from me. I have never cheated but the idea of him doing that to her whilst our child is inside her is really messing with me. Any thoughts or opinions, I m at my wits end with this and talking about it with her has just led to arguments

We've been together 17 years. He is literally everything I could ever want and more. He's kind, intelligent, faithful, handsome, romantic & sweet, a hard worker, a great dad, never ever abusive (in case you were concerned that may be an issue)... The list goes on and on. Some years ago, he had a vasectomy, our family felt complete, but he has scheduled a reversal procedure because he wants to make another baby with me. Him wanting another baby isn't the problem. The problem is WHY he wants another baby. He confessed to me that the main reason he wants one is because he is fearful I may leave him one day, and in his mind, he thinks that giving me more babies will "trap" me into staying with him, (which wouldn't work. If I wanted to leave, I would) and his fear is NOT a good reason to have more kids. I have told him this, and I have also told him I have no intention of ever leaving him. That I am already "trapped" by my love for him, that he is my forever. It's his body, so if he wants a vasectomy reversal, that's his choice, but I refuse to make babies based on his insecurities. I completely LOVE this man! My questions are : how can I help him overcome this fear/insecurity ? What do you think could be done that would be helpfulin this situation? Any helpful advice would be greatly appreciated!

I now dread doing things with other couples -at least at home I don't feel that ashamed of him. time for divorce?

The other night my my wife and I were hosting a party at our house. A former friend of mine who I hadn't seen in a long time came. After most of us were beyond drunk, this friend started picking a fight with me. He pushed me against a wall, and we engaged in a shoving match. I was expecting my wife to step in and help, but she just stayed away and yelled. I ended up shoving the guy away, and he left. The next day, I asked my wife why she didn't step in and help beat the guy up, and she said she was too scared of me and him. I'm not sure my wife supports me or can back me up when I really need her. I feel abandoned, and haven't looked at her the same way. I'm not sure how to make this feeling go away?

I just got home from taking my husband to work. Since it was warm out and I did not get out of my car and was only gone for about a hour I just drove in my bare feet and did not bring shoes with me.

My husband and I have been married for a year now. I have 3 kids from before him and he knew that while we were dating and he also knew that I got surgery so I couldn't have kids anymore. He has always been upset with this and always brings up like why couldn't I have waited for him etc. Sometimes when he is drinking he will even say like I shouldn't have done this or why can't I have a baby with you and why were you such a whore? etc. I just am not sure if he truly loves me. We were together for about 2 months before we got married and I thought it was a love at first sight thing and now idk how it was for him?

What's the point of getting married? It's just a piece of paper

So my fiance and I are discussing his " bachelor party". He is 34 and some of his friends are a little wild for their age. I said i dont care what they do but i just requested no strippers or escorts at the hotel. One of his best men for his brother s bachelor party called strippers to the hotel and my fiance said it was crazy and a few guys paid her money to go into a private room with her. When I told him my one request is no hotel strippers --he got mad and said I mine as well not have any bachelor party. And i took the fun out of it. All I said was, many of my other girlfriend s now husband s didnt do anything stripper related for their bachelor parties and didnt even care about the stripper thing. It shouldnt matter to him, he can still go out and do other things with his guys instead of having strippers or hookers at his hotel. He said " I cant control if they hire a stripper." i said yes just tell them no strippers for bachelor party, im sure they will respect that.HE also said its his last single night and feels a bachelor party would be lame without strippers. I said whoa you are not single! It doesnt mean you can go wild. when i discussed with my married friends and their husbands. The husbands agreed that he should respect my wishes about the no stripper and that this shows how he will treat me with other issues in the relationship. They said he supposedly loves you and that is a very minor request, he should want you to be happy.

It seems like every single question in this section is made up. Everyone trolls here. Are any of these questions legit? Why do people bother wasting their time answering the questions that are so obviously made up.

I'm so close to cheating. Haven't had sex in a month and I'm always given the I'm tired excuse and last night i just got up, slammed the bedroom door shut and slept downstairs in the basement bedroom. So now, I just get up before her, shower, and leave for work I have no intentions of even speaking to her because I'm so hurt by her rejecting me. I'm sick of the excuses. We don't have kids, I do my fair share of the housework. Dishes, laundry, cleaning bills etc. and she still gives me the I'm tired excuse. Should I look elsewhere? She's given me no other option

So it's my birthday today and my husband woke up early said happy birthday and went back to sleep. He doesn't go in to work until noon so he slept all that time until he needed to go to work. He didn't do anything at all. Our child was sick so I got up this morning and took her to the doctor went to get her prescription, did some errands and when I came back he was still sleeping. He didn't help out at all with anything or offer a hand. It just breaks my heart and makes me feel like he doesn't care.Kinda ruined the day for me. Before he left to work he threw in a load in the washer and left. Sometimes I feel like he is always tired to do anything. He is the laziest person I have ever met. Always strives for the minimal work, he wasn't like this before. He use to be so hard working and upbeat. I'm just use to him surprising me with hand made notes and poems or small gestures, even a helping hand makes me happy. But now that has all come to an end. Just so you guys know I work more than my husband and on my days off I work even more cleaning the house and taking care of bills and what not. I do so much for him, even help with half the bills and clean and do his laundry. I make sure to make him feel special on his birthdays or special occasions. I am also in my third trimester so I am extra sensitive, and as a loyal and hard working wife I expect my man to appreciate me. It is only normal to get upset because I didn't feel so.

I have a friend whom a talk to often and have known for years, we often go to lunch together during work. She does not have relationship success by any means. I have 3 children and I am married. my husband and I have also had issues along the way (I guess everybody does to an extent). my husband and I are trying to make our marriage work and this friend on mine instead of encouraging it she tries to convince me he doesn't love me and I need to divorce him. Any mention of us doing well or trying she has a negative comment about it. I am not that assertive but I strive to be bc I know how important that is to be true to yourself and not be a doormat. I don't know how to respond to her in support of my marriage without causing tension and maybe a disagreement or attitude. I know this is why I should not share my personal things with outside people but I felt she is a friend so I could vent when I felt down or stressed out. How do I move forward? I sort of feel maybe she isn't a "real" friend but maybe I am being blind. Please help.

Long story short he married me just for the bah and to get out of the barracks from what I m seeing now. We were both supposed to go back to our home states over the holidays and then go back to where we were living but he decided that he didn t need or want me there anymore so he told me to stay where I was with my parents. I had a lot of trouble switching tricare and everything which is crucial to me because I am pregnant. I finally got all of that done so the only other problem is that I am still having to pay for prescriptions since I am now out of network. I called the base to find out what I should do about the situation and they told me I needed to go to the nearest base in my state which is two hours away! Mind you, I left my job where my husband was stationed and I am currently trying to get my job back in my home state that I left just to be with him! So I can t really afford to make that trip right now. While talking to the base that my husband is stationed at one thing led to another after a series of questions that they were asking me and they were taken aback that he was still getting bah without me living there anymore and that he was not supporting me financially. I didn t know this myself but it got back to my husband and he s telling me he s in trouble and that I need to settle with him for $300 bucks so he won t lose his security clearance. Any advice? I m not sure what to do. I never wanted him to get in any trouble.

I am 19 and she is 38 recording to her her marriage is not going will at and it has taken a toll on her because what she has told me that she cares about but does not want to hurt anyone i am not sure what to do. I am 19 and she is 38 recording to her her marriage is not going will at and it has taken a toll on her because what she has told me that she cares about me but does not want to hurt anyone i am not sure what to do.

You won't be aggressive coz we aren't going to look at your epilepsy as some high drama disability/ dark thing, your neurons fire all at once, you don't eat babies or something. Also anything you do say or do in a seizure is not you really saying it, so don't worry. Are we not worrying will you hit me during a seizure coz that is so unfair to you. STOP worrying... Please stop worrying and come back. It breaks my heart that I haven't been there for you for so long and it plain p'isses me off that I didn't allow you to be there for me... You are more than you epilepsy John, so much more, so you aren't going to be aggressive coz you aren't going to be stressed out about it or fight it. OK so this life we stole has some down sides too, it comes with a lot of great sides, I mean sure would i love for you to be less gorgeous and yummy and not have to worry about diabetes or epilepsy, sure, but it doesn't mean you'd be a happier person, a better person if you were free from both these conditions, and to be honest I'd exchange your looks for epilepsy and diabetes free life, but not your brains. I'm sorry I like your brains, I love your personality...So... I don't know how to say this without sounding like I'm belittling how hard it must be for you, I'm not, but understand this, for me, loving you will not be hard. It will be a joy and a privilege. An honour, I'm not trying to be dramatic, it's true. Are we NOW worrying will you hit me during a seizure coz that is so unfair to you? *

It wasn't meant to be an insult. Why did she take it as an insult? It was more of an experiment. I swear to god. I always wanted to see how those tests work.

While I was out of town visiting friends out of state( I didn't invite my girlfriend to go with me) my girlfriend told me a guy started to message her on Facebook. He asked her out for drinks. The guy is married. She thought nothing of it and first told him that would be great but then messaged him back quickly and cancelled. She told me about it when I got back into town and I wouldn't have found out without her telling me. She showed me the messages and said she thought he wanted just to get together as friends. She didn't meet up with him nor did she give him her number. He started messaging her first and gave her his number. He is married. Should I be worried about her loyalty towards me and should I forgive her?

I have a secret fantasy of becoming a cuckold. However, I have a few problems with this. 1.) I don't know how to go about approaching this topic with my gf. 2.) She used to be a dancer before I met her. She's talked about going back occasionally because she misses it. 3.) I brought up her going back one day and she got mad at me. She told me that she loves me too much to go back, but she misses it. She also said if she goes back her and I are done as there are many guys there who can give her financially what I can't. 4.) We have a great relationship with amazing sex. I need help as to what I should do. Thanks.

So like I see a lot of teenagers an adults but mostly teenagers having sex out of marraige and being all sad because there couple left them, THEN WHY HAVE SEX IN THE FIRST PLACE and you are not even married to them? Just whyyy though?

I have been with him for 2 years now. Prior to that I was with someone for many years. Sex for me was something I did often, several times a week or whenever we got home from somewhere etc. but with my husband, it started out often enough but after only 1 year it drastically dwindled. It started with me being dry and I had tearing. He didn't like having to use lubricant. Then he eventually didn't mind it at all, but by then we were having sex only once or twice a month. I've talked to him about it many times but he says sex isn't everything (even though he was so upset and gung ho about sex and the lubricant ruining the experience) now it's not a big deal? So, in the last 3 months we have had sex only twice. I just feel nothing now. Sex used to be something I really enjoyed and felt intimate on many levels. But now I don't, now sex feels like something that I can't enjoy or is not the norm or not the ordinary. We are both VERY affectionate with each other and lovey dovey and that's never stopped. I just don't feel like I can have sex with him anymore. It's like I've received affection in another way and sex isn't part of the equation anymore. Im totally confused, I really didn't think I'd feel this way. I feel like the lack of sex but being around my husband and receiving and giving affection has broken me when it comes to sex. Any advice??

You get into a disagreement with your girlfriend and she reacts by booking a trip out of state to see friends. She does not invite you. She stays with a platonic male friend of hers while she is on this trip and comes home wanting to act like nothing ever happened. What would you do?

He's turning 30! I'm baking him his own personal peanut butter cake because I know he loves peanut butter :) What else should I do for him?

My 20 year old son who recently graduated from college has been needing braces for a while. So has his daughter who is still in college. For the past few weeks I've been working on a deal to get my son's braces. I didn't tell my husband. The only way he found out was the he asked me what my company insurance would cover as far as braces because he wanted us to look into getting his daughter's done. I've gotten my oldest son's braces a few years ago. When he found out that I was already working on a deal for my son he was upset that I didn't say anything to him about it. It wasn't a family discussion. He feels that I constantly berate him for doing things behind my back but when it comes to something like this which affects our household income then that should have been discussed. Now he feels that he shouldn't help me pay the several thousand dollar tab for my son. He then brought up the fact that instead of putting some money into my old car to get it back up to par I went out and got an older on that had more problems than the one I had simply because I was getting a deal on it. He said that farthest I've driven that car is about 25 miles because I'm afraid to put it on the road for a road trip. So now I'm paying monthly payments on a car that has never been driven more than 25 miles at one time. He now wants to take household money to fix his truck that we use for road trips and things like that which is going to cost him around $700. How should I feel as a mom for getting my son's braces? I took a half a day off work yesterday to get them put on and I didn't even tell my husband so he didn't even know they were on till he came home. Again, he feels it would have been nice for me to say, "I'm taking a half a day today because my son has a dentist appointment." He feels that since he's graduated college and is an adult, if he wants braces then he should figure out how to get them and pay for them himself. His 20 year old daughter is still in college so WE should pay for hers but my 20 year old son is out of school so he should be on his own. He just sent me an email saying that my son has till March to find a 40 hour a week job and help out more around the house or he needs to seriously think about finding himself somewhere else to live. He works at Jimmy John's sandwich shop making minimum wages and he's only getting about 20 or 25 hours a week. Again, we're now back to this forcing him to find a better job. My husband still feels that you can force someone to get a job or even a better one. He said my son has until March to find a full time, 40 hour a week job or he needs to possibly find somewhere else to live cause no grown adult will be living in our house working at Jimmy John's, only making minimum wages, getting 20 - 25 hours a week, spending 2 or 3 nights a week with his girlfriend but we have to pay to put braces on his teeth.

My boyfriend and I have been together for 4 months but have been knowing each other for 5 years. He recently relocated from a different state to be with me and we are supposed to be financially progressing. However, about a month and a half ago I was layed off and he was still unemployed with no money so I was practically taking care of him. He finally found a job but he hated it and he constantly called in. so then he got hired on a part time job. But for some reason he felt it was okay to quit his full time in place of his part time and he is not looking for another full time job I feel that this was very selfish of him especially since I have zero income and the rent is almost due not to mention he barely has money either so I m basically buying food and any other household needs with my credit card that s almost maxed out. Also we do rent out the basement of my moms house and we re down to the point where she is cooking for us almost everyday. We don t usually discuss or combine our finances and we are in our early 20 s. However I feel that based off of this recent action of his I m not sure if this is something he would have to learn as he get olders or if I need to ditch him now before I start to deal with even bigger selfish acts.

There's different lawyer types such as ones who focus on criminal activities and other who focus on divorce, etc. but is it possible to be a lawyer who does all? Like a lawyer who's able to work and help people with divorce issues, child custody but at the same time help people in crimes, rape, etc?

My wife of 3 years has never been the most honest person, I always cought her in small lies. She says it's because she already knows how I'm going to react. We 3 months ago she went to see her family in Louisiana but what she fails to tell me was that a guy friend from HS took her. She finally came clean once I picked her but but said they were just friends. After that she asked to see him again but wanted me to meet him, but by the time I got off work she already left with him. We got into a argument and I asked to see her phone. She wouldn't let me until I asked again the next day. By that time she badly had any text messages or fb messages it seemed like most were deleted. She told me she always deleted her messages. All this makes me think she is hiding something. Can I please have your honest opinion, thanks. Sorry for the bad grammar i was in a rush....

Okay almost five years ago I made the biggest mistake and got married to a man who was true love at first but things changed a bit after a while I guess it was my fault at first I didn't clean much and was on Facebook with fake friends while he was at work I thought our marriage was a failure I heard he cheated on me with my own cousin it hurt like shît (he used to be with her before me but they broke up) so I already knew this other guy my ex husband still hates him till this day and swears if he ever sees him he will kill him. I used to kiss before I met my ex husband but I never let things escalate, and he tried to get me to have sex with him while we were still together until my ex gave him a swollen face. When my cousin told me I cheated on him with two other guys separately and slept with them. Later I found it was a lie by that ***** and told him what happened. He started insulting me and he believes I cheated on him with the guy that used to like me and many others. I tried making up with him I tried getting him to sleep in the same bed when I did he would push me and turn the other way and said "why don't you go to your lover?" Or "get away from me, don't touch me" and he would make me feel like a sl*t we have a daughter we were divorced one year ago he comes and gets my kids and when I ask him how is he he replies "I hate you with all I've got! don't talk to me you who^e" why doesn't he get over it ? I know I ****** up why does he remind me every single time?!

We have been separated for 3 weeks and he hasnt given me a dime for our son, hasnt so much as checked on him, nor offered to get him. Would it be wrong to cut contact since the only reason would be for our son?

I had been fighting out of my marriage because I already had reasons on my own to get divorced and in order to be able to be with him. When he once told me I was no longer the love of his life I quit fighting out of my marriage and retake it, then he comes back and looks for me I finally take him back in my fb list and tell him that I quit fighting out of my marriage and he gets pissed off and ignores me completely we get into a chat fight and I tell him what he did and I finally dare to talk to him at the same level he talks to me and he blocks me. Actually I know what hurt him was not what I told him in the chat but the fact that I retook my marriage when it was just the consequence of me stop fighting out because he told me I was no longer the love of his life. So now I wonder if the real reason why he is getting away from me is because he doesn't want to see me just as a friend or just because he eliminated me as an option to make a life with