Years ago I started sleeping with a married woman. The affair went on for a long time till she got pregnant. Her ex husband found out and they got divorced. We took responsibility and raised our daughter. I made sure the child is mine. Sometimes I become afraid of the possibility of our kid discovering our nasty history. We're keeping it a secret but we're afraid the truth may come back at us.

I'm trying to find a way to bring up my girls weight gain. It started a few months back when we moved in together and it slowly progressing. It started off by her being really busy with work and buying take out dinners from the cafes/bars down the street from our house. We both work a lot so this sort of became the norm, only shes not working out much either. Now shes just sort of become more lax by the day and I'm not sure what to do. I really cant say how much shes gained, her body just looks different. When we first met she was always health concious and had an amazing body and now thats fading away. I know I sound shallow by say this but I dont want this to happen where she gets to be like this before we've been married a few years or had kids. Is this a polite and SOFT way I can mention this?

Lol theoretically... just curious :P

Please, no judgement here. Sometimes, life throws us a curve ball, and we do the best we can. We've all made mistakes. Some are just relatively bigger than others. And this is a huge one, I know. And I have never felt more guilty about anything in my life. I have lost so much sleep, and I can barely eat for the guilt. So please. Just advice. No hate. Please. I hate myself enough as it is. There was a man that I met a few years ago, an acting coach. Right away, there was amazing mutual attraction. I had never been so drawn to anyone before, ever. But life intruded, and we lost contact for a few reasons. We happened to run into each other, and decided to try our hand at friendship. I went to New York for an acting competition, with about 24 other people. He just so happened to be the coach for the group. He and I spent a lot of time together and became very close. When I found out he was married, my heart was broken, because I was so drawn to him. It was more like gravity than attraction. But the last night in New York, we found ourselves alone together. And we kissed. Very passionately. Since being home, we have tried to just be friends. It didn't work that way. We've slowly fallen in love, and its been very rough, mostly on him. He is married to his high school sweetheart, who doesn't support his acting, or want him to pursue any of his dreams. He married her knowing he would be giving those things up, and thought it was okay to sacrifice those things for her. He has since realized that its not okay to give up the biggest part of who you are (he is an AMAZING actor) because of someone else's insecurities. She has always been afraid he would choose acting over her, so she makes him feel bad about it being who he is. Being made to feel guilty for who you are is not easy. Especially by someone you love. We were spending some time together, and I kissed him again. One thing lead to another, and we wound up sleeping together. I lost my virginity to him. WE only slept together once. And now, I'm pregnant with his baby. I am not Pro Choice. I do not believe in abortion. He is slowly dissolving his marriage, but knows nothing of the baby yet. (Just an aside, he is 26, I am 20) But I have compassion for his wife. I don't want him to hurt her. I'm sure she is a very nice person, outside of her insecurity about him acting and I understand that I am ruining her life. I feel so overwhelmingly guilty about the whole situation. So now I am in the worst, most complicated, difficult situation of my life. And I have no idea what to do. I have contemplated disappearing out of his life so I don't totally ruin his, and destroy her. (They do not have children, and have been married for 3 years) But I don't know if I could deprive him of his child, or raise one on my own. But I don't want to hurt his wife. Any advice would be highly appreciated. But please, no judgement. I have been very hard on myself, and have been raking myself over the coals for weeks now. I am lost, scared, and so guilty that I can hardly eat. Please help me.

What I want to know is can he get kicked out for this? My friends are a married couple and have kids. They were happily married until she messed around with this guy in the Army. Her and this guy who is a Combat Medic in the Army got her Pregnant. Her husband is not the father because he had a vasectomy. What can happen in this situation can this married man who is devastated get this guy in trouble for screwing up his marriage? I know it's her fault too that the marriage is now gone because of her being pregnant now. But she is trying to get full custody of the kids and have her husband pay for the divorce and pay for her apartment so she can live on her own along with paying her support and pay for the testing to see if it's really the Army guys baby. Also they guy in the Army lives in a different state. I already told the married man to get a lawyer but he needs advice on how to get custody and make sure he doesn't have to support her while she goes off and cheats on him. I know this is a lot of Info but I really need to know what can happen in this situation for the husband the father of the kids wants custody and I feel so bad for him since he is the father of my god children. She is also unemployed, and the husband already has 2 full time jobs just to support her and his 2 children.

Okay, so I'm almost 26 and have recently began talking to a woman I went to high school with, and we've become really close friends. She has been married for a little over a year and has had problems the entire marriage and had problems before the marriage but they went through with it anyways. They don't sleep in the same bed and they don't really do much of anything together. She has told me that I'm everything she wanted her husband to be and tells me she loves me and talks about divorce constantly. Although I have a very deep connection with her and I feel that it's love, I can't bring myself to tell her how I feel about her because I consider marriage to be a very important bond. I'm trying my best to be supportive and a friend and tell her to try and work things out, while deep down, I want to just tell her to leave him and be with me. She says she wants to be with me and gives me signals saying she wants to be with me, but I've avoided all sexual advances because I refuse to condone cheating in any relationship. I'm just afraid if they get divorced, I'll be viewed as "that guy" and it'll be my fault that they got divorced. I know I can make her happy and I know she wants to be with me like I want to be with her, but I just don't know what to do. Should I wait and see what happens with her marriage or just tell her how I really feel? My heart is torn between right and wrong, but is love so wrong? Is wanting her to be happy so wrong? I'm just so confused......

I Know when Two people get Married (Boy and girl) you take the Guys last name..When Two guys get married who's last name do you take if they are both guys...?

My husband of 25 years looks at porn on the net and tries to hide it from me. he only does it when I am not home or am sleeping. He usually erases the history but sometimes like today he left it all on there for me to find. I have asked him why and to please not do it but he won't stop. It makes me feel like he is looking for someone other than me. It makes me not want to have sex with him at all. We have been together all this time (25 years) and I have never been with anyone else. I love him but this "addiction" makes me sick. What can I do?

I just got married, and I dont feel like changing my name. Too much paperwork seriously, and I am already established. So is my husband. HE makes a lot of money though, and every year, he owes instead of breaking even or getting a return. I have a daughter, and I always get a return. A friend of mine told me that she has not changed her name because She does not want to do anything joint together with him. They have separate investments and what not - but they share everything - just like us. So I am just curious...if the only thing that shows youre legally married is the certificate, can you still live separate lives legally? When I thought about this, I realized that thousands of illegal immigrants marry for citizenship, and totally don't even talk to each other - or file taxes together for that matter. So what is the legal deal? * 6 minutes ago * - 3 days left to answ

We were married a month ago, and I can count on one hand the number of times we have had sex since the honeymoon. On the honeymoon we had sex almost every day, but she mentioned several times that she felt pressured that she had to have sex because it was our honeymoon. Now that we're back it seems almost impossible to get her to want sex at all. We have talked about it but she says she is just never in the mood and thinks her birth control might be reducing her sex drive. We are only 24 and 25 years old. Although neither of us were virgins when we met, we waited til marriage to have sex with each other. For example, we last had sex on Sunday night. Last night, I was hoping to since we didn't have to get up this morning, but she told me sorry no sex because she was too tired and didn't want to throw off her sleep schedule. So this morning when we wake up, we were cuddling and I was kissing/rubbing her body, which she didn't seem to mind. But then one of our friends texted her, so she spent 30 minutes or so texting so I just rolled back to my side of the bed and called it another failure. We have friends who have been married 5 years and still have sex 3-4 times a week, so it sucks to already be at once on a good week. I'm not sure what to do about it. I have struggled with pornography in the past, but when I met her I broke the habit and quit, however I am really starting to struggle with the temptation of pornography again. My body needs sex unlike hers. No wonder many men end up looking at porn or having affairs... Advice?

If so, what did you do or not do about it? What happened? Did you ever tell your husband? Did your husband ever find out? Here's the deal with me. I have an attraction towards a man (of all places) at my church. I don't know the first thing about him, other than he's married - wedding ring, and has a daughter - saw him with her. I know that he's definitely aware of me, too. I am pretty much happily married, with the exception of some rough times which every marriage has. We have two young children. I would never have an affair. This attraction is very disturbing and stimulating at the same time. I know I'm playing with fire just by looking at this man every Sunday. It's progressing every week. He's looking back more than ever now. I can't stand to think of the temptation I'm presenting in his life as well. At the same time, there's like a physical excitement in this whole thing (naturally) that's just drawing me in. And now here I am, still thinking about him! Hubby's out of town and I can't stop picturing this guy at church this morning. Another week before I see him again. And then what? I can't let it go on like this. Kind, nonjudgmental responses appreciated.

Ok I need some advice please! I was in a relationship with my ex for three years and we have been broke up for 4 years now. It has been the most painful time trying to get over him literally sick to my stomach. We continued to see each other off and on for three years like we wouldn't talk for like a few months then he would call and I would give in because I could not break myself away from him, and I have been with my husband now for 4 years and married 5 months. I know that we were truly in love that usually comes once in a lifetime and its hard to erase memories and how he made me feel. I love my husband and I know he is better for me more stable. I was literally getting to the point where I was not thinking of him and he called. I have not talk to him in 8 months and have not seen him in a year, he said can we talk I said about what? and he started saying how bad he missed me and he was gonna be in the area and wanted to see me and how he feels like I'm cheating on him with my husband blah blah blah and he said I'm coming in wed for a week will you see me and I said I can't do that I'm married now, (I have not cheated on my husband) and he knows how to get to me and we talked for an hour he sent me a video after I told him not to trying everything. Normally when he gets in the area without fail he calls, it has been 5 days and I had planned on not answering his call but some part of me is so upset that he didn't and it's probably bs games he's trying to play. Now I am at square one trying to get over him ....Please give me some advice and do you think it's a game he's trying to play to make me call him?

Have any of you out there who are currently married ever wish you weren't married? This has nothing to do with whether your happily married or not or how long you've been married.....just a random question as to whether there were times you wish you weren't married. If yes, why? When were those times? I predict the answers will be different for guys or girls.

What is a woman called that dates a married man and breaks up the marriage? Home what?

A couple years ago I got married in another country (Ecuador) to an Ecuadorian citizen (I'm a US citizen) and need to know if the marriage is valid in the U.S. We went to the courthouse there to get the marriage license. We don't really talk anymore so I'm not sure if I can just forget the whole thing ever happened and get married in this country or if I need to get a divorce first, and if so, how would I go about doing that? I never filed for anything here, but I do still have the marriage license from Ecuador.

To anyone who has ever gotten married by a judge at a court house: What exactly happens? Is there an exchanging of rings? I'm just not sure what to expect. I'm getting married tomorrow and I'm nervous!

Men and women: At what age did you get married? how long were you with your spouse before that? are you still married? if not, was it too early to get married? would you have waited longer to get married? any details are appreciated

I've been married for almost two years and have lost or grown distant from many friends after I got married and had a child. Just wondering has anyone else? Thanks

I have heard people saying that you should live together before you get married so you can get used to living with that person. but why? why do you need to do that before you are married. why can't yuo do that as a married couple. What is the difference when you get married then? As if yuo would have divorced someone because they don't do the dishes the same way as you do? If you are going to live with someone, why bother getting married then?

When people say that young married couples will miss out on "the best years of their life" what do they mean? If it means the expectation that 18-26 year olds go out and party/club every weekend, what about those of us who just aren't into that lifestyle? Please don't attack me and I am not trying to spark a debate. I am really just wondering. Also, second question: for any women who were young brides (22 and under) did you/do you feel you missed out on a part of your young life because you wed early?

why does this happen all the time , every where? pretty girls stay single for a lone time, or get divorced or marry players, while ugly ones get married early and start happy families?!

I always wondered why unhappy men stay married? Or why does a wife stay if she knows her husband does not love her and has told her so?

Hi My fiance is at A school and graduates today. We Want to get married as soon as he gets home. Of course he has to get his orders, so not sure exactly when he'll be here but this month hopefully. He told me yesterday that he has to talk to someone forgot who, because if we just go and get married he said he could get in trouble or cause some problems. Im so confused does he need permission or something? My fiance said something about being approved?Thats he has to let them know his plans on getting married. I have no idea, hes going to talk to someone on sunday. I thought we could just go and get married. I know I can't go with him right away to where ever they send him, because im not on his orders hes on as single. But I was just wondering who does he need to talk to and about what? Just what his plans are? Can anyone help me? I would really appriciate it. Thanks!

I hate strip clubs. That has been out in the open from the beginning. My husband and I did not have traditional bachelor/bachelorette parties...the guys played paintball, the girls went out to dinner and we all got together at the end of the night for a big bonfire party. That was perfect for me. 2 months ago, my husband went to a strip club for his friend's bachelor party. I hated every minute of it and we fought for weeks about it. The guys "promised each other that they wouldn't tell what happened there." Its not that I don't trust him...I just truly hate strip clubs and everything they stand for. I don't know how to get over it...I know that my protesting just makes things worse between us. Apparently the guys had "so much fun" last time that they are planning to go next month...What do I do? I just can't get past this!

Im 31 yrs old and I have been dating a married man for the last 5 years. I met him at work which started off as friends. He would console in me with his problems at home and his marriage. One thing lead to another and we both fell for each other. He has been married for 20 something years and has 4 children. I have known from the begining when we were friends of the truth concerning his marital problems. He says their relationship feels more of a business of raising children and there is no more love. He says he has been staying in the relationship for the kids because he did not have a father figure growing up. His children are teenagers and two are now in college. His other half is aware of me and has even knocked on my front door. She refuses to kick him out because of the financial stability and their children. Over the last year I have tried to end it with him because I am fed up with the living situation. I want him all for myself. We spend most of our days off together, the evening, but he goes home at night to sleep there. His children are not stupid and Im sure they know what is going on. She has even told them he has a girlfriend. Usually when I try to break it off I end up taking him back within a few days. We are separated again and I am not sure what I want now. I have asked him what is he waiting for in regards to leaving his home and he replies that he does not know. He says he does not want to hurt his children and be hated by them. He says its not in fear of her taking money from him. We are honestly in love with each other, but dont want to feel guilty if it doesnt work out between us if he decides to leave. I do not know why he has not left because he says he is not happy at home and is only their for the kids. I truly love the man, but sometimes I wonder what else could be out there for me and if I am missing out. Im not sure what to do. Some days I feel as if I want to spend the rest of my life with him even if he does leave home, but some days I feel like straying and seeking new relationships. I think because he has not left yet, it is turning me off and putting a negative hurt on my end as far as the relationship. He keeps telling me its going to happen and for me to please be patient. What should I do?

I admit I use my daughter's Facebook to spy on my husband (we have been seperated for two years). I have asked for a divorce, but we have just never taken the steps. I thought maybe he wanted to reconcile at some point in the future and I was totally opposed to that, so I never purseued it. I logged on to her Facebook and saw several posts detailing his preparation for a wedding, his status shows he is engaged and when I clicked on his "fiance's" profile I realized that they are planning on getting married in two weeks. I know his is illegal because we are still married. We are legally seperated and I checked with the court and that status has not changed. So he is still married. So, he is planning on marrying this woman even if he is still married to me? From what I can tell, they are marrying in another state and from what I can tell, my daughter does know, but I think she might think we are divorced. First off, do I need to report this and to who? I think this would qualify as bigamy. I don't care, I am more than happy to divorce him and let him be married legally. What I don't want to do is somehow forfeit my right to child support or a fair settlment from our assets because he marries someone else....otherwise I wouldn't really worry about this. Who should I report this to? The court said they couldn't help me.

Would you get married if you'd been together for 7 years and not bother getting engaged? I think this is a bit weird as some of my friends have been engaged for years before getting married while others get engaged after a few months then married pretty quickly. I know anything goes but i've never heard of the first option before?

What challenges did you have to face getting married so young and do you wish you waited longer before getting married?

Hi. I'm doing a paper for college on getting married young and surviving statistics of divorce. Sooo, I was wondering if you guys could tell me some successful "I got married at 20 and I'm still married _ years later" stories. (it doesn't have to be at 20, I just used that age as an example) Tell me how you survived after the honeymoon phase, did you live with parents at first or on your own? Advantages of getting married young? disadvanages? General opinions? how did you keep your marriage going strong instead of headed for divorce like most young married couples?

I mean..can a married man just be staying in his marriage because of the money he would have to pay for child support would be ridiculous bcuz he makes a sh*tload of money...can he love someone else but just be stuck? HELP I really need to know if this married man could love someone else but just be stuck...

I have been married and divorced twice now. My boyfriend is the same. We have been talking about getting married in the spring. We really love each other and have a good, open, and honest relationship. We both have learned a lot from our pasts. We are committed to one another. I believe in the old adage of three stikes and you are out. I will not marry more then a third time. I would give up and stay single and be happy. But there are some people who feel that a third time is too much and stupid. What do you think and why? Only honest and kind answers people please. Thank you. Plus any advice would help.

My friend is a married christian lady and everybody knows that there is no divorce in christian marriage. She wanted to get married to one muslim man asking her to marry. She was separated to her husband for many years back but not legally separated. Legal separation will takes time 5 years or 10 years before the court will give the decision and needs thousand of money. What can she do? Is it true that if she be converted to Islam her marriage will be void. And can marry the man and live in Islam rule? Please help because i am christian lady also and I don't know what I will give advice to my friend.

As someone who STILL believes in marriage, I am truly disgusted with how many people nowadays wish to call the foundation of marriage a "contract" or "just a piece of paper". And it is utterly horrific how lazy people have become with the idea of marriage. With men, they won't even think for a d*mn second to put a ring on the finger of the girl they wish to be with. They have the lazy mentality that "Oh, just as long as she lives with me, and hands me sexual favors like she's my call girl, I'm fine." And with girls, I'm even MORE horrified. You'd think that they'd lean a bit more towards the idea of marriage. But in most cases, they're more worse than men! "Oh, just as long as he lives with me and hands me sexual favors like he is my prostitute, I am just fine." Utterly pathetic. Truly disgusting. And then, they make excuses for saying that marriage isn't real. "It's original intent was for it to be a contract between families, it's just a piece of paper." Are you kidding me?! Are people this moronic that they are starting to say marriage, which has lasted WAY longer than most people's idea of what "true love" is, to be calling it fake and just a piece of paper?! It's like our society WANTS to stop growing culturally, and instead revert back to stupid ideals and hideously low morals. And, don't give me the excuse that a wedding is "too expensive" and that's why you don't see marriage. Because let me tell you something: You don't need to have a big huge fancy wedding in order to get married! For goodness's sake, haven't you ever heard of going to court, and asking the justice of the peace for your marriage to be proved. And that only costs 30 bucks! Plus, by law, you can get so many tax benefits and such once you're married. Not that those matter. You should only marry someone because you truly love them. So, please, explain your reasoning for why people think "living together" is better than getting married?!

i posted a question and i said "" I am 16 and thinking of getting married with my boyfriend who I have been going out for more then a year, I do not need advice as in, why i shouldn't marry, but I just want to know do I have to have a reason for getting married at 16, in example, pregnancy, etc.? "" what I meant to say as in a REASON, is if there have to be a REASON for the law to approve my marriage. Like, if I just want to get married without being pregnant, then can I? I live in New York. He is 19, so he doesn't need a parent consent. He works. Ive known him since 2 years.

I'm in my forties and have been with my wife since our late twenties. We have kids. We live in different states from my parents. My mom recently told me she doesn't like and has never liked my wife. It broke my heart. My wife is not perfect, but she is a kind person with a great heart and well liked by most people. My mom has always been a negative nelly type, she has very few friends. My mom is encouraging me to divorce. I know this sounds crazy, but I feel like I have to choose. I feel like if I choose my wife and something ever happens to our marriage I wont have my anyone, because my mom will disown me if I chose to stay married. I feel if I choose my mom, she will always be three. I know this is crazy so please no mean answers or name calling like immature. This is a serious heartbreaking dilemma for me.

My dad dated another woman before he married my mom, and they had a child together (they weren't married, they were engaged and they lived together) but then things didn't work out and he married my mom and had me,my brother, and sister. I know the other child is my "half brother" since we share the same dad. What about the other woman? What would I call her?

So my mom has been married a total of 3 times. The first time she was 16 and my mom and her husband, at the time, cheated on each other. The second im not so sure but both my parents say the other parent cheated, and lastly the third one, my mom was cheating with my step dad during there marriage, and I know that because she got pregnant and my step dad was questioning who the child's father was I saw some messages on facebook between her and this man. And I should also mention that my mom already had a kid with my step dad. So later on my mom kept saying shes not happy and blah blah blah and so they divorced, now my mom is single but not her "boyfriend." About a year ago I found out my mom had a "boyfriend" (you can say), but there more than just dating. I was looking through my moms phone, because I dont know why, dont judge me I was stupid and curious aha, but I had seen the text between her and this man and they where making plans on when to see each other again... and not see each other at the movies or a restaurant, as in to have sex. I was shocked and was wondering who this man was, and when I searched him up on facebook I saw that he was married and had kids. I knew it was him because my mom was also messaging him on facebook. And I really want my mom to stop seeing him and I want someone to find out to tell her to stop. I dont know what to do and dont tell me it was bad to look through my moms personal stuff because I know that and I regret doing it because I really wish I never knew about this. SOMEONE HELP!

I have been with my bf for 3 years now. The beginning of the relationship everything was amazing till the comfort started to kick in. Now it seems like I walk on egg shells around him ( I am so scared of saying anything because idk if he will get mad) every time we get into a fight or a disagreement he verbally puts me down and breaks up with me (to teach me a lesson) and he never apologizes. I feel like he is hiding me. (Social media is not a big deal at all) when we first got together he would love when I posted pics of him and he would post pictures of me, he has un friended me off of insta and every time I ask him to be friends he gets mad and says he will breakup if I post ANY pics of him because he wants our life to be extremely personal which I want but him refusing this much and willing to break up with me over this makes me feel likes it is a little more I have taken him back after he misses me when breaks up with me but he doesn't think he does anything wrong, even if he checks out another girl and says he wants to **** her in front of me,or if he flirts right in front of me. He puts his phone on airplane mode

My husband, is having another child with another women... skipping all the details. We are back together, we have two kids already under the age of 2. She is talking about taking him for child support, I do not work and my husband only makes 31,682 yearly. How much can she get for Child Support? Would they put into consideration our kids first? ..Please explain. thank you.

My husband & I have been together for 13 yrs & have 2 small children. This is the story I got: He went picked a coworker up at work. After he had car trouble. Took him home. Got lost, stopped at a bar for directions. His phone was almost dead. He had a few drinks. He doesn't really know. Admitted he should not have left the house to start with. He was drinking. He went to his truck to sober up before driving. Planned to call me to come get him. Couldn't his phone was dead. He passed out. Woke up before it was cold. Went to leave to come home. There was a girl in the other side of the truck.... He kicked her out. Drove to Walmart, bought rubbing alcohol, dumped it all over his manhood. He has no idea what happened, If anything... It took him 2 days to tell me, he has been a hot mess. I knew something was up. He is going for a full panel for blood work tomorrow. He said If it wasn't for the kids he would have killed himself. This is not like him... He is not a drinker. He is nervous about an up coming surgery. The time line leaves about 20-30 mins or less in question. What do I do? I'm so hurt!

My fiancée and I eloped and got married in aug 2016. We've known of each other for 4 yrs but never dated until about a yr ago. The relationship progressed quickly. But we talked about heading towards marriage anyways so that's that. Things were good and I knew he wanted things a certain way. But lately he's been really demanding of when he wants his breakfast lunch n dinner n when I don't things as soon as he says he will get angry. Ex. when I didn't cook and make him his lunch for his work he got mad at me and said for so many hours u didn't cook or anything and did nothing, and today he wanted his D.L copied w/ the new printer he bought.I didn't know how to work it and he got mad. When he knows I'm mad he wants to talk about it, but I'm to the point I don't want to anymore because there's no point. He is gonna say his point and point out why I'm wrong and he is right. I work 4 days from 9-7 And he works full time and over time too 5 days a week. He is 20 yrs my senior. I do all the cleaning because he doesn't want to clean. N we barely have sex. I don't know if he is seeing other women or I don't turn him on. I feel like a maid or just a roommate. Is it wrong to feel this way? Or that's what wives r suppose to do? I use to live by myself and paid my own bills and it was fine. I was a smaller place but I Liked it and I did what I wanted and bought what I wanted and what I didn't feel like doing I didn't have to. now I'm married I feel like I have way more responsibilities. Is that normal ? Or am I being immature and not adaptable? He pays for all the bills even my bills which he doesn't have to, but he insists. Or am I just not use to marriage life? And why do you think he is treating me this way?

He says his marraige is fine now, but he is pushing me away and its heartbreaking.

I'm well aware most married couples stop having sex at some point, at least in my culture. Where I live after they have their last child no more sex.

Many people seem to throw a lot of shade on the topic of prenuptial agreements before marriages, which comes as no surprise given what a prenup typically stipulates. However, what does that contract imply about a potential partner? Moreover, since not providing or allowing your spouse to touch any (or very few) of your assets is generally considered a "jerk move", what do you have to say about trusts? Of course, a prenup is not the only means of protection and assurance. Some entrepreneurs - at least, the smart ones - operate their businesses and whatnot through trusts, as beneficiaries, trustees, or sometimes both. But why would this ever be an issue in marital relationships, and what does it say about a person? I ask these weird questions because of something my teacher said to a friend of mine and me. Long-story-short, she basically spoke about her personal experience with her marriage and provided us with her opinion, where the convo basically ended with the conclusion that prenups aren't sexy, and sometimes seem unfair. BUT, my question is, why would someone take offense to that if they have no motives? A relationship is a relationship; a marriage is a bond, and if the *initial AND long-term* intention is honest and without ulterior motives (i.e., marry, accumulate, divorce & take half of everything, etc.), what is there to worry about, especially why one is not physically losing anything?

I'm dating a guy he just got divorced,, and has 2 kids well we didn't talk about his wife at all he just mentioned on few occasions ,that his kids are not well behaved, and that his a way all ,the time for work thier mom doesn't know how to control them, and from what I understood from ,the situations ,that she seems careless ,, so I wanna impress him sure I can't spend time with the kids but at least I want him to think that I could be a better wife and a better mom any tips u guys please

My husband and I have been married over a year and a half. We argue all the time about pointless stuff. When we fight he will yell at me and I will yell at him back. He starts saying "all the right things" to make me even more upset. I give him a warning and say stop, "Stop please stop! I'm at a red, stop now." He won't stop and I end up hitting him (not as hard as I can, but harder than a tap). He then gets mad because I smacked him and he will punch/smack/hit me in my face and/or on my body. I get mad because he hurt me much worse, so my anger gets even more raised and we get into physical fights. What would you do?