Family: Question: How often should a divorced Dad see their kids? Does my Dad only seeing me once a month mean he doesn't love me?

Question: How often should a divorced Dad see their kids? Does my Dad only seeing me once a month mean he doesn't love me?

Posted: 30 Jan 2017 01:42 PM PST

My Dad remarried and he only sees me once a month for the past 4 years. My parents divorced 7 years ago when I was 11 and now I am 18. My Mom says my Dad does not love me because if he did he wouldn't have left me for my step-mother (he moved near her family 4 hours away). She says he is nice enough to me because he might feel guilty about it but does not love me or my sister or he'd try harder and would have tried in his marriage harder. So my question is how often should a Dad see their kids in cases of divorce? My cousins' have divorced parents but they see their Dad weekly. I have a 2nd cousin whose parents are divorced and he has only seen his Dad twice in the last 5 years (My Mom says that Dad is like mine). That father is a severe alcoholic though, mine is not an alcoholic at all. So how much does my Dad need to see me for it to count as him loving me? Does once a month only mean he doesn't love me even if he is nice to me like my Mom says?

Question: I'm 18 years old and I can't stay at home anymore. What should I do?

Posted: 30 Jan 2017 01:41 PM PST

I'm 18 still in high school (Cyber Academy) and I live with my great grand mother and her son (My great uncle I guess?). My uncle yelling and fussing about how I don't do anything, and he's right I don't do anything around the house. But there are two reasons why I don't do anything. One is that I don't know how to a lot of stuff but I could figure it from seeing what needs to be done or simply being told. The other is that my uncle is too proud to accept help. Almost a year ago I went out to help him clean out a shed we have. He told me to go ride like I was an 8 year old kid. I can't stay here any more. It's gotten to the point to where I'm considering Military service or national guard but I'm not in the best shape and they may not want me. Never mind the fact that I'm still in high school. What can I do? What should I do?

Question: My late dad's newest wife?

Posted: 30 Jan 2017 01:38 PM PST

My dad has recently passed away leaving behind my brother and I and my dad's last wife (not our mom). Our mom died 16 years ago. Is my dad's newest wife still considered family, even though neither of our parents are alive anymore?

Question: Since my Dad is an alcoholic (pretty severe one) should I avoid alcohol?

Posted: 30 Jan 2017 01:38 PM PST

My Dad is a pretty severe alcoholic. I only see him once or twice a year but my brother seems him weekly and says 9 out of 10 visits our Dad is trashed. He is ugly when drunk also. So now that I am 21 should I avoid alcohol at all costs since my Dad is an alcoholic or am I most likely able to avoid becoming alcoholic? Will I know if I am starting to become one and be able to stop? I kind of think my Dad is so sick he doesn't realize he is an alcoholic almost like a dementia patient though my mother says different (she was previously married to him).

Question: How do I help my sister who is a deranged nut case but doesn't want help?

Posted: 30 Jan 2017 01:34 PM PST

She can be wonderful and yet other times she can do the most unforgivable things. She has gotten worse over time. My parents were sometimes guilty of walking on eggshells with her and same with her husband who has eventually left her. Her problem is she does the most kind and caring things but then demands reciprocation. Almost like a narcissist. When someone gets on her bad side she will do evil character assassinations. For example, she claims that she got her friend Julie divorced by convincing Julie's husband that she was having an affair to get Julie back for not wanting to continue the friendship. Don't know for sure if she is just claiming this or not but if it is true then she is beyond evil. I do know her old friend Julie is divorced. Another woman she hacked into the email of and sent viruses out in that woman's name as that woman also ended a friendship. She claims her husband cheated and while I wouldn't be surprised being married to a lunatic like her, her sons say their father denies this. I suspect she is making this up since he did leave her. My two nephews (her sons) refuse to see her other then family function where they are in a group. Her daughter (from a previous relationship) however takes care of her and devotes her life to pleasing her mother. The children are all teens and adults (daughter an adult sons teens and live with their Dad). So how do I help my sister? She is evil but also my sister and I think might be sick not true evil.

Question: I want to get out of my emotionally abusive home. Who do I call? Story below.?

Posted: 30 Jan 2017 12:55 PM PST

I'm adopted. My adoptive mother kept me from knowing I was adopted for 13 years or so, until my biological sister told me. (My entire life, my real mom was in it, but I thought she was my aunt. It's a long story.) anyway. Ever since I found out, my mom yells at me, keeps me isolated from friends, and made me do homeschooling. I stay in my room all day unless I'm told to clean (my mom doesn't have a house of her own so I live with my dad, mom sleeps on the couch) and my dad and i's "agreement" is, if I clean and cook or whatever he needs, I have a place to live. I don't think I should be under agreement to have a stable home. But whatever. If I try to talk to my mom, she curls into a ball and yells "leave me alone" or tells me to kiss her *ss. She's pathetic. My biological sister is 20-21 and has a home, 2 jobs, and I want to live with her.

Question: Should I go to this concert I would have to pay 303 and my dad said I can go but I feel bad because he just bought 3 iPhones for my family?

Posted: 30 Jan 2017 12:46 PM PST

Question: My girlfriend fell asleep while breastfeeding in my sisters car should I unlatch her baby and pull her bra up or leave her boobs out?

Posted: 30 Jan 2017 12:32 PM PST

Question: What do I do when my sister won't stop talking and I can't even get a word in the sentence? How do I get a word in during family time?

Posted: 30 Jan 2017 11:41 AM PST

She is 30 and I'm 21. She's a grouchy person but she's also talkative.

Question: My mom is like a Nazi I call her not see mom. How do I get her out of my life once I'm an adult?

Posted: 30 Jan 2017 11:40 AM PST

Question: Mom wont let me be myself?

Posted: 30 Jan 2017 11:34 AM PST

I'm a 17 year old male, and happily part of the goth culture. My mom will NOT let me wear any makeup or piercings, however. It took me 4 years to convince her to let me dye my hair. What concerns me is that I am nearly 18, yet only a junior. I always figured when i turn 18 i can do whatever I want. But I will still be living under their roof, and she will kick me out if i do what i want. Also, she said i will follow her rules through college or she will cut funding and access to my bank account. What can i do to convince her that at my age I should be able to decide what goes on with my body, no matter her personal beliefs?

Question: How can I prepare to be a great father in the future?

Posted: 30 Jan 2017 11:22 AM PST

I asked this question already, but I didn't really receive the answers I was looking for. I'm 22 years old and my lifelong dream is to become a father in the future. Is there anything I can do now to practice or prepare to be a great father?

Question: Is parents making jokes about genitals on their child is normal???

Posted: 30 Jan 2017 11:21 AM PST

I would not call them sexual jokes because they are not actually sexual. Like i remember when i was a child my parents/grandparents often joked about my.. you know. Like they literally said p uss y a lot times called me that but i can't translate this because the way they used it is like if they would litetally call me vagina or idk.. We had photos of me when i was ever smaller and i was naked in most of the pics and they always laughed like look at your little pussy here and showed it to others too like what the f uck? It always made me uncomfortable. I used to be naked when i was little a lot but they always make sure i feel extremely uncomfortable. Now they do the same with my little brother and i hate it.He laughs at it yet but i don't know. It's just weird. I heard my grandma told him when we ate dinner that "if you don't eat that i will kiss your....."?? I find it just.. weird even having naked pics of your kids. Its weird..

Question: My dad and family hates me..?

Posted: 30 Jan 2017 10:33 AM PST

Hi guys, I dont usually find answers to my family life on internet. But, maybe you will help me, I hope. I was celebrating 20 years yesterday, but I got into an argue with my parents.. None of them wished me luck and good health, just like parents usually do. And I just want to add, that my dad really doesnt like me, he just argue me as often as he can. I am an university student, so I cannot move to my own aparment, I just have to be at college accommodiaton, if I had money. I am really desparate, drinking as much alcohol as I can. Sure I keep it in secret from other people, because I am always as positive as I can. I always find Yahoo as a therapy, so.. maybe you can help me..

Question: Why don't I fit in with my family?

Posted: 30 Jan 2017 09:15 AM PST

I feel like I'm not part of my family. I don't really look like my family. My maternal sides hair is light brown, my paternal sides hair is blackish grey (their hair becomes grey when they hit puberty, that's weird) and my hair is black without grey. Also, my maternal side is skinny, my paternal side is big and I am curvy. I am also nothing like my family. I love water parks, YouTube and acting. My family loves hiking and computers. Maybe I'm adopted. One time we were making a family tree and we found everyone's birth certificate except mine. It's like I don't have one or something. In summer, my granddad took me to a castle. There was this one room where everything was gold; I had a weird feeling in my stomach and I felt like I belonged. If I'm adopted, could I find my parents in a place like this? Am I adopted or do I just not fit in?

Question: Why did I get turned on from seeing her in bikinis?

Posted: 30 Jan 2017 08:59 AM PST

I do not mean to be obscene in any way. I am just curious. As years have passed, my sister always wears bikinis to the beach and other water related activities. Recently, last year on vacation during Spring Break, we decided to go to Cancun. As soon as we hit the beach when we got there, she would take off her shorts and shirt into her bikini and I got really turned on by the way she looked. We have taken pictures before at the beach before, but seeing her in bikinis from a picture does not attract too much attention. Why is it that I get more when seeing her in a bikini in front of me rather than from a picture? Does anybody know?

Question: How do I show my dad he is special to me?

Posted: 30 Jan 2017 08:52 AM PST

I spent most of my teenaged years away from my dad, so I'm not as close to him as I could be. I'm 21 and want to make him feel special. What do dads like?

Question: My family thinks i'm weird ..?

Posted: 30 Jan 2017 08:46 AM PST

i'm a teenager . regular teen in my eyes but my family sees me as different tho . i'm 17 , male , & i look pretty normal .. well atleast i think i do , but i've always been the oddball of my family . i'm black , i have normal hair . a curly afro (that they always tell me looks horrible & i need to cut it) , i dress normally .. skinny jeans , regular canvas shoes or tennis shoes , nothing fancy , & a simple t shirt . i have better clothes & my mom always asks why i don't dress better but i don't care about all the fancy clothes . & music , my family thinks i'm odd & weird because i don't listen to what they do . i strongly prefer punk or emo over rap , but i listen to predominantly black genres too like r&b . am i weird ??

Question: I'm 18 and want to run away, please read?

Posted: 30 Jan 2017 08:41 AM PST

I turned 18 years old on January 11th. For about the past year, ive lived with my mother. She took advantage of a situation and filed for custody behind my back. Well, I've had no choice but to live with her. I hate living here, I love my mom, but I will always resent her because she was an addict and abandoned me as a child and didn't come back into my life until I was 13. I lived with my father my whole life. My mom is impossible to please. IMPOSSIBLE. I have straight A's and I never leave the house or cause her trouble, but she always says I'm bad. I share a room with her (shes lazy and lives off the government) she gives me no privacy. NONE. she expects me to abstain from sex and a social life, she actually doesn't have any type of girl talk with me. I had a yeast infection, and she asked to put the medicine inside of me? Really weirded me out. She's extremely controlling, I'm 18 and I'm GROUNDED??? She says I can't go anywhere. I'm extremely nice, I don't have to listen, I'm 18, I can leave if I want. But i don't want to disrespect her. I want to move, basically run away because she's crazy I'll have to do it behind her back to avoid a beating. I'm planning on leaving for school on Friday but actually my dad will pick me up and never come back? I'm only taking a small bag of belongings (none of which she bought) and I'm leaving my phone here. I know she will hate me for leaving, but I just can't take this anymore!! AM I being irrational?

Question: What are the reasons my aunt dislikes being around me?

Posted: 30 Jan 2017 08:22 AM PST

So here it goes as I will share my story with all of you. When I Was younger, I was always in shape. I went through a period of my life as I got a little older where I gained lots of weight and lived a poor lifestyle that invovled drinking too much. My aunt never would be able to criticize me when I was younger and in shape cause there was nothing to criticize me about. During this time lets just say she didn't really make an effort to be close to me. We would see eachother on holidays but would never speak. I lived in Florida in a condo by the ocean and her brother who is my father paid for it. During this time was when she really kept her distance from me. I was modeling during this time also and my aunt was overweight. Then once I got older I gained weight and became more overweight than she was. She jumped at the opportunity to be so critical of me and judgemental. She would talk behind my back and spread rumors that I was doing drugs and abusing alcohol with bad people. Then I decided to change my lifestyle back to the way it was when I was in my early 20's. When I walk in a room people are so impressed by how I look. There have been times where I will be in the same room as my aunt and they will end up criticizing her and ask her why she doesn't go to the gym like me and workout. Lets just say ever since this started happening she keeps her distance from me.

Question: What do I do if my aunt hurts me for saying her daughter she's estranged from?

Posted: 30 Jan 2017 07:44 AM PST

I saw the daughter over the weekend.

Question: Got grounded for rolling my eyes at my dad!? Is this fair?

Posted: 30 Jan 2017 07:10 AM PST

My dad is getting on my nerves! he was in always strict I mean he was in the military for 15 years "you only speak when your spoken to" or "you don't walk away until I said you can go"or "when talking to me always say sir doesn't matter if you're 70" is things I hear too often! But yesterday he pushed the limits! So he wanted to talk to me and my brother and to me all he was saying was kinda pointless so I did role my eyes at him a little bit, and he hates that he likes it when you look straight into his eyes he says if you don't it's like you are "disrespectful" towards him And he says : " why did you do that?" "Do what?" "Roll your eyes at me?" "I didn't " "Don't you dare lie to me girl" "Why is this such a big deal? I didn't do anything" " If you like talking back we will see how much you like it in the next week,you're grounded for a week,I want your phone on the table right now " "That's not fair!" "My house my rules!" I gave him my phone and even then he wasn't satisfied! "Don't give me that attitude of yours, I don't have time to deal with it today!" "Ohhh so if I talked back yesterday you would have had time for it?" "Ok you know what I'm sick and tired of your attitude! go to your room, I'll talk to you later!" After about an hour he got to my room and told me that I lost all of the trust he had toward me, and that I have to think twice before I react! Is this fair? Like this is so idiotic to me! All I did was roll my eyes

Question: I am really missing my dad this week. He left my mom two years ago and we haven't seen him since. How do I get over this?

Posted: 30 Jan 2017 06:51 AM PST

He did not return my email and apparently he got remarried over the holidays. I really miss him because he was always good to me and then he suddenly disappeared. I am 14 and a boy. It feels as though he died but I'm still having hope that he'll come back. At least if he had died they would be closer and a grave to visit. This is like he died with no grave and no funeral. He's married now to the woman he left my mom for. I don't know her the other woman.

Question: My uncle on my mom's side of the family likes to yell at his wife and kids. Could this be due to stress rather than him just being mean?

Posted: 30 Jan 2017 06:48 AM PST

He has always been this way I am told but as a kid was not this way only became so as an adult. He is scary to be around.

Question: My sister is mean to everybody. Could this be hormones when she is 24 and not a kid anymore?

Posted: 30 Jan 2017 06:46 AM PST

She is a really bad person. As a kid we figured it was a face and she was just a brat but now that she's an adult she's just bad.

Question: My girlfriend fell asleep breastfeeding and her baby is asleep too should I unlatch her and pull my girlfriends bra up or let my family see?

Posted: 30 Jan 2017 06:23 AM PST

Question: How do I get my brothers to behave?

Posted: 30 Jan 2017 06:13 AM PST

My brothers are so annoying they are always after my life. When I am studying they will come and start making faces at me. It's so annoying. How can I be their bigger sister. I want to spend time with them not fight all the time. How do I do This?

Question: A sarcastic comeback to someone who tells you continuously (not in a nice way) that you are already old enough to marry and bear a child?

Posted: 30 Jan 2017 05:34 AM PST

My brother always says this to me to just piss me off, he is like 1.5 years younger than me, and i am 18. he always says this but i normally just ignore him and because i am not replying he thinks he is winning. but lately he actually went off the hook when my dad was just relaxing in the living room and was kind of talking to himself and said that he wants a baby to play with and my brother bursts off saying why not ask zzzzzz to deliver a baby??????? i really want to smash his face really hard -__- and i want a reply that would actually have the same effect on him

Question: Why do not people like in-laws?

Posted: 30 Jan 2017 05:28 AM PST

Question: Poll if your rich daddy bought you a house to hide in at 25 ,and a new car? you would never move? gert drunk?

Posted: 30 Jan 2017 05:25 AM PST

Question: Abusive father, and how to deal with it?

Posted: 30 Jan 2017 05:25 AM PST

The answer may be just to wait it out until my parents are gone, and maybe even grin and bear it until then. My father is verbally abusive and although he won't say it out loud, he hates me. I was planned, but clearly a child was punishment for marriage in his mind. Children are inconvenient, and they make life messy, and that's not what he wanted. There's no photo of us together, he hardly held me...and I don't think the fact that he thinks slightly less of women helps either. He was born in the early 1950's, a different time, and he had me when he was 40. He has another daughter from the marriage before but totally refuses to acknowledge her birth. She hates me because for some reason he chose to stay with that marriage instead of with her mother. He doesn't care. He says I'm better off without that trash. But she isn't trash. It may seem like I'm giving him much too much credit, but he has taken away most of my confidence by talking down to me for the last 2 1/12 decades. My sense of happiness is gone, and I'll be fighting my entire life to look past the verbal abuse and physical abuse from when I was a child. I realize many people have it worse than me, but this is my burden, and I would like to know what to do. Stop contact with him, talk to him only on holidays, something else? He has ruined my young life, and I don't know what to do anymore. Also yes, I have tried standing up for myself. It doesn't work.

Question: How do I avoid being collateral damage of other family member's feuds?

Posted: 30 Jan 2017 05:05 AM PST

Often I have been left out of family time due to people's conflicts with my mother. Since I am her kid (adult child now) they associate me with her. It is not as bad as when I was a kid and living at home but it still happens. I can't invite myself over to other people's places but want to lay the seeds for a good relationship with her family. Right now I am 2nd rate (not bad but can't be that good if I am "her" kid). By her I mean my mother. My mother won't let go of stuff. If a family member hurts her feelings she makes a mountain out of a molehill. I am the collateral damage of this because I lose family relationships as a result. I've never met my father or anyone related to him and my step-father is an only child. So my mother's family is the only extended family we have. My father got apparently 50 years in jail so he is no one I am going to seek out. So how can I get close to my Mom's family instead of being 2nd rate?

Question: Poll so if the neighbors dad is rich, owns 3 million dollar, 2 homes, bought his son home at 25, is that why he's fat, drunk,never moves?

Posted: 30 Jan 2017 04:52 AM PST

hes 35, has a 200 thousand dollar home, a 50 thousand dollar truck, AND SITS ALL DAY EVERY DAY

Question: Im 62 and still live with my parents. i hate ehen they have sex! what can i do?

Posted: 30 Jan 2017 04:03 AM PST

Question: My mom won't let me eat human meat no more how can I convince her to let me continue to eat it?

Posted: 30 Jan 2017 03:33 AM PST

Question: Always scared that Ill die and my parents wont be able to make it?

Posted: 30 Jan 2017 03:18 AM PST

Im always concerned about this. My parents mean a lot to me and I constantly am afraid that Im sick and might unexpectedly die at some point. How do I resolve this...Im 18 if that helps

Question: Need advice please ? Am I a horrible friend ?

Posted: 30 Jan 2017 02:47 AM PST

I've lost 4 family members in a terrible car accident weeks ago, I've been overwhelmed and I am a teen guy. My friend is always checking one me and this was just one of those unbearable days.. , I was telling him how stressed I was and how terrified and worried I've been.how I've been wanting to end everything.. He's been so helpful and supportive these past few weeks but today He just put "stop" why? Do you think I'm annoying to my friend now and that he doesn't want to talk to me anymore?

Question: Isn't a parent who doesn't kick his/her child out of the house by 40 a bad parent?

Posted: 30 Jan 2017 01:49 AM PST

Question: My MOM has her own nude pics on cell phones. Is this normal ?

Posted: 30 Jan 2017 01:10 AM PST

Question: My cousin and her dad do this weird thing and won't tell anyone what it means?

Posted: 30 Jan 2017 12:22 AM PST

My cousin (she's 18) and her dad have been doing this really weird thing for about 11 years now. They say random numbers to each other without any explanation. They do it every once in a while when I'm with them, and everyone they know has seen them do it. For example, my cousin will be sitting on the couch and her dad will walk in the room and say something like, "72." My cousin will think for a minute before replying, "198." Then her dad will raise his eyebrows and shrug as if he's responding to a sentence, even though my cousin didn't say a sentence. She just said a number. They do it when you least expect it. They'll be sitting across from each other at a restaurant and one of them will tell the other one a completely random number. Then, the other person will reply with a different random number. It's like they have their own language made up of numbers or something. Their reactions to each number are always different. Sometimes they're shocked. Sometimes they laugh. My entire family has begged them to explain what it means, but they refuse to tell anyone. Once, the whole family got into a huge fight about it but they still wouldn't explain. They swear they'll never tell. I'm extremely frustrated and curious. What do you think this means? Would you be mad if this was going on in your family and you had no explanation?

Question: What to do when your family doesn t support you with your career decisions? It distracts my recent classes.. advice pls?

Posted: 29 Jan 2017 11:02 PM PST

I m an adult and I am applying for graduate school. It just hurts and it feels awful like when they are putting me down at times. I m not asking for financial support form my family. Emotional support would have been the best thing they can give me. It s hard to focus with my classes. How does one shrug things off? I don t tell them that I am hurting because they (my family) complain I am too sensitive...

Question: I'm 22 and every time i go to my grandmother's house I try to kiss her on the cheek but she suddenly french kisses me. What do I do?

Posted: 29 Jan 2017 10:48 PM PST

Question: School is stressing me out- What should I do?

Posted: 29 Jan 2017 10:28 PM PST

Recently I've been trying to juggle my job and school and it hasn't been working out. I've been way too busy to find time to do things like socialize or exercise because I'm either at work or ankle deep in homework. After countless nights of studying & staying up till 3 am doing school work & giving it everything I had, I found out I had an 81 in math and it will go lower as time progresses. I'm trying really hard and doing my very best, but there's only so much I can take with this. I think a large part of my problem is because my parents will never stop comparing me to my brother. My brother does excellent in school, has a great paying job, and just does everything better than I do. So if I start slipping behind him instead of keeping up, I just feel like nothing. My parents just expect too much from me. It feels like they don't understand how hard I'm trying. I feel overwhelmed & tired. What do I do?

Question: My brother committed suicide?

Posted: 29 Jan 2017 10:15 PM PST

My 23 year old brother was having some very minor nervous breakdowns i think due to not really having any friends that were still around to hangout with and parents disagreeing with dreams he had after he finished college, but other than that he seemed like a happy guy who loved life and wanted to please everyone who was part of his life. We've always been brothers and best friends by the way. So recently he snapchatted me being goofy with a cigarette in my hand and sent it to my GF and a few other mutual friends I wouldn't want knowing that I smoke; he claimed that he just the picture was funny and that they should see it but I was worried about looking bad so 3 weeks later I asked to borrow his phone to check my social media (since mine was broken) and got onto his snapchat to delete those people while his phone was in my hands and I still hadn't forgiven him for what he did on the other hand and still brought it up while we were with my friends during a road trip and he seemed very down during the remainder of that road trip. Now recently this was just like any other day until my girlfriend and I went to watch a movie in our tv room and discovered my brother hung himself but didn't leave a note or say anything prior to doing this, could what I did have something to do with him killing himself? Honest answers please.

Question: I want to die?

Posted: 29 Jan 2017 10:12 PM PST

I m 15. I live with my mom, brother, older sister, and my sisters 25 year old boyfriend. My sister is 7 years older than me and started hitting and choking me when I was 8. That stopped when she left for college when I was 12. She dropped out of college and now lives in the basement of our 3 bedroom one bathroom house. Shes 7months pregnant and started hitting me in October and this time I can t defend myself. When I told her I d call the police she told me that she would tell them I held a knife to her even tho I didn t. My mom tells her to stop and that s it she doesn t have consequences. My sister is 22 and plans on living with us with her boyfriend when the baby is born. Neither of them pay rent or any bills and they don t buy groceries. Neither of them have jobs. My mom spends her paychecks and money my dad gives her for child support on them instead of paying the bills. I don t know what to do anymore. I can t live with my dad because he doesn t have room for me in his apartment. I can t sleep because they re awake until 4am watching movies really loud. My family says I m over dramatic and should just get over the fact that she hits. I found out I had depression in middle school. I think about dying a lot and the thoughts are getting my frequent. I just don t want to be here anymore it s getting too hard. I know most people are going to think I m over dramatic or that I m pitying myself because other people have it much worse but I just don t know anymore. I want to die

Question: Is my dad seeing someone else?

Posted: 29 Jan 2017 10:04 PM PST

So,we took a trip to Mexico to see our family...my dad went to a different part of Mexico to see his dad.When he came back he started to act all different.I was looking through his Facebook seeing if I can see why he's acting weird...he was in a pic with this girl and my grandpa.When we came back to our home state,he suddenly change? By that he dosent talk to my mom that much and ignores her calls which is really disrespectful.I looked at her fb and my dad reacted her pic with a heart(1 heart,but it probably means nothing).Apperently she's married and have a son (overheard their convo) then lastly he seems not to care about us like,he don't wanna pay for a tutor for my sister and he's most likely to buy shoes and running events for himself.My mom said if he keeps it up she'll probably leave him which I really don't want to happen..My sisters don't really not know what's going on..I'm thiking tomorrow afternoon I should ask him why he's acting weird which idk how it will go out..

Question: I'm a full grown adult so why am I treated like a teenager?

Posted: 29 Jan 2017 09:29 PM PST

I'm 24 years old. I recently got laid off from my job and I moved back in with my parents until I find more work. The only problem with that is that my dad doesn't allow me to bring women to the house. He said he doesn't want me to get a girl pregnant because I'm not ready to have kids yet. I believe he's treating like I'm a teenager in high school however I'm an adult. I've had a job, my own place, and even a step son from a past relationship that ended. Why does he treat me like this and what can I do about it?

Question: Pregnant friend won't cut contact with abusive man....should I tell her mom?

Posted: 29 Jan 2017 09:19 PM PST

My friend is about to give birth and the guy she's on/off with is abusive. I knew he was emotionally abusive (her sister told me he would demand her use the bathroom with the door open to see what she was up to) but several weeks ago my friend told me that last year he choked her with a pillow and put his hands around her neck to the point where she couldn't breath at times. She lives with her mom, who constantly nags her to leave him. She said she tunes her mom out cause she nags so much. I told her to communicate with him only through a lawyer, go to court, and demand he can't see her or the child until he gets psychological help. She agreed and blocked his number in front of me. However when I saw her again she said she still hangs out with him to listen to music and it's no big deal. She says she's "not with him" but it's always on/off. She also said he never hit her again but another time he opened the door so hard it knocked her off balance and she had to grab hold of something to keep from falling on her stomach while pregnant. I gave her a number to counseling services but I don't know if I should tell her mom about the physical abuse. She's 27 so her mom can't do anything, but I feel wrong for not speaking up about the physical abuse, especially since she's about to give birth in 2 weeks. I told her if she can't leave him for herself then at least do it for the good of her child since he could turn on her but she's adamant he wouldn't hurt the child.

Question: Why is my brother such an idiot sometimes?

Posted: 29 Jan 2017 08:37 PM PST

I'm sitting there minding my own business when I notice he has the heater on at the highest setting and I'm sweating uncomfortably, so I turn off the heater. Then he turns it back on right away, so I tell him "dude it's so hot" and turn it off. Then he turns it back on because he's using it to "dry his wet clothes" so I try to tell him that I'm hot and to turn it off and then I try to suggest other ways to dry his clothes and he starts getting mad and doesn't listen so I had no choice but to tell my mom so she can diffuse this problem with logic to which he listens but then he starts telling her about me having left the door open earlier and I was like"that was way earlier when I was hot, why are you mbringing something that has nothing to do with this problem, to make more problems?!" Then I tried to tell him to use a fan to dry his clothes and he's like "what do you want. I don't want anything from you" and that just pissed me off sooo much. I honestly hate him right now because he's so stupid and idiotic.

Question: I need to get out of my house.?

Posted: 29 Jan 2017 08:26 PM PST

Im being abused. My dad calls me mean names, my mom tells me im fat and a spoiled brat, my brother hits me, throws things at me, and calls me very mean names, and touches me. And my parents know about everything my brother is doing, but they just tell me to suck it up. I haven't been to the doc for a check up in...man like 5 years. My parents both dont feed me a ton. They will buy food for themselves and not me. I cant live here anymore, its causing me to harm myself and want to kill myself. What can I do?

Question: I found out my sister kissed a black boy so I called her a mudshark and said I'm telling mom & dad. Am I doing the right thing?

Posted: 29 Jan 2017 07:51 PM PST

Question: How can I get my sister to stop crying?

Posted: 29 Jan 2017 07:43 PM PST

My sis is a sophomore in university and she won't stop crying once in a while. Im a 12 year old boy with autism and even though I need help with school stuff sometimes I don't go crying for attention. She cries over her stupid little financial problems and it's embarrassing to have a 19 year old breaking down at your house. Especially when my friends are over at my house! I just don't understand why my parents have to care and protect her so much she's already 19. In fact they're way more protective of her sometimes because they say she's a "very vulnerable young woman" and I'm not. Probably because she has some mental illnesses that make her go crazy and I don't have any of those problems. My friends started laughing the second they saw my sister coming out of the room crying. She doesn't cry all the time but there's probably at least one situation with crying involved in 1-2 weeks and she cries in public sometimes. I tell her to do it in private because crying in public is for 5 year olds but she didn't listen to me...even if she said she'll try! She says she can't help it sometimes and I told my parents to take her to that place where they diagnosed me with autism when I was 3 so they can see if she has bipolar disorder but they just got mad at me and told me to go to my room and they'll have a long discussion with me about my attitude later on

Question: Changing my sons last name. Please help?

Posted: 29 Jan 2017 07:40 PM PST

I'm a single mother. My son is only 5, and hasn't seen nor does he care about his father. His father is not financially or physically involved in his life & is also did not sign the birth certificate. However, my son does have his last name ( i know, fail) can I change it without having to go to court since he's not on the birth certificate and pretty much doesn't give a damn about our son? HELP

Question: Should I Write Him Off?

Posted: 29 Jan 2017 07:35 PM PST

Since the beginning I felt like he was very aloof in his communication with me. I then visited Europe(cousins's wedding, he lives there too) We saw eachother at the wedding and he fixed my tooth(dentist). Then he'd message me everyday and talked about once his citizenship in Europe is legalized and he gets his passport from Armenia next month, he'd like to come to the States after and possibly asking how i'd feel getting married this and that. But when I was back that night he hadn't messaged to see if I was back and seemed like he wasn't all that interested. So I questioned him a couple of times and he said he's not a cold person and that he does like me. Then one day we talked on video and then he said ok sweetie i'm going to the clinic and that we'd talk later(he spent 20 min talking about him and his family's debts and what he did when he came to Europe first). I didn't believe in texcting him first so I waited the next day nothing, so I messaged him and he responded 20 min later like everything was fine. I kind of again said seemed like we didn't understand eachother he was like why i said i didn't know. The next day no message again and I messaged him questioning and he said that he is a warm person and does like me just all over the place with things. I then said I never felt like he was truly interested and blah nlach like other guys. He didn't say anything to that. Then on fb i accidentally sent a video of a couple dancing. I then asked like it was in the past. I said what swas the purpose of him talking about marriage and this and that and he said "Hun I asked and I will ask again. I do like you. That's for sure" but after that I haven't heard from him and it's been 2 weeks. Write him off?

Question: How can I deal with my atrocious parents?

Posted: 29 Jan 2017 07:35 PM PST

So on my report card, I received 1 B and 6 Ds. My parents of course overlooked my B in Gym and focused on the Ds in order to ground me for an entire week. Seriously? It's not like anyone cares about their grades in high school, and despite the fact that I didn't try, I STILL got a B in Gym. You think my parents cared? Nope. They just look for any reason to punish me like the tyrants they are. I've thought of a few ways to get my revenge, including but not withstanding selling my mom's jewelry, crashing my dad's car or lighting the house on fire. But I think I may need to cause physical pain to my parents to really get my message across. What do you think?

Question: How can I stop myself from beating up my mother?

Posted: 29 Jan 2017 07:26 PM PST

Today was the final straw. I made a very simple request: buy me skittles. And what does she bring me? Starbursts. What a f*cking b*tch. She said they were just as good as skittles, and I told her that if they're so good, then you eat them and started shoving the whole pack into her stupid mouth. I was THIS close to choking her. You may think I'm overreacting, but trust me, this is not an isolated incident. She is always messing up my orders and will invariably cry afterwards to obtain sympathy like the whore she is. I have had it up to HERE with her idiocy and am ready to punch the living daylights out of her. The only problem is that I know I will go to jail. So what can I do to restrain myself or possibly avoid going to jail if I can't manage?

Question: PARENTAL CUSTODY PLEASE HELP!!?

Posted: 29 Jan 2017 07:17 PM PST

Hi so my question is about custody between my mom and dad. My mom and I live in California but we're having some problems and I really want to move back to Guam (US territory) to live with my dad. My dad has joint custody but he told me he needs my mom to sign papers and have it notarized. My mom said she doesn't and won't sign anything because she doesn't need to because of the fact that he has joint custody. I'm not sure which is the truth. So I have two questions, #1. I'm 16 going to be 17 this year, am I allowed to get a legal custody document notarized alone? And if I can do I need parental consent from my mom to do so? #2. Is my dad right or is my mom? Thank you so much!

Question: I can't take my mom anymore! Please help!?

Posted: 29 Jan 2017 07:13 PM PST

I'm 17 and I can't take my mom anymore. She doesn't let me stay home from school EVER. She's always on me about doing my homework and getting good grades, when I basically have all Cs, which is average. And anytime I tell her to lay the f*ck off, she cries. I know she's just trying to get sympathy. I make sure to tell my dad that she was being horrible to me. Maybe I exaggerate, but she deserves it for being so annoying and naggy. I've basically got my dad on my side, so he frequently yells at her, which is fun to watch. But still she won't get off my back, and I've reached my breaking point. I'm thinking about reporting her to a school counselor for child abuse. I can say that she hit me when I was younger. And my dad gets in bar fights sometimes and has the marks to show it, so I can say she hits him too. I know this may be extreme, but I'm so sick of her nagging me. And you know what? Payback's a b*tch.

Question: New nose piercing... using Vaseline on it?

Posted: 29 Jan 2017 07:09 PM PST

So I just got my nose pierced around noon today and it was properly done (with a needle not a gun), and the people said to only use Vaseline on it??? But I'm online looking and people say it blocks oxygen and you shouldn't use it and to use saltwater... I'm confused to what Vaseline will do to clean it. It doesn't hurt or anything which is a plus. But what is the PROPER cleaning of a nose piercing? Also they said it should take 2 weeks to heal and then I can put in my hoop... is that right? How do I know it's healed?