My dad died recently, and I know that I've changed. I'm mostly just trying to focus in school, but I also still want to have fun. Before my father passed we already had very bad family problems (which led me to beoming so idependent) but now I feel like I've completely missed my childhood. I'm a Freshman in High School and I only have 4 more years to have fun but I can't because my mom is couping me up in the house/ mamomg plans for me. I know she loves me, but what I need is space from her. Everytime I ask to go out (which isn't often) she gets pissy and creates a giant list of stuff for me to do before I leave- and then she want to do know every detail of where I am. I could be one of those teenagers that sneaks out or just leaves and doesn't care- but I'm not... and yet she still continues to call me bad when I don't do the dishes or something. I understand, but then it comes to a point where even if I say one small thing she claims I have an attitude... then I get an attitude... and then she starts putting all of her stress on me. That's why i need fun, because she keeps outting her stress and anger on me- which Is why i admitiingly don't talk to her as much. Sitting in the house waiting for her to let me go out isn't what I want the next long 4 years to be like. Please help.

My son married a slob. Shes a nice girl but a slob. Their house is a complete mess, crap piled up everywhere, dishes in the sink, dirty clothes not even a hamper. It looks worse than a frat house. I've offered to help but she refuses. She says she works so much she can't get anything done but I always worked full time and my house never looked like that even when my kids were little. Finally one day I went there with my daughter and we spend 5 hours cleaning (10 total man hours) and when she got home she went crazy swearing and crying about how we threw away things she used every day. Seriously? She uses a box filled with toilette paper rolls daily? A pile of boxes in the kitchen? And if she didn't want a dead rose thrown out she should have preserved it. I couldn't care less if she is mad at me but she is angry at my son over this. He has the right to demand things too not just her. I hope she leaves him for this outburst. Good riddance. Mind my own business! My son invited us in the house and told us to throw out what ever needs to be thrown out and clean what needs to be clean. This is my business! My children are my business. He let us in and gave us permission to clean. Even my friends told me I should help . Why should he live like that?

It can be said that I don't need parents at my age, being 21. I understand that, I don't need them to take care of me. I just want to know a way as to how I could get them to talk to me a bit more. I've tried prying into them and it just makes them a tad angry usually. In the past I had attempted to kill myself when I was in 9th grade. I know that put a tamper on things for a time, I get that. But they won't talk to me, they don't ask about me, I can't ask advice from them without getting a "you can't do it" speech. The only time they say anything to me is to complain about my life. Which okay, I'm not perfect. I get that, but I'd like to see them involved in my life beyond complaints. I don't know if that's selfish or childish of me or what. Either way I plan on moving out around the end of may 2017. But I want to know, is there some way as to how I should go about getting them talk to me a bit more? Will it impove when I am moved out?

Basically, for years my son has had this issue where despite being the youngest child, he feels he can parent my other two daughters. This is partially me and their father's fault, as we didn't do the best job in raising them to understand their place in the family- as children and not adults. Nevertheless, my one daughter moved out when she was 18 years old and is now married to a complete loser. My other daughter still lived with us at 19, because she was in a really bad place financially, mentally, and physically after an abusive relationship. She ended up losing 95 pounds, she got two jobs, and even began taking classes to advance towards a career but she was staying with me so she could help pay bills since her father is dying and my single income isn't enough. Last June I helped out a friend of a family friend, and let him stay in our extra bedroom. He contributed rent, food, and other bills and he just fit right in. He was 31 years old when he first moved in, however it became clear to everyone that my 19 year old and him had a spark between them. Due to the fact that he was doing very well in his own life, I told her that I wouldn't really care if she began dating him. Still, when they did begin to date that August they kept it secret for a little while as to not upset the family dynamics. Ultimately though, she did admit it to me that November when things had gotten serious between them. I really like the man, and since they behaved respectfully under my roof, I - didn't mind. My son, however, did mind. Despite being 17 while she is 19, and being in no way shape or form in charge of anything, he started harassing the two of them. Thankfully both of them worked a lot, and when they weren't working they were either at the gym or she was busy at school. They were only ever home when my son was at school. But last Sunday, my daughter and son were both home as my daughter took the night off because she was sick. He started berating her about dating the man- didn't mind. My son, however, did mind. Despite being 17 while she is 19, and being in no way shape or form in charge of anything, he started harassing the two of them. Thankfully both of them worked a lot, and when they weren't working they were either at the gym or she was busy at school. They were only ever home when my son was at school. But last Sunday, my daughter and son were both home as my daughter took the night off because she was sick. He started berating her about dating the man- and it got physical. My daughter is not organized when she cooks, and therefore it isn't uncommon for all of her utensils to be about the kitchen. Somehow she ends up getting a bread knife in her back, she tells me she fell on it, and she told the police that but it sounds fishy to me. She keeps trying to tell her brother to get out of her face, that she is seriously hurt but he won't listen, and in exasperation and outright pain she screams at him. This causes him to begin punching her-

Basically, for years my son has had this issue where despite being the youngest child, he feels he can parent my other two daughters. This is partially me and their father's fault, as we didn't do the best job in raising them to understand their place in the family- as children and not adults. Nevertheless, my one daughter moved out when she was 18 years old and is now married to a complete loser. My other daughter still lived with us at 19, because she was in a really bad place financially, mentally, and physically after an abusive relationship. She ended up losing 95 pounds, she got two jobs, and even began taking classes to advance towards a career but she was staying with me so she could help pay bills since her father is dying and my single income isn't enough. Last June I helped out a friend of a family friend, and let him stay in our extra bedroom. He contributed rent, food, and other bills and he just fit right in. He was 31 years old when he first moved in, however it became clear to everyone that my 19 year old and him had a spark between them. Due to the fact that he was doing very well in his own life, I told her that I wouldn't really care if she began dating him. Still, when they did begin to date that August they kept it secret for a little while as to not upset the family dynamics. Ultimately though, she did admit it to me that November when things had gotten serious between them. I really like the man, and since they behaved respectfully under my roof, I -

Every time I get with her she's very negative. All she talks about is her sister's husband very badly. I'm a very positive person and all I want is just be happy. But when she's around she's very negative and doesnt talk to me. I do talk to her but why should I try if the other person doesnt want to meet half way. I dont care much about it but I just want my finace to be happy. I would never want him to pick a side. Right before our wedding, she gets a second divorce. now i dont kno how to talk to her knowing she's currently going thru another divorce.

She's very negative. All she talks about is her sister's husband very badly. I'm a very positive person and all I want is just be happy. I talk to her but she doesnt really talk to me. I dont care much about it but I just want my finace to be happy. I would never want him to pick a side. Right before our wedding, she gets a second divorce. now i dont kno how to talk to her knowing she's currently going thru another divorce. She's my soon to be mother in law. All I want is peace.

My MIL and SIL are codependent and MIL is the biggest enabler Ive ever seen. SIL same age as me, 34. Ive been out on my own since 19 or 20. SIL has 3 kids BY 3 different and doesn't work. She hasnt had a job at all in a few years, and she hasn t kept a job longer than a few months for 6 or 7 years. Hubby, me, and hubby s 2 brothers think she has a drug problem, but MIL won t hear it. EVERY TIME we visit, there is turmoil. They are retired and BROKE. It s always stressful being around them. Their house looks like a grenade went off because door jambs are broken, holes in every kitchen cabinet, holes in walls because MIL, SIL, and SIL s oldest boy have anger problems, middle boy is starting to show signs, and i am sure the LO isn t too far behind. I have made it a point to stay out of the problems until now. I have a 7-month-old. My mother is dead, and this is his only grandmother. I d like him to have a relationship with her, but I can t do that knowing what goes on in that house. On top of it, My hubby and his 2 other brothers are ready for the shennanigans to end. They ve dealt with this stuff their whole life.They re tired of it, and MIL and FIL are ready to divorce after 40 years becuse she will NOT stop enabling SIL to sit around, collect welfare, her kids are always in juvy, she spends her welfare $ on weed... MIL and SIL are always "victims" everything happens "to" them not "because" of them. How do you go about approaching them and trying to start "fixing" this mess?

Im 20, my dad was a bad guy, harmed my moms mentality. Me and my mom never got along so much, whether it was because Im always gaming, oversleeping or even simply because i go out on friday nights, she always suspected that I have a weak will just like my dad which was going to cause me to stir away into narcotics or alcohol whenever Im feeling down, which isnt true, lol. She got the idea that ive been under drug influence and says that my friends are scum. We spent two weeks fighting and arguing in front of my siblings, yet she never believed that im not the addicted b*stard thats stuck in her mind, I believe its because of the mental trauma my dad caused, but still.. So one day i was really broken and sad, I needed someone to vent to so I called my dad and told him, he later messaged her and thats why I believe the problem went deeper. Now she isolates me from the family and doesnt let me near my brother and sister, none of them trust me anymore and it saddens me deeply that I cant prove my innocence to them and that nobody trusts me except for my dad. I thought of moving out to live on my own, but Ive sworn to stay there till atleast my little brother is old enough to be the backbone of the house. However I dont believe all is lost, my mom still cooks for me and wake me up if I slightly oversleep in the morning, apart from her disturbing behaviour. So what do i do? I was thinking of buying her a gift. how do I apologise when Im innocent? Or do I just wait it out ? Thanks.

so i got a vape & was using it in my room & it was my first hit & my brother walks in sees the smoke & tells my mom & now my mom took it and said we'll talk about this later. i told her it was a friends and i had to give it back because i was not about to have my money wasted. but she hasn't talked to me since last night. i don't know what to say to her to try when she decides she wants to talk about it. i figure im most likely gonna be grounded but im tryna get the least punishment as possible. any advice????

Ayer fui a un budu (lugar en donde hacen perforaciones y tattos) tengo 16 años y me dijeron los perforadores que necesito ser mañor de edad para que me lo puedan hacer, o bien llevar a mi madre o padre. como no tengo el permiso de ellos una señora desonocida me hara el favor de ir a decir que ella es mi madre, lo que no se es que ellos (los de el budu) verifiquen que ella es mi madre. ustedes saben que preguntas hacen para confirmar que es mi madre?

My parents never appreciate me..they control everything in my life right from buying cell phone to getting married of their choice..they chose BBA for me when I wanted to study environmental science..how do I deal with them? If I cry and shout my dad says I have mental health issues..actually he himself is an abusive personality..and my mum also doesn't really appreciate me...she keeps putting me off and says other kids are better than me..please help?

My step dad moved in when I was around 6, I m 14 now. My dad is still in my picture, I see him on weekends but I absolutely hate my stepdad, and he hates me. He s always criticizing me and gets mad no matter what I do. I act and sing and play 6 different sports and he isn t supportive at all which steers my mom to not be supporting. He s always super mean to my cats, there s 4. They are the light of my life and he s always throwing them out of the house and grabbing them really hard and scaring them. My step dad gets physical when he s mad, when we fight, he ll push me against the wall, grab me, and throw me around. He does it to my 12 year old brother too. I can t stand him at all. He drives me insane. We got into a fight 2 months ago and neither of us have talked to each other at all.

My mom will get mad at me for trivial things such as bumping into her and when I try to apologise she yells at me and tells me everything I say is bullshit and that I m worthless and she wishes she never gave birth to me. My dad touches my but and rubs my hips almost every day. It really creeps me out. At night he comes into my room and holds me down while kissing my neck. I don t know what to do. I am 13 I don't have a phone to contact anyone on. I have an old iPhone and tried some hotlines but they won't work with iMessage and I can't call on it. My parents are coming home soon so I probably won't be able to update this forum very often. I'll try my best though.

Lately my fiance and I have had to deal with a lot of his family drama. His sister has had panic attacks and relies on me for help basically whenever she has a crisis. His father hits her and her mother (his parents are married) and yet her mother still insists on staying married to him and tries to keep the family together. Sister is terrified of the father. Then father comes to my fiance and breaks down, asking "where did it all go wrong?" Everyone is grown up (>20 years old), and yet, everyone is breaking apart. Basically his family relies on us to sort of piece together and solve their problems. We are trying to do our best to support them, but we have tons of stuff to do (e.g. prepare for our wedding, finish our grad school studies, etc). Any advice please? We love our family (meaning, my future in-laws, whom I already consider to be my in-laws) but we just don t have the mental capacity to fly back to town to "fix" everything and smooth things over for all parties whenever "$hit hits the fan". Thank yoU!!!

Some years ago, I was married, all of us(ex, his family, and I), were invited to my cousin s wedding. Ex s mom said I shouldnt go because I am an embarrassment. I said, I m invited, so I want to go. She said, I was invited because he(my cousin), has manners, and invited me because we re related, so in the same way, I should also be well mannered and not go to his wedding, so I can spare him embarrassment. When I asked her(my ex mother in law), y I was an embarrassment, all she said was; it s simple, look at u, and if u cant figure it out, I m not going to tell u. The reason I ask this, is because I have a sister in law who feels the same way. I feel the one s inviting me to things dont feel this way, so I go to functions, but when I hear things like I hear above, I get confused.

She has no reason to not trust me, I've never done or said anything dishonest apart from those few white lies everyone tells their parents. I'm not just thinking this either, she just told me to my face. The situation was that she took me out to buy takeaways, and I forgot my card so she let me borrow hers and then I would pay her back when we got home. I genuinely forgot to do this, and then the next day i ordered something online using her card again because mine for some reason didn't work (even though I had the money) with the intention of paying her back straight away, but I forgot again. Things like this actually happen often, but I seriously always forget, but she always thinks I'm acting like I forgot so I don't have to pay her back. I always explain to her that I have no reason to lie to her, and why would I if I actually have the money to pay her back, but she never believes me. I understand that I could come across as someone trying to steal her money, but I thought that if I explained properly that I forgot and payed her back immediately so I didn't forget again that she would understand and not treat me like an untrustworthy stranger. It kind of hurts to have your mother openly not trust you when you know your intentions are pure and I just want to know why. I don't know if she just doesn't like me or if it's a problem of her own (not likely because she really does tell me everything whether I want to know or not).

I am an adult and my grandpa is in his 80's. His health is really declining, he can't even leave the house because he is so weak. He has Parkinson's really bad. I've always really loved him & respected him. The other day I went to go visit my grandparents parents, they live in another state. Although when I gave my grandpa a hug it seemed he was trying to touch my breast but I let it go. He told me I look good in front of everyone but that wasn't too out of the ordinary. Then I went into another room without my sister & my grandma. He said come here and tried to kiss me & groped my chest again. That's when my creepy meter went high & It was very hard to act casual. When we were leaving I zipped up my coat & he touched my butt. I couldn't wait to leave, it was so awkward & gross feeling. I feel betrayed, I feel bad for my grandmother. Now I don't ever wanna go there again. Maybe he is just old & has dementia. Although last July he asked if I had breast implants & that was weird. And I feel like it's best for everyone at his age for me to keep it to myself. I did tell my husband but how do I deal with these ill feelings, loss of respect and ever look at my grandma/grandparents again? It's a hard pill to swallow.

I have a few more days left until I leave the daycare job I resigned from, and I was wondering what would be a good way to suggest to parents that we stay connected. I d love to potentially provide at-home care for them in the future if they need it since I love the kids and families that I work with, and they already trust me. However I also don t want to potentially upset my boss by not severing ties with the families.

My mother complained that 6 days was too long for her two sons and their wives and kids to visit. She likes me as I am the only girl and single plus if I visit it is for an hour or two. My two brothers live far away so when they visit it involves staying overnight. Plus they are married with kids. So at Christmas she enjoyed them for about 2 days and then complained the rest of the week. Next year does a mother have the right to say "no thanks, I'd rather not have visitors this Christmas"? Or to say "you can come visit for an hour or two but need to get a hotel"?

i saw pictures of handsome men on my computer to look at for eye candy. Sometimes my dad just barges in my room and i gotta hide it cuz he always seems like hes uncomfortable wiht me looking at that stuff. He also gives me this weird look like "wtf, are you doing?!" When my mom pops in, she doesn't even care and won't judge me so i don't bother to hide it. why does my dad always treat me like im so awkward and weird for having hot guys on my computer? im a girl.

Last Thursday I was walking into my room and I saw my step sister dry humping my Toy Story 3 stuffed animals!! She looked at me in fear and then the fear turned into lust. She staired at me and said "I'll do anything if you don't tell mom".. then I was like WOAHAHAHHAHAH IM NOT EVEN A DUDE MAN. And then I told my mom and she hit her infront of me in the face and I laughed and she cried and now she's mad at me and I'm like ok what for help please am i a bad step sister? What do I do?!?!!?

I'm 22 female, have bad posture, frizzy hair, fat, etc. My dad always says to me since i was a kid, that if i'm not beautiful, no one will want me, no one will give me a job, no one will care about me at all. Until today i believe i wont get a job, i wont find someone who love me, and i wont succeed in anything. This really ruin my life. Is it true though?

I live a major, expensive European city and my sister came from the U.S. to stay with me and my 2 children for a little over 2 months. Kids gave up their room in our 1 bedroom. They slept with me in my bed. Rent is almost 1300€ , but she gave me 400€ upon arrival and thats it. A hotel would be at least 3500 for a month. I'm a single mom with no money.

I live with a parent that I absolutely hate.This hatred started a few years ago and now it's worse.I work and go to school ..I don't make nearly enough to move out.What can I do before I'm driven to insanity?

have no idea what to do. I am really good at singing-songwriting and I have a best friend who plays bass that really likes working with me, he's 18 and a drop-out, he lives with his friend and we practice in his basement. He is only living there temporarily, as he found a job and he's going to try to get financial aid and go to a college. He's finishing his GED. Now about me, I grew up in New York. My parents divorced when I was 6, and my mom died of cancer when I was 10. I went to live with my dad and we moved to Chicago. Now I'm 16, and my dad says he wants to go back to New York because he has a house back there with no tenants with which he has to pay mortgage and he can't find tenants nor sell it. He's unemployed. I told him I can't move with him because my bassist is so important to me, (we also have a lead guitarist and drummer but they're fairly new so I wouldn't be too dependent on them). My bassist wants to achieve the same things in life as me. I went to play music enough to make a living off of it. I suck at school anyway, not because I'm stupid, but because I go to a magnet school, and magnet schools expect you to put in incredible effort which I devote towards my music. They put you in Honors and AP courses even though you don't really qualify for them. You test to get in, but the test was so ridiculously easy, and now I'm failing because I can't keep up with their pace. I'd transfer to a local high school, but Chicago's high schools are not safe. My dad won't listen to me. I'd move with him if I didn't think music was where I belong. If you're not a musician, don't even bother answering, I've seen your ******* ignorant attitudes towards careers in music, you just don't understand what it's like to have a gift and let it rot in school. By the time I finish high school and go to "college", I'm going to give up the dream because the real world will take over too much of my time. It seems my only option is to go with my Dad, but I ******* hate him too. I've been contemplating suicide because I can't achieve what I genuinely feel I've been destined to do. I'd rather be homeless and a musician if it comes to that I guess. I don't know, help!

Should I just dishonors my sister if she doesn't grow up as she's 20 now

My mom lambasted my dad for drinking a little too much at a party in front of us. We were kids is why she objected. He Is not an alcoholic however and Neither is she though it runs in her side of the family. Then he said to her honey you got a brother who......and said something negative my mom's brother had done to his wife due to the brother being an alcoholic as he was the one who was and still is.. My mom lambasted back with something about a cousin of my Dad's who was getting divorced at the time. They went on and on in a fight about little things petty things that my mom was mad at my dad for doing and my dad overreacted as well. This was in 1994 so not recently. They are still married and things were fine by about two days later. It was the fight heard around the world and my brother and I were rooting for my dad and my sister was rooting for my mom it was actually kind of fun as we were cheering in the backseat of the car as they were fighting in front of us. Normally they are fine and they have arguments occasionally but not very much as they're happier than most couples. so would it be funny to remind them of this?

My dad has anger problems, when he gets mad he goes above and beyond just mad, he goes into a rage. And when he does it over the silliest things like just the other week me and my didn't hear him as where something went, and he flipped out screaming and yelling. I told him it was nothing to get upset about and he told me to f**k off. (He did apologize later, but he rarely ever says sorry) I wake up some mornings to him cursing and swearing and storming around the house slamming things. Its been this way since I was a child and its taken its toll on me my two brothers and my mom. I'm 19, my brothers are married and moved out. Yesterday my dad sat down and told me to tell him how I feel. I told him I want him to get help for his angry so he can be happier so so everyone around him is happier. He seemed understand and said he would. My mom told me this morning that he doesn't understand why he has to go get help because he doesn't think he's the problem. He thinks me and my mom are selfish and evil, and my mom turned me and my brothers against him. That's not true at all. I love my dad and so does my mom and my brothers. And I've tried very hard to be nicer to my dad and treat him with more respect. My mom is the sweetest person in the world and I don't want her to think she's evil. Me and my mom have tried very hard for my dad, but he's not trying and has put all the blame on us. You can't help someone that doesn't want help, so what do we do? Me and my mom are going to go to consoling for advice, and hopefully one of my brothers will join us.

I wasn't able to write everything in the detail box so please please read the box. And also im still a im only 15 years old so i can't just simply move out without getting in trouble with the police

Im 18, turning 19 soon. I dont have any set plans as of yet to move out, but I would definitely like to have my own place by the end of 2018. Would it be a smart idea to already start buying stuff like towels, kitchen appliaces, stuff like thaf? Or would it be weird? Ive always been a planner and an organizer and I thought it would be cool to have everything already ready when I move, but idk if this would be considered weird to most lol. Thank you all so much for your answers!

It's been snowing heavily here in the UK today and as my two younger brothers were walking home, the oldest of the two (whose name is Luke) created a snowball and threw the snowball at the younger one (whose name is Leo). The older one is 15 and the younger one is 4. Mum usually picks my Leo up. but she couldn't because she was out shopping and literally just came back. The throw was really hard as it caused bruising on his face. When they got home, my Leo started crying and said Luke threw a snowball at him really hard. When mum arrived, he went running to her and she saw the bruise on his face. He said what happened and mum ordered Luke to apologise. He didn't apologise at all because "we were only having a bit of fun". Mum said it still wasn't justifiable and grounded him for the rest of the month. Was Luke's grounding well deserved?

I was watching my favorite movie about Manson last night it makes me sad every time. I love scary movies but I don't like it when they actually show killing this one they did. I don't know why I love it so much. It's fine for the first few hours of it but when they go to kill the girl and her friends that's when I start loosing it. The first time I watched it I saw the blood I thought I was gonna be sick. It was my first scary movie I've seen where they showed killing. He really scares me but I love watching movies about him. I even had nightmares the first time I saw it I couldn't sleep I had to keep looking out the window. There's a part there where the actress he killed was sitting on the couch with them crying one of his girls said " we don't care ***** your gonna die ". That line breaks my heart every time. I'm still confused about why he killed her. I read the stories it makes no sense. I was shocked when I found out she was pregnant when she was murdered. Her kid never had the chance. In the movie I saw she was pregnant I thought she was just acting when I read the story about her I felt so bad. I cry every time I watch stuff about him. It scares me now because I'm pregnant with twins and he's out of prison I heard. I haven't been sleeping the past couples weeks. Even before I got pregnant he still scared me. Is it ok to cry in front of your brother ? Why did he kill that poor girl and her baby and her friends ?

It's been 10 years since I was 18, and the last five years have went right by me, especially the last 2 years. Sometimes I still can't believe we're not in 2015 and it's 2017. Time is going too fast, I don't feel like I'm really living, only to provide shelter, food, the basics. My child already half way out the house, and on to college.

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He is dissatisfied with how I live my life but I'm an adult what do I do. I want him to like me?.

when i was like, 10, my dad strangled me for telling my gran that i went to a protestant church. he pinned me down to the bed and had his hands around my neck and asked me why i did it. that was 3-4 years ago and it s never been mentioned again? i dont even know if he remembers, and it was a one time thing. he can get angry but he s never abusive or verbally abusive. is there anything i can do? it does make me anxious to be with him when i m alone but apart from that i m fine. i m female and live in the uk, any answers would be welcome! thankyou

My husband and I are expecting our first baby and my mother in law has been acting like the pregnant one. She and I have got along great, I've been with my husband for almost 10 years now and I've never seen her behave this way before. She is all of a sudden very needy, making up drama when there is none, blowing things out of proportion and crying at the drop of a hat. I feel like with how she's acting I have to put aside my feelings because I don't want to overwhelm my husband with my impending motherhood anxieties because he already has his fatherhood anxieties to worry about along with his crazy mom. I've recently been sick and been told by my doctor to take it easy and stay close to home but my mother in law guilts my husband into spending time with her and now I'm pissed that I have to make him chose between who he wants to give his attention to. I know he will be upset if I bring this up because she really doesn't have anyone else she can turn to but I can't take it anymore. What would you do in this situation? Help.

It keeps getting worse everyday. She wakes up earlier and earlier every morning. Also her side of the room smells like cheese. She hyperventilates every morning that she wakes up early. She doesn t have to wakeup early most of the time though. She stomp through out the room leave for two minutes then comes back.

my mom and dad and dog and brother and sister and sister and cousin and grandpa just died in a horse fire, i want to die help.

My parents are divorced and they favor my two sisters because they have no association with my Dad. I know some may worry I enable and I may occasionally be guilty of that but I try not to. My mother's family though it is more a revenge thing as the rule is if one of their members is hurt then everyone must unite against that person and all their allies. My mother was never hurt physically but understandally was emotionally It;s my Dad though so I refuse to disown him and I try not to enable but seeing him doesn't mean enabling. So her family is very close but if someone is out then they are really out like "you are for us or against us".

To make this short my childhood was full of abuse from physical to sexual all done by my mother. It was horrendous. My mom is very controlling nowadays still and her and I are staying in a monthly rate motel together but I cant take it anymore, I cant take the memories and she still guilt trips me into things like Ive even given up on dating because she wants to go out with me on dates and demands to stay living with me forever. Im 25 and I have my own income, im thinking of leaving today to go to a homeless shelter until I get paid. Id feel guilty leaving but I cant handle even being near her even if shes being nice. I hate her so much...should I just make a clean break? It would have to be a clean break otherwise she will guilt me into staying. She has her own income as she gets ssi. I haven't slept in 2 days because Idk what to do.

All other men on this planet look like pig mouths when compared to him.He even beats most girl hotties of hollywood with his extremely beautiful face.iits really insane..i am not being jealous but its not fair to givel all looks to a single man..and giving all other pure ape like face

I've been going through a horrible time, I'm at a very low point in my life.. Ive lose 3 family members recently, along with my bestfriend who committed suicide last week. My deae friend texted me checking on me as she knows the conditions I'm in. I told her how I don't want to be here anymore.. She said "do I have to come kick your butt" Why did she say that?

I'm 53. Since my son and daughter were 3 and 4 year olds I have not felt any love towards them. They're 17 and 18, I wish they both would leave and never come back. They refuse to because they've never found a job yet, because they don't own a car as they've driven before as I refuse to teach, they don't own a road bike as I refuse to buy them both one. And they said they also refuse to leave because I stopped paying for their education in 8th grade( home school) and they haven't been in school since. What do you think? Is it ok I feel this way? I have bipolar which has made me hit and call them names for over 12 years now. But I can't help that. During family gatherings, at my sisters house, I put on an act as a nice father I have to.

In general, I am able to be strong when someone is dying, and also I do my best to go to their funeral to pay my respects to the deceased and to their family. I've always felt it was the right thing to do. The last bit of honour I can show them. But the following situation has me really confused.... I have a cousin who just passed away yesterday. She was in her early 30s. She'd been diagnosed with cancer and was in palliative care but no one in her immediate circle bothered to tell me or my side of the family about it. We never got a chance to say goodbye. In fact one person told me a decision had been made to purposefully keep it from me. Which I happen to think is quite cruel. We used to be really close. Our families took summer holidays together for years. We saw each other at least every other month all growing up. then a couple of years ago, there was a falling out the details obviously don't matter now. I tried to work through it but she refused to talk it out. Now she passed and I don't know if I should go to the funeral or not. Her immediate family didn't say she was dying. they haven't told me she passed. they haven't passed on funeral arrangements (I found out online). And some of them are very very volatile angry people. What should I do? go or not? have a private prayer service? I'm lost on this one.....

I got yelled at repeatedly by my step dad and then when I went over to my dad's place, all he did was send me back over there? He didn't do SHlT.

So, my older sister, who is over 40, wanted to have "Pomp and Circumstance," which is that instrumental song they play at graduations, played at my mom's funeral because it was "one of her favorite songs." I said that is totally retarded and inappropriate, and that one of my favorite songs is "Sex" by Berlin, but I sure don't want it played at my funeral! I told her funerals are for the living, and I refused to have people going huh? Why are they playing that? What's WRONG with the daughters? (My father is dead so we'd get all the blame).

My aunt died yesterday night. She didn't have children and she wasn't married. Both her parents are dead and only sibling was my dad who died in 2006. Her mother had a large family and she had a total of 13 first cousins, some of whom are dead, but all married and had children and some have grandchildren and now great-grandchildren. Her father had one brother who married but had no children, and he has passed away. She was a retired teacher. She owned her home outright (a 2 bedroom cottage worth valued at $75,000) CDs and maybe some other simple investments. She told me she also had a $200,000 life insurance policy and a $10,000 life insurance policy that is made out to the funeral home as she made her arrangements a while ago. My mother asked her if she had a will one time my aunt said the state has a will for her and she didn't need to hire a lawyer do what is already done for free. Who's going to inherit her estate? She lived and died in Ohio.

I need help. My mum won't kick him out and I want to leave because I'm scared 24/7 of him. When I was 10 he hit me and my mum didn't care. She does what he says and doesn't care about what it's doing to me I'm depressed and have anxiety he makes me too scared to have friends over because I get scared he will break out in one of his moods. My mum won't kick him out because she says where will he go and things like that he broke my mum and dads marriage when his moods started he's hit my mom and my dad can't do anything because he is too old. My brother always says things to my dad about me that aren't true and it broke me and my dads relationship my mum also tells him things I feel like because she was jealous that I was close to him more than she was. I know this is really mean but I want my parents to divorce so I can just stay with my dad and re-build our relationship I miss having a father I feel like I have no one. I stopped cutting 2 years ago and I don't want to start again.

Basiclly when I was at a bank with my "Father" they told him to sign and write Guardian below that. Can a Guardian be a biological father, ir am I adopted ? Assell at the airport my Father didnt have me in his passport .

It is embarrassing when I call her Granny and people ask "isn't she your mother"? It is my Dad's mother and my Dad is in jail. My mother is a drug addict and I only see her once a year.

My mother's cousins are handling their fathers death (he died last night) and he was slowly dying over a few weeks and had been sick with Alzheimers as well. So when my parents get that way one day (they are young now still in their 50's) how will I feel? My mother's uncle that died there were four kids and one seems real social and chatty with the other three more somber according to my mother who just saw them (I'll see them at the funeral next Saturday).

He gives us everything we ask for but we don t give him anything in return. My father is sick and we still treat him bad. Why do we treat our father bad when he s done everything he possibly can for us and treat our mother better, the one who left us ? Like I feel terrible, I don t know why I don t appreciate my father when he has been the one who has stayed by our side. My mother treats up terrible, she chooses her boyfriend over us and talks bad about us. So why do we treat our father bad. The one who has loved us like a real parent and treat our mother better when she doesn t seem to care about us?