Family: Question: Help, I don't know how to tell my parents something that I've been hiding!?

Question: Help, I don't know how to tell my parents something that I've been hiding!?

Posted: 16 Jan 2017 01:54 PM PST

So I was a college student, I was in methods (that's the thing education majors do before student teaching). However, my grades were just short of being able to do student teaching. Because of that, I now have to take a semester off of school. My parents are asking a lot of questions. I have not told my parents the truth because my parents are important to me, and I don't want to disappoint them. Also, I'm worried my parents would kick me out of their house if I told them that I'm a failure. Should I tell them this? Please help! I love my parents, but I don't to break their hearts, nor do I want to be homeless!!!!!!!!!!!

Question: Is big brothers big sisters program like, a program that you can "rent" and older sister or brother?

Posted: 16 Jan 2017 01:51 PM PST

I want an older sister or brother and was curious if the BBBS program can work. thx

Question: Adult Sibling to a New Born?

Posted: 16 Jan 2017 01:34 PM PST

I am 23 years old and am still living with family (working for family, among other medical reasons). And my dad and step mom has just had a baby girl (about 6 months now). I am wondering about my involvement. I'm not much for human interaction, let alone family things. However, the parents want me to be more interactive. I haven't been able to find anything on the subject or I'm just looking in the wrong places.

Question: Why is my mum always on my brother's side?

Posted: 16 Jan 2017 01:29 PM PST

Whenever I do anything wrong on accident or I upset my brother because of some dumb thing, my mum is always on his side and thinks that I'm the bad one? Please answer, it's getting overwhelming. My brother always gets what he wants and when he wants me to get in trouble, it happens even if I didn't do anything.

Question: Should I listen to my family or my heart?

Posted: 16 Jan 2017 01:27 PM PST

My future has always been an extreme thing I struggled with. About a year ago, I started thinking about it and what I would have as a career. First, I wanted to be in the army. My brother and mother both told me I was too shy and too gentle. This hurt me, but I pushed it off. I then though of being a carpenter of some sort. I would enjoy building houses. My father told me, "When I was little, I was building bird houses and always had my tools with me. You aren't like that. You should find a job and use your brain." I was also hurt by this. Since then I haven't brought up any careers it's to hem because I'm afraid they will ruin it for me. On one hand, I'm angry that they can't support me. On another hand, I tell myself that my family knows me best, and they probably understand what's best for me. How can I deal with then constantly wanting to ruin my future plans?

Question: My step-brother likes me?

Posted: 16 Jan 2017 01:06 PM PST

So when my step-brother came over me and my other siblings where sleeping in my room and he came in and slept on my bed and started to touch my butt. I didn t know what to do so I pretend to be asleep and I moved and he got closer. What should I do my mom is in love with his dad and I feel like if I tell she wont believe me. More information he was accused for touching his half little brother

Question: How can I comfort my sister ?

Posted: 16 Jan 2017 12:57 PM PST

My sister is mad because her youth group is going to a science center this week she can't go because she has a doctor's appointment it's the only day he can see her this month. She sees them every 6 months. She really wants to go. I told her they'll probably go again this summer but shes too upset to listen to me. She's really sad right now. She hates doctors. How can I help her feel better ?

Question: How to I get my best friends to forgive me for punching her in the face?

Posted: 16 Jan 2017 12:53 PM PST

so some backround info, my parents are meth addicts I live in a trailer with strangers (my parents roommate lets random junkies live with us I dont even know there names) I was at my best friends house, she started crying that her dad is addicted to weed, I was very confused I didn't know someone could get addicted to weed? (weed is legal where we live) but then she said he did it almost every weekend, wtf almost every weekend my parents snort 6 lines of meth everyday!!!, I got mad and told her "you dont even know what addiction is" she start yelling at me and saying "you dont know what its like to have a parent addicted to a drug its horrible your just a spoiled brat" that hurt me so much while she was yelling like a phyco in my face about how she was a victim of drug abuse I punched her right in the face she fell and stared at me in shock, I just walked out of the house, a week past I havent seen her since, I couldn't just stand there and let a middle class ***** call me a spoiled brat trying to get me to feel sorry for her, I do regret punching her in the face, maybe if she knew what I have to go home too she'll understand why I did it, is there anyway I could get her to forgive me? I dont wanna tell her that my parents acually do drugs because im afraid she'll tell her mom and she'll call child support on me, I been to foster care before and I dont wanna go back there (I was neglected)

Question: What does it mean if my name isnt on my childs birth certificate ?

Posted: 16 Jan 2017 12:51 PM PST

im her father

Question: Should I invite all family to a family Christmas or just close family?

Posted: 16 Jan 2017 12:46 PM PST

Question: What do you think of this situation and what should I do?

Posted: 16 Jan 2017 12:40 PM PST

Ok so my grandparents called today. The phone was ringing and my sister went to pick it up. Then she spoke to my grandpa and he was treating her special. When they use to live with us they would always treat my sister special and ignore me and leave me out of whatever they did. They would even bully and make fun of me. Then they asked where I am. Then my sister said that I went outside. Then they asked if I went to buy Chinese food and my sister said yes. Then they asked if I went to buy one for only myself or if I went and bought one for her too. Then my sister said that I went to buy one for only myself. Then they asked if she wants one too and she said that she cooks. But if it was her who went outside and decided to not buy one for me they wouldn't ask and if it was me they would ask if I bought one for her too. Then they said that my sister is good and they said it like she is talented and knows how to do everything. Then they told her to study hard and to go to school. They said it like they want her to do better and like she is meant to and for me to do bad. They even said it like they don't care if I don't study hard or go to school. This makes me feel like not trying trying hard or studying or caring about my education and to not go to school. We are two years apart and I'm the oldest but they treat my sister like she is older then me. I feel like they do this because they think that she is smarter then me or knows better then me. I'm 16 turning 17.

Question: Help! Stuck living with relatives until settlement money.. what do I do?

Posted: 16 Jan 2017 12:30 PM PST

Hi, so long story short. I'm 19years old and my mom and I recently moved in with her parents (my grandparents). Neither my mom and I have cars or jobs, and no money. She is waiting for her lawsuit money and it has been going on for over 2 years now and not sure how long it will take before she gets her money and we can move into our own home. Idk what to do I can't handle staying with my grandparents anymore and have no one else to go live with. I have no friends really either to talk to or stay with.. neither does my mom. We are so stuck idk what else to do and grandparents don't really drive much either so school or jobs is hard. Any advice would help or plan I haven't thought of. And no we are not going to get govt assistance in any way my mom is too prideful for that it would never happen.

Question: Girls honestly no bs?

Posted: 16 Jan 2017 12:30 PM PST

She 18 and i was 21. She was a senior in hs and i was just a normal guy working. Well needless to say we dated a whole year with no sex since she wanted nothing serious and said she wanted to stay a virgin. I highly respected that/her and we kept dating. Soon she had to leave to college and we broke up. I'd then see pics of her dirty dancing/drinking etc. A year later she calls me and said if was down to get food. I was skeptical and confused because it's been so long since we hung out but i said yeah sure. Well we hung out and we began to kiss and etc. I said where were we as in relationship wise? and she said she wanted to be friends. I then asked if she dated anyone out there while out in college? and she said yes nothing serious. I wanted to know if she had slept with anyone and i wasn't her plan B plate. Instead of me directly asking her if she had sex i asked "HOW FAR DID YOU GET IN THE DATES?". She wouldn't answer it. Instead she began to walk faster and ignoring me. I was so pissed that i all on my own admitted i slept with a girl which is true. She got pissed and said "JUST ONE GIRL THATS IT?". She then continued to yap and said to never bother her again. It's been almost a year and just last night she saw me in the mall parking lot and flicked me off and sped off. I have no answer on wtf happened till this day. Do you think she slept around or no she didn't and i just ruined my chances because I jumped to the gun?..

Question: Hey level 7 how dare you try to make me look as i am the bad guy! im not and it wont work! got that?

Posted: 16 Jan 2017 12:24 PM PST

you all cant stand when a person stands up to you i do know the game. what do you got to say? by the way i reported level7 to various places. you need to quit this meanness. am i serious or bluffing? you all cant stand when a person stands up to you i do know the game. what do you got to say? by the way i reported level7 to various places. you need to quit this meanness. am i serious or bluffing?

Question: My mom wants to kill me?

Posted: 16 Jan 2017 12:12 PM PST

Because my parents are so rude towards me I have a *** attitude problem. Because of this my mom has either said "I want to send her away" to my dad or she ll say "I swear to god I m going to kill her." She has said these things more than once and Im starting to get scared. What if she really does it.. is this normal?

Question: I am 44 and have both of my parents have past away. Am I kind of young to lose both my parents?

Posted: 16 Jan 2017 12:07 PM PST

Question: Who all is from a kind and loving family?

Posted: 16 Jan 2017 11:43 AM PST

Question: Is it bad that I want my parents to get a divorce?

Posted: 16 Jan 2017 11:43 AM PST

Question: My dad is going away..?

Posted: 16 Jan 2017 11:17 AM PST

Okay I so just woke up a while ago around 12pm. It seemed like it was just another ordinary day with everyone in my house and everything. My dad came in the house and I heard him talking to my mom and she started crying... he then went into my brother's room then mine and talked to us... he told us that he's going away for.. a little while but he'll eventually be back. I'm not sure what's wrong or what's happening but he's going to Mexico and he migrated here quite a while ago so he might not be able to get back into the U.S. either and ****. My dad means so much to me and it kills me to see him all sad and needing to leave the family. I love him so much and I don't want him to go.. but if he has to he has to.... I dunno what to do I've been crying for a while now and I just wanna.... AUGH I dunno anymore!

Question: I dont talk to my stepdad or i dont go anywhere with him ? Am i wrong?

Posted: 16 Jan 2017 11:17 AM PST

Ok so my dad sometimes can be very mean like he goes thru my room and tears it up, he always argues for the stupidst reasons ( for example if i have headphones in and hes calling me and i cant hear him he will throw a temper ) he always acts like he's in a bad mood always fussing and he gets mad over little stuff like if i drop water so i just choose not to talk to him and when my family goes out to eat with each other i choose not to go if he comes, also whenever i talk to him he thinks im being disrespectful and he blames me for everything that happens in the house then he thinks im a liar cause i said i didnt do it... i can never have a 1 on 1 talk with him about how he is cause he will think im being disrespectful when i was little things was worst but after my brother was born it made things a little different but am i wrong for not talking to him or spending time with him if i know hes doing all these things to me ?

Question: Do you agree with parents who force grandparents to have a close relationship with all their children, even if they don't want to?

Posted: 16 Jan 2017 11:01 AM PST

I sent my grandson (he's 16) a birthday greeting text message last weekend, but because I don't speak or send text messages to his sister (my 20 yr old granddaughter), their father (my son) told me not to contact my grandson anymore, it has to be I communicate with both children or none. I'm mad at my granddaughter because I suffered a stroke but she never offered help after I did so much for her over the years, she told me she had her own life, even though I offered to pay her! I can't bring myself to forgive her.

Question: As the youngest of my siblings, I have to watch them accomplish cool things while I'm too young, advice?

Posted: 16 Jan 2017 10:51 AM PST

I am the youngest of my siblings. My sister is 18, my brother is 16. My sister got her driver's license this year after being taught by our driving instructor parents, which was pretty cool. It was a big deal, and I was excited for her. This month, my brother turned 16 and can now get a part-time job, which was also pretty cool. What bothers me is that when they pass milestones like this, it's always a big deal, but whenever I pass any milestones, nobody cares because it's kinda like "been there, done that, bought the t-shirt, get out". It really upsets me having to sit back and watch my siblings go on to do all these cool things while I'm still too young to do anything. I know, my time will come, but the point is that nobody is going to care when it does, and nobody will EVER care. The only thing I have on them is the novel I'm working on, I'm hoping to turn it into a book. It's the only way I'll be able to do something that's special and important, something that won't be foreshadowed by my brother and sister's milestones, if you get what I mean. What do I do? I love them, but I'm really jealous. Even our parents don't pay much attention to my milestones because when I get to them, they've been through it 4 times before (I have older half siblings too) so they don't care, even when it's the first time doing whatever it is for me. Please no rude answers, it's hard for me to describe this feeling without sounding bratty :( and btw, the whole thing about the youngest being The favourite does NOT apply to my family

Question: Why does my sister get so mad at me when I don't hug her when she has panic attacks?

Posted: 16 Jan 2017 10:47 AM PST

I've been staying with my sister since she was raped 3 days ago and she gets panic attacks quite often. When those happen she usually asks me for a hug but I say no because I don't like hugs (they're like a violation of my persona space) and then she gets really mad at me and won't talk to me for a few hours. What's the big deal, it's just a hug?

Question: How do I tell my mom she's ******* fat?

Posted: 16 Jan 2017 10:39 AM PST

I'm a 15 y/o girl and need to tell my ***** of a mom that she's ******* fat and needs to hit the gym and lose weight cuz she's embarrassing me every time I'm seen in public with her. I feel like people are talking behind my back laughing. I don't want that kind of negative attention. She's also ******* ugly which doesn't help. I think I can fix her looks by putting makeup on her. I'm so stressed that you wouldn't believe how sick this is making me. I have no problem with people being fat but I just don't want to associate myself with them because they're embarrassments

Question: My grandparents on my dad's side were 74 and 76 when I was born, is that older than average? Moms side was 60 and 66?

Posted: 16 Jan 2017 10:27 AM PST

Question: What should i do? Pls help me:(?

Posted: 16 Jan 2017 09:59 AM PST

My kids always spend the weekend with my parents. So Last night my mother had a talk with me, telling me that she disliked the fact that my oldest daughter(10yr old daughter frm my ex boyfriend) told her that my hubby bought her pads. I told my mother their is nothing wrong with that because i work alot and so my hubby takes care of the househould, kids homework, cleaning, and laundry etc...and so she also got upset and told me that she hated the fact my kids told her that my hubby does not like her. I was very upset and told her that no matter how many good things my hubby do for them they will always find something to be mad at him about. So my mother told me that i should not take my husbands side and obey my parents. I told my mother i'm sorry but he has done nothing wrong to this family. He paid for my parents green card, paid for my moms vacations gave them money but yet they still hate him and then i feel like my mother is being very unfair to me. She loves my brother and his wife and tried to force me to like his wife. Mother talks highly about her and she also told me that my brother was mad at my husband for i don't know what. I am starting to not wanting to go around my own family. I love my husband and i feel like my mother is trying to make me choose between him and my parents. So now everytime we have family gatherings my husband never goes because he knows my family hates him. I feel so bad for.my husband that i end up not going to those events as well.

Question: I have divorced selfish parents -- need advice?

Posted: 16 Jan 2017 09:57 AM PST

I'm in a dilemma and I'm not sure how to make the right decision or what the right way to go about it is... My parents are divorced and have been divorced for about 10 years. They still hate eachother immensely, don't communicate or co-parent with eachother, but instead communicate through me and my brother (which is AWFUL). My mom's family has been planning a family get together party for a month and we settled on a date that will all work for us. Mainly, it's to celebrate my aunt, uncle, and cousin's birthday. My dad's family just planned a family get together on the same date that my mom's family party is...this is to celebrate my dad's birthday. My parents are very very selfish, so they will not move the dates. They also make me feel guilty. I want to stop feeling guilty and people pleasing. What is the right way to go about this -- go to my dad's family party or my mom's family party? I considered splitting the day in half, but then it's a 3 hour drive and that's too much for me (also I'm done people pleasing). Anybody have advice or a perspective on this tricky issue? Thanks in advance.

Question: Things haven't been very good lately and I don't know what to do. I don't think I can do this much longer. advice?

Posted: 16 Jan 2017 09:52 AM PST

I haven't spoken to my dad in two years. he's an *** and we just don't get along. my mom has been so dramatic and I try to be comforting but it's driving me insane. she yells at me and makes me feel worthless, she says she does so much for me and that I should do more for her. she cries, ALL THE TIME. she calls me pathetic and disgusting and makes me feel pathetic and disgusting. she tells me my brother already gives her so much trouble, and I'm not helping with my behavior. in school I'm barely passing. I feel like I'm drowning in work and tests and my mother doesn't understand the work it takes to get a simple "B". I have practically no friends, and I just feel so alone. in school people only talk to me to tease me and I'm just not sure I can handle it anymore. I have no one to talk to or help me and I'm scared because I don't see things getting better. please help. any advice? thanks.... I appreciate it :)

Question: My mom is being kind of awful to me and I don t understand?

Posted: 16 Jan 2017 09:46 AM PST

my dad and I have never really gotten along, and he s leaving the country for a few weeks. we don t really talk and my mom yelled at me to make sure to say goodbye to him. I got in the shower, and he left early so by the time I got out of the shower he was gone. I fell asleep and my mom comes barging into my room and yells at me and she says "I don t ask for much and I asked you to do this for me! I will never forgive you or forget this!" and I was like huh? she s always very (I don t mean to be rude but) dramatic. everything is a big deal and I just don t get it. she yells and cries all the time to the point where every time she does it all I can think is "oh no not again". please help... I don t know how to deal with this anymore. I ve never been close to my mother, and I don t like her a lot of the time, but I do love her. I ll never understand her. she makes me feel so small, like crap all the time and I just don t get it.

Question: My mom and her sisters use their kids as weapons when they're mad at somebody is this emotional abuse?

Posted: 16 Jan 2017 09:44 AM PST

By using them as a weapon I mean either her one sister won't let the kids see the person my mom badmouth the person and won't let us see them and my mom sister just badmouth the person to the kids. None of them are divorce this is not parental alienation like a divorce but it seems to be similar to that towards extended family. For example my aunt doesn't get along with her in-laws so her kids are not allowed to have Christmas with them.

Question: Why is my father so opposed to me being engaged at 22 and married at 23?

Posted: 16 Jan 2017 09:36 AM PST

I am engaged to my wonderful fiancé. My dad likes him as well. Hes just against us getting married. He's respectful, family oriented, employed full time and treats me well. I have a degree. I don't plan on going to grad school , but that's my personal choice. It has nothing to do with my relationship. I am working part time right now with pretty good pay. However, I'm looking for full time work and I have a interview at a hospital this week for a full time position as a administrative clerk. I don't ask my parents for anything, and I am self sufficient. Everyone aproves of my future marriage except him! He says I'm too young and I need to "live my life". Says 23 is too young to get married, but I'm a full functioning adult. I don't know what his true problem is. Is 23 too young to get married, or is he being difficult for whatever reason? Regardless the wedding will go on this November, I just wanted my father to be apart of it. It hurts that he's being so difficult.

Question: My cousin has been abandoned by her parents should I still think of her as family or is she an ex Family member now that she's abandoned?

Posted: 16 Jan 2017 09:33 AM PST

She could not meet the rigorous criteria her parents have for them to love her so she's been abandoned. I kind of feel sorry for her but I think the parents expect us to know longer have any association with her. So for peace and harmony in the family should I just consider this cousin and ask rather than a family member? Can I at least be nice to her like on Facebook like I am with an aunts ex-husband? Different aunt. The cousin is 22 years old.

Question: My mom lies to me about people that she's angry at. How do I know when she's lying and when she's telling the truth?

Posted: 16 Jan 2017 09:29 AM PST

Question: Why is my dad so opposed to me getting married? He uses the excuse that I'm too young.?

Posted: 16 Jan 2017 09:27 AM PST

Question: My fiancé and my mom don't get along..?

Posted: 16 Jan 2017 09:08 AM PST

My mom wants to care for our baby and I agree seeing as we aren't economically fit to afford the expensive childcare but my fiancé says my mother doesn't get along with her and won't let her take care of the baby no matter how much she sees we can't afford child care. I tell my fiancé it's her and my mom problem and our baby has nothing to do with it and it shouldn't matter if she cares for him that'd be a good help but she doesn't understand. Or am I wrong? And opinions?

Question: I'm a woman, my girlfriend I've been dating for a year and my brother might be getting married soon! Advice on how to cope?

Posted: 16 Jan 2017 08:38 AM PST

Well, my girlfriend and I have been dating for a year. I have two sons and they are under her care while I travel for work most times. Prior to us becoming intimate with each other, I told my brother about her that I thought she was a good wife material for him. At the time he was still in a relationship with his girlfriend, fast forward a year later it just didn't work out between them. So, he finally met my friend and fell in love with her or either likes a lot. We Christmas holiday together and I was silently dying when I noticed the chemistry between them. Even though I'm still encouraging him to follow his heart and continue the relationship with her. She also wants the relationship with him but it's been an emotional episode between me and her, which he knows nothing about. We are from a Christian background and it's just too embarrassing. Also, against our culture (African). She wants to keep the intimacy between us until he proposes to her! Crazy I brought something to her attention last week, that we should stop being intimate , stop having sex because her and my brother are currently making future plans. We live in the same house whenever I'm around it's rather hard to avoid each other and we both know it. Age is on her side , she has no children and she's 35. She's under pressure by her family , has low self esteem and feels the need to hurry up and get married , have children, start a family of her own. Any advice anyone? Pls help!

Question: My mom is destroying me?

Posted: 16 Jan 2017 08:37 AM PST

I'm 17 years old and my mom doesn't care about how I feel. She doesn't care if i'm happy or not. I've been dating this guy for almost 3 months and she made me "break-up" with him because he's not religious. The quotations are there because I told her I broke it off but never did. She also has severe anxiety and makes me do everything for her. Like go on store runs and take her to the doctor, drive myself to the doctor. Even when i'm sick, I still have to do everything. I'm basically the mom. She goes through my things. My phone, computer, diary. I have no personal space. She walks in without knocking, even when I just got out of the shower, and am naked. I want to come to her but I can't and I need my mom. But I don't have that. People say I need to stand up to her but i'm always too afraid to do so. I need help. I also turn 18 in April. (so in 3 months)

Question: Does a relative have to have my blood in them to be a relative?

Posted: 16 Jan 2017 08:20 AM PST

Question: Did I call my mom stupid?

Posted: 16 Jan 2017 07:49 AM PST

My mom and my sis had a fight and while I was defending my mom I was shouting to my sis and telling her u just called mom stupid .does tht mean I called my mom stupid too

Question: Why won't my Mom understand?

Posted: 16 Jan 2017 07:44 AM PST

I injured my back and it's always in a lot of pain. My doctor said that I'll need to get a lower lumbar support brace and that we can get one online for pretty cheap. Wish he hadn't said that because my mom is a huge cheapo and often buys stuff for cheap that are made cheap and not quality even though it would be cheaper to buy 1 quality item than 10 items that work like sh*t. Anywho, she has a lot of friends who have had back braces so she asked if she could borrow them and she keeps giving them to me even tho they are WAYYY too big for me. I have a 32 inch waist and most of these are for 40-50 inch waists or even bigger than that. When I tell her that they are too big and I can't even wear them (because the velcros don't even line up and they fall off) she gets all defensive and calls me a worthless, selfish brat that wants her to spend money on something we can just borrow from someone. I'm not, I'm in a whole lot of pain and I just want a back brace that works! H*ll, I want my back to work again! And let me tell you, NONE of her friends have a 32 inch waist so that means they won't have a brace for a 32 inch waist. I'm taking like 6-8 painkillers a day and sometimes I can't even walk it hurts so bad, ice and heat, ice and heat, ice and heat and painkillers. And before you guys go "Move out" or "Get one yourself." I cant, I'm 14, no source of income.

Question: Is consensual adult incest between mother and son wrong?

Posted: 16 Jan 2017 07:32 AM PST

Is a consenting adult sexual relationship between mother and so wrong?(if the mother can no longer have kids)

Question: Can you help me finish this quote/prayer?

Posted: 16 Jan 2017 07:32 AM PST

I pray God replaces our hurt for Happiness, our Struggle for Strength and our ____ for _____

Question: Am I a bad person if I don't really love my daughter that much?

Posted: 16 Jan 2017 07:20 AM PST

I don't really know how to explain what I mean. I do love her and I care about her well-being and happiness, but deep down if I could go back in time, I definitely wouldn't have been stupid enough to have her. I'm 27, she's four. I'm not with the mother anymore, so I see the child a few times a week. I just feel so trapped. I really want to move away to get a different job and do something interesting with my life, but I have to stay because I don't want to abandon her. I feel guilty for feeling like this because I'm her father and she trusts me and she always seems happy to spend time with me, but I just really hate being a father. I enjoy spending time with her and teaching her stuff, but I just feel so suffocated by responsibility and commitment. I'd do anything for her, including sacrificing my own life to save her, but I'm just so fed up. How do I stop feeling like this?

Question: My parents think I'm a virgin at 28?

Posted: 16 Jan 2017 06:20 AM PST

Hi, I'm a 28 year old female (hispanic, dunno if that matters) anyway, I live at home with my family due to issues with their health as well as they wouldn't be able to afford the house if I move out. I am financially stable enough with a good job that I can afford to move out. So I have a boyfriend who is also 28. He comes over to the house alot to visit me and we usually sit on the couch and watch movies, talk, etc. The problem is that my parents feel like he and I shouldn't lay down and rest our heads on the others lap ( we do this A lot and are affectionate with each other) they say his head is too close to my chest, etc. They think we are not having sex (we are, but obviously not at my house) and don't seeing us too close or for him too touch or caress me. Sometimes when we kiss his hand is on the small of my back and they have told me to watch myself. They think I'm still a virgin and don't let me stay at his place or him stay at mine to sleep. I pay rent ( mind you, it's expensive) and I'm an adult. They are treating me like a child. How can I handle this? They also kick him out of the house if it gets late, sometimes he stays until like 2am. I know you guys may say to move out etc but I can't right now and leave them with a high rent and my dad has Parkinson's , my sister lives there too but in the egfixiency in the back and she has a newborn so she can't help much. Please help.

Question: My granny only talks about religion?

Posted: 16 Jan 2017 06:13 AM PST

She'll be 88 at the start of next month, but it's all she'll ever talk about. I mainly go to visit her because no one else does (some of my family live too far away for the odd visit here and there and others have work, etc.) and she lives alone (my granda died ten years ago). I'm 19 and for a while I've personally had disagreements in religion and decided it's not something for me, but to avoid upsetting my granny I never told her this and just nod and smile when she goes on about it. She'll usually direct a conversation to how someone in the family died and wonders if when we go to heaven that we'll recognise each other, says that we must always pray and go to mass because we don't know the day or hour we'll die - every time I visit her. She even asks if I know what the eight beatitudes and ten commandments are. It's almost a running joke in the family that we all call her Holy Granny and for birthdays and Christmas we get her something like rosary beads or something religious. It just annoys me that she goes on and on about it because one) I don't believe in it, two) she'll say stuff like "God has his reasons" when we talk about how my mum (her daughter) died and three) it's literally the same stuff (word for word) every time she goes on about it. What can I do?

Question: My maternal uncle is married to my friend s maternal aunt! Are we cousins? If so, what relation to each other, are our respective chilren?

Posted: 16 Jan 2017 05:57 AM PST

Question: After I told my mom my dad stares at my butt and thighs she yells at me ,she says that my eyes are huge and ugly and calls me idiot,useless?

Posted: 16 Jan 2017 04:49 AM PST

I m so sad.She doesnt support me.😥Why is she doing this??

Question: How do I avoid an unruly child?

Posted: 16 Jan 2017 04:40 AM PST

I am expecting and it scares me that they will rebel against me at some point in their teenage years. How do I prevent this? By no means do I plan to be VERY strict. I will give them their space and independence. I m just afraid they will disrespect me and do bad things and refuse to listen.

Question: My uncle is an alcoholic and my Mom won't let me play with his kids. Why is it their fault?

Posted: 16 Jan 2017 04:34 AM PST

She doesn't talk to him and when I want to play with my cousins she says no. My Dad then says when I'm a grown up I can but not now. Why is it their fault that he is an alcoholic or why are my parents punishing them? My Mom and her brother fight but I like his kids and I am not allowed to see them anymore accept at the July reunion and Thanksgiving.

Question: My mother hates my Dad and step-Mom with a burning passion and it makes family time difficult. How do I manage being around this?

Posted: 16 Jan 2017 03:49 AM PST

I'm an adult but like at Christmas I either get endless grief from my Mom and her Mom for daring to see my Dad and step-mother on Christmas Day instead of treating them as 2nd rate and seeing them a week later. I know their hidden reason for giving me grief is their burning hatred for my Dad and step-mother. During the year I am accused of being "obsessed on my Dad and this wife of his" when in reality the anxiety I have is due to my Mom's burning hatred of them and not an individual obsession on Dad or step-Mom. When my paternal grandfather died in 2011 my mother made his death all about her burning hatred for my Dad and step-mother and gave me grief that I was there at hospice with them the week he died and not helping my mother who had injured her back that week. I can give many more examples. She had an evil real estate agent who got my Dad mixed up with a friend of his and told her things that were not true. So my mother decided to repeat them to me the day after I lost my grandfather. She also told me details about the divorce when I was a kid which I hear is the number 1 no-no in a divorce. So how do I manage being around this? I can't disown my Mom or I'd be as bad as she is. But it causes me anxiety even though I am an adult living on my own. My Dad wasn't the nicest husband but I am not married to him nor should I suffer for his flaws. Plus he is much better to my step-mother.

Question: I hate my father but i can’t leave the house. Can someone give me any advice?

Posted: 16 Jan 2017 01:41 AM PST

I can't stand him. He's way of treading me and my sister has damage our self-confidence. I remember as I was child criticized me all the time. And whenever I asked him money to go out he was yelling at me. He never said have a good time son. He went bankrupt and ever since my mother had to start that shitty job from 03:00 in a horrible factory 'cause working with him at the farm was not profitable. Now he is the one how asks money from me. Yesterday he asked me 600 euro and I gave him. These where my savings for renting a place. He was beating my sister and a few times my mother. Also he cheated once my mother. My parents had several breaks as long as I remember. He tells us that my mother has mental issues as she is all the time worried that he is going after other women. But I've seen some things and I know she is not crazy. But this behavior of him affects my mother. If someone constantly tells you that you are crazy eventually sometime you might start believing it yourself. No one is with his side in the family. I know what the **** of a family is this… My sister did the right thing and got out of this problematic house. But I'm stack here. I do two jobs to pay my student loan and I cannot afford to rend a place to stay. Plus now I'm studying to pass the fire service exams which is my dream job. But being here in this house makes me feel so bad. I want to get the hell out of here. But I cant. Any advice would be appreciated.

Question: What is better to do?

Posted: 16 Jan 2017 01:21 AM PST

Well my family and I want to do something together tomorrow but me and my sister get to pick where but we can't decide on sky zone or a walk in city walk/Hollywood at night I need everyone's opinion what do you guys think is better to do Laser tag is also an option

Question: Does my mother sound manipulative? please help!?

Posted: 16 Jan 2017 01:00 AM PST

Im a 21 year old girl..Ever since I was little I always disliked my mother, She is very controlling, manipulative, and a Narcissistic Most of my friends end up telling me they don't like her, or won't come over because they don't want to deal with my controlling and close-minded mom. I moved back in with my parents this past year because i decided college wasn't for me. In august my best friend and I got our nose pierced together, and my friends mom got one to for religious purposes. I didn't tell my mom, and when I came home she screamed bloody murder at me..and said I was never allowed to see my best friend because her mom didn't have the "decency" to call to see if i could get it done. She said that I'm living under her roof and so I'm not allowed to have it, and how trashy it makes me. 5 months later I finally spent the night at my friends and my mom ran to the car to stop us, and was yelling at me to get out, and I told her no. She called my friends parents and their friend who lives with them, and said I wasn't aloud over, and I couldn't be alone without any adults?1 (her family was out of town) She told me if I didn't come home the next day, she would kick me out. I think that i have some physiological damage from this, and sometimes I end up talking in a kid voice for some reason. and I think all of this is why I'm super romantic, family oriented, and caring person. I always envied happy close families, and really want one of my own, and me finding someone to love me Im saving up money to move out, and have a full time job..I just don't have a car yet. she'll cry and blame my siblings for something, always say how she wishes she would divorce me dad (because apparently my siblings and I are so bad?) and that she wants to go marry someone else and live a nice life without us. She always thinks she's the victim. And if you don't agree with her, she'll bash you for your opinions and beliefs.

Question: How do i tell my parents about a varicocele?

Posted: 16 Jan 2017 12:31 AM PST

Im currently 22 yo and still live with my parents(making efforts to move out), they are hispanic and will flip tables over the most subtle things

Question: How would you feel if your dad looked at your butt and legs all the time?Mother notices and gets angry.He said I had dust on my butt?

Posted: 15 Jan 2017 11:45 PM PST

He used a small tshirt to slap my butt and said dont look in the mirror.Ill clean it.He put my pants to fit better using his hands.He wiped my thighs to clean dust another day.Why all this?When I complained he thteatened to kill me.Mom says dont get angry with family.

Question: Where can i buy a stiletto switchblade?

Posted: 15 Jan 2017 11:42 PM PST

Im 13 im not even gonna bother asking my mom for one my mom doesnt want me to deal with things but we lie in a hqrd neighborhood so i wanna carry one around to protect myself

Question: My mom is driving me crazy...?

Posted: 15 Jan 2017 11:31 PM PST

My mother has a job and I pick her up everyday after school. I have been doing this for the past six months, stopping whatever I need to do to pick her up. In about a week or two my younger sister will get her drivers license. So I assumed it would then be her responsibility to pick her up, but no I would still have to pick her up. If my sister has her drivers license why can't she pick her up, her job is 10 min away from our house I don't understand. It's currently my senior year in my high school I want to get a job but I can't, I'm in 5 AP/ college classes, clubs, and volunteering. Soon I will start college and eventually my sister will have to carry my responsibility. I know she's my mother, she has taken care of me my whole life, but why can't my sister take her. We have been arguing constantly it's frustrating. I just don't know what to do...

Question: I will kill my dad?

Posted: 15 Jan 2017 11:20 PM PST

So I really hate my dad, he was never there for me and I just really hate him. I want to meet him somewhere but only to murder him. I bought a gun and gloves and other supplies I'll need for the murder. Don't tell me not to do it I won't change my mind. Please no mean answers. I really want my dad to die. I don't care about the consequences I'm going to have to face in the aftermath. I don't really care I just want revenge on my dad. I want him to know how I felt when he hurt me. My question is, how do I make his death look like an accident? How do I hide all the evidence so no one knows I did it?

Question: I'm self conscious about my boobs.?

Posted: 15 Jan 2017 11:15 PM PST

Well I mean I'm 14 and I'm a c cup. My mom won't let me wear certain clothes because of my boobs. It makes me sad because those clothes don't show anything. I've always hated my boobs. I hate it when people tell me I have big boobs. I hate it when people tell me they're jealous to make me feel better because I don't care because it is my body and I hate them! I wish I was an A or a B cup. I've been molested before too. I've hated my boobs before that though. I like to act like a kid. Sometimes my sister gets mad at me when I do (she's 26) because she says I look 18 with my boobs and it makes me real sad. I don't care if guys like them, I am gay. I mean I just don't know what to do they make me depressed.

Question: My 5 year old always wanted to be with his dad, never me. How can I help our relationship?

Posted: 15 Jan 2017 11:11 PM PST

My ex boyfriend and I had our son when I was 18 and he'd just turned 19. We were too young and even though he changed us for the better and I was so lucky his dad was always there and is the best father, things fell apart 2 yrs. ago. When we broke up and he moved out I wasn't surprised that our son took it really hard and wanted to be with him, but I thought with time and age he would get more used to the situation and would be willing to split his time equally without much fuss. Flash forward, he's now 5 years old and still gets upset every Tuesday when he has to come to my house. Due to his feelings, to make things easier on our child, I only have him Tuesday night-Friday morning, I take him to school that morning and his dad picks him up and has him the rest of Friday-Tuesday evening, so I technically do have him less during the week than his dad. It breaks my heart, but we agreed upon it solely because our child wants to be with him. Before you jump to ridiculous conclusions, I'm not abusive or neglectful, my son is my world and I love him endlessly. I have no idea why he doesn't like spending a lot of time with me, he'd just rather be at his dad's. He BEGS to go see his dad on my days. He even said "I wish I could stay at daddy's all the time. You visit me, but I don't wanna come here." I'm so upset! Please help! This is a picture his daddy sent me of him with one of my buttons from work. I just want my baby to be happy!