So, my dad has just picked me up from my mom s house about a half hour ago. When we were in the car my stepmom called and said my grandma has just cooked chicken that has been in the fridge for a week and we would all get food poisoning. And it was on that speaker car mode thingy, I was like WHUTTTT!! Then my dad said "NAWWW THEY RE GONNA BE FINEEEE." She is gonna feed this to my little sister and my 8 year old cousin, (he usually sleeps over on some weekends.) I m SOOO afraid of getting food poisoning and vomiting. (I m not planning on eating it either.) when and if my cousin sleeps over, he s gonna vomit all over my room!! SOMEONE HELP, I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO!! (And by the way, I m going to fake sick to prove my dad wrong, and that it s not okay to feed children ******* OLD CHICKEN.) (Quick update, I just told my sister my plan and now she s yelling at me saying I d be dramatic if I fake sick.) EHHHH PLEASE HELP! ;_;

Please dont lecture me I know I messed up. I am 42 and was visiting our neighbors with my 2 sons and wife. Anyways, everyone was out back drinking, I was drunk and not thiking straight. I saw there 17 year old son swimming so i figured he was in the pool. I wasnt trying to hurt anyone, I peaked in his room and saw his underwear laying out and IDK why i decided to just smell it really quick. Well I had it to my face and their other 14 year old son ran into the room and gave me a shocked look than ran out yelling. I panicked and ran out grabbed my wife and kid and said we gotta go its important. Anyways I drove us to my mothers, I know that by now the neighbors family knows. Ive been telling my wife and sons we had to leave because Grandma was feeling very sick..idk.why I did this i messed up and am.fearing going home as Im sure it will be awkward and I could be in big trouble..I had my hand down my pants and was thinking I had more time when I was caught. I was going to tell the neighbors that I was smelling my wifes panties and ran into the first room I saw.which I thought was a guest room.not there sons. Or that I was simply trying to help clean up like I do at home and I.habe a habit of smelling to check if its dirty. Hopefully their younger boy didnt see my hands down my pants. Please, I work for A reputable business and could be facing big problems

Life's been going great, final exams came, I'm studying as hell and I nailed those exams, 9th grade currently, first semester. My brothers are driving my mother insane, the older one keeps asking for money, although she has got the money she just keeps complaining, and the middle brother doesn't study for his exams, 10th grade, so it's pretty important for him, right? She didn't care as much, she used to pressure him to study and it usually worked, is still does but all of a sudden she's a mad gorilla in the house... She doesn't only complain about the money she complains about how nobody's helping her and that she's a maid in the house, I keep cleaning the house every week and I don't even ask for money, I actually never ask for money, unless when I'm going out with friends ( which I only have done 3 times in my whole disgusting life ) and I take 10$ USD each time. I calculated and the whole family gets about 3200$ USD every month, I don't get why she's complaining about the money. When I say "gone insane all of a sudden" I meant she's suddenly pressuring us to sleep super early, she keeps cursing us, and praying for our deaths, it sucks but I think she needs to go to a hospital and check herself out. I know how bad life can be for a 46 year old mother with 4 children, although two of us are adults and make their own decision, the family's going well until this happened, she got inspired by some other mother who's very strict with her children, but this isn't strict... Follow-Up: She's not being strict, she's being mad about everything, she's also attention seeking a lot and it's all just terrible.

They also say they hate welfare too and that they refuse to work or get welfare. Here is the situation I'm having with them I'm 49. I don't ever plan on teaching my son and daughter how to drive. I might be them a very cheap car on Craigslist though, one that is only $100 dollars or less I don't care if it is safe or unsafe. I should not have to support my son and daughter like that. My parents got me driving lessons when I was 15, but that is different. What do you think? We live in a town with no public transportation, within walking distance, too, to get to town where the jobs are at are 15 miles away and they say they REFUSE to walk 5 hours to a job, and 5 hours back home after. Why are they screwed up? I wish my wife would have aborted them 17 and 18 years ago! They have not been in school since 8th grade, I was going to home school them but never did.

We recently divorced and I am temporarily living at my parents. I take the kids out sometimes but I still want to spend some quality time with them at home when the weather is bad, is anything wrong with that? My ex doesn't mind since she knows I am searching for a place to live in. But it is somehow absurd. It is somehow awkward*

so I m not trying to make him out as a dick do not take it that way. I have a motorcycle as I only have that type of licence it was my only option as insurance was ridiculous for a car. iv been going through some trouble an had to stay with my father temporary while I get back onto my feet got myself a great job not making as much as I want to be but it s work I should be getting better pay within 2 months or so. I m currently paying off a $4600 bike to my father as he loaned me the money. I m paying my insurance buying my son his needs an while trying to save for my own place. my father had just gone out an bought now a over $5000 car an now expects me to pay him back for that too. problem is I don t want to be here longer than needs to be an to top it off don t even have a car licence... i don t want to sound spoilt or ungrateful but it seems crazy how he would just assume I would accept a extra 5k more debt. in reality I would be paying it for a good few years. now he s telling me I can only do an use the car to travel to work. I have no idea what to do or where to begin I m just lost at to his situation.

The majority of my friends have Skype, and I would absolutely love to have one as well in order for us to communicate better. I have asked my mother, and I received an immediate 'no'. The reason as to why she will not allow me to install Skype is because of 'psychos on the Internet'. I have explained to her that I can simply block random people who attempt to speak/call with me, though I highly doubt I will ever run into a situation like that. I have also told her that she needs to trust me when it boils down to things like this, as I know exactly what to do. I promised her that I will not give away any personal information or use my own face as my profile photo. I also let her know that she allows me to use Instagram, and on Instagram, you are allowed to direct message (also known as "DM") friends and send photos on there; so, what is the big difference? She told me that I am "still her daughter", and she wouldn't want anything horrible happen to me. I understand that it's extremely daunting to allow your child to own any kind of social media, however I feel as if you need to place a little bit of trust into your child and see what happens. I even told my mother that she could watch me if that would ease her apprehension, yet she refused. Is there anyway I can convince my mother to let me use Skype? Thank you in advance! P.S: If this helps in any way, I am 14 years old, though I do know what to do and what not do to on the Internet; I am not that kind of person.

I use to be seen as the perfect daughter then I got arrested over a misunderstanding (it was a friend's fault I just had the misfortune of being in the wrong place wrong time) as a teen and I had this big argument with my parents. I've had a strained relationship with my parents ever since. They started to see me as this rebellious disrespectful punk. So I lashed out and acted like the most disrespectful brat you could imagine. I even went goth and a little punk (it's my preferred style) anyway I kind of hid the fact that I got the highest grades in my class and that I got a full ride to Harvard. I have tried reconciling but it's like every time I talk to them we just end up yelling at each other and I partly resent them for not believing me about what happened when I got arrested. I don't know why I just get so angry at them and it's like it doesn't take much for either me or them to snap at the other. Now my little sister is acting out and is saying I'm her idol when I am a big fake and she's ruining her life with drugs (she's 14) and I am freaking out because it's my fault for lashing out and wanting to be noticed and I don't know what to do I also got engaged to a great guy and I want to introduce him to my parents. I just want to set my sister straight and fix things with my parents. How do I fix things with my family or is it too late?

Now whenever i walk out side i get dive bombed by their neglectful jerkoff parents. One of them ripped some of my hair out. And they have sh*t on me multiple times. I already called out of work for this. Should i just go at them with my samurai sword. I also have spray deodorant and a lighter so i could flame thrower them. What works for @ss hole birds? I cant go to work with bird sh*t on my cloths

So my parents are divorced and they have a plan that says each parent is suppsed to one half of my college. My dad is completley fine and I am not worried about it at all but my mom hasnt had a job in 2 years and she's basically living on welfare and her parents. I'm starting college very soon and I really need to talk to her abut how she plans to pay for her half. She is diagnosed bi-polar and gets extremley upset when mney is brought up because she uses child support on weed and stuff and I just figured that out. I know a lot of people pay for their own college, and I understand that a lot of people may call me spoiled or whatever but I really just need a way to talk to her without upsetting her.

My parents give my son, their only grandchild, gifts for his birthday, Christmas and Easter. His father's parents give gifts to all of their grandchildren and half siblings of their grandchildren that are of no blood to them gifts for birthdays and Christmas, except my son, their son's son. I know it isn't about getting gifts, but it really bothers me that they give gifts to the other kids, but not mine. I feel it is not fair to him to see the other kids get showered in gifts while he gets nothing. They even spend $200 at a time on the one child from their other son but say they don't have money to get my child anything. My son's father denies this goes on even though it has been going on for two years now (the age of our son, he isn't the youngest either, there are two after him that get gifts.) Has anyone else ever dealt with this or have any ideas as to why they are like this? I could understand if they didn't gift any of the grandchildren or their half siblings, but I can't understand why just one is excluded nor can I pretend to be ok with it. Even if he got stuff and another of the grandkids didn't, it would still bother me as it isn't fair to that one child.

They live about 15 minutes away but their mom doesn't like pop in visitors so I didn't want to be rude. They go back to school this weekend and I kept thinking I would run into them but I did not however my uncle and his kids did. Should I feel guilty or is this perfectly normal? I'm 30 so I'm a lot older then the the others who are college-age. The one cousin who is my age my other uncles only child spent Christmas with them as he and his dad went there for dinner.I saw them in the summer last. We see my dad's nieces and nephews virtually every time they're in town where as my mom's family is not as close that's why I feel kind of bad. So am I wrong here or is this perfectly normal?

My mother decides which family members we can talk to and which we cannot. I'm an adult so I'm able to see people on my own now. It makes holidays and family celebrations difficult when my mom has a list of those were banned. How can I get my dad to move past being a slave to her?

I'm 26 and lived in Indiana my whole life. I want to move to Washington but I've just never taken such a big risk in my entire life. I also have a 6 year old daughter. I have full custody of her. I'm just really in need of some advice and how I would go about starting the transition.

They also say they hate welfare too and that they refuse to work or get welfare. Here is the situation I'm having with them I'm 49. I don't ever plan on teaching my son and daughter how to drive. I might be them a very cheap car on Craigslist though, one that is only $100 dollars or less I don't care if it is safe or unsafe. I should not have to support my son and daughter like that. My parents got me driving lessons when I was 15, but that is different. What do you think? We live in a town with no public transportation, within walking distance, too, to get to town where the jobs are at are 15 miles away and they say they REFUSE to walk 5 hours to a job, and 5 hours back home after. Why are they screwed up? I wish my wife would have aborted them 17 and 18 years ago!

He was arrested for sodomy and molestation and she goes out with him still. He told her that he did spend time in jail before but said it was on on a "DUI charge". It was random because she googled his name and his name, number, and mugshot popped up with the charges he was accused of. He told her his children were in Florida with their mother because he works a lot when really he couldn't legally be around them ! I'm really starting to hate her for even giving him the time of day and I don't ever wanna see him again because of what he did to a child. She hasn't told him that she knows but is there any way I can persuade her to leave him.

It is not sexual or anything I just feel like I need this and it needs to be my mother doing it. Is this remotely like anything you have experienced or do I sound like Norman Bates?

Please help, my daughter is 8 months old and I do not trust anyone to watch her, yes i know I am being overprotective but I feel like no one will care for her like I will, also i hear to many stories of kids drowning and being killed and it makes me sick, I love my family and I know they are not like that, but I am having a really hard time leaving my daughter with anyone, has anyone else ever felt like this? I'm not sure what to do? Everyone makes me feel like I'm doing something wrong for not leaving her with ppl all the time like everyone else with kids does

Hello, I'm a German girl who spends actually one year with AFS in Ecuador. After two weeks spended in my host family, I started thinking about changing my host family. My problem is I'm not really sure, there are some moments that I'm happy and then some moments that I'm really down (just for the information, I'm now here since 1 1/2 month). I don't really feel like it's my family, I have no big problem with them it's just little things that disturb me. But I don't really attach to them, and they are still a HOSTfamily for me not like my second family. I'm really sad because I think it's important to feel at home at your hostfamily - and I don't feel like this. In my family are my hostfather, my hostmother, my five-year-old-hostsister and my ten-year-old-hostbrother. I'm sharing a room with my little hostsister, that is really getting on my nervs because I really have no space for me, where I can be one time alone. My little brother sometimes I feel like he doesn't respect me, for example one time he treated me as nina de la calle (girl from the street, here it's not "nice" to say this), even if it's for fun, it "hurts". I also really miss getting love her, I mean my little hostsister is telling me everyday that she loves me and stuff, but it's not difficult to get love from a five-year-old. But from the mother or the father I feel nothing. I often feel treated like a little child because I think the parents have absolutelyy no idea how to deal with an adolescent. And I really have a guilty coincence because I'm often unhappy but at same time I feel so fckin ungrateful... but when I'm hearing from the other AFS students who are so happy and everything with their family I really just could cry I don't know if I should change family or not. Is it a reason to change family "only" because you feel unwell with them?

We have been together for 3 years. He is in the entertainment industry and I am a graphic designer we both are from New York City and I love living here. All of my family and friends are here and I like my job. He wants to move to LA because that is where his industry is and he feels it would be beneficial and while I understand his reasoning for moving there I am very hesitant for a few reasons. 1. One our family is here and I want to start my family with the support of both of our families 2. My parents are older and have no one to care for them except for me and it is my responsibility to care for them in their old age 3. I have a medical condition that needs to be monitored constantly my significant other travels all the time for his work I will have no one to care for me when I get sick in LA 4. Im not a people person and I don't get a good vibe about LA all the plastic superficial people makes me roll my eyes so how am I going to make friends when i feel this way I have explained all of these concerns to my significant other but he fails to understand my side. I have been very supportive of his career and I honestly tired of it. Why do I have to give up everything?

They don't like me because they have to see me more than my other siblings and I'm not the best socially.

My friend was talking about a "host sibling" today, and I'm not sure what it is, really. . .

My mother is bad to me but my dad's really good

As I get older I realize that my parents have done a lot for me. They both are hard working and I appreciate that. However they tend to buy me stuff I didn't ask for. Last Christmas I told them I didn't want nothing at all and they bought me a PS4 and an iPad. Later on in the year my mom decided to buy a new laptop( which i didnt ask for) because the laptop that i saved up for didn't have a CD port so she bought this $600 dollar hp for me. Now its a new school year and I was having school bus issues. I told them i was okay with taking the city buy to school because its only 2 miles away from my house and instead they bought me car. And i told i would rather save up for one then for them to buy one for me. I've tried really to be more independent like trying to apply for a job but they refuse because they think I shouldn't have to work for anything since they can get it for me. I never brag about the things that I have because I don't want to seem that i'm a spoiled kid. I just want to be more independent and get my own things.

My kids and I moved in with my boyfriend and his family to another state. Everything is new to us, the people and surroundings. I m not sure if I wanna leave my kids alone with my boyfriend s mom yet. I ve been looking for a night shift so they ll see me around but I haven t had any luck. I found a job with a decent pay but I won t get to see my kids as much. What should I do?

soo today I invited my bed friends to my moms birthday for February 27. soo she said "Its really far away ao I cant promise" is that a NOO??

Well this is really difficult for me. As I said I'm almost 17, and I can't go out without my parents. I tried so many times to ask for taking the bus and go to the cinema with my boyfriend who is 17 next month. Their answer is always no, if I go, they take me to the movies. I feel like a baby comparing to my boyfriend who can go out alone for hours. My parents always want him to come to our home and he's becoming sad we can't even go out for a little walk not too far. My parents are overprotective and especially my mom, she's scared because she always thinks I'm going to get killed, kidnapped or raped. They don't trust my boyfriend either. I told them all my friends could go alone to the movies but they said they didn't care. My father thinks until I'm 18 I must do everything they say. I truly feel stuck and feel like there's no escape. Any advice ?

Being upset I left her rings on when they buried her now I need them back could use money I tried getting myself I cannot get the door to the coffin open and I'm thinking I gotta pull the whole thing up to get the doors open what I need some kind of special permit a court order because I Gotta Have a tractor to get and didn't want to draw too much attention

im 14 ( i live in italy ),my dad died when i was 11,i now live with my mom,her boyfriend,and my older sister. everyone treats me like ****,i stay in my room all day,i havent left my house in 2 months,i dont go to school anymore,i have no friends,i have nobody that cares for me. ive been depresses for the past 3 years,and keep getting worse and worse,nobody does anything for me ( not that i expect them to ) i feel like i have nobody. my mom yells at me almost everyday,just minutes ago she did it and she threw trash at my face. my sister has been depressed in the past years but shes fine now. she finished school,she has a job,a boyfriend,she has friends. i dont think i will ever be like her. nobody loves me,nobody knows how i feel,and nobody would care or know if i killed myself just now. im not trying to get attention,i just want to let it all out. i hope someone can help me,but i really cant take it anymore. i just want to stop existing.

This is long. Bear with me. Thank you. I live out of state. My brother ended up in ICU. I am his only sister. My sister in law said my brother listed me at the top for contacts. Both my parents are deceased. My sister in law wanted me to call ICU every day and then text her a report of what I was told by the nurses on his condition. Now, I was doing this for the duration to help, but suddenly, it didn't make sense to me because I am calling long distance every single day. Not always was the nurse available and I would have to wait to call back and I was rearranging my day around that fact. Then texting her the update. He has been in the hospital over 50 days now and is finally in intermediate care. I have since flown out to see my brother. SIL wanting me to come on a certain day so she could spend time with a friend staying with her and then I tend to my brother while she spends the day with her friend and then also only to come on weekends when I had already booked my flight for the days I could get away. I went anyway on the days "I" could get away and decided to work around that and stayed in a hotel by the hospital to avoid conflict. After flying back, another friend is staying with her, she is cleaning her house and wanted me to call the hospital and then text her an update. On the next day, she requested that I call for an update on my brothers condition and text her because she was running errands and picking up her friend at the airport. When I was out there, she had gone into another ER and it was stress related conditions. I told her over the phone about my stress regarding what she was going through since have gone through the same experience, I am trying to connect with her, and she said she was going to hang up now because I was "stressing" her out. She also told me to eat a light breakfast at the hospital the next day because we would be eating more at lunch. A friend said, bossy comes to mind. I am on a budget and I can only image what my phone bill will be. I was only trying to help and all I wanted to do was see my brother to have some peace of mind. :-( SIL is the top marital contact. I am the top relative contact. That is beside the point, because this has become so tangled in how to communicate. She should be giving me the updates via text if cheaper and to the family. I can't afford to keep calling every day. It's insane.

I Live in another country and my parents come from time to time, this is the first time, i host them in my house. I have a spare room but no A/C, and this morning, they started complaining about the bed and that the room does not have A/C and that they slept like ****... (the country i live is a hot country dont get me wrong) but i feel that you have to be a little corteous when you are a guest in another person house, even if its the house of your son. What you guys think? You think im overreacting?

I am a girl in the 6th grade.I have gotten my period.I was wondering if i am fat or is it just baby fat.I think im about to hit my growth spurt.I am kinda short but still tall.I am 5'1 but most of my friends are 5'2 or taller.I used to be chubby but im not as chubby.I am the same weight as 4th grade just taller.I am about to start track.i weigh 143 pounds and i weighed this in 4th and 5th grade.

I'm 53. Since my son and daughter were 3 and 4 year olds I have not felt any love towards them. They're 17 and 18, I wish they both would leave and never come back. They refuse to because they've never found a job yet, because they don't own a car as they've driven before as I refuse to teach, they don't own a road bike as I refuse to buy them both one. And they said they also refuse to leave because I stopped paying for their education in 8th grade( home school) and they haven't been in school since. What do you think? Is it ok I feel this way? I have bipolar which has made me hit and call them names for over 12 years now. But I can't help that. During family gatherings, at my sisters house, I put on an act as a nice father I have to.

My brother was hype for an upcoming video game console and my other brother ruins his moment hype my mom goes against him too and they started to argued. I screamed and I told everyone to calm down and they still argue thanks to my mom and my brother he's gone he went with my dad to stay. I don't feel like talking to them ever since what they did to him. What should I do to get help? Call the police? Please help? Thank you.

So I moved back home and now I realize How egocentric, manipulative and mean he is. Both to me and to his mother. He has these crazy ideas and we have to support him. I am moving to another city to study medicine for 7 years and I workout alot, Both at studio and mma and don t want to fight with him this year because I am not going to be able to se him that much. But it really makes me sad. I see How he makes My grandmother totally dependent of him and then blames her on everything he can t do because she is "in his way". He used to blame me too. Like f.e 4 years ago he wanted to buy a house with me and I bought myself a car. I still hear that story "How much we could have saved/earned) and I agree. Me buying a car was stupid, But I should not be blamed for him not being a millionare. I feel like a kid here. He barges right into My room like he has no respect for me and he can t handle critisism. I am scared that me and My dad will some time in the future become so distant that we won t understand eachothers values and meanings. It is really sad to realize. He handles critisism like a child and starts telling me How I am not the son he wanted (really broke My heart heading This as a 10 year old playing with pokemon). How do you deal with a person that is THIS stubborn. Even though he is like This I still love My father and all I wanted was for us to have a Good year together, now I am just stressed out from biting My teeth together.

For example her brother-in-law gets cranky sometimes at loud parties and so my mother regularly insults him for it. Her own brother on the other hand gets belligerent when he is drunk and broke some furniture when I was a kid in a fight with his then-wife. My mother seldom ever criticizes him and when she does she says it in a loving way like "he has too much anger so I am worried about him". Her brother in law has maybe 2 percent of that anger and my mother enjoys cutting him down. There are many other examples of this of her forgiving her own family their offenses but refusing to forgive her in-laws. The reason I care is that it affects my ability to see them as frequent as I'd like when she is trying to hold my Dad back from seeing them or having them over. She holds makes Christmas holidays hard this way.

i am teen now, i had good life, had no problems communicating with others. but then one guy, he was older, started to verbally bully, or abuse me, whenever i'd say something he would always say that i was stupid and had to shut up, but i was just trying to get some attention. it can't some kinda effect on me, i can't make friends that easily anymore. i guess it's because i always got bad reaction, and now i am instinctively afraid to say anything. my older cousin, did the same things, even tho i know that he didn't meant to. he only wanted to teach me things, what to like and what to don't, but he did it really harshly( we were like brothers, spent our time together) and i used to be like that to my younger sister as well, but thanks god i stopped it and understood what kinda influence it can have. I HATE TO ADMIT IT but i think my mother had some influence on me too. he always tried to correct the way i ate, i walked or that kinda things. i know she wanted to teach me things and she only wanted to made me better person. Even tho they don't know how much i suffer, or cry i still forgive them. yeah maybe i am getting bit emotional :D but still. it's really hard to get over it. my father treated me brilliantly, and i love him, i don't hate my mother of course, and she loves me as well but it was a really big mistake of hers. and whenever she didn't see me on photos with my friends she would always tell me that i was always hiding, and i'd always get angry. cause it wasn't my fault. so all of this made me kinda introverted to certain people. with my school friends or classmates i am still loud and extroverted, but i used to go to school, in which we had lessons only one day per week, and it was for additional education. it was pretty fun. but that ''bully guy'' came and everything changed, he made me introverted to that ''additional school people''. i mean that's weird i am still myself to others but not in that school(btw i still go there) even tho people changed there, there aren't bully guys, i still don't feel myself, i am kinda unemotional there. and everyone says that i am too quiet. and that really eats me inside because i am not. but that's the thing i can't change. is it even a trauma? or nothing serious. what could i do to get over it?

My mom visits from time to time and I call her everyday , I'm just so attached to my family they mean a lot to me And when I went back home for my Christmas break, I just couldn't handle the fact that I'm leaving them again , and now it's been 2 days since I left and I can't stop crying about it , I just really wanna go back even tho I have great friends here and I'm happy with my major , but I just want them next to me and I'm really really sad, I keep telling myself grow up , it's not permanent and **** but I'm just seriously considering abandoning all this knowing and fully aware that it's the wrong choice...

My brother has lived with a very nice woman for 12 years. I long ago started referring to her as my SIL. I watched her kids grow up and I call them my niece and nephew. This year they decided to make it legal and tie the knot. And here is the problem. I wasn't invited to the wedding. No explanation. He has invited plenty of people including great aunts who are flying in. My mom can't stop crying. I don't know what I did to offend. I never got drunk and caused a scene at a family party. I never bad mouthed my SIL. I always remember her kids at Christmas. Her son invited me to his wedding last year and I got a big hug for flying across the country. I just can't figure out why. BTW at about the time the Save-the- Date cards went out my brother unfriended my on FB and my SIL blocked me from FB and Instagram. Whereas many people would be extremely hurt. I don't. Not at all. I feel more pity for them than anything. Does anyone have any advice on this? I still need to deal with them at holiday time. Plus my teen age daughter is heartbroken and can't understand why this is happening. If it means anything. My brother has a history of screaming and raging at my parents especially my mom and has reduced her to tears on more than 1 occasion. He does this to me to but I feel more pity for him than anything. As far as I know he still associates with me. The save the date cards went out before Christmas and we still got together for Christmas and they even bought me a nice present.

My younger brother (14) has serious behavioral issues. I'm talking constantly yelling, hitting, damaging property, and generally being inconsiderate. This has been a problem in my house for years, and my parents refuse to do anything about it. He is autistic, and I do take that into consideration, however the mindset my parents have is that because he is autistic, he doesn't know any better and should not be held accountable for his actions. Additionally, his psychologist has said he is actually LESS on the spectrum than my older brother, who has no behavioral issues. It is getting to the point where he goes out of his way to hurt someone (i.e. punching, scratching, throwing at), insisting he does it 'because he likes to,' and many other people complain about it. Recently, I had a friend over, and my younger brother spent more than 30 minutes kicking, and hitting him. He pulled at his shirt, taunting the whole time that he was intentionally trying to rip his shirt. When I complain to my parents about him, they resort to "Your not the parent," and act as if he isn't doing anything wrong. The worst part is that, if he does anything that mildly bothers them, such as talking when they are watching TV, it is suddenly a big deal and he is immediately push to excessive degrees. Considering that my parents refuse to listen to my opinion on the matter, what options do I have for getting police, DCF, or other groups involved. Is it illegal to not discipline your child?

I am married, have three kids 13. 6. And 8 I have a 3 bedroom home and has another room that I turned into a bedroom we blocked the out side door to it. Its clean mines kids usual mess. Water Electric wood burning stove and some small heaters and window units for the summer . I used to work but due to my ex making a stick im staying hom and my husband supports us. We recieve 100 in child support from one of my childs dads. We live on 5 achers some land is undeveloped. I have had my son in my home his whole life. In 2013 his dad moves 3 hours away. We didint revice custody. My son was diagnosed with adhd the medication helps but his dad refuses he needs it. I have 4 providers saying he needs it. I have numerous family were I live. His dad works some times 16 hours a days. Has a farely new home with his fiance who has money. He used to not have money and didnt care my son used to ware now its a problem. Now our arrangement is not working for him. He has no other family or support system were he lives. He has a bar in his home that my son has access to. He hasnt paid any child support in a year since I filled in court because we cant get along anymore. For six years we have hung out and even shaired my sons birthday since this chicks got money and moved in he forgets were he came from. So does any of this seem like I should loose my custody ? I dont think my circumstance have changed that im not supporting my son properly do you ?

I am 20 now and up until I was about 15-17 my dad would be so angry. He hit me and bruised up my arm really bad after I hit my brother (we were about 12-13 at the time) I know that s unacceptable and I am now realizing how my dad truly is. I know he s been to therapy before and it seems like they told my dad to try and be more loving. It s complete BS. My dad is fake and the only way I see who he really is is when I make him mad. He pretends to love us but deep down It seems he wants a reason to be mad. He is divorced and married again to a lady who just seems to fill my dads narcissistic needs. I hate living like this and these mind games are getting me really messed up. This is the only way I can get my mind out because I need to talk to someone about it but wanna choose other options then therapy. I have now gotten to the point where I can t feel anything because I feel like I have to be invisible to everybody. When people want to know who I am I lie to them because I don t know who I am. Please talk to me if you hear me.

Growing up as an asian kid, having 8 sister and 1 brother, has been a stressful, lonely, and sad life for me. My brother kinda messed his life, and currently working a minimum wage job. My sister on the other hand, are pretty much successful. Being the only good son left, all of them put pressure on me, expecting me to get all A's. I'm currently in high school, 11th grade. Grade report came in, I got all B's, and my parent and sisters went nut. They lecture me all day, acting like I don't know what I'm doing. I tell them, I tried my best, and they don't believe me. They know I'm a smart and quick learner, but it doesn't mean I can ace every class. I tell my mom don't worry, I will still go to college and finish it, and I won't back down. She said, "you'll end up poor like your brother. Oh it mean, you don't even care about it." My sisters will say the same thing, except being poor. I just really don't want to live anymore. There is every single pressure on me, and I didn't make to the CSF (california scholarship federation). Yet, my mom and sisters got mad about me not making it. Basketball is my passion, and when I got to school she didn't let me. I never got to go out and explore like other kids. I was that lonely kid who was stuck at home, and go through depression and anxiety........My family would compare me to my brother that I'm acting like him, which just sadden me even more. I have no more supporters...Why can't I be like those kid out there and explore?

Me and my family have been through a rough year last year. My mum (who was only a few months separated from my dad)had a mental illness that had developed over 4 years. She commited suicide after many attempts (which we had to witness). Then my grandmother (my dads mum) died of natural causes a few days before christmas. I am a 14 year old girl and my brother is 17. My brother is a very lanky skinny, self reserved person, he doesn;t talk to us much and doesn't seem to like me. He never really gets into arguments. He acts like a child though. since our mum died i feel like i have to mother him. I have to remind him to do his chores, help him cook his dinner, reminds him over and over again to do stuff he should be doing himself (like sorting out his driving lessons), he does really minor, but frustrating things like leaving plates and stuff lying about, and leaving the front door wide open (even though we have a dog). i know it sounds minor, but it's so frustrating! but back to the point. Me and my dad have the same personalities ina way, and we clash a lot. My dad is obviously very stressed. But he has a tendency to just snap. randomly. over really little things. And last night was the final straw. I asked my dad on sunday if i could dye my hair brown (because that's my natural colour and it would save having to re dye my roots) and he told me to ask him on monday. He's at work from 7am - 5pm, he was then at the gym, having a shower and having dinner in the spaces Between. So the only time i really caught him was at 11pm while he was on his computer. I asked him, and he started going crazy. Screaming at me about the fact why am i asking him now? It's too late to be asking such questions! now this is going to keep him awake all night and it was all my fault! And i started to get annoyed because it was a simple question. So i just went ''oh for gods sake just leave it if its that much of a big deal to you. i was only asking.'' and i got up to leave. Then he started screaming at me for being cheeky. so i turned around and screamed back. And he then ran at me with his fist in the air to hit me, but then he didn't. and he threw me across the room instead. Then i sat up and started yelling at him and he hit me across the face. I started screaming things like LET ME GO. I WILL CALL THE POLICE. LET ME OUT. I WANT TO GO LIVE WITH SOPHIE (my older cousin who's house i live at sometime sin the holidays when me and my dad are arguing) and he wouldn't let me leave. Then he started crying and apologizing. Saying stuff like ''I tried so hard.. and ive blew it..'' and so i sta with him for a bit, and he was saying stuff like ''i wont be able to sleep tonight.'' so i tried to cheer him up by going ''.. just think of what you can do to make it better.'' and eventually, i went to bed. because i wanted to ring my boyfriend and tell him what had happened because i was still upset. Right now my dad's at work because he leaves at 7am. i don't know what to do. Things like this happen every 3-4 months and im sick of it. It's not really abuse but it isn't right either. Im so sick of having to live like this. Can anyone give me any advice as to what i should do? im 14 and i shouldn't have to face this crap :'( thanks xx

Help! My dad is paranoid! I swear he's an undiagnosed bipolar person! When people are over at our house, he seems like he's in a euphoric mood. He makes dumb jokes and when they leave he just gets angry. One can easily say "Maybe your dad is just trying to be nice to the guest." But not only is it that. My dad could be yelling at me one second, and literally the next second he's coming in trying to make a joke. He would come in from work and just release all his anger on me. The smallest things make him explode. He got in a fight with my sister just because of the way she counted her money. His judgement is so clouded it's ridiculous. I had to go to my school one day in the summer (recently) to pick up my class schedules and my mom works the night shift. She came home and woke me up and she was gonna take me. My dad was asleep on the couch and I told him, "Why don't you take me, Mom hasn't even slept!" And my dad just ignores me and keeps sleeping. So when I get home my dad is awake dressing for work which he has to be at in about an hour and I tell him, "Oh my god, why would you make mom go to that schedule pick up for two hours! You got to sleep!" He replied, "Oh, I slept at five o'clock last night." << That was a total lie because I was asleep by three and he was asleep before me. He continued, "I didn't sleep, and I have work today." and I replied, "SHE DIDN'T SLEEP AT ALL! IF SOMEBODY DEPRIVED YOU OF YOUR SLEEP YOU WOULD BE GOING CRAZY!" My dad only walked away to claim that my judgement was clouded. I swear to you my mom goes 24 hours without sleep sometimes because my dad wakes her up to do stuff around the house. He thinks he's always right. It's getting ridiculous. His mood swings aren't just mood swings, they're extreme highs and lows. The other day I had the light on in the day time and he got mad at me and started yelling and turned on the light. He then preceded to set the room temperature to 80 degrees so he can save his money when really 80 degrees is wasting more money than if it were at 76. Another day he sat by the window on a sunny day, the blinds were pulled open and the A/C was on. He got angry saying the window being open messed up the point of the A/C. The room's condition didn't concern him, after all, he never stayed in it. Only on rare occassions when he needed the computer. He closed the blinds and the room was pitch dark, only the blare of the television was on and I said, "C'mon, don't close the window, open it." He replied with a stiff "No" saying that the sun messed up the point of the A/C. I got up and opened the window because I got sick of arguing, and he got angry and started yelling. He started threatening to take all my possessions away.

My dad broke my phone, and refuses to replace it, what should i do? about a week ago, my dad and i got into an argument and he took my phone. i persisted to ask for it back and he refused, he pushed me out of the way and told me that the only way i would get it back was broken. i said you better no do that, and he went outside and broke it on the porch. and threw it as far as he could. he then attempted to push me off the porch and told me to leave the house. im 16 and didnt have anywhere to go so i left and walked around the town for multiple hours. sneaking into the house early in the morning so he didny know i was there, and leaving for school before he woke up. the phone he broke was given to me as a birthday/good grades gift by my aunt in june (end of the school year) she pays for my phone bill (as my dad is out of work). my dad has no ownership of the phone. previous to the arguement, we hadnt spoke to eachother in 2 weeks. (he canceled my car insurance and has been verbally combative and confrontational lately) i want my phone replaced, it was the iphone 4 and since he threw it and it cannot be found its going to cost 600$ to replace. he says he isnt going to pay a penny, and that it was my fault. i am very frustrated at this point, i have had little communication, transportation and parental interaction. my mother lives in another state. i do not know what to do. im not sure who to talk to, or if i should seek assistance from the police? i just want my phone back and to be able to live my remaining HS life in peace. iv had multiple friends offer me a place to stay, and i am seriously considering it. i dont really have a lot of adults to seek if in need of advice. but i really need some. i am very independent, iv been living the past 3 weeks financially on my own: pay for my own food, and transportation, and iv been going to school. i just want him to replace what he broke. and hopefully get him and i the help each of us need. i dont know that i even want to live with him anymore. thanks in advance for any help given.

I'm 18 years and I have two younger sisters, they're eight and thirteen. My dad is going crazy right now. He's not being violent, but he's being really loud and yelling at my mom. He was banging on the walls earlier and yelling things like, "fu** family" and other vulgar things. Then, he started yelling at me and saying that everything is my fault because I'm atheist. (He's Christian) And then took my car keys away and said if I don't find a job, I'll have to pay rent, just to live here. My mom was crying and trying to calm my sisters down. This isn't the first time this has happened. I'm scared that he'll hit my mom or something. I was suppose to leave for New York tomorrow, for vacation, but now he wants to cancel my flight. I honestly don't care if I go or not. I don't want to leave my mom and my sisters alone. We're just all really scared an my mom doesn't know what to do anymore. She wants to leave right now but we have nowhere to go. We really need help. What should we do? What can we do, right now?

My dad remarried a little over a year ago. Does that make his wife my step-mom legally or by any technicality? I ask because my dad is 51 and she is 31. I really like her as a friend - she's really cool, but I am 20 and have friends as old as her and older and it is very hard to view her as any sort of "step-mom" or "parental figure." In fact... I don't at all. So is she considered my step-mom due to the marriage or does she have to legally adopt me to be that or is she just my dad's wife? Let me know! Thanks!

Because if I get more than 2 B's, my parents will literally take away all my freedom. Ex: 3 B's and 3 A's = losing all my free time and study until late night

I do hide my money, always. Today, I caught him getting money again from my hat, that I didn't hide. I asked "Why are you taking my money?" he said "Oh I found, you dropped" (he had a smile on his face). I didn't drop it, I put in my hat purposely for easy access. I just find it really childish and ignorant for a 45 year old grown man to steal money from his 16 year old daughter who has no job. Not to mention he steals from my mom too. Whenever we go to the store or anywhere really he ALWAYS asks if I have money to pay for it. Also he is a total cheapo, I don't think I've ever gone on a vacation with him or remember if he ever bought me something over $50. One thing that absolutely just infuriates me is the fact that he almost never washes his hands, doesn't clean the dishes right (he just uses hot water and semi-scrubs the dishes with his hands), and always wears shorts or sweat pants. At church he wears sweat pants and you can see his balls, no one wants to your balls especially at church. My mom would never ever steal from me, she's so nice too unlike my dad who always yells at me. I consider my mom to be my only parent, I don't call my dad "dad" I call him by his first name. Bottom line is I f**king hate my dad and would careless if he died the next day. I'm sorry I ranted.

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My dad is going to jail the first day I go back to school (Sept. 10) He hasn't really told us anything, but I know from encrypted emails he sends to his friends (I know all of his passwords to his emails). Anyway, I've been very depressed lately and I've been crying every night because a lot is going on right now. How do I cope when my dad goes to jail? He's going to jail for a lot of different white-collar crimes I have a very hard time believing he committed! How will he be treated in prison? I have no friends who can comfort me because they think my dad will higher some hotshot lawyer and everything will be done with. My brothers don't seem to care about this and my mom is an alcoholic who makes everything seem 100x worse than it really is. What do I do? At night I listen to these sad songs and I just cry and I get really depressed at night... which no one realizes because I'm supposed to be the "strong" one in my family. A school counselor is out of the option, I went to them because my friend was anorexic and they didn't help whatsoever!