I have a crush on this older man who has a family but I think is in a complicate relationship. We were chatting about the future and he said that when he's old at a nursing home, he wants me to push him into the waters. Why?

I really want to have kids. I am currently engaged, and since our engagement last year in July, we have had sex a few times, but try not to because we really wanted to save it for marriage. Well, we are still living in his parents house, I've been living here for a year and a half. We have jobs, but don't make enough to support ourselves in the area we live. We don't have credit, so we can't take out a loan for a house (that I'm aware of). I used to have very very irregular periods, one every three or four months and they would only last for a few days, and I wasn't on medication either. For the past couple of years that has changed, I've had my period regularly. Well, my time of the month rolled around about a week ago, and still yet I haven't started. I will probably wait another week before I take a test, but just in case it is positive, are there any suggestions? Financially? Or maybe on the fact that we aren't married and still live in his parents home. I wasn't raised in a typical home by ANY means, but for some reason I can't get over that we aren't independent yet could possibly face raising a child. I need thoughts, opinions, advice. Please.

I'm into older men, but my friend says I will look "cuter and younger" with men around our age (20s).

My hubby and I have been together 10 years, and for like the past year off and on he has not see me very interested in sex. I can get him in the mood if I try but I want him to initiate it more often, I want to feel like he actually wants it once in in a while. I want sex 3 times a day but I'm ok with every day. My husband wants it every 3 days and I F*CKING WANT TO KILL MYSELF! He has an extremely low libido and is not normal like me. I have had problems with him... he was too prude and it took a month after marriage before he could be comfortable banging.

Before I say all of this, my mom is currently trying to get a divorce. But my dad doesn't want a divorce, so they will probably end up in court pretty soon. On new year's day my mom moved out and is still trying to divorce my father, and I'm staying with my mom for now. I just found out that she has been seeing another man for a very long time...What do I do? Should I just shut up and act clueless? I was on my grandma's phone because I had to text my mom, and the above text message was my mom talking about how sweet and wonderful her other man was. Since they are divorcing it isn't as big of a deal, but I'm still shocked...

This is a lot of BS, and it never works. If you marry a friend then you will always have that friend, but that's it.

I'm 28 year old male. My fiance and I have been together for 10 years, and have 3 children. (Long Story, Short) she used to be clean, but that was only to impress me, but now her and our two 10 year daughters are pigs. I tell her that they look up to her and follow in her footsteps, so they will do what she does. They clean up only when i initiate it or strongly encourage it. I hate being the only caring about our well being as a upstanding family. I got a big promotion at work, and was going to purchase a nice new big house for us, but in the back of my mind I feel like we don't deserve it until we grow to the next level as people. Can someone help please. I feel like this will eventually cost my marriage before we even get married.

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My husband and I are expecting our first baby soon. As we get closer to our due date I am feeling very anxious about having everything ready for the baby which I imagine is a completely normal feeling for an expectant mother. We've done an awesome job considering the doctors bills and holiday expenses all hitting at the same time. Now that we've squeaked by my husband's mom, who went holiday crazy didn't even have enough to pay bills and now we're paying them...she already owes us a lot. His older sister is also asking for money and is asking for a new bed. I can't take much more of their asking for things especially since they know we need baby stuff and they are always spending their money the wrong way. How can I get my husband to stop saving them? His mom also has been needing a lot of attention. She's like a kid who acts up just so she gets attention so much so I feel bad asking for attention from my husband so he won't feel like he's being pulled in every direction. What would you do in this situation??? Help.

I've been married for 5 years, to a man who had 2 sons with his ex wife. They got divorced because she was unfaithful with many many men, she even conceived a child through an affair and pinned the child on my Husband. But anyways my husband has full custody. She doesn't pay any child support, and feels she shouldnt have to because she's "the woman", and she ditches the kids constantly. She'll tell them she has to "work" on the only day she sees them (which is every other Saturday, if she even comes)...because she's "so broke" that she can "barely afford to survive". She'll give them this sap story about how she's working so hard and struggling so bad, and so she has to pick up extra hours just to make her bills. It turns out, she never worked those days, and I know because not only did I call her job to ask if she was in (and they told me she wasn't even scheduled), but she's also an idiot that makes all her facebook posts public. I looked on her page tonight and though she's supposed to be "working", she's getting drunk at a party right now. I am fed up! The kids think she's an amazing Mom, working so hard, meanwhile she's lying to them so she can party! She's in her mid thirties by the way! You'd think she'd grow the f-up!!! I am sick of me being strapped with her responsibilities so she can be this carefree person. I need to know how to address this, because when the kids asked her about this before, she came up with a huge lie, and they believed her! I am sick of this!!

Ive been married for almost 3 years. I can not say with confidence that this was my finest accomplishment. In this marriage 4 boys have been dumped on me due to the this amazing legal system . technically 2 of the 4 are Boys. the other two are teenage boys. my wife prefers that we take care of them IE. Doing their Laundry, cooking them food when they're hungry help with homework ( even when they don't care if they fail ) clean up after them Is this how we create problem children or grown bodies with child minds?

My husband in 30 years old and works as a truck driver. I work in sales and am currently studying to become a certified teacher and will be taking the very hard exam this month. We have 3 kids and he refuses to help with any of them. I told him tonight that I needed to go study (as the test is coming up soon) and I asked him to feed the baby. He refused, saying that he needed to play his computer games. Our oldest is in cub scouts, and I can count on 1 hand how many times he has done anything pertaining to scouts. He is either playing video games or going out to eat with his annoying guy friend from work (which he did today). My son had scout pictures today and I had to my job, he refused to take him or do the activity they had today. He also never does anything with the other kids, just watches tv, plays on Facebook, and his stupid video games/computer games. What can I do? We have gone to counseling, and he always has some reason why he is right and "deserves" to "relax" and gets the therapist on his side.

I am disabled and receive DLA, my husband has been my carer for several years. We are in receipt of his state pension & quaranteed pension credit with an underlying carers allowance entitlement, we get full council tax benefit for our home that we own. Sadly my husband now has memory problems & is in receipt of Attendance Allowance. We have both become very dependant on our son who cares for us but he is self employed & his income varies. He lives with his partner & their three young sons & pays maintenance to his x partner for his daughter. 1) Can he claim carers allowance & will this effect what the CSA requires him to pay in maintenance for his daughter? 2) How will is effect our income & Benefits? We are in UK.

I was seeing/sleeping with this guy for a semester. But we were studying abroad from different places, too far away. Now we're done. The last time we saw each other. He decided he wanted to see me even though he had a final exam the next day. We went for a walk, talked, then had sex. We cuddled until like 1am and then he said, "Sorry baby I don't want to interrupt your cuddle session but I have to go." We were supposed to see each other one time after but he was sick. He called me though and we talked. One time he asked me to tell me I loved him during sex. I said no but then it was kind of weird so I agreed. He said it too. Then it was done. I texted him a few days later to say thanks and that I had a good time. He said I brought out the best in him and I said what do you mean? He then said "I loved sleeping with you." He snap chatted me on New Year's so I decided to call him and he answered saying he'd hoped I'd call. We talked about our relationship, how we were doing. He asked me if I was in love with him and I said no but I had feelings for him. Which he said he knew. When I asked him if he had feelings for me, he said, 'Feelings, like I want you to be my girlfriend..no but I rarely feel those things." Our relationship was mostly sex but wasn't entirely sex. He definitely acts like an a** sometimes but at the same time some things he does like telling me he loved me didn't make any sense. I think he might be a guy that gets off on emotional stuff. I don't know. I know it shouldn't matter now but it does to me. Like he said he'd been wanting me to call. If I only truly matter to him because of sex, why would he want to talk to me on the phone? Afterwards he said he'd text me from time to time and I said okay. I mean I know him better than random commentators. He laughed off telling me he loved me later but he did tell me twice that he cared about me so I believe that's true. It's hard for me to get how someone can care about someone, be attracted to them, but not want to be with them.

If a womans husband is cheating with a girl on his wife and he keeps cheating and leaves his wife and later he finds out his gf has a boyfriend who tells the husband to stay away from his "wife" and he realises his wife loves him the most. And the girl he was in an affair with never loved him and wants to go back to her and gets in touch with her what should the wife do? Thanks

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hello , I just need some advice here on this subject because I m stumped and quite honestly I don t know why my husbands one friend doesn t like me... well my husband is originally from japan and I m from america but he and I today are settling together in japan finally because his friends and family are there and his work which is fine by me I m very obliging to him and very accommodating and plus I do need and want to live here and become a part of his family and friends circle all of his friends and his family like me it s just this one guy who is considered his friend at work has never even met me yet but my husbands other friends basically told me to watch my butt around this one particular guy because he for some reason unknowingly to my knowledge because I have never spoke or talked to this guy ever face to face just says and does really nasty down right rude things to me and my husband is too afraid to address it because I think for some reason he is cowtowing to this guy because his position is higher than his but point being this guy he is friends with turned around because it got through the grape vine my brithday was this month the guy turned around made plans on that day with everyone there including my husband where they couldn t exactly refuse it because they are all catering to this guy but this guy made some kind of business plans so they all now have to go on a trip to russia exactly on my birthday to where my husband can t be here and that is one example and more into this the guy passes really nasty remarks like "I don't have to wish people I don't accept or care about a happy birthday" or just any other random time where it has gotten back to me this guy turns around and purposely kind of tries to brain wash my husband that I'm some kind of demonic horrible person or some kind of a harlot which all of this is very hurtful and I would just like to know or understand why exactly this guy is being so nasty to me even though he hasn't met me and why my husband and his other friends are catering to this guy even though behind the guys back they are saying to me "oh I'm very sorry he is acting this way towards you he's never acted this way before to anyone..." and I tell them they don't have to be sorry because they aren't the ones perpetuating this and so another example of it is this guy now saw some crazy chick that was harassing me in twitter and obviously the girl stalked my husband and me for quite a while but this guy seemed to have befriended this crazy chick who did threaten to kill me and this guy keeps egging on the situation by making business plans to go exactly to the vacinity where this girl lives which again if my husband refuses he will probably get fired or there is something that I'm not being told about who this guy really is or what he stands for but still he isn't nice to me already before meeting this guy my husband is supposedly friends with and he does everything to already hurt my feelings or do things to make me feel like I'm a worthless piece of crap who doesn't deserve to live or be married to my husband which again it's not only just hurting me but it's hurting my husband because he and I really do truly love eachother very much but this guy actually seems like he is trying to achieve putting a wedge between me and my husband for no good reason at all and I could only speculate that maybe this guy doesn't accept me because I'm foreign or because my husbands other friends actually said to this guy that I was an extremely beautiful girl according to them I don't see that in myself but my husband and his other friends think it and from what I know they said that them telling this one guy that could have made him jealous could have made the guy jealous of my husband in a male competition way like he got something that this guy never got because from what I was told this guy always wanted children &so accordingly a trophy wife at his side and the guy is now in his later 40's and isn't married and is single and I think by speculation because I don't know how true it could be this guy could be upset with seeing something every day that his friend has but he doesn't have... to me I don't know how to go about this

My dad was an alcoholic and used to hit my mom and I, but it never left any real marks, like bruises or scratches. After the divorce, it ended. For the most part. He got remarried, and my stepmother and I get in lots of fights, and he always sides with her. The other day, we got into a fight that was worse than normal, and he pushed me. Wasn't very bad, but I don't want it to get to an unbearable point. Also, my stepmother yells at me very often. She has recently accused me of being abusive towards her (I try to treat her with respect), and she calls me a liar very often. Is that verbal or emotional abuse? Or does it count as either? I don't know if I should go to anyone yet, since it isn't THAT serious. I've told my close friends and boyfriend as a first step.

I asked this question earlier, but got some REALLY stupid answers that didn't help me.... I'm going to Vegas for a friend's bachelor party weekend in Feb. We're leaving Friday afternoon and coming back on Monday. My wife initially tried to get me to not go at all, but she caved in, because it's a good friend of mine. In any case, she is now trying to get me to take the first flight out on Monday. Yeah....I want to get up at 5 AM to come back on Monday, and miss out on Sunday night. Yeah, that makes TONS of sense.....I told my wife that I will be leaving Friday afternoon straight from work, and that I will be back late on Monday due to time differences. My wife is a SAHM, and I work full time. She has gone away before on long weekends for bachelorette parties, and on weekend trips with her sisters. It was hard, but I managed, and I also work full time....if my wife can go away, why should she raise hell about me doing so? It's been so long since I've had a much-deserved break, for all that I do. My wife also has her parents around to help. I get that my wife may be worried about strippers, prostitutes, or losing too much money.....but she needs to trust me. The bachelor doesn't want strippers or prostitutes, and I promised my wife that if for any reason they do that, I'd do something else during that time. As for gambling, I manage our money anyway, and I'm the only one who earns money, so she has no say....she just has to trust that I will be responsible.

I found a panty in my bathroom and immediately think my husband is having an affair and he probably dropped her panties out of his pocket on accident. I texted him about it. He said a lie and then admitted he dropped them but it wasn't what I thought. I called him and he said that he's embarrassed but that he found them in our apt shared laundry facility and took them to masturbate to later. Apart of me doesn't believe that because he's easily grossed out by stuff and taking someone else'a dirty underwear is pretty nasty. In my mind I feel he's having an affair and he kept her underwear so he could masturbate later to memories of sleeping with her. if he is telling the truth, isn't that somewhat cheating still?He's getting off to the thought of some other girl with her panties in his hands. I really don't know how to feel about this. He didn t know why he did it and he feels embarrassed. What do I do? I actually separated from him but because I think it's an affair.

I'm just gonna be honest about my intentions in asking this question so go ahead and tell me it's none of my business. I overheard an acquaintance call her husband on the phone and say "I'm just calling to ask if I can go to the movies with Caitlyn a week from tomorrow?"

When my husband gets angry with me he gives me the silent treatment...this can go on for minutes or days and it is really hurtful and I HATE it! He will come in from work and won't say a word, or he will leave for work and not say bye or anything like usual, and then the whole time we are home together he won't say a word to me. And if I do manage to get him to tell me what's wrong he will say "nothing" then go back to silent treatment, even though I KNOW it's something wrong. Sometimes he won't finally tell me what was wrong until much later after it's already passed and we're back to normal. When we are having our "good times" i've told him how much this bothers me but he tells me this is just the way he handles things, and tells me I should just leave him alone when he gets like this. I've tried just leaving it alone and waiting it out but sometimes he will just start giving me the silent treatment out of the blue, even when we haven't been having a problem. What can I do about this? It really bothers me but I know I shouldn't be trying to change him if that's just the way he handles things. What's the best way to deal with silent treatment?

Seems to me a lot of people get married because they are lonley and end up settling. Then after you are married you met someone who would have been perfect for you. I sorta have a crush on my friends wife, shes like me too and we have a lot of similar interest/. She has asked me If I want to " hangout" when her husband is not around

I have been married 7 years. I live for sex, whereas my wife does not enjoy it at all. We have only done it once, maybe twice in the past 6 years. I can not live without sex, but I love her and do not want to stray, so... How can I beg her to put out in a way she will give in to?

I'm having troubles with communication between my wife and I. She us Chinese but speaks fairly good English. We have been married for five years and we are trying to conceive our first child. During the five years, I have been concerned about her meeting male clients for dinner for her real estate job and getting too familiar with male colleagues. In the early years of our marriage she would hit me, swear at me and not make much time for me. We never went anywhere and she would go out with her friends and work colleagues. But hardly with me. Even used to be bored of my company. We nearly broke up twice. But moving forward, we survived all of that. But I still feel uncomfortable with her going to events to network but taking a male colleague with her. I asked her tonight about a fashion show she went to because she took along the young guy (who had just gotten married) whilst I was at work. He works under her in her company as a real estate agent as well. It sparked a war. She got so angry and started swearing at me, told me I don't respect her by checking up on her (not sure how asking her if he went along counts as checking on her?), she threatened to throw a book at me, sarcastically said she is f...ing him and asked me when was the last time she checked up on why I like to go to the Japanese restaurant and that I better go and find a Japanese woman to f... It still doesn't resolve how I feel about her going to events with other males. It doesn't feel right. Also, I keep wishing that we could spend more quality time together. I actually got stuck in a pattern of organising my days without thinking about her. Because most days she is busy going to work or chasing up clients. It is only the past couple of weeks that have seen her change and suddenly want to spend some alone time with me. Our finances are stretched and we can't travel yet. I have started a new job and don't have leave. I need the leave for my studies as well. We are both still young enough. Early 30s and just bought our first home. I wish we could behave like other normal couples and have family friends, friends in common and spend a lot of time socialising and going out together. I understand we need to work hard for our financial commitments. That's ok. But it would be nice to be happy and laughing together for a change! And doing something fun. Tonight we could have done something fun but I hadn't thought of anything interesting for a while and hadn't pre planned anything because I asked her about her plans for the weekend and she said work. I'm not feeling well with and stomach bug so made plans to stay at home. I have no idea for date nights since she used to get angry at such suggestions and said we need to work for our financial commitments instead. So I haven't bothered to come up with date ideas.

I know it was wrong but is it unforgivable? It all happened here at the holidays and they are divorcing as of last weekend.

Will men just stay in a defunct marriage forever? And its women who ends it?

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My wife think I dress like a bum and I don't smell sexy like I did when we first met in college. Could it be that I am working 50 plus hours a week and just exhausted or I just do not care about my appearance anymore. I wear shorts, jeans and a polo t shirt with a hat most of the time. Does anyone else feel this way?

I'm not a religious person but I always fear losing my virginity to someone who probably want a quick nut and regret it later. It's a pro and con to waiting because what if on my honeymoon it is not how I expect? I'm left wondering if I have experimented before on a someone else it would have been a learning curve. Then again I can have a even more special bond with my husband if he is the one I lose it to. I'm 22 and have my life mapped out like dating for a while to ensure he is my soulmate, get engaged when the time is right, marriage, travel, wait a year after marriage to have kids so we can travel together first. Not only travel but figure out our finances and move into the house I want to raise a family. I'll probably be on birth control after my wedding I hope that doesn't seem selfish. Since I didn't have a life that was all sweet growing up in a two parent household because I never knew my father. I'm planning to give my child the best life they have so it could be a reason why I'm waiting for the right man to come along and sweep me off my feet. I know it's the common bias opinion kind of question. Any thoughts? Update: I asked for an opinion not for you to dissect my life or how I choose to plan it. Also, don't insult my intelligence I have a B.S. degree with a minor in business. Don't act like you never planned your life ahead of time. How else would you complete college or be in your career. YOU PLANNED and did the necessary steps to be where you are today.