Not sure what to do, husband of almost 3 years told me finally that he isn't up for sex or physically attracted to me anymore because he is only attracted to women with a thinner frame. I'm 188lbs with an after pregnancy belly. I'm working on losing it but damn it's a blow to hear that. Help!

I'm 23 year.I was in a relationship with a 30 year old guy for 6 months. We were in love n living together.I lost my virginity to him. All this while, we knew all odds were against us but we always thought we would figure things out.We live in different countries, our parents are very traditional Indian parents, we are from 2 different religions and we have different life goals.I also started realising that I wanted my future children to follow my family's religion and I want to live near my family.If we got married, it would not be the life I want however much I loved him and I realised we would have many problems.I would feel isolated staying in the other end of the world being estranged from my family as my dad said that everyone would cut ties with me and never visit me even if I had kids. My parents recently found out that we were in a relationship and we had sex, so I had to promise both of them that we would end things.We did on mutual terms.He understood and is willing to be my friend.I'm going thru depression and don't know how to get out of it.I'm overthinking n going through hell.My parents have put the fear in my mind that no one would marry me because I'm not a virgin.I wanna get married n have kids. It's really important to me. I'm actually very open minded and I thought it was okay to have premarital sex. And somehow I thought we would end up getting married. I regret it so much. I'm scared that my future husband would love me less if he knew I'm not a virgin

She co signed for our daughters car. Actually the car is in my wife's name...well this child decides she doesn't want to pay her note..and now is up for repossession. Bankruptcy seems like her only choice (not just for the car) but If she goes through with it, how does this affect my wife? does it show up on my wife's credit? I hope this make sense

I know sounds like a weird question,but here is the deal he proposed a year ago and I'll admit I was obsessed about getting married but no plans were being made once he told me he doesn't want to plan cause we don't have the money I backed out. And personally think he isn't big on the idea but his mom is making plans to take a trip to make it happen this year and no not with her money . So I think she's forcing him and she's probably the reason he proposed in the first place I mean that's how I got the ring. So what I do? I feel uncomfortable cause it doesn't feel natural why is she doing this. I'll also add we have a 15 month old together as I see it we are content as is.

My husband was drinking listening to music and talking about ohh this song tis ex etc to my 13 year old i feel.thats so.disrespectful what.would you do or.feel about this? I made him leave because he was calling me a insecure *****

My husband and I were going back and forth about something, when we walked in the kitchen. It was minor about something small and he told me he was tired of hearing about it and told me to let it go. Well, I kept talking and he grabbed a knife, and told me if I didn't shut up he was going to cut me. Now, I knew he wasn't serious...he wasn't angry or yelling or anything, just casual laughing, but I instinctively threw my hands up, and the knife blade ended up cutting my finger. My finger bled for awhile, and he disinfected and bandaged it. Now, I know he didn't intentionally cut me, but my problem is, I always end up getting hurt when he's physical with his jokes. He's made me hit my head hard enough to cause a headache before when he wanted to play wrestle. It was fine until he started getting rough and I kept asking him to let me up but he wouldn't, i've also been hit in the eye by an object he threw at me as a joke before. He's also hit me in the shoulder hard enough to make it throb. It seems I always end up hurt and crying when he's being playful and joking. I have told him that he needs to stop getting so physical, but he always minimizes it. When I cut my finger, although he was apologetic, he claimed that it was my fault because I threw my hand up and knew he wouldn't really cut me....he also claimed the cut was nothing more than a paper cut. Well, paper cuts don't bleed! What can I do? How do I get him to stop and treat me like a wife and not a brother? Also, I have tried to talk to him about it but he always overreacts and will say "well, I will just stop joking with you altogether then" or "i'll just stop touching you then", and gets upset.

I recently got engaged, my fiancée and I want to live together before we get married. Right now I have an apartment with a long time friend. He doesn't want her to live with us, however we are engaged so I feel as if that gives me the right to have her stay here and I pay half of the rent. Since we're going to be getting married soon this is going to be a problem and are lease is up for renewal soon. I don't want to just move out and leave the guy on his own. But I'm getting married and I have to keep moving in life. So what do I do? I don't want someone else to dictate what I do with my life, especially when it comes to my fiancée and soon to be wife. We plan on paying 2/3rds of the rent and all other bills if she moves in. I feel as if there is a misunderstanding here. maybe I miss worded my question? When I stated "I don't want someone else to dictate what I do with my life" I didn't say say "Dictate who lives with me" I respect that he doesn't want her to live with him/us. so she won't be. The question is What do I do? If i get my own apartment HE will be on he own to pay nearly $800 in bills. and I don't want to put him out of a home. hope that cleared it up a bit.

Single? There are perks to marrying young despite what the liberal media tells you. You have more energy for children at 28 than you do at 42. You also have more sex in your 20s. Several of my classmates are already married and I graduated back in 2012.

Is that who he really wants to be with? Also he leaves her for you as well.

How do you know when a fantasy is in the realm of normal or not? Yesteray for the first time ever I fantasized about someone other than my girlfriend during sex. The woman I was thinking about was a friend from the gym I go to. We're just friends and I only talk to her at the gym and rarely outside of there. Last night during sex I couldnt stop thinking about her throughout and just went with it. Im in no way bored of my girlfriend and Im very much in love with her, but I've never fantasized about someone else either. This is messing with my head, is this normal?

He has a woman that he had been on and off with since 2010 and him and I since 2004. He will keave me go back to her leave her come back to me and im just sick of it. Today he went back to her after leaving her on christmas to be with me. She doesnt have kids with him, but I do so it s complicated. But when he goes with her hes sneaking calling me, trying to come see me, giving money.She will make him change his number and he will call me and give me his new number. I mean why wont he just leave me alone? He ll run off with her and then sneak behind her back and try and get back with me. And vice versa. What should I do we have kids and I wanted a family but it seems hes playing me.

So i have a friend from high school but there was nothing special between us. well my husband knows what happened to me in the past i just don't want him thinking something different. should i talk to this person or just leave it alone?

I posted a question asking for advice because my boyfriend and I are trying to get pregnant and he has a low sperm count. All I got in response were people telling me that I'm stupid for not marrying him first. We are planning on getting married but we both grew up with parents who had gotten married because they were pregnant or were wanting to get pregnant, both of our parents got divorced and now hate each others guts. We don't want even the slightest chance of putting our child through that so therefore we are choosing to have a child first AND THEN get married in a few years. It doesn't feel good to have people telling you that you're stupid for not getting married first.

My friend has 2 kids by his ex (they broke up a year ago and she moved in with her parents). She works full time and should have money (despite having to pay rent to her parents). She refuses to let him see the kids and he had not heard from her in months until recently he got some pictures of her, one was inappropriate. Shortly after receiving the pictures on his phone, she demanded money for her car note. He gave her some of the money (remember, she won't let him see the kids they have together and also refuses to marry or get back with him). He said he's behind on his own car note, but gave her some $ towards hers. What is her problem? What should my friend do? He refuses to go to court because he says she will get mad and not get back together.

My boyfriend was in a car wreck last week and cannot drive. He has several injuries (broken ankle, concussion, bruising in multiple places). He allowed his ex wife to take him to get groceries and lunch the other day. I live over an hour away and have kids so I cannot just drop everything and be his care taker. I wanted him to move in with me but he said it would be too stressful because of the kids Id have too much to deal with but told me he would call me if he needed anything. Should I be mad at him? He says Im being ridiculous because my ex husband comes over sometimes to see his kids and we will do lunch or soccer practice together with our kids but he does not have kids with his ex so why is allowing her to do this?

I'm 28 and my husband is 30. I'm biracial and he's white. He acts like a typical white man and annoys me all the time. We have 5 children the youngest is 6 months old. My husband works long hours and I appreciate him for that but he's so annoying. He leaves a mess wherever he is and makes stupid jokes. We have been together for several years now. I'm not in love with him and haven't been for a while now. It's just the same old every day he works I take care of the kids and cook. There's no excitement. I'm so bored of the marriage it's just the same old all the time. He always has to act in a silly way. I was 19 when I met him and still in college when I got pregnant. I never got to finish school or experience things I dreamed of and it's all his fault. He's selfish like all white men. My in laws came for Christmas and I'm tired of it specially his mother. I don't like her at all she's rude and has the nerve to tell me how to raise my kids. These days I just leave the room when they come and stay in the bedroom. I'm tired of them this is my home and I'm anxious they will come and I don't want my kids to be around caucasian people too much. What do I do?

I feel like a robot most days. Wife and I may say a couple words to each other after getting everything done. Then off to sleep and repeat. Not trying to complain, but it feels wife and I are roommates. Kind of blah relationship. Anyone experience this?

Im 16 and i live with my grandparents. Both are retired and things are tough, i cant complain necause theres always food on the table. But when it comes to my grandpa money seems to have an expirey date on it and makes it out to be if you dont spend it, it will disappear.. he is always buying cigars and stuff... he has spent all his super annuation on wood cutters and log splitters for a business he gave up on because he was getting too old.. everything he wasted his money on is sitting in the shed... he is always giving money to his son who has a wife and four children, his wife doesnt work but she pulls in at least $800 dollars for just having children.. and he works on $55k a year.. they never do anything for us.. they dont buy us presents or lend us the money when we need it and it ANNOYS ME..they always complain they are poor but their kids havent even reached their teen years and im living with two retired people... i always worry...

I'm supper stressed out. Since I filed for divorce my ex has been playing dirty. He got me kicked out of our house and he tried to have my son taken from me by making false allegations against me. My husband is a narcissist and he is making this process extremely difficult for our family.

For some reason, I'm a little attracted to one of the bartenders where I work (I'm a server). I keep checking the schedule to see when we're working together and have been disappointed to walk in a couple times and not see her. I think about what I say around her and want to impress her. I'm giddy when I make her laugh and when she said recently her daughter was in love with my name (some online star the girl watches has my name) and that she thinks of me when her daughter goes on about her - I lit up. I loved that - I hardly know her but "she thinks of me". She's married, seemingly in love, and with a kid. I don't dream of stealing her away at all. I don't want a relationship. I don't have real serious feelings. But I do feel the desire to flirt and do want her to be "harmlessly" attracted to me. I want her to know I'm attracted and get off on that. I'm female and bi. Thoughts? Am I totally wrong? Obviously I feel like getting closer to her (as friends - not looking to break them up). Should I turn a cold shoulder from here on out instead? Frank UK Man: Definitely not 99%... just my experience (in California). Many straight women, though not into women, are actually into the attention because it's new. Ariel: I have no desire to break up her marriage. It's really not that serious. Harmless as in no cheating occurs. We aren't flirting. I just have the desire to flirt. leafsfan29: Unfortunately, at my work, a couple of the managers don't recognize those boundaries themselves...I'm not a real forward or sexual flirter anyway. Serving is temporary and the tips are pretty good. Again, I'm not trying to get her to leave her family.

She says because i don't give her enough time i stay in homee for like 3 days in a week we go out to shop have fun etc. she did this like 4 times i keep forgiving her should i just let her do it. or should we visit a counselor PLEASE DON'T SAY DIVORCE HER i mean she does not have to do any work at all there are house maids for cooking and cleaning she is literally free then why does she keep cheating on me i cry everyday for this i WORK SO HARD FOR THIS WOMAN AND SHE KEEPS CHEATING ON ME

I have been cheated on in the past and I just can t stop with snooping. I ve talked to my husband about it but I just keep finding him communicating with his ex and he deletes them right away. I just saw that he told her I don t like them keeping in contact, that makes me feel like hes putting me 2nd and unimportant. He told her he deletes all his emails, I just don t know what to do or how to cope with this. I know I should prob just pretend I don t know that he keeps emailing her but I m boiling mad about this. The fact that he s telling her the truth and lying to me while I m his wife and she s his ex makes me feel like crap, I could pretend for a little while but it will just eat away at me the whole time.

My wife posted on here a few days ago https://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20170104170208AAPYqxB&page=1 and I found out cause she left the laptop open. I hurt her feelings by failing to secure a rental car that I promised to her so we could go see her out of town son for the holiday. I don't have a credit card or a utility bill in my name. She has now gotten herself a bus ticket and I heard her crying in the bathroom last night. She does this some times when she gets emotional and thinks I can't handle it. She did the same thing when her grandfather died. I'm not good at consoling her and I get stressed out. I have apologized over and over and she says she understands and thanks me for trying, but why is she crying. She also won't sleep with me and she said she has just been tired due to her new work schedule but I think its because she is upset. I asked her outright to get up and shower so we can have sex the other night, and she showered but fell asleep. Idk what to do to make her happy. I can't change what happened. I just want to see her smile. Is there a way I can make this up to her?

Ok so here's my story..Me and my husband of 14 years was going through some really tough times and still are. I beg him to let me go and that I don't love him anymore..He has anger issues and just an all around negative person and it depresses me. I've tired to talk this thing out for years and feel now I'm finally done. I want out..We have several large bills in both names including home and cars being the major bills. We have 3 kids together ages 9,6,1 ..I don't want to have to be mean and grimy I just want us to be friends and raise these kids and move on. I told him at one point in our marriage that I was going to start to see other people because I don't consider him a husband an I'm just waiting on money to file divorce and I'm just really unhappy. Well with that being said I started seeing this other guy. THinking my divorce would be in progress but it's not. My husband said he's not giving me a divorce. So now I'm stuck with this other guy who I can't let go because I'm emotionally attach to him. I know some may say I should not have talked to the other guy until my divorce was final(stupid on my end) but now that I know my husband is basically not leaving and said he will control me either way and he's not going to change. It's not fair for him to make me stay. I just feel so drained from my marriage it sickens me. I feel better when I'm with this other guy who has someone else as well and most likely using me. part 2 in the answer field

My husband and I just bought his dream car (VW GTI). He now wants a motorbike, and it's breaking my heart. I don't want him to get one at all, I will be nervous every time he goes out. He says not to worry because he will drive smart but that doesn't mean everyone else on the road will drive smart as well. I am just so scared and nervous. Is it selfish of him to still get a motorbike?

I dated a really close friend in HS for years and we broke up when he moved away for college. We saw each other as adults (even a few years ago) to hang out even though I am on my 2nd marriage now. He is still single (never married). I no longer speak to him, as its not appropriate to my marriage or kids... But the last time I saw him he admitted he still was attracted to me, then cursed at and insulted me and said nasty stuff about my husband and we never spoke again. I hardly think about him, except to remind myself how crazy he was and why we no longer speak (rarely). But, I still dream about him 1-2 times a month and I dont even dream about my 1st husband like I do my ex boyfriend. What is going on?

their cribs are in master bedroom, I opened top dresser drawer and found a note that said, 'Hi, thought we would find you here, make yourself at home and text pictures'. Beside it were some sex toys and a $50 bill. I totally freaked out and told them I wasn't feeling well. Left without saying much. Got a call later in the week from husband asking if I could babysit again this weekend. He told me 'they wanted me to make myself comfortable and said he knew I understood. I laughed out of nervousness and he laughed back. I am so busted. I really need the money but I'm scared to take it. What should I do?

So im a new mom of a 6 month old. I work 40 hours + and my job has been stressful and im struggling. It wouldnt be so bad if I had a husband who is suoportive. I have a work from home oppurtunity and a business client but i needed to purchase 65.00 worth of accessories. He was happy and knew about the oppurtunity. But when its time to buy He always pushes it out or say, "We have bills" yet go spend 80.00 on wine or something he wants im aggravated bc he knew about this now hes saying we cant afford it

My husband has not had a job since 2008, and he does not go looking for one either. In addition to not looking for a job, he has not paid taxes, so every time I file, I get nothing. He has a big *** mouth, and he acts as though he is the lord of the house. Now, he does do laundry, cook, and wash dishes, but he is just so obnoxious at time, that I pray to God to kill me. My son is just like his father - lazy. He just wants to play all day when he has school work to do. He gets home from school before I get home from work, and my husband does not make him do his school work when he comes home. Both of these people always want something that costs money and this is aside from the obligatory food, clothing, and shelter. I have had to pay for braces, and teeth reconstruction, and I feel like a fool because I am the one working, and if I want something fun I have to go to the thrift store or the dollar tree. My husband wants pottery classes, and my son is always asked for DLC for games. Meanwhile, I pray to God every night to kill me, and every morning I am upset that I am still alive. I see a psychiatrist, and I see a therapist. I am not wealthy.

My husband goes through my phone when he says he has a weird feeling is this ok? Or is it a mistrust issue?

Long story short, i was curious to my wife cheating on me. She was on dating sites talking to other guys and going out more and more. I couldn t ever prove that she did anything wrong with someone else... But she definitely was looking for an out. After much talking and counseling sessions, my wife and I are finally on the right track. I am ready to be intimate with her again. I still find her attractive and I love having meaningful intercourse with her. Problem is, she claims to not be ready for that yet. Why could this be? Guilt? Scared of me leaving (like her ex did when he cheated on her) I m sure there are several reasons why. She s being more playful with me again. Grabbing, scratching, kissing... Etc... How will I know she s ready for me to make the next move? I don t want to tarnish anything because like most men... Sex is a must haha. I don t want to push her though. Any tips? Anyone know why she could be acting this way? Thanks.

I want to marry only once in life and never get divorced. I like to stay faithful to that one person who truly loves me. I am now in love with a beautiful girl who says that she loves me. She has agreed to marry me but I want to ensure that she won't leave me especially when we have a baby. I hear a lot about divorce in the media and it has become a part of life. I guess divorcing is wrong unless there is adultery, extreme harassment and abuse. People now divorce because they get bored of each other or are not able to adjust their differences. I am making a promise that I will be there for her and I expect the same from her. How do I know if she will never leave but become a faithful wife and a loving mother