I've been married 3 years! We have a beautiful daughter that is 18 months old. I'm writing because I made a huge mistake. I have a friend names Greg and we've been friends since high school (14 years ago). He's been having trouble with this wife as far as his sex life and compatibility. She has sworn that he has been cheating and I know he hasn't because he tells me everything. Anyway, this past saturday, me and Greg were invited to graduation party for an old friend. We played basketball the same morning but got carried away with the time and ended up leaving the gym late. I decided that I will change at his house and we will go together so we can make sure we both make it on time. We got to his house and literally had 15 minutes to get ready. He hopped in the shower and since I had finished all my things, I hopped in the shower with him. I only went it to save time so we could be there on time. I am not gay and I have no feelings for him. Out of the blue, his wife comes home! She opens the door to the bathroom and saw us both in the shower. She got all crazy about his cheating and accused me of sleeping with him. She also called my wife and told her everything! As you can imagine, I'm in the dog house (literally). My wife doesn't believe I'm not gay and wants a divorce. I told her he is only my friend and there was nothing sexual. His wife lied and said I had a ***** but I didn't. I need help because I want my wife back. I need to prove to her that I'm not gay. Help!

So he was abused as a child emotionally and physically by his father and I don't know how to help him. He has nervous shakes, night terrors, and he barely ever has time to work on his job. His boss is a good friend from church and he is trying to work with him but I fear that he will lose his job soon. I was forced to explain to his boss when he fell and hit his head and got a severe concussion. He then had to go to the hospital because he was mixing pain pills with alcohol and its just been a roller coaster. He is 23 and I am 21 we've been married for two years but I just don't know what to do. I love him but he has really pushed me I've already talked to the Bishop at our ward as well as his family about it but I just can't come up with what to say to the man I married for all the pain he has caused me... He just drinks and drinks and I need to know what to tell him so that I can have the man I fell in love with back. On an off note my husband's family and my family are both wealthy so a good rehab center could be afforded .So I packed up my bags and told him I was going to my parents for a week to reevaluate things.... As I was walking out the door he started to cry and said don't leave I don't want to be alone....he then said that he'd get help but he doesn't want to go to a rehab facility for his drug and alcoholism. While I held him I couldn't help but think how overwhelmed I am... Should he go to a group or does he need to go to a clinic?

She has complimented my looks in the past. But, today she was just stressing how great I look and asking "what did I do?"

What do you wish your wife would do for you that would make you happier within your marriage to her. What things were you hoping for when you got married to her ?

My husband and I have been married for 4 years now I feel like I m impatient anymore and lost all intreast in things to be honest I don t even know what I like anymore or I don t even know myself? What is wrong wrh me?

My parents are divorced but not officially and Iive together in the same house and they been going through this separation since I was in 8 grade when I Caught my mom cheating, now I'm a senior in high school and I'm tired of everything, I'm tired of their fighting and I fight with my mom too, today I told her to not call me her daughter because she does not treat me like one and that I want her to leave already because all everyone in the house does is fight, and she said said that i cant make her and I feel tired and depressed and emotianally drained and can't take it anymore I feel so affected by everything but no one asks to see if I'm okay and I know my sister also gets sad when they fight. I don't know what to do I just want everything to end and I'm only 17 I can't leave and even when I get 18 I don't want to leave my sister whom recently turned 16 with this mess. I need advice please

My husband has been in prison for 13 years. It has been a long hard 13 years. I have struggled to raise my kid and didn t have money to file. Now that my kid is in college I have a few extra pennies to rub together, butbnot many. What is the cheapest way to file for divorce in Pennsylvania? Where and how do I begin the process. I hear he is coming out and I want to start the process if I can before hand.

He is 30. I didnt know I was his first and Im looking for a serious relationship. Could we be together forever without him wanting to experience other women?

I have told my husband over and over to stop bringing up and judging me for my past. And today he randomly goes off on me and starts yelling and cussing at me calling me a worthless **** and a whore and while I was ******* everyone he was making something of himself etc. We've been married 7 months and he knew everything before we got married. I'm just so sad and idk if married couples go through this or not?

"A woman have no problem pleasing a guy with anything" 'But yet' when it comes to her man to pamper her with gifts and treat her to any expensive fancy restaurant dinners 'he would assume she's a Golddigger" But yet it's good and ok for men to manipulate a woman into having sex with him, than soon as he gets into her pants, he start's talking crap that "she's a whore" she's easy" "But i notice men are just selfish evil humans" PLUS sexist freaks! MEN are the real Golddigging Whores!

I'm thinking of divorce, my husband is 24 years older than me. I'm still a student in college. I married him to escape my dis functional family. I have a child from this man as well. I regret everything. Now I'm very depressed. I'm stuck. I want to leave but I'm still a student with no money. I don't want to become homeless with no degree. Should I wait until I graduate? I have very close minded family who won't be there for me. Is this my best option??? Please help I'm going crazy

I am suffering on this question, and it bites! My family had been so close then some relatives got rid of elders in our family and kept the estate and money themselves and lied for it. Another family wanted a relatives land which was worth almost $500,000 so the kids and husband had her committed to a retirement home and etc. Now her husband is also old and who knows what is happening to him?

My family has these reuinons every few years and I went to one last weekend. I met my aunt s new boyfriend there. He seemed really nice and we talked a lot. At first it was just "innocent" talk, like school. But then he would ask me more personal questions like where I lived, did I live alone, did I have a boyfriend, etc. I thought it was a little strange but I didn t think more of it until the day everyone was supposed to fly back home. He gave me his number and insisted I call him so we could "hang out". Whatever that means. I m just confused and a little concerned because, well, he s my AUNTS BOYFRIEND. I don t know what his intentions are, and I don t know what to do about it or if I should do anything at all. I m 19 so I m of legal age, but it s still wrong.

We chose for me to stay home with the kids and now I've got about a decade of no work to my name. I know that will hurt my chances of getting work anywhere. How do I get hired?

I wanted to hear from your experiences with a situation in which you dealt with this and if so how did you work with the situation

Me and my fiance are engaged. My ex has recently moved close by, we're good friends. I'm not the best at opening up and my friend is using it against me. She just told my ex that I "cheated on him" because I kissed another guy once when we were dating. She makes it sound so bad like we "hugged and kissed" trying to explain it was "just a kiss" doesn't work. She made him mad at me and we were getting along fine before. Now here's what's really annoying. I invited my ex over while my fiance was at work for a casual friendly visit. My friend then told my fiance that: "I had a guy over" "he's my ex" "I've cheated before" "he should keep an eye on me." She says she's "just being honest" and it's so infuriating. My fiance is so angry and told me that if I want to get back together with my ex so much we should end this relationship now. He thinks I'm keeping too many secrets from him. "It was just a friendly visit" doesn't work, he says I'm being "shady" and if it really was I would have been upfront from the start. In regards to cheating, as usual "it was just a kiss" doesn't work. He feels he had a right to know about this earlier?? (seems like none of his business but...) My friend is single and alone and she's ruining my friendship and relationship making them treat me like a liar, she's so manipulative. I don't want to lose either of them and I'm scared. How can I deal with all 3 of them?

i have pcos, by boyfriend of 6 years is deeply bothered that i have a big chance of not having a baby. it bothers me, i even have doubts of marrying him, in case that i marry him and end up not giving him any baby.... i know it will lead to fights, marriage in a country that there is no divorce... it makes me think about it . i know some married couples who cant have kids, the men end up cheating. my obgyne said said that if he only want kids from me. its better to break it off. i tried asking him " what if i really cant have kids?" i said he cant answer straight. he just said "lets try" and now he keeps nagging me because i dont seem to get better.. nags me when i miss my period. nags me when i get fat.

My wife can be quite boring in bed sometimes. She basically has a list of things she doesn't like. Whereas I like pretty much anything. Is there anything I can do to improve our sex life? Neither of us are satisfied.

I have heard it rumored but have never been able to confirm it. Do married women really feel themselves being visually undressed by guys? I ask because most guys I know are not good about staring at a woman's, er, attributes without them turning around and catching them? Do women really posses this intuition? Further, Why do so many women get angry about guys looking when they spent so much time trying to gain attention?

Long story short, I met my husband when I was 18 and him 22. We have been together 30 years, and married 28. We have two children, 27 and 22. Last month, I went on my husband's laptop to check my email. He left his social media messages open. I seen a message saying. "When can we meet again." I did some snooping and found out my husband was having an affair. After a little bit more searching I found out she was a 29 year old waitress. My husband is 52. I confronted him and he didn't deny it. He said he first met her six months ago at a bar while he was out with co-workers. HE said they chatted on a few occasions when she slipped him her number. They started texting before switching to Facebook messages. According to him, the last two months they had met 6 times for sex. He says he loves me and it was just an moment of opportunity and an ego boost. He doesn't blame me for anything. Claims that he is happy with our marriage and has went no contact. As far as I know he is remorseful but I'm just so damn angry. I did question him on six times not being a moment of opportunity. He basically said he didn't go out looking for it but once she approached him he loved the attention. As for our sex/intimacy. We had a decent sex life. We hugged and kissed each other several times a day. We have sex probably about once or twice a week. Some weeks more and some weeks less. We always did little things to show we appreciate each other. Which is waht makes this so much harder to swallow. If his reasons in his head for cheating was because I didn't appreciate him, or he was unhappy that was news to me. Never once did he come to me saying he was unhappy, something was bothering me. I just don't know. I have considered this not being his first affair. I think I might just book a polygraph test and tell him just before it is to start. If he hesitates or says no then I have my answer. He has been sleeping in the guest room since I found out. I have consulted a lawyer just to know what to expect. We'd both come out losing so much. But I don't even want to go there. I'm angry because I thought my husband was a man of honor, respect. He destroyed our vows and now makes me question our entire marriage.

I work 2nd shift and my wife works 1st so we only time we get to spend together is nights. we are having our 1 year anniversary next Saturday on the 17th. She is saying the only present she wants is for us to spend the whole day together. Should I get her a gift anyway?

The ones i tried dating literaly flip out and go bananas if i dare criticism them or even ask why they had a failed marriage to try to understand the problem. So why are they so sensitive to criticism ?

Me and my wife have been married twice.the first time her son decided to quit college and take a job out of state.6 months he just decided to quit that just because.he asked to stay w us till he got situated.he had $20,000 saved.months went by all he did was drink.not look for job,nothing.i went to my wife several times w how I felt. I was basically told her house her rules.her daughter 16 at time was allowed to date a 20 year old man.again.i was told she had to consider her feelings but never considered mine.we were divorced and a year later remarried.i was told oh I'll never leave again no matter what,we'd resolve issues etc.everything was great until her 19 year old daughter moved back in after being on her own only 3 months.she quit school to support a loser bf who wouldn't keep a job.she moves in and instead of better her situation she blows all her money week to week on useless stuff.no contribution to the house,nothing.only had 3 bills of her own but gets a credit card and maxes out within 3 months of living w us.every Saturday night would leave to go play house w her bf and leave her whining dog home waking me up at 5am.i expressed my concerns for months.i was told I argued over every LITTLE thing.i finally blew up and went off!!!! My wife sees she did no wrong and divorcing me for arguing.i don't get it.i work full time,clean house,cook.spoiled her.i felt like a nobody w no say in my own home.am I wrong to feel this way???

I'm 27 and married for 5 years. My husband approached me a few weeks ago saying its his biggest sexual fantasy to have a threesome one time, that he wouldn't push me into it, but that its his biggest thing and it would mean a lot to him. And he didn't really "push", but he did keep bringing it up (respectfully) in spite of my hesitation. I could tell it was important to him. Finally I made him a deal: since it was his biggest fantasy, I'd do it ONCE, but I got to wait and pick the right woman based on who I was attracted to. No, I'm not bi, I'm straight, but I can admit when a woman is attractive, and if I'm going to agree to have sex with my husband and a random woman I felt it should be my choice who. Someone I thought I found attractive and I could relax with so that I could enjoy the romp in the hay too. This totally intimidated him because he only wanted to imagine it as something for HIM to watch/see. The idea that I might try to enjoy it if i was going to do it, rather than just participating for his viewing pleasure, scared him. He's never mentioned it again. I'm glad overall that he dropped it because I was doing it for him, but it surprised me (in a not good way) that his interest was linked to me not having a say in who it was. I now am kind of upset and offended that he wanted to do something, acted like it was about "us", when its clear (to me) that he was intimidated that I might enjoy myself too. Am I reading the situation correctly? Am I overreacting? SATS---i posted it a couple of days in a row because I'm really struggling with this. I'm for real, not making stuff up. Why would I even do that?

we are both married but both lonely, the problem is that she put on about 30 lbs since high school, she was the sexiest girl in class, I always dreamed of having her, but now I'm good looking and in shape, should I still see her even though she is fat?

I had a very bad experience when traveling overseas in the military. Whenever I am stressed out and need to talk my girlfriend is pretty cold. She is this way with her parents too. She doesn't say much and is not very comforting. I helped her with her garden (mowed and mulched) then left for a long shift at work and she put a sexy selfie of herself on Facebook with a low cut top and shorts of her gardening and got male attention, no mention of me and what I had done at all. When I brought this up she yelled "well Im just going to take my Facebook down" and didnt make me feel better about why she posted it. She has doesnt like giving bj's even though I love going down on her (she doesn't like that either). She says bjs make her uncomfortable. I don't mind paying for our dates and am happy to do it and do but so far I have paid for three vacations for us and she has not once offered to help pay. I have quit doing this. I would not accept her money but the fact that she didnt offer at all bothered me a little. She also can be pretty friendly around other guys even when we are out on dates. Is my girlfriend selfish?

My wife and I got married on 30 August 2015 in Maryland (Prince George's County). Since then she started to show me her true color by always disrespect me in every form and comparing me to ex-boyfriend whom she was in a very serious relationship with behind by back prior to our marriage and even got pregnant for the man in the process. When I found out, she called my church pastor and begged me to forgive her for what she did and said that it was some form of spiritual powers that the man used on her to get her cheating on me. She later came back to inform me that she had a miscarriage but did not tell me the reason for the miscarriage. I accepted with the hope that she was really sorry, but that was not the case. Whenever we have a quarrel she will begin to compare me with this same man she cheated on me with saying that the guy is better than me in bed along with all sorts of abusive words. I am really fed-up and don't want to be provoked by her constant disrespect so I think I want to get out of such relationship. Now she's threatening that she will take me to alimony if it tried to divorce her. Therefore, I have decided to reach out to you for an advice on my way out.

yesterday was my wife birthday , we went out with the kids to celebrate it i a small coffee shop . She spent the whole time on her phone , either talking or browsing her facebook

do you feel this is meeting "par" and there should be no desire to achieve a bit more security? like putting money into savings every month? do you think it's going above and beyond to try to work overtime, go for promotions or get a new job? or is the status par just getting by and it's unreasonable to wish for your spouse to try harder. (in this scenario one spouse is working 35 hours a week at mediocre pay. the other spouse works 50 hours a week at mediocre pay) I sure don't want to work 50 hours a week! but working 35 would not be sufficient to support our family. so i'm trying hard to make ends meet. we can pay the bills and put money into savings with the 10-15 hours OT i work every week. I'm saying, if I only worked 40 hours then we would basically be making enough to pay bills. if any large bill came around, it would put us into debt. We have one humble car payment, and our mortage is the same or slightly less than the going rate for an apartment big enough for our family of 6. my husband had three kids from a previous marriage. I guess that's the only "poor decision" that I can think of. (I know sounds terrible) that's why I think he should have more stock in working hard.. he made three kids.. but is getting by just fine with my hard work. I also do a majority of chores in the house and have to nag him to do the rest it's not that I expect him to change. I'm just wondering if it's unreasonable to think he should be doing more. it seems like i see and hear a lot on here that it's reasonable for one person to have a different work ethic and that should be "Just fine"

I'm 27 and married for 5 years. My husband approached me a few weeks ago saying its his biggest sexual fantasy to have a threesome one time, that he wouldn't push me into it, but that its his biggest thing and it would mean a lot to him. And he didn't really "push", but he did keep bringing it up (respectfully) in spite of my hesitation. I could tell it was important to him. Finally I made him a deal: since it was his biggest fantasy, I'd do it ONCE, but I got to wait and pick the right woman based on who I was attracted to. No, I'm not bi, I'm straight, but I can admit when a woman is attractive, and if I'm going to agree to have sex with my husband and a random woman I felt it should be my choice who. Someone I thought I found attractive and I could relax with so that I could enjoy the romp in the hay too. This totally intimidated him because he only wanted to imagine it as something for HIM to watch/see. The idea that I might try to enjoy it if i was going to do it, rather than just participating for his viewing pleasure, scared him. He's never mentioned it again. I'm glad overall that he dropped it because I was doing it for him, but it surprised me (in a not good way) that his interest was linked to me not having a say in who it was. I now am kind of upset and offended that he wanted to do something, acted like it was about "us", when its clear (to me) that he was intimidated that I might enjoy myself too. Am I reading the situation correctly? Am I overreacting?

I am 20 years old and married to a truck driver. I am in college for early childhood education and I also work at a daycare. My husband makes enough money to support both of us but I like having my own money. The daycare that I work pays me as an assistant teacher but I have been working as a lead since I got here. This morning I woke up with a really horrible toothache so bad that all I could do was cry. I called my boss and let her know I couldn't come in. She was very rude to me and told me I gave her short notice but I had no idea my tooth was going to hurt me so bad. My husband says I should quit and focus on school. I just don't like how she got mad at me for being sick. Btw this is the first time I have ever called out.

Our anniversary is next weekend and this past weekend i was on my phone looking at lingerie to suprise him with and he caught me looking at it...i asked him what he thought and he said he liked something cuter like a baby doll dress which i thought was really weird....he gave me a weird look and smiled, and then i asked him to tell me what he was thinking...hindsight i wish i hadnt. He told me that the lingerie i picked out was very form fitting and that he thought i might feel uncomfortable in it, well i lost it....i said how dare you make this about my self confidence, if you dont like it, and dont want it then grow a pair and say it but dont say its because I WOULDNT FEEL SEXY in it. So he did, he said "fine you dont have the body type for that lingerie and i wish your waist was smaller." Im 5"6, and weigh 145lb, i didnt think i was fat by any means....however now im just crushed....and this is all after him asking me to consider me a threesome a couple weeks ago...i dont know what to do, we have been married 5 years and now i feel disgusting and unwanted. I thought we had a great marriage until the last two weeks, now i dont even know who he is...im completely heartbroken....

This weekend my husband and I go into it over something I feel strongly about. His family was going away for a Labor Day trip and they were all going to drive their cars. Normally they rent a van every year and ride together. When my husband's sister suggested getting a van my husband looked into it. He found one with a great deal. Originally he was going to put the charge on his debit card but they wanted too much info as proof of residency, plus they were going to charge him an extra $100 deposit. Then all of a sudden he tells me "I've got it covered" and we went on the trip. Sunday we were at the store buying some stuff for Monday and when he got ready to pay he pulls out a credit card. I asked him when he got that and he said about 6 months ago. At that point I felt that if he had it for 6 months and didn't tell me what else had he not told me about. We argued the entire way home.. He said that he got one of those mailers that said he was pre-approved so he went online and applied not thinking he'd get approved but he did. It's been in his wallet for 6 months or so and he just never used it. He says that every other woman has either her own "fun money" or some even have secret credit cards that their husband doesn't know about so why is it such a crime when the husband has something? I told him that wasn't the point. He had the card and didn't tell me about it. Then his argument was that we don't have a joint account like most couples do so our finances are separate. We just pay bills when they are due or who ever can pay at that time. He didn't use any of my info to get the card nor did he have to put a deposit on it. But here's the kicker. He said, "well, you have a credit card so why can't I?" Well, the credit card I have he knew I was applying for it. Is my husband guilty of financial cheating? Again, I feel that if he didn't tell me about this what else is he not telling me about? We're not wealthy by any means and he said the limit was only $400 and he's not used it yet. But I just think this should have been something the should have told me about months ago.

My life was great until this. I am now 30, married and have kids. My wife's family is a loving family and they do stuff all the time. My family never wants to do anything anymore since this happened. I'm embarrassed b/c wife's family is always around my kids and my family is never. I have in my head that if my parents were together life would be great. But it's not and I have noticed since that day 5 years ago I've been negative on life and my wife has even said I've changed. Not sure what I can do.

I try not to compare, but out of the men that I know I am with my kids and do a lot more things with them then they do. I take care of my children as much as my wife does. Not trying to brag, but u usually see women doing most of the work. However b/c we have kids and not many relatives, we never have time to ourselves. I do not get to romance my wife etc... Wife and I before kids always went out and we were opposites. She was wild and I was conservative. Was a good match. Now we are parents. Because of our situation now I don't want to look boring. Thoughts?

We ve gone through rough patches on and off but this is the first time we ve been here. I know we use it during fights, but it doesn t go further and we always make up. But today, he say me down and said we re at our last chapter. I m mortified. This is the first time I ve seen him cry, so I know he cares. I convinced him to do marriage counseling. We ve been married for 8.5 years, since we were both 21. Our obsticles are that we have few things in common, he s very closed off and doesn t communicate often, I have a slow sex drive which has made him just stop asking or touching me altogether, and we don t even know what to do with our time together anymore. I m still very much in love with him and want to fight for us. We own a home in Texas and I m not working at the time, no savings either. I m worried about my marriage and then I m also scared that I ll end up on the "streets". I love my home; I can t imagine losing everything.