How exactly do couples divide up property and money and kids during a divorce? How does one spouse get alimony?

We're both Latino but we have diferent skin colors, we grew up in diferent continents, we both grew up with multiple religions, I'm a Virgo she's a Sagittarius, she's 28 & I'm 23. We can all agree I don't deserve her I'm only her 2nd boyfriend & she's my first girlfriend. But nobodies ever been as nice to me as she has. You raised her to be the godess she is. She grew up privileged & I grew up in Chicago but she's so humble. She makes me feel like my life matters, she calms me just by her presence. You guys are such an amazing family & that's something I never had growing up. I love spending time with all 4 of you. But my time with her is so spiritual. I probably annoy her by talking about God so much but if it weren't for her & my faith lord knows I would've offed myself long ago. We met when I was 11 & she was 16. She's my best friend she's my everything she's the only reason I wake up in the morning. It wasn't love at 1st sight but when we met again when I was 16 & she was 21 the flirting & the chemistry was just there. Anti depressants don't help me neither does therapy but just telling her how special she is at night makes me feel a way I could never describe. I found it hard to believe I was smart, beautiful, etc when she told me that because nobody ever did that before. I tell her she's amazing everyday which is probably annoying but how can I not? Waking up next to her & sleeping next to her is a highlight of my life.

My mother in law is upset that I bought stuff for my sisters new born baby for $39 and afraid that I would spend money on rockaroo. It s her first new born baby girl. I saved money to get her a gift. My mother in law complains that my husband drive a shitty car and does it bother me at all... She bugged me about what I am wearing before I went in for surgery. I have only 1 black clothes and was afraid blood was going to soaked in my light color clothes. She says what I wore for morning is very inappropriate and people is looking at me. My skirt has nude bodysuit under my skirt. Today was 90degree and didn t want to wear my long sleeve one piece skirt! And then I finally got home and laying down. Talking to my sister about how baby is doing. She then comes in and bothering me to tell me about my father should buy us a car. My father should send me money to get her a gift. I should not spend my money. My husband did not have a problem spending $39 for my niece. How do I become mentally strong enough to stand against this? I have a lot of medical problem. I also have rare genetic mutation. I had modified radical bilateral mastectomy due to recent diagnosis of breast cancer. I am being tested for Endometrial, Thyroid, Renal, Colorectal, Melanoma, Cavernous Malformation of the Brain. I go to therapist every week to help ease my stress regarding my medical condition. 3 Oncologist, 8 Specialist... I don t have time to think about his traffic ticket or tax or his car.

Our daughter was born in June. The only thing his mother has ever gotten for her was a check with $200 in it for our baby shower. THATS ALL. But for my husbands first child, 4, former relationship... She's constantly buying him stuff. And what bothers me the most is that she gives it to him/ or my husband right in front of me. It breaks my heart because it makes me feel like she has a favorite. My mom is always buying stuff for our daughter and my husbands son. A couple of weeks ago she bought him an iPad, but nothing for our daughter. And yesterday, she went to babies r us and got him a bag with a bunch of pajamas - and again, nothing for her. When she gave the stuff to my husband she told me oh this was on sale I know she already has a lot of stuff. Like seriously?! I feel like bringing this up to my husband. It makes me so mad. She OWNS a salon and has a beautiful Condo. I feel like this is resentment towards me but not sure how to act! Any advice would be helpful!

Has this happened to anyone here that has been married for a long time? We are happy with everything else going on in our marriage, so no issues. Ideas, anyone,

My husband was arrested for abusing me and my friend called the police because she heard me screaming over the phone. Now I don't have any money a job and I have to go to court Im not on our mortgage and I don't know what to do. My husband is deemed unfit and I was told to appear Beck in court for the protection order. In the midst of all this who will take care of my family. Mt husbaND just got out the Navy too. Idk what to do I don't have money for childcare. Or anything.

Was it like one minute you're there all alone deep in studying/ working and sitting in your room to all of a sudden a man and a child with you playing in parks on the weekends?

Okay. Basically we just got married and even before then he was talking sexually and cyberly cheating on me with this girl. I remained faithful until I couldn't take it any longer. Someone came and "showed me that I am worthy" and put all kinds of thoughts in my head. I didn't do more than kiss him. But it still got to the point where my husband was trying to fight him. Time went by and he proceeded to cheat with this girl (just kept getting better at hiding it) and it came to the point where I didn't think he cared about me anymore . so I had sex with the first person I thought of. My ex. And I told my husband. And there was a lot that happened. He hit me, he almost went up there to kill him... Now he is on his way to the girls house to have sex with her. And I don't know how I am supposed to feel. I mean...I know what I was doing was worse... And I don't even know how it got to this point... But I felt so bad. And stuck... I just don't know who to turn to. What should I do? Is this my fault? Probably... Don't answer that. Lol...

I met a guy through my sister, but on FB. He is real, I'm not being cat fished!! I know this for a fact so that is not the case! We've been texting off and on for 5 months and everyday for the past 6 weeks. Real good connection and flirty. Anytime I say I need someone to do this or that he tells me he's the guy or says I dont have to look for a man anymore. Makes it seem like he is really interested in being with me eventually. We've made plans to go out in the past and he cancelled saying he was going on a guys trip. Lately he says he wants to take things slow so we don't ruin it, so we were taking our time meeting. So recently we planned a whole date for this Friday night. Now he's saying he can't wait until Friday so he can fix his car. Hasn't mentioned us going out again. I'm not going to bring it up at all but I feel like this is a blow off, what do you all think? I don't want to over react though. It's just that he won't even call me. I just want to meet so I can see if it's going to go anywhere because right now he's the guy I am interested in and I don't talk to other guys like that. If we don't go out Friday should I just cut contact?

I recently got married and I was a virgin before I was married so I wasn't really sexually confident and it gave me the opportunity to explore my sexuality. However, my husband has experience. We have been having sex quite a lot but I have not reached orgasm before. It hasn't stressed me out because I am actually enjoying it but on the other hand, my husband is kind of insecure about it and also thinks that his penis size won't satisfy me. We had a fight about it, he kept on saying how beautiful I am and he kept putting himself down. I was upset by it too because I fell in love with that checky grin he has and his sarcastic comments. I was in love with him way before sex was involved and would sacrifice it to keep him happy. He won't listen when I tell him that those insecurities are silly, any advice?

hopefully no one will judge me for this question. I m happily married and we have 3 kids. we have a nice pool at home and my husband invites his friends over everyweek or so for bbq and they sometimes get into the pool. one of his friends is really attractive and it makes me nervous when he is around. should I tell my husband not to invite them over? have anyone been in this situation? I dont really feel good about it and dont know what to do...

Before I met my husband, I had my heart broken twice. Men had not been not good to me. I began to look for someone who would be kind to me. I found someone sweet...and I married him. We have now been married for 2 years and have no children or major shared debt. The problem is that while he is a good man who cares for me, we don t actually do anything together. He is content with life consisting of work, netflix, and xbox. He loves xbox. I hate it with a passion. I love running, exercise, and an active lifestyle. He never wants to participate in any of those activities with me. I try my best to eat healthy. He would rather live on pizza rolls. He is financially responsible and frugal to the point that we never go on dates anymore. Tomorrow is my birthday and he is working all weekend. No plans. Every few months, I come back to this issue. We ve discussed it several times. But at the end of the day, I always come back to this feeling of unsatisfaction. He is a great guy and a great husband. But he and I have almost completely different lifestyles. I hesitate to have kids when I realize my husband will never be the father who wants to jog at the park with me and the stroller. My husband will never be the father that says "no xbox" and then leads by example. I feel stupid for wanting divorce, because he is good. I keep coming back to the feeling in my gut that this isn t really the life that I want. I think I may have made a mistake and keep thinking about divorce.

I would love to hear success stories of a trial separation. My husband and I were married for 3 years. We have a beautiful 2 year old daughter. We have been fighting for the past year and he decided he wanted a trial separation. We have been separated for 3 months now and it s been up and down. I did not want the separation so I often fall into the trap of crying and begging him to come home which is not good. I would like to hear success stories on trial separations. How long were you separated? What did you do to get back together? Etc.

I want to know how i can get my daughter full time. The mom lives with her parents and works part time at a cafe. My daughter doesn't have a room there she just sleeps the same room as her mom. The mom will never amount to anything. she has failed out of college a few times and is dating a loser that dropped out of high school (he's 18 she's 22). I'm supposed to get her 3 days a week in a row and it doesn't matter which 3 days it is but the mother always wants it to be on weekends (the days she doesn't work) when i try to have my schedule set up to have her the days I'm off to spend time with her. When the mom is supposed to get her she usually ends up letting her stay an extra day or gets her later during the day. When she picks my daughter up, my daughter screams and cries and says "i already went to mommas" but when i pick her up she screams with joy saying "thats my daddy" this really upsets me. On the days she has her, the grandma bring her to daycare super early in the morning and the mom sleeps in and goes to work around noon or later. I have a degree and a good job and my soon to be wife almost has her bsn. we want her to live with us and be in an environment where she has her own room and is taken care of and guided by successful parents. i document the extra days she lets me have her and I'm going to record picking her up and dropping her off to show she truly doesn't want to be with her. you think i have a shot at full custody? any tips on getting it?

My husband & I are both 23. He earns way more than me. He covers ALL bills including my phone bill. My checks go towards everything else such as; groceries/furniture, clothes. Whatever is left over from my check goes into My savings account & I refuse to spend any of it unless it's necessary. I monitor all of his money & if he has anything left over in his account I calculate everything he'll need & I put his leftover money into my savings account. My husband told his friends one nite while drunk & now they're all calling me crazy/controlling. No one knows how bad my husband is with money. He can NOT save & he spends on ridiculous things that he NEVER uses/needs...it scares me. He's usually completely broke after each check.That's why I decided to put it into my savings account. I give him money when he needs it but I don't want to look like a control freak. He doesn't seem to mind unless I tell him he can't buy a new apple product. He has over $8000 of apple products & he only uses the MacBook :/ We have 7 laptops/iPads in our home. We don't use any of them except 2. It's crazy! Should I let him keep all of his money or continue what we have now?? Please no rude people. Just looking for advice.

My husband and I have been married for 2 years and have been together for 5. We have had many ups and downs. Many, many! Most of it has been from me because I struggled with my feelings for him for so long but I tried and have been trying. He has been there for me through everything and has forgiven me for so much more than I deserve I guess. He holds my purse for me when we go to stores, he still holds my hand and shows affection in public, he treats me well and is always there for me to talk to when I need him. I don't think he would ever cheat on me. Anyway, he just seems to not have any compassion for other people. He talks crap about everyone and thinks everyone is not as smart as him. My daughter has so many developmental disabilities and sometimes she says thithin that don't make sense and he told me something she says have to be straight out just stupidity "her being stupid". I have always been close with my family and my mom and sister have said something's that I understand he has a reason to somewhat be upset for but he tells me my whole family is a piece of ****. They may have made mistakes but I can't think of them that way. I'm not in love with him and I want out of the marriage. I'm going to be 30 soon and I have no social life. I miss being with my family and laughing and having a good time and being with friends and being able to be myself. I think of all the good things but I feel like the bad outweighs the good

he yells at me when I give him oral or when I do sex with him, he tells me his ex wife was so much better , so much cleaner and smells better. He said he was going over her house to give her a good lay. He hasn't been home in 3 days and wont answer phone. why did he marry me then ?

Me and my wife were watching an old tv show. I don't remember the name of it I never seen it but it had a sad part in it where a little girl got lost from her parents some guy found her and brought her back then he found out about an hour later she died. Her parents died a few years ago usually she's not comfortable with watching this kind of stuff if if she feels like watching it she would. She started crying at the part when the little kid died. We don't have kids yet she doesn't know what to do if anything were to happened to them. It's making me kind of sad to but I'm trying to be brave for her. How can I help her feel better ? What should I say to her ?

Hi I recently got married and my husband lives in a very small country town. I decided to move in with him because he has a 5 yr old that he shares custody with his X. It s becoming very difficult for me to adjust to this small town. They have very little jobs and the pay is usually minimum wage. I ve lived all over the country because my dads work required him to travel so the whole family traveled as well. And I m not used to living in a small town where there s very little to do, very little pay and people are very closed minded. I figured that the only way I can be happy here is if I find a job in the city which is 2hrs away from here, but that s going to require me to do an insane amount of driving or I m going to have to move to the city and just visit my husband when I m not working. But that s just a thought. I just want to be happy.

Everyday when my wife is mad she will put up her middle finger at me and even when I say something about the news she will put up her middle finger at me or I will be just on my phone or watching TV and she will call my name and when I look at her she puts her middle finger up at me. I told her to stop and she does it anyway or she will keep it up longer. I don't want to have to resort to violence so any help

I recently found my husband Googled escorts in our area on his phone while he was out after we had an argument, originally blamed it on a friend, eventually tells me that he was so drunk & mad @ me that he wanted to do something to hurt me & he wasn't thinking-that he could only bring himself to look this stuff up, but not follow through. I dont have evidence of numbers called but I am thinking...is it time to get out of this marriage? We have 3 sons & 16 yrs, I want to make the right decision.

I filed for divorce last month through legal aid. I gave my husband many chances and found out he was still seeing his ex. Orginally, he changed all his numbers in March, since she claimed to know all of them. Things never got any better. He was angry and withdrawn all the time, and he ran out of chances.I found out he tried to visit her in June. I don't trust him and I don't want him taking anything out on our kids because his whore doesn't want him anymore. Any advice?

My 35th b-day is on Mon. I had thought that we would celebrate this weekend somehow. Now my husband has decided to attend the retreat at our church that they've only been announcimg for the last month. When approached about attending, he always said, "No, maybe next time." This last weekend at Mass, the older lady in charge of coordinating approached him again. He again declined, but she proceeded to explain thatbthis retreat changed and her life, and that he has to come for the benefit of our kids. That didn't sit right with me; using our kids as a sales pitch? Now I ask him if he planned anything, he said he doesn"t have time, he will be too busy at church. That would be fine, except he does this to me every year, including Mother's Day, Father's Day, and his b-day. I'm expected to take care of the kids or clean house, while he celebrates the day. Is it selfish of me to expect him to at least be present this time? He has no problem giving in to others, but with me he always says he's too busy or whatever.

Why is this GUY talks like a damn woman? "You always need to give your SPOUSE the majority of your quality time. Not the time that's "left over" after pursuing hobbies that interest you (like playing video games, f Where do video games fit in? Put them away and pull them out again in about 18 years or so when the kids are finally out of the house. Even then, try to limit your video game time to time that your wife really won't mind. Like, when she's taking a nap, perhaps...and you aren't tired..." Video games is not a hobby, it's just a relaxing time to reduce my tiredness after work! I got many other hobbies like Basketball and Golf. "I'm assuming you're not married based on your question. YOUR SPOUSE should be the MOST important thing in your life, not video games." The reason I asked because I'm married.... if I'm not married, I could just play PC games all day.

how do i get her to give me closure after 3yrs i just cant let it go and it has changed me as a person

I'm 40 year old man with 2 sons. I play video games on my Computer. Yes I do not have a playstation. Simply a computer. And I play basketball game (NBA 2K15) and a Car racing game (Project Cars). Both are more like a simulator than an arcade game. For example, the statistics in NBA 2K15 are all accurate as the stats on the NBA. Project Cars, there are real cars with real tracks. So am I being childish as a husband? my two sons, the 1st one is 6 years old and the second one is 2 years old. So they do not play video games yet.... they watch cartoons all day. my wife is a nurse and sometimes she started working at 10 PM to 6 AM. Sometimes of course we go out to shopping malls with the kids. "Assuming you are employed, then you simply do not have time to play video games. PERIOD. The precious few hours of awake time you have during the week should be time spent with your wife and children. On the weekends, we all have chores .... " and assuming you are not a teenager.... and single. Married people do not do grocery shopping every day. And we do not have the time to clean the house everyday. Afterwork, at 7 to 10 PM, it's rest time including video games and TV.

Just curious. I have a friend who is in a relationship with one and is wondering where can they go to settle.

I have been with with my husband 5 years married 2. I never truly felt in love with him from the beginning and I struggled and have struggled to convince myself that I somewhat have feelings for him. As time has gone on it has gotten easier to cope with. Sometimes I feel like I actually do love him but majority almost all the time I don t! He has always known there had been a distance in my eyes. I have hurt him in so many ways several times and I think it has to do with me not truly loving him. I have caused so much damage and I take full accountability for that. We have been fighting so much and I told him I m leaving and I want a divorce. We havnt spoke in 3 days and I have been sleeping in my daughter s room. Now that it has come down the me actually leaving I feel so sad and unsure if I really want to leave. This is the first time it happened. Why am I all of a sudden feeling this way?

Almost all divorcees i met claim to be "single" at first. Then as we go down the road it turns out that she's divorced with 1 or 2 kids in the background. Now, the meaning of single to most guys echos of "no drama or shadow of previous guy...no previous guys kids running around ur home...fresh n new goods". How can a divorcee compare to a single girl with no kids in her 20s ? Down the road these divorcees also admitted to being bisexual...and just a little "man hating" self loving beings. All their FB status' read: its all about me, its either u like it or not, im the queen B... They obviously have immense issues with being dumped and im not gonna collect the pieces. Like someone said: dating as an adult is like going thru a junkyard looking for the least ugly n damaged good. So why divorcees claim to be single when they had their chance n blew it ? Plus kids it doesnt make them single at all. I will skip the physical aspect between single girl no kids n divorcee with kids for decencys sake. The question belongs to the Marriage n Divorce section of Yahoo Answers. Leave it there.