Family: Question: I can never be safe from the risk of being disowned by family, how do I survive this?

Question: I can never be safe from the risk of being disowned by family, how do I survive this?

Posted: 26 Sep 2016 02:32 PM PDT

For example if I go to a party and it looks weird to my mother;s family that my grandmother invited me instead of having me go with my parents (if my parents do a holiday with just their kids) then they will disown me (the cousins and aunts). Another example is I talk kind of quiet so I am hard to hear, I try not to but someone might dislike me for this. My mother is very critical so I assume the rest of her family is this way. I reach out to her family though she (my mother) does not since she is bitter. I like her family so I do, I just don't want to be rejected. I also fear being rejected simply because I am my mother;s kid. So how do I survive this? I know my mother rejects her cousins who are the descendants of two uncles of hers who she dislikes. @Anonymous----I am an adult and live on my own (age 23), it is my extended family on my mother's side I fear, not so much immediate family. By disowned I mean they will dislike me

Question: My brother is so disrespectful..?

Posted: 26 Sep 2016 02:29 PM PDT

Information: I'm 16 and my brother is 13, he's always really disrespectful but I tend to ignore him most of the time. (I'm a guy) Context: Okay so we just came back from school and my dad tells my brother to gets his laptop. My brother goes upstairs to get the laptop and my dad goes into the living room. My brother comes downstairs with the laptop and asks me "Where did dad go" I tell him "I dont know", because I didn't see where he went. So as a result my brother starts insulting me by saying "You're a dumb a** you're so stupid, how didn't you see him". I just ignored him here but inside I was really pissed that he said that to me. So eventually he finds my dad but than he comes back into the kitchen and says something that really made me flip. He said "God, you have down syndrome" than I said "who are you talking to?" (I obviously knew it was me, it's just that I wanted to see if he had the courage to say who" and believe it he did.. He said "you". At that moment I just got pissed but I don't think I overreacted. I had a cup of water in my hand and I spilled it on his head. He got really mad and ran soaking wet to my dad and screamed. "CONTROL YOUR F***ING SON!!" I couldn't really believe he said that but than again the kid is retarded. So my dad came into the kitchen and said "What happened" I told him how he called me all these names but my dad didn't really care. He just screamed at me saying "How could you do this! Clean up the floor right now!" Whose fault is it.

Question: Can an obituary photo show up good through a fax machine?

Posted: 26 Sep 2016 02:26 PM PDT

I was given 4 paid days off for my grandmothers funeral (weekends not included)from work Left from work Friday last week and I come back Thursday this week that's when my four days are over I'm on my way back from out of town and I notice I forgot my grandmas obituary my father stayed behind to finish cleaning out my grandmothers home and to distribute belongs to family members and I don't know when he's coming back to town where I stay before I go back to work he said he will fax it to me and I was wondering do images show up good through fax machine I need this proof for work he's in Mississippi and I'm on my way back to Florida if not fax what's another way to send before Thursday?

Question: How do I get over the sorrow of having my mother commit suicide in front of me 7 years ago?

Posted: 26 Sep 2016 02:24 PM PDT

I feel like I should be over it by now. She killed herself in front of me 7 and a half years ago. I have not gotten over it. I was 22 at the time. I have survival guilt I couldn't stop her or see it coming or get to her in time to tackle her.

Question: Was this rude, just told my aunt I quit?

Posted: 26 Sep 2016 02:22 PM PDT

I wrote a similar question of this, only other question I asked on here, read that one to understand where I'm coming from with this. I just told my aunt I quit, and this is exactly what I said, "I no longer want to work for you (I quit). I'm sorry that I didn't give you much notice, but I couldn't think of a time I should tell you this and right now might not be the best time, but I figured I'd do it now". I was contemplating for 3-4 days about how I'd tell her that I quit and I wasn't sure when I should tell her, but I wanted to quit immediately. Immediately after I told her she texts my gram how she didn't have a babysitter anymore. My gram asked me why I quit, in which I told her I wanted to look for an actual job. She told my aunt in which she said she understood, but felt I was being rude about it. I told my mother about it and she said it wouldn't matter when I'd tell her, no matter what, it'd still be a bad time to her, even if I gave her notice. Was I? Read my first question I have on here (it's anonymous), I have all of the reasons why I wanted to quit and you'd all understand why. I was told by everyone else (my mom, my sister, my other aunt, etc.) I should quit. I knew I wouldn't get a job right away, but it wasn't just about wanting to get a real job that was the reason I wanted to quit. There's always those idiots saying poop, fart and yawn. Why even comment, if you're so bored why are you even here?

Question: I know she'll become defensive, but how do I tell her how I fee about this?

Posted: 26 Sep 2016 02:20 PM PDT

A VERY good friend of mine drinks a lot when at gatherings. She does not drive when drinking, & she hardly drinks on weekends. The drinking heavily is when we're on a weekend outing..She'll drink 5 to 6 rye& coke...one right after the other, & become very tipsy. She then starts to get loud with her talking, & when around others, she'll be laughing with a shriek or shrieking when talking...yelling across the room, etc When we were on holiday a few months ago, she drank a lot during the day too. How to I tell her this embarrasses me, without her becoming defensive. She always said that her x-husband embarrassed her when he drank too much, & she'd never tolerate that in a relationship ever again. Please help.

Question: What do I do, my brother came home drunk, do I call the police? He is 22 and I am 15?

Posted: 26 Sep 2016 02:20 PM PDT

Question: My mother is out to get me, she is mad I saw my Dad this weekend who she divorced, how do I get her to calm down?

Posted: 26 Sep 2016 02:16 PM PDT

Question: How do I escape my family?

Posted: 26 Sep 2016 02:13 PM PDT

My family always yells and always keeps telling me I'm a **** and worthless. I can't sleep at nights because of them. I'm 15 but is there a chance that I can somehow escape?

Question: My parent won't let me grow up?

Posted: 26 Sep 2016 02:01 PM PDT

I'm almost 16 my mom won't let me get my permit, she doesn't let me go to any school event dances field trips games etc,she doesn't allow me out beside allowing me to take walks outside alone, she won't let hang out with anyone I'm not even allow to date but I still do behind her back. She says she doesn't trust me but I do nothing but stay home and sometimes take walks I don't have bad relationship with her either. I'm good child also I get straight a's and stuff. I've already tried talking to her about it but she ignore it just changes the subject.

Question: How to get used to the idea of half siblings?

Posted: 26 Sep 2016 01:48 PM PDT

My parents got a divorce 5 years ago and they both remarried. My older brother (19) and sister (18) and I (17) all live with my mom and her new husband. My mom just told me that she is 3 months pregnant. She and my stepdad are both very excited because this will be his first child. My siblings and I lived with our dad and stepmom and half brother (he's 3) the whole summer and we found out that she was pregnant. My stepmom is now 8 months pregnant with my baby sister. I was excited for my dad because I knew I wouldn't have to be around the baby all the time because he lives 3 hours away but I'm not sure how to act with my mom's news. I acted excited about the news around everyone, but I am panicking inside. I've always been the youngest in the home and I haven't gotten used to the idea of a baby brother or sister living with me. I love my little half brother but in a way, he doesn't feel like an actual sibling because he's so young and I don't live with him. I need help on getting prepared for the arrival of my maternal half sibling as well as my paternal half sibling because I'm certain I will be spending a LOT of time with my maternal half sibling and some time with both paternal half siblings, which will be a bit overwhelming for me.

Question: My friends mum is crazy and she is living with us I need help?

Posted: 26 Sep 2016 01:43 PM PDT

So my friends mum is not all there in the head and she is going to be living with us for a few months since my mum is, and I hate to say it, a huge pushover. my friends mum (ill call her Rebecca) leeches of our family for money so she can buy alcohol and smokes and she does this weekly, keep in mind she isn't even living with us yet. another problem I have with her is she is batshit crazy. A few examples: she has rolled 2 cars that I know of, she bosses my and my siblings around and forced my younger sister to hop in her car and drive her to school when she didn't want to go, this one crosses over with her driving skills. she wont pay rent or help out in any way. she has abused her kids before to the point where she drove to our school and punched her son (my friend) in the face, no I'm not joking either. I could go on all day but the point is I do not want her staying in our house for that amount of time. she is the reason why her husband and son have moved. And I'm actually worried about my younger siblings. what do you think is this enough to NOT want her staying with us? and how should I tell my mum to not let her stay or am I being a c'unt?

Question: Does this quote make sense ?im 14 and I came up with it, correct me if you must?

Posted: 26 Sep 2016 01:16 PM PDT

"It is a cold, cruel world, yet if we choose to bask in what the good life has to offer then nothing may surpass the true beauty that lay on this Earth."

Question: My father is an alcoholic, how do I explain it to my friends?

Posted: 26 Sep 2016 01:14 PM PDT

Question: 17 year old with a 9:00 bedtime?

Posted: 26 Sep 2016 01:13 PM PDT

I have been civil with my mother but she won't understand the situation. I'm not annoyed at this because I want to party all night long- I need more time to work on my homework. By the time I get off the bus and get everything ready, it's 4:00. However, I have chores and have to make dinner, and along with the bedtime I don't get nearly as much time to work on my assignments as my peers. I'm failing AP English 4 because I have 3 overdue essays. Mom is extremely strict about me being in bed by 9. The only reason she's given for this is "because I said so." She'll get so furious if I'm up past then that she'll start yelling at me to the point that the neighbors have come over wondering if everything was alright. Could someone help?

Question: My brother verbally attacks my mother and she expects me to forgive him. My aunt insults my mother and she expects me to begrudge her?

Posted: 26 Sep 2016 01:13 PM PDT

So why the irony here? My brother is so much worse then my aunt (my Mom's sister). My Mom's sister pokes insults at my Mom, my brother raged at my mother as a teen and now shows no respect in his twenties though no longer rages. So why the irony and how do I point it out to my mother so she sees her hypocracy? I am tired of her dividing the family I am glad she forgives her son (my brother) and wants me to, I just wish she extended it to her family (her brothers and sister).

Question: How to convince your parents to let you have one room in the basement?

Posted: 26 Sep 2016 01:11 PM PDT

My basement isn't finished but it is a lot better than my tiny bedroom that I share with my brother. I want to sleep in the tornado shelter that is closed off and has windows. I haven't asked but want to have a way to get a yes for an answer. Right now, my bedroom almost has 0 privacy and is very loud. Me being a human desires privacy, and not wanting to listen to humpty dumpty every night. Please answer and tell me how I should ask my parents especially my strict mother.

Question: How can i make my little cousin feel like he is loved and matters.?

Posted: 26 Sep 2016 01:02 PM PDT

My mom little cousin grandma and i live together. My uncle moves in unexpectantly (he lives off woman &and cheats and abuses them and uses them hes awful) My grandma loves him hes her favorite bcus he kinda made her hes always yelling and he honestly needs help! But anyways his dad is my little cousins uncle. Yesterday he made my little cousin rake the leaves after my grandma cousin and mom came home. He was yelling at him the whole time!Like Geez hes only 9!(neighbors probably heard)They come in and he starts yelling at him calling him a fag and a girl and saying hes a mistake and hitting him for no reason.He was takin all his stress out on his son. And my grandma is scared of my uncle but she would never want anything to happen to him.(btw my mom was asleep) so after that he came up and said i dont wanna be here my dads right im a mistake and that made me tear up.I tried to comfort him. (my little cousin isnt homosexual hes straight) My uncle is my little cousins dad im sorry

Question: Someone close to me has died, should I quit my job and be with my family for the holidays?

Posted: 26 Sep 2016 12:51 PM PDT

A little over a week ago someone I was very close to, and my only family member that lived in the same town as me, died. I watched them die in the hospital. I was holding their hand. And I'm still a mess from it and need more time off. My job is very strict. You only get 3 paid days bereavement. I took an additional 3 personal call off days before their death because the doctor said they wouldn't survive and I didn't want to leave their side. I've been back to work but I don't want to be there, and if I call off again, I'll get fired. My mom lives 1,000 miles away, and since the holidays are coming up, I don't think I can deal with this. Although I live with my boyfriend (who, by the way, said he'd take care of our rent/other bills by himself if I wanted to quit for a couple months), I need family. I was thinking of quitting my job before Thanksgiving, and spending Thanksgiving till after Christmas with my family, and then come back to get another job. I have over 10K saved up, and the only expense I have to worry about is my car payment and insurance which is a combined 370 dollars a month, and phone payment which is only 45 dollars a month. My boyfriend said he'd take care of everything else. Should I do it? Quit?

Question: Why is my mother so hateful nearly all of the time?

Posted: 26 Sep 2016 12:46 PM PDT

My mom has three different types of behavior where I'm concerned. 1- We get along, talk about our days, and I appreciate that we're actually a lot alike. She seems interested in my life and my opinions. Obviously the best, and also the least frequent. Happens maybe once or twice a week for about an hour, usually when my stepfather is not there. 2- She's in a good mood, and mocking. She makes fun of almost everything I say and do, usually treating me like a foolish kid. She frequently talks about how lazy/self-absorbed/vain I am. All the while, she's smiling and laughing and seems to have no idea how worthless she's making me feel. This usually happens while my stepfather is home; he often does the same. 3- She's in a bad mood, and cruel. As soon as I get home, she'll find an excuse to start insulting me. She says that I'm rude and ungrateful, that I am a constant source of conflict and discord. This lasts for about five minutes or so until she either tells me to not say another word or to go to my room and stay there. This usually happens when my stepfather is not home, and is the most common. For some background info, I am sixteen and a girl. I'm a straight A student taking all honors and AP, I'm involved in clubs, and I play a sport. I've never done drugs; never drank; never stayed out late partying; never had an STD/pregnancy scare. I feel like the way she treats me is really shitty; she lowers my self esteem and often makes me cry. What do I do?

Question: If I do things that way to My mother she will get angry if she gets angry I'll get angry I will complain the reason about why I am doing it?

Posted: 26 Sep 2016 12:17 PM PDT

Question: How do I tell my parents if they don't change I will leave...?

Posted: 26 Sep 2016 12:12 PM PDT

My home life is very priveleged compared to many. I am and will always be thankful, but just getting items in the place of actual love isn't helping. My grandmother seems to be drinking again. My uncle is bipolar, he gets drunk (7-10) beers a day. He yells at me, calls me names, then the next day buys me something in place of what he called me. My other uncle is a complete alcoholic. He drinks every single day, non stop. Never seen a day he's been sober. Ever. I've been living here for 8 years since my mom died in '08. I want to tell them if they don't stop, I'm going to leave. I'll talk to other family members to stay with them, but I don't know how. I'm scared.

Question: Is this parental neglect?

Posted: 26 Sep 2016 12:04 PM PDT

Is it parental neglect to leave a 15 year old at home for weeks by herself while the mom goes out of state to visit her boyfriend. She leaves to daughter with plenty of money and food but there is no one at home watching her besides her brother who is 18 but is rarely home because he is in college and works. The 15 year old is struggling with school and no one is helping her.

Question: My mum is blaming me for something I didn't do? Help!?

Posted: 26 Sep 2016 11:50 AM PDT

Hi, so today I was going to the shop but last minute my mum decided it was too late and that i can go tomorrow. Of course I got annoyed and on the way home I didn't say anything. An hour later she goes to the donation box about 3 minutes away and says she has to throw some stuff. I shower and she comes back. While I'm in the shower she knocks on my door and blames me for spilling the soap water all over the dishes. I of course say no because I didn't do it and she asks my siblings and they all say they didn't do it either. She now thinks that I was the one who did it because she wouldn't let me go to the shop. I have a feeling it was my younger sister but I don't wanna tell on her. What do I do?

Question: Can i get my dad arrested for transferring (deleting) my favorite pokemon?

Posted: 26 Sep 2016 11:45 AM PDT

so i have a Lapras on pokemon go. level 1409. I walked 10km to get him. and my dad deleted him. he transeferred him to the professor. using pokemon as punishment is disgusting &emotional abuse. its just cuz my dads mad i didnt go to school today. i stayed in bed til like 11am cuz i was tired and then my mom yelled at me to go to school. i said no and stayed home. so my dads all pissed. said i took advantage of the fact he wasnt there & hes mad i didnt listen to my mom when she tryed to wake me up & when she toad me to go. but school isnt compulsory past age 16 where i live. im 16 so i dont have to go. its a choice. i chose not to today. i will only get kicked out of my school if my attendnce goes below 95.. it hasnt! but he just say hes not even going there and if i want to start that sh-t then i can get out of his house. see how mean he is? he knows i have nowhere else to live. im so upset about my lapras. i have cried for like an hour. cuz i will probly never get enother lapras. he wont give my phone back either. my grandma even toad him to lighten up, but he said from age 16 to 21 is when im most likely to fck up badly so if anything he should be more tough. hes crazy if he thinks hes gonna be telling me what to do when im 21. i just want my fcking lapras back but hes gone for good. i really do hate my dad so much i want him arrested. im not going to school tomorrow either. he can delete a pokemon for every day i dont go if he likes. i dont care since my lapras is gone and when i cried in front of him about my lapras, he got mad. well thats the reaction he wanted or he wouldnt have done it!! and he yelled at me that i should be grateful im even alive. that sounds like a death threat. and even my mom must have agreed cuz she said to me that my dad had a bad day at work. so he can take his bad moods out on me? and when i said im not going to school he said i am cuz he'll drag me there like a baby, in front of all my friends and teachers i wish id never taught my little sister how to play pokemon go. cuz then she wouldnt of been able to show my dad how a 30 year old male pokemon go player would of cried if someone transferred his lapras! its a lapras! they can hold poke gyms and beat gyms EASY

Question: How do I handle my 17yr old daughter who s lying to her dad about having a boyfriend? She told me about it but I feel her dad needs to know.?

Posted: 26 Sep 2016 11:45 AM PDT

Question: My daughter broke a light fixture and tried to hide it, punishment?

Posted: 26 Sep 2016 11:39 AM PDT

She actually broke the entire light fixture to our only vanity in our only bathroom. I know it was her because I heard a loud bang last night when she was throwing a temper tantrum. She hid it all morning as she brushed her teeth and got ready for school. She came back home from school and told me she didn't know it was broken and didn't do anything. No bulbs work in any fixtures so it was her. Punishment?

Question: Would you include a adult child in a Will and as a beneficiary if she refuses to talk to you or have anything to do with you?

Posted: 26 Sep 2016 11:37 AM PDT

I am recently divorced, but there was 2 year period of no/disintegrating relationship and then a year of going through a divorce. One of the children is 21 and doesn't do anything but lay around the house (dropped out of community college years ago). During this break up period she decided she hated me, even though there is really no reason for it - other than siding with her mother who is completely enabling of this behavior. Now that the divorce is final I am redoing my will, changing beneficiaries on insurance and accounts. I am torn about including her. At first I thought I would, but the more I think about it, the more I am against it. She is an adult and made her choices. She should live with them. (I have reached out to her several times only to be ignored.) I don't see it as revenge. I am more hurt than angry. As I said, at first I thought there was no question about including her. But the more I've thought about it the more I feel she isn't deserving of a financial windfall from my estate if she thinks I am such a horrible person. I am not giving up on her, but I am not going to bend over backwards or coddle her like I might if she was a child. She is an adult. I have made my gestures and efforts, and now I am moving on with my life.

Question: Why is it cute when babies fart but disgusting when I did it?

Posted: 26 Sep 2016 11:37 AM PDT

I'm using my sister's account (she doesn't know). Anyways, I'm 10 years old. I have new twin it it a boy and a girl and they are 5 weeks old. They get all the attention and when something happens, us older kids get the blame. When the twins farted, mom and dad thought it was cute but when I accidently farted mom said Jessica (me) that is disgusting! My dad said, you better get yourself to the bathroom right now young lady. We should not have to tell you and you know better. Why was it cute when they did it and why did I get yelled at? My mom was like Jessie can't you see we are busy here? Go away Why do babies get away with everything?

Question: What do you make of this?

Posted: 26 Sep 2016 11:24 AM PDT

I'm 19 years old barely graduated from high school and i still don't know what i want to do with my life. My mom is pressuring me to find a job so i can help her pay pills. My dad is an ex convict with a criminal record, he sits around all day smoking and drinking beer and he can't find a job. So basically I'm the one who has to find a job but it's hard to because of my social anxiety. My parents are overprotective af, i can't even go for a 30 minute walk without my mom calling my phone to see where i am.

Question: Resenting my stepson for his behavior - he just won't listen.?

Posted: 26 Sep 2016 11:03 AM PDT

My 13 year old stepson (I've been married to his dad for 2 years) is a great kid. Friendly, smart, and loving. He really is a dream kid. I don't have any children, so I'm glad I was blessed with a great stepkid. However, he has behaviors that really irk me and I'm not quite sure how to deal with it. These bother his dad too, so I'm not alone in thinking this way. We have 50/50 custody with his mom, so he is at our house for half the week. It seems like on transition days, his behavior is worse. My husband has told me that his parenting style differs from the mom's and I think that's why he's like this. The problem is that the 13 year old thinks he's an adult- and acts like he is equal to us. He disrespects us by just doing whatever he wants and not listening. When he is made to comply with something we ask of him, he gets huffy-puffy and acts like a brat. Never acting out, just acting like he is very inconvenienced and irritated. Per his dad, he's been like this his whole life but it was better when he was married to his mom, because he was the primary parent and is fairly rigid. The mom is not rigid at all and he's left to his own devices for days on end. Usually he chooses to play video games the whole time, and he doesn't have a set bedtime. If we tell him to do something, he won't answer right away, like he didn't hear us. He will then say "well, I'm going to do this". Completely disregarding what we asked of him. How can we make him act more respectful? @consuela, Well thank you very much for your extremely insightful and kind words! However, these are facts and are not variables. Please consider that when answering other people's questions in the future.

Question: How do I tell my parents about my parents about my grades.?

Posted: 26 Sep 2016 10:29 AM PDT

I had straight A's in the beginning of the quarter. So I thought I'd surprise my parents by telling at the end of the quarter, so when ever they ask me what my grades are I tell them that they haven't put them in yet. We use an online system. Now, my grades are going down and I'm panicking. What do I do?

Question: My boyfriends brother kissed me while he was drunk....?

Posted: 26 Sep 2016 10:20 AM PDT

I didnt kiss back and I told him I was going to tell him. He asked me not to because he said it would kill him. So I didnt. I knew we were drunk. They are really close they share a flat. However, I think I should tell him. But it was like 5 weeks ago when I was in New Zealand visiting him. Now I feel like he is going to think I was hiding it for some reason.

Question: How do I convince my mom to let me get a wallaby?

Posted: 26 Sep 2016 10:19 AM PDT

So my mom bought this barn in castle rock colorado. She's really stressed out because the grand opening is this friday. I have been working there and decided to get something and want a wallaby. The conditions at the barn seem right for it, but my mom doesn't want me to get one but i don't know why?

Question: My mom is codependent on me. Help!?

Posted: 26 Sep 2016 10:18 AM PDT

Question: My mom used me and my brother as her therapist when we were children and gets mad when we mention it now?

Posted: 26 Sep 2016 10:04 AM PDT

Make a long complicated story short, my mom used to use me and my brother like therapists and tell us EVERYTHING even things we didn't know about at that age. I was 10 my brother was almost 13. She used to tell us that our dad had an affair and their relationship history. How he still wanted to have sex with her even though they were separated and he had a new girlfriend, to name a few. No details spared. I was 10. She used to manipulate us to get to my dad all the time. There's much more to this but she gets angry when now as adults (27&30) my brother and myself bring it up and ask what she was thinking? It scared us both as children and she expects us not to mention it ever again? What is the best way to handle this? My brother and myself have been in years of therapy since We hardly ever bring it up. When we mention how he cheated on her (they are still married) she gets angry but we would not have known if she hadn't told us. Caroline- she DOES do that ALL THE TIME. I don't know how you can assume that from so little information. She brings up the past constantly about things we did as children.

Question: My mother is as addicted to her anger at my alcoholic Dad as my Dad is to alcohol. How do I get my mother to see her anger hurts me more?

Posted: 26 Sep 2016 09:37 AM PDT

Talking to her has not worked, she just goes back to blaming my Dad and dumping on me for seeing my Dad. She is divorced from him. I don't mind his drinking that much, it is my mother's anger that I mind.

Question: How to change my lifestyle as a 14 year old?

Posted: 26 Sep 2016 09:26 AM PDT

Hi, so recently i've been feeling so anxious day and night for no reason. I constantly feel that "butterfly" sensation and have to use the bathroom way too much and too often. I shake and I sweat almost constantly and it's getting to the point where I'm scared of even talking to my family. I'm constantly scared A little back story is that when I was 6, my mother passed as did my brother, and my sister was removed from the home. I was moved into a home with 1. my grandmother, who was drinking almost daily to the point where she couldn't stand up right and constantly vomited all over my bed, the floor, everything. I guess drinking was a way to deal with the loss of her daughter. 2. An uncle who is always on edge, you can't speak to him without him freaking out and SCREAMING. Literally SCREAMING at you and saying how much you "hate" him and stuff. He also is constantly drunk and only sober when he has to go to work. 3. A bipolar uncle, he drinks way too much and constantly yells at me and others for no reason at all. ---- I still live at this house and I am scared to ask for help or to call dfcs because 1. The families are almost always mean 2. I'm homeschooled, my parents didn't want me going to the high school I was zoned for so they homeschooled me, which has calmed my anxiety a little bit.School seems terrifying with my anxiety. I dont know what to do right now.. Should i reach out for help? Anyone have suggestions....? thanks.

Question: My mom gets upset when I reject her suggestions for my daughter, what can I do?

Posted: 26 Sep 2016 09:14 AM PDT

My mom gets upset at my choices for my daughter, things like what foods to feed her, my baby is 7 months and my mom gets upset that I am strictly following her doctor's suggested diet for her age. Today she got even more upset when she mentioned taking her to see Santa at the mall, and I told her that I'm really not fond of the idea of Santa or the idea of Christmas as a holiday and I haven't been celebrating Christmas for years its not religious it's just pointless to me and she knows this. I have stated that if she wants to buy something for my baby that she is free to. I did try to compromise with her about it told her that we could dress my baby up like a reindeer and have pictures taken but she wasn't satisfied with that and got even more upset. It seems that she wants to be in control of how I raise my child, I'm not keen on her parenting methods, heck I was raised by her and I'm not saying she was horrible but I have learned how not to raise my daughter. I'm an adult and how my husband and I raise our child isn't really her business as long as I instill respect for others and kindness. For those who say she is just trying to help, its like she's aiming for a redo and like I previously stated she wasn't the best parent nor was she the worst, I just don't need someone getting angry every time I don't do something their way

Question: My niece is grounded, needs more grounding??

Posted: 26 Sep 2016 08:52 AM PDT

2 months now i live with my brother and his son,Tim(he is14). Well 3 days ago my niece got caught bulying a girl online. He was calling the girl names like "*****'' ''slut'. And messages like "**** u'' ''oh just die''. Well when my brother learnt about this(checked his fb) he ground him. He cant go online, has his phone, watch tv, go out, and he has a lot of chores and essays to wirtte. The only prob?? He will be grounded only for 1 week. That means untill Firday. I mean dont you guys think that his punishment is really short?? I think i have to talk to my brother. my niece has to be more grounded right? if yeah how long? nephew* sorry:(

Question: How can I love my grandchild?

Posted: 26 Sep 2016 08:50 AM PDT

I am a recent grandmother. About a year ago a burglar broke into my daughter's apartment, robbed her, and sexually assaulted her. My daughter conceived that night. She decided she did not want to terminate the pregnancy and went on to have the child. The father/assailant was caught and convicted on unlawful entering, robbery, rape, etc. Now my grandchild has no father. As you can imagine, this is a very trying time for me. I am trying to be strong for both my daughter and my grandchild, but, everytime I think or see my grandchild I can't help but think of the pain my family has been through over it. At the same time, I cannot fault a newborn child for the wrongs of one man. Please help. Struggling to cope.

Question: My1month baby just had surgery .MIL asked at hosp. if I had plan for my husband's bday,in 2days.she plans to celebrate.Is this appropriate?

Posted: 26 Sep 2016 08:48 AM PDT

Question: My mother calls my sister the queen and degrades me and talks like I am an embarrassment, how can I get her to like me?

Posted: 26 Sep 2016 08:47 AM PDT

I have no Dad because he was embarrassed of me my mother said. He left when I was a baby. I feel bad about myself because of all this

Question: My mother likes to use me as a pawn with her divorce at Thanksgiving and Christmas and this hurts, how do I cope with this?

Posted: 26 Sep 2016 08:47 AM PDT

@Emaine M----How?

Question: My mother died. I am only 21. My brother is asking for power to pay her bills. She had no will. How can I ensure my brother gives me half?

Posted: 26 Sep 2016 08:46 AM PDT

No will and I have decided to not sign renunciation ...to keep things honest!

Question: I accidentally dropped my tv in my refrigerator what will I tell my mom when she gets home?

Posted: 26 Sep 2016 07:53 AM PDT

Question: The misfit of the family?

Posted: 26 Sep 2016 06:59 AM PDT

I feel bad because I just can't fit in with my own family. I want to get together with them and be more of a family because I know how important family is. I just planned a dinner at a restaurant last night for a get together with a lot of my relatives and it was ok I guess but they like putting me on the spot about things and making me uncomfortable. Then they enjoy sitting around telling dirty gross jokes when were trying to eat. They're very serious bar people. They go to bars every night and are major alcoholics. Most of the people in my family who have died were alcohol related deaths. I don't drink or tell jokes like that. They don't have normal conversations and I feel out of place. They always make me feel like i'm not fun or boring. My siblings are getting divorced from their husbands and are dating new people which they brought and of course they like to make sure they know i'm the freak of the family when I don't even do anything or I just ask a question of how they are. It's like a bother everybody because I don't act like them so I ended up not saying very much last night because I don't want them to be annoyed when I talk. They all think of me as the goodie goodie. Which I am I guess... A lot of these people are getting older and I want to be with them but how can I?

Question: I really hate my in laws. Is this normal?

Posted: 26 Sep 2016 06:24 AM PDT

I hate being around my in laws. Whenever I am with them I feel like punching them in the face. My husband is close to his father so we see him the most and honestly I just want to shoot him. I told my husband that we should only spend time with my family because I can't get along with his family. Plus my family lives in our city while his lives an hour away. It is a pain for me to sit in a car for that long. I told my husband and he is very upset with me. Is there a way I can convince him to stop seeing his family?

Question: Sacrifices for my daughter or happiness?

Posted: 26 Sep 2016 05:50 AM PDT

Okay so I have a boyfriend who treats me great !!! He makes me pretty happy but sometimes he shuts me out for half a day and sometimes even a full day ... hes a virgo though so I heard that was normal? ... And on the other hand I have my daughter's father who wants to try and work things out but my problem is he is verbally abusive and I had enough but he says hes willing to try and change to make our family happy. My daughter misses him but I'm not sure how long this "change" will last. Hes crying and telling mutual friends to try to reason with me even though I don't wanna lose myself again but I don't know what to do at this point ... HELP?

Question: Why do some people don't wish anyone well?

Posted: 26 Sep 2016 05:49 AM PDT

I personally met one woman who seemed to be a misanthrope. She seemed abnormal, because one time she said to me" Have u ever seen a man eat breast meat and went yum yum yummy?"

Question: My little brother is mental what should I do?

Posted: 26 Sep 2016 05:37 AM PDT

So I have a 10 year old brother with downs syndrome, my parents don't treat him right, he has a lock on his bedroom door so he can't go wondering around the house at night. It's happened before where he'd come into my room while I'm sleeping and stare at me in the dark. We walk him every day and feed him well, but he doesn't feel like part of the family, he feels like a burden and a pet. he is violent towards my frail mother and is quite muscular and broad for his age(more than me and I'm 15) when my dad isn't home if he gets violent and starts hitting my mother we both have to wrestle him down and subdue him. It's giving me depression, I'm scared of him I don't know what to do, how do I deal with this?

Question: My sister bet me $20 to wear a chinese finger trap on my nose to school for 1 weeks. I'm in 6th grade. It's been2days and I got in trouble.?

Posted: 26 Sep 2016 05:25 AM PDT

Is it worth it? to continue?

Question: Why is she so rude?

Posted: 26 Sep 2016 05:16 AM PDT

I'm 40, my husband is 45. We have 4 children, a 24 year old, 13 year old, 3 and 5 year old. I hired this babysitter back in March, but I fired her in June because I couldn't take it anymore, after she left for the day my kids the ones she watched my 3 and 5 year old, would act like little brats, but when she was there with them they'd act calm and sweet. She is 17 or 18 I really don't know or care at this point. I fired her because of the way my children acted when she was not there. I have not had a sitter since June when she left, no one wants to work for the pay that I gave her. They say it is not enough. But it is. My 5 year old pooped on the floor, in her care once. I was upstairs, I was always upstairs studying when I have babysitters. She was my 2nd babysitter we ever had for them. When he did that, she came up and told me. I cussed at her. She was not in the restroom at our house with him, he is 5 years old!!!!!! My son was laughing and told me he had done it as a joke, the stupid babysitter refused to pick it up and said he never does that, and that he is old enough to clean it up himself. And that she refuses to touch poop, unless I give her gloves . I refused to give her any. I was not mad at my son. I hugged him and told him it is alright. So, I fired her right on the spot after cussing her out, and telling her she will never get another job as a babysitter, I will be sure of that by giving her number out and telling others how horrible she is. Why is she so rude? I had her work 25 to 30 hours weekly, I'm mad at myself, because I would pay her $120 a week when really I only wanted to give her $10 bucks only for the whole week she worked.

Question: How to get in touch with parents after marriage?

Posted: 26 Sep 2016 05:01 AM PDT

Question: Im 17, how do I stop smoking and drinking? I want to stop and have a vision and like when I was a kid.?

Posted: 26 Sep 2016 04:59 AM PDT

I started when I was 15, smoking weed, cigarettes, eat edibles, drink beer, n hard liquor. Everyday i have to do something or else I'm all depressed. Can't go sober, marijuana is an escape for me and I think I've escaped reality too many times. I always had problems and I felt like drinking n smoking helped them but they don't get rid of them. I want to switch up my life again, I want to have a vision like I did when I was younger. I'm hanging with bangers at school n out. I can't ditch them cause, you know. But i want a good future again, I want to change. I have no supervision wherever I go. At my place my parents are never home. Mother is always at her gfs n my step father is out all the time. So am I but I'm just with homies, they tell me to do my homework and do good in school so I can graduate and get a decent job like they are. But I just don't see it, I can see myself as a homeless on the streets begging for money just so I can get my hands on some bud or liquor. I don't want to accomplish anything, I don't see the point in it. I felt like I didn't have a choice, like fate lead my path to this and I can't change it. How do I have a vision again in my life, how do I make so I have a goal to reach instead of throwing my life away. If I continue I know Ima die at an early age. Ever since I got arrested I never thought or been the same again, I think differently now. I have court in November, feel like everything is going bad. Tips r advice?

Question: My mother likes to use me as a pawn with her divorce at Thanksgiving and Christmas and this hurts, how do I cope with this?

Posted: 26 Sep 2016 04:57 AM PDT

Question: How do I get my mother to stop stealing my clothes and giving them to my sister who she calls the queen?

Posted: 26 Sep 2016 04:50 AM PDT

Question: How do I get over my fear that one screw up and I will be rejected by family forever?

Posted: 26 Sep 2016 04:49 AM PDT

So my Dad was a really severe alcoholic and my mother was equally addicted to her bitterness towards him. As a result she wouldn't let us see him or his family when I was a kid. When I got be a teenager I started seeing him and broke free of my mother's addiction to her anger at him. As I got close to him I saw he wasn't drinking as severely as I thought (he was getting better). Long story short over 15 years he recovered. I got close to him and his family and tried hard to make up for not being there for the 8 years my mother alienated me. Now as an adult I am close to him and his family (lost my Dad to cancer one year ago) but I have this constant fear that if I mess up I will be rejected again like I thought I had been as a kid. For a time I was trying to hard and as a result I got intrusive,kind of stalkish. My Dad didn't mind but extended family was uncomfortable. I am better at that now but might have a reputation of it. So how do I get over this fear that one strike your out is hanging over my head? A fear of a sword of democles? Only once has anyone ever shown any anger at me in 15 years (maybe twice)? Fear of rejection like I felt as a kid is the buttom line I am having. I asked yesterday but got vague answers, asking one more time

Question: My brother's (31) girlfriend (22) treats him horribly in front of me.?

Posted: 26 Sep 2016 04:46 AM PDT

She screams, shouts and calls him awful names and he just stands there and says nothing. She is a very brash person and my family and I are not very fond of her, but I do try. Recently she screamed at me in front of him because she was "stressed", her words to me were "if you don't shut the **** up, I swear to god I will ******* slap you across the face", this was at my grandmother's 85th birthday, when we were setting up and she could not untangle balloons and I told her not to stress. I basically told her she wouldn't be breathing long enough to get the chance to ever speak to me like that again and I ignored her for the night. She did apologise to me the next day and I accepted and we got on well again after that but recently my brother visited me on his own and I told him that I did not like the way she speaks to him in front of me or the way she tried to speak to me. I never said anything bad about his gf and just said he needs to stand up to her a bit more. I thought this conversation was between just us but he went straight to her and told her what I said. Now she hates me apparently and he has actually taken her side and hates me now too. I'm 26 (F) and this is just all too childish for me. I am just leaving them to it but I am not sure how to go forward in the future if they message me or contact me again. Any advice would be great! Thanks :)

Question: What does it mean to be used as a pawn in a divorce (I am the son of divorced parents)?

Posted: 26 Sep 2016 04:30 AM PDT