Family: Question: Is my mother and sister an attention- drama queens? We have big families and whenever someone dies they post it on Facebook and twitter?

Question: Is my mother and sister an attention- drama queens? We have big families and whenever someone dies they post it on Facebook and twitter?

Posted: 25 Sep 2016 02:06 PM PDT

They post RIP messages as soon as they learn of the death and the family on my mother's side has asked them not to until after the funeral so they have time to digest. Are the two women seeking attention by doing this? What is to be gained by writing "RIP Pa, he died this morning" a few hours after a uncle dies?

Question: My sister tells me she was raped, how do I know if she is lying or not?

Posted: 25 Sep 2016 02:04 PM PDT

She says it happened when she was only nine and is coming out about it now. She failed in high school with the kind of friends she was around and did not make the best grades so we don't trust her. That said lying has never been a problem. She said she came out now because the man who she claims did it died (an ex-husband of an aunt). I don't believe her based on her bad friends in high school and her grades. Should I believe her? She is 41 now but we have little to do with her due to the high school age conduct.

Question: What are my grandpa's wife's grandchildren relationship with me called? Cousins?

Posted: 25 Sep 2016 01:55 PM PDT

My grandpa has a daughter with a different grandma than mine. What does that make her and her grand kids to me? Cousins? Cousins once removed?...?

Question: MY DAD SLAPPED MY MOM YESTERDAY AND SHE'S MAD AT ME FOR CALLING CHILD SERVICES. HELP?!?

Posted: 25 Sep 2016 01:50 PM PDT

Should I lie and say I made it up? I don't want to go to Foster Care. I didn't know what to do. I just felt bad for my mom. It's not the first time my dad hit her. I'm only 15. Idk what to do. My mom won't talk to me.

Question: My siblings like each other more than me?

Posted: 25 Sep 2016 01:38 PM PDT

There are three kids in my family. My little sister (12), me (female,16), and my eldest brother (18). My brother is gone at college now, but nothing has really changed at home. My siblings like each other more than me. My little sister and I get along well, but she doesn't respect me. And she isn't very good at hiding her favor for my older brother. Even though I help her with her school work, I cook for her, I clean up after her, I play with her, and I'm generally very patient with her. She tries bossing me around and snaps at me, but she's always so nice and sweet to my brother. He didn't spent very much time with her even when he was home, but she really enjoyed the time they did spend together (which isn't a bad thing, its really sweet). It just bugs me that I do more for her and she doesn't realize it. As for my brother, I can tell he prefers my little sister over me. I would do my best to gain his approval, and tried to spend time with him when he was still home. He doesn't like shopping alone, so I would go with him because he asked me to (He liked my opinion on guy clothes). I would cook him dinner after he would come home late after work, and would help him with things such laundry and hemming his jeans because he was busy with school. And I was always nice to him. I try my best not to let it bug me, but those two text more than I do now that he's gone, and its always hurt my feelings. Why is it like this? How do I not let it bug me?

Question: Should I tell his family and girlfriend that he raped me?

Posted: 25 Sep 2016 01:30 PM PDT

There's this guy I knew at school and he was a real troublemaker and a low life, now he's 25 with a gf and they recently had a baby, everyone's praising him, his family think he's so nice, but be is bad around them too but they don't know he's this bad. Because when we were 16 he raped me and I didn't tell anyone.

Question: Wife irritated when chores need doing?

Posted: 25 Sep 2016 01:18 PM PDT

Last time she got pushy i sat on the couch in sweat pants playing Madden In order to make a point. I told her I would get it done but every time she mentions get this done or get that done. i put it off even more. How can i get her to realize I WILL get it done just not at her whim. I don't remember the part in my vows that said hop to when she hints to me the grass getting a little long.

Question: I want to disown my sister but i am worried that she will stop me from seeing my niece. I don t know what to do.?

Posted: 25 Sep 2016 01:17 PM PDT

Question: Can i get my dad arrested for grounding me for 2 weeks? this is like false imprisonment?

Posted: 25 Sep 2016 01:10 PM PDT

i think this is possibly the longest time hes ever grounded me for. and its for a really stupid reason. cuz he wouldnt let me and my little sister go look for pokemon in the city. we only live on the outskirts, like 6 miles away from the main center. he thought i would lose my sister. but i wouldnt. we was just gonna get the bus which is easy. the only way id lose her is on the train. cuz you got like 2 minutes for a huge crowd to get on/off before it pulls away with you trapped inside, staring at your family on the platform (its happened to me). so i even thought ahead of how not to lose her! but still he wouldnt trust me. so we packed some stuff and decided to run away. ovizly it wasnt a serious attempt. i knew we'd be back home in like 4 hours cuz i like home comforts such as pizza and tv. but he treated it so seriosly. just cuz we texted him that we werent ever coming back. he knew we were gonna come back! but he send us all these text threats and calls (which is evidence for police). then when we came back he grounded me and he yelled at my sister and made her cry which is child abuse. i dont think my sister would testify in court since she kiss my dads butt and still even kissing his butt now. but still i would like an arrest and i have phone evidence & also he threatened me to my face and hes taken my phone so i cant play pokemon. i would rather he made good on his violence threats than take my pokemons. and he threatened to transfer my lapras pokemon to the professor for candy grinding. i walked 10k to hatch that lapras. i even toad him if he transfer my lapras im going to suicide and he just rolled his eyes and said i have such a privileged life if losing a pokemon is the thing that could drive me to suicide. well its not like he has a hard life!!

Question: How to convince my parents to let me stay home?

Posted: 25 Sep 2016 01:09 PM PDT

I made the mistake in forgetting of a huge project that I will be unable to finish even if I stay up all night. I also have 3 AP tests, as well as another 2 packets. I know it was my responsibility and I should face the consequences, but I REALLY don't think that going to school and failing everything is really "facing the consequence", but rather just giving up. How can I convince my strict, asian parents to let me stay home for just one day so I don't fail in those 3 classes after a day of testing?

Question: Was your fist kiss with your first bf/gf?

Posted: 25 Sep 2016 01:01 PM PDT

Question: Can my mom hit me?

Posted: 25 Sep 2016 12:56 PM PDT

Whenever I talk back my mom hits me, pulls my hair, or kicks me. It started with her using a belt or book but now it has gotten worse. She tells me she can punish me whatever way she wants because she is the parent and I deserve it, and I m starting to think I do because I talk back a lot. My step dad also calls me names and throws things at me and says disgustingly hurtful things. I m just confused at everything right now and can t find my answers but am too afraid to ask an adult or my friends.

Question: How do I get my mother not to flip and give me grief about spending Christmas with my Dad this year?

Posted: 25 Sep 2016 12:37 PM PDT

I have trauma from all the years my mother alienated me from my Dad and his family as a kid after my parents divorced (she was mad about the divorce). So as a young adult I go do Christmas with my Dad now and see my mother in the middle of the day. I do individual visits to my mothers family around Christmas Day. The big Christmas celebration I end up missing since I am with my Dad and his family. My mother and her mother (my maternal grandmother) get upset by this. My mother especially because she still has deep hatred for my Dad though she denies it (I can tell by how she resents it whenever she finds out I am seeing him). So I am 24 and living on my own. I know the usual conflict of Christmas will come. It is a trauma to me of all the years I felt pain of only see one side of the family and my mother telling me only she loved us and our Dad didn't love us because he didn't fight for us in court (while he should have she could have allowed us to go see him as he asked her if he could, just didn't go to court). So how can I make Christmas less painful this year? I hate the holidays for this reason. I will be doing Thanksgiving with my mother to make it equal but that is not enough for her. I also get grief from my grandmother on my mother's side who is very loving but when it comes to holidays never realizes people have two sides to their families (her kids are not permitted to rotate on holidays). Lastly what I fear is my Dad who does not like conflict, the reason he did not take her to court for holiday visits after she divorced him, will tell me "just go do as your Mom says" and then I will miss out on his families Christmas. I have all my Christmas memories on my mother's side from when little, now it is time for my Dad's side.

Question: How do I get my brother to stop running around cursing like an animal at my mother?

Posted: 25 Sep 2016 12:37 PM PDT

@whatdoiknow----It is not me doing it but my brother

Question: What is wrong with my parents?

Posted: 25 Sep 2016 12:25 PM PDT

I am an 18 year old teenage boy and I didn't do well at the store. My mom said that working on Friday is not working well with me, and I really disagree with her. She also said she would take my phone away. I so f**king hate them right now. My dad got mad and went outside. I really wish I could move out but I can't afford to. I'm afraid I'm going to lose my job and I wish my grandpa could help me!

Question: My mum swears, lies and has anger fits. Help!?

Posted: 25 Sep 2016 12:18 PM PDT

I m 13 years old. I live with my stepdad (who s a nice person but smokes and drinks a fair amount) and my mother. I love my mum, as we all do. But she treats me and my 4 siblings, aged 2,3,7 and 9, like crap. She swears at us, she has random anger fits where she just screams at the top of her lungs for a few seconds before swearing at us. She drinks a lot but I don t know how much that affects her. She smokes a lot and has no concept of hygiene. Her teeth are disgusting, black and yellow. She never tells my siblings to brush their teeth or have a shower and when I ask her why she says "because they need to be independent," or, "They should do it themselves". I understand that my 9 year old brother should be more independent but asking that of a 7 year old and younger is stupid. I don t know what to do and I don t want to report it because I love my mum and couldn t stand to see her being jailed or taken away. Help. Please.

Question: How do I get over my fear that one screw up and I will be rejected by family forever?

Posted: 25 Sep 2016 11:56 AM PDT

So my Dad was a really severe alcoholic and my mother was equally addicted to her bitterness towards him. As a result she wouldn't let us see him or his family when I was a kid. When I got be a teenager I started seeing him and broke free of my mother's addiction to her anger at him. As I got close to him I saw he wasn't drinking as severely as I thought (he was getting better). Long story short over 15 years he recovered. I got close to him and his family and tried hard to make up for not being there for the 8 years my mother alienated me. Now as an adult I am close to him and his family (lost my Dad to cancer one year ago) but I have this constant fear that if I mess up I will be rejected again like I thought I had been as a kid. For a time I was trying to hard and as a result I got intrusive,kind of stalkish. My Dad didn't mind but extended family was uncomfortable. I am better at that now but might have a reputation of it. So how do I get over this fear that one strike your out is hanging over my head? A fear of a sword of democles? Only once has anyone ever shown any anger at me in 15 years (maybe twice)? Fear of rejection like I felt as a kid is the buttom line I am having. While my mother made a mistake (parental alienation) she says it was a protective thing. I think it was more she was protecting herself but I dont think she intended to hurt me.

Question: My brother is a drug addict. He has been sober since March. At what point to I begin trusting and forgiving him?

Posted: 25 Sep 2016 11:50 AM PDT

Right now I anticipate he will relapse. He has twice before, once with drugs. He still has other behavioral problems and is 23. So while I am nice to him I am not dancing and proclaiming him healed, I just say he is doing well but in my head know he will relapse. However, at what point to I actually accept, trust, and forgive with realizing he really is better? I don't want to be naive but I don't want to be labeling him an addict the rest of his life if he really does stay sober especially since he is only an on and off addict as of 4 years.

Question: I never had a Dad because he never wanted to be in my life. I feel ashamed because of this towards myself, is this normal?

Posted: 25 Sep 2016 11:47 AM PDT

No doubt I recognize my father is a bad guy, but I also feel shame at myself. Something was wrong with me as he parents his kids from his 2nd marriage but has only seen me twice and acts as though I am just some distant cousins kid he knew years ago (never seems to appreciate I am his child and he knows). So is it normal I feel shame towards myself for this?

Question: Boyfriend had an embarrassing moment. Should I say something?

Posted: 25 Sep 2016 11:30 AM PDT

Long story short, my hubby had an upset stomach the other night and he ended up having an accident in his pants and on the floor of the bathroom. He was in there cleaning it up for a long time and claimed that he threw up but....it wasn t throw up. Anyways I just let it go but part of me wanted to tell him that I would have helped him clean it up and there s no need to be embarrassed about it. I would have told him to go lay down and I would have taken care of the mess. But part of me wants to let him think I m oblivious because I don t want him to feel embarrassed about it. I want him to know that he can tell me anything and that I m here to help if he s sick but don t wanna ruin his ego. Would you say something or forget about it?

Question: Why is she so rude?

Posted: 25 Sep 2016 11:22 AM PDT

I'm 40, my husband is 45. We have 4 children, a 24 year old, a 13 year old, a 3 year old and 5 year old. I hired this babysitter back in March, but I fired her in June because I couldn't take it anymore, after she left for the day my kids the ones she watched the 3 and 5 year old, would act like little brats but when she was there with them, they'd act calm and sweet. She is 17 or 18 I really don't know or care at this point. I fired her because of the way my children acted while she was not there. My 5 year old pooped on the floor in her care once, I was upstairs studying. She told me, and I cussed at her. She was not in the restroom at our house with him, he is 5!!!!! My son had told me he did it as a joke, the stupid babysitter refused to pick it up saying that he never does this and she won't touch it without gloves, which I refused to give her. So I fired her right on the spot, after cussing her out and telling her she will never get another job as babysitter and I will be sure of that by giving her number out and telling people how horrible she is. Why is she so rude? She worked for me 25 hours a week in afternoons until late evenings, I only payed her $120 for 5 days of watching them, I really only wanted to pay her $10 only for the whole weeks though.

Question: This is my parents wedding day and I'm alone in home my brother go to work, what can i do for them ��?

Posted: 25 Sep 2016 11:00 AM PDT

Question: I heard my step dad and my mom having sex?

Posted: 25 Sep 2016 10:22 AM PDT

Question: Should I buy all my cousins an individual gift for Christmas (all 12 1st cousins on my mothers side and 13 living 1st cousins on Moms side)?

Posted: 25 Sep 2016 10:21 AM PDT

I say living because one cousin on my mother's side died in 2012. Also do I get gifts for the 5 1st cousins once removed (there are three kids of cousins on my Dad's side and two on my mother's side) Or can I just get one gift for the families? I am 23 years old and about middle of the ages of the cousins (half are older and half younger) a little more on the younger side on my father's side of the family. Most the family lives near where I do and it will be Christmas so soon.

Question: It's like my mom wants to keep me bound and stuck in the house all the time what should I do? I mean I want to experience things on my own?

Posted: 25 Sep 2016 10:18 AM PDT

Ok so my mom doesn't really want me to do anything I mean I'm 20 years old. She doesn't want me to get a job until I get a car but how am I supposed to get a car if I don't have a job. Then I told her well since I don't have a car right now I could just take the bus or something but she told me that it's too dangerous to ride the bus and she doesn't want me to do that. She still treats me like a little kid she doesn't care how old I get. Then one time I had mentioned to her about me moving out and getting my own apartment once I start working and she told me that I'm not going anywhere and that I should stay home for a while. I don't have any freedom to really do anything I want to do. I mean I love my mom don't get me wrong but it's just too much sometimes idk what to do.

Question: Am I a selfish teen?

Posted: 25 Sep 2016 10:14 AM PDT

I m a 15 year old teen, with divorced parents. Ever since my parents divorced, my mom wants me to stay with her. But I want to be with my dad. The reason is that my mom is always angry. She takes out her anger on my 10 year old brother. She calls him really bad things like dumb followed by the a-word, and she manipulated my brother into thinking my dad is a really bad person.

Question: My dad is taking me to work??!?

Posted: 25 Sep 2016 10:13 AM PDT

I m 13 years old boy my dad is taking me to work with him his job is decoration (handy) it is hard and gross and i hate it.. what should i do?? please help :(

Question: What are my chances of getting Chrohns disease?

Posted: 25 Sep 2016 09:54 AM PDT

My mother has had Chrohns disease since she was about 18 years old and I know its genetic so what are my chances of getting it ? My uncle (my mothers brother) also got it as a young adult and my great grandmother (my moms grandma) also died from it. My mom has almost died from Chrohns disease on multiple occasions so i feel like i should be prepared ... I also have two brothers who are adults but they havent gotten it, but they may in the future. I'm 14 years old and my mom doesnt like to answer questions about it so i thought that i should on here

Question: Can my brothers ex keep me from seeing my nephew?

Posted: 25 Sep 2016 09:34 AM PDT

My brothers ex won t let any of my family see my nephew. She says that it s because she hates my brother. My family and I have always been there for her and my nephew. But she says that. Because he s small enough to not know his father that she doesn t want the rest of us to be in his life. Basically she doesn t want him to know we exist and who the other side of his family is. My brother can t do anything about it because he got deported recently for not being legal here. So I was wondering if theirs anything we can do legally to get some rights to see him?

Question: What can I do to help my parents out after graduation?

Posted: 25 Sep 2016 09:34 AM PDT

So, I'm 22 and in nursing school, and yes, also still live with my parents. We are currently a lower middle-income family, and my family still supports me, so I can focus all of my attention to nursing school. My dad is ok with it since I'll be the first person to graduate in college, and he just hope I do better. I do feel quite guilty since I'm not really helping around financially, but I'm trying by buying all my books, personal stuff, and paying for my tuition(loans, gov. help, and summer job). My program is the 2nd most rigorous in my state, so focus is very important. So when I graduate, what is the best thing I should do to support or help them?

Question: How do I make my sister stop crying?

Posted: 25 Sep 2016 09:33 AM PDT

Ok so my parents have gone abroad for my dad's treatment. He needs a transplant. They won't be back until the next 3 months. My younger sister is staying with me while they're away since she couldn't go due to studies. Both of us are attached to them but she is more attached than I am and she keeps on crying all the time. It's been only 2 days since they went. I really don't know what to do to help her. I'm trying so hard to take care of her but she says she misses them a lot. Every time she cries it makes me cry too. How do I make her stop crying?

Question: My stepdad is sending my brother away. advice?

Posted: 25 Sep 2016 09:28 AM PDT

My stepdad is sending my brother to rehab but I dont get it cause him and my bro are really close like he just taught him how to drive and he is the coach for his basketball team (even though Vinny never even goes). And Vinny used to do drugs and then my stepdad helped him stop but noe after all that now hes sending him away. He really made me think he was like our dad and then goes and does this. Last time he just got him to stop on his own so theres just no reason for sending him away now I just dont get why he'd do this. He didnt even tried to help. Vinny went to him yesterday and told him he has been doing drugs again and the first answer is sending him away. Its not fair. I really hate him. We went through a lot of crap with our "real" dad and elliot really made us think we had a dad again and a good one. Especially vinny because he used to get hit by my real dad and everythign and now he has so many problems and gets in truble but elliot is the only person that can ever get through to him. Which makes it so much more messed up that he would do this to him especially when went to him himself and told him he relapsed and how horrible he felt about it and everything and he is still sending him away. I just dont know what to do at this point does anyone have any advice

Question: Why don't parents understand that "telling the teachers" isn't an option?

Posted: 25 Sep 2016 09:12 AM PDT

Kids will just retaliate even MORE. Bullies don't respond well the snitches.

Question: My sister is mean and is 24 years old. Is this normal for spoiled girls in their 20;s. She was Mom's favorite girl?

Posted: 25 Sep 2016 08:54 AM PDT

As a result of being the favorite she was spoiled and if she argued enough she got out of punishments and got what she wanted. My Dad warned my mother this would happen and it has (parents are divorced) My parents divorced years ago and so my sister went with my mother and I went with my Dad (the older sister was out on her own then and the older brother had died)

Question: My mother caused me pain as a child but not much now, I still feel the pain daily from the past, is this PTSD?

Posted: 25 Sep 2016 08:53 AM PDT

The pain was alienation from my Dad after they divorced. I have flashbacks to the shame I felt on a daily basis and fear her doing it to me now when she only about once or twice a year gives me grief for seeing my Dad and all it is is grief, she does not hold me back like she did when I was a little girl. I am a 40 year old woman now. So while only a doctor would know, does this sound like PTSD or does PTSD have to be far greater like military combat experience? I do still have great anticipatory anxiety like when scheduling Christmas and fearing my mother will give me grief for seeing my father and thus alienate me from him when I am actually a 40 year old woman (not 9 year old girl). @Steve----I agree but I was aged 8-14. At age 15 onward I very much stood up from then on to the point of arguing with my mother.

Question: My brother is dead again, how do I get over this latest death?

Posted: 25 Sep 2016 08:53 AM PDT

Question: Why does MY family have to be poor?

Posted: 25 Sep 2016 08:48 AM PDT

sometimes I wonder why my parents even decided to have me if they can barely afford to buy me things like clothes, hair products (i'm black btw, natural hair is expensive af,) I don't even have ******* hairbands and hair pins, shoes, school supplies, sometimes even food. The fridge isn't empty but if you're hungry don't go looking for a snack, because you're not gonna find ****. I only eat lunch tbh (no breakfast or dinner), but that's not the point. My point is, why did I have to be born into this? I always see other kids who afford nicer things and I think "Why can't I have that?" This girl who bullied me back in the 6th grade, I saw her at my school today. She's has great friends, she's BEAUTIFUL, has nice clothes. She made me want to die, so why is her life going so well??? Every time I see her she's laughing and smiling, it makes no sense, how can someone so horrible have such a great life? I know I'll have replies saying "stop comparing yourself to others" or "stop looking for sympathy" but that's not what I'm looking for. I'm asking WHY is my life like this, WHY do bad things happen to me, Does God hate me or something? What did I do to suffer like this?

Question: I'm concerned about my sister?

Posted: 25 Sep 2016 08:48 AM PDT

Hi, We are 23 year old twins. I don't live with my sister bc I go to college. In the past we were never close, but until recently things have changed. We are closer. Anyways, my sister is really overweight and I'm scared for her. Idk how to tell her this (she knows she is) without her getting mad at me or just brushing it off. I know for a fact she's severely depressed as well. For example, she stays at home all day, watches tv or reads. I try to get her to go to places and occasionally she'll come and I think she really has fun. I am as well depressed, but not as bad as her. My family is not very helpful either...which is not right. Anyways, how do I help my sister out...because the way she's living her young life is not good? Thanks. P.S. I'm going on a campus tour for this big college (dream school) and I got 2 tickets. I really would like my sis to come, but she won't. I think it will help her as well to go back to college. How do I convince her to come visit with me? It's just a tour.

Question: Urgent Family Issues, How should I call in?

Posted: 25 Sep 2016 08:43 AM PDT

Something urgent came up, one of my family member is moving far away due to a issue between two parties and I really needs to try and stop these family members from going too far at each other. I'm wondering if i should tell my boss or just tell him a urgent family matter has came up and i cannot come in. Am i obligated to tell him whats going on or can i just say its personal if he asks questions because i don't trust my boss with any of my family matters, rumors might start floating. Its really complicated and I am trying to be the middle ground and stop the house from collapsing. any tips of how i should approach this? He will be short handed and i just dread having to tell him that i cannot come in because it will be our last day of work before the weekends and it may seem fishy. I did miss a day before but i was super sick to the point i puked all over myself in my car thinking i can make it through the day but ended up calling him and it was a day before my PTO day off so i assume he is starting to think I'm lying about these crazy events in my life ? Lets just say stuff happens to me at the worst days possible. Thank You!

Question: How is this pushing someone?

Posted: 25 Sep 2016 08:40 AM PDT

Ask my dad what time can I take shower He told me when he gets done mowing and that I need to quit pushing him mom told me that I'm getting worse of pushy people

Question: My son is getting plastic surgery, should I be mad and kick him out of my house?

Posted: 25 Sep 2016 08:30 AM PDT

My son is 21 years old and is getting plastic surgery. He says he has saved up the money and has already paid for it and it is scheduled in 3 weeks. I am livid about this because money is tight and he could have used this money to help pay bills. Furthermore, he told me he has been working extra at work to save this money. I thought he was just studying late, but he told me he was actually working. He said he only told me because he needed a ride home after the surgery and that I was his mother, so I should at least know. I am mad that he would spend his money on this and now I feel like he should be kicked out of my house.

Question: Is my Grandmother okay?

Posted: 25 Sep 2016 08:11 AM PDT

Hey. Idk if I'm just really paranoid but my aunt just passed away. Me and my grandmother are very close and she has always had a goofy personality and in great shape (she's 73/74 btw) she comes every weekend. This weekend she came and she's been talking really weird like slurring her words. She says "I'm fine I just burned my tounge, my throat kinda hurts and I'm sleepy" it really upset me idk why I'm just so used to her having that loud clear voice and she just sounds so draggy. This morning I woke up and one side of her face is very swollen and her eye ONE side is very swollen. She says "I'm fine I just slept on this side of my face" and my mom and dad think I'm crazy being so worried. But I just showed my mom her side of her face and she agrees that it's swollen. She's had the shingles before it kinda looks like that but I'm really not sure. Plz I need help ASAP. AND BE BRUTALLY HONEST CUZ I LOVE MY NINNA VERY MUCH

Question: What did I do wrong!?

Posted: 25 Sep 2016 08:01 AM PDT

Last night I came home from a party. My mom asked me to do the dishes before she left for the night shift. I ended up falling asleep since it was so late, but I woke up and did the dishes before she came back. She's upset at me now. What did I do wrong. Any parent me ideas?i even admitted to her I fell asleep but I woke up early and did them. I can't understand why she is upset at me

Question: Can someone help me I guess?? 10 Points...?

Posted: 25 Sep 2016 07:54 AM PDT

This Might be a long story... Okay so Hey I'm 16 years old and I live with my mother. My mom put my dad on Child support.(I only get 700 hundred) not alot of money at all. I know that the Money isnt for me it's for whoever take care me. I want to live with my dad. I ask my dad could he call Social security to see if there is anyway I could. Social security said I would have to move in with him then he will get the child support money. My Mom is pissed when she found out. At First She says "if you wanna live with him then go. all he wants is your child support money". My Dad is retired & maked it clear that All the money will go to me and he will make sure I put 300 dollars in my bankaccount. By the end of the week my Mom said "You not allowed to go over there anymore and you can move out when you 18". The child support money will stop at 18??? Sounds like she the one who wants me for the money. What can my dad and I can do? Can she really stop me from seeing him? Sidenote - I stay with dad on weekends and mom on weekdays.

Question: My mom won't stop touching my butt?

Posted: 25 Sep 2016 07:51 AM PDT

Recently my mom keeps slapping my butt and it makes me really uncomfortable. I feel like I'm to old for that (I'm 15), when I was younger she would do it playfully. Now when she does it I just tell her to please stop and then she does it again to tease me and it makes me so mad. How do I tell her to stop.

Question: I dont like being with my dad?

Posted: 25 Sep 2016 07:31 AM PDT

I do not dare say I dislike or hate my father, but I must say I dont like being with him. When I was little he used to yell at me so loudly that it scared me and I hid behind my mother or grabbed to her to feel safe. I was no misbehaved child, but he used to spank me like he spanked me hard for pouring an overfilled spoon of vitamin in fluid form down the sink (It was many years but I can still remember it well). I hated him helping with my homework as he got impatient with me trying to solve the struggling tasks and he explained in such an aggresive way. Most of the time I lied when I said I was doing fine with school work at home when in reality I was stuck. I even lied about it at school even when my dad wasnt there. Please dont give me that "Its all in the past, forget it now" things that happen during childhood makes a big impact for ones life. My dad still has this aggresive nature. I am reluctant to practise driving with him, he is the worst teacher ever! I can understand that he is nervous for not having control if something goes wrong while I learn to drive, but is that a good enough excuse to yell at me so it frightens me?

Question: Is my grandmother being unreasonable?

Posted: 25 Sep 2016 07:30 AM PDT

I was 13 years old when I called her the B word because she treated me like a terrible person. She often ridiculed me behind my back and would rather me homeless than live in her home. Years ago when she barked at my mom, I intervened and that's when I called her the B word. The last time I saw her was when my Aunt was in the hospital dying from cancer. I tried talking to her but she ignored me. She also had the whole family turn on me. Now I'm 31 and my grandfather was hit and killed by a car. We're not close because he was the most evil person you'd ever meet. My parents and I lived with him when I was a little girl. Anyways my dad went by the house to give his sympathies. I can't because it is in another country but I can call. However she told my dad she's still upset over what I said when I was 13. Why can't she move on and pretend it never happened.

Question: How should I handle my relationship with my brother's?

Posted: 25 Sep 2016 07:14 AM PDT

Question: Have you ever sent somebody who has passed away a Facebook message, knowing they won't respond.?

Posted: 25 Sep 2016 07:12 AM PDT

Question: Why is he still playing mind games?

Posted: 25 Sep 2016 07:10 AM PDT

My boyfriend was suppose to come take care of me while I was sick but instead he went and spent the night with his ex. She only stays a few blocks from so when I saw his car parked outside her place I slashed all of tires. He text me the next morning and told me that I slashed his tires. I denied it and said that his ex probably did it since she was stalking him anyway. He claimed that the neighbors have a night vision camera and that her and I were the suspects. I asked where he was when his tired got slashed and he wouldn't say. Why does he think that she may have done it if he was with her when it happened? He apologized to me for not being there for me when I needed him but why did he apologize? Why won't he admit that he was at her place when his tires got slashed? Why is he still playing mind games?

Question: Why do people say motherly love is the best?

Posted: 25 Sep 2016 07:07 AM PDT

i know moms or dads CAN love teir kids like really. but not necessarily. and not even most. i don't think all marriage "love" is great either. it's not. but people act like parents always love their kids so much and blah. (i'm not talking about obvious abusive psycho parents, i mean normal parents.) so many parents are not nice to their kids. wouldn't you be nice to someone you love? wouldn't you always try to help them instead of beat them down? i don't think motherly love is the best. i know some moms and dads love their kids. but not most. they'll take care of them because it's instinct, it's natural, they want kids, whatever. but they don't have good love for their kid.. not all. some do.

Question: How would a guy who grows up in a nice family be a woman beater?

Posted: 25 Sep 2016 07:03 AM PDT

My boyfriend's brother beat up his pregnant girlfriend but his family and his parents are so nice. How could he grow into a woman beater?

Question: My parents always makes me feel guilty after they do something for me?

Posted: 25 Sep 2016 06:21 AM PDT

They do it since i remember. For example i ask my mom if can she buy that thing for me? I would be okay if she say "i m sorry i won t and i can t or i have no money for it" or anything. I would be okay with it, maybe i ll be sad but that s all. Instead it all she do is buying me that thing immediately, then after it, she tell me why she didn t wanted to buy that why i don t deserve it and all stuff then to makes me feel extremely guilty and anxious about that thing and i probably will never use it. Another example happened today, i went to my dad s house and before i got there i asked him can we buy some pizza? He said yes. So i was there and i saw they make some lunch - gyros or something. I asked what is this, should i eat this instead? And he said no we order pizza. Then okay he ordered it and i eated it and now they mad at me they talk **** about me behind my back that why can t i eat what they cook. They didn t said "please eat this" or anything like this. They why they would make me feel still so guilty? I hate it why can t they just tell me no, before they do something, instead of do the thing and complaining after it. This is so much worse.

Question: What should I do?

Posted: 25 Sep 2016 06:07 AM PDT

Just a disclaimer for this question: I know how I acted was stupid. Please just help me answer this question. So I was doing my homework in our dining room when my cat suddenly threw up. Some of it got on my school bag so I asked my brother to get a towel. He just stood there and watched. I kept saying,"Jackson, please get me a towel!" But he still did nothing. I was thankful when my mom did get me a towel but I was still pretty upset because the throw up was staining my cloth bag. After that, I kept working on my homework when my mom asked me if I'd like some coke. I said yes please and then she asked my brother to give it to me. When he did, he accidentally spilled it on me and my homework. Then I started sobbing and had difficulty breathing. I know I overreacted but I just felt like today wasn't a good one for me. What should I do?

Question: Should I be commiting to hosting out of town relatives for Thanksgiving, they emailed me asking if I was hosting? It sounds a bit forward?

Posted: 25 Sep 2016 05:32 AM PDT

PS they didn't say they were coming, but they have other relatives in my area whom would be expected at my house if I hosted

Question: How to defend myself against my mean family?

Posted: 25 Sep 2016 04:15 AM PDT

I grew up with my father and step mom which was pretty traumatic. They are always accusing us of things and treating us like bad kids and calling us names. It s crazy because I didn t realize I was a good person until my twenties because it. Well it hasn t changed, I haven t seen them and haven t lived near their city for 9 years and they still accuse of doing things. I m so angry with myself because sometimes I don t even realize it until the next day. Every time I get a bit of confidence they start again and destroy everything I built, what I want to understand is why are they like that? What causes parents to ignore every accomplishments you make and wish for your downfall. I ll give one example; when I was in college instead of calling me and giving me encouragements in my studies, my step mom who I haven t called in years due to her lies told my father that I dropped out because I was pregnant. Not only was that not true but my father called and I had to explain myself to him even though I live with far away from them. This is constant and in every thing I do. I never graduated... What kind of behavior is that? And how do I free myself from this pattern?

Question: Why are mothers and fathers inferior parents?

Posted: 25 Sep 2016 03:58 AM PDT

The thing with same sex families - the child will always have been planned and therefore is wanted. 2 loving parents, what more could you want?

Question: How do I best discipline my mother when she causes me suffering?

Posted: 25 Sep 2016 03:46 AM PDT

There are too many ways to write but it all involves her being upset and mad with people I am a young adult but it seems weird to discipline a parent @Merlin----I do live on my own

Question: My family has 1st tier family, 2nd tier family, and 3rd tier. It is graded on how close we are. How do I know where I fall?

Posted: 25 Sep 2016 03:42 AM PDT

How do I know where I fall without having to ask anyone as that would be embarrassing? This is on my mother's side of the family. The roster is kept in a secret place and we are not allowed to look at it as it changes year to year at the holidays. 1st tier is the close relatives. 2nd tier is the okay relatives who we see in passing and are cordial to. 3rd tier is the relatives we don't know but met once or twice or the relatives we don't like but are fake nice to. I always worry I might fall in the 2nd tier category because we don't come visit on holidays due to travel and my Mom refuses to let go of stuff from the past that was not a big deal. I am not worried about being 3rd tier. By tier I mean rate like 1st rate, 2nd rate, 3rd rate @Groovy_Unicorn----I never do it, it is my relatives that do it

Question: I hate my life?

Posted: 25 Sep 2016 02:47 AM PDT

I'm moved back home for my last year of college and it's taking a toll on my health. It is an extremely toxic environment for me to be living in. My parents are going through a 4 year divorce. My mom, who lives upstairs, is an alcoholic that gets verbally abusive and makes me uncomfortable. My dad, who lives downstairs, is depressed to the point where he's basically paralyzed.. barely getting himself to occasionally leave the house, watching hours on hours of tv every day. I can't be around this negative energy, it's tearing my soul apart. Furthermore, I have no friends here.. nobody I truly connect with.. and I'm in such a funk from all the negativity around me that I'm turning into a depressed hermit where it's hard to get myself to socialize and overall feel confident with myself and my life right now. I feel stuck because I still have a year left of difficult courses chemistry, calculus and physics at the local cc until I graduate and can find a full time job and move out. Every day gets heavier. I need help. I'm afraid things will get so bad that by the time I finish school, I will have become a person I absolutely do not want to become. Any advice would help.